Am I Insane??

[CapricornAquarius]

Ok this is my situation!

Ive had a lunar calendar made up for me by a retired astrologer he only done this calendar because he's a friend of my friend, its based on my birth time and birth date & it lasts for a year, so this year my 99.8% chance of conceiving a boy would be March, August, October and I have next yr April. Now I can see why I would have kept on having girls, my chances are pretty limited :hair:

I just cant not go by this calendar cause his past success rate has been astonishing & now Im scared to do it any other month.

My husband thinks Im insane and says how can a certain month make a difference and I say what if it does, how many women have swayed and still end up with the undesired gender so what if they were to have dtd on their own specific months, I wonder if it would have made the difference???

So any thoughts on this??

DD1 :ballerina: DD2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

Then I start thinking to myself maybe I shouldnt even bother swaying and just be grateful with whatever I get, you know what I mean?? But then my silly mind takes over and says otherwise.

You know how 'they' say listen to your heart and not your mind, why can I not stop my mind from overtaking my heart :worry:

Boy this is just all too stressful maybe I shouldnt even bother trying for another and just be happy with my 2 wonderful girls.

Sorry just venting

[CapricornAquarius]

Damn it I just feel like Im not done, like Im meant to have a third, I always said I'd like to have 3 children.

I think I'll just go make myself a cup of coffee, maybe that will make me feel better.

See I am going insane :sigh:

[nuthinbutpink]

I don't think you're crazy. I think when something like that is presented to you it is hard to overlook. I know if I were swaying, I would leave no stone unturned. I would do whatever it took to feel like I did all I could and if he is part of your equation, I understand that.

[TTC5]

Not crazy at all! I know how you feel you get that paranoia and worry set in hey!

[CapricornAquarius]

I don't think you're crazy. I think when something like that is presented to you it is hard to overlook. I know if I were swaying, I would leave no stone unturned. I would do whatever it took to feel like I did all I could and if he is part of your equation, I understand that.

Yes your right it has been presented to me and obviously for a reason?? mmmmm interesting!! Thank you

[CapricornAquarius]

Not crazy at all! I know how you feel you get that paranoia and worry set in hey!

PARANOID!!!! YES VERY PARANOID

[TTC5]

I had a reading by Cherie22 who said I would have a girl again and she see's september.. now I am so paranoid because we are going to try this Dec so my EDD would be in SEPTEMBER. I am now considering waiting until January BUT I also give birth early so chances are I would end up giving birth in SEPTEMBER so now what do I do? Wait until Feb :S

[CapricornAquarius]

I had a reading by Cherie22 who said I would have a girl again and she see's september.. now I am so paranoid because we are going to try this Dec so my EDD would be in SEPTEMBER. I am now considering waiting until January BUT I also give birth early so chances are I would end up giving birth in SEPTEMBER so now what do I do? Wait until Feb :S

My goodness, see how this can drive someone bannanas :hair:

It is said that there's a reason behind everything we do, so you were meant to have this reading done, so perhaps wait till Feb.

[lindi]

I went a psychic several years ago with a friend of mine who had made 2 appointments for herself and another friend, then her friend couldn't make it- so I took it. I say this because the psychic had no idea who I was, could never have researched anything etc. I was to write down a few questions for him. He had me throw some strange dice and made this weird chart on a piece of paper and proceeded to tell me my exact birthday, the names of my parents, and several other astonishing facts and then spoke about my future... he told me I would have one child, a girl. Well, I had a boy and now I'm having 2 children. I say this because even psychics who are right about some things aren't right about everything.

[CapricornAquarius]

I went a psychic several years ago with a friend of mine who had made 2 appointments for herself and another friend, then her friend couldn't make it- so I took it. I say this because the psychic had no idea who I was, could never have researched anything etc. I was to write down a few questions for him. He had me throw some strange dice and made this weird chart on a piece of paper and proceeded to tell me my exact birthday, the names of my parents, and several other astonishing facts and then spoke about my future... he told me I would have one child, a girl. Well, I had a boy and now I'm having 2 children. I say this because even psychics who are right about some things aren't right about everything.

You are very right!

They can never be 100% and Im pretty sure they never claim to be either.

Ive only ever been to a palm reader and that was 3yrs ago and although she has been so right with everything, she did say my 3rd would be a boy, but that Im yet to see.

DD1 :ballerina: DD2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

TTC5 - going back to your reading, I guess I'd only take her seriously if she was accurate with most of your reading, I always say go by your gut instinct, I know it can be tough, Im one to talk hey!!

[Cinss]

I have been looking into these gender charts too. It was correct for my daughter, so i am going to wait for the boy months to ttc, i have been waiting 6 months and have Dec, Jan, Feb to try for my boy. I see that many people on here disagree with the chart thing, but for my own peace of mind i am going to give it a shot, cant hurt right?

[CapricornAquarius]

I have been looking into these gender charts too. It was correct for my daughter, so i am going to wait for the boy months to ttc, i have been waiting 6 months and have Dec, Jan, Feb to try for my boy. I see that many people on here disagree with the chart thing, but for my own peace of mind i am going to give it a shot, cant hurt right?

Thats what I think we need to do, for our own piece of mind. And no its not hurting anyone maybe only us I guess cause we have to wait certain months.

OHHHH it was so much easier concieving my girls, I wish there was no such thing as swaying, then we'd just get what ever we were suppose to, or maybe this is just what happens anyway :hair:

[TTC5]

My goodness, see how this can drive someone bannanas :hair:

It is said that there's a reason behind everything we do, so you were meant to have this reading done, so perhaps wait till Feb.

My thoughts are, IF we try DEC/JAN and give birth in SEPTMEBER and it is a girl.. I will blame myself for not listening to that reading.. if I avoid those months and still have a girl then I know I did everything I could, and she was meant to be.

[TTC5]

TTC5 - going back to your reading, I guess I'd only take her seriously if she was accurate with most of your reading, I always say go by your gut instinct, I know it can be tough, Im one to talk hey!!

Well it is hard to say as she really only mentioned the september and girl then, then went on to tell me her personality etc so that I can't confirm hehe

[TTC5]

I have been looking into these gender charts too. It was correct for my daughter, so i am going to wait for the boy months to ttc, i have been waiting 6 months and have Dec, Jan, Feb to try for my boy. I see that many people on here disagree with the chart thing, but for my own peace of mind i am going to give it a shot, cant hurt right?

No that's right, it can't hurt at all. Although it can become stressful, lol trying to match everything up iykwim?

[CapricornAquarius]

My thoughts are, IF we try DEC/JAN and give birth in SEPTMEBER and it is a girl.. I will blame myself for not listening to that reading.. if I avoid those months and still have a girl then I know I did everything I could, and she was meant to be.

Now you can see why I just cant let go of the whole idea of my calendar, just incase!

If I just ttc any of the other months and I end up with another girl, I'll kick myself for not going by my calendar grrrrr:mad: and if I go by this calendar and still get a girl then I'll know she was meant to be also.

[Zivic-Bubac]

Ok this is my situation!
Ive had a lunar calendar made up for me

DD1 :ballerina: DD2 :giggle:Does he say the whole October is 'boy month' or he gave you fertile days that may or may not match your actual O days?

This is the same with Dr Jonas calendar, they give you fertile days each month and they give 98-99% gender accuracy IF you conceive baby on those days. You are not supposed to have sex but on those 3 days they gave you.
If your actual O date don't match their dates, and you decide to try on your actual 'fertile window', they can't guarantee your baby's gender.

See my point? It's accurate only on THEIR dates, so maybe you can try on your actual O dates and your swaying will prevale kwim? However, if their and your O date match, pregnancy is practically innevitable.

Here is the site of the Odan Institute http://odan.jp/en/index.html , and they do the same thing. Gender calendar with your personal 3 fertile days (96% accuracy) is 24 euros and 99% which contains more detailed info is I think 77euros. It is basically your lunar fertility calendar based on Dr Jonas method.

Maybe, just for the piece of mind, you could order that 96% calendar and compare to your calendar?

HTH!!!! BTW, I'm obsessing like crazy about biorhytms :sigh:

[LolaInLove]

Cap, I know what you mean....it is hard to ignore things you think may do the trick....I guess it is just up to you if you can wait. Nothing wrong with waiting if you have the patience for it. You can certainly have a great sway if you work on it for 6 months! Then again, I am not sure if I believe in that stuff. I had a psychic freak me out like Lindi and guess all this stuff about me. She said I have "2 of the 4, either the girls or the boys," and I obviously had 2 girls, so she said I'd have 2 more kids, boys. Of course, now I can't even get pregnant, so who knows. Gotta just go with what you feel most confident and comfortable with, and what can keep you and DH happy and not chomping at the bit to get on with it.

[soontobesix]

You're not insane! I think we all just want our boys so bad that we don't want to "mess" anything up in our sways or overlook soemthing. I started TTC last month and I've seriously second guessed everything in the last few weeks. It's so hard to know what to do.

[gizmo77]

yoru enot nuts once i start reading that stuff i get all into it, then i read about diet and i stay with that. i think diet is themost impt. we cant say that every person who has had a boy just happened to conceive on a "boy day/month" according to any gender chart. theres too many ppl in the world for that! i cant say im not a believer bc i get sucked into it myself but esply if ppl are taking money you have to think there is something that may not always be right.

i guess if you are young enough and if youre ok to wait till april, then go for it but if you just cant wait, then go full force on the diet and DTD!
good luck

[CapricornAquarius]

Does he say the whole October is 'boy month' or he gave you fertile days that may or may not match your actual O days?

This is the same with Dr Jonas calendar, they give you fertile days each month and they give 98-99% gender accuracy IF you conceive baby on those days. You are not supposed to have sex but on those 3 days they gave you.
If your actual O date don't match their dates, and you decide to try on your actual 'fertile window', they can't guarantee your baby's gender.

See my point? It's accurate only on THEIR dates, so maybe you can try on your actual O dates and your swaying will prevale kwim? However, if their and your O date match, pregnancy is practically innevitable.

Here is the site of the Odan Institute http://odan.jp/en/index.html , and they do the same thing. Gender calendar with your personal 3 fertile days (96% accuracy) is 24 euros and 99% which contains more detailed info is I think 77euros. It is basically your lunar fertility calendar based on Dr Jonas method.

Maybe, just for the piece of mind, you could order that 96% calendar and compare to your calendar?

HTH!!!! BTW, I'm obsessing like crazy about biorhytms :sigh:

Yes I see your point ZBubac, mine did say I can only dtd on my boy months and only on the dates that he claims I should O, he was spot on in August but this October Ive O'd earlier.

Had a look at the Odan Institute, thanks for that, yes sounds alot like the one I had made up, although I didnt pay anything for mine. Has anyone tried any of these calendars from Odan or Jonas and been successful on GD???

So what I'll do for now is continue my boy diet although not a big meat eater, continue taking my supps & I'll stick with my calendar, although if his O dates over the next 2months dont match up with mine then I'll buy the Odan calendar.

DD1 :ballerina: DD2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

Cap, I know what you mean....it is hard to ignore things you think may do the trick....I guess it is just up to you if you can wait. Nothing wrong with waiting if you have the patience for it. You can certainly have a great sway if you work on it for 6 months! Then again, I am not sure if I believe in that stuff. I had a psychic freak me out like Lindi and guess all this stuff about me. She said I have "2 of the 4, either the girls or the boys," and I obviously had 2 girls, so she said I'd have 2 more kids, boys. Of course, now I can't even get pregnant, so who knows. Gotta just go with what you feel most confident and comfortable with, and what can keep you and DH happy and not chomping at the bit to get on with it.

Llove yes it is hard to ignore things that come my way, cause then I say to myself, maybe it came my way for a reason or it may push me to ignore it cause this way its going to take too long to conceive and Im not a spring chicken Im 37 so my clock is ticking, ticking, ticking :hair:

DD1 :ballerina: DD2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

LLove you will have another baby, believe it.

[CapricornAquarius]

You're not insane! I think we all just want our boys so bad that we don't want to "mess" anything up in our sways or overlook soemthing. I started TTC last month and I've seriously second guessed everything in the last few weeks. It's so hard to know what to do.

Thanks soonsix
Yes, yes, yes it is soo hard to know what to do

DD1 :ballerina: DD2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

yoru enot nuts once i start reading that stuff i get all into it, then i read about diet and i stay with that. i think diet is themost impt. we cant say that every person who has had a boy just happened to conceive on a "boy day/month" according to any gender chart. theres too many ppl in the world for that! i cant say im not a believer bc i get sucked into it myself but esply if ppl are taking money you have to think there is something that may not always be right.

i guess if you are young enough and if youre ok to wait till april, then go for it but if you just cant wait, then go full force on the diet and DTD!
good luck

Gizmo I feel like Im going nuts believe me :sigh:
No Im not young enough Im 37 so really what the heck am I doing, I feel like Im doing this with myself :fight:

DD1 :ballerina: DD2 :giggle:

[atomic sagebrush]

Thats what I think we need to do, for our own piece of mind. And no its not hurting anyone maybe only us I guess cause we have to wait certain months.

OHHHH it was so much easier concieving my girls, I wish there was no such thing as swaying, then we'd just get what ever we were suppose to, or maybe this is just what happens anyway :hair:

But it does hurt in terms of your sway, if you skip months that are actually really scientifically more boy-friendly than others in order to conceive in months that some psychic told you...well to me that's a bad trade.

Plus, the stress and worry of trying to move your O day etc - people do and take medications that sway in the wrong direction in order to move their O onto a certain day and to me that's an even worse trade there.

http://genderdreaming.com/forum/showthread.php?1693-the-seasons-and-swaying

And coming from someone who has seen way too many wonderful people waste months and years both on swaying stuff that is too strict, and failed HT, only to end up totally unable to conceive due to age - you DON'T want to waste any months when you're TTC. If you're like 24 years old of course that may not be a big deal to you but anyone who is 35, 36, 37 and I know there are people on here who are, I BEG you guys not to spend time chasing after mysticism and magic and just GET PREGNANT as quick as you can because at some point, sooner or later, that fertility window will close and you will no longer be able to conceive at all. If you cannot get pg, you have zero chance at your DG. None of us have any guarantee of pregnancy, risks of many birth defects begin to skyrocket, and it may very well be that the exact month the psychic told you not to conceive, that was your last fresh egg in the carton...

I apologize for sounding harsh but I don't want anyone to walk away from this process heartbroken because there have been too many people already.

[atomic sagebrush]

Capricorn, I don't think you're insane, but it's just not the decision that I would obviously hope that you make.

[TTC5]

So very true, Atomic!

[Zivic-Bubac]

Im not a spring chicken Im 37 so my clock is ticking, ticking, ticking :hair:
Hey, you're not alone here! :wink: I'm in 2WW for my 39th b-day lol! It's great to see there are still some us born in 197* :)

[CapricornAquarius]

Capricorn, I don't think you're insane, but it's just not the decision that I would obviously hope that you make.

No your not being harsh Atomic, thank you it just makes me realise that it is somthing to consider especially at my age, so I really need to start concentrating more with my diet and hope!!

I had a discussion with my family today, regarding whether or not we should have another child, cause honestly I wouldnt be trying for another if I knew I'd be having another girl. So really I need to be more ready at the thought of bringing another child into this world regardless of gender.

[CapricornAquarius]

Hey, you're not alone here! :wink: I'm in 2WW for my 39th b-day lol! It's great to see there are still some us born in 197* :)

ZBubac I used to say my cut off age ttc would be 35, well Im past that, so now my cut off age is 39.

Still no AF for you ZBubac, that is so great!!

[TTC5]

No your not being harsh Atomic, thank you it just makes me realise that it is somthing to consider especially at my age, so I really need to start concentrating more with my diet and hope!!

I had a discussion with my family today, regarding whether or not we should have another child, cause honestly I wouldnt be trying for another if I knew I'd be having another girl. So really I need to be more ready at the thought of bringing another child into this world regardless of gender.

Yep that is the healthy approach :)

[CapricornAquarius]

Ok so after some much needed thought ive decided to ttc in Dec. So im going to stick to the boy diet, gosh ive already put on 4kgs but not to bad cause im really toned & come Dec i'll make sure i opk so i dont miss my O, & i really really hope i conceive with my baby boy, just saying that brings a happy tear 2 my eye, but of course i will be just as happy, well not exactly just as happy, but you know what i mean, if i conceive a girl.

Dd1 :ballerina: Dd2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

Gosh, actually i'll just prey to fall prrgnant first, hope this is not going to be a long road:sigh:

[atomic sagebrush]

Count me in on the :pray: team! Good luck to you!!!!

[LolaInLove]

LLove you will have another baby, believe it.

THANKS!!! Hope you are right! Don't know about two though, lol.

[LolaInLove]

Cap, glad you decided to go for it! FWIW, I completely agree with Atomic and worry that us mature mamas need to get on with it and not worry about the months so much, for whatever reason. Good luck!!!!

[TTC5]

Ok so after some much needed thought ive decided to ttc in Dec. So im going to stick to the boy diet, gosh ive already put on 4kgs but not to bad cause im really toned & come Dec i'll make sure i opk so i dont miss my O, & i really really hope i conceive with my baby boy, just saying that brings a happy tear 2 my eye, but of course i will be just as happy, well not exactly just as happy, but you know what i mean, if i conceive a girl.

Dd1 :ballerina: Dd2 :giggle:

Good luck Dec is just around the corner!!

[CapricornAquarius]

Thanks ttc5 have you decided on what your going to do.

[CapricornAquarius]

Count me in on the :pray: team! Good luck to you!!!!
Thanks Atomic, & thanks for helping me change my mind.
Good luck to you to.
Dd1:ballerina: Dd2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

Good luck Dec is just around the corner!!
Yeah i know, im actually looking forward to it, im going to be really good with my diet & supps, fx.
Dd1 :ballerina: Dd2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

Cap, glad you decided to go for it! FWIW, I completely agree with Atomic and worry that us mature mamas need to get on with it and not worry about the months so much, for whatever reason. Good luck!!!!
Thanks Llove, yeah im glad also, im not exactly a young chicken so why waste months.
Goodluck to you to.

[CapricornAquarius]

Ive been thinking really hard for this past week & im starting 2 reconsider trying 4 a 3rd child.
I know in my heart that if i conceive another girl i will be so so upset & even though i can try to sway, we all know there's no guarantee & i just dont feel happy with a 50/50 shot.

So unless i somehow accidently fall pregnant which i do doubt, i wont be trying for a third.

I feel content with my family of 4 & i absolutely adore my 2 girls. The only time i will ever ttc is when im really comfortable with having another child regardless of gender.

Dd1 :ballerina: Dd2 :giggle:

[TTC5]

Thanks ttc5 have you decided on what your going to do.

Think we are going to try Dec regardless of what cherie 22 said :) yourself? xx

[Foxy]

My last 2 boys were concieved in Dec! Good luck!

[atomic sagebrush]

Whatever you end up doing, I wish you the very best for peace of mind.

[zanacal]

I wish you all the best too Capricorn - good for you for taking time to stop and think, it's so easy to get caught up on the swaying rollercoaster! Take care x

[Hobbermittens]

I know I am coming in late to this, but I thought I'd share that I had an astrologer help me with days as well. He has found days in each month, during my O week, that were good for BDing. There were days that were girl days and days that were boy days. I wonder what the difference is between what my astrologer did and what yours did?

[CapricornAquarius]

I know I am coming in late to this, but I thought I'd share that I had an astrologer help me with days as well. He has found days in each month, during my O week, that were good for BDing. There were days that were girl days and days that were boy days. I wonder what the difference is between what my astrologer did and what yours did?

Hobbermittens Im so confused right now, I really dont know what to do.

Im in limbo land at the moment, just really thinking :think: about the whole idea of even having a 3rd, Im just too scared to give anything a go. I'll continue with the boy diet as it is a healthier one anyway.

dd1 :ballerina: dd2 :giggle:

[CapricornAquarius]

Hobbermittens, with my calender I only get 3 certain months out of the whole year to ttc a boy, pretty crazy hey??

[Hobbermittens]

Hobbermittens, with my calender I only get 3 certain months out of the whole year to ttc a boy, pretty crazy hey??

I just wonder why your calendar is so limited, when my astrologer seems to be able to find boy days in each month? I wonder what different things they are looking at.

[CapricornAquarius]

I just wonder why your calendar is so limited, when my astrologer seems to be able to find boy days in each month? I wonder what different things they are looking at.
Mine appears 2 b the same as the odan instiute, they also go by your birth date & time.

[love being a mummy]

Im in limbo land at the moment, just really thinking about the whole idea of even having a 3rd, Im just too scared to give anything a go. I'll continue with the boy diet as it is a healthier one anyway.
I'm feeling the same way.

[CapricornAquarius]

I'm feeling the same way.
Its hard, isnt it, where's my crystal ball??

[CapricornAquarius]

Well you probably all know by now that I got a BFP!

I cant believe that the astrologer who did my calendar actually did get it spot on, even though I really thought I was O'ing on the 1st and 2nd cause I had heaps of cm, we couldnt dtd anyway cause my husband was away with work, funny enough he came back on the 5th & my calendar said I must dtd on the 5th & 6th of this month, I thought what the heck we'll do it anyway, & it was so right, pretty freaky hey!!

Now Im wondering how accurate he will be with the gender?? I really really hope its a :DS:, but regardless I really know that this baby was so so meant to be.

Im trying so so hard to stop thinking about the gender becasue I really want to enjoy this pregnancy, its my last time, hubby is doing the chop once he/she is born.

Dd1 :ballerina: Dd2 :giggle: & OMG Im :pregnant:

[TTC5]

Did your astrologer say boy or girl?

I hope this is your boy!!

[love being a mummy]

Sending lots of blue vibes

[CapricornAquarius]

Did your astrologer say boy or girl?

I hope this is your boy!!

He said BOY with a 99.8%, yeah lets see hey!!!!!

[CapricornAquarius]

Sending lots of blue vibes

Thank you, I really hope so!! And good luck to you to, so you would have O'd today is that right??

[TTC5]

He said BOY with a 99.8%, yeah lets see hey!!!!!

Awesome! :D

[atomic sagebrush]

Well you probably all know by now that I got a BFP!

I cant believe that the astrologer who did my calendar actually did get it spot on, even though I really thought I was O'ing on the 1st and 2nd cause I had heaps of cm, we couldnt dtd anyway cause my husband was away with work, funny enough he came back on the 5th & my calendar said I must dtd on the 5th & 6th of this month, I thought what the heck we'll do it anyway, & it was so right, pretty freaky hey!!

Now Im wondering how accurate he will be with the gender?? I really really hope its a :DS:, but regardless I really know that this baby was so so meant to be.

Im trying so so hard to stop thinking about the gender becasue I really want to enjoy this pregnancy, its my last time, hubby is doing the chop once he/she is born.

Dd1 :ballerina: Dd2 :giggle: & OMG Im :pregnant:

I didn't! YAY! I'm so excited for you!!!! Good luck and best wishes!!!!

[KnockYourBallsOff]

What website are you girls using to find this? I've NEVER figured out the Jonas method stuff....anyone want to help me?! PLEEASSE!?

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh, there are a lot of people online who will gladly take your money to help you with the Jonas method! ;) Please don't take it seriously at all!

[Indira]

KYBO you can find it on astro.com, go to free horoscopes, then extended chart selection and choose special charts, then where you select the chart you go way down and find biorythm and lunar phases fertility calender (Jonas). Just for fun! Ds1 was conceived on a Jonas girl date.

[KnockYourBallsOff]

I will NOT shell out a dime!!!!! LOL!!! I'm so cheap....and so is DH. I do like to do it for fun....takes the stress out of it all for me, ironically :) Thanks for your replies!!!