Atomic need your help please

[jenn1112]

Hi again [emoji4]
I’m only 5dpo but my cervix has dropped low and feel creamy cm and slightly open so I feel like I’m out this month [emoji22]
My cervix stayed high and wet for a few days after O so I was sure it worked but yesterday and today it’s been low and slightly open (but I’ve given birth 4 times so maybe it’s always open?)

My question is for next month if I’m not pregnant how often should we have sex?
We did pretty much E4d—-had sex on CD 8,11,13,16 and I had a positive OPK on day 14 and strong cramps late at night/early morning on the 14th so I was assuming I ovulated very early morning on the 15th.

I guess we should have done it again on the 14th :/
Next month should I go to E4d with extra Attempt at positive opk/or the day I ovulate?
Or do every other day?
Next month would be my 3rd round of clomid after miscarriage and 6th total, so I don’t know if she’d give me anymore after next month.
Should I ask her for more than 50mg of clomid? Pretty sure I am ovulating but the opks don’t seem to work well on clomid (the wondfo opks give me tons of positives and I also used another internet cheapie that gave only one day of an almost positive) any other opk you recommend on clomid?

Thanks again!!!! J


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[atomic sagebrush]

Stay away from your cervix. There is no reason to check your cervix right now and 9 million reasons not to check your cervix. If you are pregnant the last thing you want to be doing is poking around in there.

You don't know that you would have gotten pregnant with BD on teh 14th though. Some months just aren't "THE" month and nothing you do any different could have made it happen.

When are you starting to test with your OPK??

I want you to continue BD after the 16th. YOu may have delayed ovulation (even if you didn't this month, you can next month) and everyone doing e4d needs to continue with e4d well past when they think they Oed to prottect against that.

I do want you in with another attempt at positive OPK. We need to get to the bottom of why you had so many positives - when were you testing???

[jenn1112]

Stay away from your cervix. There is no reason to check your cervix right now and 9 million reasons not to check your cervix. If you are pregnant the last thing you want to be doing is poking around in there.

You don't know that you would have gotten pregnant with BD on teh 14th though. Some months just aren't "THE" month and nothing you do any different could have made it happen.

When are you starting to test with your OPK??

I want you to continue BD after the 16th. YOu may have delayed ovulation (even if you didn't this month, you can next month) and everyone doing e4d needs to continue with e4d well past when they think they Oed to prottect against that.

I do want you in with another attempt at positive OPK. We need to get to the bottom of why you had so many positives - when were you testing???

Oh no, I’ve been checking my cervix so much [emoji30] can I get an infection or something? Now I’m freaking out that I could have hurt baby if I’m pregnant.

I started CD10 testing
Sorry, I didn’t mean tons of “true” positive....I got almost positives (lines looked the same color) many times with the wondfo....but only on day 14 was the other line a tad darker than the control line. On cd 14 I also got the only positive on another test too so I’m pretty sure it was pos cd 14.


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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, you can get an infection and you can just cause general irritation by doing that. Please don't do it any more.

Oh ok I got it. Yeah, those are negatives, don't worry about them!!

[jenn1112]

Thank you.
So just to confirm for next cycle....do E4d and extra attempt at +opk? Do I continue with the E4d after extra attempt at +opk or start over with the attempt at +opk being day 1 of 4? Does that make sense? Or what if my E4d ends up being the attempt on +OPk...do I then add an extra attempt the day after +opk or just leave it at E4d?

This month was E4d and 2 days before +opk and 1 day after (cont e4d) and I’m pretty sure I’m not pregnant. I guess I could be but I’m thinking I’m not :/


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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, do e4d plus one. You don't reset the e4d from the pos OPK attempt, just keep going with the e4d both before and after and then let the pos OPK attempt fall wherever it falls. If your pos OPK falls on the e4d attempt have another attempt anyway, that night if your husband is able to or the next day.

[jenn1112]

Okay will do thank you! So you are saying that day, as in 2 attempts in one day? Not sure my hubby can do 2 in one day but he could do the day after.
Just picked up my 3rd cycle of clomid so hoping 3rd times a charm!


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[jenn1112]

Also, does having an orgasm sway? Should I avoid or does it matter?


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[atomic sagebrush]

Okay will do thank you! So you are saying that day, as in 2 attempts in one day? Not sure my hubby can do 2 in one day but he could do the day after.
Just picked up my 3rd cycle of clomid so hoping 3rd times a charm!


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Yes, or the next day if hubby can't manage. Either way is fine.

FXFXFX that this is it, Jenn! Be sure to take a pregnancy test before starting it though, even if you have what seems like AF do take a test anyway.

[atomic sagebrush]

Also, does having an orgasm sway? Should I avoid or does it matter?


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We don't really know for sure. It's said to, and there is a small trend that the boy parents are more sexual than the girl parents are, but we've done lots of polls and surveys and found lots of women that conceived girls with having the Big O and plenty of women who got boys without them. I have a silly little essay on it here: https://genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/27912-o-no-orgasms-swaying.html

[jenn1112]

Hi Atomic, I posted a question for you somewhere (I think? Because I can’t seem to find it now) just wanted to make sure you saw it. I’m going back to my OB tomorrow and wanted to know if I should ask for a 4th round of clomid (7th total) I’m sure the clomid is making it harder for me to get pregnant from no cm but I can’t help get past the idea that it will help more with a girl. Above all I want healthy and to actually get pregnant though. Thanks for your help!


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[atomic sagebrush]

Well, if you can't find it, it's even harder for me to find it LOL but I'll give it a try. You can always find your old posts by going to the top of the page, clicking "my posts" and then "my threads" to see the threads you've started.

I always recommend Clomid but it's up to you and your OB to decide if it's right for now. The effects still last for a month or even possibly two after stopping it so it's fine to stop it, or have a month or two off from it. I've seen many girls conceived in a month off Clomid or the month a woman stopped Clomid.