swayers over 35 buddy group

[isobellanext]

Does the macha root sway girls? and where do you order it?

I took it for fertility purposes in the end. On IG it says it sways boys but when I was looking into purchasing the maca most of the reviews were from ladies who had girls when taking it. I bought 100% peruvian natural organic maca root from an online whole food store. It tastes absolutely vile but it clearly works as I caught the first month of using it. Google it and see how many people its helped after years of ttc.

[sweetsister]

Hi isobellanext thats wonderful congratulations! wishing u a happy healthy pregnancy :) are your boys happy your having a girl?I guess your naming her isabella? NIce:)

[sweetsister]

<---peeping in to say hello. Hello all! Are your attempts going well?

Hi Yuzu glad to see you again :flowerz: im a waiting to see if this time will be the lucky one:) few more days to go....

[ILindGurl]

where is everybody?? How are my cycle buddies - mygirl and lemon2012? :)

I'm still in my 2WW....due to my crazy cycle this month and no/late ovulation! I just hope it was just late....and this isn't anovulatory cycle. ARGH! anyone have an anovulatory cycle? how do you know that you didn't ovulate? Thanks.

[KraizyDaizy]

Hi all! I am on CD9 and ready to get this BFP finally! I mean almost 2 years and no baby, come on....!!!

[Yuzu]

Oh, I'm here! I'm in the 2ww (5dpo) but I'm trying not to think about it!:giggle:

[Flava]

Ladies Im back swaying and just remembered this group. (shame on me) maybe some one remember me? Im just on O or it was late last night because it did hurt like hell...now the pain is gone.
Any good news?

[sweetsister]

Another month bites the dust for me ill be trying again in march, hey ilindgurl i havent ovulated a few times i think not sure 100% but i had a very light 2 days spotting and just barely medium flow part of the day which is just the lining so thats one wAY you can tell ,i think without being monitored though its hard to tell?
Im pullin for you KD this is your turn now fx:)
Hi flava glad to see you swaying again yaaay!

[ILindGurl]

I'm out too. AF arrived (late due to the crazy cycle with delayed O) as expected today. The one good thing is I now think I know how long my luteal phase is.....but ugh....this is getting frustrating. Especially since 2 mommy friends announced their pregnancies this week.

[Flava]

sweetsister and Ilind-Im sorry for the bfn :sad: I know it's so sad .
Im in the 2ww and omg if I get a bfn it's so hard to go on and keep on this eating im just getting bigger and bigger! Hate it!!!
Anyone else waiting?

[sweetsister]

Aww sorry :luck::luck::luck::luck::luck:March is a better month to ttc a:babygirl:anyways:)

[myGirl]

where is everybody?? How are my cycle buddies - mygirl and lemon2012? :)

I'm still in my 2WW....due to my crazy cycle this month and no/late ovulation! I just hope it was just late....and this isn't anovulatory cycle. ARGH! anyone have an anovulatory cycle? how do you know that you didn't ovulate? Thanks.

Hi ILindGurl, I'm here, but I am not ready to make an attempt until my next cycle (trying to be good on the diet).... but I really wish I was in the game! Praying you get a BFP soon!

Congratulations isobellanext! I will def. look into the maca root.

sweetsister - sorry you didn't get your BFP this time, but March is the perfect month to ttc :XX:

KraisyDaisy - March is going to be a great month for us, I just know it :)

Yuzu and Flava - good to see you here! I am fairly new, but I'm addicted to this site! I love it here :HH:
Flava... you can have all my blue dust!!!

Anyone hear from Lemon2012 lately?

:luck: Good luck to all my 35+ buddies!! March is going to be good to us, I can feel it!

[sweetsister]

HI mygirl thnxs Yeah i just realized it was march and it was a good girl month,actually i started ttc a girl last summer so this might work out well:)
Ive been thinking of Lemon too i havent heard from her in ages?Lemon where r u:laundrypole:

[Mochagirl]

I've been wondering how lemon's doing too. Maybe she's taking a break to focus on getting that BFP.

[PeonyPrincess]

Lemon is having a break from the forums- you know how it is. She has been crazy busy and is going on a holiday to Florida very soon. She has an ultrasound booked soon to check everything ok as gets some awful O pains and swelling.

[PeonyPrincess]

I have jumped in here occasionally but tend to be a bit slack at times. In April I will be 35, so then I will definitely be here more! I don't have to be 36 to play do I? lol.
I already have a December baby (DS2), so would much prefer to get pg in April and have a Jan baby. However, I am not willing to waste a month TTC, so will just see if it is meant to be.
I remember you Flava. And everyone else. Hoping we don't get tortured any longer by BFNs and everyone has some good news very soon.

[Flava]

What is wrong with awful O pains? Just asking because I had very bad O pains this month and my temp is not going up much so FF wont give me a O day. Never had temps like this before so I don't know what to think. I was sure I O'd but now...?sad

[KraizyDaizy]

are you on Clomid Flava?

[mydream]

Hi all....I'm joining in...just turned 39 :( trying for baby #3, hoping for a girl after a year of HT hell.
Now- swaying and praying
Good luck to everyone!

[Flava]

Im not on clomid.

mydream-hope you get your girl soon! welcome here!

[Chessika]

Hi all,

I am 35 years and swaying for a girl after a failed High Tech attempt. Since my husband has very low sperm count, this is not going to be easy. I just ovulated a few days ago, and I am currently in the second half wait.

My dream: nice to see you! I hope you are ok.

[myGirl]

Welcome mydream, PeonyPrincess and Chessika!

Right after my DS #3 was born, I tried so hard to convince DH to go high-tech for a girl. Back then Microsort was easy to get and I was young enough... we only live about a 2hr. drive from the California office! No amount of begging and cajoling would convince DH. So I tried for YEARS to give up my dream of a DD. I tried to be happy as a mom of boys. But I realized that I had to try again, because that desire never goes away. Here I am at 40 giving it one more shot with a sway.

I think Mar-May is the best time to sway girl, and I expect to see lots of BFPs in this thread soon! :luck:

[mydream]

Thanks Flava-- sending you ALL my blue dust!!!

[HopeandDreamG]

I've been wondering how lemon's doing too. Maybe she's taking a break to focus on getting that BFP.

She's just busy with work and having a hard time keeping up with the threads. That's all!!

[PeonyPrincess]

What is wrong with awful O pains? Just asking because I had very bad O pains this month and my temp is not going up much so FF wont give me a O day. Never had temps like this before so I don't know what to think. I was sure I O'd but now...?sad

Flava, I had 4 days of bad O pains this month and only O on CD18, way later than normal. The pain went away after I O, but I wondered if maybe I had a cyst or something? Not really sure. I was beginning to think I was going to have a month where I got pains and my body geared up to O but then didn't, but eventually my temp spiked. It is supposed to be quite normal for women to have an occasional month with no O.

[Flava]

peony-my temp is higher too today so I hope I did O'd. It was just different this month .I always feel pain on the left side and now it was on the right side what hurt so much and kinda all around me like a ring my lower back hurt so much to mostly on the right.
I just wait and see.

[mydream]

Chessika- great to see you here too. I'm doing ok...swaying and praying at this point..
sending you so much luck!!!

[Flava]

Chessika -welcome! Hope you get your girl soon too!!

[KraizyDaizy]

Cd14 and impatiently waiting on my O to get here!!!

[Chessika]

Thank you all for the warm welcome! I am 5dpo and have very mixed feelings. On the one hand I would love to give my son a sibling, because he is already 4 years old. But on the other hand I am already scared of having GD again. I don´t feel my sway has been good. And after trying with HT this is all a big gamble for me. Would be testing 9dpo too soon?

[KraizyDaizy]

Thank you all for the warm welcome! I am 5dpo and have very mixed feelings. On the one hand I would love to give my son a sibling, because he is already 4 years old. But on the other hand I am already scared of having GD again. I don´t feel my sway has been good. And after trying with HT this is all a big gamble for me. Would be testing 9dpo too soon?

Welcome Chessika! I am a :poas: and started at 8DPO last cycle and it just made me a basket case, so you would think I would be leaning more towards testing later, but no, I will probably torture myself again this cycle. I would use some very good tests like FRER and not the internet cheapies if I were testing at 9DPO. Many blessings to you and your little pink dream.:ballerina:

[mydream]

Chessika -
I know how you are feeling..the mixed emotions...
I am pulling for you !

[KraizyDaizy]

WARNING TMI....

Okay ladies, how much does blood affect your PH? Last month somehow I got an "owie" or hurt myself down there while DTD and had some blood show up. Thought maybe it was O spotting, but I beleive it was Atomic who set me straight that I probably got an "owie" instead. Well last night we did not DTD till this AM and well after there was some blood? He is not rough so I really don't know how it happened. Will this wreck my chances cause the PH will be out of girly range? Can you bleed or spot and have any chances of getting preggers? In despiration, I had him give me a sample in a cup and insert it after I cleaned myself up a bit so maybe that sample might have a chance in there?? I know the cup gives me more chances of a boy, but at this point if I cannot get pregnant, there is no chance of a girl either.

[Flava]

KD- for sure you have a chance for a girl! Ph don't really matter I don't think there is really girly or boyish pH .And why would a cup use have more chance for a boy? Just because it's hold the sperms inside? I think it gives more chance for a bfp not for a boy.

[KraizyDaizy]

KD- for sure you have a chance for a girl! Ph don't really matter I don't think there is really girly or boyish pH .And why would a cup use have more chance for a boy? Just because it's hold the sperms inside? I think it gives more chance for a bfp not for a boy.

Well I have read that you need to lower sperm count and that is supposed to give more girls a chance, so the cup would pool them all together making more boys heading for the egg. But I think my DH swimmers are low so I am doing whatever I can to just get pregnant at this point.

I got pregnant with my last two boys with cups, thinking they swayed girl, but only the Diva's are supposed to, but with my retro-flexed or tilted uterus, my cervix just does not seem to fit well with the Diva and only the Instead Soft Cups work for me. I just think this is my time to have a girl so I am trying anything right now.

[Flava]

Well if it makes you feel better I did MSU with IC on Ig for a boy and got a girl! So cup don't matter lol

[KraizyDaizy]

Well if it makes you feel better I did MSU with IC on Ig for a boy and got a girl! So cup don't matter lol

Flava, you just know how to make a girl feel better about her sway LOL!!!

[Son4meplz]

Hi Everyone,

Glad to find this thread for over 35 swayers, thanks for starting this. I would like to join this group. I am 36 and will be 37 in July. I am TTC boy and have been wishing for a boy since 2007. There were lot of family and other issues in the past but this year i am all set to do my attempt. Rest is in god's hands ...i'm going to chase him to grant me my wish.

We actually did our attempt today and i am freaking about the timing. I posted my question in a separate thread and then saw this one. So, i am postig it here too...plz share your opinions.


Yesterday night around 12 PM, i got smiley face and so, as planned decided to do my attempt right then and there. Everything was going perfect but just before my hubby could finish, my daughter started crying...we tried to hurry...but he could not concentrate and i had to go. I spent almost 45 mins to put her back to sleep and after that my hubby could not perform

I then decided to just skip this month n we just went to sleep. However, in the morning i just couldn't handle missing/skipping another month and so decided to give it another try. Long story short, we BD'd around 12:30 PM today...almost 12-13 hrs after first Smiley face. Earlier my plan was to BD ASAP once i get smiley. I'm not sure when do i ovulate after +OPK. Though my LH surge went negative around 3 PM. Was i too late??

Also, what about the swimmers from last night...which he could not release....is that good or bad for TTC boy?? I had 2 big O last night but only one okay one today...and overall, we were not happy with everything ...so it was not as hot as we had thought.

I'm really freaking out thinking that i must be in the GIRL zone O time wise?? Plz share your honest opinions.

[mydream]

Welcome Son4meplz- I don't really have an answer to your ? but I know that someone will chime in and help to alleviate your worries. Good Luck and I am sending you tons and tons of Blue Dust! I know that when I conceived both my boys I dtd alot...at the first sign of ovulation- all the way through, but truly I am not sure timing matters

[sweetsister]

Hi Everyone,

Glad to find this thread for over 35 swayers, thanks for starting this. I would like to join this group. I am 36 and will be 37 in July. I am TTC boy and have been wishing for a boy since 2007. There were lot of family and other issues in the past but this year i am all set to do my attempt. Rest is in god's hands ...i'm going to chase him to grant me my wish.

We actually did our attempt today and i am freaking about the timing. I posted my question in a separate thread and then saw this one. So, i am postig it here too...plz share your opinions.


Yesterday night around 12 PM, i got smiley face and so, as planned decided to do my attempt right then and there. Everything was going perfect but just before my hubby could finish, my daughter started crying...we tried to hurry...but he could not concentrate and i had to go. I spent almost 45 mins to put her back to sleep and after that my hubby could not perform

I then decided to just skip this month n we just went to sleep. However, in the morning i just couldn't handle missing/skipping another month and so decided to give it another try. Long story short, we BD'd around 12:30 PM today...almost 12-13 hrs after first Smiley face. Earlier my plan was to BD ASAP once i get smiley. I'm not sure when do i ovulate after +OPK. Though my LH surge went negative around 3 PM. Was i too late??

Also, what about the swimmers from last night...which he could not release....is that good or bad for TTC boy?? I had 2 big O last night but only one okay one today...and overall, we were not happy with everything ...so it was not as hot as we had thought.

I'm really freaking out thinking that i must be in the GIRL zone O time wise?? Plz share your honest opinions.

Hi ,and welcome:)
well in my own experience and many others i have talked with i have conceived 2 boys with complete opposite/different timing frequency seasons moon signs ect!!The only constant was diet ive always eaten boy friendly and with both i was gaining weight,catch my drift....So if you are on the boy diet? i wouldnt worry about timing,my thinking is it is more a lifestyle.

[ILindGurl]

In the 2WW. Going for my progesterone level test tomorrow -- I hope it shows that I'm ovulating and no hormone issues...I'm so nervous...and conflicted. On the one hand I hope there are no hormonal issues, but on the other hand hoping they do discover something to explain why we aren't getting BFP. Meanwhile 2 more people on facebook announced their pregnancies this week. Makes me sad....I don't have much more time to try (maybe 3 mos or so). I'm starting to think that No 3...just isn't meant to be....and I'm not even swaying at all anymore! ARGH.

This place has been pretty quiet....how is everybody else doing??

[mydream]

I am now on my second attempt and swaying !!! Due to Ovulate in about 3-4 days...I hope this is it. I just turned 39! :(
Hang in there ILindGurl...it will happen!!!!

[myGirl]

I am 1dpo on my first month attempting.

Ilundgirl, how is everything going? Hope to hear from you soon!

Good luck to all the mature mamas!


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[mydream]

In the 2ww now - about 5dpo and have some sore boobs...hmmmm...hard to know ..preg or PMS...
I hate that the symptoms are the same....ugh
Mygirl-- when will you POAS? Good LUCK!!!

[KraizyDaizy]

the TWW is just pure hell I think....4DPO here and losing my mind....

[mydream]

the TWW is just pure hell I think....4DPO here and losing my mind....

Great! We are 2ww buddies! Wishing you soooo much luck!

[KraizyDaizy]

Mydream I am glad to have a TWW buddy to share all my roller coaster emotions about testing. Should I test early, should I wait? I don't know, but I have only one FRER left and a bunch of digitals, so I am thinking I am waiting LOL

What about you?

[mydream]

Kraizy-I have 2 FRER's left !! I think I'm gonna test Thursday..... By then I should be 10 dpo.

[KraizyDaizy]

I am still just not sure when to test. Have you felt any implantation pains or twinges? I keep on thinking I should feel something?

[Flava]

Good luck in the 2ww!

[KraizyDaizy]

thanks so much Flava! Congrats on your pregnancy. I just noticed you ticker. Blue vibes your way.

[mydream]

I am still just not sure when to test. Have you felt any implantation pains or twinges? I keep on thinking I should feel something?

I thought I felt something but who knows... I seriously hope this is our month!!!

[KraizyDaizy]

what did you feel? I am curious?

[myGirl]

Hi girls! I am 8 dpo today and I'm so sure I'm pg! I hate this wait! I have sore boobs, daily headaches, gas and been feeling twinges in my uterus. Of course I also keep thinking its all in my head... ahhhh!

I was planning on testing Wed. at 10 dpo, but I will probably test tomorrow (9 dpo). Does anyone know how to use a opk as a clue to pg?

I'm so happy this 2ww will be over soon.


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[KraizyDaizy]

Hi girls! I am 8 dpo today and I'm so sure I'm pg! I hate this wait! I have sore boobs, daily headaches, gas and been feeling twinges in my uterus. Of course I also keep thinking its all in my head... ahhhh!

I was planning on testing Wed. at 10 dpo, but I will probably test tomorrow (9 dpo). Does anyone know how to use a opk as a clue to pg?

I'm so happy this 2ww will be over soon.


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All I know about using OPK's as HPT is all here on this site Pee On A Stick ~ OPK's as HPT's (http://www.peeonastick.com/opkhpt.html) I hope it helps! Best of luck to you!!!

[myGirl]

Thanks Kraisy! A lot of great info on that site. It looks like HPTs are much more sensitive than OPKs, so best to stick to the HPTs.

At what dpo are you going to test?


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[KraizyDaizy]

I really don't want to be disappointed and I figure as long as my AF is not here, then there is that possibility I might be pregnant, so I am not sure. If I do probably at 10dpo or 11dpo, unless I cave sooner, but of course I only have 1 FRER left and I know the Clear Blue Easy Digitals are not that sensitive, so I don't know what I will do. I am just hoping to feel some cramping or something. Did you cramp any yet? and did you have a implantation dip yet if you are BBT charting?

[myGirl]

I don't chart, so I don't know my temps. I have felt some twinges in my uterus, but just a few. I know what you mean about not wanting to test too early and be disappointed. If I test before 10dpo, I will have to give myself the big pep talk about not believing negative results, not getting down.

I really hope this is our month-- I definitely have a good feeling about it for all us girls with the daisies in our avatars!


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[mydream]

what did you feel? I am curious?
I thought I felt some cramping...but it was probably more intestinal...I don't know..
its probably wishful thinking

[KraizyDaizy]

mydream how many DPO are you?

[mydream]

Kraizy- I think I am 6 dpo- I think I Ovulated sometime late Tuesday night. Not totally sure though.

[KraizyDaizy]

Kraizy- I think I am 6 dpo- I think I Ovulated sometime late Tuesday night. Not totally sure though.

do you BBT?

[mydream]

No... I just really know my body... Signs etc. as well as early wed AM I had no more smiley face on OPK and no more O pains. But I could be wrong

[5 Gorgeousboyz]

Good luck mydream...hope to hear your bfp!!!!!!!!!

[mydream]

ahhh I feel like I am going crazy ...I just want to know if I am pregnant or not already

[myGirl]

mydream, I am right there with you.

I am 10DPO and got a BFN this morning. I feel totally defeated but on the other hand there is that nagging feeling that I didn't time O correctly. I don't temp., just use opks and O pains to estimate O. I had O pains CD 11-13 and a positive OPK CD 12 AM, so I assumed my LH surge started the night before, and O was CD 12. BUT, I could have O'd CD 13 just as easily. That would make me only 9 DPO today.

There is a part of me that says "what in the world were you thinking - you're 40 - it will take forever to get PG." The other part of me says I am just testing too early.

The days and hours are dragging on, and I feel hyper-aware of all the little girls and babies around me. I am going to try to stay off GD and get immersed in a book or activity.

[mydream]

mydream, I am right there with you.

I am 10DPO and got a BFN this morning. I feel totally defeated but on the other hand there is that nagging feeling that I didn't time O correctly. I don't temp., just use opks and O pains to estimate O. I had O pains CD 11-13 and a positive OPK CD 12 AM, so I assumed my LH surge started the night before, and O was CD 12. BUT, I could have O'd CD 13 just as easily. That would make me only 9 DPO today.

There is a part of me that says "what in the world were you thinking - you're 40 - it will take forever to get PG." The other part of me says I am just testing too early.

The days and hours are dragging on, and I feel hyper-aware of all the little girls and babies around me. I am going to try to stay off GD and get immersed in a book or activity.


I completely understand the way you are feeling but honestly just b/c you are 40 does not mean it will take you months and months to get pregnant.. hang in there...it could just be too early to have tested. did you dtd even when OPK was negative after it being positive? (((HUGS)))

[myGirl]

Thanks mydream!!! It's so nice to be in this together :heart:

We dtd CD 5, 6, 7, 9, 10 and 12. Positive OPK was CD 12 in A.M.

[KraizyDaizy]

mygirl and mydream how long have you been ttc? me about 2 years and I am so over the TWW!

[mydream]

mygirl and mydream how long have you been ttc? me about 2 years and I am so over the TWW!

I started my HT journey a year ago. I know this is only my second month ttc naturally but I feel like all I have been doing is waiting and waiting... Its been a long and painful year for me. I am extremely emotional this AM...like I could cry in a second...
I pray it happens for you very, very soon!! (((HUGS)))

[KraizyDaizy]

I started my HT journey a year ago. I know this is only my second month ttc naturally but I feel like all I have been doing is waiting and waiting... Its been a long and painful year for me. I am extremely emotional this AM...like I could cry in a second...
I pray it happens for you very, very soon!! (((HUGS)))

Mydream, those darn hormones make us crazy! I am sorry you are feeling like you could cry. I understand completely. It has been a hard journey for me as well. You would think after 4 boys, I could get pregnant easily, but no, this daughter is taking forever, so in my mind I keep thinking that is the reason, because it will be my pink dream finally. I don't want to test at all. I thought I would be biting at the bit dying to test, but I not because I just feel like I will be disappointed again.

Lord, please watch over mydream today and help her through these crying emotions. Bless her womb with the pink dream she has been longing for. In your name I pray, AMEN...

[ILindGurl]

mydream, I am with you! This is so frustrating! My doctor calls it "the funky forties" and said that everything does the opposite of what you'd expect. She said the big thing is to have patience....I'm trying, but like you said it's so so hard! Kraizy, 2 years? I am in awe of your patience and perseverance -- that is amazing! Oh I hope you get your BPF this month, you sooo deserve it!

So I've been a little MIA. I had another chemical last month :( So that makes 2 chemicals in 3 months, since I stopped swaying. I guess the positive part is that egg & sperm are meeting...but they are not sticking. I've been told that at 40 someething like 40% of conceptions will miscarry due to genetic/chromosomal/old egg issues. They tested my progesterone at 7dpo last month and it was 23.4, which I guess is ok. My cycle is regular so they don't think it's the problem, no issues with spotting, LP is 13 days. My doctor says it's just a matter of waiting patiently for that good egg to come along...and that the chemicals are probably due to chromosomal abnormalities. She said I could have an ultrasound to see what the follicles look like before O (how many are there, how mature, etc) but I couldn't bring myself go this month...I honestly don't know if whatever I would learn from the procedure would be helpful at this point. If I learn that my fertility isn't so great which is what she said to expect at 40, It might just make me feel worse and give up hope all together.

I'm pretty sure I ovulated yesterday since CM changed from EWCM to watery, but not 100%. I decided this month to try and relax, no OPK testing...I honestly don't think it's in the cards for us at this point, but I'm going to try a bit longer. As much as I would love a little girl to join our family, I'm leaving it in fate/Gods hands, and would just feel so fortunate to get a healthy babe at this point!

Let's hope April is our month!! GL ladies!! :cheerteam:

[mydream]

Lord, please watch over mydream today and help her through these crying emotions. Bless her womb with the pink dream she has been longing for. In your name I pray, AMEN...

That was SO SWEET. Thank you from the bottom of my heart!! I am praying for you as well!

[mydream]

ILindGurl- if 40% will be abnormal...look at it this way..60% will be normal and that is a way higher number and the odds are more in your favor!

I pray this works for ALL of us...being 39 S**KS!!! I wish I hadn't wasted a year of my natural fertility on HT....so sad :(

[KraizyDaizy]

When I went for my 21-day progesterone test yesterday, I mentioned to my OB nurse that I thought I was getting too old to get pregnant, pushing 40 and all and she looked at me and said, "oh, no you are not, we have a lady pregnant that is 49....49"! I about fell out of the blood stick chair! So this being said, we can do this again! Time is not in our favor, but it can still happen at 49 for sure. I have never known anyone that old personally, but my nurse telling me this made me feel like we all still have a chance at our pink dreams. Don't give up, cause after two years I still want my daughter more than anything and I am not giving up.

Rooting and praying and cheering you all on! We will make this happen!!!!

[ILindGurl]

wow -- 49? That has to be pretty unusual. Thanks, Kraizy, for sharing that...it does give me hope! GL on your progesterone tests results!!!

and thank you mydream for also pointing out the positive that 60% of conceptions should be good...so maybe it is a matter of just waiting for the right egg! Try not to regret the past, you were genuinely trying another method of conception and had no idea if it would be successful or not. The good thing about the longer we wait to conceive is that from what I've read something like 2/3rds of the babies of women over 40 are girls. So odds are getting even better for us :)

Praying for all of us that we get pink BFPs this month!

[myGirl]

Hi girls, I'm not all the way caught up yet- been offline a day and a half due to migraine.

I got a BFN today so I went ahead and took my strong migraine drugs (Relpax). I feel sooo much better and actually happy about bfn, because I was so sick. I think the waiting while having so many pg symptoms was what made me crazy this 2ww. I dont know why I had such sore boobs, they aren't sore today.... AF is due in 2 days. And daily headaches that never subsided... Stupid Tylenol never works for me.

This is my first month TTC, and we had so many attempts, O pains were super strong and boobs so sore later, I really had myself convinced I was PG! I might need to change my name to KraisyGirl LOL.

Just want to let you know girls, I'm praying for you all to get BFPs. :heart:


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[mydream]

Mygirl- sorry you are suffering from migraine..I hope you feel better and the meds give you some relief. Maybe it was too early to test. I would not count yourself out just yet. I am keeping my fingers crossed for you!

[ILindGurl]

awww, mygirl -- headaches/migraines are the worst! hope you are over the worst and feel better!!

[mydream]

I haven't tested yet today...I just don't know if I am gonna do it or hold out

[ILindGurl]

Did you test, or decide wait? I know, always a tough decision!! thinking of you....

[mydream]

Did you test, or decide wait? I know, always a tough decision!! thinking of you....
decided to wait..will test Sunday (tomorrow) for sure... wish me luck PLEASE!!!!

[mydream]

Its a BFP!!! I think I am in utter shock right now!!!
The line is not super dark but I didn't have a lot of pee this AM- (TMI) but its totally there.

[Mochagirl]

Wow - congrats, mydream!!!!

[Flava]

mydream yeyyy you can have lot's of pink dust from here!

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[Flava]

Now get a ticker !

[ILindGurl]

:omg: YAY, MYDREAM!!! I am sooooo happy for you!!! You deserve this and I pray it is a pink bean for you! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy :bigsmile:
p.s. when you have a chance post your sway for us

[mydream]

Thanks so much everyone....I posted on a few of the other forums too but feel like I need to say it more than once..."thank you all so much for all the support. You are an amazing group of women and I am so lucky."

[mydream]

: when you have a chance post your sway for us

I will, for sure!

[KraizyDaizy]

Congrats mydream! I am so happy for you. How many dpo are you?

[mydream]

Congrats mydream! I am so happy for you. How many dpo are you?
Thanks!I am either 10 or 11...I think 11 though.

oops had to edit this..I meant think I'm either 11 or 12..I am getting all confused with the dates...sorry

[mydream]

well, this AM got a negative on FRER..what now?

[KraizyDaizy]

well, this AM got a negative on FRER..what now?

I would get blood work done.

[ILindGurl]

I'm sorry. When is AF due? Maybe you didn't have enough urine this am? or the test was somehow damaged?

I would wait (and test each day) until AF is suppose to arrive. That is your best bet. If it comes, then I think you probably had a chemical. But, if it stays away, then see your doctor to test to confirm a pregnancy. Hang in there....after my 2 chemicals I know how disappointing this feels right now...but you still might be preggers...so don't count yourself out just based on one test. OK?

[mydream]

ok ,retested with FRER ( bought new box)..the results are the same as yesterday.
Im gonna call dr. to do bloods...AF was due either Saturday or Sunday

[ILindGurl]

oh, good!!! yes, I would go see your doctor and have the blood tests!! GL!!

[KraizyDaizy]

how are you mydream?

[myGirl]

I read about your chemical, mydream. I am so sorry. Praying for you... I read that a chemical will sway pink.

IlundGirl and Kraisy, how are you girls doing? Hoping AF stays away!

I had lots of PG symptoms and AF came 2 days late. I hope it was the Vitex affecting my cycle. This time, I am not going to trust any PG symptoms... it just plays with my mind!

[ILindGurl]

Hi mygirl -- I have ZERO symptoms this month...AF should arrive next week. ARGH. Oh well...will just keep on trying (at least a few more months)...I honestly don't think it's meant to be for us...sucks.

[myGirl]

Don't give up hope ILindGirl! Over and over I see girls here getting BFP on the month they have no symptoms, or they think AF is coming.

:luck:


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[KraizyDaizy]

Temp is below cover-line and spotting so AF is here I think.

[mydream]

Ohhh kraizy I sorry :(.
I pray We are gonna get a BFP next month!!

[KraizyDaizy]

thanks so much mydream, I pray for BFPs in May as well. Wanted a Christmas baby, but a New Years baby will suffice.

[mydream]

thanks so much mydream, I pray for BFPs in May as well. Wanted a Christmas baby, but a New Years baby will suffice.
Meeee too! I was so praying for that as well, but I agree New Years is great too! (((HUGS)))

[KraizyDaizy]

:hug2:s mydream!!!!

[Mum23boys]

Bumping for those who were asking about a group :-)

[Yuzu]

I'm always losing forums...sigh. I can't remember if I've ever posted here.

edited to add: I HAVE posted here. I'm a crazy lady. But next time I probably won't be swaying. I'll be going high tech (maybe. I told you I was crazy), so maybe this isn't the appropriate place for me.

[The Anchor]

Thanks for bumping...I didn't know this one existed. And showed up at the most opportune time cuz I just got back from my prenatal appt and I got the whole "over 35" lecture about downs syndrome and other chromosomal defects...and now I'm STRESSED. What was I thinking? I'll be 40 soon, and I'm still having kids? Doc says something like 1 in 85. My nuchal screen is in 3 weeks and of course I was offered the amnio but I have always turned it down because of the 1 in 200 chance of miscarriage. You know there's really nothing anyone can say to ease my fears either.

Just venting...if anyone has any similiar experiences would love to hear them!

[HopeandDreamG]

Anchor- your not going to like what I have to say. I conceived DD with downs. I was 35. I did the cvs which is supposed to be less risky then amnio.

My bloods came back like 1 in 20. I was the one it happened to. My heart is still broken. If u would have a baby regardless of chromosome issues then don't even bother testing.

[The Anchor]

Anchor- your not going to like what I have to say. I conceived DD with downs. I was 35. I did the cvs which is supposed to be less risky then amnio.

My bloods came back like 1 in 20. I was the one it happened to. My heart is still broken. If u would have a baby regardless of chromosome issues then don't even bother testing.

I'm sorry H&D,
But, thanks for your post, I do appreciate it. Apologies if I am prying and feel free to tell me to MMOB - but did you terminate? I have never tested in the past because I had no intention of doing so, but I do understand people who do, and might even be there myself because of my age.

Were you swaying? It probably doesn't make a difference one way or the other...just that I was swaying for egg health this time around, not boy or girl. So RJ/BP, folic acid, fish oil, all those.

Hugs to you...

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

Anchor, I've been thinking about the same thing. I'm only 7 weeks, but this is baby number 5. And it may sound horrible, but there is no way I can take care of a child with special needs on top of the 4 I already have. I'm really debating on cvs. I have to talk to my doc when I see her at the end of this week. This is scary stuff.

[The Anchor]

We can only get CVS here if we have a history of chromosomal defect. So amnio is my only option, which I will do if my nuchal comes back with a high chance. And amnio is at like 18 weeks! I am freaking out a bit...let's hold hands.

[n710]

Hi Ladies, Do they automatically suggest an aminio or CVS if you are over 35? I know with my last they did that 13 week nuchal, but that seems standard now. I usually see midwives so I bet they really wouldn't offer the extra tests.

[The Anchor]

Hi Ladies, Do they automatically suggest an aminio or CVS if you are over 35? I know with my last they did that 13 week nuchal, but that seems standard now. I usually see midwives so I bet they really wouldn't offer the extra tests.

The amnio is offered to everyone over 35 here (Canada). CVS is offered for "high risk" patients, but just being over 35 doesn't cut it. Amnio is also offered if your nuchal comes back less than 1 in 200...

[HopeandDreamG]

They don't automatically have u do cvs or amnio. It depends on how bloods come back. And of course it's a choice. I did not want a special needs child. So yes, anchor I terminated. I never say it even on here bc I really dont want to be judged. I do not believe my dh is cut out for it (or me) and didn't want that for by boys. I was unlucky. Does not mean you ladies will be.
I was not swaying. It was an oopsie. I was exercising like a mad woman, losing weight. And it was a pull out. No idea of timing. Kinda of an sway but didn't plan or know it!!

Because I went through this and dh saw my heart break in pieces he's willing to do anything to help get a girl for me. Including HT and spending $ we don't have.

[ThreeMenAndALAdy]

They don't automatically have u do cvs or amnio. It depends on how bloods come back. And of course it's a choice. I did not want a special needs child. So yes, anchor I terminated. I never say it even on here bc I really dont want to be judged. I do not believe my dh is cut out for it (or me) and didn't want that for by boys. I was unlucky. Does not mean you ladie will be.
I was not swaying. It was an oopsie. I was exercising like a mad woman, losing weight. And it was a pull out. No idea of timing. Kinda of an sway but didn't plan or know it!!

Because I went through this and dh saw my heart break in pieces he's willing to do anything to help get a girl for me. Including HT and spending $ we don't have.

Over the years I've learned never to judge a man, or woman, until you've walked a mile in their shoes. I'm very sorry you had to make that decision. It must've been the hardest thing you've ever done. I wish you all the best in your ht journey.

[HopeandDreamG]

Thanks 3men. I appreciate it. Leaning towards trying naturally this cycle and have my appointments lines up in case of another bfn.

[The Anchor]

Because I went through this and dh saw my heart break in pieces he's willing to do anything to help get a girl for me. Including HT and spending $ we don't have.

I'm so sorry you had to make that decision...it's not selfish to know what is healthy for your family. Hugs to you, GL on your HT journey!

[n710]

Thanks all.-I had a feeling they wouldn't even offer unless, as you suggest, blood comes back off. Don't even have a BFP yet, so I guess I need to worry about that first

Well said 3M and H & G. I think everyone has the right to not be judged for making the best decision fro their family and situation.

[Mochagirl]

Personally, I wouldn't get amnio unless my blood came back abnormal. Just to give you mature mamas a little hope, my blood came back as me having the risk of a 19 year old - 1 in 2000 or something like that...and I'm turning 38 in a month! My midwives say they don't really consider you high risk these days until you're over 40 anyway (I'm in Canada too).

And HopeandDream - :hug2: for everything you've had to go through.

[LO123]

Hi Ladies, I would love to chat with some other ladies over 35 in regards to swaying. I am 38 and DH is 42. We have one DS who is nearly 3. We left it later to start our family and I sometimes regret that now but what is done is done. I would love to have a DD so here I am trying to sway. My biggest concern is the frequency/timing - either FR or abstain. Due to age abstain is out but I find the FR is not really working for us. It would be great to know what other ladies are planning.

I wanted to also say I think this is a great forum for us to come in and talk freely about how we feel and what we are scared of and no one will judge us. HopeandDream, hugs to you. Thank you for sharing with us.

[KraizyDaizy]

How is everyone doing?? Oing today and praying for my DD!!

[girlbean]

Hello ! Just checking in here though this thread doesn't seem very active . I just turned 39 and DH is 42. We're going to start our pink sway in a couple of days with a view to ttc in September. I think I should be concerned re fertility though we had no problems getting pregnant before but I was 29 and 32 but I suppose we'll see.

[atomic sagebrush]

A lot of times if one person starts typing, then others show up! Hi and welcome!! I got my DD at 41!

[girlbean]

Hello ! This is a great forum well done :-)
It took me a while to realise that you have a little girl now , how lovely for you !
I have a notion that being older sways pink anyway so hoping that's in our favour.

[thax1]

Me too girlbean! Very much hoping so!


Hello ! This is a great forum well done :-)
It took me a while to realise that you have a little girl now , how lovely for you !
I have a notion that being older sways pink anyway so hoping that's in our favour.

[girlbean]

Hey Thax , when are you starting your sway ?

[thax1]

Im not sure. I was thinking this month. I may have one attempt this month, but maybe next month. This is my first PPAF since having DS, and I havent started the diet properly yet either, so it may be a bit early to have a go! What about you?

[Mrs_Incredible]

Hi, I'm having my first attempt in 2 weeks. Hoping it'll be a bfn tho as still struggling with the diet. I'm 37 & dh is 38. He has a 16 yo son also, so he kinda wants to be done ttc in the next 6-12 months x
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[Little Lunasa]

Hello ! This is a great forum well done :-)
It took me a while to realise that you have a little girl now , how lovely for you !
I have a notion that being older sways pink anyway so hoping that's in our favour.
And me! Fx its true!
Im 42 and DH is 43 and we are TTC this weekend hopefully. Just waiting for +opk
:)

[thax1]

Good luck ladies! Im keen to try this month too, but i havent got the diet sorted yet. Hmmm hopefully I will get myself together shortly! Just getting over a cold just now and you know what they say! Feed a cold starve a fever! Oops!

[HopeSprings76]

There don't seem to have been any new posts since June but Hello to any other over 35 Mums/Moms or would be Moms/Mums looking TTC.

[Little Lunasa]

Still here... 1/2 dpo... :)


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[Mrs_Incredible]

Hi, I've postponed til October due to going on holiday. Still rubbish at diet. Starting 30 day shred tomorrow for bikini in 4 weeks :-S x
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[HopeSprings76]

Hi Little Lunasa and Mrs Incredible,
Little Lunasa, Keeping my fingers crossed for you - though I had to look up dpo! Still learning the acronyms:bigsmile:
Mrs Incredible, October is when I will be TTC too, hopefully we will all get some Spring/
Summer girls!

[Mrs_Incredible]

Hi girls. I started an exercise dvd one day and my legs are in agony past 2 days :-S Cant even walk down 2 stairs we have without being in agony. Got pain killers so start shred tomorrow.
Ooh to be in the 2ww already but it seems ages til I'm at that stage. FX for you.
Gl for ttc in october, are you doing le/got a plan from atomic? Really takes the stress out of swaying. You kind of hit the ground running instead of reading every post and getting more confused! Speak soon xx
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[Little Lunasa]

Hi girls. I started an exercise dvd one day and my legs are in agony past 2 days :-S Cant even walk down 2 stairs we have without being in agony. Got pain killers so start shred tomorrow.
Ooh to be in the 2ww already but it seems ages til I'm at that stage. FX for you.
Gl for ttc in october, are you doing le/got a plan from atomic? Really takes the stress out of swaying. You kind of hit the ground running instead of reading every post and getting more confused! Speak soon xx
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Ooooh sounds sore! I'm enjoying the couch potato part of my plan :)
Yes, am following LE as much as possible and am 6 dpo at the moment.


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[bunnywabbit]

Hi all, just stopping by. DH and I fit into the 35+ category. Makes me a little nervous as this is our first child we're ttc. With maternal years not on my side anymore, my concern is if it takes a long while to conceive the first (7 months so far including m/c) what if we decide to have another but 'run out of time'? :worry: I guess we'll be blessed if we have one eventually...

[aidansmum]

Hi Ladies. Another `geriatric` mom here! :) I just turned 40 and have 3 boys (my first boy is 23 and second 21) and then I had my little Aidan who is now 2 1/2. I thought I was done with babies BUT I am itching for another one and DH is happy to comply...so...
I secretly wanted a little girl for my last 2 pregnancies, but did not suffer from GD and I hope this time will be the same if I don't get the girl I soooo long for. I am tying my tubes when I have another one and that will be it, girl or no girl. Last chance!
Wishing you all lots of luck!

[aidansmum]

what if we decide to have another but 'run out of time'?

We all fear that but we see older mums conceiving all the time. A friend of mine is 44 and conceived recently after trying for 6 months. I also worry as I am now 40 and everytime I read something about pregnancy on your 40's they make it sound like a very bad idea or that it might not even happen! The secret is stay calm and believe your body will do what it's been designed to do. Good luck!

[HopeSprings76]

Mrs Incredible said
“Gl for ttc in october, are you doing le/got a plan from atomic? Really takes the stress out of swaying. You kind of hit the ground running instead of reading every post and getting more confused! “

Mrs Incredible
congratulations on your work out – sounds like a toughie! As regards your question on Atomic’s sway plans, I am seriously considering getting a sway plan from Atomic. My only hesitancy is Atomic herself has (words to the effect) that the girl sway is about reducing overall fertility (as that sways girls) so if you are older it may be better to just get pregnant rather than worry about the gender. The other thing for me is the amount of dairy to be consumed. I like Milk but I have ibs and follow the Low Fodmap diet. So I basically drink lactose free organic milk and no yogurt or keffir as it is hard to get lactose free yogurt unless you go vegan and frankly I don’t tolerate soy. So with all that in mind I am still mulling it over. At the moment I am just trying to keep my blood sugar down and calcium and magnesium levels up.

Little Lunasa said ”Ooooh sounds sore! I'm enjoying the couch potato part of my plan
Yes, am following LE as much as possible and am 6 dpo at the moment. “

Keeping my fingers crossed for you Little Lunasa

bunnywabbit said”Hi all, just stopping by. DH and I fit into the 35+ category. Makes me a little nervous as this is our first child we're ttc. With maternal years not on my side anymore, my concern is if it takes a long while to conceive the first (7 months so far including m/c) what if we decide to have another but 'run out of time'? I guess we'll be blessed if we have one eventually...”

Welcome bunnywabbit I totally get where you are coming from I am 37 (38 in less than 4 months) and TTC my first child. It is difficult one. I want to sway because I always imagined myself with daughters and do want a daughter more than a son. Wow, I feel guilty saying that! But at my age I do wonder should I just aim to get pregnant as soon as possible and let nature take its course. I do so want a girl but I want a healthy baby of either gender most of all.

Your post about your posts made me laugh Aiden’s Mum good luck with your sway

Aiden’s Mum said” We all fear that but we see older mums conceiving all the time.. I also worry as I am now 40 and everytime I read something about pregnancy on your 40's they make it sound like a very bad idea or that it might not even happen! The secret is stay calm and believe your body will do what it's been designed to do. Good luck"

urgh the newspapers annoy me. I know they have to keep us informed and it is true your fertility declines with age. But I hate the undercurrent in much of the stories that some how older Mum’s are selfish women who choose not to have children when they were most fertile. It is usually so much more complicated than that and it is not fair we have extra stress when as you say we need to stay calm.

[bunnywabbit]

Welcome bunnywabbit I totally get where you are coming from I am 37 (38 in less than 4 months) and TTC my first child. It is difficult one. I want to sway because I always imagined myself with daughters and do want a daughter more than a son. Wow, I feel guilty saying that! But at my age I do wonder should I just aim to get pregnant as soon as possible and let nature take its course. I do so want a girl but I want a healthy baby of either gender most of all.


Yes, this is where I am right now. A DD would be lovely, but for right now just hoping for a non eventful H&H 9 months soon. I'm aware I am really quite... stressed (not sure if that's the correct term) - family 'differences', living circumstances, work are all part of it. Am trying to wind down, relax and enjoy myself - have some me time and do something I enjoy, just finding it very difficult to get the hang of it. I'm wondering if background pressures, even things I'm not even aware of thinking about are making it a little more difficult for me to conceive. Wondering if by letting my hair down and relaxing it may happen, maybe as a surprise. Would love to throw it all in for a month or so and go relax on a beach... :wink:

Have loosened up a little on the sway (still meat free, just dropped RepHresh and cut down on the antihistamines) Open to tried and tested R&R suggestions! Talking of which, has anyone tried reiki? Any good? :think:

[HopeSprings76]

I haven't tried Reiki Bunnywabbit, but I have heard Acupuncture is great when ttc. I am going to probably do a six week course before I start ivf. From what I have read it is good for relaxing Mums/Moms to be but also gets the blood flowing to the reproductive organs therefore making conception more likely.
I definitely think stress makes it harder to conceive so anything that helps relax us is great. Apparently Yoga and Qi-gong are particularly good destressers and obviously meditation. I do a little bit of yoga anyway but I think I will purchase Brenda Strong's Yoga For Fertility dvd too as it obviously worked for her. I am also trying to mediate even though I am not the kind of person who finds quieting her mind easy.
Have you tried anything out of the ordinary to help relax you during this time?

[bunnywabbit]

Haven't tried anything out of the ordinary, no. Reiki I heard was good as long as I ensure it doesn't do anything to help aid conception directly. Took a few days out of work recently just to do 'nothing' in which started out ok, but ended up sick toward the end.

Relaxation for me at the moment is difficult. MiL has recently left after been over for three weeks - no chance of relaxing then. Work is really hectic and has turned moreso from this week just finishing - I work at the local college and is enrolment time (four weeks worth), so can mean working from 08:30 until sometimes around 21:00. So very *not* relaxing. Am doing what I can to relax on the weekends instead, but DH is sick today, so been running getting meds, etc. in for him and have a appointment for him this afternoon at the hospital, so more tooing and froing... Funfunfun!

I'll get there - thankfully is a long weekend so can catch up on doing nothing!

[Keshet]

Is there a special pink sway plan for women over 40? After 2 failed IVF's I Am worried about my ability to get pregnant at all at 41. i have 3 boys conceived naturally at the first attempt, but the last one was over 6 years ago. But, i would like to try for a couple of months to sway before i give up completely. Reading through the posts on swaying has utterly confused me. Are there a few basic things that I can do without overhauling my life?


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[SweetLily]

New and jumping in here...well, I have been around since day 1 but after so many mcs I dropped off--but the cause of these has been found, and dh and I are finally ready to ttc (I think...) and hopefully all my issues are behind me! Im 37 and my baby is 4.5 years old now, so heres to hoping I can still get it done and HANG on to it!

Baby dust to all, I( read through some posts. Looks like a nice group of ladies here :)

[twinkle]

Is anyone still actively Ttc here anymore? I'm not sure where to post a hello ��

Anyway I've been Ttc on and off for the last four years with too many mc along the way. I'm am now back to fully Ttc now. I'm hoping and praying for a healthy happy baby, no swaying for me anymore now. I would love a baby girl but a baby is more important to me these days.

I'm now 40 eeekkkk how did that happen! And I have 5 children already so been blessed but would love at least one more!


I've just had my day 3 bloods and day 21 bloods done but waiting to get the results from our drs. I'm also thinking about paying to have my AMH bloods done but unsure how much extra info that's really going to be so waiting for the results of the ones I've just had done.

[purple]

Well I wasn't here before because we have only just started ttc #3 but I fit in the over 35 category now. I don't know why going from 34 to 35 suddenly makes you feel so much older! Probably because it is always made out to be the age where your fertility suddenly drops (although I know it doesn't work that way!)

Good luck twinkle! 4 years is a long time and it sounds like you have been through a lot. Hopefully it happens for you soon :)

[twinkle]

I conceived my last little girl at 35 and gave birth at 36, I felt ok with the age then, it was the goingn from 39-40 that's really hit me lol. I feel like it's never going to happen now, I will however try to prove to that 40 is still a good age ��. Good luck on your Ttc journey I hope it's a speedy one!

[Mrs_Incredible]

I just gave birth 2 weeks early at the end of October to my dd at 39 years old!. Valentines day last year i had a scan that confirmed my blighted ovum pg was gone, this year my dd was in a beautiful dress and part of a family gathering for my sisters birthday :) along with my 3 sons. Good luck to you all, i hope your dreams come true xxx

[purple]

I conceived my last little girl at 35 and gave birth at 36, I felt ok with the age then, it was the goingn from 39-40 that's really hit me lol. I feel like it's never going to happen now, I will however try to prove to that 40 is still a good age ��. Good luck on your Ttc journey I hope it's a speedy one!

My fears are probably also based on issues with fertility when ttc my last two.. I had my first when I was 28 and had problems then so 35 seems imposible now.

I have friends however that didn't have their first until after 35 and had no issues at all. Everyone is so different!

[twinkle]

Congrats on your little girl!


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[atomic sagebrush]

Well I wasn't here before because we have only just started ttc #3 but I fit in the over 35 category now. I don't know why going from 34 to 35 suddenly makes you feel so much older! Probably because it is always made out to be the age where your fertility suddenly drops (although I know it doesn't work that way!)

Good luck twinkle! 4 years is a long time and it sounds like you have been through a lot. Hopefully it happens for you soon :)

It doesn't work that way though! Please don't buy into the "myth of 35" ladies - it says NOTHING for your individual odds, it's just the age at which across the whole population, more women start to have fertility challenges. Plenty of people go right on chugging up to 40 and even beyond.

I feel so silly for panicking about my fertility when I was 36 and doing all this stuff that swayed blue because of that. I had 3 babies after taht and my last was conceived at 41!!

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh and I can't quote this for some reason, but it is not uncommon for people to have fertility issues with their first and then it's like their body "learns" how to get and stay pregnant and they go onto have additional kids with no trouble at all. Having trouble TTC with one child doesn't necessarily always mean you'll have trouble in the future and it certainly doesn't mean you're going to have menopause early (unless you are diagnosed with DOR)

[twinkle]

Bloods are in!

Day 3

Lh 1.1 iu/l
Fsh2.9 iu/l

Day 21

Prolactin 164 ml/l
Progesterone 1 now
Oestradiol 195 poml/l
Tst 0.83mul
Free t4 12.0 poml/l

Having day 21 repeated as it showed no ovulation.

I've googled too much and now worried the fsh is too low, it's saying a fsh too low is a indercation of pcos.

[atomic sagebrush]

I answered in your other thread. Have you ever had any other symptoms of PCOS?? I doubt that's what is going on here unles you have other symptoms.

[twinkle]

I've had a very quick google at the symptoms and no I don't seem to have other symptoms. My cycles are regular at 25-27 days not heavy. I have had a few longer cyvles like last month but on the whole regular. I don't have any excessive hair growth and the drs say my day 21 bloods were ok other than the progesterone was too low so no ovulation was detected but I knew that as I hadn't had a positive opk Andy temps didn't pick up ovulation untill day 30. I'm not sure if my free testosterone is normal as I haven't googled that but the gp didn't say it was. Just hope the AMH cakes back a reasonable number


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[Beans626]

I agree with what Atomic says about your body "learning" how to get and stay pregnant. I work with a lady who tried for 9 years to get pregnant. They were just about to start fertility treatments when she found out that she was pregnant (at 31 or so) and that was 5 years ago. She just gave birth to her third child a couple of weeks ago and her second child is around 22 months old. They had no problem getting pregnant with #2 or #3.

Twinkle- hopefully you got good news on your AMH. I got pregnant easily with #1 and again with #2 (got pregnant three months after a tubal reversal). We tried for 18 months to get pregnant (only to have a M/C) and have not been able to get pregnant again. Originally my AMH came back undetectable and I did CoQ10 and DHEA to get it up to 0.234, but that is still very low and even with perfectly timed BD we still were unable to get pregnant.

I think women can go on just fine getting pregnant in later years, but my mother and grandmother had meopause early on (48 or so) so apparently I am just not one of the lucky ones. lol

Good luck to any of the more mature moms out there trying for their DG!

[Temerity]

Hi ladies! I'm joining the club here as an Over 35 TTC. Glad to see I'm not alone :)

I'm 37 and will be 38 in September. I conceived my first son at 32, after a year and a half of trying, and my second son was conceived at 35, after 14 months TTC. I had some GD with both boys, not because I don't love boys, but I want a girl, too, and ours would be the only grand daughter on both sides as everyone else is done having kids. I was hoping to have her first and get it out of the way haha.

It's been a very difficult decision to TTC #3. We are in a comfortable place right now, and it's easy to look forward to days when I don't have to plan my life around naps and babies. We are financially capable of handling two, but three will be more of a guessing game. Plus, our ages aren't helping. It took us so long to conceive the boys that my DH is dreading TTC (over 30 cumulative months of BFNs can really kill the TTC excitement), and if it takes us that long again we will be pushing the boundaries of our age window when we would feel comfortable to have a new baby. It's not just being able to handle it in our 40s, but also how old we will be when this new babe goes to college.

But the dream of having three children, and possibly a girl, is pushing me more than the negatives. I had to really coerce my husband to try, and I'm not sure what he will feel if/when I do get pregnant because I don't think we're in the healthiest place right now. As it is, I had to agree that if we don't get pregnant without help within a year, then it's just the way things are for us and we move forward with our lives. Right now, I think to myself that I can handle it being in God's hands, but I hope that I can still be so fatalistic when month 11 rolls around :worry:

Anyway, I hope everyone is doing well (looks like mostly Purple and Twinkle have been checking in). I don't know much about AMH or FSH levels aside from what I've picked up from others, but I hope you're getting good news from your doctors!

[atomic sagebrush]

Good luck and welcome!

I have heard that when they ask elderly people if they have any regrets about their lives, the number one was "I should have had more children." This has been something that tons of women have told me as well, because I have such an oddball family makeup, the two boys when I was young, then after 13 years, 2 more boys and then a girl (not remarried, same husband LOL). So many women tell me, "I really wanted just one more but my husband said no" or something along those lines. I just want to encourage you to listen to your heart and don't worry about your age - it isn't any more of a challenge than when I was younger. I feel like I wasted so much energy worrying about BS when I had my first two, that age and wisdom (if I have any) has freed me up to have more energy even though I'm older now. I just don't stress about stuff like I used to. :)

[The Anchor]

Good luck and welcome!

I have heard that when they ask elderly people if they have any regrets about their lives, the number one was "I should have had more children." :)

I think I am coming to the very real realization that this may be me. And it sucks! I 100% agree with atomic, for you ladies out there on the fence....JUMP!!! Soon it will be too late.

[atomic sagebrush]

OH sweets, huge ((((hugs)))).

[weeziewoozles]

Just spotted this thread. I'm 35.5 so I guess I should join your gang ;-). I certainly don't feel old yet!

[bluedreams]

I just found this thread too. I'm 39 and DH and I are thinking of TTC this Summer or possibly sooner. I feel so old sometimes and physically I feel old. I just get tired more. I hope I can handle 3 kids :) But, it's good to find this thread and see other women in the same boat.

[twinkle]

Weeziewoozles im from london too!

Well I had my progesterone checked again this cycle and it was 79 so the Dr said im ovulating well on my own so that's a bonus! Now I just need to catch the egg! This cycle was really well timed but unfortunately no bfp yet, 11 dpo today so maybe not this cycle. How are you all doing?

[Temerity]

That's great news Twinkle! AF just found me, so I'm looking forward to next month.

[Temerity]

Welcome BlueDreams and Woozie! I refuse to admit we're old lol

[djmommy]

Hi Ladies! I am hoping I can join here and remember to check in! I am 39 TTC #3. I am 12 dpo getting ready to start CD 1 :( anyday after 13 cycles. Man this is so hard and tiring. I just want this so bad and sometimes it just consumes me. I am going to try acupuncture and hoping it will help me relax and destress a bit.

[Baby Blue]

Would like to say hello to everyone , and hope that I can join here.

We started attempting this month. I'm 39 and have 4 children already. 3 girls 12 11 and 4 and a son who's 7. Took a while for us to reach the decision to try for baby 5 because of my age - but here we are.

We are attempting to sway blue , but only been on diet 3/4 weeks. Feeling nervous as I'm not sure I've done enough , and also hoping that I'm not setting myself up for disappointment - and then if it does happen will I be able to cope with all that comes with pregnancy and babies.

Wishing everybody gets there dream babies x

[twinkle]

Hello everyone, I hope your journeys are all short and we get a splattering of bfp very fast!

Well af found me agin this cycle too, I was really hoping that I had done it this cycle after my progesterone being nice and high but nope grrrrr. Another month and another egg fx anyway lol. I'm cd 4 today, this cycle seems to be going so amazingly slow.

Good luck with the blue away baby blue

[atomic sagebrush]

Updates!!!!

[Baby Blue]

I'm 7 dpo , waiting to test ��
Feeling a lot of pressure n also slightly nauseous yesterday. It was my first month ttc so if it doesn't work I get another month to sway better , we will see what happens, not going to stress about it. How is everyone else getting on?

[twinkle]

Good luck baby blue! I hope this is your cycle!

I'm waiting to ovulate, should be in the next day or so but hoping it waits till Sunday as oh won't be in a fit state tonight as he is working a long day today. I do need this cycle to work! The Easter bunny dropping my egg off and father christmas delivering my baby! How fab would that be

[purple]

AF arrived today for me. Two days early so it means my LP was only 10 days. I'm going to try Soy isoflavones next month as the only times I have been pregnant is twice from clomid and then once with DS2 using soy. I hear clomid is better but its not that easily available and since I have had success with Soy I will give it a go.

[Baby Blue]

thank you Twinkle - I'm hoping so, but at the same point keep reminding myself that I have 4 beautiful children. Not expecting it to be easy at 39! And we have already discussed only trying up until my 40th birthday and that will be it - what will be will be. Good luck on your attempt , hope you get your Christmas bundle x

Purple - hugs - but sounds like you've got a good plan for next month x

[twinkle]

Purple im so sorry af got you, I hope this cycle works better with the soy. Can you not ask for the clomid again? I'm sorry I'm just not up on how easy Clomid id to get hold of. I hope the soy works this cycle tho!

Baby blue, I was the same, at 36 I said only till the next birthday and I just kept moving that goal post, once om the Ttc train its so hard to jump back off. I always think this next cycle it could just work! I hope this cycle you get the dream Bfp!

Yesterday I got my positive opk, we have the kids all home because of Easter and it's playing havoc with the smallest one she is staying up so late! Anyway we managed a good attempt last night and going by my temps I think ov could be this morning or was early hours as my temp rise but not by too much. I'm past pink or blue right now just a baby, this last four years of trying started this month four years ago.

Good luck ladies, lest hope we get some lovely bfps in here very soon!

[purple]

Purple im so sorry af got you, I hope this cycle works better with the soy. Can you not ask for the clomid again? I'm sorry I'm just not up on how easy Clomid id to get hold of. I hope the soy works this cycle tho!

Thanks, I'm ok since it was only the first try :)
To get clomid I would have to go to my GP and get a referral to a fertility specialist then wait several months for an appointment and then probably have to get testing done (me and DH) and I would rather not worry about all that. Soy I was able to order online as it is over the counter. I would have bought the same one I used last time but they stopped making that one, hopefully the one I got is ok.

[twinkle]

I totally understand the whole not wanting to do testing, after our mcs we had testing done and I personally found it frustrating and stressful. They found no reasons for the mcs. I hope the soy works a dream and your soon posting pics of some bfps!




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[twinkle]

How is everyone doing? I'm 4dpo today and this month feels like it's dragging. Anyways I thought I would share my chart, temp rise has been slow this cycle, not sure if that's a bad sign or not.
http://i61.tinypic.com/iz2rdd.jpg

[purple]

I'm only CD 6 so still at least 10 days before I ovulate.

I wouldn't worry too much about the temps and try and read too much into them. I will only temp enough to see the thermal shift these days, otherwise I over analyse the temps! I will probably start temping about day 10 and then stop 4 or 5 dpo.

[XXforhubby]

Twinkle- I wouldn't worry about it. I had a slow rise this cycle too and my post-O temps flatlined. I was worried but turns out I didn't have anything to worry about [emoji4]! My chart is in my signature.

FX that this is it for you!

P.S. I'm over 35 and have been reading posts here. I was going to start to post, but I got my BFP!


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[twinkle]

I've been temping too long now to stop lol, it's just part of my routine now, but yes you do over analyse and think I want tomorrow's temp to be..

Good luck for this cycle! Do you have a plan for this month?

[twinkle]

Xxforhubby sorry I've just seen your reply, congrats on your bfp!!! That's fab. I'm sure I just read far toouch into my temps and what i think I want it to do lol. Too many years of tryig has sent me slightly crazy if not a little obsessed.

Here is today's chart for me.

http://i57.tinypic.com/mcdvf4.jpg

[purple]

Chart is looking good twinkle :)

Last dose of Soy iso tonight and then I just have to wait. Need to try to stick to the diet better, not easy just after easter!

[twinkle]

Yay for last dose of soy! I have my fx for a lovely positive on the opks in a few days time. Yes the diets are hard to get back into after a couple of naughty days!

[djmommy]

Hi Ladies! I am going to try to keep up and post. I don't get on too often as TTC is taking a toll on me.
Twinkle I think your chart looks great and nice rise today! Honestly, I don't out much stock in post O temps anymore. I have seen BFP charts look ugly and BFN charts look beautiful! LOL I have tried to stop temping because after a year I am over it. But since the last few cycles have been off I temp to confirm O. I finally got a pos opk today CD 15, which is pretty late for me. We BD last night because we are bd every 3 days. I will also tonight at pos opk. Hopefully we catch a goldie! :) I just started acupuncture and am really enjoying it. It has been relaxing if nothing else.
Hopefully we all have a great month of BFP'S!

[twinkle]

Djmommy I'm with you on the too long temping, I've been temping for about 15 months I think now and wow it's been hard to keep going some months. I started my ttc journey 4 years ago. I started with swaying pink but now I'm just swaying bfp pink would be a bonus but either pink or blue I don't care now just a baby in my arms would be amazing. Once I get my take home baby I will take steps for long term contraception so I can't fall back into this journey.

[blueeyedguys]

Congrats, XXforhubby. And good luck!

I'm just waiting for AF to show. One day later than it has been lately. BFN and we weren't trying this month, anyway. Probably just more pre-menopausal nonsense. I hate waiting though. So sick of my period & having it hanging over my head is even worse.

I keep telling dh I want to either get pregnant ASAP (with our girl, of course [emoji6]) or for menopause to just hurry up. 30 years of periods (minus babies/nursing) and I am so over it.

Our kids are all between 3-4 yrs apart. Even if I got pregnant this cycle (which I actually prefer to avoid, too many birthdays in Jan/Feb already), it would be the biggest gap between kids.

I must be insane.

[twinkle]

Blueeyedguys, I hate when af is late too it's a total pain. I hope you get either af or a bfp soon, the waiting feels like wasted days. Good luck

[blueeyedguys]

Thanks. AF did finally come, so at least I know where I'm at now.

Tossed the stroller we've had since ds1 was little. It was tough, but it's truly amazing it lasted as long as it did. I'll either get a got rid of baby things pregnancy now or I've just cleared out something I won't ever need again, I guess only time will tell.

[twinkle]

I'm so sorry af showed, it's bad enough it showing at all but to be late is worse. Massive hugs and I hope this cycle is a better one for you.

[twinkle]

Just done a hpt! 10 dpo, I hope that line grows! I know not fmu but it is quite faint.

http://i62.tinypic.com/cj62w.jpg

[djmommy]

Twinkle!!! Yay!!! Looks good! That is wonderful!!! Very happy for you!!

[XXforhubby]

Twinkle! I see it! Yay!!!!!

Come join us in the Dec/Jan/Feb due date thread!!!

Big congrats!


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[twinkle]

Thank you so much ladies! I keep looking at the test and thinking please stick this time!

[The Anchor]

Thank you so much ladies! I keep looking at the test and thinking please stick this time!

Massive CONGRATS Twinkle! You give me hope :)

[twinkle]

I had all but given up hope for a bfp! I wish you all the most baby dust.

[Baby Blue]

Oh wow - congratulations twinkle

[purple]

I missed your BFP!! Congratulations Twinkle!!

[Temerity]

Congrats Twinkle! What wonderful news :fx:

[purple]

Well I have booked in an appointment with my dr to hopefully get referred to a specialist to look into what is going on with my cycle! It's 7 days of heavy spotting for me now. Last cycle was messed up too so I'm hoping they run some tests to check my hormones. I didn't really want to go the medical route but I might have to. All least there is a good chance I can get prescribed Clomid but it's going to take ages to get the appointments.

[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

I'm just coming in to hang out for a bit. I'm turning 39 in June, 4 boys, want to try one more time . I don't expect I have fertility issues but I have an appointment next week to try to get Clomid/femara; im can't mess around with time...


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[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

Well I have booked in an appointment with my dr to hopefully get referred to a specialist to look into what is going on with my cycle! It's 7 days of heavy spotting for me now. Last cycle was messed up too so I'm hoping they run some tests to check my hormones. I didn't really want to go the medical route but I might have to. All least there is a good chance I can get prescribed Clomid but it's going to take ages to get the appointments.

Any chance your Dr will skip the specialist and just hand over the scrip? That's whT im hoping for in my case.


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[purple]

Any chance your Dr will skip the specialist and just hand over the scrip? That's whT im hoping for in my case.



Unlikely as Clomid is more restricted in Australia so they have to be specialists. There is a fertility clinic in the building next to my work so I'm thinking of ringing to find out what their waiting list is like. It would be very convenient to go there for appointments as the one I went to before is really out of the way now.

I had lots of bleeding today in the morning and was a bit crampy. It was almost like a period except then it mostly stopped for the afternoon. I feel better at least knowing I have an appointment and a plan now. I hope my Dr doesn't just tell me I need to wait for my cycles to regulate after the mirena removal.

[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

Just tell him "ain't nobody got time for that" and hopefully he plays ball . It's the same in Canada btw; I know my GP will want to ship me off to a specialist but I'm going to stress the importance of the time I have left (snd real life deadline im under) and that I understand the risks and hope he just writes the damm script.


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[purple]

I managed to get an appointment with the FS near work for in 2 weeks time. Just hope my GP will give me a referral and doesn't just think I'm being impatient!

[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

Be in charge. My appt is Wednesday. I'm the biggest push over when it comes to medical help, but my plan is to tell him directly what I want I. A way that is self advocating.
I may not be successful but if I just walk in there and explain my problem he will definitely put me off in someone else's hands and I so do not have time for that. So far I am not ovulating one own, and I want one more child. I refuse this time to sit back and have someone control those measures when a simple rx may fix it.


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[blueeyedguys]

Dh seems to think we won't have any trouble conceiving because we never have before I can kind of see his point, my youngest is an oops baby from the first time we DTD after dh nearly died & was in hospital for 3 months. But I was 4 years younger than I am now.. Still over 35, but that 4 years makes a difference. I want to try this month, even though that would put my due date awfully close to where we want to avoid. He wants to wait another month because he thinks I'll get pregnant first try again.

It's possible he's right but it's also possible I'm already too old. I have no dr. right now and no way of knowing.

I just want to be pregnant or give up, move on & try to stop dreaming of a daughter.

[Hitmebabyonemoretime]

I cannot blame you one bit.


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[Funkyfry]

Looks like no ne has posted here for a while! I am turning 36 soon and hoping to ttc a girl in June!! My little girl was a successful sway so hopefully it works again! Bit nervous being 36

[atomic sagebrush]

Hey gals, let's start a spinoff thread for this, when the threads get too long they contribute to slowness of the site.

I know we have a lot of swayers over 35 right now so let's chat!

[atomic sagebrush]

New thread here: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/later-moms/53478-new-improved-swayers-over-35-buddy-group-2016-a.html#post797808