How do I sway girl e4d on vacation? Need help please!

[maximbella]

Hello ladies! I could use some advice on my girl sway... My DH just surprised me with a trip just us two! We leave tomorrow morning and come back on Wednesday night. Incredibly sweet of him, but of course I'm CD 19 today and haven't O'd yet. I'm afraid that I will during the couple of days that we are away and of course get multiple attempts in our window that will sway blue. We literally never get away alone and I don't want to ruin the trip by telling him that we can't BD lol. Last BD was Tuesday night, so we will tomorrow night for e4d, but what do I do for the next couple of nights after that? Is it okay to BD and just pull out? I don't think I can get him to wear a condom. Sorry TMI, but would really love your help!!!

Also, I've been sick the past 2 days so temp has gone up (looks like possible O temp rise in my chart), but my opk's have been light so I definitely haven't O'd yet.


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[XXforhubby]

I think in this situation you have a few options that require you to ask what you and your DH can reasonably stick to while not swaying overtly blue.

Option one: stay strict on the diet and allow you guys to BD following SMEP (BD three days in a row starting tomorrow night at your scheduled time, take the fourth night off, and BD the fifth night). This is the option to choose if you know you won't be a sucker for yummy local food, and your DH expects lots of sex on vacation.

Option 2: Allow yourself frequent cheats or take a small break from the diet, if this is your weakness, and keep BDing E3D or E4D if this won't be a problem for your DH.

Option 3: Throw caution to the wind and let be what will be while making the best pink choices you can given the situation at hand.

FX and GL to you! I'm envious of your vacay with your DH! We haven't had one in almost 4 years! Above all else, enjoy yourself and have FUN!!



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[Throwaway_panther]

Condoms not an option? Maybe spermicidal gels.

I don't personally recommend pulling out after getting pregnant with pre-ejaculate, but supposedly it can be pretty effective when done properly. Which we did... but still the risk with precum, especially right around ovulation.

[atomic sagebrush]

Agh I'm probably too late, but I'd just pull out. yes that's ok.

[maximbella]

Thanks ladies! We just got here. Will plan to BD tonight since it's been 5 days (DH was out of town). Am I okay to BD again tomorrow and the day after but just pull out, right atomic? We never wear condoms and I don't want to ruin the mood on our trip, especially since DH wasn't thrilled about trying for another month.


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[Shannshaff]

Max - since DH was not thrilled about another month to begin with, I would just throw caution to the wind, and enjoy myself with DH. You already have a very girl friendly lifestyle, so just go with it.

[maximbella]

Thanks Shan! Hope you're feeling good!!


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[Throwaway_panther]

Thanks ladies! We just got here. Will plan to BD tonight since it's been 5 days (DH was out of town). Am I okay to BD again tomorrow and the day after but just pull out, right atomic? We never wear condoms and I don't want to ruin the mood on our trip, especially since DH wasn't thrilled about trying for another month.


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If you guys never use condoms and haven't had an unplanned pregnncy, you're probably safer to pull out than my earlier advice.

[maximbella]

Thanks throwaway!

XX, when do you find out the gender????


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[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks ladies! We just got here. Will plan to BD tonight since it's been 5 days (DH was out of town). Am I okay to BD again tomorrow and the day after but just pull out, right atomic? We never wear condoms and I don't want to ruin the mood on our trip, especially since DH wasn't thrilled about trying for another month.


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Well, remember I have hoped in the past that you guys would be in with 2 attempts so I'd make two of them "real" and then the other one do something fun - not necessarily pull out if you aren't into that but maybe oral (sorry TMI!!!) We want your hubby not to feel deprived so he'll keep going with the plan.

[maximbella]

Atomic, that's exactly what I'm planing. [emoji6] DH has been so good about another month, so didn't want to ruin this trip for him by being too crazy about TTC or swaying. We actually didn't even BD last night, long story but we got so excited to be out without kids that we got too drink and passed out. [emoji12]. So I will get two attempts - one tonight and one tomorrow.


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[Shannshaff]

Hope you enjoy your trip Max!!! Have fun. Life it too short not to enjoy those precious moment we are given with our SO.

[maximbella]

Thank you Shan!! You are so right! It was SUCH a nice treat to be able to spend quality alone time together, which unfortunately doesn't happen often.

I am CD23 today and still haven't O'd. Was really hoping that the R&R would have helped by now, and I've been doing lots of yoga and relaxing to try to avoid another 60 day cycle. My opk's today seem really light. What gives?? My OB said he will do a saline ultrasound if I'm not pregnant after this cycle and possibly start clomid. Not sure I can get another cycle out of DH. [emoji17]


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[atomic sagebrush]

Maxim I saw you were thinking of stopping breakfast on a different thread and I really don't want you to do that. I think you need to stop cutting back any more on diet than you have already.

[maximbella]

Hi atomic! I'm not sure where I wrote that? Breakfast is something I can't give up...I go straight to work after eating and need it so that I can function while I'm in the office. I did give up my 10am snack, which I used to have. Here are the revisions I've made, think these are prolonging my O?

Breakfast: coffee, 2 whole eggs, toast with peanut butter
Lunch: one whole milk brown cow yogurt (added this month), salad and veggie sandwich, Diet Coke (also added) and coffee
Dinner: small portion of salmon or chicken, veggie and carb. Chocolate for dessert.

Also occasionally chewing sugar free gum. Anything stick out to you?


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[atomic sagebrush]

Oh good maybe I misread that.

My whole point was if O is delayed, DON"T be giving up food now. You need it to keep ovulating.

Calories, protein, and fat (particularly protein and fat?)