No heartbeat at 8 weeks

[Erin514]

Hi everyone,
I'm 8 weeks today and had bright red spotting and cramping since last night. I sat in the ER for three hours this morning to eventually get a transvag u/s, but the doctor gave me zero info. He said it looked smaller than 8 weeks but otherwise normal, but he couldn't estimate the age or find a heartbeat. I was asking "shouldn't there be one at eight weeks? Does this mean I'm for sure miscarrying?" But he couldn't answer me or tell me anything.

I don't think my dates are wrong since I used OPKs and only had one attempt. Should I assume this is definitely the beginning of a miscarriage? Anyone have a story about a doctor who couldn't find a heartbeat this late but the baby was actually alive?

[XXforhubby]

Erin, I'm so incredibly sorry you are going through this! I'm hoping and praying that everything will work out!

I had 2-3 scans early on with my DS2. I felt pregnant yet I couldn't get a positive pregnancy test until 21dpo and scan 1 and 2 didn't match when I got a positive pregnancy test OR my dates (we only BDed once!!). Finally scan 3 at 10 weeks 5 days showed a gummy bear with a heart beat!! I was told that I had to ovulated late followed by really late implantation. He is 3 now and perfectly fine and healthy.

I am praying that you just have a slow cooker growing in there and that the technician doing your scan at the ER was grossly incompetent.

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[Erin514]

I hope so too, xx. Thanks for your words of encouragement, it means a lot to me.

[Kittybear]

I'm so sorry you are going through this. I would say, do not give up hope yet! I hope the bleeding settles down but I would definitely get another scan in a week or so; by then you should have more answers (and hopefully a more experienced/ understanding technician) xx

[MiaMelb]

Very sorry to hear your news Erin. Waiting like this is so hard. Look after yourself.

[atomic sagebrush]

while of course it is never what you want to see, it's not over till it's over. Some doctors are crappers at ultrasounds and get things wrong with shocking regularity.

I would prepare for the worst but don't give up just yet. :heart:

[Faithinpink]

So sorry to hear this erin . Sending huge hugs xo
Dont give up as atomic said its not over til its over .
i know it will be hard with young ones but get plenty of rest and take care of YOU !! XX

[Erin514]

To update, unfortunately this did not have a happy ending and I began to hemmorage from the miscarriage. I'm in the ER now waiting for a D&C. I seem to have more or less stabilized the bleeding for the moment at least.

I also hemorraged for both deliveries of my boys, in the third stage, and blood tests weren't able to tell me why. I'm really not sure what to do now. We wanted another kid but it is so nerve-racking to go through this every time and I do worry about the risks. Just feeling really confused about the future.

Thanks for your support everyone.

[cosmosis]

I'm sorry for your loss :awe: I hope you have an easy recovery!

[Kittybear]

So sorry to read this Erin :( sending gentle hugs xxx

[GirlieCat]

So sorry Erin. Give yourself time to process everything. Hoping you are feeling better soon.

[MrsTheatrical]

I'm so sorry that you are going through this [emoji171]


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[fiveboys]

Hugs xxx

[Babygirlquest]

So sorry for your loss honey.

[XXforhubby]

Words cannot express how sorry I am for your loss [emoji22]. I'm sending lots of strength and healing your way.


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[sigrid86]

I'm very very sorry to hear this Erin.

Just give yourself the time and space to mourn. And above all, take care of yourself!

Sending you lots of hugs and love XXX

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh no Erin, I"m so terribly sorry. Please let me know if I can help in any way.

[MrsSparkles]

So sad to hear this Erin.
Hoping you get back home soon, and that you can start healing.

[Kelbear]

So sorry you are having to go through this :sad:

[MiaMelb]

I'm very sorry for your loss Erin. My thoughts are with you tonight. The ER is a strange, overwhelming place, not where you want to be making any decisions, give yourself some time. Take care.

[Georgia_Peach]

Awe Erin I am so sorry to read this! I cannot imagine how hard this must be for you and your family. Take the time you need to
Recover mentally and physically. This is something so many of us go through but is the worst pain imaginable. Thoughts and prayers are with you!

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[The Anchor]

So sorry Erin, I hope you are able to find peace...