ksmom TTC a GIRL Sway Attempt

[ksmom]

TTC a Girl Sway Attempt
Gender Result:
Boy
DW Age:
29
DH Age:
30
Current Children's Gender(s)
boy, boy
Number of Months TTC
6
Did you purchase and follow a GD Personalized Plan?
Yes
DIET
Did you follow a diet plan?
Yes
If yes to diet, which one did you most follow? LE(Low Everything)


Comments regarding DW's diet changes-
The LE diet was a big change for me. I normally ate meat and full fat dairy every day, ate breakfast, and snacked all day long. I started skipping breakfast November '14 and officially started the LE diet May '15. I have celiac disease so I had to continue eating gluten free. I started out around 1500 cals but I lost too much weight especially with breastfeeding/exercise so I upped it to 1800 cals and added in full fat dairy per Atomic. After DS2 weaned, I was less hungry so I ate between 1600-1700 cals and dropped the full fat dairy sometime in January/Feb. I struggled to get enough protein and usually stayed between 35-40g but towards the end of my sway I managed to get in 40-45g. Fat was usually around 35g and was typically from safflower or canola oil or vegan mayo, butter every once in awhile. I ate vegetarian, no breakfast, no snacks, usually two meals a day sometimes three. I often ate rice pasta, gluten free bread, beans, rice, fruit, veggies. I had a black coffee every morning. I developed a sweet tooth on LE so I always had something like a cookie or candy. I also ate some trans fat, something I never did before. For empty calories I always had a soda at lunch and often vodka or wine with dinner. I often had candy too for empty cals. The week leading up to O we were on vacation so I didn't track cals/fat/protein but stuck to no breakfast, no snacks, two meals a day, and vegetarian. The day I O'ed, I had quite a bit of alcohol at lunch and dinner...wine and a few fig cookies I brought were basically my dinner since the hotel had nothing I could eat.
If diet was used, length of time before attempt?
11 months
Did you skip breakfast regularly?
Yes
Did DH change his diet with you?
Yes
Comments regarding DH's diet-
DH went vegetarian in August '15 and continued to eat that way until Feb. After that he was so heartbroken from my losses that he didn't want to continue with it. He also wanted to get back into weightlifting and he needed too much protein to continue eating veggie. I didn't make a big deal about it since I know working out makes him happy. He still avoided red meat and mainly ate chicken, occasionally fish. DH told me he felt like he had low testosterone due to no energy and feeling really emotional all the time, even after he started eating meat and exercising again.
DId you consume alcohol? Often- daily


DId you try to limit caffeine?
No, I drink caffeine regularly
Any Diet Details?
-
Any Diet Comments/Additional Info?
-
WEIGHT AND EXERCISE
What did you weigh/BMI do leading up to O?
BMI 17.8 at conception..I lost too much weight on LE and got down to a BMI of 16.2. I slowly gained back some weight and maintained it the last couple of months. I was still at the lowest weight I've ever been since high school.
Any Weight/Exercise related additional info/comments?
For 7 months I exercised 4-6 days/week for 60 minutes on my stationary bike. I averaged 75-100 miles per week. The week leading up to O I skipped exercise as I was on vacation.
THINGS in VG and CONCEPTION DATE(CD) INFO
pH Before Starting a Sway Program, if known
-
Any VG potions used? NO


CM pH at attempt
-
DH pH
-
How many BD attempts did you make for the BFP cycle?
2
BD Dates according to Ovulation 4 Days Before O
1 Day Before O


Any additional comments?
For the first time ever my body started gearing up for O on CD11 which is way, way early for me. O ended up getting delayed for whatever reason and I didn't O until CD22. I honestly had no idea I'd even O'ed when I did as my temp didn't rise until a week after my pos. OPK. I'd pretty much given up that cycle as we were waiting on my next RE appt. to set up a game plan and I was more relaxed since we were on vacation. We conceived the same cycle I had the HSG done.
THE DEED INFO
DH Info about Swimmers Other


BD Position
Missionary
Did you Jump and Dump? No


Any relevant attempt details?
I put "other" for DH because I didn't want to micromanage his releasing patterns. My libido was almost non-existent so he often released on his own when he wanted since we didn't DTD all that often.

On our O-4 attempt my dinner was a bottle of wine so I was way drunk and don't remember much from that night lol and on O-1, missionary, no orgasm, hips propped for a bit then I fell asleep.
SUPPLEMENTS USED
DW Supplements folic acid


DH Supplements Cranberry


Any additional supplement info?
I started out taking 800mcg folic acid then upped it to 1600 after my first loss. After my second loss I switched to 2000mcg folate. I also took 18mg iron 3x/week starting in Jan. due to dizziness, fatigue and long (but light) periods. I didn't take it as much the last month or so since those symptoms eased up a bit.

DH did peppermint tea and cranberry for about 6 months then stopped. He said the tea made him feel like a lady LOL but he still took the cranberry, just not as often after my third loss in Feb.
Did you do anything with Ions?
no
Moon Phase during conception?
Waning Crescent
Did you use any Old Wives Tales?
no
Things that make me feel great about my sway:
I was doing the diet and exercise for a long time...way longer than I ever expected! I feel like I did what was doable for my personal situation. I'm proud of myself for sticking with it for as long as I did as it was such a huge change for me!
Things that make me nervous about my sway:
I feel like I did what I could but I also have a strong feeling this baby is another boy. I just don't feel like we can have a girl.
Things worth mentioning:
DH and I have always wanted a daughter so I really wanted to give swaying my all. It took us on quite the journey including three early losses but we're so happy this baby has decided to stick so far.

[Erin514]

Congrats. Sounds like a very solid sway. Good luck to you!

[XXforhubby]

Huge congrats! I'm so happy that you're finally pregnant!

FX!!



[emoji170]DS1[emoji1379], DS2[emoji577], & DS3[emoji602][emoji170]
[emoji166]One last pink sway 2016[emoji166]
My Ovulation Chart (http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/579920)

[foxymrsg]

Sounds like a fantastic sway! So sorry for your losses. Hope this is your daughter

[Littleboybluex3]

What a great sway, ksmom!! You should be really proud of all of your hard work:) FX for pink!!:heart:

[familymatters]

Sounds like a fab sway, you've given it all you had so my fingers are crossed for you!

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[ksmom]

Thank you so much ladies! :HH:

I love how supportive this site is. So many of you ladies kept cheering me on month after month. It really helped me to keep going!

[sharon]

Sounds like good sway, what gestation will you find gender out ?

[ksmom]

I'm only 10 weeks now so I'm not sure. Probably not until my anatomy scan which likely won't be until July/August. I may have the NT scan if it's offered. I'm still looking for a midwife at the moment.

[Pbn3]

Awesome sway ksmom and I admire your dedication! I truly hope (and think) you'll hear pink!!

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[Faithinpink]

Great Sway . Congratulations, I hope you hear pink
All the best

[Katt2275]

That's a great sway! I hope you get your pink bundle! [emoji177]

[Pink Pony]

Fingers crossed for pink, great sway :)

[Girlieplease]

Ksmon such an excellent sway, I hope it's a pink bean, excited to hear news, welldone

[atomic sagebrush]

Good luck and pink dust KS!

[ksmom]

Thank you Atomic for helping me so much along the way!!

[jennypenny]

Congratulations!!!! Hope u have a happy and healthy pregnancy :) xxxx

[ksmom]

We found out today we're having another healthy baby boy.

[Serenity]

Hi ksmom,

First of all, I want to say that I just read your sway for the first time, and it was totally impressive.

This little guy of yours must be something very special, huh? What a strong and awesome little angel you've got cooking! He sounds like a person who will definitely have what it takes to contribute to his family and the world in a positive way. :hugs:

I'm also so sorry for the loss of your dream daughter, at least for now. :hug2:

I hope you find comfort in the strength and health of your beautiful new little one, and I wish you and your family much peace and happiness.

[Pink Pony]

Congrats on your healthy baby boy ksmom, you had a really strong sway and you gave it your all, hugs x

[Pink Pony]

Congrats on your healthy baby boy ksmom, you had a really strong sway and you gave it your all, hugs x

[ksmom]

Thank you so much. It's funny that I'm actually more worried about the comments I'll be getting from other people (particularly my mom). I was sad for a bit but I feel sorta neutral about it now. I still feel like I had a strong sway but despite all that this little guy was determined to be here. I'm due right around Christmas time so he will be a special gift indeed.

[Serenity]

Yep, definitely meant to be! If it was me, I'd be curious to meet this special little one... :happy:

About people's comments: I think most will take their cues from you. You know this little one is someone amazing...show others how proud you are of him and they will probably be nothing but happy for you. If you're scared to tell someone in person, maybe text them, or have someone else tell them (like DH...he could also let them know that you are only interested in supportive comments). If anyone does make a rude comment, it will be because they knew you preferred to have a girl this time and they don't know what to say, or because they have a similar struggle of their own that they haven't dealt with.

My thought is that this little guy is going to be just like his mom. You had such a determined sway, and he was equally determined to exist. He's probably going to be the one who ends up being just like you. :pickuphappy:

[ksmom]

I remember feeling sad about having DS2 but then he was born and all of that sadness melted away. That little boy has my heart! He is just so sweet and there really is something extra special about him. I hope I feel the same way about DS3 when he arrives. :)

My mom's comments are what get to me. She has no idea we swayed or how much we wanted a girl. Even though she doesn't know what we're having, she's already saying things like "with your luck it will be another boy" and "you can always have another" (she said the same thing when we told her about DS2). She SAYS that she'll be fine with another boy, but I can tell by her tone she's bitter. The older I get, the more closed off I become with her because of comments like that.

[Serenity]

Well as a mom of all boys, I feel a little mad at your mom, too! Like, what's wrong with boys??? They are awesome!

My guess is that she's probably just from that old school way of thinking: back in the day, everyone just kind of assumed that you would want to have both boys and girls, I think. And everyone had more kids then, so continuing to try for the other sex was pretty normal all around. Either that or she has picked up on your wish for a daughter somewhere along the way and this is her way of being "on your side" with it. Or maybe she does have a genuine preference for girls over boys, in which case, I would just smile and nod because that's her issue to work out...

It sounds like you are really worried about what she will say, and like you're felt a lot of pressure from her to have a girl baby (which is not in your control). If you have a decent relationship with her otherwise, you might want to tell her how she's impacting you; if not, you might want to think about how to protect yourself from her reaction so that you can treasure your new little one and feel all your feelings in peace. :happy:

I, for one, think your new little guy is totally awesome. I mean seriously, who beats a sway like that???

[ksmom]

I think she'd just rather have granddaughters. She thinks of boys in a very stereotypical way and it irks me because as a mom of boys, I know that they do not always fit these molds society has set. I am her only chance at grandchildren (my brothers and I have the same dad, different moms) so I do feel pressure at times. I feel like she acts as if I have complete control over the genders of my children. I never once imagined myself as a mom of three boys but here I am. It's easy enough for her because she wanted a daughter and got one right off the bat. It's already hard enough for DH and I to accept not having a daughter, so I wish my mom could accept it too. I find it really hard to stand up to her and express my feelings because she can be rather insensitive and judgmental. I became very closed off after my third loss because of a comment she made to me and instead I started sharing my personal life with my MIL. I plan on not telling my mom what we're having and just waiting until the baby is born. I hope by then she'll just be excited to have another grandchild.

[Girlieplease]

Congratulations on your boy, sorry you did not hear pink. Your sway was excellent so you could not have done more to increase your chances of girl. Everyone I know that has three boys would say it is wonderful. I have been trying to think how I will cope if I have another boy, if I could ever get pregnant! I think for me the idea of three boys would be lovely but it would be the impact on my dd who so wants a sister. Re your mum, try to find a way to depersonalise what she says. This is her issue not yours, the trouble is at the moment it probably echos with your own feelings ( disappointment about not having a dd). This will pass and when your gorgeous boy arrives it will be forgotten! Wishing you a healthy rest of pregnancy and give yourself time to process! X

[atomic sagebrush]

Ksmom I'm sorry it didn't go your way BUT I do want to give you huge congrats on your newest little man. I had my sway opposite baby on December 21st and he's my very special Christmas present.

The thing is, people make the occasional rude remark but by the time the wee ones are 2,3,4 all that goes away. I know of several all boy families from high school or around our small towns and they were like "the Smith boys" or "the Jones boys" and everyone loved them and all the girls wanted to go out with one of them. :)

[ksmom]

Even though my sway didn't work, I still want to thank you Atomic. You were a great help along the way. I'm glad I still got a chance to try swaying so that at least I could say I did what I could.

I don't really get comments from strangers anymore, just when DS2 was a baby. Now people just say to me "you've got your hands full" but that's because my boys are close in age and they're those kids you see running up and down the aisles like a crazy person. lol Up until DS2 was 1 or 1.5, my mom said to me all the time "too bad he wasn't a girl." It annoyed me a lot when she'd say that because if he would have been a girl, then he wouldn't exist! I can't even imagine not having him. The other day I was thinking about how awesome it will be when all three of my boys are grown and I get to have three handsome men to protect me. :) We're also not closing the chapter on more children (four is our limit though). We've talked about adopting for a long time and I'm hoping one day that will be how we get our daughter. I'm still interested in going HT but I'd have to get DH onboard with it first.

[Serenity]

This might sound strange, but if your mom never had the chance to have any boys of her own, it makes sense to me that she might have held on to those stereotypes about them - maybe the stereotypes were just not challenged enough in her life, YKWIM? It reminds me of my DS1's first grade teacher. She was a brand new teacher and seemed to have a really hard time relating to the boys in the class she was teaching. She couldn't channel their energy and didn't seem to understand it. When I talked to her about it, I learned that she had only one child, a daughter. She just didn't "speak" boy, if that makes sense, and she'd never had to learn how to before. She had this distain of boys that seemed to come from just not understanding them - like she was a little afraid of their energy or uncomfortable around them or something. I thought about how different her experience of boys was from mine...she had them acting up in her class all day, while I had them acting up, but also bringing me flowers and giving me big hugs around my neck, at home. I think as moms, we really get to see the best and the worst of our kids, and so we come to have a clearer view of them than others can.

I'm really sorry your mom hasn't been more supportive of you. I can't wait for grandchildren, boys or girls, and I think your mom is so lucky to have three of them! That is one of my biggest dreams, personally - to have a big family around me as I get older. I hope she is able to support you and embrace her wonderful new grandchild, but either way, her perspective has nothing to do with your reality: you have a beautiful life ahead of you with lots of baby cuddles and a strong circle of protectors around you. And who knows how your story will unfold over time? :happy: I think it's great that you are choosing to process and to protect yourself. I wish you and your family all the best. :hug2: