Psychic reading said my next baby will be a boy...

[Lissastick]

...but I just want a girl so bad. I have my boy and I want my girl. That girl that me and my husband saw in our dreams years ago. The psychic also told me that they would either be born in or conceived in Nov/Dec and my husband and I planned to stop trying for a baby by September if we didn't get pregnant, we'd resume next May. So...it just sounds all kinds of wrong. But, apparently she has a reputation of being eerily right.

I keep telling myself that I want another baby even if it is another boy. But, I'd be upset knowing mine and my husband's feelings were wrong. I'd feel like I was being cheated by the universe.

I'm bummed out.

[Throwaway_panther]

I 100% understand the mindset you're in, but truly: it's BS. It's not even remotely scientific, psychics cold read (I recommend looking up the Penn & Teller bit on it, etc. You don't have to worry.

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[Faithinpink]

I wouldn't go by what a psychic told you, I understand the need to want to know but really they don't know. That's all I can say
Gees I should have 2 girls going by what a psychic once told me.
Xx

[netti02]

I agree with the others. A psychic i was seeing was adamant on more than one occasion that this baby will be a girl however its ds5. I even felt like it would be too (maybe it was the feeling from the psychic building my own expectation aswell). She did predict ds4 would be a boy though.

I did see a psychic in relation to trying again and what i may expect and she seems to think the next would be a boy also and really doesn't see a girl until '7'.

I have to say im ignoring all aspects of it and if i was to try again its following the tips here and giving a good attempt at it and that would be it for me. Not sure if i have hubby on board but he jokes about no6 all the time so im half way there 😁😁

Also i felt pressured to be taking relatives to ultrasounds and people asking what this one is. If i had another i would totally be keeping it a secret til i could no longer and definitely not telling anyone the sex.

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[atomic sagebrush]

I don't believe in psychics - one told me DS 2 was a girl and I've seen gobs of them be wrong on the swaying sites. :)

[Lissastick]

When I read what she wrote (it was an online reading) I was like...no. Hahha! I actually DO believe in psychics, but, only myself. I mean, my own psychic ability. I guess I wouldn't be on a site like this if I thought 100% that I would have a girl, but, I feel like being led to this site and doing what I think is scientifically proven to sway a girl, will give me a girl. I have seen it in my future, for myself for quite some time.

Although, when I was younger, I never wanted a girl. I wanted to be a boy mom all the way. It was because I was afraid to be a mom to a girl because I feel it comes with great responsibility. It does. And I think that I am up for that at this point in my life! Haha!

Thanks for the reassurance everyone <3

[pinkin2011]

I had about 7 psychics tell me my ds2 would be a girl. Even while pregnant with him i saw them in person and was told by one that she is 90 percent right on gender....

[atomic sagebrush]

:agree: Lest anyone think I dismiss out of hand I have had spooky experiences with things like randomly thinking of really weird songs (like 99 Luftballoons, as an example) and then having them come onto the radio shortly after and my son and I thinking the same thing at the same moment (I can often predict that he's about to call me within a few minutes of him calling me, or starting to call him and the phone will ring in my hand, ) But I just cannot believe that a psychic can predict via the Internet people's future babies by talking to spirits. Just don't buy it.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh and I wasn't sure about having a girl either when I was younger. I really wanted a boy for my first not for my husband's sake or anything, I just felt I conected better with men than women. I was overjoyed to have two boys. I remember even seeing that dreaded "there's a special place in heaven for a mom of 4 boys" sign and thinking how special that would be (little did I know I would someday OWN that sign.) I'm just greedy and wanted a girl too, and just like you hinted at, I could very nearly see her in my mind.

[Babygirlquest]

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[Lissastick]

pink_bean, I also feel a huge responsibility to raise a great man. Big time! I just feel like with a girl, well, I can screw up way more, so I need to be super aware of what I say (speaking strictly of self esteem issues here, I suffer from them). I really hope that psychic is wrong though! Hahah! Thanks for the well wishes! :kiss:

[Lissastick]

My son actually helps me with my self esteem issues. He tells me I am pretty all the time, and even says, "You have a big butt mommy, I love your butt!" Haha! Little Sir Mix A Lot! Lol

[Beau82]

I'll agree with what all the others have said. Don't let it get you down! I had one tell me that I would have 4 children (I had only 2 at the time). She said the third would be another boy but the fourth would be a girl. I believed it so strongly that even after an ultrasound tech telling me I was having another boy when pregnant with my fourth, I had myself convinced that she was wrong and went to another hospital only to have them confirm without a doubt that it was another boy. I think having what that psychic told me so many years before stuck in my head really exacerbated my GD. I was so sure that she was right and that somehow I would be having a girl. A little part of me even thought up until almost delivery time that maybe all the techs were way off and DS4 really was a girl. Not that I wouldn't have had GD without her saying that, it's certainly not her fault! But it maybe stuck around longer. I don't know.
I've avoided them ever since.
Trust your own intuition for sure! Years before I had my first son, I dreamed about having a baby boy with curly blonde hair and big blue eyes and in my dream, people kept saying how much he looked like his dad. Wouldn't you know it, he did have the curliest blonde hair, he still has the most beautiful blue eyes and he is the absolute picture of his daddy :)

[Beau82]

My son actually helps me with my self esteem issues. He tells me I am pretty all the time, and even says, "You have a big butt mommy, I love your butt!" Haha! Little Sir Mix A Lot! Lol

My oldest said to me once "Mummy you're so pretty you don't even need to wear make-up because you're already beautiful". Made my heart swell!

[Lissastick]

I got a Tarot reading a few days ago (I can't help myself) and this one said that I would have a girl! But that I wouldn't get pregnant until January...wah wah wahhhh...

[Lissastick]

Welp...both psychics were wrong about ONE thing so far...I am actually pregnant right now! Not Nov/Dec and not January! Tee hee!

[Lissastick]

Now I have had FOUR psychics say that I am having a boy (pregnant again, as I've lost the pregnancy I was mentioning in June).

The first one in June said I'd have a boy next. Then I just had 3 separate readings they all said BOY.
This is freaking me out. Do they ALL say boy because more boys are born than girls? Haha!

Two of them predicted I would either conceive the baby in October or have the baby in October and this baby was conceived in August and should be born in May. So, those two were wrong about that.
I also have a strong feeling that this baby is a boy.

But FOUR saying boy. That's kind of hard to ignore.

[atomic sagebrush]

My dad likes to do this joke where he makes psychic predictions on New Year's Eve and they are all things that have a really high chance of being true. Like, hurricane in Carribean, earthquake in California, shocking celebrity death, etc.

You have a 50-50 chance (statistically speaking) of a boy or a girl and some psychics are known to "cold read" people. I don't discount anyone's belief system out of hand or even the existence of psychic abilities per se but I have seen enough people get told wrong info about their baby's gender to feel that even 4 in agreement is really not a guarantee. :)

[Throwaway_panther]

First off, I'm very sorry for your loss! I imagine you have a lot of complex feelings on it, so I hope you're feeling better.

Additionally: I'd take it as a twist on Murphy's Law thing, personally. THAT many people saying the same thing? It must be the opposite then! [emoji14]

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[Lissastick]

Haha! I left a post up on a psychics in training site, so it's free...two more "psychics" chimed in on my post to say that I am definitely having a boy.

I am only inclined to believe because I also really feel like it's a boy.

I also felt really strongly that my chemical in June was a girl 😔

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[Throwaway_panther]

Haha! I left a post up on a psychics in training site, so it's free...two more "psychics" chimed in on my post to say that I am definitely having a boy.

I am only inclined to believe because I also really feel like it's a boy.

I also felt really strongly that my chemical in June was a girl 😔

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Conceiving close to a chemical or miscarriage ups the chances of a girl fyi!

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[Lissastick]

Conceiving close to a chemical or miscarriage ups the chances of a girl fyi!

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I don't think from June to August is close :-/

[Lissastick]

Ugh. This. I keep getting comments where everyone keeps saying boy. It's just like a dagger to the heart. I hate feeling this way.

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[Throwaway_panther]

I don't think from June to August is close :-/
It absolutely is.

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[Babygirlquest]

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[XXforhubby]

According to very respected psychics in my area, I should have had twins and 2 girls! While they were spot on for everything else, I believe that conception is a bit mystical. There is so much that scientists don't even know about conception still, therefore how can a psychic possibly know?!

Take it with a grain of salt!




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[Throwaway_panther]

I want to reiterate atomic's comment on cold reading too. Penn & Teller did an episode on it in their Bulls*** show -- very illuminating.

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[Lissastick]

You all are right. I am going to stay away from that group and stop following that post because it is upsetting me.
I was starting to get used to the idea at the possibility that it's a boy, and I was totally OK - but reading that stirred up my gender desire and started making me NOT ok! Not cool!

I think I am going to do that 9 weeks blood test to find out before the anatomy scan! I need to know NOW! Haha. I especially want to rub it in their faces if it ends up being a girl! LOL!

[Throwaway_panther]

You all are right. I am going to stay away from that group and stop following that post because it is upsetting me.
I was starting to get used to the idea at the possibility that it's a boy, and I was totally OK - but reading that stirred up my gender desire and started making me NOT ok! Not cool!

I think I am going to do that 9 weeks blood test to find out before the anatomy scan! I need to know NOW! Haha. I especially want to rub it in their faces if it ends up being a girl! LOL!
I'm literally saving up for that test now because I want to know once we get pregnant again, so no shade here!

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[atomic sagebrush]

Beyond cold reading, if we are correct in that some of us may be more "set" for boys than girls, then it may very well be that some people are just good guessers based on that. Maybe they detect something that we don't. :) That doesn't mean it's set in stone even if that were the case!! (seriously, I would have sworn that Pink would have a son - but she didn't!!)

[Throwaway_panther]

Beyond cold reading, if we are correct in that some of us may be more "set" for boys than girls, then it may very well be that some people are just good guessers based on that. Maybe they detect something that we don't. :) That doesn't mean it's set in stone even if that were the case!! (seriously, I would have sworn that Pink would have a son - but she didn't!!)
That almost makes me wonder if that's why soooo many people thought I was having a boy... but see Lissa, I had a girl! ;)

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[Lissastick]

I think you're right. I probably do look like I am "set up" for boys. I unfollowed the post, but it didn't work and THREE more people commented for sure they know it's a boy. I freaking turned off commenting because it's pissing me off. I'm thinking about going on there and saying it's a girl even if it's not just to rile them up! LOL!

My mom keeps telling me that it's a girl and when I was pregnant with my son she kept telling me it was a boy. My mom is pretty good at these things because her intuition is pretty powerful.
I don't even know what to think anymore. I still think it's a boy, but mostly because I feel that will help my emotional state to think and believe that. I don't want to go having hope that it's a girl because I will be crushed.

That 9 week blood test is looking better and better every day. I just want to know and start to work through my feelings way before I have the anatomy scan. I don't want to cry or look disappointed in front of the ultrasound tech...

[atomic sagebrush]

Do the blood test. I recommend it for anyone who can afford it for that very reason. I hate it that two of my worst memories are my ultrasounds with my 3rd and 4th sons. :(

The weird thing about all this is even when you don't have that strong a gender preference, it messes with your mind. I would have never thought I was the type of person who would cry in a doctor's bathroom during an ultrasound for a pregnancy that I had no gender preference whatsoever when I conceived it. But there I was.

[Lissastick]

I have decided that I actually AM doing the blood test! I just need to know and I'd rather find out in private!

I had a dream last night about my baby for the first time! It was super exciting! I couldn't tell if the baby was a boy or girl for sure...but it seemed like it was a boy. And when I was pregnant with my son, I dreamed he was a girl! Haha. Funny, right?

As each day goes by, I am getting more and more at ease with this baby being a boy (if this baby is a boy). I love this child so much already. It's weird how we can be that way. And I was thinking about how awesome it's going to be to not have to buy the baby any clothes! Haha. My first son has so many that can just be handed down. Think of the money we'll save! LOL!

[Lissastick]

They were ALL right. About a dozen total psychics and psychics in training were all SO sure that I was having a boy. They were all right.

[trifecta]

Congratulations on your little boy! How are you doing?

[Lissastick]

I was doing OK until yesterday.
Yesterday was a particularly bad day for me. Hopefully today is better.

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[Complex Emotions]

It's a complicated thing to say congratulations on a board like this, because I know you're feeling more than one way about everything.

But I do want to acknowledge your good fortune here. It sounds like everything is solid health-wise and you're now closer to getting the second baby you and your husband have been longing for. Your son will have a brother.

I also know though, just how hard and painful GD can be, especially if a person is still fresh in any feelings of disappointment. You sound like you're doing relatively well, at least compared to many of us on the site, but just in case you need a boost on those harder days I wonder if you might find some meaning in this podcast episode of "On Being": with family therapist Pauline Boss (http://www.onbeing.org/program/pauline-boss-the-myth-of-closure/8757) I found it useful because there's a part were they discuss “ambiguous loss" and "complicated grief" which I relate to through some of my own GD feelings and fears.

[trifecta]

I'm sorry you had a rough time. I think it's normal to have complicated emotions about it.

[business.woman]

Congrays on your little boy , you will fall in love with him once you see him [emoji177]


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[Throwaway_panther]

Oh Lissa, I'm so sorry you didn't get the sex of the baby you wanted. I still maintain that the psychics were just lucky guessing, but studies do seem to show moms' intuition is often right...

How are you feeling lately? I see you're oscillating, which is normal. I hope yours tends more towards the positive <3 Your husband being possibly on board for a third is good, and you could still change your mind -- or your DS2 could end up fulfilling most everything you longed for with a daughter.

Thinking of you <3

@Complex Emotions: You are honestly such a godsend on these boards. You write so eloquently and certainly understand all of our own complex emotions ;)

[Complex Emotions]

@Complex Emotions: You are honestly such a godsend on these boards. You write so eloquently and certainly understand all of our own complex emotions ;)

Thank you for that, Throwaway_panther. I'm so glad my writing has been helpful to you.

This site really means a lot to me. Being on these boards and seeing that other people share some of my feelings has helped me to find compassion for myself.

I'm very sorry to read in your signature that you have had a recent loss.