I think I may give up on my dream of having a boy... :(

[DesiG]

It hurts so much to say this, but I think I may just have to say to good bye to my boy sway. I was already over weight, and I have gotten so fat I really feel like Im about 7 months pregnant, and I hate the way I look and feel, I can't fit any of my clothes anymore. Since I know I have to eat 3 meals and snacks and can't do alot of cardio I just don't see how I can still go on with my sway, and I really dont have time to wait any longer, Im about to be 35 and hubby is all ready 44. I really wish there was a way to cut out meat or at least cut out beef and still be ok. Well I guess this is it for me, good luck to you all with your sways, I loved being here. Im sure I will come back every now and then just to see who has gotten pregnant and who got their boy or girl.

[MamaE]

Oh hon I'm sorry you are feeling this way. I have had some of these thoughts myself but I keep reminding myself it is just a temporary change and October is so close now that it wouldn't be worth it to throw away what I've already started. Also, I believe it is totally possible to cut out meat and continue your sway. In fact, there are vegans and vegetarians who have successful sway stories! I think the most important thing is to eat small meals and snacks throughout the day.. and it doesn't have to be a lot of food or just meat. On the contrary, I think the healthier and more balanced we eat the better! And just because a lot of cardio isn't recommended that doesn't mean we can't do some in moderation. Walking is a great exercise that I believe is boy friendly.
Like I said, I can relate to how you are feeling as I have put on a bit of weight as well and am at my heaviest besides when I was pregnant. I keep telling myself I can lose it eventually and will hopefully have a precious babe that I did it all for. I hope we still see you around and hopefully you can find a way to continue your sway but also support your mental and physical health. Lots of love and positivity to you xoxo

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[squigglepink]

I have two friends that have been vegetarian most of their lives. They both have two boys each. One of them eats a little chicken now and then... They both have a 3rd child which is a girl. One lives in Australia the other in UK. Neither of them dedicated to exercise. I was 37 when I had my second son. Currently 39 hoping for a girl. My best friend who had her boy was 36 and DH 49. Nothing wrong with a light sway anyway.. when I had my boys I can guarantee you there were days I skipped meals and didn't or couldn't snack. I also never really did any excerise.. don't give up on your dream hun xx do the best you can do for you. All the best to you xx

[Throwaway_panther]

Have you worked directly with atomic though? She's definitely able to guide you through a blue sway without gaining too much weight, and there are definitely vegetarian blue sways and seemingly a gazillion vegetarian celebrities with boys.

That said, I will say this: beef isn't an instant calorie issue. It's all about monitoring calories, and perhaps you needed to weigh and track all of your food to be more accurate and not gain so much, so fast.

If you feel it's best to move on, good luck to you! I just think there are fixes you could be making to be easier for you both physically and mentally.

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[Pink Pony]

I agree with all the ladies above. You can do this. I have 2 boys, I would rather snack than have a big meal and most of the time it was healthy stuff. Nuts, cereal bars, salad, meat, cereal. I would rather eat sandwiches and cereal than cook a meal, I am so lazy with food prep. Takes so much effort to cook. Stick to snacks and small meals. I would rather have eaten salad every night then veg, so maybe that's something else that swayed blue, but always had meat, most time it was lamb chops or curry. Best of luck

[baby2016baby]

Desi sorry I don't have any practical advice but just wanted to say your not alone. It's took me over 5 months on he to achieve pregnancy. This was literally my last month before I planned to crash diet and start again in the new year and sods law I fell this month! I was already the top end of normal (chunky) and despite being as careful as I could, excercising and atomic advice on my diet I still gained ALOT of weight as my eating habits changed drastically after spending my whole life on a diet pretty much. I got a ticking off at my booking, I felt very foolish, and have to have a risk assessment and anasthetic review. I really hope atomic had some practical tips for you and I hope your back to ttc as soon as possible. Best wishes x

[atomic sagebrush]

Meat doesn't make you gain weight. If you're gaining, it isn't the meat. No one needs to gain ANY weight for a boy if you're already on the heavier side. If you hate red meat, don't eat it. Have chicken or fish instead (but this is not going to do anything for your weight, just want you to understand that.)

What you can do is eat smarter, not harder. THat means you eat protein and carbs, but you get your carbs from lower cal foods like fruit and veg instead of bread, potatoes, etc . You do not need to eat meat and potatoes and whole grain bread and a salad and nuts etc etc all in one meal. Cut out the carbier foods like pasta, potato, bread, and even things like bananas. Juice is another thing that has a lot of sugary carbs all at once, just drop it or else do only V8 juice and coco water which is very low cal.

You actually can do cardio for TTC a boy. Just be sure it's only 45 min. a day or less, and do it no more than 4-5 days a week or less. Then, in addition to that, you can also add in weight training an additional 4 days a week. Just be sure you separate the two by a few hours and have a meal in between them.

[atomic sagebrush]

I agree with all the ladies above. You can do this. I have 2 boys, I would rather snack than have a big meal and most of the time it was healthy stuff. Nuts, cereal bars, salad, meat, cereal. I would rather eat sandwiches and cereal than cook a meal, I am so lazy with food prep. Takes so much effort to cook. Stick to snacks and small meals. I would rather have eaten salad every night then veg, so maybe that's something else that swayed blue, but always had meat, most time it was lamb chops or curry. Best of luck

:agree: this. A lot of our all boy moms are on the thinnish side. I have to pack a lot into the HE Diet thread just because if I didn't people would ask me a million questions but you don't have to eat all those things in one day.

I would get up, eat nuts or cheese for breakfast (sometimes with a small bit of fruit, other times not), then go to work or work out. Then I'd have something either during work or after my workout that was smallish, like a yogurt or granola or dark chocolate bar. Then lunch, dinner, and a bedtime snack (usually cereal or blueberries and yogurt). I wasn't stuffed and I really only ate meat mostly at dinner. I don't really have juice that much either.

[carmella_marie]

Like atomic said, meat won't make you fat, usually it's processed food that does. Or if you're a pretty clean eater it's carbs that pack on the pounds. There are even a lot of evidence coming out that you need to eat a lot of (healthy) fat to lose weight. Many women are finding huge success with paleo for weight loss.

I never ate big meals and I got 2 boys. I just snacked all the time--nuts, eggs, fresh fruit and veggies, lots of meat, cheese, and full fat dairy. When I did my girl sway I had to train myself to eat larger meals so I could last from lunch to dinner!

You always have a chance at a boy, even without swaying!

[DesiG]

Thanks so much everyone for the support, I have come to terms that not trying for a boy this one last time I know I would be so mad at myself later on in life especially everytime I seen someone with their son(s)I am going to cut my portion sizes in half and sometimes just skip lunch and have two snacks. Going to pick up my workouts to 45 mins 4 days a week plus my weights, I know after I have the baby I can just go super hard on working out and well pregnant do pregnancy workouts and really start watching what I am eating, oh and try to stay away from mirrors for now lol. Oh and I must say this a few years ago my hubby and I both wanted to lose weight we started working out, cut down on sweets some what and cut out beef to only once a week he lost 30 pounds I lost 20, we have cut out sweets for our sway, but added beef almost every night for dinner and both of gained weight. But thank you all for your kind words and the encouragement to make me feel like this is still possible!:)

[Pink Pony]

Desig, you got this. I hardly had any carbs when I had my boys. My hubby is not a fan of carbs, so we never ate much because he loves to cook, so he kinda dictated what was for dinner and I didn't care cause I didn't have to cook it. Try stay away from breads and pasta, rice, potatoes. Have lean cuts of meat and salad or veg. I never drank anything other than water and tea. Stayed away from baked treats and sweets and desserts, but would have chocolate.


Breakfast: cereal full cream milk
10ish: tea and a biscuit
Lunch: toasted ham and cheese or peanut butter sandwich
Afternoon: a chocolate, just a bite size one
Dinner: chops, chicken/ steak/ roasts/ pork/ mince, something like that with salad mostly, but sometimes veg.

I never ate anything more or drank anything after 8pm. If I think of anything else, I will let u know.
Sometimes we would even have bacon and eggs for dinner.

[trifecta]

I'm glad you're feeling better about swaying now! I really think it's possible to do a good blue sway without gaining body fat. Weights are a great idea! I was doing them both times we TTC. High-quality protein is good. I often had nuts or a hard-boiled egg for an afternoon snack. For dinner I usually had a slab of steak, salmon, or a chicken breast with some sauteed greens and a sweet potato. Best of luck--I hope you get your boy!

[4blue2pink]

i had 4 boys in less than 4 years without swaying, i was that crazy lady with 4 kids under the age of 4 who would be pregnant again within 6-7 months of having the last baby!

diet wise i wasn't eating big meals (i dont like the feeling of being full) and i haven't eaten breakfast since i was a little kid due to never feeling hungry in the mornings, what i was doing was constantly picking at small amounts of food throughout the day starting late morning and going on till bed time, i found that if i couldnt sleep having something to eat would help so id often go to bed having literally just snacked!
meals wise id have a sandwich for dinner usually and then whatever we were having for tea but i would never have a big portion of it.
i never ate red meat but would have chicken or fish sometimes, i wouldnt say im a big meat eater, i was veggie for years as a kid/teen and still now prefer veggie options most of the time, its funny seeing what the main foods for the blue swayers are here because they are mainly things i hate!!

ive never swayed blue so im not really in a position to help that much, but from my own personal experience of getting 4 boys and seeing whats recommended for pink and blue on this site im convinced that snacking/not having long gaps between eating and lots of bd attempts are key to blue! if huge meals arent working then just eat your normal portion size (or smaller) and snack away in between!! weight wise ive always sat between slightly underweight to just inside normal range, so its totally possible to do a boy friendly diet and not pack on the pounds.
for me i never felt totally full because i wouldnt eat enough in one sitting to get to that point, but at the same time id rarely ever feel hungry because id just pick at bits here and there and keep myself in the middle ground between the 2.
im sorry i cant offer any really helpful advice i just thought id put my personal experience down for you as im convinced it was my eating habits and the multiple bd's that led to us getting our 4 boys, personality wise im laid back and certainly not a control freak (i never charted any of my cycles till i had to use opk's to sway pink!!) and ive never lifted weights in my life!!

best of luck to all of you swaying blue, you can have all my blue dust and i hope you all get your boys :)

[Throwaway_panther]

i had 4 boys in less than 4 years without swaying, i was that crazy lady with 4 kids under the age of 4 who would be pregnant again within 6-7 months of having the last baby!

diet wise i wasn't eating big meals (i dont like the feeling of being full) and i haven't eaten breakfast since i was a little kid due to never feeling hungry in the mornings, what i was doing was constantly picking at small amounts of food throughout the day starting late morning and going on till bed time, i found that if i couldnt sleep having something to eat would help so id often go to bed having literally just snacked!
meals wise id have a sandwich for dinner usually and then whatever we were having for tea but i would never have a big portion of it.
i never ate red meat but would have chicken or fish sometimes, i wouldnt say im a big meat eater, i was veggie for years as a kid/teen and still now prefer veggie options most of the time, its funny seeing what the main foods for the blue swayers are here because they are mainly things i hate!!

ive never swayed blue so im not really in a position to help that much, but from my own personal experience of getting 4 boys and seeing whats recommended for pink and blue on this site im convinced that snacking/not having long gaps between eating and lots of bd attempts are key to blue! if huge meals arent working then just eat your normal portion size (or smaller) and snack away in between!! weight wise ive always sat between slightly underweight to just inside normal range, so its totally possible to do a boy friendly diet and not pack on the pounds.
for me i never felt totally full because i wouldnt eat enough in one sitting to get to that point, but at the same time id rarely ever feel hungry because id just pick at bits here and there and keep myself in the middle ground between the 2.
im sorry i cant offer any really helpful advice i just thought id put my personal experience down for you as im convinced it was my eating habits and the multiple bd's that led to us getting our 4 boys, personality wise im laid back and certainly not a control freak (i never charted any of my cycles till i had to use opk's to sway pink!!) and ive never lifted weights in my life!!

best of luck to all of you swaying blue, you can have all my blue dust and i hope you all get your boys :)
Wow, thank you! Were you breastfeeding when you got your boys?

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[4blue2pink]

Wow, thank you! Were you breastfeeding when you got your boys?

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your welcome :) if i can help anyone with swaying blue im more than happy to answer any questions etc i just wasnt sure how much help my own experience would be!

i have breastfed all my babies but not for very long, my first boy was 6 weeks exclusive breastfeeding then 3 weeks mixed feeding before switching to bottles fully at 9 weeks (i then conceived my daughter who was lost during pregnancy) 2nd boy was only breastfed for 2 weeks, 3rd boy was 8 days and 4th boy was around 10 days and i conceived a girl 5 months after i had him.

so no i wasnt breastfeeding at the time of conception with any of my boys, are you breastfeeding while swaying blue? how are you finding swaying? i did my first sway with this pregnancy and opted to go team green for the first time too!

[Throwaway_panther]

your welcome :) if i can help anyone with swaying blue im more than happy to answer any questions etc i just wasnt sure how much help my own experience would be!

i have breastfed all my babies but not for very long, my first boy was 6 weeks exclusive breastfeeding then 3 weeks mixed feeding before switching to bottles fully at 9 weeks (i then conceived my daughter who was lost during pregnancy) 2nd boy was only breastfed for 2 weeks, 3rd boy was 8 days and 4th boy was around 10 days and i conceived a girl 5 months after i had him.

so no i wasnt breastfeeding at the time of conception with any of my boys, are you breastfeeding while swaying blue? how are you finding swaying? i did my first sway with this pregnancy and opted to go team green for the first time too!
I'm so sorry for your loss! ♡

I am EBF and was planning to go at least a year, but sort of long term pre-swaying in case of an oops since I already have my period (am just now 12w postpartum and have had two).

I'm doing things very differently from when I conceived my DD, but working on snacking and not ignoring hunger cues (or even getting hungry) 😣

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[4blue2pink]

I'm so sorry for your loss! ♡

I am EBF and was planning to go at least a year, but sort of long term pre-swaying in case of an oops since I already have my period (am just now 12w postpartum and have had two).

I'm doing things very differently from when I conceived my DD, but working on snacking and not ignoring hunger cues (or even getting hungry) ��

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sounds like your certainly on the right track! just keep trying to pick at food little and often, its funny having looked at some of the "how we got our boys" and "how we got our girls" threads from those who didnt sway but have had multiple boys/girls the one thing that seems to really stand out is eating habits! and its not always so much what you eat its how you eat! the girl mums all seem to have similar eating patterns and its the same for the boy mums too, boy mums are almost all habitual snackers while most of the girl mums seem to be the opposite, even when other things like bd pattern or types of food being eaten werent very pink or blue friendly their normal eating patterns are almost always exactly whats recommended for sways.

i think you'll be in with a great shot at blue :) and having your period back so soon while ebf is amazing! at least you know you wont be waiting around for it to arrive when you decide you do want to go ahead and ttc