Another BD question!

[Ohdeer]

So we’re going to try one attempt (though it’s how I got my boys so a bit nervous!) but should DH be releasing in the build up to that (twice a week or whatever) or should he not bother at all? Have got a bit confused by the stuff on frequency

Also, should I jump and dump? I’m confused abou that. If I have a wee afterwards won’t it just push everything out? TIA

[Parying4agirl]

If hes over 35 abstaining before 1 attempt is not advised.

[atomic sagebrush]

If hes over 35 abstaining before 1 attempt is not advised.

Just to clarify, one attempt is always advised, abstain is not advised for men over 35.

[atomic sagebrush]

You got your boys not because of one attempt, but in SPITE of it.

The annoying answer is, it depends. I can't give a blanket prescription for everyone about frequency without a custom plan and all I can do is reissue the most basic guidelines -

Under 35 - abstain 7-10 days before one attempt
Over 35 and if able to - daily/frequent release (FR) 7-10 days before one attempt
Or for any man who can't do FR/couples that need higher chance of conception right from the start, do regular release every 2-4 days before one attempt
Or if hubby won't do any of that just let him "do what he does" and have one attempt.

RE J and D no you can get pregnant even if you get up right away, cook dinner for 60 people, and run a marathon. It does cut odds of conception somewhat, though. We have a compromise where we j and d after 5 minutes to give the swimmers a better chance. You can extend this to 10, 15, or longer over time but most do want to start off with 0-5 min. J and D.

[Ohdeer]

That’s great, thank you. Exactly what I was hoping for - a really clear summary, thanks again :-)