October chat thread for pink swayers

[zanacal]

Good luck to everybody ttc in October! Chat away ...

[dannikins]

are you putting the members stats up again?
if so can you please change mine to surprise BFP, September 26th, 12 DPO
Due date June 6th....:)

[Mochagirl]

I'm just catching up on the chatting after my weekend away. I think it's really cool that you and your sister are due around the same time, Z. I know it would be really tough if she gets a girl and you don't, but I'm sure you'll both have girls and they'll grow up as best friends!

[happyheart]

Hello :)

Zanacal ~ so cool about your sister! :) My twin sister is 9 weeks pregnant right now. I am hoping to be pregnant with her soon! :)

Have a great rest of your day everyone! :)

[rainbowflower]

zana - how exciting to read about your sister - what a lovely experience to share together!

[mandicane]

Hi ladies...hope everyone is well. Mocha- good to see you're still going to be chatting with us on this thread! Zan- congrats to you and your sister! I'm ovulating this friday so hopfully this will be my month. This will be my fourth attempt and I am starting to get a little worried/discouraged :( I've stopped the asprin, and sylk. Just gonna use canola oil and DTD everyday till friday. I have a feeling that my sway was way too hard core! In the past I got pregnant so easily so i am assuming it must be all the things I am doing to reduce the amount of sperm. Hubby is still gonna take licorice root and if it doesn't happen for me this month we're gonna get rid of that for our next attempt. So many of my girlfriends are pregnant and I'm starting to get a little envious. good luck to everyone!

[Mochagirl]

Sounds like a good plan, Mandicane. I dropped Sylk and Rephresh this attempt, and I think that's what made the difference for me.

[zanacal]

Thanks everyone - it will be so cool for my sister and I to have our due dates so close. Our second children are only 3 months apart so we've been pregnant together before but not as close as we are this time!

FX for this month mandicane and happyheart x

[indigoviolet]

Mocha- do you think the rephresh stopped you getting pg? I was about to order some for my attempt in a couple of weeks...now not so sure. I have acijel which I will use for the run up but don't want to stop my chances of getting pg too much....
It is all consuming this ttc business, I was dreaming all about it last night!
Zanacal- lovely news about your sis, will be a lovely experience to share again.

[Mochagirl]

Indigo - there's no way to know for sure, of course, but the lack of Rephresh was the one significant difference in my sway this month.

[mandicane]

Thanks Zan..hoping this month will be my month. Indigo- I have an unopened box of rephresh that i'm not gonna use. i can send it to you free of charge if you like.

I definitely think that the sylk and/or antihistamines are effecting my ability to get pregnant. Gonna do what you did with the asprin mocha and take it every other day. I haven't been doing frequent release (it was to exhausting and hubby couldn't keep up as he is also taking licorice root) but we started last night and will BD until O. I spoke with a girlfriend of mine who has two girls and she said for both attemps she and her hubby did it everyday 5 days leading up to O. I'm gonna try this as it will also be the opposite of what we did to have our ds.

[Mochagirl]

That's pretty close to what I did, mandicane. We did every day for 6 days leading up to O. Let's hope that works for both of us and we get our girls!

[mandicane]

Fx to all of us! Can't remember if you posted this elsewhere Mocha ( i guess i could go look at your sway!) but did you take antihistamines? If so how often? Still debating whether or not to include this for this months tiny sway? For some reason I keep thinking this is the cause of me not getting pregnant. My hubby insists its the licorice root but i don't yet want to give this up. What do you gals think?

[Mochagirl]

Yes, I did take antihistamines. I took two Zyrtec once a day, usually after supper. I tried to take Benedryl too one day, but it made me pass out before dh and I had the chance to dtd, so I figured I should drop it.

[mandicane]

thanks Mocha!

[rainbowflower]

Mocha - how much RepHresh were you using before?

[rainbowflower]

anyone heard from Swish lately? is she OK?

[Indira]

No, I was wondering about swish too, I think she hasn´t been on since her bfn. Hope she´s fine.
I also need a break sometimes especially when I get a bfn and see other people get pregnant, although I´m totally happy for all the pregnant girls!
And then as O comes more near, I hang around a lot more here, I enjoy the company of all you pink swayers:)

[Mochagirl]

swish is taking a break to think through how much swaying she still wants to do. I'm hoping she'll join us again closer to O or maybe when she gets her BFP (which is hopefully this month).

rainbow - the first couple of months I was using about half an applicator of rephresh every 3 days and I tried to time it so my last application was 3 days before O. The third month I only used a fingerful a few days before O. This last attempt I did use it once - a fingerful 6 days before O to counteract the fact we'd messed up frequent BD, but I think it was far enough away from my attempt that it didn't have an impact.

[sweetsister]

Hi ladies,,im also swaying pink this month starting the 8th and im getting kinda nervous excited more so just to get this over with so i can eat again,i feel so secretive about the ig diet if anyone knew they would think ive lost it,so its getting difficult..im counting the days!

[zanacal]

Good luck to you too sweetsister!

I used Rephresh too - a whole applicator around 48 hours before our attempt.

[rainbowflower]

thank you, I was wondering how much rephresh to use. I've only tried it twice so far but found it very hard to only get some out - it's much easier to do the full dose

[rainbowflower]

aww I hope Swish feels stronger soon and that its her turn soon

[Belle]

I'm also swaying at the moment although I think I went overboard with my 0+12 attempt. I took benedryl zyrtec aspirin rephresh in the morning, acijel on Dh for lube while dtd. Dh takes LR zyrtec benedryl aspirin. I'll have to change something next month if it's a negative. What do u girls think?

Swish thinking of you and best of luck

[rainbowflower]

OK, I have a plan!

with such little weight to lose I've always known (well, since my first week of the diet) that I can't keep it up that long. So we've got a plan:
TTC this cycle and keep up the diet
TTC next cycle, but as soon as OV is over I will go back to eating more normal although still try and keep blood glucose low, and then that should take us to mid-November.
From when AF arrives then if we're still not pregnant I'll go back to my old eating ways, bring back breakfast, and just enjoy Christmas with my DH and my DS, re-gaining weight if I have to and re-stocking my nutrients in my body.
Once Christmas is out of the way I'll start the diet again, ready to TTC in Feb and March, etc.

So it means only 2 shots at getting pregnant at a time, but TBH I feel less in a rush now than I did and know that it will be worth waiting for and I can't become "Swayorexic" in the process because that won't help anyone.

[Mochagirl]

rainbow - that sounds like a great plan. I had decided that if I didn't get my BFP this past month I was going to start eating more normally in the 2WW, though still making sure to keep blood glucose low.

[rainbowflower]

thanks :) sort of looking forwards to eating "real" food one way or another in 6-8 weeks now. Praying my LP is long enough to get pregnant this cycle... I think it'll be hit or miss :(

[Mochagirl]

I'll send lots of baby dust your way, rainbow! :HH:

[Indira]

Well, I got a + OPK yesterday afternoon, cervix was SHOW, we had an attempt, but DH wasn´t able to deliver...I can´t describe how angry, disappointed and sad I am...I really felt every thing was perfect, had managed to have a 7 day abstain (happened to be sick and vomited in the morning), I had been good on the diet this last month thinking I would start eating normal again after this change just giving up on swaying. Now I didn´t even get a change to get pregnant with all my last efforts :mad::sad::SS:
We´ll try tonight but it will probably be too late, no more ecwm and cervix is lower and firmer and more closed. I tried and managed to stay positive last cycle when we missed our fertile window, but now, I feel like giving up and just have a boy, I can´t do this anymore. But I feel so sad too thinking of getting pregnant on my normal diet, that way I have no change of a daughter :(Sorry for moaning.

Rainbow your plan sounds good. Hope you won´t need it and you fall pregnant soon.

[zanacal]

Oh Indira, I'm so sorry. Maybe tonight will work out - I always have less EWCM when I actually ovulate than I do leading up to it. {hugs}

[Indira]

thanks zani

[rainbowflower]

Aww indira I hope he feels better later on, less ewcm might sway better for you...

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[Indira]

I´m more optimistic now :) my opk is still + (that doesn´t mean anything I know, but it makes me feel better), I have a tiny bit of clear, little stretchable cm. My cervix still feels firmer, lower and more closed than yesterday, I think I just need to stop checking it and chill...
Really hope things will work out tonight!

[Mochagirl]

Indira - I'm sending you lots of baby dust for tonight. I think you still have a good chance!

[zanacal]

Good luck Indira!

[maybeoneday]

Good luck Indira, I am still waiting for my :happy: but it should really come either tomorrow or Saturday. I was up half the night with DS2 who has tonsillitis and is very sick when he has it so totally drained today. Have a bit of a sore throat myself so hoping I get that :happy: soon!!

[indigoviolet]

Rainbow- that's almost exactly what I was thinking of doing. I don't have a lot of weight to loose and my Dh is already getting worried about how thin I am looking. I'm glad that someone else is thinking the same, I will copy your plan!

Zanacal- thanks for the info on rePHresh, I have just ordered mine and was needing to know how to use it. Did you use acijel as well? I have acijel and was thinking of using both, aj every second day and then the repH a few hours before bd, do you think that would work ok? TIA

[indigoviolet]

Madicane- is your attempt tomorrow? GOOD LUCK!!!

[zanacal]

I did use both Indigo. I used Represh every 3 days starting soon after my period (I only managed to use it twice in that cycle as I ovulated early) and I used a finger tip of Aci-jel every 2 or 3 days earlier in my cycle too (on different days to the Rephresh). Rephresh is designed to be used every 3 days to balance pH so I would use it earlier in your cycle (so your body is used to it by the time you O and doesn't try and gush out a load of EWCM to get rid of this foreign substance!) but I wouldn't use it too close to your attempt if you're going to use a whole applicator full. Personally I'd want to be at least 24 hours away with the Rephresh. I used around 1/4 applicator of Aci-jel the night before our attempt (which was early in the morning) - so around 7 hours beforehand. Again, the only reason I used Aci-jel earlier in my cycle was to make sure my body was used to it.

[happyheart]

Hi everyone :)

I was doing really well the past two weeks since my last attempt. But now I am super confused and hoping to get a positive OPK soon!! The CBEM said that I peaked a couple of days ago, but I never got a positive OPK or a temp spike. The ovacue gave me tomorrow as an ovulation date.. but it did the same thing for a couple days ago... very confusing!! I have zero CM due to the clomid drying me up so bad.

Gosh.. I am so hoping to get a positive opk soon and I am starting be concerned that I won't this cycle. :(

I hope you all are doing well and good luck!!!

[mandicane]

Madicane- is your attempt tomorrow? GOOD LUCK!!!

We've actually been bding everyday since sunday and I am pretty sure I am ovulating on friday. Going to do it unitl I feel my ovulation pain. Thanks for asking!

[mandicane]

Don't worry Indria...you still have a chance at having a girl not matter what you do. And remember that swaying can stress you out major which can make things that much work. Pink dust to you!!!

[happyheart]

We've actually been bding everyday since sunday and I am pretty sure I am ovulating on friday. Going to do it unitl I feel my ovulation pain. Thanks for asking!

Hi :) We have since Sat. and I hope to ovulate tomorrow or at least soon too! :) good luck!! :)

[Indira]

Don't worry Indria...you still have a chance at having a girl not matter what you do. And remember that swaying can stress you out major which can make things that much work. Pink dust to you!!!

Thanks. I know! Now I´m beating myself because I was so stressed out yesterday, but I´m very happy too because we DTD yesterday evening and I think it was still on time. So mandicane, maybeoneday, happyheart, we might all be in 2ww together, how exciting! FX for all of you!

[fresas]

Whoa, rainbow flower, I didn't know you got a promotion to moderator! Congratulations!

Sorry ladies, I'm just lurking. I'm still prepping for a spring sway, but like to drop in on these threads once in a while. :)

[rainbowflower]

yay Indira! ~~baby dust~~

Thanks, Fresas, I didn't actually know it was a promotion I just agreed to help out when I can!


I'm heading back home today. Feel quite emotional about it as it's always sad to leave Cornwall and head back to reality. *sigh*

[happyheart]

Thanks. I know! Now I´m beating myself because I was so stressed out yesterday, but I´m very happy too because we DTD yesterday evening and I think it was still on time. So mandicane, maybeoneday, happyheart, we might all be in 2ww together, how exciting! FX for all of you!

Yay!! FX to Indira, mandicane, and maybeoneday!! :)

So last night before we DTD I got what really looked positive on a cheapie OPK. Definitely a dark second line. Even dh looked and agreed! :) This is my first time using a digital OPK and it was negative!?? Same thing this morning! What do you all think please??? I have been using the cheapies for years and have good results.... I wish I didn't have the digital test!

ETA: Posted pic in next post. :)

Have a great day everyone!! :) :)

[happyheart]

Ok :) I have to get your opinion please... the top one is from last night and the bottom one is this morning with FMU. Is the second one a positive??

THANK YOU! I think I am losing my mind! LOL!! :)

[Mochagirl]

happyheart - I like the security of a digital OPK since there was no questioning a + result, though I did notice that I often got my + about a day after they started to look + with ics. Go with your gut - if you think your ics are + and your body is showing other O signs, then start preparing for your attempt.

[Mochagirl]

They look *almost* positive to me, but not completely positive. The test line is supposed to be just as dark as the control line. I think you'll get a + later today - hold your pee for 4 hours and test in the early afternoon - that's the time of day when your LH levels are highest.

[happyheart]

THANK YOU sooo much Mocha!!! :) :) I appreciate your help so much!!! I will definitely do that!! :) I always worry about the "what if" I don't ovulate... I am sooo hoping it comes soon!! :) :)

[Indira]

sorry I can´t help happyheart, I´ve never used a digital.
But I´m sure you´ll O very soon, you´re doing frequent right? Do you want to do a cut-off?

[happyheart]

sorry I can´t help happyheart, I´ve never used a digital.
But I´m sure you´ll O very soon, you´re doing frequent right? Do you want to do a cut-off?

Hi Indira :) We have been dtd everyday since Sat and will be through ovulation. :) I am on my second round of clomid and am so dry! I am using a little preseed this time. I know that it tends to sway blue but I need to use something.

Thank you!!! :) I hope we are in the TWW together! :)

[Mochagirl]

I'm sure you'll O, happyheart - those OPKs definitely show a surge about to happen.

[happyheart]

I'm sure you'll O, happyheart - those OPKs definitely show a surge about to happen.

Thank you sooooo much Mocha!! :) :)

[zanacal]

It looks like you're going to O soon happyheart - good luck!

[maybeoneday]

Evening ladies, well I just got a :) on my opk so it looks as if tonight is the night...

Haven't told my DH yet but think he will be overjoyed to actually DTD finally this month! I have less CM than usual this month but have just popped an antihistimine anyway. Anything else I should be doing at this point??

Still undecided whether to use the rephresh as have never used it before - just have a free sample from the manufacturer? thoughts please ladies.

Was planning on using a bit of sylk as a lube though - although haven't used that before either!!

Oh too many decisions... thinking calm thoughts

xx

[maybeoneday]

not sure what went on with that additional 'too'?? stupid computer!

[Mochagirl]

I'm so glad you got your smiley! Personally, I wouldn't use Rephresh so close to your attempt or you might kill off all the spermies. I think at least 24 hours between using it and dtd is probably best...but then again, I ended up dropping Rephresh entirely, so maybe you shouldn't listen to me. :wink:

I'm sending you some baby dust for tonight!!!

[zanacal]

Good luck maybe! I agree with Mocha, if your attempt is tonight then I wouldn't use the Rephresh now. I think Sylk is a great option for a one off attempt at O!

[sweetsister]

Oh i also got my +o smiley i checked at 2 today so im hoping to dtd as late tonight as i can stay up i felt pains in one side too so im hoping to catch o+10 as i think the 12 will be too much for me i have a feeling at my age 37 id miss it!I m supposed to o tomorrow so i was quite shocked,,nervous about it being today! i hope im not dtd too early??

[maybeoneday]

Good luck sweetsister. Will be thinking and praying for a lot of pink tonight. I only ever get one day of :) so guessing I will be popping that egg out tomorrow at some point but I rarely have any other symptoms.

Have confidence in your sway and you will be fine. Don't know about you but really looking forward to a bacon sandwich when I get a BFP!
x

[Indira]

Good luck sweetsister!
You too maybeoneday! If you decide to use sylk, like somebody else already mentioned, pay attention, because if you squeeze it just a little, a lot comes out!

[Indira]

We have been dtd everyday since Sat and will be through ovulation. :) I am on my second round of clomid and am so dry! I am using a little preseed this time. I know that it tends to sway blue but I need to use something.

Thank you!!! :) I hope we are in the TWW together! :) Me too, FX for seeing high temps soon!
:agree: about the preseed, clomid sways pink and you need to get pregnant to become pregnant with a girl ;)

[happyheart]

Me too, FX for seeing high temps soon!
:agree: about the preseed, clomid sways pink and you need to get pregnant to become pregnant with a girl ;)

Thank you so much Indira!! :) :) FX for you too!!! :) :)

Good luck to all those having their attempt this weekend! :)

[squamgirl]

Hi ladies- I'm joining the conversation kind of late....

FX for all the ladies attempting and waiting.

I'm trying to plan our sway for whenever it might happen. I'm on the diet. We tried swaying in my Sept cycle, but I still haven't O'd and I'm on CD31! Over the past couple weeks, DH has had phone interviews for a job in another state and he flies out next week for an in-person interview. So, the possible new job and cross-country move, coupled with my wacky cycle has put our sway on hold. But I'm sticking to the diet so I'm ready whenever we get to try again. And I'm following the threads and learning as much as I can.

I really appreciate everyone here and the support available. :)

[Indira]

Oh that´s frustrating squamgirl, I hope you get to have an attempt soon!

[indigoviolet]

Thanks for that info about the rephresh/ acijel Zanacal, really helped me to work out what I want to do, obviously worked well for you, really hope this is your girl!

[zanacal]

Thanks Indigo - I can't vouch for whether it helped me get my girl but it certainly didn't stop me getting pregnant :D

I hope you don't have to wait too long squamgirl!

[sweetsister]

Well i did what i think was 0+12 last night but today i have had very bad o pains and im sure that it is conception,,,well never can be sure but somethings happening down there and ive never been wrong?Im thinking that i ovulated today and also conceived hopefully so ill have to rely on the diet and hope it worked as 0+12 i doubt i did...oh well , im happy with how it went and what will be i guess..good luck to you all too! oh i am really looking forward to eating ,and tomorrow is my sons bday ,but i hear about the 2ww and im not sure if i should comtinue for the 2ww or just forget it as i doubt ill do this again if i dont conceive? what about you all are you continuing for the 2ww?is it really neccesary?

[rainbowflower]

I've never heard of someone getting pains from conception before, maybe you just OVed a little later? hope you have conceived a lovely sticky healthy one that implants safely!

I'll definitely be continuing the diet in the 2ww in case I don't conceive this cycle and need to continue next cycle, or I'd have to wait 6 weeks to give it another go. I wouldn't stress about one birthday celebration meal, though, just ensure that at minimum you're skipping breakfast!

[zanacal]

I think in the 2ww you can worry less about 'what' you're eating but it's still a good idea to try and keep blood sugar levels low (and continue to skip breakfast like rainbow said) so that you're providing the best environment for a girl bean to thrive in. Good luck!

[squamgirl]

From this morning temp, FF says that I O'd three days ago (which is what I thought).
Now on to the waiting for the interview, results from the interview and a HUGE decision.

sweetsister- it's my son's birthday in a couple days too. Aren't October babies fun? Hopefully you can enjoy the day without worrying too much about the 2WW. :)

[sweetsister]

yeah ive pretty much come to the conclusion that it was ovulation pains but they were quite intense ive never felt them that strong..and that means also i pretty much screwed up o+12 AND DID THE PERFECT BOY TIMING! oh well ,i just didnt want to miss it,i dont think timing is that important anyways.Yeah maybe i will continue the diet too just not so strict as maybe the pains were o and trying to conceive and didnt?I know it sounds strange but i usually can feel every little thing and always swear i can feel conception and last night i felt some kind of weird business going on in there,so im still hopeful.
Squamgirl my guys turning 4 and hes an angel hes such a good boy xxoo

[zanacal]

I have actually heard ladies say that their ovulation pains were stronger in the months when they conceived. I feel every little thing going on inside too and I thought I was pregnant this last time from the get-go, so let's hope your intuition is right for you too! I wouldn't lose any sleep over the timing :D

[mandicane]

Hey ladies..I ovulated today so I'm definitely in the 2ww! Fx to you all. Hope to see you there soon.

[Indira]

YAY mandicane! I think I ovulated yesterday morning but I´ll only be sure once my temp is up, I have a slow rise.
Good luck to you!

[maybeoneday]

Evening ladies. I am pretty sure I ovulated/am ovulating today. Have tummy pains on LHS which is most unusual for me as generally don't have any idea when ovulating! OPK had also gone back to negative. So it looks like I am offically on the 2WW as well.

Thanks for all your advice yesterday on what to use. I decided to give the rephresh a miss but used a bit of sylk on DH (man that stuff is slippery!) DTD and dumped the first batch and DTD again and used the second. Decided not to J&D as actually want to get pregnant!

Ah well, time will tell. FX for a pink BFP for us all soon. x

[Indira]

That sounds like a very good attempt maybeoneday, good luck!

[rainbowflower]

good luck MOD!

[Mochagirl]

Great attempt, maybe! Lots of baby dust to you!

[rainbowflower]

argh my trousers keep falling down! :( weight loss is definitely noticeable now!

[Mochagirl]

LOL, rainbow! I had to buy two whole new wardrobes while on the diet - first one in size 2, then when those started falling off, another whole wardrobe in size 0! I bought almost everything used, so at least I didn't spend too much.

[happyheart]

Hello everyone! :)

I hope everyone is having a good Monday. :)

I was just looking at FF and my chart gave me crosshairs for Friday. ??? I don't really think that I ovulated until Saturday. What do you all think please? The CM notes are not accurate to this cycle as I am on Clomid and am SO dry... this is what my cycle was like before clomid.
http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/37a704

Thank you for any help!!

[Mochagirl]

I'm no expert, but I agree that you probably O'd on Saturday. You know your body best. FF kept changing my O date and eventually settled on the day I knew all along was O day - maybe the same thing will happen to you.

[happyheart]

Thank you Mocha!!! :) :) :)

[rainbowflower]

I'm not that tiny yet, Mocha! Currently wearing US size 6 trousers (and US size 4 tops). I do have some of my old pre-pregnancy trousers (in childrens sizes, age 11-12) but my tummy is not as flat as it used to be so I'm avoiding wearing those because they're lower cut around the waist...



HH - I think OV could easily have been on the Friday or Saturday. Friday does look like the best candidate to me, but it might depend on what your next couple of temps are. One more high temp and OV day might move to the Saturday.

[indigoviolet]

Good luck Madicane, hope the 2ww goes fast for you, FX FX

[happyheart]

Thank you rainbowflower!!! :) I absolutely LOVE you avatar picture by the way!!! :) :)

[rainbowflower]

aww thanks, I like it too!

[fresas]

Hey ladies! It looks like there is a lot of O action in here so hopefully that results in healthy pregnancies.

I hate to just drop in and leave, but work has been stressful (co-worker issues) and AF is a day late. I haven't had a late period in over a year even with the PCOS. I took a pregnancy test which was negative so I'm wondering if PCOS is the culprit, but we'll see. Will keep you ladies updated. It would be a big surprise to end up pregnant though because we aggressively TTA this cycle since we aren't ready to sway yet.

[squamgirl]

Oooo, fresas- I hope you get the answer that will be best for your family. It's frustrating to be super-regular and then have it change. I used to be like a clock until I had kids. Then it changed for me, but I was still pretty regular, but then this last cycle I got really messed up. Anyway, I hope you get an answer soon and that it's the answer that's best for your family.

Today is DH's interview. I'm sure we won't know anything today, but at least DH will have a feeling for how it went. Then we wait... we should know by the end of the month. I'm at peace with staying or going. I just want to know which it's going to be so we can either resume TTC/swaying or put it off and start packing.

[rainbowflower]

perhaps the change in your cycles means your fertility is lowering and the swaying is working?

[Mochagirl]

perhaps the change in your cycles means your fertility is lowering and the swaying is working?

I agree. My cycles went all wonky after a couple of months on the diet. I took it as a good sign about decreased fertility, though it was definitely frustrating not being able to predict O anymore.

[squamgirl]

I agree. My cycles went all wonky after a couple of months on the diet. I took it as a good sign about decreased fertility, though it was definitely frustrating not being able to predict O anymore.

This is the part that's confusing me most about swaying. In past cycles, I was quite regular and could pinpoint O (at day 14, until my Aug cycle which was day 18). This last I didn't O until day 29. How do you sway through that? It's not like you can DTD *every* day of your cycle!

[Mochagirl]

Luckily for me, my O only varied by about 5 days in total. One month it would come 2 days early, the next month 3 days late. We just kept dtd until I could confirm that it happened. One month we dtd 9 days in a row (after having dh release for 7 days before that) but that was the most we ever had to do it.

[rainbowflower]

This is the part that's confusing me most about swaying. In past cycles, I was quite regular and could pinpoint O (at day 14, until my Aug cycle which was day 18). This last I didn't O until day 29. How do you sway through that? It's not like you can DTD *every* day of your cycle!
we've had the same trouble with late OV-ing, that's why I researched the compressed frequent release and you can still drastically lower sperm count (i.e. more than halve it) just by DTD within 8hrs of a previous release. I do wonder if that's more effective than daily BD as my DH says that after 24hrs his "quantity" is nearly back up to normal levels, whereas if he releases within less time it is drastically less

[Mochagirl]

We sort of did a compressed frequent release on our successful attempt. We'd been out of town staying with family, so frequent release hadn't been possible. Instead dh released 3 times in 24 hours before we started dtd. After that, though, we just dtd once a day until I O'd. I think it ended up being 5-6 days in a row since I O'd late.

[happyheart]

we've had the same trouble with late OV-ing, that's why I researched the compressed frequent release and you can still drastically lower sperm count (i.e. more than halve it) just by DTD within 8hrs of a previous release. I do wonder if that's more effective than daily BD as my DH says that after 24hrs his "quantity" is nearly back up to normal levels, whereas if he releases within less time it is drastically less

I remember when you posted about this and I had thought a lot about it. I do think that the compressed BD does reduce the sperm count more drastically and would sway more pink. My OB instructed us to DTD everyday for 7 days while on clomid and I just can't imagine if daily BD were to drastically reduce the sperm count that the instructions would be different. We did DTD everyday for 9 days this time. I hope for a success and I am starting to feel much less concerned about the gender.

I am having some pain on my right side. The same side I think I ovulated from. I am hoping its not cysts from the clomid.

Have a great day everyone! :)

[Chicky]

Hi ladies. So after 70 days of no O I finally called the doc and she gave my provera to start af. I never got full flow and it was just spotting but my doc said that counts and put me on clomid at cd5. So I am finally into a new cycle (cd6 now). Really hope the clomid helps o come before day 20 this time. I go in for an u/s next Friday so she can make sure there are follicles maturing or something like that. Glad to be done with that crazy 3 month cycle!

[zanacal]

Good luck Chicky, you've waited long enough so I really hope this is your month!

Did you guys see that Dr H is recommending releasing every day for improving low sperm count?!

[Indira]

Hi chicky, glad you´re back in business:), good to hear your doctor is helping you that way. Good luck!

[happyheart]

Did you guys see that Dr H is recommending releasing every day for improving low sperm count?!

I am going to check that out! Thank you Zanacal!

[indigoviolet]

How's everyone doing?
I got a surprise peak on my cbfm this am so will bring my attempt forward to tonight eeekk! A bit nervous as it seems very sudden and I keep thinking I have forgotten to do something or that I could do a better sway. It's nerve-wracking stuff ttc!

Anyone else attempting this weekend?

[happyheart]

How's everyone doing?
I got a surprise peak on my cbfm this am so will bring my attempt forward to tonight eeekk! A bit nervous as it seems very sudden and I keep thinking I have forgotten to do something or that I could do a better sway. It's nerve-wracking stuff ttc!

Anyone else attempting this weekend?

That is exciting indigo!! :) Good Luck!!! :)

[rainbowflower]

good luck IV!

[squamgirl]

FX indigoviolet!

[squamgirl]

We are putting the brakes on TTC for now. DH got a job offer in another state!!!! We're going out to dinner tonight to discuss the offer, if we take it, when to move, etc.

[rainbowflower]

congratulations to your DH!

[squamgirl]

Thank you rainbowflower! We are very excited about this opportunity :)

[zanacal]

Good luck indigoviolet! I felt the same for our attempt because I got my +OPK earlier than expected! Are you having just one attempt?

That's great news squamgirl, well done to your DH.

[indigoviolet]

Thanks for all the luck ladies :HH: I need it! trying to keep ph down as havn't O'd yet. Hopefully lots of girlie swimmers waiting for egg to pop either tonight or tomorrow :fingers:
Ended up having 2 attempts, fri and tonight, fri was a 10 day abstinence don't know if that makes any difference since we have dtd again before O?

Squamgirl- exciting news, have you made a decision whether he will take the job?

[squamgirl]

He is taking the job :) He starts in just over three weeks. In the meantime, we'll be meeting with realtors, getting the house ready to sell, etc. If anyone has any tips- please share. This is our first time selling a home.

[indigoviolet]

wow congrats Squamgirl, hope the selling & move goes well, good luck!

[rainbowflower]

I'm so excited I could burst! I don't have a huge number of friends IRL, but two of my female friends were expecting and both were due around a week ago (within a few days of each other), and BOTH have given birth today to little baby boys! I can't wait to meet them! :D :D scrummy little newborns! :D

[zanacal]

Awww - you're going to be so broody!!

[carmella_marie]

Hey all, guess I am out of the running for TTC in october. It was a wacky month. My body seemed all ready to O on CD 15--+OPK, watery CM, CP high and open, temp dip.... and then nothing. Well I got sick so I think that delayed it. Here I am on CD 22 and I think I O'ed yesterday. I got another +OPK and watery CM and today there was a BBT rise, we shall see what the temp is tomorrow. Anyway with traveling and being sick we totally missed O.

[rainbowflower]

lol zana I already am!

carmella - if you could BD this morning I really think you have a good chance, especially if still got a pos OPK

[rainbowflower]

feeling quite baffled today, my CBFM finally gave me my first "high" so I thought "yay! I should OV within the next week!".
I'd taken my temp overnight so popped that into my chart and then my chart decided to tell my I actually OVed 6 days ago (!!).

I have a sore throat, so perhaps that's just what's caused my temp to be slightly higher than normal. Alternatively it could have been high because I've been BF more than normal up until the last few days when DS was poorly again, and I know that BF makes my temps go a bit haywire. It certainly isn't up to my usual post-OV temp range.

At the time it thinks I OVed I was getting EWCM but "low" on CBFM and no build up on OPKs like I normally get, and if I did OV then I had an accidental 3-day cut off which is disappointing because it means that there's less than a 10% chance of getting pregnant and I feel gutted about that seeing as this is my only TTC month before stopping for a break over Christmas to regain some weight so it feels like all my diet-efforts would have been wasted.

I've removed the temp anyway, just in case... and will proceed as if I haven't OVed yet. Plan is to get DH to release each evening, start using RepHresh tomorrow, and then the morning I get my "peak" on my CBFM we shall have our one attempt so that should be about 10hrs after his previous release.

I normally get 4-5 high days before the peak.

Our plan might be hindered as my sister has decided to come visit this weekend and my mum wants to visit next week... but fingers crossed I haven't OVed yet and we can get the timing just right!

Please wish us luck and pink dust!

[zanacal]

Luck and pink dust coming your way rainbow!

[rainbowflower]

thank you!

have you had your dating scan date come through yet Zana?

[zanacal]

I had my booking in appointment with the midwife today but the scan date will come in the post, not long to wait though! I just really want to know that there's actually a healthy baby in there - it's hard to believe until you've seen or heard it isn't it? I still feel like a fake!

[Mochagirl]

Did your midwife try to find a heartbeat today?

I know what you mean - I won't rest easy until I 1) hear a heartbeat and 2) see that there's only ONE baby in there! It's so hard to believe I'm pregnant most of the time, especially since that bit of m/s I had seems to have been a one day thing.

[zanacal]

It didn't even occur to me until afterwards that I could have asked them to try to find a heartbeat! To be honest, I think they would have said it's too early. I have to wait for my scan date to arrive in the post so still no news on that front. I'm just pleased DS3 was so well behaved because I was really worried about an hour long appointment at the time when he's usually sleeping! I gave a LMP date 3 days before my real one because I wanted the EDD to be the correct one by when I ovulated - and they still gave me a due date 2 days later than they should have! I'm sure they don't read their little wheel thing right sometimes but my due date will probably be decided by my 12 week scan anyhow.

[rainbowflower]

That's exciting! Most mws in the UK won't even try to find a heartbeat until 16weeks

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[Mochagirl]

Really? Here in Canada, they always try to find a heartbeat during the first appointment, after warning you that it's really early and not to worry if they can't find it. Maybe it's to add a little excitement to an otherwise mundane appointment that includes a pap smear and blood work. I'll be 10W1D at my first appointment.

[rainbowflower]

If only they did that here too! I heard Williams heartbeat from 10 weeks as I bought my own doppler, but TBH up until 9 weeks the uterus is still behind the pubic bone so it would be VERY difficult to find the heartbeat anyway?

[Mochagirl]

They didn't find ds3's heartbeat at the first appointment or my twins' heartbeats, so I agree it's rare to hear it that early - as I said, they warn you not to worry if they don't find one.

[maybeoneday]

Hi girls, I'm back.....

CD1 for me, so roll on the next 2 weeks till I can try again! Thinking of doing compressed release this time though rather than daily release as think it is potentially more effective.

Zan, good luck for your scan date. I would very much doubt they would have listened today even if you had asked! They couldn't find DS2's heatbeat at 16 weeks! (was a bit scary at the time but think she was just being a bit thick!!)

Good luck to anyone attempting soon. xx

[fresas]

If it helps ease any of your minds, both of my son's heartbeats were detected at 10 weeks. I was/am relatively thin so this may help?

I'm considering starting licorice root for the PCOS in addition to the saw palmetto and metformin I am taking. I'm not sure it is safe so I have to do some research, but I don't want to be the pear-shaped, no boobs, bearded lady. :D

[zanacal]

Is it you who was taking Saw P before fresas? I know there was somebody and the advice was definitely not to - if it wasn't you I'll try and find the thread for you.

[rainbowflower]

still waiting for OV here. 5th "high" on my monitor today. Not sure if LH is rising or not yet, so not sure when OV will be but hopefully soon.

It has struck me that if I ovulate in 2 days time and go on to get pregnant I will have exactly the same due date as my angel baby had, just 2 years later. Hoping my angel baby sends me their baby sister...

[Mochagirl]

Awww....I'm sure that is a sign this is your month, rainbow :HH:.

[Chicky]

So after 3 months of not ovulating, taking provera to get af going again, and then clomid...I finally O'd yesterday!!! It was cd 16 and we made our attempt this morning at 1am. I was aiming for O+12 so hopefully I caught it. My signs were off from what they usually are so we'll see. So happy to be over with my attempt and I really hope I don't need to go through another attempt! My doc did an u/s on cd15 to check my follicles. She said my right side was too big so it was considered a cyst but that my left side looked good. I took an opk when I left the office and got my positive! But oddly I felt O pains on my right side. Could I have ovulated on both sides? She thought the right side was too big but also thought it would be a few more days til I O'd. Can't wait to test...holding off til 10dpo (I hope).
Good luck ladies!

[zanacal]

Good luck Chicky!

[Indira]

Good luck Chicky, FX your attempt will be succesfull!

[rainbowflower]

thanks Mocha!

Good luck Chicky!

[fresas]

Yes ma'am. I'm taking SP still. I will look to see about the interactions between licorice root and SP. I joined the soul cysters message board, too. I literally am so short on time and I have ADD (true story) so I have a hard time keeping up with everything, but I figure that staying semi-active in awesome communities like this one and a couple of others is a good thing. :D

How are you feeling, btw?

rainbowflower, good luck conceiving! :)


Is it you who was taking Saw P before fresas? I know there was somebody and the advice was definitely not to - if it wasn't you I'll try and find the thread for you.

[rainbowflower]

thank you fresas!

does anyone else feel more emotional/sensitive since swaying? I feel like I cry more easily, but have always been a little sensitive

[Indira]

yes rainbowflower I have been more emotional, cry more easily but also I tend to get depressed more easily since swaying. Have to say that I like to look into things, but surely it is because my testesteron is down and my progesteron up :)

[zanacal]

I have to say that I feel a bit like I was in a bit of a fug when I was planning my sway, it was so difficult to think of anything else and whenever I should have been relaxing and enjoying doing things with the family I was just wanting to log in to the site and talk about my obsession! I feel like a weight has lifted now I'm pregnant. I also had the most hideous episode of PMS the cycle before we conceived - the month I took SP and Vitex the whole month long - and I don't usually get PMS at all. It was nasty!

[Indira]

Yes zanacal that´s how I feel and why I want to get pregnant soon, to have that weight lift off.
I wanted to stop swaying this cycle but I have a hard time doing that, I have a mild case of swayorexia :)
I could enjoy eating again if I knew I was pregnant, now if I eat breakfast and snack, I know this is going to sway boy for me even more than it has in the past because now my body would totally feel times have gotten better!
I totally crave a lot of food when I see it but I can´t make myself having breakfast again or eat boy foods. This makes me very cranky :mad:
And I really would love another boy, I just want to have a 50/50 change for a daughter..., so I´m on rice and leeks again :sigh:
So my new plan is: if I don´t get pregnant this month I will get off the diet and just do cardio every day

[maybeoneday]

I think my problem is that I love food - especially tasty food! I am really not a nice person on Vitex and SP but can't give it up! I feel like I put my all into last month's attempt and didn't catch the egg and am not being nearly so good this month.

I am skipping breakie and cutting back on the meat (my attempt at vegetarianism is dreadful!). I lost about a stone in 6 weeks before last month's attempt but don't really have that much more I can lose so feel like that is letting me down as well.

I have a week till my next attempt so will try really hard on the diet and try to catch that eggie!

Sorry for the ramble! x

[Indira]

Good luck maybe! We´ll be O buddies, FX
I love tasty food too. I was doing fine on the diet so I didn´t really miss tasty food, but I cheated a lot in my last 2ww, and I have to say I´d almost forgotten how good things taste when there´s salt in it !

[Out of the Blue]

Hi, all. Forgot this thread was here! So here's a funny story...

DH has been bringing home loads of Ben & Jerry's ice cream, cake, etc. We never have that kind of stuff in our house! He said he was trying to cheer me up. I told him that was sweet but then to stop it b/c I need to start swaying. He then continued to bring that stuff home and I asked why...He said he remembered me saying one time that guys being a bit over weight/pudgy could sway "girl". I LMAO and said not to worry about it. Poor, sweet DH. I'm so lucky to have him. He said he won't lift weights anymore (which he did every early a.m.) and that he'll happily take Lic. Root and eat anything I give him. Just wanted to share.

[purplepoet20]

He is taking the job :) He starts in just over three weeks. In the meantime, we'll be meeting with realtors, getting the house ready to sell, etc. If anyone has any tips- please share. This is our first time selling a home.

Declutter declutter declutter.... We sold a house in 7 days by packing away nearly everything, except for a weeks worth of clothing. We had 1 painted picture in each room, limited furniture placed so the room felt big, we sent the pets to Grandmas house, and we cleaned right before the 3 showings (2 to the same people).

For living/family rooms get rid of the tv but keep a small couch, a recliner, end table and coffee table. A few pillows, real plants, and a rug help to.... Kitchen should look nearly empty. No matter the size if it looks clean with the counter tops cleared it looks big... Dinning room should have a table and a hutch with no childrens chairs. No need to set the table but some flowers and placemats are nice... Kids rooms should be simple and clean. We had just a bed and dresser with the beds made. No toys people hate toys for some reason... Bathrooms should be the cleanest. Only have a mat by the sink and nothing by the toilet or bath or on the toilet. People see the mats in the bathroom as germ filled and will be turned away.

Good smelling things help like fruit. Cut some citrus fruit and throw it in the garbage disposal and turn it on so the sink smells good. Don't use air freasheners because people think you are hiding something. Don't use fake plants because it makes you look to lazy to care for a house. If your house is small buy/borrow small scale furniture.

[rainbowflower]

continues here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/showthread.php?6229-TTC-pink-chat-thread-for-November