Pink Sway September 2016

[PrayingForPrincess]

Hey all! I have a few questions regarding swaying pink in Sept of this year. Me and my DP are both very committed to giving ourselves the best possible chance of getting our baby girl. So far we are both following LE fairly strictly (apart from my DP does eat fish regularly). We are having cider on the weekend and having coffee daily (Something I've never done, I actually hate coffee with a passion!) I have not started exercising yet but plan to start next week for an hours cardio, again I was not doing this with my son as I took art at college so It involved me being inactive much of the day. We aren't taking any vitamins as of yet as I've read such conflicting things on here on what to take or even at all! Would love if someone would be able to shed some light on this! Now here comes the bit I'm a little worried about, Me and my DP are only intimate a few times a year, we both have a low libido (which use to be very high when I conceived my son, often multiple attempts at conceiving a day!). However we plan to BD every 4 days from AF without tracking OV. Is this a good idea? Would the fact we are very rarely are intimate effect a sway? It is likely that we may only have sex a couple of time leading up to Sept (Protected as I haven't taken an contraception in 7 years). I know he doesn't release often on his own, very awkward working hours kind of prevent this from happening. I just want to note we are very secure in our relationship and the fact that don' have sex often is not a reflection of us as a couple, we both think the world of one another, it's just life is hectic and who doesn't want that extra hours sleep ;) . Hoping that I could get some advice or even make some friends that are trying to conceive at the same time as me.
Thankyou for reading, looking forward to any responses! :):fx:

[Beau82]

Hi there and welcome! :wave:
That all sounds like a great sway! BD every 4 days is perfect. The idea is just to have one attempt in the fertile window. I don't think having sex rarely up until your sway would affect anything. How old is your DP? If he's over a certain age, abstinence might not be so good but I'm no expert on that. I'm sure atomic will chime in when she gets a chance.
DP doesn't have to follow LE but it definitely makes things easier for you when you're making meals! Are you taking fiber supplements and folic acid. Folic acid is necessary for anyone TTC of course but fiber sways pink.

[PrayingForPrincess]

Thank you so much for your reply! It's reassuring to see that the things we are doing are going in the right direction! He's going to have some cheat days, but It certainly does makes things easier. Im very lucky that he's being so supportive! I'm 22 and my DP is 31. I forgot to add that I am currently taking folic acid! I have read about the fiber supplements but wasn't sure which brand and where I could purchase them! (Im in the UK) Do you have any recommendations? :) It's all so overwhelming at first isn't it?

[foxymrsg]

The fibre I use is psyllium husks (sp?) I bought them from Holland and barratt.sounds like a great sway Good luck

[PrayingForPrincess]

Thankyou for the recommendation, il go there this weekend! Do you take them asap or is there a time limit on when you should start/stop? Also Is there anything I'm missing from my sway? I want to feel like I gave us both our best chance! Sorry for all the questions, I've been visiting the website for the last few months but this is my first post! :)

[Beau82]

I really think everything looks great. LE diet for 12+ weeks, daily 60 minutes of cardio, and 1 attempt in the fertile window are the most important things in my opinion. Daily coffee, alcohol and fiber are good additions too I think.
I take Fiber Choice chewable supplements, 2 with dinner. As long as it doesn't have any added vitamins, you're good. Some people take it everyday, other people just with a fatty or nutrient-rich meal. No time limit, just wean off when you get a BFP.

Ask away!

[PrayingForPrincess]

Ah thats reassuring! Me and DP are also drinking peppermint tea, I don't know how effective it is but any thing is worth a try! :) Thankyou for your help, I really appreciate you taking the time to reply! Are you swaying or swaying in the near future? It would be lovely to have a buddy!

[atomic sagebrush]

DH does not need to do LE Diet so if it's really geting to him, he can stay vegetarian + fish and then ease up on the limits!

Can you give me specifics regarding what supps you're considering?

Low libido and reduced sex frequency sways pink.

I would probably have you guys start off having sex about once a week if you aren't in a hurry to get pregnant. I worry that going from having sex super rarely to every 4 days could possibly be a bit more blue friendly than we want to chance. We can start off with once a week and then go from there if you don't get pregnant right away. This is not my standard advice of course so I realize it may be a bit confusing for you but if you do want best chances, I hesitate with you jumping right into e4d given your history. :)

[PrayingForPrincess]

I've told him that he no longer needs to follow LE now but I think he likes the convenience of not having to cook for himself ;) Supplements for me are folic acid, and I've bought some fiber today that was recommended above. For DP I've considered OLE but have yet to purchase it, is it a good idea? We are both currently drinking coffee and peppermint tea. Thankyou for your advice regarding BD, I will suggest this to him later and FX he'l be on board, I'm guessing releasing on his own would have the same effect? Is their anything else you would suggest for us? :)

[atomic sagebrush]

All those things are fine for the supps. Just be sure you're stopping the pep tea at positive OPK or CD 11-13 whichever comes first for you.

No, I'm not talking about releasing on his own, I'm talking about actual intercourse. I would tend to have him "do what he does" as long as he's not having really long abstains (more than 7-10 days) or more than 7-10 days of release in a row.

[PrayingForPrincess]

Oh I didn't realize there would be a difference between the two! Is there something about upping intercourse instead of him releasing alone that helps sway on my side too? Il make sure to stop the peppermint tea then! :) Learning something new from this site everyday, but I'm so looking forward to starting in September! You run a great site! I'm so appreciative of all your help! :)

[atomic sagebrush]

You're very welcome, it's my pleasure!

There are three different aspects to swaying and BD patterns - timing, frequency of his release, and the number of times you have unprotected sex. Timing has been debunked, the frequency of his release may sway a tiny amount but has been disappointing and also cuts odds of conception, and the number of rounds of unprotected sex particularly in the fertile window, DOES seem to be very effective.

One attempt in the fertile window (O-3/4 thru O Day) has been a very effective pink sway. We've also had good luck lately with the every 4 day pattern, but since e4d is new and most of the people who used it were either on Clomid or had been TTC a very long time, I'm not yet convinced that is a real finding or if it is legit yet, so I think it's best to at least start out with one attempt in fertile window rather than e4d.

Additionally, there is data that frequent exposure to the hormones in your husband's semen may make you more fertile and in effect sway blue. So since you aren't already having this exposure, my concern is that for you to go from rarely having sex to having it e4d that could possibly sway blue for you guys as a couple, even if it didn't do that for other people.

Hence, I think (and admittedly this is nothing more than my own gut instinct here) that if you guys were to start off with one time a week, that is still a chance of conception that would not entail tracking your cycle and yet it would not potentially be a blue sway for you becuase it would certainly be one attempt in fertile window. Over time, you may get "used" to those hormones and then you could push it closer together until conception occured.

I hope this makes sense, it's more involved than it might seem at first blush haha.

[PrayingForPrincess]

Ah I understand now, thank you so much for explaining it all! From all the information you have given me is it best to start trying once a week in September and upping the attempt to twice a week in October, 3 times a week in November, and building it up like that until I conceive? This is due to my DP wanting to try conceiving starting September so I don't think he'd be willing to chance unprotected sex until then (He wants DS in nursery in time for the new arrival) Sorry If I've got the wrong jist of it! I'd love to give us our best shot at getting pink. I had a very traumatic birth with my son and I'd like this to be the last time I have to experience it all again! However whatever we end up getting, pink or blue, will be meant to be and loved so very much :)

[atomic sagebrush]

That would be fine or if you were in no hurry you could even slow that down further to once a week for 2 months or whatever. Totally at your discretion.

I would probably NEVER have you go to 3x a week though. That would possibly be 3 attempts in fertile window. What I"d do instead is do every 7 days, then every 6, then 5, then 4, and stick at every 4 days (since we know we've gotten good results with that). THen if you needed to bump that up more, you could EITHER do e4d plus one additional attempt at positive OPK, OR every 3 days. THis would be as much as I would ever have you do and at that point you'd have a good chance of conception with every month that passed by. :)

[Beau82]

Ah thats reassuring! Me and DP are also drinking peppermint tea, I don't know how effective it is but any thing is worth a try! :) Thankyou for your help, I really appreciate you taking the time to reply! Are you swaying or swaying in the near future? It would be lovely to have a buddy!

I plan to have an attempt in July actually. So close but it feels so far away at the same time, haha. No guarantee it will happen though so it's entirely possible I'll still be swaying come September :)

[PrayingForPrincess]

We are not too much in a hurry, as I have some weight to lose (around 50 lbs) Which is plan to loose between now and October! I've lost a little so far and tend to drop weight pretty quickly when I'm committed. So ideally I'd like to hit my target before conceiving to have the healthiest pregnancy I possibly can as Diabetes runs in my family. I will definitely take your advice and start doing the 7 days to 6 and so fourth! Ah I so excited! I Know I keep repeating myself but I really can't thank you both enough for your help! So nice to talk to people about swaying as I feel like people will think I'm crazy talking in person lol! Well apart from DPl! I hope your sway goes well Beau82, sending you healthy pink dust!! It will be lovely to see how you get on if you post updates on here! :)

[PrayingForPrincess]

Hello again ladies, how are you all doing? :) I'm currently doing LE and drinking my body weight in coffee but staying on the lower side of cals due to wanting to loose weight. I have read on here that weight loss with no exercise sways pink and intense 60 mins exercise resulting in lots of weight loss can commonly sway blue. Is this correct or is this a good pink tactic to aim to loose lots of weight (Which I have to loose being between 210 and 220 - I am your typical yoyo dieter) with 60 mins of daily cardio or be a cough potato, I'm a little boggled again! I've also bought a clearblue digital ov kit as DP just wouldn't be able to manage ed4 and we figure It may be best just to try one attempt at OPK.

[atomic sagebrush]

THat was never meant as a guideline, it was an explanation about how some very heavy women do have girls and then lose weight and get boys, but just because something can hypothetically sway for some people, it doesn't make it the best way for anyone. Some of what we talk about on this site is to help us best figure out the mystery of swaying, not because it's always going to optimize our chances.

Since you have the weight to spare, try to lose some.. Not only for the best possible sway but for a healthy pregnancy. You MUST do the exercise (even if not able to do the 60 6-7 recommendation) if at all possible because the benefits for blood sugar control and weight loss will be so major for you that it completely outweighs any possible risk of mod. exercise. Do whatever exercise you can do, even if it is moderate.

[PrayingForPrincess]

Thankyou again for the advice! I have faith in swaying and you've been a god send at explaining it all to me, so for that I'm very grateful :) I've been using a Wii in my living room for 60 mins a day so hoping that will work in my favour. Still keeping up folic acid although I am a little confused on how often to take it and how many mg, the tablets I have are 200mg. I've also added soy milk to coffee too as I read this may also sway slightly (I don't drink dairy anyway but I was eating lots of cheese when having my son) I hope everyone else is doing well, it's certainly a journey and not a race!

[atomic sagebrush]

Well, you want to be getting 1200 mcg (that's micrograms, not milligrams) so is the dose on your pills 200 milligrams??? If so, you'd only take one of those.

[PrayingForPrincess]

Ah my bad I misread it, wondered why I was getting no luck with Google! LOL Thankyou for replying, I will up my dosage from today! :)

[squigglepink]

Can i just check something Atomic please? My Folic acid tabs say to take one per day, it reads 400mg on the bottle? Am i meant to be taking more than one of these, a little confused now! Thanks.

[squigglepink]

Can i just check something Atomic please? My Folic acid tabs say to take one per day, it reads 400mg on the bottle? Am i meant to be taking more than one of these, a little confused now! Thanks.

Oh, hang on, ok, just did a folic acid search on here and read another post that mentioned ug - and i think it reads 400ug and not 400mg! :suprise: Shu!! Almost fainted on the spot, ive been taking 3 a day sometimes 4!! :worry:

[squigglepink]

This is it. I am fine again. x :)32205

[atomic sagebrush]

Is it 400 MILLIgrams or MICROgrams??

I want you guys to be taking 1200-1600 MICROgrams (this is sometimes written as "ug" or a funny symbol kind of like that, or mcg) If your folic is in MILLIgrams (mg) then that is a dose for people with a history of having kiddos with neural tube defects and is more than you need.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh we were posting at the same time, see explanation above

[squigglepink]

Oh we were posting at the same time, see explanation above

Thanks, Got it! :agree:
Ive been taking 3 a day since January so had a quick panic attack! :worry: