Quick question! :)

[Sophia86]

As I already have my BFP, I know it doesn't matter now but as I would like 3 children, I would just like to ask for future a pregnancy incase this one is another little boy.

As I had attempts on a Tuesday and a Thursday (predicted ovulation on the Saturday according to Opk) does this count as boy frequency with my attempts being two days apart?
I'm just wondering if next time, I should be avoiding the EOD thing altogether.
The fact I dtd 2 days apart makes me very much think this little one is a boy, which I'm fine with as I know this isn't my last child x


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[Mulberry Smurf]

It depends on when you actually ovulated. I think Tuesday may be too far out to count as an attempt do you should be in with a chance of the one attempt. Did you sway? Xx

[Sophia86]

I'm guessing I ovulated on the Saturday as I got a positive Opk on the Friday night.
I didn't do much of a sway, no.
I thought Tuesday would count as lots of people seem to get pregnant with 4 day before attempts and seeing as I dtd only two days after that attempt, I thought would be boy frequency as it was an EOD timing xx


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[Beau82]

I think technically it is boy frequency, I would say it's a borderline 2 attempt conception. Hard to say, there may not have been any sperm left from the Tuesday attempt.
To answer your question, if you are wanting a girl next time, then yes I would say to avoid every other day frequency and just have the one attempt at positive OPK. When DTD before you get a positive, just have protected sex maybe unless you know for sure when to expect a positive.

[maidentomother]

I would count that as 2 attempts so in between what's ideal for pink and blue. But diet, exercise, and other lifestyle/biological factors sway SOOOOOO much more than number of attempts. How different was your diet/life from when you conceived your first?

[Sophia86]

Maiden my diet and lifestyle were pretty much the same with my little boy. I dtd every other day for a week with him though, before positive Opk and beyond.
The only difference at all this time is that I last dtd the day before the Opk even turned positive. Although I know timing doesn't sway and frequency does.
Pretty certain I have another boy now xx


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[atomic sagebrush]

If you ovulated on Saturday there is no way that the swimmers from Tuesday were even left at that point.

But YES as a general rule I would have all pink swayers avoid eod.

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm guessing I ovulated on the Saturday as I got a positive Opk on the Friday night.
I didn't do much of a sway, no.
I thought Tuesday would count as lots of people seem to get pregnant with 4 day before attempts and seeing as I dtd only two days after that attempt, I thought would be boy frequency as it was an EOD timing xx


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They may THINK they got pregnant with that cutoff but they most likely ovulated early. It's really, really hard to get pg with 4 day cutoff and I have seen people try it for YEARS without ever conceiving.

We do not know how the one attempt works. We have no idea. So it is possible that it counts as two attempts (if the sperm can somehow communicate with each other to encourage X or Y conception). Or, it's possible that it doesn't (if the sperm from Tuesday were all dead and gone). None of us know and since you're already pregnant my advice is to enjoy it and not worry about something that is already done that none of us know the answer to.

[Sophia86]

They may THINK they got pregnant with that cutoff but they most likely ovulated early. It's really, really hard to get pg with 4 day cutoff and I have seen people try it for YEARS without ever conceiving.

We do not know how the one attempt works. We have no idea. So it is possible that it counts as two attempts (if the sperm can somehow communicate with each other to encourage X or Y conception). Or, it's possible that it doesn't (if the sperm from Tuesday were all dead and gone). None of us know and since you're already pregnant my advice is to enjoy it and not worry about something that is already done that none of us know the answer to.

Thanks Atomic :) I'm not stressing about this attempt, I can accept if it's another boy as this isn't my last baby so was also asking for future reference if it's best to avoid repeating what I did this time. Just wondered if my 2 attempts as they stand did class as EOD boy territory xx

[maidentomother]

Just having had a baby may be enough to sway pink for you. You never know. Most people don't need much of a nudge.

[Sophia86]

Thanks Maiden, my little one is 6 months old now, does that class as "just had" enough to have pink in my favour?


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[Sophia86]

Im so sorry I've just noticed that things I've asked are things I've already had answers to on another thread and I just forgot what I asked and what replies I already had before! Can I blame "baby brain" 6 months on?
Thanks so much everyone who replied to me again xx


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[maidentomother]

That you gave birth so recently is an added pink bonus. I meant that you had had a child at all, as it inevitably changes you.

[Sophia86]

That you gave birth so recently is an added pink bonus. I meant that you had had a child at all, as it inevitably changes you.

Oh I see! Sorry I thought you were referring to fact I only had my DS 6 months ago. Thought I must have mentioned it somewhere before in another thread Xx

[atomic sagebrush]

If you just had a baby 6 months ago then yes that may sway. I think what maiden is saying is that anyone having a baby, it can change your hormones. Most people get BG or GB just that easily - you may already be "set" for pink now just because of your body having changed from giving birth

[maidentomother]

Change your hormones, trigger health issues, change your lifestyle in a billion ways, change your brain chemistry, etc etc

[atomic sagebrush]

your eating habits, lifestyle, amount of sleep!! :agree:

[Sophia86]

Ah yes I hadn't thought about that. I did get diagnosed with an overactive thyroid/Graves disease after having my baby, I have to have monthly blood tests since to keep a check and my levels stabilised before getting pregnant, but I have the antibodies, which I will always have. Don't know if hyperthyroidism could sway either way? Probably not x


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[maidentomother]

I would think it sways pink.

And if you think about, pregnancy and birth are majorly stressful on the body. Depending on how your body reacts, many outcomes can result from that alone. And that's before you even get to nursing and caring for a newborn!

[Sophia86]

Thanks maiden. I did have a horrible time with recovery and dealing with the thyroid problems but I thought stress swayed blue.
I haven't breastfed my son, I tried but we had to move onto formula on only his second day. But I know breastfeeding can sway pink x


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[maidentomother]

Certain REACTIONS to psychological stress, i.e. coping mechanisms based on control, seem to sway blue. Physical stress can sway either way as well depending on how your body responds. No type of stress inherently sways either way, to my knowledge.

I was speaking generally about BFing, of course. Thank you for pointing out that not everyone does/can.

I'm sorry to hear you had such a rough recovery. But I do hope it sways pink a bunch for you, at least.

[atomic sagebrush]

Ah yes I hadn't thought about that. I did get diagnosed with an overactive thyroid/Graves disease after having my baby, I have to have monthly blood tests since to keep a check and my levels stabilised before getting pregnant, but I have the antibodies, which I will always have. Don't know if hyperthyroidism could sway either way? Probably not x


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We don't know really. Needs more study.

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks maiden. I did have a horrible time with recovery and dealing with the thyroid problems but I thought stress swayed blue.
I haven't breastfed my son, I tried but we had to move onto formula on only his second day. But I know breastfeeding can sway pink x


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Stress doesn't sway blue, it sways pink and has been shown to in studies.

Being a control freak micromanager obsessing over every detail (ie largely self-induced stress that comes from wanting to control every element of your environment) sways blue.

[Throwaway_panther]

If you just had a baby 6 months ago then yes that may sway. I think what maiden is saying is that anyone having a baby, it can change your hormones. Most people get BG or GB just that easily - you may already be "set" for pink now just because of your body having changed from giving birth
Do you have more reading you could recommend on this? IS that why statistically more people end up with GB/BGs?

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[atomic sagebrush]

No, it's just logic - after you have a baby your body and lifestyle is so dramatically different it stands to reason that is having an effect. I remember when my first son was born it was like I had been hit by a bus I didn't have time to eat and didn't sleep and my boobs were the size of watermelons and this went on for months LOL

I certainly do think it could be a large part of why the majority of people seem to just get handed the BG/GB combo without any thought or concern whatsoever.