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[Rabbitmama85]

Now on cycle 6 and what was a loose attempt to sway blue, is just done and over with. Now the goal is to just get pregnant.

I'm so upset being back at CD1. All my core friends are pregnant, one only had her IUD out for less than a full cycle, and now my SIL is ttc. If we can't get pregnant doing everything "the right way", I feel like there's no chance of a boy even happening.

DH is opposed to doing tests, because he thinks that "knowing something is wrong" will upset me more than continuing to try....but every month it doesn't happen, I get more and more upset anyway. I feel like if results came back at the worst they could be, at least I could let go of all the extra stuff I'm doing...the charting, acupuncture, opks, perfectly timed multiple attempts....and we could just go back to enjoying each other without the extra stress of "should I lay still in this uncomfortable position for 30 minutes" or "can I make myself O one more time"

I'm overweight and unhappy with how I look, and I've been afraid to lose weight and to work on that in case it messed up my sway. It's been a constant battle, but maybe this is the sign that I should just take care of myself and let what happens happen....but that doesn't mean that I can ignore all my cycle signs. Even without an app, I know what's going on, it's pretty obvious when you do it enough times.

I think I'm at this point of "is there anything I haven't done already? Is it me? Is it him? and Could there be an easy fix?"

[ksmom]

Even though it may feel like it, six months is not a long time of TTC. It's still within the normal range since it can take up to a year to conceive for healthy couples. I know how defeating it can feel to have many well timed attempts and still not be pregnant. Hang in there.

You always have a chance at a boy, swaying or not. Lots of blue dust to you!

[Throwaway_panther]

Don't worry about "the right way." There's even a Dutch study that showed women who took longer to get pregnant had more boys. And the "How we got our boys" shows, too, that there might be some core things that helped women get sons, but there is definitely variety. And there's always just odds.

I empathize, though. We've decided to take a month break to regroup because, while I haven't had trouble getting pregnant, I've lost 5 babies in a year trying to get my son. 3 in the last 6 months. I've scheduled an IVF consult because I can't bear another loss, and I'd be lying if I said I still didn't want a boy more than anything.

I think breaks are good. For what it's worth, in all of my compounding of internet research, tons of people end up finally pregnant when they either say, "I'm done" or just take a break.

I'm thinking of you! The weight, the frustration, the envy. I'm right there with you. I'm hoping we get through this with the end result of our boys!

[Would luv a son3]

Omg I totally hear you! My husband and I have been trying for 7 cycles and nothing. I have two beautiful DD and I wanted my kids to be close but it doesn’t look like that’s going to happen any time soon. I am also on my second round of clomid and if next month I don’t get pregnant on my third round I will have to see an RE. I feel for you.

[atomic sagebrush]

I am so sorry Rabbit - I will say that we did just have a swayer on here who gained too much, took a break and lost weight and still got a boy so don't feel like you can't do that.

I have never had more than one O and I have all boys. I can't imagine anything worse for a love life than feeling pressure to have more than one O (or even one) if you don't want to.

[atomic sagebrush]

I am so sorry Rabbit - I will say that we did just have a swayer on here who gained too much, took a break and lost weight and still got a boy so don't feel like you can't do that.

I have never had more than one O and I have all boys. I can't imagine anything worse for a love life than feeling pressure to have more than one O (or even one) if you don't want to.

I urge you to let go of the things that are bothering u the most starting with acupuncture since that is something that has to be hard to logistically squeeze in. I think the best thing is to just let go of the things that aren't working. :heart:

[squigglepink]

Im totally where you are! We've been trying for 10 months.. sigh! Had my second son just over 3 years ago and fell pregnant easily with both of them.. And now i just feel defeated month after month.
I also miscarried a year ago and just cant fall pregnant again. Ive had so many tests and US's and doctors visits but no luck. I even started exercising 5 days per week almost 2 months ago to change things up a bit. I am desperate for a daughter but we just need to do our thing to get pregnant at all!

Im sorry you are in this situation Rabbit.. if it makes you feel any better we dtd literally every other day when ttc both my boys. I never used opk's just dtd when we felt like it - never multiple or back to back sex just every other day! No particular pattern or supplements or jelly's or anything.. so perhaps letting go of some things you are doing is not such a bad thing after all because, as you say, it might certainly make you feel more relaxed and enjoying the moment with your DH :)

I honestly hope you get your BFP asap.. im in the same boat as you, Good luck to us all :)

[4blue2pink]

im so sorry you are in this position, for what it is worth like squigglepink i also got my 4 boys dtd regularly through the month, no bd schedule, no opk's, no temping or cycle monitoring of any kind, no supps, no jelly's, no big O for me ever because i dont have them, we just bd regularly and figured itd happen at some point, we weren't full on formally "trying for a baby" it was just not trying-not preventing if that makes sense?

it does often seem that when people ttc for ages with nothing happening and then either let go (whatever will be-will be style) or give up on ttc altogether that they fall pregnant fairly quickly, i understand this is much harder to do when you are swaying but maybe letting go of the "extra's" which are only causing stress will really help.

good luck and i hope you get your bfp soon :)

[Rabbitmama85]

We found out today that DH's cholesterol is sky high. We were set to do an analysis, but I think that's probably unnecessary at this point. It's not happening because we are unhealthy.

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm sorry Rabbit - all I can say is to just let go of the stuff that is making you the craziest right now and keep trying in a much more relaxed and sustainable way. :heart: