Need advice

[Georgia_Peach]

Hey guys I need advice desperately.

I was going to have my attempts this sept and Oct. I ordered a plan etc. This will be our 4th and last child. Hoping for a girl.
Thing is though I am completely undecided if I want to attempt this year or next. The goal is to give her a playmate. My older boys are 3 years apart and we find there are good things abd bad things about the age gap. If i were to conceive this year it would be 2.5 year gap, next year would be 3.5 between my daughter and the baby.

I really want to do this year but I'm worried as my stress level is at an all time high. We just sold our place and are moving into new place in Oct but in the mean time we need to find a hotel or rental for a 30 day lapse I'm closing dates! That means my first attempt would be in a rental or hotel. Talk about stressful. I'd much rather be at home?!

Also i have not been able to do daily cardio with the LE diet plan and I'm not losing weight. This worries me. I'm still about 15 pounds away from my last conceive weight.

Lastly we find ourselves as parents stressed and sometimes overwelmed by all 3 children at this current age. Perhaps it's the fact that I have all them home right now (summer break) or maybe the fact that I'm packing to move.

Ugh
anyone have any advice or imput. Am I normal to feel completely overwelmed and yet still want one more?!
Sometimes I question if I should just be ok with 3 kids as well... but I just don't feel complete. This feeling haunts me even though everyone thinks I am nuts for wanting 4. I like the idea of having a playmate for her. I see how close the older boys are.
Selfish me could wait that extra year to get my body back (etc) but wouldn't that would almost defeat the entire purpose for us wanting one more child? That 3.5 year age gap is alot.


Should I attempt this year still with this level of stress?
What's your advice on age gaps?

Any thoughts would be appreciated.

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[atomic sagebrush]

Stress doesn't sway blue. That's a misconception. It has even been shown in studies to sway PINK. It is only being a control freak that sways blue, so please don't worry it would affect your sway.

Now TTC in a hotel with kids around is another challenge entirely!!

The exercise has been a really strong sway so that is def. something to take into consideration.

I also feel overwhelmed sometimes with 3. It's only just been in the last few months since my daughter has been 3 1/2 and now almost 4 that I felt like I was coming out of it. So that may be something to take seriously - adding a baby to the mix may be a lot to handle. But when the boys are in school it may be an easier adjustment.

My first two sons are about 3.5 years apart and I did not find they played very well together. My 3rd and 4th are just shy of 2 years apart and they are the best of friends and I very much preferred that spacing. BUT they are boys and my oldest wanted to run and play and do active games (as did my younger) but they were just too far separated in terms of development and skills. It very well may be different with a girl. My daughter LOVES babies (bordering on obsession) and would play non-stop with one I"m very sure!!

[Georgia_Peach]

Aahhh thank you so much for the reply!
You help set my.mimd at ease about the swaying factors and shed some light on the age gaps.
We went to look at a short term rental last night and it's amazing! I think we are going to take it instead of a hotel so first attempt will actually be peaceful! !

I started the 60 min of cardio and will continue to do so from now until attempt.

😀

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