How to stay calm and chilled out when girl swaying?

[GlitterMouse]

Any thoughts? I'm worried that the biggest threat to my sway is worrying about it!

I'm managing to easily avoid charts, colour coding dates etc however, I can't seem to get swaying, baby girls and anxiety over it all out of my head.

Working helps, sometimes telly, sometimes a good book... but other than that I feel it pervades almost everything I do.

Anyone else feel the same? Anyone got any tips on how to overcome it?

[Inforthree]

No, but I can relate! I don't feel stressed about it but it's always on my mind and I can't stop that!

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[honeybee37]

Glitter I feel exactly the same. I avoided he forums for a couple of weeks to try and get it out of my head but I wasn't very successful! Also, and I'm not sure how much I believe her, my GP reckons me worrying has played havoc with my hormones and caused my luteal phase defect! She doesn't know about swaying but knows we are ttc. I think all the things you suggest are great. I also find the days I work im less focused on swaying (although then I worry that the whole 'must get the boys to breakfast club before school / make lunches / get clothes ready' stuff makes me worry I'm being all controlling etc!) I suppose we can only do the best we can do, and I bet lots of girl mums have worried about stuff before :) My friend has twin girls and is the most highly strung, controlling worrier you can imagine! (Incidentally she suffered bad GD having wanted two boys!) xx

[honeybee37]

Ps I do find the cardio helps me de stress if you are doing that?

[jennypenny]

can totally relate!
I feel like swaying is the screensaver to my brain!

It's so hard not to obsess about it when it's such a big part of life at the moment!

[GlitterMouse]

Oh girls, thank you for your swift replies! So great to hear of others who feel the same.

Good to hear your twin girl mum is a bit stressy too, there's still hope for me!! All my girl mum friends are totally chilled out!

Just watched 'chewbacca mom' on youtube, that gave me a huge laugh, it was therapy! Maybe I need to get me one of those masks? maybe we all should? Bloody hilarious!

[Erin514]

can totally relate!
I feel like swaying is the screensaver to my brain!

It's so hard not to obsess about it when it's such a big part of life at the moment!

Omg, "screensaver for my brain" is a great analogy. I feel this way too (hence I'm on here planning all the time when I haven't even started swaying yet!)

But honestly worrying over worrying doesn't help. We can't totally change our personalities and become chill just like that, but least with diet, exercise, and single attempt the odds will be better than they were before we knew about all that. :)

[Dreamsister]

I can totally relate too. Swaying becomes a big part of your mental activity. It is so good to have this site to go to. I just wish I had more time to reply and comment. You are all very active typing. The cardio actually calms me and makes me feel good. Sometimes it is hard to stick to the diet and fit in an hour cardio everyday, but I notice I get more and more relaxed with the regime and rules as the months goes by. Started out in January and had my first attempt two days ago. Don't think I will catch the golden egg this month though because my lining is only 3 mm (caused by Clomid). You are all doing so great. Give yourself a huge kiss [emoji120][emoji182] [emoji106] and thanks .


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[Throwaway_panther]

For what it's worth, my unintentionally swayed for DD is due soon, and I was a hot mess of stress and control freak anxiety before conceiving her.

My doctor, knowing how I am, even told me before we were TTC that "you can't will a baby; relax about it" and I threw it back in his face when I later said, "Ha, my obsessive tendencies did get me pregnant ASAP!" [emoji14]

I think being on top of the LE plan is a good start and channeling any issues into more exercise isn't a bad plan. Yoga might be great for you, too!

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[Faithinpink]

I must admit I'm a freak sometimes lol. I do try and not stress but easier said than done.
I was so stressed out last month that even on the actual attempt I was a nervous wreck!!!

[squigglepink]

I like to be in control. Of Everything!! Im not very spontaneous, i like to plan. I must be organised or i dont function! And im more than likely a pain in the @#$% to live with! I delegate alot - mostly to my DH :happycouple: and Im obsessive, compulsive. I like a nice tidy home and clean kids! :rofl: But, i think a girl would fit in quite nicely here!! :nails::giggle:

[Throwaway_panther]

I like to be in control. Of Everything!! Im not very spontaneous, i like to plan. I must be organised or i dont function! And im more than likely a pain in the @#$% to live with! I delegate alot - mostly to my DH :happycouple: and Im obsessive, compulsive. I like a nice tidy home and clean kids! :rofl: But, i think a girl would fit in quite nicely here!! :nails::giggle:
You just described me... except I don't even delegate because I prefer to do everything myself!

I'm telling you pink swayers... diet and exercise! I'm as Martha as they come! :wink:

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[honeybee37]

I have a List Book ������ With a carefully adhered to colour coding system.

[atomic sagebrush]

You can't change that though. That is just part of who you are (and we like that!!) IT is normal when you're planning to do something that is important to you, that you do think about it.

What I DON'T want to see, is you guys worrying about worrying. You're going to think about swaying, probably a lot. That you cannot control, and then getting so worked up about it that you end up hyperventilating into a paper bag thinking "OMG I gotta calm down or I'm going to RUIN EVERYTHING" is worse than just thinking about it in the first place.

The only, only only reason I ever mentioned this was to prevent you guys from going the "colorcoded charts, months of schedules" way. If you're not doing that, then you've already DONE IT. Success has occured. I do not want and never intended for anyone to take it further than that and start stressing over stress itself. Life is what it is, you can't control the random thoughts that pop into your mind and when you try to - well, that's only MORE control-freakishness that we're trying to avoid anyway!! :)

[atomic sagebrush]

You just described me... except I don't even delegate because I prefer to do everything myself!

I'm telling you pink swayers... diet and exercise! I'm as Martha as they come! :wink:

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:agree: I'm telling you, ladies, if I got a girl anyone can. Martha all the way.

[kc15880]

Loving this discussion! I have no idea how to reduce my stress running after 2 crazy boys who are destroying my house!

[jennypenny]

Loving this discussion! I have no idea how to reduce my stress running after 2 crazy boys who are destroying my house!
Hahaha! That sounds very familiar!!

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[atomic sagebrush]

Loving this discussion! I have no idea how to reduce my stress running after 2 crazy boys who are destroying my house!

You can't, so don't try. You only add an additional layer of anxiety onto what is already there in your life.

Plenty of girl mamas have to do lots of running around after crazy kiddos. That is just normal life.