Ewcm vs preseed vs concieve plus

[nholtz87]

Idk ph of my cm however I generally have a good amount of ewcm, if Idk ph should I use preseed or conceive plus? Which one is better to sway for boy btw. I keep reading conflicting things. I used preseed before an like it but never tried concieve plus

[nholtz87]

Also during fertile time would sex in morning and afternoon be ok? Dh has a great sperm count, just really hoping a xy sperm gets in there. I feel like he only makes girls haha my dsd mom has 4 boys from 4 different dad's and of course my dh gave her her only girl, course he said it was from just one time of no protection (we were separated at the time ) ugh I just keep praying to get our son that is his namesake too. I adores my son but now his bio dad has told him not to call dh dad even tho dh raises him and provides everything....long story, point being I feel heartbroken for dh when my son goes on an on bout his bio being basically like a hero. I want dh to have someone to idolize him like that. He loves our girls tho and doesn't get bummed everytime we hear it's a girl. He is just so amazing

[Burakoam]

My DH was told he had a high sperm count by our OB at the time, we also have two girls. Preseed in the last two pregnancies gave me girls each time. I really dont know what to say other than sex in the AM the last 2 times also gave me girls..but i really dont think that matters or plays into anything IMO. I think if you make enough EWCM on your own i wouldnt use the lube as i think in some cases it does more harm than good.

[nholtz87]

Lol ya just tried preseed, used to much and dh lost erection:'(
My problem now is I have "show" cervix but I've been taking opks like 4 times a day the past few days and all negative. I'm going to pull my hair out lol

[atomic sagebrush]

I think that if you have a good amount of EWCM you should ~probably~ skip the Preseed/Conceive Plus and let nature do its thing. A couple studies did find that Preseed, while leagues better than other options, did temporarily slow down sperm. Now, they quickly recovered, but EWCM is better overall. If you don't have much, then use one or the other (both are fine)

RE when to BD and how often: The concern is that if you start with lots of attempts too early, and then O is delayed, he'll have lowered sperm numbers by the time the egg shows up. Or, he runs out of steam and there's still days to go to the egg. It's certainly fine to BD a lot in fertile window, don't get me wrong, but I'm trying to possibly guard against the scenario where you guys start BD morning noon and night on what you think will be O-3, and then either O is delayed several days leaving him with nothing but dust when egg shows up, or he's so tired out that by the time O-1/O Day hit, he can't BD any more leaving only whatever is left from before to fertilize the egg (that is actually ok and how a lot of us got our boys, not a dealbreaker, but not optimal either)

[atomic sagebrush]

Lol ya just tried preseed, used to much and dh lost erection:'(
My problem now is I have "show" cervix but I've been taking opks like 4 times a day the past few days and all negative. I'm going to pull my hair out lol

If you think you're ovulating then please BD even if OPK don't show it. Sometimes your urine is too dilute (thru no fault of your own of course) or opk are shoddy and then you don't get that positive.

[nholtz87]

I've been barely drinking so I don't think diluted. Idk maybe o will be delayed

[nholtz87]

Come to find out I have a bad batch of opks :'(

[Throwaway_panther]

Come to find out I have a bad batch of opks :'(

Oh no! How did you find out it was a bad batch? I'm assuming they're the Wondfo cheapies?

[nholtz87]

Yes the wondfo ones. Someone posted about them on BabyCenter and it's the same Lot number that I have and a few other girls have basically the lines don't get darker they just stay really light so now I'm pretty sure I ovulated yesterday and I only had sex yesterday morning and the morning before so I don't even know if that's good or not

[nholtz87]

34384 based on my chart do you think I ovulated? I know I still need more rises but I am starting to think I ovulated yesterday and in that case PLEASE be honest, would the two days I dtd be optimal for boy?

[nholtz87]

Going for ultrasound tomorrow to rule out any cysts so I guess I'll know for sure if I ovulated if I don't see any follicles

[atomic sagebrush]

It tentatively looks like O has occured, and your attempt was well timed.

I will stop short of saying optimal, though. :)

[atomic sagebrush]

It tentatively looks like O has occured, and your attempt was well timed.

I will stop short of saying optimal, though. :)

[nholtz87]

I guess we just wait now. Going to bd tho until we get cross hairs just incase. Thank u so much

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes please keep going till crosshairs show! sending you all my blue dust!

[nholtz87]

Had ultrasound today to look for cyst. Showed a 19mm follicle the I am cd 18 now. Do u know when I might actually ovulate?

[atomic sagebrush]

No, I can't predict that but keep BD!! This is why we keep BD even when we think we maybe Oed. :)

[nholtz87]

Ok tyvm

[nholtz87]

Just got smiley opk. So do I bd tonight and twice tomorrow or wait to bd till tomorrow, we bd last night

[atomic sagebrush]

Whatever pattern you feel will work for you. I usually have people BD that night, the next morning, and then again the following night but just BD as much and when works for you. there is no right or magic pattern, you're just trying to be in with at least 2 attempts around O. :)

[Psalms 139:14]

I used preseed both times I was ttc. I have two girls. So for me, pressed is a no-go now that I'm ttc boy. Some months I have EWCM and other months I don't. So I'm using Conceive plus this time around.

[atomic sagebrush]

Totally at your discretion. I got 4 boys and have never touched the stuff.