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Pokster
August 23rd, 2017, 05:57 PM
Hi everyone,

My husband and I are both 37 (few months until 38) and we have decided to try for a girl. We thought we were done with our last son who is 11 months old. Because of our age we are trying to get pg as soon as possible. I have been on a vegetarian diet since June and dh for about a month. I've lost almost 20 lbs (which is exciting just by itself) we are finally ready for the attempt. Our 3 sons were all conceived on one attempt and with abstain very close to or on O day. A long abstain (we aren't frequent bders so it was like once a month or once every 2 months, but I'm not sure how often dh was releasing on his own)

So our plan is to do FR given our ages and one attempt on positive opk. I've been reading to dtd o-2 (two days before O ? Hope that's right terminology) but how do you know what day that is?) We also started the FR yesterday which would put us at 7 releases on CD 11. I wanted to go for 10 releases but I miscalculated. I hope that isn't too problematic. Last month I think I ovulated CD18, but only calculating that because AF was 4 days late. I've only gotten AF back since June because of breastfeeding, so it's hard to say my cycle length. Then in July we had an oops moment and I took plan b and screwed up my cycle. I was planning on also using rephresh. So my questions are, does this sound like a reasonable girl sway? Do you have any tips or see anything that isn't girl friendly? Hopefully I've explained myself well and am not too confusing. I'm just really overwhelmed and nervous. Thanks ladies!


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atomic sagebrush
September 1st, 2017, 12:27 PM
Hi Pokster, sorry I started to reply to this and then I must have got interrupted.

The problem with DTD O-2 is that you honestly DON"T know what day it is. That is why we do the attempt on positive OPK is that it's just an easy way of knowing where to plop that one attempt. If you do have regular cycles you can just aim at a particular day and then cross your fingers that it will work out.

You're really only fertile about 5 days out of the cycle absolute max, and really more like 2-3 days is much more realistic. So when you say "We got our sons on or around ovulation" well, that is when EVERYONE gets their sons because that is when people get pregnant! My point is, just try not to get too hung up on timing because when it was studied using modern technology it was found not to work anyway.

FR has not been super effective anyway so there is no difference between 7 and 10 releases.

RepHresh is totally at your option.

Diet, exercise, and one attempt are the things that have worked and breastfeeding also seems to help. Sounds like you're on target for a good attempt, sending you tons of pink dust. :)

Pokster
September 1st, 2017, 12:48 PM
Hi Pokster, sorry I started to reply to this and then I must have got interrupted.

The problem with DTD O-2 is that you honestly DON"T know what day it is. That is why we do the attempt on positive OPK is that it's just an easy way of knowing where to plop that one attempt. If you do have regular cycles you can just aim at a particular day and then cross your fingers that it will work out.

You're really only fertile about 5 days out of the cycle absolute max, and really more like 2-3 days is much more realistic. So when you say "We got our sons on or around ovulation" well, that is when EVERYONE gets their sons because that is when people get pregnant! My point is, just try not to get too hung up on timing because when it was studied using modern technology it was found not to work anyway.

FR has not been super effective anyway so there is no difference between 7 and 10 releases.

RepHresh is totally at your option.

Diet, exercise, and one attempt are the things that have worked and breastfeeding also seems to help. Sounds like you're on target for a good attempt, sending you tons of pink dust. :)

Thanks atomic, I'm just nervous. I want to get pregnant and I'm afraid at my age I don't have many chances left! But I also want a girl!! So I haven't gotten a positive opk yet and ran out of tests, so I'm off to the store today. I'm on CD15 so I'm guessing I'm ovulating later than I'm used to before I had my last son. I guess I just need reassurance that I'm on the right track. Your response is so much appreciated and enlightening as always!


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atomic sagebrush
September 1st, 2017, 03:09 PM
Trust me - if you've had babies in the past, especially within the last few years, being 37 is NOT a big deal.

You are on the right track!! Stay the course, things are going in the right direction here.