MrsGoodies
February 26th, 2017, 05:02 PM
My son has been getting treated for narrow palate since he was 7 years old. I told the orthodonstidt that I didnt want any teeth removed and he said he doesn't do that and palate expansion will help.
We paid $4500 for phase I treatment and last week it was finished and the orthdontist went in to discuss phase II...i thought it would be routine....wrong!
He showed my my sons xrays and says there isnt enough room for his lower wisdom teeth and now he wants him to have surgery to remove them before he gets braces. Even worse he said that since my son will be under he "might as well remove the upper 2 teeth as well"...there is nothing wrong with the upper teeth and have lots of room.
I am beside myself with guilt and worry. I keep beating myself up over not insisting on more expansion when he was younger...or even using orthotropics which would have prevented his small jaw & reduced the need for braces all together. But I never heard of orthotropics back then even though it has apparently been around for years!
I havent eaten or slept very well in almost a week. My mind keeps alternating between
1) no way in hell is he getting the surgery. Searching for dr who will agree to expand his jaws some more first....
2) it is hopeless and too late...just give up and sign the consent form.....which leads to
3) OMG! Look at all of the risks and side effects....dry socket, cavitations, TMJ, nerve damage....death! OMG! what if he dies? Even young healthy kids are dying from this....which leads to....
4) how could I have been so naieve and stupid? I should have done more research earlier. If only I wasnt so focused on ttc a girl for the last decade...i've failed him. I'm a failure as a mother (combined with a lot of tears/crying in the shower)....loss of appetite, loss of sleep...nightmares even, then anger and ....refusing to give up
5) Back to #1
Worst of all, I have younger children mid treatment with this ortho and I am considering pulling them from the program and trying anything to ensure this doesnt happen to them.
People telling me to calm down (like Dh) doesn't help at all. DH had the surgery and first said "no big deal"....then later when I rattle off the side effects he goes "oh yeah, I had that....yup...that too!" ...when he tells me death is rare I think "yeah, those parents whose kids died were told it was rare too and now its too late for them"
We paid $4500 for phase I treatment and last week it was finished and the orthdontist went in to discuss phase II...i thought it would be routine....wrong!
He showed my my sons xrays and says there isnt enough room for his lower wisdom teeth and now he wants him to have surgery to remove them before he gets braces. Even worse he said that since my son will be under he "might as well remove the upper 2 teeth as well"...there is nothing wrong with the upper teeth and have lots of room.
I am beside myself with guilt and worry. I keep beating myself up over not insisting on more expansion when he was younger...or even using orthotropics which would have prevented his small jaw & reduced the need for braces all together. But I never heard of orthotropics back then even though it has apparently been around for years!
I havent eaten or slept very well in almost a week. My mind keeps alternating between
1) no way in hell is he getting the surgery. Searching for dr who will agree to expand his jaws some more first....
2) it is hopeless and too late...just give up and sign the consent form.....which leads to
3) OMG! Look at all of the risks and side effects....dry socket, cavitations, TMJ, nerve damage....death! OMG! what if he dies? Even young healthy kids are dying from this....which leads to....
4) how could I have been so naieve and stupid? I should have done more research earlier. If only I wasnt so focused on ttc a girl for the last decade...i've failed him. I'm a failure as a mother (combined with a lot of tears/crying in the shower)....loss of appetite, loss of sleep...nightmares even, then anger and ....refusing to give up
5) Back to #1
Worst of all, I have younger children mid treatment with this ortho and I am considering pulling them from the program and trying anything to ensure this doesnt happen to them.
People telling me to calm down (like Dh) doesn't help at all. DH had the surgery and first said "no big deal"....then later when I rattle off the side effects he goes "oh yeah, I had that....yup...that too!" ...when he tells me death is rare I think "yeah, those parents whose kids died were told it was rare too and now its too late for them"