Due March/April/May 2017 (3)

[Magical22]

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[Burakoam]

good luck magical :)

[Magical22]

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Baby boy #3 is all healthy.


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[Magical22]

good luck magical :)

Thank you, I thought of you during the scan and you getting to see girl parts.... so jealous of you!


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[Lissastick]

What's weird is...I'd be just as sad if I had all girls. I am one of those greedy people that wants both equally bad. I would be desperate and longing for a son if I had a gang of girls. Just like I am desperate and longing for a girl after being undoubtedly blessed with two boys.

I wanted my first son so badly that if he had been a girl, I would have had terrible GD.
My GD now is totally manageable because I think I was more pining for the first boy than I have been for my (fantasy of a) girl.

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[Burakoam]

I am jealous because you have an excellent profile shot there magical lol... this baby is smooshed between her placenta and my hip so I have no clue what she looks like and they also can't rule out cleft lip or palet..

I really wish I had seen by parts and you had seen girl for what it's worth.

Lissa I completely understand what you mean. I'm spoiled/greedy like that too. I was glad I had a daughter when my DD3 was born... and content. I just had to go and try one more time for a boy.. should have just learned my lesson the first 3 times lol

[Magical22]

What's weird is...I'd be just as sad if I had all girls. I am one of those greedy people that wants both equally bad. I would be desperate and longing for a son if I had a gang of girls. Just like I am desperate and longing for a girl after being undoubtedly blessed with two boys.

I wanted my first son so badly that if he had been a girl, I would have had terrible GD.
My GD now is totally manageable because I think I was more pining for the first boy than I have been for my (fantasy of a) girl.

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I'm the same I wanted both genders. Oh well

DS1 was a surprise because I didn't even care about gender. Never thought I'd have all of one gender.


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[Magical22]

I also have an anterior placenta so haven't felt bub much, wow how many of us is that now. Lol


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[All*blue*everything]

I just dreamt I had a scan and it was a girl 👧🏼
The whole room of people started crying I really hope that's another sign and not my desperate wishing...

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[All*blue*everything]

All this guessing is driving me nuts, no mire waiting til baby is born ive booked a gender scan for Christmas Eve! Will take my boys with me and announce on Christmas day x

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[Girlieplease]

All this guessing is driving me nuts, no mire waiting til baby is born ive booked a gender scan for Christmas Eve! Will take my boys with me and announce on Christmas day x

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I think you have done the right thing, everyone is different and will cope differently but for me, I totally believed I was in with a shot at pink, I had lots of dreams that it was a girl, which I think was just wish fulfilment and saw absolutely nothing between the legs at my scan 12 weeks 5 days, all this came together to increase my belief that my sway had worked, which made the fall when I discovered it was a boy even hard. I am still not coping with it three weeks on. If you find out its a girl you can so enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, if it's a boy, you can have time process your feelings before your baby is born! X

[Burakoam]

So..i passed a kidney stone. thats the pain and pressure i had over the weekend. Ugh.

[All*blue*everything]

I think you have done the right thing, everyone is different and will cope differently but for me, I totally believed I was in with a shot at pink, I had lots of dreams that it was a girl, which I think was just wish fulfilment and saw absolutely nothing between the legs at my scan 12 weeks 5 days, all this came together to increase my belief that my sway had worked, which made the fall when I discovered it was a boy even hard. I am still not coping with it three weeks on. If you find out its a girl you can so enjoy the rest of your pregnancy, if it's a boy, you can have time process your feelings before your baby is born! X
Thanks, u are right.
Plus it gives my boys a chance to come to terms with another brother x

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[Lissastick]

It's really hitting me hard today. Both of my close friends are having girls. It's a second girl for one of them and the first girl after a boy for the other.

My heart hurts.
Bad.

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[Burakoam]

Awe Lissa :( the friend that's getting her pigeon pair.. you gotta know I have 2 older brothers who are 1-2 years apart in age and then there is me born 10 years after the oldest. Even my cousin who has a brother closer in age to her would confirm what I am about to say... it's not the same. Your two little boys are so lucky to have one another. They are going to be very close and do so many things together. You have given them the best gift. I think a part of you wants a daughter so bad to recreate the awesome bond you have with your own mother and you should also know having a daughter doesn't gaurentee a good relationship. My relationship with my mother is atrocious, but hers was great with her mom. Talk all the time on the phone, frequent shopping and visits with each other..trust me I have no clue how they did it because I loved my grandma and was very close to her but my mother and I pretty much hate one another.

As for your friend on her second daughter...try and feel happy her daughter will have a best friend just as your son will. You never know even if you two are very close if she in some way is jealous of your two boys...I wouldn't ever confide in any of my friends that I was jealous. You really may never know what they think

[Burakoam]

I should add I love both of my brothers. As much as a sister can. But they will always be closer and have more in common.. it's just how it works

[Lissastick]

I AM happy for my son that he gets a best friend in the best way in the form of a brother. And I do love this child. I really do.

The friend who is getting her Pigeon pair has a son who will be 10 years older than his sister. I know that is not ideal. But, my friend got exactly what she wanted. She's been wanting a girl ever since her son was born.

And my other friend is SO happy that she has two girls. She was telling me before she found out that she didn't want a boy and that her daughter wanted a sister.

I have always been a spoiled brat. I'm just being selfish because I can't have what I want.

My husband did say yesterday that if we get out of debt in the next few years we could have a third, but, I'd only go high tech and we can't afford that.

And I was hesitant about having a second child at all because I mostly feel like a terrible mom to my son. He's extremely spirited and very opposite in personality to me.

Ugh. I've been depressed for a while now. It's continued into my pregnancy and I'm convinced I still would be if I was having a girl. Today is a bad day for my depression. I am just feeling like the worst mother on earth right now.

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[Burakoam]

Lissa you are not a bad mom. You are not the only one who struggles with motherhood after they are already a mother either. I think our moms make it look easy and so alot of women go into it thinking "how hard could it be?". I am right there with you in the category of feeling like a bad mom for the exact reasons you described. I get along well with my oldest, fantastic with my current youngest, but i really struggle mothering my middle daughter. Spirited is probably the positive term i would use but really its she is beyond emotional. She was diagnosed with Generalized anxiety disorder at the age of 4 and it shows in everything she does. she was the kind of kid who you couldnt put her down outside in the grass because she would scream and cry because the grass scared her. I dont have a high tolerance for the kind of drama that surrounds her life, but she was pretty much born that way and it cant be helped. Im her mother and she is my daughter and so i will always do the best i can but yes i think most people struggle with at least one of their kids. This next one could be closer in personality to you!

i think the reason your friend had a girl primarily is because she waited so long in between. Okay your friend really wanted two girls then..what sucks is we see this happen all the time to everyone around us. It is really unfair. Maybe some day we will 100% fix whatever it is that causes us to get opposites but until then just know you arent alone. We can sit in a corner and be spoiled brats together. hahaha.

[Girlieplease]

Lissastick am so sorry your going through this but your in good company here, lots are going through it. I think you many of these moments in the future. I know it's not the same thing as I have a dd already but I find it catches me off guard, like putting my dd clothes away and thinking I will never have another wee girl to use these for, my mum going on about the gorgeous outfit for my brothers little girl due in February and I had to leave my own house because I could not cope with it. You have a really good perspective on what has happened but that does not mean things aren't going to hurt from time to time. Give yourself a break gd is so tough, am a real tough cookie and have come through some tricky spots in my life relatively unscathed but this has broken me. I just feel a massive sense of failure because it did not work. Sending hugs and it's crap that there are others in the same position like burakoam but at least you each know what your going through! Sounds like your husband is open to a third, do this is not the end of your journey! Xx

[pinkinthestars]

Hi Burakoam,
Totally off topic but I noticed your little bit you wrote about your little one with anxiety, have you tried taking her to a kinesiologist? They test the nervous system and muscles and treat accordingly I only say this as a suggestion as I to struggled with anxiety myself as a child and after not being able to be treated by a gp I was taken to a kinesiologist which helped a great deal.

[Burakoam]

I'll receive some judgement for this but actually I chose to medicate her. She is on quillivant and it helps a lot just not entirely as it's short acting and doesn't stay in her system more than 6-8 hours. We have tried therapy etc but some of it is her age and stubbornness. I love her dearly but daily she drives me up the wall and to the edges of my own sanity. Her tantrums are awful and I swear she screams and cries over everything. All the baby has to do is touch her hair (pat her head) and she screams how she is pulling her hair..ugh.Am hoping she outgrows some of it in the next few years... but realistically I know GAD is probably life long.

[pinkinthestars]

No judgement here each and to their own :) I feel your pain about the screaming over everything by son is like that and is overly sensitive , but that's just his reactions to surroundings and him learning to cope with his emotions it's not an easy task :)
Was just a suggestion from my own experience hope I didn't upset you in anyway.

[purple]

Burakoam, does she also have some sensory processing issues? Our son has some minor sensory issues and also a bit of anxiety too but his is all part of having ASD. He isn't too bad compared to some kids as he is very high functioning but it can be challenging at times (although all kids can be challenging, even those without a diagnosis!).

[All*blue*everything]

Burakoam, does she also have some sensory processing issues? Our son has some minor sensory issues and also a bit of anxiety too but his is all part of having ASD. He isn't too bad compared to some kids as he is very high functioning but it can be challenging at times (although all kids can be challenging, even those without a diagnosis!).
There's a theme here, my eldest son is also waiting to be diagnosed for asd, his meltdowns can be horrific im dreading him being like that when the baby comes..

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[purple]

There's a theme here, my eldest son is also waiting to be diagnosed for asd, his meltdowns can be horrific im dreading him being like that when the baby comes..

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How old is he? Do you get much assistance in the UK for him if he is diagnosed? We have the national disability scheme (NDIS) here so you have to apply for a plan and then they give you funding for OT's, psychologists, speech pathologist and other services depending on the childs needs.

[All*blue*everything]

How old is he? Do you get much assistance in the UK for him if he is diagnosed? We have the national disability scheme (NDIS) here so you have to apply for a plan and then they give you funding for OT's, psychologists, speech pathologist and other services depending on the childs needs.
He's 10 school picked up in it 2 years ago and been waiting to see a specialist for a year. It won't make much difference expect when he goes to secondary school they will realise he's not acting up, he already gets extra help at school with subjects he struggles with and he does a Lego therapy club etc...hes much better at school now its more at home we struggle..hes like jeckyl and Hyde x

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[Burakoam]

I was not offended :) i am just used to the judgy remarks (my own parents make them)..it was time to increase her anxiety medicine to 7 days a week instead of 5 and my dad said "You cant do that it alters her brain do you want her hearing voices!?" I had to resist rolling my eyes at my own father because thats not how the medicine works and if its the right med and the right dose that shouldnt happen..

She hasnt ever been evaluated or diagnosed for sensory processing problems but i have high suspicions. Honestly i think alot would be explained if someone told me she is very very mildly autistic. Alot of her life fits within the spectrum...including high intelligence..she is ahead of her class and does some 2nd grade work (shes in 1st but she is one of the youngest kids in her class) she was 3 years old and stunned me with words like "octagon" instead of stop signs lol...She has to have at least a small routine or her meltdowns and tantrums are way worse...i mean literally as ive heard parents describe their autistic kids it always sounds word for word like mine other than she would be so high functioning no one has caught it :(

[Lissastick]

Sounds like your husband is open to a third, do this is not the end of your journey! Xx

But, I'm not really wanting a third. I have really only wanted 2 children and I've doubted, and still doubting that I can handle two. I realize that I might feel different, especially if this child was "easier". But, the ONLY way I would have another is if I could GUARANTEE that she was a girl. Two boys is bearable, but three? Nope. Not for me.

I have plans to get into acting again and if everything works out, I will get a commercial acting agent and hopefully get jobs that will help my husband and I pay off some of our debt. If I can manage to do that, we might do high tech for a girl. But, that's a whole new can of worms!

So, I really feel like this is the end for me...

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[Burakoam]

Lissa from a kindred spirit to another.. if you are certain you can handle only 2 I wouldn't even do high tech unless you know 100% the baby going into you is an XX embryo and then I'd make sure you can really handle 3 just to get your girl. Oh my god I wish I had stopped after my first. Then accepted I was meant to be a mom of two girls after I had Angela and never took this risk. I still have days where I wanna beat myself in the face for doing this. I never wanted 4 kids and even if this baby was a boy I'd still be panicking I think. It's not just that she is a she it's "oh my god what have I done" period.

[purple]

I know I would struggle with 3 if my age gaps were closer. I still think it will be hard having a 3rd but with the boys being older it should be a bit more managable for me. I also has the 'what have I done' thoughts when I first got pregnant (all 3 times ttc this 3rd child). I still see little toddlers around and question why I'm going back to do it again! I'm also really excited about meeting her in March so it really is mixed emotions :)

[Julz]

Hi Ladies,

I have posted here before but my posts didn't seem to join the thread. I swayed girl had a confirmed boy last week Thursday. I have pretty much dealt with most of the disappointment and I do actually want three children, so I guess its a good thing as we probably would have stopped at 2 if we had one of each. The only part I found difficult is the way that everyone around me seems to be so easily getting one of each and its constantly in my face everywhere I go, shops, restaurants, pre-school. I cant understand how it seems to happen so easily for most people? Then to add insult to injury I just found out that a girl I used to know is having ID twin girls. I was actually doing ok until that - like send one those my way ;p

I'm sorry to all the ladies on this due date thread that all seem to be getting opposites but at least we can chat here.

We have delayed telling the family we are having a gender reveal on Sunday, that was we can keep the negative responses in line as a whole mix of the family will be there and no one will want to make too silly remark in front of the rest of the family.

Hope you are all having healthy pregnancies.

[Burakoam]

My TSH is still dropping. :(

i have been refered to an endocrinologist....

[XXforhubby]

My TSH is still dropping. :(

i have been refered to an endocrinologist....

Oh no! I'm praying that they can get this sorted out and get you the meds you need.

(((Huge hugs)))



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[Burakoam]

Yeah I'm the meantime I am left wondering what is going on exactly. My T4 is still 1.0 so what the hell is going on. 1.0 is on the lower side even if it's within normal range so I'm left her trying not to freak out. they are concerned about my heart. Heart disease runs rampant in my family and they said low TSH can cause heart issues and the fact it's still dropping and pretty rapidly is concerning. Last lab it was 0.192... a week later it was 0.94. I've had an awful feeling I couldn't shake this pregnancy that something isn't right. When I found out my sway failed I tried to rest easier cause maybe It was that right? But the feeling got worse and hasn't gone away. I have an uncontrollable fear that I cannot shake that I will not be taking a baby home at the end of this pregnancy... I have no clue where it's coming from or why with 3 healthy babies I would feel this way. When I Had the dream of a positive pregnancy test the night before I got a positive pregnancy test this pregnancy the dream should have been happy but it wasn't. I was depressed looking at the positive test in the dream and woke up crying sad tears not happy and it's because of how real that dream was that I took the test.. then I was worried about miscarriage cause the dream was so real and vivid.. then when that didn't happen I felt it was my body telling me already it was a girl so I would be depressed eventually.. but now that I am over that I can't understand where this comes from and it concerns me :(

[Burakoam]

Last I heard the only drugs for hyperthyroid is not safe for pregnancy and it's very much do at your own risk. I don't know what I am going to do..

[XXforhubby]

It absolutely can be treated in pregnancy. For hyperthyroidism or Graves's disease, the drug Propylthiouracil (PTU) is the drug of choice. Also for heart palpitations, beta blockers are prescribed and safe to take when pregnant. I used to be a Pharmacy Technician. Whoever told you it cannot be treated does not know what they are talking about. Of course Methimazole and radioactive iodine are obviously off of the table, but the medications I mentioned are what is given to women who are pregnant. The risks of not treating you are far worse.

Seek and demand treatment ASAP.



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[Girlieplease]

Bukoram am sorry to read this am going through similar but in opposite direction my tsh are raising at an alarming rate despite rapid increases in medication, am on a really high does but last blood draw my tsh had increased from 8 to 12. Due to the rapid increases in medication am having heart palpitations and cramps, so medically they need to increase my medication but are reluctant to do so because of the heart palpitations and cramps. The mid wife said my body is not tolerating the pregnancy, isn't that irony or irony. However, I did ask my consultant why tsh had to be low two during pregnancy and he said that it was just an arbitrary figure medical choose because they cannot decide if tsh causes problems or not, some suggest if it's out of balance it causes problems and others say not. Others say it's the level of free thyroxine that is important. He said since levio is safe to take in pregnancy they increase they try to keep levels below 2 by increasing the dose. I don't know if that makes sense. Hope you get answers soon, x o

[purple]

Burakoam and Girlieplease, sorry you are both having issues with your thyroids :( It sounds stressful for you both.


I'm 26 weeks today.

I did a comparison photo of my 26 week belly shots from DS1 (top left), DS2 (top right) and current bump (bottom) as it is amazing how different they look. I was so huge with DS2!!

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[All*blue*everything]

So im finding out the gender on Christmas eve and telling family on Christmas eve, day and boxing day...anyone have any nice ideas how I can do it? I was thinking of maybe a t shirt that says its a boy and just taking my coat off in front of everyone and was waiting for them to realise. Or giving a card ( which they will assume is a Christmas card) saying its a boy and the scan pic..any other ideas?


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[3'sacharm]

Burakoam and Girlieplease, sorry you are both having issues with your thyroids :( It sounds stressful for you both.


I'm 26 weeks today.

I did a comparison photo of my 26 week belly shots from DS1 (top left), DS2 (top right) and current bump (bottom) as it is amazing how different they look. I was so huge with DS2!!

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[QUOTE=purple;873716]Burakoam and Girlieplease, sorry you are both having issues with your thyroids :( It sounds stressful for you both.

Wow purple, you really did have an impressive bump with ds2!! I'm the biggest I've been so far at this stage in pregnancy, and although I feel huge and high up (kicks up high, just under my ribs etc) I don't think I'm enormous for 24 weeks...
gorgeous bumps though on each pic x

[3'sacharm]

Yeah I'm the meantime I am left wondering what is going on exactly. My T4 is still 1.0 so what the hell is going on. 1.0 is on the lower side even if it's within normal range so I'm left her trying not to freak out. they are concerned about my heart. Heart disease runs rampant in my family and they said low TSH can cause heart issues and the fact it's still dropping and pretty rapidly is concerning. Last lab it was 0.192... a week later it was 0.94. I've had an awful feeling I couldn't shake this pregnancy that something isn't right. When I found out my sway failed I tried to rest easier cause maybe It was that right? But the feeling got worse and hasn't gone away. I have an uncontrollable fear that I cannot shake that I will not be taking a baby home at the end of this pregnancy... I have no clue where it's coming from or why with 3 healthy babies I would feel this way. When I Had the dream of a positive pregnancy test the night before I got a positive pregnancy test this pregnancy the dream should have been happy but it wasn't. I was depressed looking at the positive test in the dream and woke up crying sad tears not happy and it's because of how real that dream was that I took the test.. then I was worried about miscarriage cause the dream was so real and vivid.. then when that didn't happen I felt it was my body telling me already it was a girl so I would be depressed eventually.. but now that I am over that I can't understand where this comes from and it concerns me :(

Sorry to hear you're still having such a rough time. With the pregnancy I lost at 22 weeks, I had a dream the night before my anomaly scan that there was something wrong with the baby; it was only trivial but really unnerved me, so when I went into the scan room, I told the sonographer about it and we laughed, only to find out later in the scan there really was a (unrelated) problem with the baby which resulted in the pregnancy ending. From my experience, I do believe that sometimes intuition is very strong, but this isn't always the case. For you it may have been an intuition that the pregnancy wasn't going to be an easy one on many levels, which so far has proved to be correct unfortunately. I hope things start to sort themselves out so you can relax a little, big hugs x

[purple]

So im finding out the gender on Christmas eve and telling family on Christmas eve, day and boxing day...anyone have any nice ideas how I can do it? I was thinking of maybe a t shirt that says its a boy and just taking my coat off in front of everyone and was waiting for them to realise. Or giving a card ( which they will assume is a Christmas card) saying its a boy and the scan pic..any other ideas?


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It might be easier to do the card as wouldn't you have to get two t-shirts made up? Unless you have time to do it after the scan but being Christmas eve I imagine you would be quite busy.

I can't think of any ideas! We just had both sets of parents around for dinner and then got DS1 to tell them he was getting a sister.

[All*blue*everything]

It might be easier to do the card as wouldn't you have to get two t-shirts made up? Unless you have time to do it after the scan but being Christmas eve I imagine you would be quite busy.

I can't think of any ideas! We just had both sets of parents around for dinner and then got DS1 to tell them he was getting a sister.
Im so sure its a boy im just going to order an its a boy t shirt now lol..obviously if the microscopic chance it was a girl I could just get a card from the shop or even write on the t shirt with a not above its a boy ha ha

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[purple]

Im so sure its a boy im just going to order an its a boy t shirt now lol..obviously if the microscopic chance it was a girl I could just get a card from the shop or even write on the t shirt with a not above its a boy ha ha

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haha well you are pretty good at making boys so I can understand why you would be expecting another one :) It would be funny to cross out the "it's a boy" part if it does happen to be a girl :)

[Cinss]

Ive had my 2nd gtt at 27 weeks. All good thankfully.

My work mates held a baby shower brunch for me and another girl at work who is also pregnant. Shes having a boy so it was very cute how our gifts were similar but opposite, girl outfit for me, boy outfit for her type thing. Even the wrappings were coordinated, kind of like twins were arriving. We both got very spoilt. It was my 1st baby shower ever.

Today I am 28 + 4. had the whooping cough vaccination, it wasn't as bad as I thought it would be, over very fast and the needle was very small.

Nothing happening now for a few weeks, midwife visits are every 2 weeks from now. My belly is huge and baby is kicking lots and is doing it pretty much at the same times of the day and night.

[pinkinthestars]

I had the results come back from my glucose test and appears I have it however I'm right on the borderline so huge day tomorrow learning about my diet and exercise haha.
Had my whopping cough vaccination to sore arm the next day or two . I am having my midwife consultations ATM to see if I am able to give birth in a birth centre that is connected to the maternity Ward, it's apparently all natural so even though I'm hoping they let me given my history I am a little scared to remembering natural labour lols

[jdd1017]

We had our big sono last week, it was confirmed that baby is a boy. I'm starting to accept it as much as I can. I realized the comments from people who say things about me only making boys is almost worse than anything. I am not even trying to hide my disappointment at this baby being a boy to anyone. I'm sure people think I'm a horrible mom because i am very open with my feelings about being sad about not having a girl. Baby's heart rate was high at the sono so they are doing an echocardiogram (sono of baby's heart) at 24 weeks. I am not too worried about it but just that little scare made me appreciate him a little more. I had horrible migraines for 4 days leading up to the sono and took quite a few migraine meds so I'm sure his heart rate was just a result of all the meds[emoji17]

All blue everything-I can't wait to find out what you're having!! This is your fifth baby right?? I know of a girl who has 4 boys and just had a baby girl a week ago, they didn't find out what they were having. I was so excited for her and I barely know her lol! You never know, maybe #5 is the lucky number!!!!


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[Magical22]

Congrats again on your little boy, I'm also open when people asked if we tried for a girl I say yes we tried. People don't think your horrible, it's a natural question for people to ask because it's natural feelings

My husband is the eldest of 5 kids 4 boys and then a girl on number 5 [emoji846]


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[Cinss]

Sorry your sono didn't reveal a girl this time jdd. Your baby son will be gorgeous. Big hugs x

[purple]

I was hoping the early scan was wrong and you would be surprised with a girl jdd. Being honest sounds like a good idea as then you don't have to use your energy pretending. You know when he is born you will love him to bits but it doesn't mean you can't feel some disappointment.

It is strange, I don't think anyone has really asked if I was trying for a girl. I think with the 5 year gap most people are just assuming it was a surprise. Unless they ask if it was a surprise like a few nosy people have!

I just realized it is my last day in the 2nd trimester!

[purple]

Well apprently I'm still in the 2nd trimester... one week to go if I go by 28 weeks. I thought it was 27 weeks?

[Girlieplease]

We had our big sono last week, it was confirmed that baby is a boy. I'm starting to accept it as much as I can. I realized the comments from people who say things about me only making boys is almost worse than anything. I am not even trying to hide my disappointment at this baby being a boy to anyone. I'm sure people think I'm a horrible mom because i am very open with my feelings about being sad about not having a girl. Baby's heart rate was high at the sono so they are doing an echocardiogram (sono of baby's heart) at 24 weeks. I am not too worried about it but just that little scare made me appreciate him a little more. I had horrible migraines for 4 days leading up to the sono and took quite a few migraine meds so I'm sure his heart rate was just a result of all the meds[emoji17]

All blue everything-I can't wait to find out what you're having!! This is your fifth baby right?? I know of a girl who has 4 boys and just had a baby girl a week ago, they didn't find out what they were having. I was so excited for her and I barely know her lol! You never know, maybe #5 is the lucky number!!!!


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Good to hear from you, I had been wondering as I know your big scan was coming up. Gender disappointment is so horrible. I cannot seem to find a way to come to terms with it. I just don't talk about the pregnancy and am not comfortable if others do, I just wish I did not feel sad all the time. My sister in law is having her baby shower on Sunday and it is going to be pinktastic, I just cannot bear it! I cannot think of a way out of it, sister in law will fall out with me if I don't go. I feel like moving away with my family just so I can get away from all these baby girls! X

[Girlieplease]

Anyone noticed movement? Amnesty 18 weeks, did feel movement at 14 or 15 weeks but nothing recently, should be concerned? Maybe babies positioning? Placenta? X

[Burakoam]

probably position or placenta girlie..idk if yours is anterior or not. Stress can cause a decrease in fetal movement too and no doubt you are stressed.

[Lissastick]

A facebook friend is pregnant with her 3rd child (she has two boys) and she finds out the sex of the baby tomorrow. She asked everyone what they think she's having and I told her I'm guessing GIRL because yeah, everyone I know on FB or real life who is pregnant is getting their desired gender and I am going to SCREAM! It's soooo wrong of me to hope it's a third boy. It's SO wrong of me to think that. I am evil to think that. I am just sick of everyone I personally know getting what they want!!!

jdd1017, I want to say congrats to you, but I know it's probably weird for you to hear that (because it's been weird for me to hear that). So...I want to say...I kind of know what you're going through (not exactly because this is your third child, and third boy, right?) and I am trying to be ok about not getting a girl, and most of the time I am ok, but my jealousy is powerful. I am not jealous of anyone on this forum, but IRL and on FB I am incredibly jealous of people with boys getting their girls and people with girls who want more girls and are getting girls!

I just want to know WHY I couldn't get my girl? Is it because I never really thought I had a chance?? I feel like I did things SO different to when I conceived my son. But, it wasn't enough. I wonder if it would ever be enough. At times I am happy that my new little boy is coming, and would never want to replace him with anyone, but I still CRAVE a daughter. I wish I didn't. This longing is confusing and makes me feel stupid and petty.

It seems I only come on here when I'm having really bad days recently. Sorry ladies!

[Girlieplease]

Thanks bukoram but it's no movement at all, not reduced that is the concerning part.

Lissastick I feel like this two, my sister in law has just announced she is pregnant with a third, she has two girls, she popped her first girl two days after I saw at my 36 week scantily ds1 was a boy not a girl, like I was told at 20 weeks. Then the night before I was due to be induced with ds2 she announced she is having dd2, she is not a nice person anyway, she is not particularly maternal and in my opinion does not care for them properly but she is really keen on having a boy now and it's awful but I hope she has another girl. I just feel so jealous that she got two girls and I did not and she does not even care for them right! But she will probably have a boy because she is just the sort of annoying person who life works out for, but your not alone Inn feeling like this. My brothers wife is pregnant with her first, I love my brother and I hoped and hoped that it would be a boy, he really wanted a boy but of course it is a girl, we have her baby shower on Sunday and I could just cry at the thought if it. My sister in law ( brothers wife) is such a happy, excited pregnant woman it just makes my situation so much more stark and I still look at baby girl clothes in shops qnd think what would I buy! X o

[Burakoam]

Girlie the way you talk lately I think most people would forget you already have a daughter. I know you are hurting, I know the pain of a failed sway, I can get your frustration. But have some mercy on yourself and some mercy on your unborn son who didn't ask to be here and if his movement is pretty much non existent and has been for a while and it's been a bit since you seen your OB you should probably make sure all is okay.

I can understand your resentment towards the people you don't like getting their desired gender... what I can't get is you say you love your brother but are unable to find joy in him having a daughter. What? It's his first baby and I bet he needs his sister to tell him how awesome and amazing girls can be, you had a daughter first and now he is having one first too, that's amazing and I want to tell you a super short story...my dad has me and my aunt has two girls and I have never wanted for anything. Growing up one was EXACTLY like a sister to me, I saw her all the time and we were always hanging out. We still in our late 20's have an excellent and sisterly relationship. Your daughter isn't getting a little Sister in the bio sense but your brother having A daughter could be the best thing for her if you recognize it for what it is! That's your niece, who cares who her mother is that baby is part your brother and so she is also part you!

I just can't wrap my head around it because my sister in law (husbands sister) is having a baby and even though I wanted a boy so bad I will be so happy for her even if it is a boy. How awesome... a nephew. I thought I'd feel horrendous jealousy if anyone close to me had boys and instead I am full of joy for her. They have their gender reveal on Sunday as well and I will find out for sure if I have a niece or a nephew joining the family.. first time being an aunt and I just want baby to be happy and spoiled I can't believe this joy.

The rest is none of my business, I feel the same as you in most ways still girlie. That's just the one place we differ and as your due date buddy and I hope at this point slight friend, you can be there for your brother and revel in all the pink for him when he needs you most and your niece. Take your daughter if she wants to go because I think as much as she wants a sister she may really enjoy all the pink and talking about her cousin.

[Girlieplease]

Bukoram I really am not sure what to say to that, I have been in contact with the pregnancy unit during the week about the lack of movement and they were unconcerned, they specifically told me that it was too early to expect consistent movement and not to come to the hospital. In the uk I cannot go if they tell me not to, they said if I had bleeding I should go up but I have not. I also could not get a appointment with my gp this week, so really I don't have alot of options

My comments in my previous post were trying to offer support to Lissastick, to let her know that she was not alone, irrespective of the circumstances, others feel this way. I think she was been tough on herself, unnecessarily.

I more than anyone wish I did not feel this way, I wish that more than anything but that is not my reality. I get on really well with my brothers wife, it's my other sister law ( my husbands brothers wife) that I think is not nice. I do love my brother and will go tomorrow and tell them how excited I am but it's not how I feel, it is disingenuous of me. I really don't want to feel this way but in reality my cousins wife had her womb removed after having an emergency situation with her first baby, the baby did mot survive, she will never have a baby naturally and I could say to anyone on this site, you have no right to feel x y and z if you have children because at least you have had a child, would that change how they feel? I think not, it just invalidates what they feel. I have tried so hard to change how I feel, there is no way on this earth that anyone would want to feeling way I do, but to sweep it under the carpet is just worse and I think will mean the feelings would come to the fore when the baby is born, which I think is worse.

I have said before I would leave the group if am upsetting people, as really that is not something I want to do. I think people are struggling enough without adding to it. But your post is making me think I should not mention it. We have all come to this site with different desires and for some of us that will be to have a son or a daughter or more than one of a particular gender, maybe to some people I have the perfect family arrangement having at least one of each and what am sure many people on this site aspire to but others with two, three girls that is what I aspired to so why is that not valid?

I appreciate your comments and hope I have not upset you by mine, I think your a straight talker and think you can tolerate the same in return! X o

[Magical22]

No girlie please stay this is a DIG it's when your due and where you belong [emoji846][emoji179]


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[Burakoam]

You arent upsetting me, you worry me, as a friend. i think there is a difference. i dont expect your feelings to change, i wanted to give you the other side of the coin. I explained my feelings on my sister in laws pregnancy in an attempt to make it more relatable to hopefully help you. I still have awful feelings of jealousy especially to though i dont like, and so the awful sister in law i can understand. Im sort of neutral with mine and i guess i find more joy in it because its my husband nephew or niece and that is just so neat to me that he will have that honor...I gave you the story about cousins because i know you wanted the little girl for yourself, but if you encourage a great relationship between your daughter and your brothers daughter there is no reason your daughter cant in some ways fulfill her own dream. I know not all cousins work that way, but to be fair not all siblings have good relationships either. I am hoping for her that it works out for the best!

I didnt reference what you said to lissa, i only mentioned that with some of your descriptions its like you wouldnt know you had ever experienced a daughter. I know why you took offense to that, and you rightly should. but instead of stopping posting thinking im attacking you, now that you know its coming from a place of concern, maybe you could use it to do some self reflection. You are right mam, i am a straight talker when i feel i need to be and i can take the same in return so i hope you can take things at face value. I would tell you if i had something against you or ill will, i dont want your feelings invalidated but i believe 100% you need to know how you come off. I told you, honestly, i relate to how you feel about people you dislike getting what they want. I said simply i just couldnt understand how you cant find joy for your brother. Why? Because i do have all of one gender, i will never have a son, and i can still find joy for my sister in law. But you have a daughter, you at least have that experience, and yet when it comes to potentially the closest thing you will have to another daughter, your niece, you admit you have to fake your joy.

Its not that your disappointment in not having another daughter isnt valid. You took what i said as an attack because you wanted to...obviously there are others that agree with you that it was, and still there are others who know i wasnt attacking you in any way. Two sides to every coin i suppose.

People also shouldnt have to beg you to stay. I never said to get out, or stop posting. I did ask you to reflect on what you posted about, that doesnt mean change what you are posting about but maybe deal with the feelings associated with it. I cant think of anyone else who found out when you and i did about our genders that is still struggling quite like you are. That isnt concerning to you?

[Burakoam]

Regardless you should still post. But just like you are free to post whatever you want whenever you want, so can i, and i expressed concern because there is some concern there. Why come to a group for support if you only want one kind? thats unrealistic. There are many kinds of support. I am still trying to support you, you just dont like how it came off. I am sorry for that. I hope your son is okay, and honestly if you are on the lighter side from the pink sway i would say you should be concerned and get his heartbeat checked out. Peace of mind, rub it in my face the doctors were right, i dont care it doesnt hurt my feelings but id rather you know your baby is okay. And if hes not, you should know that too, or i think you would have a hard time forgiving yourself for putting it off so long

[atomic sagebrush]

Just a general all purpose statement that people can have extremely severe GD even if they have one or more of their desired gender already. calling people out over that is not allowed and will not be tolerated.

[Girlieplease]

Regardless you should still post. But just like you are free to post whatever you want whenever you want, so can i, and i expressed concern because there is some concern there. Why come to a group for support if you only want one kind? thats unrealistic. There are many kinds of support. I am still trying to support you, you just dont like how it came off. I am sorry for that. I hope your son is okay, and honestly if you are on the lighter side from the pink sway i would say you should be concerned and get his heartbeat checked out. Peace of mind, rub it in my face the doctors were right, i dont care it doesnt hurt my feelings but id rather you know your baby is okay. And if hes not, you should know that too, or i think you would have a hard time forgiving yourself for putting it off so long

This really is not an option, you have to phone in advance, which I have done and they have said not to come down. If I decide to present anyway, they will literally turn me away at the door. What would be the point? This is the same hospital that is refusing to increase my thyroid medication even thought my tsh levels are currently sitting at 14 when to maintain a healthy pregnancy they have to be below 2. Why would they be concerned about lack of movement at 18 weeks pregnant? They are not! X

[Girlieplease]

You arent upsetting me, you worry me, as a friend. i think there is a difference. i dont expect your feelings to change, i wanted to give you the other side of the coin. I explained my feelings on my sister in laws pregnancy in an attempt to make it more relatable to hopefully help you. I still have awful feelings of jealousy especially to though i dont like, and so the awful sister in law i can understand. Im sort of neutral with mine and i guess i find more joy in it because its my husband nephew or niece and that is just so neat to me that he will have that honor...I gave you the story about cousins because i know you wanted the little girl for yourself, but if you encourage a great relationship between your daughter and your brothers daughter there is no reason your daughter cant in some ways fulfill her own dream. I know not all cousins work that way, but to be fair not all siblings have good relationships either. I am hoping for her that it works out for the best!

I didnt reference what you said to lissa, i only mentioned that with some of your descriptions its like you wouldnt know you had ever experienced a daughter. I know why you took offense to that, and you rightly should. but instead of stopping posting thinking im attacking you, now that you know its coming from a place of concern, maybe you could use it to do some self reflection. You are right mam, i am a straight talker when i feel i need to be and i can take the same in return so i hope you can take things at face value. I would tell you if i had something against you or ill will, i dont want your feelings invalidated but i believe 100% you need to know how you come off. I told you, honestly, i relate to how you feel about people you dislike getting what they want. I said simply i just couldnt understand how you cant find joy for your brother. Why? Because i do have all of one gender, i will never have a son, and i can still find joy for my sister in law. But you have a daughter, you at least have that experience, and yet when it comes to potentially the closest thing you will have to another daughter, your niece, you admit you have to fake your joy.

Its not that your disappointment in not having another daughter isnt valid. You took what i said as an attack because you wanted to...obviously there are others that agree with you that it was, and still there are others who know i wasnt attacking you in any way. Two sides to every coin i suppose.

People also shouldnt have to beg you to stay. I never said to get out, or stop posting. I did ask you to reflect on what you posted about, that doesnt mean change what you are posting about but maybe deal with the feelings associated with it. I cant think of anyone else who found out when you and i did about our genders that is still struggling quite like you are. That isnt concerning to you?

I have never been in this situation so I don't know what is normal not normal. With my other pregnancies there was always the chance of another baby, so my gd was never this bad. As my husband puts it, you kicked the can down the road and now you have run down the road! Maybe others have adjusted quicker, but really how others cope or adjust really has little impact on me, I cannot make myself accept it. To force myself to feel a certain way would in my opinion make the situation worse. I have a friend who was really desperate for a girl and cried with her first pregnancy when she found out it was a boy, I don't know if she had gender disappointment because I don't know her that well but she got pregnant very quickly with number two and it was a girl. Her Facebook page is just full of pictures of her daughter and her, her daughter is 2 nearly 3. None of her son and if she does post about him it's about how difficult he is to parent and he is been assessed for all sorts of psychological problems. I could never be sure but it is possible that she never resolved her feelings of gender disappointment and her attachment with him was impacted and the issues he presents with are a consequence, is that a preferable outcome?

I have read back over my posts and I don't really think I say much different to most folk on here who did not get their desired gender, so am not sure why you think that what I say is more of a concern?

I do agree that your entitled to say what you like. The issue to do with feelings about those that I care about having my desired gender, you get it in relation to people you don't like but equally I could say to you that someone who is in a similar situation could rightly say to you, I am just happy for everyone that gets their desired gender, irrespective about how I feel about them and be critical for you for how you feel in relation to those that you don't like, it's all relative and them saying it would not change how you feel one jot.

I was not asking people to beg me to stay or continue to post, nor was I suggesting that you were asking me not to post but ( just my opinion) I think the last time this was brought up I think it had an impact on the group and I think people posted less after it. I follow some other due date groups and I have noted that they seem more chatty, maybe it's nothing to do with that and it's just a point the group has got to, would always get to as people progress in there pregnancies but I think it's a vital source of support and did not wish to further contribute to people not wanting to post because of things I was saying.

I try to reflect constantly on how I feel and try to process these feelings. It's a large part of my job as well as my husbands so there is no need for concern on that front. But I would say that I feel awful about feeling the way I do, it feels so unnatural to me as a mother, I feel like such a wretched, horrible person. So maybe your right am only looking for the one type of support because anything that adds to the side of making me feel more worthless than I do already won't help me or my baby. Not suggesting your comments were intended in that way at all, your right it is how am perceiving them. I feel so much solidarity with people on this site and I don't actually feel jealous when people on here get there desired gender. I actually cried with happiness when girliecat posted that she got her girl and it just reminded me of finding out I was having my dd. Similarly I cried when I found out your news, not because I was jealous you were having a dd but just because my heart broke that you would not have a son. I stalk the 2 ww posts in the hope that I hear xxforhubby will get her bfp and hope against hope for her it is the little girl she and her husband have always dreamed about. This group is important to me, it's survival is important because other than dh no one knows about my gender disappointment, even my own mum. So other than my dh I have no one to share these feelings with.

My dd having a relationship with my niece, that not really an option, my sister in law has four sisters and they have dd's. I get on really well with my sister in law bit her own family are and have always been her priority, my mum told her she would like to help with the baby and she said no her sisters would. So a relationship there would not work out.

Listen I do appreciate that your speaking your mind and your right to do it! X

[Burakoam]

In all groups i notice as the months pass the chatter slows up until after the babies are all born and then its pretty much non existent except for a few that check in, so sorry id say thats normal and no we arent some defunct due date group because im here or your here or anyone is here. We are to the point it will start to slow down, that is the pattern, its okay and yes this is a place for support but if you dont feel there is enough there are other threads or DD groups where someone can go when it slows down too much and maybe get opinions there for sure! I think if in any way the slowness correlates to what you have brought up its people feeling they cant express a damn opinion without atomic or someone coming in here and having to make a statement about something. It could be argued about all day. some people will view my initial post as attacking girlie, others will see that wasnt my intent at all. Some will think i attacked her gender disappointment, and others will see i didnt do that at all. Its all about point of view and honestly if its a toss up who can say who is right and who is wrong?

Im still here, so id say nobody attacked anything and atomic is correct its a general statement and one that should be noted if someone was actually being attacked for that, the attacker would be banned. No tolerance.

Dont worry though, i have learned my lesson. I do not wish for you to keep pulling atomic in here looking for justifiable cause obviously to remove me when she cant find it, and i dont want to make you any more worse off than you obviously already are, so when you ask questions or want sympathy i'll just leave you alone to deal with it as such.

[Burakoam]

So i started leaking amnio fluid on friday. I ended up in the hospital, they did the swab, confirmed presence was indeed amnio and i sat there waiting to find out what was next. 1 bed pad down and it slowed then stopped. They did an ultrasound and said baby still had plenty of fluid so she was good, and her head was sealing my cervix now which was still long and thick so they thought the bag would replenish itself over time and all would be okay. Bed rest, trying to limit stress, etc. TSH had dropped more, and they arent sure but concerned they are related and so now my OB is rushing my referal to an Endo (thankfully) to get the situation taken care of hopefully before it can get any worse.

Hope everyone else is well. just glad im making progress with an endo

[Girlieplease]

In all groups i notice as the months pass the chatter slows up until after the babies are all born and then its pretty much non existent except for a few that check in, so sorry id say thats normal and no we arent some defunct due date group because im here or your here or anyone is here. We are to the point it will start to slow down, that is the pattern, its okay and yes this is a place for support but if you dont feel there is enough there are other threads or DD groups where someone can go when it slows down too much and maybe get opinions there for sure! I think if in any way the slowness correlates to what you have brought up its people feeling they cant express a damn opinion without atomic or someone coming in here and having to make a statement about something. It could be argued about all day. some people will view my initial post as attacking girlie, others will see that wasnt my intent at all. Some will think i attacked her gender disappointment, and others will see i didnt do that at all. Its all about point of view and honestly if its a toss up who can say who is right and who is wrong?

Im still here, so id say nobody attacked anything and atomic is correct its a general statement and one that should be noted if someone was actually being attacked for that, the attacker would be banned. No tolerance.

Dont worry though, i have learned my lesson. I do not wish for you to keep pulling atomic in here looking for justifiable cause obviously to remove me when she cant find it, and i dont want to make you any more worse off than you obviously already are, so when you ask questions or want sympathy i'll just leave you alone to deal with it as such.

I did not ask atomic to comment, like yourself I can argue my own side. I think your really supportive to people on the group so I think you should never consider going! Xx

[Girlieplease]

So i started leaking amnio fluid on friday. I ended up in the hospital, they did the swab, confirmed presence was indeed amnio and i sat there waiting to find out what was next. 1 bed pad down and it slowed then stopped. They did an ultrasound and said baby still had plenty of fluid so she was good, and her head was sealing my cervix now which was still long and thick so they thought the bag would replenish itself over time and all would be okay. Bed rest, trying to limit stress, etc. TSH had dropped more, and they arent sure but concerned they are related and so now my OB is rushing my referal to an Endo (thankfully) to get the situation taken care of hopefully before it can get any worse.

Hope everyone else is well. just glad im making progress with an endo

Hope your ok, that sounds worrying. Hope you did not have any additional stress from last night. Hope things improve for you, you seem to have been through the mill this pregnancy and glad your getting things sorted with the endo x o

[Burakoam]

I never said I wanted to leave. Only you made comments about leaving. You got posts confused :)

Yeah no worries I intend to stay right here. I have friends like family and I always want to make sure they are happy and taken care of and supported cause that makes me happy. And I dont typically let strangers over the Internet stress me out so no worries there I was just fine with all that. I Did attempt to switch the subject and not have it brought up again for the sake of others

[Burakoam]

Who here is ready for Christmas! Because I sure am. I hate snow and ice and cold but I absolutely love Christmas. It's already snowed here twice :(

[Girlieplease]

I never said I wanted to leave. Only you made comments about leaving. You got posts confused :)

Yeah no worries I intend to stay right here. I have friends like family and I always want to make sure they are happy and taken care of and supported cause that makes me happy. And I dont typically let strangers over the Internet stress me out so no worries there I was just fine with all that. I Did attempt to switch the subject and not have it brought up again for the sake of others

I am glad! X

[Girlieplease]

Who here is ready for Christmas! Because I sure am. I hate snow and ice and cold but I absolutely love Christmas. It's already snowed here twice :(

Children's sorted for Christmas but not really anyone else, love Christmas as well! X

[All*blue*everything]

So ive finally decided how to do my gender reveal over Christmas! I've ordered boy and girl scratch cards and once we find out gender on Christmas eve (*cough boy*) I shall dish the scratch cards out to our families and watch their reactions! Can't wait x I still can't believe i have kept having a gender scan a secret! I tell my family everything!

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[All*blue*everything]

We had our big sono last week, it was confirmed that baby is a boy. I'm starting to accept it as much as I can. I realized the comments from people who say things about me only making boys is almost worse than anything. I am not even trying to hide my disappointment at this baby being a boy to anyone. I'm sure people think I'm a horrible mom because i am very open with my feelings about being sad about not having a girl. Baby's heart rate was high at the sono so they are doing an echocardiogram (sono of baby's heart) at 24 weeks. I am not too worried about it but just that little scare made me appreciate him a little more. I had horrible migraines for 4 days leading up to the sono and took quite a few migraine meds so I'm sure his heart rate was just a result of all the meds[emoji17]

All blue everything-I can't wait to find out what you're having!! This is your fifth baby right?? I know of a girl who has 4 boys and just had a baby girl a week ago, they didn't find out what they were having. I was so excited for her and I barely know her lol! You never know, maybe #5 is the lucky number!!!!


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Yes 5th baby a lady at school who i see everyday had 4 boys then a girl she constantly nagged me to try for another assuring me it would be a girl ha ha..now she's sure it will be ....i think otherwise

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[Burakoam]

It's official.. I have a nephew on the way :) got to watch the gender reveal over FaceTime. My heart did shake a bit wanting to shatter, but I really am beyond happy for her and them. I figured it would be a boy, per this site she is very typical boy mom material. High powered career, very driven.. I'm just glad I'm gonna have a squishy baby boy to snuggle a month after my baby is born.. I'll squish and snuggle them both at once :) :)

[Cinss]

So ive finally decided how to do my gender reveal over Christmas! I've ordered boy and girl scratch cards and once we find out gender on Christmas eve (*cough boy*) I shall dish the scratch cards out to our families and watch their reactions! Can't wait x I still can't believe i have kept having a gender scan a secret! I tell my family everything!

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That sounds fun! Have you seen that video getting around Facebook the couple who did their gender reveal by opening a box and balloons came out, but they were all different colors like a rainbow. That would have been disappointing but great story to tell the kids.

[Lissastick]

Thank you for what you said, Girlie. I am hurting for you. You can only feel what you feel and denying it DOES make it worse. I think time only heals if you allow yourself to feel everything and work through those feelings truthfully.

I know I will be more OK than I am now with time because I am feeling all the ugly stuff and not forcing myself too much. I say that because I keep telling myself that I couldn't handle a girl and I wouldn't be the right kind of mom for a girl and I am believing it. Not sure if that's denial or a true realization. My way is to try to make divine sense of it...like I could actually do that! Haha. I'm a pretty closed Agnostic bordering on Atheist...LOL. But, I feel something exists that is "bigger" than us. I call it the Universe.

I honestly think that the Universe didn't place a daughter in my care for a reason. One that I am trying to understand.

My biggest problem is working through jealousy of everyone who gets their hearts desire.

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[Burakoam]

I dont think its about denying your disappointment when it comes to coming to terms with an unwanted gender/baby/etc. Obviously no one will tell a single person thats healthy. Its about finding ways to heal. If you arent looking, if you expect the universe to fix itself, thats when it becomes an issue. Time doesnt heal all wounds, or PTSD wouldnt be a thing (which i have...though not from gender disappointment)

Do i think its entirely possible someone can get C-PTSD from gender disappointment? Oh yes. I think thats the most severe form of GD. I think it requires therapy, medication, just like any other individual who has C-PTSD or PTSD from any other situation. It doesnt just go away. Those who feel time healed their wounds, probably had something positive they held on to that got them through that length of time.

[Cinss]

Girlie it was at about 20 weeks that I really started feeling kicks and jabs, down low mostly as my anterior placenta is high. Theres still plenty of room for them to swim around in before then I suppose. Ive seen ladies talk about drinking cold sugary drinks to get baby to move around more if they are worried about lack of movement. X

[purple]

Who here is ready for Christmas! Because I sure am. I hate snow and ice and cold but I absolutely love Christmas. It's already snowed here twice :(
I'm not ready for Christmas but I'm ready for some time off!

Although no ice or snow here... today was 36 degrees Celsius (almost 97 deg F) so a bit warmer :) it often gets to over 40 here so I'm not looking forward to that!

[Girlieplease]

Thank you for what you said, Girlie. I am hurting for you. You can only feel what you feel and denying it DOES make it worse. I think time only heals if you allow yourself to feel everything and work through those feelings truthfully.

I know I will be more OK than I am now with time because I am feeling all the ugly stuff and not forcing myself too much. I say that because I keep telling myself that I couldn't handle a girl and I wouldn't be the right kind of mom for a girl and I am believing it. Not sure if that's denial or a true realization. My way is to try to make divine sense of it...like I could actually do that! Haha. I'm a pretty closed Agnostic bordering on Atheist...LOL. But, I feel something exists that is "bigger" than us. I call it the Universe.

I honestly think that the Universe didn't place a daughter in my care for a reason. One that I am trying to understand.

My biggest problem is working through jealousy of everyone who gets their hearts desire.

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I suppose we just don't know what the future or the universe has planned for us, I guess that is what is exciting about life? My best friend got engaged and am just so excited, I think I must be starting to adjust? We went Christmas shopping today I needed a few parts of the children's Christmas outfits and I can't say the pink tutu for baby girls did give me a pang of sadness but it passed!

One of my neighbours an elderly man has three grown up sons and he has six granddaughters. He had no daughters and his sons have had no sons. Funny how life works out! X

[Girlieplease]

Anyone have awful skin? My skin is terrible but I never had this with previous pregnancies neither my dd or ds 1 or ds2 x

[Burakoam]

I do tend to have that girlie. We have the thyroid in common so maybe its related to that. Ive only had it with DD2 and DD4...so i dont have it every pregnancy either.

I think you will have lots of grandaughters girlie just like i will have lots of grandsons :)

[Lissastick]

I have terrible skin. I have adult acne since my mid twenties (I'm mid thirties now). Had extra horrible acne with DS1 and again, extra bad acne with DS2.

Sigh.

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[Lissastick]

Oh, I have two nieces, whom I love to death! And they look like me!!!! And my son looks a bit like my brother, who will never have a son, like I will never have a daughter.

They are girly like me too. I can't wait to show them all my beauty knowledge! Their mother is not into makeup so she's letting me step in to be the beauty guru aunt.

I am extremely lucky despite me not getting exactly what I wanted ❤

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[purple]

My skin is better than with my boys but I still get some breakouts. I had about 2 weeks of clear skin which was awesome but it came back. I can't complain as with ds2 it was terrible and also cystic acne.

The only time in my life I have had good skin was when I was on the pill but I don't want to take it again as it makes me feel depressed.

My little girl will have to ask her aunt for makeup.advice when she is older as I'm not good with that. My SIL has one boy and they are apparently ttc so I'm hoping she can get pregnant to start with and that she gets a girl, alth I think she has pcos and doesn't know about swaying so she will probably get another boy.

[squigglepink]

Thanks bukoram but it's no movement at all, not reduced that is the concerning part.

Lissastick I feel like this two, my sister in law has just announced she is pregnant with a third, she has two girls, she popped her first girl two days after I saw at my 36 week scantily ds1 was a boy not a girl, like I was told at 20 weeks. Then the night before I was due to be induced with ds2 she announced she is having dd2, she is not a nice person anyway, she is not particularly maternal and in my opinion does not care for them properly but she is really keen on having a boy now and it's awful but I hope she has another girl. I just feel so jealous that she got two girls and I did not and she does not even care for them right! But she will probably have a boy because she is just the sort of annoying person who life works out for, but your not alone Inn feeling like this. My brothers wife is pregnant with her first, I love my brother and I hoped and hoped that it would be a boy, he really wanted a boy but of course it is a girl, we have her baby shower on Sunday and I could just cry at the thought if it. My sister in law ( brothers wife) is such a happy, excited pregnant woman it just makes my situation so much more stark and I still look at baby girl clothes in shops qnd think what would I buy! X o

Hey Girlie

I want to offer you my support. I totally relate to your feelings and i think you are very brave for saying how you feel. I know your jealousy stems from a good place, if that makes sense at all. You dont wish bad on anyone, but rather you feel hard done by - 'how life works out for everyone else' type of feeling. A perfect example, my BFF just had her 3rd child, a girl, after two boys - she didnt mind the gender at all, she just always wanted 3 children. I mean, how lucky for her? - that made me jealous because its ALL i want and she got it without even giving it a thought. I love her and her children to the ends of this earth and it doesn't make me a bad person for feeling how i felt. We are the best of friends and i cuddle her daughter as much as i can :) (AND she took vitamins, had sex two days in a row, ran twice a week for 30 minutes, 3 meals a day with after noon biscuits and tea, didnt drink alcohol and only drinks tea!) I consider her to be incredibly fortunate that she barely adjusted her lifestyle and still managed a girl.
I found no peace in what anyone told me really with DS2.. i just had to come to terms with it on my own. Talking about it helps though hun and this is the place for that! Wishing you all the best regardless xx

On a side note - I wish i could still be part of this group. I never did find out the gender of this one i lost. Im still bleeding unfortunately, going on since 26th October. Im going for a scan on Thursday. Wish me luck :)

[All*blue*everything]

Hey Girlie

I want to offer you my support. I totally relate to your feelings and i think you are very brave for saying how you feel. I know your jealousy stems from a good place, if that makes sense at all. You dont wish bad on anyone, but rather you feel hard done by - 'how life works out for everyone else' type of feeling. A perfect example, my BFF just had her 3rd child, a girl, after two boys - she didnt mind the gender at all, she just always wanted 3 children. I mean, how lucky for her? - that made me jealous because its ALL i want and she got it without even giving it a thought. I love her and her children to the ends of this earth and it doesn't make me a bad person for feeling how i felt. We are the best of friends and i cuddle her daughter as much as i can :) (AND she took vitamins, had sex two days in a row, ran twice a week for 30 minutes, 3 meals a day with after noon biscuits and tea, didnt drink alcohol and only drinks tea!) I consider her to be incredibly fortunate that she barely adjusted her lifestyle and still managed a girl.
I found no peace in what anyone told me really with DS2.. i just had to come to terms with it on my own. Talking about it helps though hun and this is the place for that! Wishing you all the best regardless xx

On a side note - I wish i could still be part of this group. I never did find out the gender of this one i lost. Im still bleeding unfortunately, going on since 26th October. Im going for a scan on Thursday. Wish me luck :)
Your best friend sounds exactly like my lifestyle there's hope for me yet lol!
Hope your scan goes well x I know people can bleed for a long time x

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[squigglepink]

Your best friend sounds exactly like my lifestyle there's hope for me yet lol!
Hope your scan goes well x I know people can bleed for a long time x

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Lol, She drinks coke and is a vegetarian (eats chicken occasionally) - BUT she did same when she had her two boys. Hence i say she didn't adjust much, unless i pinpoint her changes i can honestly say the only difference noted was that she started taking vitamins & running - and that was with me - so i know how often we ran and for how long. I know when she started ttc and what meals she ate because she asked me for dinner inspiration :) I use her as an example because our lifestyle is so similar and we are such boy moms that i didnt expect her to have a girl and she wasn't fussed either way! And there you go - little effort and boom, GIRL! :)
Music to my ears strangely - that you know people can bleed for a long time! My GP thinks i started my period almost 3 weeks ago - which means ive had AF for a long time.. concerning. Hope i can get sorted soon so i can try again!!

Are you finding out gender?

[All*blue*everything]

Lol, She drinks coke and is a vegetarian (eats chicken occasionally) - BUT she did same when she had her two boys. Hence i say she didn't adjust much, unless i pinpoint her changes i can honestly say the only difference noted was that she started taking vitamins & running - and that was with me - so i know how often we ran and for how long. I know when she started ttc and what meals she ate because she asked me for dinner inspiration :) I use her as an example because our lifestyle is so similar and we are such boy moms that i didnt expect her to have a girl and she wasn't fussed either way! And there you go - little effort and boom, GIRL! :)
Music to my ears strangely - that you know people can bleed for a long time! My GP thinks i started my period almost 3 weeks ago - which means ive had AF for a long time.. concerning. Hope i can get sorted soon so i can try again!!

Are you finding out gender?
I don't drink coke but I am a vegetarian I think if this was a girl then I did start taking vitamins (magnesium ok, and angus castus) and was going aqua Zumba once a week apart from that nothing change ...but im sure it will be a boy we find out Christmas eve x

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[Girlieplease]

I do tend to have that girlie. We have the thyroid in common so maybe its related to that. Ive only had it with DD2 and DD4...so i dont have it every pregnancy either.

I think you will have lots of grandaughters girlie just like i will have lots of grandsons :)

I never thought of that, it's a good point. I had an underactive thyroid with both previous boy pregnancies but it was better regulated, so could be a good explanation! X

[Girlieplease]

Hey Girlie

I want to offer you my support. I totally relate to your feelings and i think you are very brave for saying how you feel. I know your jealousy stems from a good place, if that makes sense at all. You dont wish bad on anyone, but rather you feel hard done by - 'how life works out for everyone else' type of feeling. A perfect example, my BFF just had her 3rd child, a girl, after two boys - she didnt mind the gender at all, she just always wanted 3 children. I mean, how lucky for her? - that made me jealous because its ALL i want and she got it without even giving it a thought. I love her and her children to the ends of this earth and it doesn't make me a bad person for feeling how i felt. We are the best of friends and i cuddle her daughter as much as i can :) (AND she took vitamins, had sex two days in a row, ran twice a week for 30 minutes, 3 meals a day with after noon biscuits and tea, didnt drink alcohol and only drinks tea!) I consider her to be incredibly fortunate that she barely adjusted her lifestyle and still managed a girl.
I found no peace in what anyone told me really with DS2.. i just had to come to terms with it on my own. Talking about it helps though hun and this is the place for that! Wishing you all the best regardless xx

On a side note - I wish i could still be part of this group. I never did find out the gender of this one i lost. Im still bleeding unfortunately, going on since 26th October. Im going for a scan on Thursday. Wish me luck :)

Thanks squigglepink, lovely that you took the time to comment. It is such an odd situation to be in but am glad others understand. Am not that brave, no one apart from dh in real life knows I swayed or the level of my gender disappointment. When I told my mum we were pregnant with this one, she asked me what I was hoping for? What the actual heck, I said a girl and she do you not think a boy would be easier? My boys are very easy laid back guy's, dd is first child and very intense, so even my own mum did not have a clue. I am sure I have a few friends that have gender disappointment but we have never spoke about it, it's sad really. So am open on here as I feel we have all come here with a belief that something else is important other than just having a healthy baby.

Am so jealous of people who don't care what they have, like your friend, I want to be were she is at, my dh is like that!

Sorry to hear that your still bleeding, hoping that it stops soon. Are you going to ttc again? keep us posted, thanks again for your post x o

[Girlieplease]

So I had some bleeding, went to the hospital, explained about the reduced movement and now bleeding, they seemed unconcerned but saw me anyway. They did not offer me a scan but said they would let me hear the heart beat with the doppler and then I could be on my way, that is how the midwife put it. Anyway, she tried and tried to find the heart beat but could not, I said to her you cannot find it and she avoided eye contact and said you need to be scanned by a consultant. She left us in the room for ages, the consultant was with someone else. He scanned us and right away baby on screen heart beating away, he said thank God. I think they were quite concerned. I have an enlarged blood vessel, which is causing the bleeding.

On a side note am glad I know the gender, the consultant did not look but I saw nothing between the legs, so at 18 weeks if I did not know I would be starting to get excited, my big scan is not until January x o

[purple]

Oh that sounds like a very scary experience Girlie :( He must have been in an awkward position so the doppler didn't work. Did you have an anterior placenta? I'm very happy to hear he is all ok, hopefully the blood vessel doesn't cause too many issues.

[Cinss]

So I had some bleeding, went to the hospital, explained about the reduced movement and now bleeding, they seemed unconcerned but saw me anyway. They did not offer me a scan but said they would let me hear the heart beat with the doppler and then I could be on my way, that is how the midwife put it. Anyway, she tried and tried to find the heart beat but could not, I said to her you cannot find it and she avoided eye contact and said you need to be scanned by a consultant. She left us in the room for ages, the consultant was with someone else. He scanned us and right away baby on screen heart beating away, he said thank God. I think they were quite concerned. I have an enlarged blood vessel, which is causing the bleeding.

On a side note am glad I know the gender, the consultant did not look but I saw nothing between the legs, so at 18 weeks if I did not know I would be starting to get excited, my big scan is not until January x o
Thank God alright, they would have been in deep poo poo if something was wrong and you had raised concerns days ago! Glad your little boy is ok in there Girlie x

[Burakoam]

im glad baby is okay girlie. And glad they scanned you.

[Lissastick]

I'm glad your baby is ok, Girlie.

My FB friend who is pregnant with her third baby and has two boys...

She announced and she's having a third boy. I have to say. I actually felt bad for her watching her video and the look on her face when she saw the blue ballons coming out of the box. I think she really wanted a girl.

I said I wanted her to have a boy so I wouldn't be jealous, but now I just feel extra awful.

I personally couldn't handle THREE boys. Haha.

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[purple]

Aww sorry your friend didn't get a girl. I know there was no way I would have risked doing a video with a gender reveal like that for this one as if it was boy I wouldn't have been able to compose myself at all. I cried at the ultrasound place when I found out DS2 was a boy.

Don't feel bad Lissa, I think I was jealous of anyone who got a girl for a while when I was pregnant with DS2. Although mostly it was those who had boy then girl but now I think they are missing out as having two boys is very special.

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[squigglepink]

Thanks squigglepink, lovely that you took the time to comment. It is such an odd situation to be in but am glad others understand. Am not that brave, no one apart from dh in real life knows I swayed or the level of my gender disappointment. When I told my mum we were pregnant with this one, she asked me what I was hoping for? What the actual heck, I said a girl and she do you not think a boy would be easier? My boys are very easy laid back guy's, dd is first child and very intense, so even my own mum did not have a clue. I am sure I have a few friends that have gender disappointment but we have never spoke about it, it's sad really. So am open on here as I feel we have all come here with a belief that something else is important other than just having a healthy baby.

Am so jealous of people who don't care what they have, like your friend, I want to be were she is at, my dh is like that!

Sorry to hear that your still bleeding, hoping that it stops soon. Are you going to ttc again? keep us posted, thanks again for your post x o

Pleasure and Thank you! I want to ttc asap. Just need to stop bleeding! Sigh...

My brothers wife, (they have a pigeon pair), said she would love a 3rd, but would prefer a girl. She has a very hard time with her son. This is just how life is, we have preferences, dreams and desires and although we cannot choose what we want, naturally, we come here, to sway, to try. That's the best we can do - especially if one cannot afford HT. I know i will have GD with a 3rd boy, because i had it with a 2nd boy. Even though my two are basically inseparable now - this picture wasn't clear to me then. And annoyingly, my DH is also ok with another boy. Wish i had that attitude.
I really hope that by my recent loss, i can just appreciate carrying a healthy baby full term. (if i ever stop bleeding :mad:)

Equally happy to hear you were scanned and all is ok with baby. Sending you only positive vibes and hugs for what you are going through xx

[jdd1017]

So I had some bleeding, went to the hospital, explained about the reduced movement and now bleeding, they seemed unconcerned but saw me anyway. They did not offer me a scan but said they would let me hear the heart beat with the doppler and then I could be on my way, that is how the midwife put it. Anyway, she tried and tried to find the heart beat but could not, I said to her you cannot find it and she avoided eye contact and said you need to be scanned by a consultant. She left us in the room for ages, the consultant was with someone else. He scanned us and right away baby on screen heart beating away, he said thank God. I think they were quite concerned. I have an enlarged blood vessel, which is causing the bleeding.

On a side note am glad I know the gender, the consultant did not look but I saw nothing between the legs, so at 18 weeks if I did not know I would be starting to get excited, my big scan is not until January x o

I'm so glad everything turned out okay!!!! How scary!


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[Lissastick]

I'm feeling baby move around every day. I'm definitely not as worried about losing him anymore.

I'm finally experiencing denial. I skipped that in my grieving process and I am making up for it now.

I keep thinking that the U/S is wrong and it might still be a girl. I did see what I thought was a penis, but I saw no scrotum!!! I saw DS1's Frank and beans as clear as day and I had the U/S at the exact same point in the pregnancy.

I saw that a girl's clitoris and labia can still be swollen and look like a penis at 15/16 weeks.

I believed it was a boy right away because I had a feeling and because of my crappy sway...

Ugh. My anatomy scan isn't until Jan 6th...

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[Burakoam]

awe lissa. I think alot of us go through the denial phase. i really and truly did. Granted mine was even worse because i had genetic testing that said girl that i was in denial about. thinking maybe they just missed the Y by some chance. I would still prepare to hear boy. I dont know about the clinic you went to for your ultrasound but normally they wont guess or they keep looking until they are sure...Some boys dont really have a 'bulbous' ball sack at 16 weeks from what ive seen...obvious penis not always obvious balls..and this boy may be very obvious at 20 weeks where he wasnt at 16... If you had any pictures from the scan we could guess on them though while you wait and pass the time

[Girlieplease]

I'm feeling baby move around every day. I'm definitely not as worried about losing him anymore.

I'm finally experiencing denial. I skipped that in my grieving process and I am making up for it now.

I keep thinking that the U/S is wrong and it might still be a girl. I did see what I thought was a penis, but I saw no scrotum!!! I saw DS1's Frank and beans as clear as day and I had the U/S at the exact same point in the pregnancy.

I saw that a girl's clitoris and labia can still be swollen and look like a penis at 15/16 weeks.

I believed it was a boy right away because I had a feeling and because of my crappy sway...

Ugh. My anatomy scan isn't until Jan 6th...

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I definitely went through this I spent hours on the Internet trying to establish if the harmony test has ever been wrong, I found little to indicate that. I kept thinking maybe they have mixed my results up with someone else. I think it is all part of the process, I do think that people predicting gender from u/ s can get it wrong, I was told ds1 was a girl at 20 weeks and two of my friends were told the wrong gender, one was told girl and then at 36 weeks boy, he is still in a pink nursery because she could be bothered to re paint! The other found out at birth, she was told boy but had a girl. This pregnancy am glad I know it's a boy as I have had a few scans now and have saw nothing to indicate he is a boy, so if I did not know, I would be really thinking I had got my girl! x

[Lissastick]

awe lissa. I think alot of us go through the denial phase. i really and truly did. Granted mine was even worse because i had genetic testing that said girl that i was in denial about. thinking maybe they just missed the Y by some chance. I would still prepare to hear boy. I dont know about the clinic you went to for your ultrasound but normally they wont guess or they keep looking until they are sure...Some boys dont really have a 'bulbous' ball sack at 16 weeks from what ive seen...obvious penis not always obvious balls..and this boy may be very obvious at 20 weeks where he wasnt at 16... If you had any pictures from the scan we could guess on them though while you wait and pass the time
It was an elective ultrasound. The baby wasn't cooperating AT ALL, and the woman did not get a pic of the thing I thought looked like a penis. I was just ready to accept it, but, my husband is also in denial. He's not bonding with this baby like he did with our first son. I am pretty sure he's got GD and he's in the denial stage still thinking the U/S was wrong. I have been telling him it couldn't be wrong, but now I'm wondering.

I'm already used to the idea of another boy, so honestly, it would do my head in if they told me girl at 20 weeks. I wouldn't believe that either. Hahahah!

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[purple]

Sometimes they do get it wrong and mistake part of the cord for a penis. With DS2s scan at 16wks I was very confident that he was a boy and did not have it checked again. I would still assume you are having a boy but get it confirmed at 20wks. It is normal not to believe the ultrasound either way as I still worry my two scans were wrong!

[Burakoam]

we will see lissa! i would hope she wouldnt have guessed if she wasnt sure but not all elective ultrasound techs are as awesome as the one i have seen for all 4 of my pregnancies...she actually will have you come back for another ultrasound for free unless she is 100% certain and baby shows 100% positively wether it is a boy or girl..mine have always been quite obvious fortunately or unfortunately lol not over until the lady sings at your 20 week scan...i would still prepare to hear boy again just in case.

[Cinss]

Oh Lissa that really sux, you had the elective scan to find out gender and they didnt even give you an image?

My hubby is still in denial, ive had 4 scans now and told girl at each one, hubby hasnt come to any of them though so still thinks she may come out a he.

[Magical22]

Oh Lissa that really sux, you had the elective scan to find out gender and they didnt even give you an image?

My hubby is still in denial, ive had 4 scans now and told girl at each one, hubby hasnt come to any of them though so still thinks she may come out a he.

I said I'd swap you lol!!!

So hot here need to soak my feet in an ice bath. Starting to feel Bub move more and more now which is nice!!


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[purple]

I had my midwife appointment today. Everything is ok except for low iron. My hemoglobin was good but the feritin was low, I only had that tested because I had a dizzy episode at work about 2 weeks ago.

Officially in the 3rd trimester this week!


How is everyone going getting prepared for their new arrivals? I still have to get the nursery painted and set up, although she will be sleeping in our room for at least 6 months but it is nice to have set up for clothes and probably day sleeps. I'm hoping my dad will be able to paint for us since DH won't have enough time off work.

[All*blue*everything]

This time next week I shall know if im having my 5th son or 1st daughter!! Im so excited!!

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[jdd1017]

I'm feeling baby move around every day. I'm definitely not as worried about losing him anymore.

I'm finally experiencing denial. I skipped that in my grieving process and I am making up for it now.

I keep thinking that the U/S is wrong and it might still be a girl. I did see what I thought was a penis, but I saw no scrotum!!! I saw DS1's Frank and beans as clear as day and I had the U/S at the exact same point in the pregnancy.

I saw that a girl's clitoris and labia can still be swollen and look like a penis at 15/16 weeks.

I believed it was a boy right away because I had a feeling and because of my crappy sway...

Ugh. My anatomy scan isn't until Jan 6th...

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I hope it was wrong for your sake Lissa! After my 12 week scan I searched the internet high and low for pictures that looked similar to my sono pics that ended up being girls...I didn't find any lol. I work in the NICU and I have known of 3 babies in the 4 years I've been there that were told boy and they came out being girls. You never know I guess[emoji136] I will be anxiously waiting to hear your official sono results in January!!


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[jdd1017]

I had my midwife appointment today. Everything is ok except for low iron. My hemoglobin was good but the feritin was low, I only had that tested because I had a dizzy episode at work about 2 weeks ago.

Officially in the 3rd trimester this week!


How is everyone going getting prepared for their new arrivals? I still have to get the nursery painted and set up, although she will be sleeping in our room for at least 6 months but it is nice to have set up for clothes and probably day sleeps. I'm hoping my dad will be able to paint for us since DH won't have enough time off work.

Wow 3rd trimester already?! How exciting!!

We painted our old nursery dresser and crib this time around, I bought baby bedding already and have quite a few nursery ideas, but just need to get the motivation to work on them lol! I want to paint also but it just sounds like so much work haha!! I'll post pics of our nursery once we get it all together, prob about a week before the baby is due! [emoji51]


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[jdd1017]

Does everyone have names picked out yet? I would love to hear them!! We are pretty set on Conrad, the kids have been calling him that already so I doubt we will be able to change it at this point! It's hard to pick out a name when you've already used your favorite names on your other kids! If we have another boy after this he will prob go nameless forever lol, I do not have any boy names left that I like! It's sad to think I might never be able to use the girl name we had picked out[emoji17]


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[All*blue*everything]

Does everyone have names picked out yet? I would love to hear them!! We are pretty set on Conrad, the kids have been calling him that already so I doubt we will be able to change it at this point! It's hard to pick out a name when you've already used your favorite names on your other kids! If we have another boy after this he will prob go nameless forever lol, I do not have any boy names left that I like! It's sad to think I might never be able to use the girl name we had picked out[emoji17]


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I have used 8 of my fav boy names with middle names as well lol....we are really struggling! I like a few but its getting hubby to agree!
My boy name list is- Haze, Storm,
Girls- Astoria, Amaris, Harlow,
I spend everyday searching through lists!


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[Cinss]

Does everyone have names picked out yet? I would love to hear them!! We are pretty set on Conrad, the kids have been calling him that already so I doubt we will be able to change it at this point! It's hard to pick out a name when you've already used your favorite names on your other kids! If we have another boy after this he will prob go nameless forever lol, I do not have any boy names left that I like! It's sad to think I might never be able to use the girl name we had picked out[emoji17]


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Aww Conrad is a great boys name. We have decided on Cian for our baby girl pronounced see-arn. None of my kids have middle names, like me.

[MrsSparkles]

Does everyone have names picked out yet? I would love to hear them!! We are pretty set on Conrad, the kids have been calling him that already so I doubt we will be able to change it at this point! It's hard to pick out a name when you've already used your favorite names on your other kids! If we have another boy after this he will prob go nameless forever lol, I do not have any boy names left that I like! It's sad to think I might never be able to use the girl name we had picked out[emoji17]



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I just wandered over here from the due in June group lol.
Want to say I sympathise so much with the boy name thing, they are so hard !
I have asked DH to come up with some, and I will have a look, but he keeps coming up with boring ones.

[jdd1017]

I just wandered over here from the due in June group lol.
Want to say I sympathise so much with the boy name thing, they are so hard !
I have asked DH to come up with some, and I will have a look, but he keeps coming up with boring ones.

Welcome MrsSparkles!!!! Glad to have you here!![emoji4] Names are SO hard to pick out!!


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[MrsSparkles]

Welcome MrsSparkles!!!! Glad to have you here!![emoji4] Names are SO hard to pick out!!


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I knowwww!
It's so easy to find a girls name, as girls can be cute forever.
Cute boys turn into handsome men, my Mum likes the name Teddy for a boy, but Teddy on a 45 year old business man...I don't feel it's cute !

[sweetdream]

Teddy can turn into Ted or Theo.


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[MrsSparkles]

Teddy can turn into Ted or Theo.


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My Mum said that, and I was like Ted...Ted Dansen !

[Lissastick]

Oh Lissa that really sux, you had the elective scan to find out gender and they didnt even give you an image?

I only have images of his head and feet and hands. Body pics. No images of his goods. Hahah. We only saw what looked like a boy part very quickly. Too fast for her to get an image. And....she was in a rush!!

Because I was late and she had a big gender reveal party to do right after me.

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[Lissastick]

I hope it was wrong for your sake Lissa! After my 12 week scan I searched the internet high and low for pictures that looked similar to my sono pics that ended up being girls...I didn't find any lol. I work in the NICU and I have known of 3 babies in the 4 years I've been there that were told boy and they came out being girls. You never know I guess[emoji136] I will be anxiously waiting to hear your official sono results in January!!


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I don't think it's wrong. As the chance of it being wrong is like under 5% or something, right?

I'm looking for confirmation. And so is my husband. Looking forward to the scan to see if baby's doing as well as he seems to be doing with all the squirming he does! Hahah!

We have a name picked out. We keep all our names secret. I'm sure that annoys people. We choose really unique names and they are open for a lot of critique and critism. Haha. Not to say any of you will criticize. It's just a tradition of keeping it secret.

I'm also really bummed that we won't ever use our girl name. It was so perfect. 😔

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[All*blue*everything]

I don't think it's wrong. As the chance if it being wrong is like under 5% or something, right?

I'm looking for confirmation. And so is my husband. Looking forward to the scan to see if baby's doing as well as he seems to be doing with all the squirming he does! Hahah!

We have a name picked out. We keep all our names secret. I'm sure that annoys people. We choose really unique names and they are open for a lot of critique and critism. Haha. Not to say any of you will criticize. It's just a tradition of keeping it secret.

I'm also really bummed that we won't ever use our girl name. It was so perfect. 😔

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Im intrigued now! I love unusual names I don't tell any "real life" people as most like everyday names and I cant let their opinions sway me from names I like x

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[MrsSparkles]

Im intrigued now! I love unusual names I don't tell any "real life" people as most like everyday names and I cant let their opinions sway me from names I like x

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I'm intrigued too.

We made the mistake of sharing our fave name.....and people put us right off.
So now names will be top secret to real life people.

[Girlieplease]

I don't think it's wrong. As the chance if it being wrong is like under 5% or something, right?

I'm looking for confirmation. And so is my husband. Looking forward to the scan to see if baby's doing as well as he seems to be doing with all the squirming he does! Hahah!

We have a name picked out. We keep all our names secret. I'm sure that annoys people. We choose really unique names and they are open for a lot of critique and critism. Haha. Not to say any of you will criticize. It's just a tradition of keeping it secret.

I'm also really bummed that we won't ever use our girl name. It was so perfect. ��

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I don't know how your dealing with this Lissastick, I have the gender confirmed by genetic testing and I still doubt it, but u/ s scans can be wrong and you had it done pretty early, most places near me won't offer a gender scan until 18 weeks. I was told at 20 weeks that ds1 was a girl and that was from a detailed scan. If she only took a quick look I would be booking a scan asap, you could be trying to process these emotions unnecessarily x o

[Lissastick]

I don't know how your dealing with this Lissastick, I have the gender confirmed by genetic testing and I still doubt it, but u/ s scans can be wrong and you had it done pretty early, most places near me won't offer a gender scan until 18 weeks. I was told at 20 weeks that ds1 was a girl and that was from a detailed scan. If she only took a quick look I would be booking a scan asap, you could be trying to process these emotions unnecessarily x o
I know what you mean...
But, Mother's intuition is pretty darn accurate scientifically. I have had the STRONGEST feeling that my sway failed and that I was pregnant with a boy as soon as I saw my first positive HPT. I had no doubt in that moment.

I trust feelings like that.

That is why I immediately accepted the scan. I'm thinking back on it now because it's strange and because my husband AND son kept giving me doubts. At this point, my feelings aren't unshakable because of my disappointment.

I'll wait patiently for the anatomy scan. I am 99% sure it will confirm boy.

And if I am somehow wrong and they made a mistake, I might go through GD of losing the son I thought I was getting!!!

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[Girlieplease]

I know what you mean...
But, Mother's intuition is pretty darn accurate scientifically. I have had the STRONGEST feeling that my sway failed and that I was pregnant with a boy as soon as I saw my first positive HPT. I had no doubt in that moment.

I trust feelings like that.

That is why I immediately accepted the scan. I'm thinking back on it now because it's strange and because my husband AND son kept giving me doubts. At this point, my feelings aren't unshakable because of my disappointment.

I'll wait patiently for the anatomy scan. I am 99% sure it will confirm boy.

And if I am somehow wrong and they made a mistake, I might go through GD of losing the son I thought I was getting!!!

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I agree about intuition but I read research that suggested if a mother had a strong gender preference that interfered with her intuition! X

[Lissastick]

I agree about intuition but I read research that suggested if a mother had a strong gender preference that interfered with her intuition! X
Yes. I read that too, but I always took that as it would be wrong if they predicted the gender they preferred. Haha.

I knew it wasn't a girl, even though I reaaaallly wanted one.

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[Magical22]

Our little man is called Hunter, no middle name yet.

We will be working on the nursery over the Christmas break, yay I'm on holidays now, back to work on the 9th!!! [emoji1392][emoji512][emoji320]


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[Burakoam]

Samantha Alexandria...my hubby likes big old fashioned names for his girls i guess lol...following the previous baby Angela Victoria

[All*blue*everything]

I don't think it's wrong. As the chance if it being wrong is like under 5% or something, right?

I'm looking for confirmation. And so is my husband. Looking forward to the scan to see if baby's doing as well as he seems to be doing with all the squirming he does! Hahah!

We have a name picked out. We keep all our names secret. I'm sure that annoys people. We choose really unique names and they are open for a lot of critique and critism. Haha. Not to say any of you will criticize. It's just a tradition of keeping it secret.

I'm also really bummed that we won't ever use our girl name. It was so perfect. 😔

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Seeing as u like unique names maybe u can help me thinking if some boy names for this one! I like a few but I havnt found one that really excites me and im.like wow I love that name...help

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[MrsSparkles]

Hunter is a nice name, and was on our list too.

My husband really likes Monroe for a boy, I just think it's too girly (Mariah Carey has a daughter called Monroe).
He wrote a list for me and I'm just meh about them all:
Hendrix
Thorne
Wilde
Killian Wilde
Cortez
Hiro

[sweetdream]

How About Roman instead of monroe (i would think of a girl with that name to)
I had a name with my second wich DH didn't like.
I found a name that sounded a bit a like. And he loved it and its his beautiful name now


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[All*blue*everything]

Hunter is a nice name, and was on our list too.

My husband really likes Monroe for a boy, I just think it's too girly (Mariah Carey has a daughter called Monroe).
He wrote a list for me and I'm just meh about them all:
Hendrix
Thorne
Wilde
Killian Wilde
Cortez
Hiro
I like monroe for a girl x I like hero too but reminds hubby of lost lol. Roman was on our list til I saw its top 100 in England. I want a name in the thousands...

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[MrsSparkles]

I like monroe for a girl x I like hero too but reminds hubby of lost lol. Roman was on our list til I saw its top 100 in England. I want a name in the thousands...

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I know what you mean.
Roman is nice, but I know a German guy called that - and he really annoys me !
Blade was on our list too, but again we know someone called that - he's awesome, but it feels a bit odd naming him the same thing as a friend.
I like Atlas, but so many people are using it this year
Maverick was on the list, but then I think of maverick Sabre, and he sort of looks like a potato

[MrsSparkles]

Seems like there might be a few nameless babies on this thread lol

[Cinss]

A friend of mine is naming her son Smith which I quite like too.

[MrsSparkles]

A friend of mine is naming her son Smith which I quite like too.


That's really cute.

[purple]

A friend of mine is naming her son Smith which I quite like too.

As long as their last name isn't Smith :)


We have a name from when we had a surprise with DS1 so it will probably be what we go with. It is pretty popular though so that is my only hesitation. We might look into some other names closer to the due date but my guess is we will end up using the name.

[MrsSparkles]

I just googled unusual boys names.
Bear Grylls has kids named Marmaduke and Huckleberry.
Now that's some unusual names !

[Burakoam]

I think killian is a good one for what it's worth.

[All*blue*everything]

I know what you mean.
Roman is nice, but I know a German guy called that - and he really annoys me !
Blade was on our list too, but again we know someone called that - he's awesome, but it feels a bit odd naming him the same thing as a friend.
I like Atlas, but so many people are using it this year
Maverick was on the list, but then I think of maverick Sabre, and he sort of looks like a potato
Maverick is on my list atm lol..
What about blaze/blaise?

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[All*blue*everything]

The names that are popular or unusual her in England are prob the opposite in America and other countries, I also like Hudson which isn't too popular here but I bet it really is in America. We did have the name Aria for a girl from 10 years ago but everyone is naming their daughter that in all countries so don't want to use it anymore x

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[Cinss]

I only heard the name Aria this year, I put it on our list, top 2 infact until I started seeing it everywhere, it just boomed like Amelia also

[All*blue*everything]

Yes I think its mostly the last couple of years thanks to a couple of TV shows x it was unheard of 10 years ago. X

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[All*blue*everything]

http://i.imgur.com/6POoP31.jpg



This time next year there will be 5!

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[MrsSparkles]

AllBlue : Omg how adorable your lot are ! Blonde boys are the cutest.
Can't wait for your 4 to find out if they're having a brother or sister, they're going to be overjoyed
Where is that photo taken ? It looks really grand !

I do really like Maverick still, and Blaze, Killian is still on the list too Burakoam.
I need to get over the association of Maverick Sabre :)
My favourite name is too weird according to my husband, so he's vito'd it.

I know what you mean about popular names.
Don't let it stop you though, if you have a girl Aria is a stunning name.

[All*blue*everything]

AllBlue : Omg how adorable your lot are ! Blonde boys are the cutest.
Can't wait for your 4 to find out if they're having a brother or sister, they're going to be overjoyed
Where is that photo taken ? It looks really grand !

I do really like Maverick still, and Blaze, Killian is still on the list too Burakoam.
I need to get over the association of Maverick Sabre :)
My favourite name is too weird according to my husband, so he's vito'd it.

I know what you mean about popular names.
Don't let it stop you though, if you have a girl Aria is a stunning name.
It was at grendon hall, ive got photos of them every year with Santa, starting when my eldest Ashton was 10 months old x

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[MrsSparkles]

It was at grendon hall, ive got photos of them every year with Santa, starting when my eldest Ashton was 10 months old x

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What a lovely tradition.
Ashton is a really nice name.

[All*blue*everything]

What a lovely tradition.
Ashton is a really nice name.
Thank u. His middle name is Oakley, which I love so much i wish I would have saved it for another 1st name lol..

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[Cinss]

http://i.imgur.com/6POoP31.jpg



This time next year there will be 5!

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Gorgeous boys!

[Lissastick]

Unique (?) names I like for boys are:
Kai, Orion, Storm, Finn, Tristan

And while not unique, I've always loved Ethan and Oliver.

My husband hates all those names so both of our son's names aren't in that list. Lol!

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[Burakoam]

LOVE Orion and Finn...never know, maybe hubby will change his mind ;)

[All*blue*everything]

Unique (?) names I like for boys are:
Kai, Orion, Storm, Finn, Tristan

And while not unique, I've always loved Ethan and Oliver.

My husband hates all those names so both of our son's names aren't in that list. Lol!

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Storm is my top choice for this baby but hubby says all he can think of is storm from x men so I still need to work on him....


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[Lissastick]

LOVE Orion and Finn...never know, maybe hubby will change his mind ;)
We already have a wonderful name picked out for this bub. It's a somewhat popular name in the Netherlands, but not popular here in the U.S.

💙💙💙

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[Burakoam]

They have some awesome popular names over there...Hugo comes to mind and Bram..which i like because of a character in a game i play with my hubby LOL...i think they also have a really pretty version of Oliver i think spelled Olivier

[Lissastick]

Olivier is French. I love that too! It's pronounced Oh-Liv-e-ay

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[XXforhubby]

We already have a wonderful name picked out for this bub. It's a somewhat popular name in the Netherlands, but not popular here in the U.S.

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Ooh, I love Calvin, Stefan, Niels, and Marco!

Although, being a scientist, I have always loved Kelvin and Pascal for boy names! My DH didn't like those but liked Isaac!



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[All*blue*everything]

They have some awesome popular names over there...Hugo comes to mind and Bram..which i like because of a character in a game i play with my hubby LOL...i think they also have a really pretty version of Oliver i think spelled Olivier
Ooh i like olivier not sure it would go with my other kids names though x

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[Lissastick]

Ooh, I love Calvin, Stefan, Niels, and Marco!

Although, being a scientist, I have always loved Kelvin and Pascal for boy names! My DH didn't like those but liked Isaac!



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My husband is a scientist (physicist) and named our first son Lev (after Lev Davidovich Landau) hehe. I got to pick the name this time!

[Burakoam]

Holy crap I honestly can't believe that I am still standing... dad had a heart attack, and literally just as we find out he will be okay and they put some stints in my middle daughter comes down with the stomach flu. She's the kind of kid who pukes 2-3 times and is over it so when she continued for 8 hrs straight and it was getting more and more frequent I had to take her to the ER.. i feel completely strung out on stress ATM

Can someone give me hope that just because I've been a wreck this pregnancy that this baby won't be hard wired for stress and more difficult?

[MrsSparkles]

Holy crap I honestly can't believe that I am still standing... dad had a heart attack, and literally just as we find out he will be okay and they put some stints in my middle daughter comes down with the stomach flu. She's the kind of kid who pukes 2-3 times and is over it so when she continued for 8 hrs straight and it was getting more and more frequent I had to take her to the ER.. i feel completely strung out on stress ATM

Can someone give me hope that just because I've been a wreck this pregnancy that this baby won't be hard wired for stress and more difficult?

I'm sorry to hear all that, how is your Dad doing is he stable?

Obviously I don't know, as I'm a FTM - but I'll spin it this way ....you handled that stress like a trooper, you powered through it.
If you're baby gets any of that, then they might be a hostage negotiator, or something else that requires being calm under pressure :)

[Burakoam]

My dad is stable, and i told him that only he would think a heart attack was a good idea the week before christmas (joking obviously since nobody can control that by any means)

I dont know that i handled anything like a trooper though, i swear ive got an eye twitch this morning...LOL

All of my pregnancies havent been 'fun' or 'nice per se but this one has been a real doozie...supposedly there is an old wives tale that hard pregnancy = easy baby..lets hope thats true.

[MrsSparkles]

My dad is stable, and i told him that only he would think a heart attack was a good idea the week before christmas (joking obviously since nobody can control that by any means)

I dont know that i handled anything like a trooper though, i swear ive got an eye twitch this morning...LOL

All of my pregnancies havent been 'fun' or 'nice per se but this one has been a real doozie...supposedly there is an old wives tale that hard pregnancy = easy baby..lets hope thats true.

Just seeing that you still have your sense of humour, tells me that you're handling it amazingly !

[Girlieplease]

Sorry hear this burakoam, glad your dad is stable. I went through a very acutely stressful period when I was pregnant with ds2, it was very intense but of shortish duration, maybe two weeks. He is a very laid back character but so is my other son, so maybe it's just their personality. My youngest is such a happy wee boy and he brings joy to everyone life, so as of yet I see no lasting implications of that very stressful period! X o

[Cinss]

Your baby will be fine Burakoam, I cant see how it would be possiblee to pass feelings on to them while they are inside, as long as you keep your appitite she will continue to grow and be heatlthy.

[purple]

Sorry Burakoam :( Stress is only a problem when it is prolonged and constant in pregnancy and while you have been under a lot of stress it has been lots of seperate events so you have also had times when you have been ok. I'm sure bubs will be just fine :)

My last pregnancy was hard and DS2 was a pretty chilled out baby. First pregnancy was fairly easy and DS1 was a more difficult baby ( although part of that was because I was a stressed out FTM). I think this pregnancy has been a bit easier physically but more stressful than the others so I'm not sure what to expect :)

[Cinss]

Starting to get uncomfortable. 30 weeks now, getting hard to roll over in bed, stitch like pain sometimes with the stretching, itchy skin on belly and boobs. Ive put on 20kgs, ive never been this big in my life!

[pinkinthestars]

Starting to get uncomfortable. 30 weeks now, getting hard to roll over in bed, stitch like pain sometimes with the stretching, itchy skin on belly and boobs. Ive put on 20kgs, ive never been this big in my life!

Hi Cinss,
You sound like me atm I feel like I'm slathering on bio oil all the time cause of the dryness and itchyness, I'm the biggest I've ever been with this bubs in terms of weight but not tummy size so struggling a bit there with my gestional diabetes. I find walking hard atm and constantly out of breathe it's annoying lols. Apart from that travelling pretty good I've still gotta make a list of girls names because I haven't even thought about it, I must still be in denial thinking I'm finally having my dream gender haha

[purple]

Starting to get uncomfortable. 30 weeks now, getting hard to roll over in bed, stitch like pain sometimes with the stretching, itchy skin on belly and boobs. Ive put on 20kgs, ive never been this big in my life!

Only getting uncomfortable now? I have been uncomfortable for a while but I knowit will only get worse.

Yesterday was bad for stretching and stitch pains but today is ok. I think I must have growth spurts so it is worse some days.

Are you working still? I hope you can get some rest over tye Christmas and new year break.

[purple]

Hi Cinss,
You sound like me atm I feel like I'm slathering on bio oil all the time cause of the dryness and itchyness, I'm the biggest I've ever been with this bubs in terms of weight but not tummy size so struggling a bit there with my gestional diabetes. I find walking hard atm and constantly out of breathe it's annoying lols. Apart from that travelling pretty good I've still gotta make a list of girls names because I haven't even thought about it, I must still be in denial thinking I'm finally having my dream gender haha

Did you ever pick out names when you were expecting your boys or did you always find out what you were having?

We are always leaving it to the last minute with names but had a girls one ready with our first.

[Cinss]

Yes Purple im still working, I dont get a break over Christmas or new year, they are actually busy times for us at work, but I only have to sit at a desk on a computer so its easy on my body. I am going to work up until 38 weeks.

[Burakoam]

Braver lady than I cinss... I stopped working around 8 weeks this pregnancy.. but I am a home care nurse and all the lifting etc was gonna be just too much on me sooner rather than later..I go back sometime when this baby is 6 months plus if she is sleeping well and depending on breastfeeding status

[Cinss]

Yes I can understand that Burakoam, no way I would last if I had to be on my feet for a shift with lifting too. I have no idea when I will go back, I was thinking a year maybe.

[purple]

I work in an office job so its not too physically demanding. The policy states we can only work up to 37 weeks but after 34 weeks we need a certificate to say we can keep working. I'm planning to finish right on 37 weeks but will have shorter weeks as I have annual leave I can use. I'm also returning after about a year, it may be a little sooner depending on childcare as they might have spaces in Jan when all the older kids leave for school (all the kids move up rooms so it frees up space in the baby room).

Do you have to work on the public holidays Cinss?

[Cinss]

Yes only 4 hours on Christmas day, then 8 hours boxing day.

[All*blue*everything]

Tomorrow morning is my gender scan!!! I forget then when I remember I get so nervous / excited / terrified !!
Im sure they will say boy, but I keep picturing my husband and sons reaction if they said girl, it really would be so magical and finish off our family perfectly.
But if i am destined to be surrounded by princes then I know I will be cherished and loved forever and I know its what was meant for us.
Will update 2m when I know xxx

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[3'sacharm]

Aw so exciting blue everything! Can't wait to see what flavour your having and hearing all about your gender reveal.

I'm working up until I'm 36 weeks pg all being well; I'm a nurse and work long shifts but only 23 hours per week. Still no further with names though :/

[jenren]

Aw so exciting blue everything! Can't wait to see what flavour your having and hearing all about your gender reveal.

I'm working up until I'm 36 weeks pg all being well; I'm a nurse and work long shifts but only 23 hours per week. Still no further with names though :/
Awww I'm a nurse too and my shifts are long. I work 2 twelve hr shifts on nights every week and then 1 twelve hr shift on days every week. Working full time isn't too bad but switching from days to nights is killer on my body

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[All*blue*everything]

Aw so exciting blue everything! Can't wait to see what flavour your having and hearing all about your gender reveal.

I'm working up until I'm 36 weeks pg all being well; I'm a nurse and work long shifts but only 23 hours per week. Still no further with names though :/
Thank u! X

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[Magical22]

Tomorrow morning is my gender scan!!! I forget then when I remember I get so nervous / excited / terrified !!
Im sure they will say boy, but I keep picturing my husband and sons reaction if they said girl, it really would be so magical and finish off our family perfectly.
But if i am destined to be surrounded by princes then I know I will be cherished and loved forever and I know its what was meant for us.
Will update 2m when I know xxx

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[Cinss]

Good luck, I will be stalking for news!!!!


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Me too, goodluck AllBlue

[Girlieplease]

Good luck all blue, so excited to hear your news x

[Burakoam]

I feel so weak compared to all these other nurses working up to the end lol.. I would honestly rather be making money but I just can't meet the physical demands of the job ATM... some amazing women in this group!

Good luck allblue... excited for you.

[All*blue*everything]

Thank u all! I barely slept last night and when I did its all I dreamt about!

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[MrsSparkles]

First thing I'm doing is checking to see what you got All Blue !!!!
What time is the scan

[All*blue*everything]

First thing I'm doing is checking to see what you got All Blue !!!!
What time is the scan
10am! ...i feel sick lol...

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[MrsSparkles]

10am! ...i feel sick lol...

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Awww it's the excitement !
You're going to see your little bubba again.
Are your boys going nuts yet ? They must be soooo excited

[Magical22]

10am! ...i feel sick lol...

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How many hours away is that? For us guys stalking in another country.


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[All*blue*everything]

Im sat in the waiting room! They are,running late x

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[MrsSparkles]

Im sat in the waiting room! They are,running late x

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Arghhhhhh.
I can't wait !!!!!
I am actually biting my nails, and trying to visualise pink for you

[All*blue*everything]

One beautiful baby....BOY!!!
Got my 5 a side football team!!

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[Cinss]

One beautiful baby....BOY!!!
Got my 5 a side football team!!

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Congrats, what a family! X

[Cinss]

11 girls and 11 boys and 1 surprise all due next year in our group ❤💙💚

[MrsSparkles]

One beautiful baby....BOY!!!
Got my 5 a side football team!!

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Congratulations !
:hug2:
Was he moving a lot on the scan ? Do you have any pictures.

[All*blue*everything]

Congratulations !
:hug2:
Was he moving a lot on the scan ? Do you have any pictures.
No he didn't move! Even though I drank orange juice b4 he was asleep.on the placenta!

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[All*blue*everything]

http://i.imgur.com/Iwj04vE.jpg

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[All*blue*everything]

It won't let me download a pics??

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[purple]

Congratulations All Blue :) I hope you have a great Christmas! Can't wait to hear what your family reaction is like, hopefully everyone is happy for you!

[MrsSparkles]

No he didn't move! Even though I drank orange juice b4 he was asleep.on the placenta!

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Awww bless him, he's found the comfy place !

How were your boys, were they in absolute awe ?

[All*blue*everything]

Awww bless him, he's found the comfy place !

How were your boys, were they in absolute awe ?
No they burst into tears!

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[purple]

Awww sorry the boys were upset. I bet they will fall in love with their little brother when he is born :)

My dad was boy #5 in his family :) His parents then had one more... another boy.

[3'sacharm]

Ahhh how special to have 5 boys!!! Amazing, congratulations to you all x

[Burakoam]

Aww blue! All you can do is show them how happy you are and how awesome you think 5 little boys are... in sure some of those tears were more for mommy cause they wanted you to have a little girl.. but since mommy is gonna be okay they will too :)

Congrats on your baby boy!!

[All*blue*everything]

http://i.imgur.com/9G8lzLD.jpg

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I just made this my 5 boys x

[Girlieplease]

Congratulations all blue on your baby boy. Your boys are gorgeous and you will have another gorgeous one x o

[Magical22]

Congrats on your 5th baby boy!!

Merry Christmas guys, it's 7am Christmas morning here better get back to breakfast and unwrapping presents. [emoji1392][emoji846][emoji320][emoji319] I love Christmas!!!! [emoji179]


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[purple]

Christmas is almost over here. I hope everyone had a nice Christmas, is still enjoying the day or is about to have a great day :)



We found out my BIL and SIL are expecting a baby in July. I know they just started ttc after her 40th so she must have conceived straight away... I did have a moment of why was is so easy for her yet it took me 18 months including 2 miscarriages but I know I should just be happy for them as I don't really want to wish that pain on anyone. Will be interesting to see if they have a girl or boy. They were "trying" for a girl but I don't think they specifically swayed or know about swaying. They have a boy already who is a year older than my first so it will be a big age gap.

Anyway, it will mean two new babies in the family next year after over 5 years (my DS2 is the youngest on that side) so that will be exciting.

[Girlieplease]

Christmas evening in the uk, but wanted to wish you lovely ladies a very merry Christmas. It was this time last year I discovered this site and the dream started, it's been quite a year, thanks for all the support and hope you all have a fantastic 2017! X

[Girlieplease]

Christmas is almost over here. I hope everyone had a nice Christmas, is still enjoying the day or is about to have a great day :)



We found out my BIL and SIL are expecting a baby in July. I know they just started ttc after her 40th so she must have conceived straight away... I did have a moment of why was is so easy for her yet it took me 18 months including 2 miscarriages but I know I should just be happy for them as I don't really want to wish that pain on anyone. Will be interesting to see if they have a girl or boy. They were "trying" for a girl but I don't think they specifically swayed or know about swaying. They have a boy already who is a year older than my first so it will be a big age gap.

Anyway, it will mean two new babies in the family next year after over 5 years (my DS2 is the youngest on that side) so that will be exciting.

I get these feelings as well, my silver is not very nice and she is currently pregnant. She announced that she was expected DD2 at a family gathering the night before I was due to be induced with ds2, 2 weeks after her scan. She then approached me to say she was sure I was gutted that dd was not getting a sister and how fortunate that she felt to be able to give her dd a sister. She is pregnant again at 41, no effort at all and I know this time she will have a boy and just be insufferable, I hope she has a third dd, I know,that is awful. She isnt particularly maternal or nice to her children and I think it's so unfair that life just seems to work out for her. She always adds significantly to my gender disappointment! X

[Girlieplease]

Two of my friends, not close friends have announced that they are expecting, both have three boys and we spoke at attach up last may about our feelings about our family make up, it was closest I have come to having a conversation about gender disappointment so curious to find out what they are having, they both want a girl, we shall see x

[All*blue*everything]

My sister in law is due the exact same day as me she has a son already and i said from.day one that I will have another boy and she will get a girl. Then ramzis confirmed what I had said, its correct for me and she find out Jan 13th it will be a tough day for me if she does say girl...im telling them all tomorrow that we are having our 5th boy they are all assuming it will be a girl so I have to act like oh its fine we are only destined for boys we are not bothered about having a girl etc..finding out y2day took its toll i thought i was fine then found myself crying the rest of the day..i feel much better today and have pretty much chosen his name which has helped x merry Christmas everyone xxx

[Girlieplease]

My sister in law is due the exact same day as me she has a son already and i said from.day one that I will have another boy and she will get a girl. Then ramzis confirmed what I had said, its correct for me and she find out Jan 13th it will be a tough day for me if she does say girl...im telling them all tomorrow that we are having our 5th boy they are all assuming it will be a girl so I have to act like oh its fine we are only destined for boys we are not bothered about having a girl etc..finding out y2day took its toll i thought i was fine then found myself crying the rest of the day..i feel much better today and have pretty much chosen his name which has helped x merry Christmas everyone xxx

You are fantastic, but is natural that you would have some tears, when you hoped it was something and it was not. Sometimes I think my sadness is less to do with the baby and more to the end of a dream, but having other family members pregnant at the same time is a real bummer! To me it just heightens gender disappointment. I still have friends that don't know that am pregnant. I dont see them that often, I just at times am struggling with how I feel myself and am not sure how I will cope with comment about the gender, want to wait until am more in charge of myself, I cannot face others comments! X

[All*blue*everything]

You are fantastic, but is natural that you would have some tears, when you hoped it was something and it was not. Sometimes I think my sadness is less to do with the baby and more to the end of a dream, but having other family members pregnant at the same time is a real bummer! To me it just heightens gender disappointment. I still have friends that don't know that am pregnant. I dont see them that often, I just at times am struggling with how I feel myself and am not sure how I will cope with comment about the gender, want to wait until am more in charge of myself, I cannot face others comments! X

Thank u, that's what it is for me, not sad at this baby just the pictures we have in our head when we dream of a daughter that's been taken away again...hubby said we could look into adopting a daughter in the future, although im not sure we will look that inviting with our crazy noisy household we would prob get rejected!

[purple]

My SIL is actually nice so I do hope she has a girl as I know she has always wanted one too. I just can't believe how easy it was for her to get pregnant but I think it seems to be the case for lots of women I know. I remember last time she was pregnant she hated it so much and I had to listen to her complain about pregnancy when we were ttc our first but having issues. Although now having been pregnant a few times there is a lot to complain about so I can't really blame her too much :)

[Burakoam]

Purple you are a beautiful person and I just want to say reading your post (lots of your posts really) makes me smile.

My sister in law is 10 years older than my husband and she has always felt she raised him And her very own baby left her when he moved out of state to be with me.. so when she found out she was having a son of her own and not just a little brother anymore she was glowing and radiating such joy. I was so happy for her that my GD just couldn't rear its head.

Merry Christmas everyone.
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[Girlieplease]

Purple you are a beautiful person and I just want to say reading your post (lots of your posts really) makes me smile.

My sister in law is 10 years older than my husband and she has always felt she raised him And her very own baby left her when he moved out of state to be with me.. so when she found out she was having a son of her own and not just a little brother anymore she was glowing and radiating such joy. I was so happy for her that my GD just couldn't rear its head.

Merry Christmas everyone.
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What a neat bump! Am massive at only 20 weeks! X

[Girlieplease]

Lissastick and jj1017 how are you guys doing? Hope you had a good Christmas x

[Cinss]

Are you all eating heaps of a particular food? Ive started munching on ice every day, frozen drinks too which I never normally drink

[Burakoam]

I'm having the opposite problem cinss. Nothing sounds good. Struggling to eat period and have no appetite which IS weird for 2nd trimester me... bloodwork showed I'm low on protein and I am not really liking sweets or carbs ether. When I do get hungry it's usually for a good cheeseburger.

[Lissastick]

Lissastick and jj1017 how are you guys doing? Hope you had a good Christmas x
Had a pretty awful Xmas eve and Xmas because of my stupid uterine tumor degeneration! I loaded up on pain meds for Xmas eve because my brother, his wife and my nieces came over and I managed to have a nice evening....but that morning was TERRIBLE!!! This is the kind of pain where you cry and moan. It's awful.

I really hope the damn tumor is done dying and it won't drag out anymore this pregnancy. It was way worse with DS1 though. So I'm grateful it's not as agonizing as the last time.

I love seeing my son play with his cousins. That's most definitely why he wanted a sister and not a brother. His cousins are girls and his best friend who moved away is a girl. He's more used to girls and he prefers playing with girls.

He STILL wants a sister. And is still asking for one. It's so sad. He seems to be accepting that he's getting a brother and seems alright with it...
But, I really don't think things will pan out for him to get a sister. I'd only do HT for a third baby because I seriously don't want another boy. I feel awful for saying that and thinking that. As I love my son more than anything in the world and I already love my second and unborn son the same way. I just don't want three boys.

My husband LAUGHED when I told him how much IVF with gender selection costs. But, he's still not closed to the idea. Haha. I think he still really wants a daughter too. Deep down inside. If I am not overwhelmed with two boys and we could somehow afford it and my life and family feels incomplete, then there's still hope for a little girl. A very expensive little girl. Haha.

I hope everyone had a great Xmas. And I hope everyone has a lovely New Years Eve!

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[Burakoam]

Anyone else having extremely vivid/weird dreams? What about quite strong braxton hicks contractions? I keep thinking i need the bathroom but nothing happens... not constipated..I am miserable with 14 weeks to go..

[All*blue*everything]

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[purple]

I'm having the opposite problem cinss. Nothing sounds good. Struggling to eat period and have no appetite which IS weird for 2nd trimester me... bloodwork showed I'm low on protein and I am not really liking sweets or carbs ether. When I do get hungry it's usually for a good cheeseburger.

How are your iron levels? Low iron can cause a reduced appetite.

I'm not eating heaps either, I'm sure I ate more with DS2. I have started taking extra iron so will see if that changes my appetite.


Sorry about all the pain Lissa :(

All blue, cute boys and boy bump :)

[Burakoam]

Purple-

HGB on the 26th was 11.5...low but they say not critical
RDW was 15% (high)
RDWSD was 48(high)
platelets are low
hematocrit was low (33.4)
RBC was low (3.77)

i feel like i should be more concerned about those numbers but how awful i feel and my doctors lack of concern makes it hard to care.

more importantly i had ketones (40) in my urine and protein.

My bilirubin is low too :/

Creatinine is low..0.52...

and my co2 levels are much lower than they should be even in pregnancy (imagining thats due to thryroid..)

Sodium was low but i think thats from puking. 135

I only gave this much information because i feel like i am missing something since i have horrendous brain fog..any of the fellow nurses want to chime in on if any of that makes sense as to why i feel like walking death, please inform me because my doctor isnt concerned at all...which means all my hope lays in the endocrinologist i see tomorrow morning.

[Lissastick]

I don't have much of an appetite either! It's SO weird! I was the exact opposite with my first son. I was shoveling food into my mouth constantly. This pregnancy I am queasy more often than not. Even at 20 weeks. I am super picky about what I want to eat and I can't really finish a meal. Sigh.

[purple]

I don't really know what they all mean but I don't have a medical background!

My hemoglobin was in the normal range but my ferritin level was low.

HGB seems to be hemoglobin but mine was 118 so maybe we have different measurements in Aus as she said over 100 is good.

[Cinss]

Anyone else having extremely vivid/weird dreams? What about quite strong braxton hicks contractions? I keep thinking i need the bathroom but nothing happens... not constipated..I am miserable with 14 weeks to go..
Ive been having weird dreams, I gave birth to a worm which was pretty discusting, and I caught my hubby cheating in another 😵

[Burakoam]

Wow I hope the scales are different cause I'd be the walking dead compared to you purple lol... yes hgb is the iron level..

Rdw being high indicates a few things though.. it's either iron deficient anemia, Folate deficiency or b12 deficiency.. I genuinely don't know which..

Basically my entire blood panel suggests I am anemic but guess it's not concerning enough to treat..

I'm more concerned about the low bilirubin.. heart disease runs in my family. Also the ketones and protein because I think that indicates Pre E doesn't it? Or are those results invalid because of puking too? I only puked 3 times before I rushed to the doctor though and had the blood drawn and pee done..

I see my first endocrinologist this morning at 10...

Omg cinns those dreams beat mine lol.. I have just been having a ton of dreams about my water breaking. Less weird more vivid for me and my dreams don't normally pop out like that..

[Burakoam]

My thyroid IS enlarged on the left side. He is certain I have a nodule. I'll have a thyroid ultrasound some time in the next week or two.more labs drawn today I won't get results for a while though. I don't know wether to feel relieved or worried. Currently am both

[jdd1017]

My sister in law is due the exact same day as me she has a son already and i said from.day one that I will have another boy and she will get a girl. Then ramzis confirmed what I had said, its correct for me and she find out Jan 13th it will be a tough day for me if she does say girl...im telling them all tomorrow that we are having our 5th boy they are all assuming it will be a girl so I have to act like oh its fine we are only destined for boys we are not bothered about having a girl etc..finding out y2day took its toll i thought i was fine then found myself crying the rest of the day..i feel much better today and have pretty much chosen his name which has helped x merry Christmas everyone xxx

I'm so sorry you didn't get your girl All*blue!! But congratulations on your boy. The one thing that has made me feel better about having all boys is thinking how good of friends they will be...for you having 5 boys, they will surely be the best of friends (well...maybe when they're older lol).

One of the hardest things I have dealt with is having one of my good friends who is due a week after me announce she is having a girl. I hate that I am jealous of her, but I am. If you do find out your SIL is having a girl just come on here and vent all you need to! I think all of us have a similar situation and would be able to relate!!

I hope everyone had a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Years Eve!!! I will be spending my New Years at work, ringing it in with my coworkers and 50 NICU babies [emoji1405]


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[All*blue*everything]

I'm so sorry you didn't get your girl All*blue!! But congratulations on your boy. The one thing that has made me feel better about having all boys is thinking how good of friends they will be...for you having 5 boys, they will surely be the best of friends (well...maybe when they're older lol).

One of the hardest things I have dealt with is having one of my good friends who is due a week after me announce she is having a girl. I hate that I am jealous of her, but I am. If you do find out your SIL is having a girl just come on here and vent all you need to! I think all of us have a similar situation and would be able to relate!!

I hope everyone had a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Years Eve!!! I will be spending my New Years at work, ringing it in with my coworkers and 50 NICU babies [emoji1405]


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Thanks, I will vent but like u I hate being jealous! My 4 boys are already best friends there is 19 months between my two eldest, then 18months gap between 2 and 3. Then 2 1/2 years between 3 & 4. I find they play in twos though so oldest two and youngest two...im more Ci corned with this baby being left out! There will be 4 1/2 years gap...im already tempted by a 6th so he will have a playmate!

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[Girlieplease]

Had a pretty awful Xmas eve and Xmas because of my stupid uterine tumor degeneration! I loaded up on pain meds for Xmas eve because my brother, his wife and my nieces came over and I managed to have a nice evening....but that morning was TERRIBLE!!! This is the kind of pain where you cry and moan. It's awful.

I really hope the damn tumor is done dying and it won't drag out anymore this pregnancy. It was way worse with DS1 though. So I'm grateful it's not as agonizing as the last time.

I love seeing my son play with his cousins. That's most definitely why he wanted a sister and not a brother. His cousins are girls and his best friend who moved away is a girl. He's more used to girls and he prefers playing with girls.

He STILL wants a sister. And is still asking for one. It's so sad. He seems to be accepting that he's getting a brother and seems alright with it...
But, I really don't think things will pan out for him to get a sister. I'd only do HT for a third baby because I seriously don't want another boy. I feel awful for saying that and thinking that. As I love my son more than anything in the world and I already love my second and unborn son the same way. I just don't want three boys.

My husband LAUGHED when I told him how much IVF with gender selection costs. But, he's still not closed to the idea. Haha. I think he still really wants a daughter too. Deep down inside. If I am not overwhelmed with two boys and we could somehow afford it and my life and family feels incomplete, then there's still hope for a little girl. A very expensive little girl. Haha.

I hope everyone had a great Xmas. And I hope everyone has a lovely New Years Eve!

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Sorry you had a not great Christmas eve! On the positive, it does not sound like your dh is against the ht route so you may yet get your little girl! Hope you have a better new year eve! X

[Girlieplease]

Anyone else having extremely vivid/weird dreams? What about quite strong braxton hicks contractions? I keep thinking i need the bathroom but nothing happens... not constipated..I am miserable with 14 weeks to go..

Not really, I often don't remember what I dream x

[Girlieplease]

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My boys and boy bump! I felt huge today but looking at the pic my bump looks quite small!

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Oh my you and your family are gorgeous, such a cute bump x

[Girlieplease]

Thanks, I will vent but like u I hate being jealous! My 4 boys are already best friends there is 19 months between my two eldest, then 18months gap between 2 and 3. Then 2 1/2 years between 3 & 4. I find they play in twos though so oldest two and youngest two...im more Ci corned with this baby being left out! There will be 4 1/2 years gap...im already tempted by a 6th so he will have a playmate!

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My goodness 6 children, I cannot image that many, I struggle with three and worry how I will cope with a fourth! That nothing to do with babies gender, just a general concern, you are a very brave lady!

How old are we all? Am 36 and think am getting to old to be having babies x

[Girlieplease]

I'm so sorry you didn't get your girl All*blue!! But congratulations on your boy. The one thing that has made me feel better about having all boys is thinking how good of friends they will be...for you having 5 boys, they will surely be the best of friends (well...maybe when they're older lol).

One of the hardest things I have dealt with is having one of my good friends who is due a week after me announce she is having a girl. I hate that I am jealous of her, but I am. If you do find out your SIL is having a girl just come on here and vent all you need to! I think all of us have a similar situation and would be able to relate!!

I hope everyone had a very Merry Christmas and Happy New Years Eve!!! I will be spending my New Years at work, ringing it in with my coworkers and 50 NICU babies [emoji1405]


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Happy new year lovely lady, hope 2017 is kind to us! X

[Girlieplease]

Purple-

HGB on the 26th was 11.5...low but they say not critical
RDW was 15% (high)
RDWSD was 48(high)
platelets are low
hematocrit was low (33.4)
RBC was low (3.77)

i feel like i should be more concerned about those numbers but how awful i feel and my doctors lack of concern makes it hard to care.

more importantly i had ketones (40) in my urine and protein.

My bilirubin is low too :/

Creatinine is low..0.52...

and my co2 levels are much lower than they should be even in pregnancy (imagining thats due to thryroid..)

Sodium was low but i think thats from puking. 135

I only gave this much information because i feel like i am missing something since i have horrendous brain fog..any of the fellow nurses want to chime in on if any of that makes sense as to why i feel like walking death, please inform me because my doctor isnt concerned at all...which means all my hope lays in the endocrinologist i see tomorrow morning.

Burakoam I hope you get sorted soon, you have had so much to deal with physically hope things settle in 2017 x

[Girlieplease]

Happy new year lovely ladies. Hope 2017 is a fantastic year for you all x o

[All*blue*everything]

My goodness 6 children, I cannot image that many, I struggle with three and worry how I will cope with a fourth! That nothing to do with babies gender, just a general concern, you are a very brave lady!

How old are we all? Am 36 and think am getting to old to be having babies x
35....thats why im thinking its now or never for another!! .....plus I love being pregnant, I had forgotten how much....( I might not say that in a few more months ha ha!)

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[Girlieplease]

35....thats why im thinking its now or never for another!! .....plus I love being pregnant, I had forgotten how much....( I might not say that in a few more months ha ha!)

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I planned to have my last before I was 35, I will be nearly 37 when this one is born! X o

[All*blue*everything]

I planned to have my last before I was 35, I will be nearly 37 when this one is born! X o
Ha ha I will be 36 when baby arrives I always said 35 was my cut off for babies! Then u get there and don't feel any different...although if I wait a couple of years for another I will be 38...hubby wants to adopt though. So maybe no more giving birth for me..i would like to.actually sway for a girl but he is adamant he does not want 6 sons lol...

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[Girlieplease]

Ha ha I will be 36 when baby arrives I always said 35 was my cut off for babies! Then u get there and don't feel any different...although if I wait a couple of years for another I will be 38...hubby wants to adopt though. So maybe no more giving birth for me..i would like to.actually sway for a girl but he is adamant he does not want 6 sons lol...

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I would consider adoption as well, I would never sway again. Obviously it does not work for everyone and I thought my chances were high having a dd already. I will see how I feel in a year or so, re adoption but I will definitely never be pregnant again. I think as years progress I will care less about dd having a sister, I think possibly it's something that maybe weighs heavily on my mind because I could still potentially do something about it still if you see what I mean. X o

[purple]

I'm 37 but was 36 when I conceived this one... 35 when we started trying!

At least I can feel young compared to my SIL who is 40 :)

I have been asked a few times if I will go for a 4th.. answer is a very definte NO. Even if we had conceived a 3rd boy it would still be no.

Anyway, Happy New Year!! We are having our babies this year!!

[Burakoam]

I feel you purple. Lately ive had baby fever despite being pregnant so i probably would have had a 4th anyhow even if i didnt sway. but my plan was 3 and done...4 is still intimidating to think about but the closer she is to being here im glad i did it in more ways and less sad about everything else..now i just want a baby in my arms. Family doesnt want me to get my tubes cut but i am thinking i will or i could probably end up with 5 when i get hit with baby fever when this one is nearing the 2 year mark..

[Cinss]

I am turning 38 in January, my baby was an oops so I didnt plan to have one so late, but now that its happening I dont feel that old. Hubby is having a vasectomy soon so definitely no more babies for us.

Happy new year ladies, cant wait to see piccies of all of our 2017 babies rolling in soon. X

[jenren]

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My boys and boy bump! I felt huge today but looking at the pic my bump looks quite small!

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Your boys are so cute!!!! Omg love all boy families. Obviously I am biased ;)

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[Lissastick]

I'm 35, will turn 36 a month after DS2 is born. I think I'm too old for a third because I like the spacing to be at least 3 years apart. And being pregnant SUCKS for me. Both times. It's sucked. I have always complained to my husband that I should have a surrogate because the only thing I'd miss about being pregnant is just feeling the baby kicks. Everything else is horrible for me.

Happy New Year everyone! I've got a while until midnight as I'm in California :-)

[Magical22]

I turned 34 in November, my DH will not have another so no chance at a DD ever for me.

Happy New Years guys!!!


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