Genetics - stupid question

[sa76]

Hello, I am not sure if this is the right place to post this but I try and if anyone thinks it should be moved somewhere, please tell me.
Where to begin...I have two healthy boys. Last year we started for child no. 3. Ended in week 12 with a ma :( Tried again in february, an in march I got pregnant. Had bleedings and thought a hundred times, this is the end. But at ultrasound, the heartbeat was fine and then we went on holidays. Came back and it was week 14., I was for another ultrasound at the doctor. He could not find the head of the baby and the stomach was not like it had to be. Two days later I had a date at a university hospital to check and there the doctor found out I am pregnant with siamese twins :( No chance for them to be born healthy. One week later I had to give them birth. This was 3 month ago. Yesterday I got the results from the auto biopsy. The twins would have been girls. I fell into that deep depression, that I would have had two girls if everything went right. Now I am thinking, and thinking, and thinking and wonder if there are any reliable studies about some people can just have one gender. In situations like this you think about everything. But on the other hand, the doctor said that siamese twins are a bad mood of nature - so I'm not sure if I should bring a connection to the fact that it would have been girls.
Oh, and by the way - I had 3 attempts for sure when I got pregnant. I had a look when I got my boys, I only had one ore two. And the last time I had the ma, the month I got pregnant we also had 3/4 attempts. Has anyone some informations about this "you can only have one type of gender"? Sorry for the bad english ;)
Thank you....

[Throwaway_panther]

I am so, so sorry for your losses. Conjoined twins are so exceptionally rare, there's definitely no link to be made there.

The absolute slimmest possibility of not carrying a certain sex is in a SUPER rare condition, and it's trouble carrying boys (and as I've learned, the mother physically presents symptoms, too, like with hearing impairment and short stature, so it's not something that would happen without SOME sort of signs outside of miscarriage).

So no, there is no genetic or scientific reason thus far. It is a painful positive, but you DID conceive girls; you did CARRY girls. You just had the absolutely horrendous misfortune to have conjoined twins. Which is a random mutation in the same way some cancers are, identical twins, etc. It's just random, and in this case, awful.

Again, I am so sorry for your experience. But please take heart knowing that you did nothing to cause this.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh SA I am so sorry to hear all this.

As far as we know according to modern science, everyone can have both genders. There is a very, very rare situation where women have one faulty X chromosome and so half the boys they have will die or have a serious health condition. But there is NO known reason why women could not carry girls because girls have TWO X chromosomes, so if something was wrong on the X chromosome, the father gives a backup X (and his has to be good, since he only has one, and HE would be ill if there was something wrong with his X chromosome.)

I know of many, many women who have repeat losses who have both boys and girls. Whatever causes repeat losses is certainly not linked to gender for most people.

I want to echo what Panther says - what happened was a freak accident and so unbelievably rare. There are both boy and girl conjoined twins and it has nothing to do with the gender. I think your doctor has it right in that it is simply a bad mood of nature.

The number of attempts is only something that just helps a bit. It's no guarantee and it has nothing to do with you not being able to conceive or carry a particular gender.

I am so heartbroken for you - please let us know how we can help.

[sa76]

Thanks to both of you. I'm a little bit calmed down now. I was a little afraid because I have read different things about that. We decided to make a break and then start again next year. And hopefully get a healthy baby - I had this strong wish of a girl, but after this all, I just want a healthy one...Thank you once more for your warm words!
Sabrina

[atomic sagebrush]

Please try to keep in mind that there are people onliine, and not a small number of them, sadly - who like terrifying other people. And additionally there are medical professionals who still believe info they heard in 1963 (or someone who taught them heard in 1963). I PROMISE that you can carry girls and that nothing you did caused this in any way. :heart:

[sa76]

This is exactly what I found out the last half year searching for different things at the www. A lot of people online who have not a clue from all these things they are answering. I am so happy that I have found this platform and I have a very good feeling reading your answers, posts and recommendations because I does really not sound like "things I have read 1963" :) Thanks a lot!

[DreamingRainbow]

Sa76, I am so sorry for your loss. I recently had my 3rd mmc, this one was doscovered at my routine 17 week hospital app.
This last baby was a boy and I have wondered if I am unable to carry boys (I have 2 girls)

It's so great to find this forum with what seems to be sound, solid, factual information. And people who genuinely want to help others, not scare.

I just wanted to wish you luck and lots of pink dust for whenever u decide to ttc.

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[atomic sagebrush]

Dreaming, no one is unable to carry boys. Some women (a very few) have some type of rare genetic condition where half their sons will carry a mutation on the X chromosome. But that is only half the time. The other half of the time, the X is good and all is well. So even if you were one of those people, you can still have and carry sons.

[DreamingRainbow]

Dreaming, no one is unable to carry boys. Some women (a very few) have some type of rare genetic condition where half their sons will carry a mutation on the X chromosome. But that is only half the time. The other half of the time, the X is good and all is well. So even if you were one of those people, you can still have and carry sons.Very interesting atomic as my mam and some friends are asking me if maybe I can't carry boys.

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[atomic sagebrush]

People like to say that (again, one of those inexplicable things) but it isn't true.