auroara78
November 14th, 2011, 02:03 PM
I have two sisters. My eldest is very cut and dry, very doubting, negative. She has 1 girl and 4 boys.
My second sister is a sweetheart, very trusting, loving, open, if not a little relgious-orientated. She has 4 boys.
Her last son is now about five and a half years old. He was born with a cleft palette, cleft lip, and, well, born a boy. She didn't find out with him at an U/S, and everyone knew she really, really wanted her LAST to be a girl, but obviously he wasn't.
I didn't have kids then yet (my oldest just turned 4) and I remember being smug about her last being a boy. Back then, I thought I'd have nothing but girls.
I wasn't mean to her, or I didn't say anything directly hurtful, but I'm sure I mentioned the fact that it wasn't her long sought after daughter. Looking back, I feel bad for probably being very insenstive to to the fact that not only was he a boy, but that he had cleft issues. (He's had surgeries, he's almost fine now, but it's stressful to deal with that sort of problem.)
My oldest sister, the one with 1 daugther, loves talking about how much second sister wanted a girl and how it NEVER happened.
Instead of agreeing with my oldest sister and being a bitch, maybe I should have told the first sister where to shove it and gave more support to my 2nd sister?
As this was years ago, I don't want to bring it back up (and reopen a wound) but can a person ever say sorry about something that's water under the bridge?
My second sister is a sweetheart, very trusting, loving, open, if not a little relgious-orientated. She has 4 boys.
Her last son is now about five and a half years old. He was born with a cleft palette, cleft lip, and, well, born a boy. She didn't find out with him at an U/S, and everyone knew she really, really wanted her LAST to be a girl, but obviously he wasn't.
I didn't have kids then yet (my oldest just turned 4) and I remember being smug about her last being a boy. Back then, I thought I'd have nothing but girls.
I wasn't mean to her, or I didn't say anything directly hurtful, but I'm sure I mentioned the fact that it wasn't her long sought after daughter. Looking back, I feel bad for probably being very insenstive to to the fact that not only was he a boy, but that he had cleft issues. (He's had surgeries, he's almost fine now, but it's stressful to deal with that sort of problem.)
My oldest sister, the one with 1 daugther, loves talking about how much second sister wanted a girl and how it NEVER happened.
Instead of agreeing with my oldest sister and being a bitch, maybe I should have told the first sister where to shove it and gave more support to my 2nd sister?
As this was years ago, I don't want to bring it back up (and reopen a wound) but can a person ever say sorry about something that's water under the bridge?