Now my IUI is threatened by a snowstorm

[CarolineSinclair]

I am so depressed because we are due here in Maryland for a massive snowstorm on Saturday, and I feel like with my luck that will be the very day they'll have needed to do the IUI.

Tomorrow is my ultrasound. I started my period on the 10th, it was a 27 day cycle, so they want to look at me tomorrow. I did one of those home ovulation kits this morning and there was no surge at all, not even close.

They said typically you do the trigger shot and IUI the day after the ultrasound, 'if you're ready", but I have a feeling it will work out that I would need to do the IUI Saturday.

The snow is supposed to start Friday night (damn the snow!).

They make out that they'll be there no matter what the weather, but I'm not so sure, and not sure how I'll get there. I don't live right around the corner from the place. I'm thinking about renting a hotel room in the area. Problem is, I would probably have to walk to the hotel after t the IUI if the roads are too bad to drive, and you really aren't supposed to have vigorous activity after an IUI. But I don't know what else to do.

I knew this was going to happen, I just knew it. I feel like God is sabotaging me and I'm refusing to pray or read the Bible or anything. I feel like I want to be done with God for doing this to me.

I hate the new clinic I'm going to for not being open for procedures the month of December due to the holidays. How antiquated is that? They even close for an hour for lunch every day, that you can't even call!

I'm sorry but when you're in the fertility business, you shouldn't be allowed to have an operation where not one doctor can be on duty to perform necessary procedures during the holidays. Especially because they know winter storms can come up the next months. I don't have months and months to delay this.

The sperm is there and everything, but I feel like it's never going to get used.

I'm seriously thinking about just forgetting IUIs and going for the fertility preservation procedure if I can afford it. Because this is driving me insane, this "what's going to happen this month to stop me" kind of stuff.

I'm done praying but I ask any of you who do pray, to please pray for me.

[has2gentlemen]

No offense, but an iui isn't really a "necessary procedure" IMO, so it's not at all odd that they're closed during December. My OB's office is only open for emergency appointments between Christmas and New Years, and also takes an hour lunch with only the On-Call OB available for emergency calls.

I also feel like this is something you don't need to be stressing about. If you go to the ultrasound tomorrow and aren't ready, then talk to them about your options if the roads are bad (whereabouts in Maryland are you? We're in SW PA and haven't seen much about the storm yet). It's possible the forecast may even change, as they've forecasted huge storms that turned out to be nothing, and had huge blizzards appear out of nowhere as well (such as the end of last February? 2 inch forecasts that buried the DC metro area under 18 inches). This is out of your control and not something worth freaking out about.


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[CarolineSinclair]

Well it's the worst news possible, of course. Saturday would be the day they'd do it, I have to go back Friday to double check, but Friday night the blizzard begins. I'm trying to get a hotel but there are none that close.

I'm sure it will be cancelled.

I'm about ready to give up. I'm never going to get to do this IUI, I'm sure something will go wrong next month and the next. By then my fertility will be gone.

I'm done. I think I should just give up.:broken:

[atomic sagebrush]

I think that instead of feeling like this is an event out to get you personally, turn it around and look at it like, maybe this is an event out to HELP you personally. How many times has it happened in life that something that seemed bad, turned out to be a huge blessing in disguise. Like, you were late to work and it turned out there was an accident right where you were supposed to be driving or whatever. Maybe this wasn't the month. That's ok. It may be working out just like it's supposed to, it may very well be that this is necessary to get you to the end result where you live happily ever after. I have often felt like things were completely going pear shaped and then when I went through the experience, it turned out to not be that bad or even totally worked out. It very well could be that in 3 months you'll have a BFP and think back on this and it will seem very minor.

JMO but some people on this site have had some pretty heavy shh--- happen to them. We ALL totally understand the feeling in the heat of the moment when things go wrong blaming God but please try to keep it in perspective, this is a little speed bump on the way, that's all. There are some people who have real strong reasons to feel a little ticked off at The Big Guy way beyond having to cancel an appointment, and I'm not saying this to make you feel bad, I'm just trying to keep it in perspective.

[CarolineSinclair]

I mean the thing that scares me is, this kind of thing could happen next month, and the next. I don't know if into April it could still be blizzards or not. With my luck it will be!

I mean they're calling this a major winter storm, I really doubt the doctors are going to be there even though they claim they will. And the doctor even said to me, "I've never had a patient scheduled when it was a snowstorm!", making me feel even more jinxed.

In December we had weather so warm that it was not even nice because it just felt bizarre. Even some of January was like that, but naturally when I want to my do IUI, we get a major storm.

We're trying to find a hotel that I can walk to the clinic, but even the closest one isn't a short walk, so I mean even if I got there, I doubt the IUI would work because you're not supposed to do heavy exercise.

If I wasn't so old, I wouldn't freak out, but as old as I am, every cycle is crucial. I had the best period I've had in months, more like my old periods, not so light like the recent ones have been. I had a really good feeling that this one would work and now it's all shot.

And I'm afraid by the time the winter storms this winter are over, I won't even be able to get my eggs frozen for some sense of hope, because by then I bet they'll all be gone. I'm sure my six months since my test to see how many I had will be expired. Yeah, I think I had it in August, so by February, my eggs will probably all be gone.

The only thing I can say to be even the slightest bit positive is, I only had one follicle, and most people I read about have 3 and 4, so that tells me I probably needed medication. If I have to do it next month, I want medication, however, I don't want another incident like this where I'll have paid for and undergone medication, only to be told that we're having another blizzard and we can't do the procedure.

[atomic sagebrush]

I know it's challenging to go through all that. Staying positive is a bit of a choice so I hope over time that you can find the silver lining. :) Right now as it sits, this is a lot of worst case scenario type of thinking. A meteor may crash into the clinic too (I kid, I kid!! :)) In my experience, it is hardly EVER as bad as you fear it will be.

I did want to mention that in answer to your question regarding if it would be better to do egg retrieval - there would be just as many logistics involved in that as there is in this. But your eggs don't "disappear" like that, it's that you just aren't going to respond well to the medication. But you are ALREADY in the age group where you may not respond well. It's not some switch that gets flipped suddenly.

[CarolineSinclair]

I'm always a worst case scenario thinker, lol. I don't think I'll ever change. I wish I was a positive person, but I was brought up under the mantra, "Expect the worst and you won't be disappointed", and it certainly seems to be proving to be true here! :omg:

We've booked a hotel but it's still all up in the air, because the clinic said they don't even know if I'll be ready to do the procedure Saturday. The nurse said it could be later than that. I don't know if they'll have the roads cleared by then. This is being shaped up to be a HUGE storm. And I'll still have to walk in it! A mile and a half two ways! Assuming we won't be able to drive, and I assume we won't with the way they're talking. I also predict that because it's a Saturday, they aren't even going to bother trying to get the plows out.

She (the nurse) said that walking in the storm won't make the IUI not work, though. I had heard you can't have vigorous exercise, but she makes out that doesn't count............I don't know.......

[atomic sagebrush]

It's not true though. It's not literally the worst thing that ever happened. Remember, you could be having all these exact same problems only be living in Rwanda (well maybe not EXACTLY these problems but you could be worrying about ebola instead of a snowstorm)

I think positivity is not a setting, it's a choice, and the more you make the choice, the easier it gets. :) But, I know it's not something someone else can tell you, it has to come from your own experiences.

I know that with a natural conception, and IUI is relatively similar to that, you can get up immediately after BD, do 50 jumping jacks, run the Boston Marathon, and still end up pregnant at the end of it. It's either going to work, or it won't, and if it doesn't, that very well may have happened without the walking. OR, maybe it will be that it works BECAUSE you had to go for a walk. No one really knows how this all works and they really don't study it that much, so it may be just want the doctor ordered (or not LOL)

[TaytumJ]

Just curious - hope things worked out for you this weekend!


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