Ironic story...

[Happymommy1987]

Hi, I have just been thinking with this pregnancy (my 4th) how ironic life is.
When I was TTC my number 1... I was REALLY REALLY crossing my fingers for a boy. I swayed, I even bought a “Its a boy Kit” online with supps and douches to try for a son. (Dont think that even exists anymore [emoji23]) I was 23 at the time...
i was obsessed with having a boy.
We went team green and nine months later, when he was born I was SO HAPPY to see a tiny penis.
Then I was really nervous about him being my only boy. My second baby was a boy as well.

Third, I now really wanted a girl. Surprise... We had our third son. Thats when things changed and I thought, wait, WHAT?! I don’t control everything in my life? I needed a daughter next and I didn’t get one?!?


Now I really really want a girl and cant keep thinking how things change.

I guess God thought... you really want a boy? Here’s three!!!

So its not like im going to be in depression if I dont get a girl. My dream was always about having at least one son and I try to ignore all the comments like these:

You need a daughter for when you’re old and sick

Youll never have girls trips

Theyll switch you for their wives

Every house needs both genders for it to be balanced.

Im going to create MY reality and MY reality is being a super cool fun therapeutic mom who always has something fresh out of the oven and a full house, always ready for a chat.

Im so so happy and grateful with God for having three strong, energetic, handsome, romantic boys by my side.

Guess Im just preparing for when I know the gender of this baby...




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[RaisingGentlemen3]

❤ this! I can sooo relate to you on this. With my first two I didn't care the gender but knew I wanted to experience both. When I didn't get dd with the 3rd I felt like this isn't how it was supposed to be! But now he's almost 2 and probably my favorite for the baby stage so far. I am only about 5 wks pregnant now and I am desperately trying to prepare my brain and emotions for knowing the gender. It's hard! I want to hope but I don't want to expect like I have before. So I really like what you said about how you are going to be for your kids! I will try to remember this throughout this pregnancy ❤

And pink dust to us both! Hope we get our girls! 🎀🎀 but if not, hope our hearts are full none the less.

[atomic sagebrush]

This is me too - I wanted a boy DESPERATELY with my first and I was SO SO SO happy to get him! Then with my second, I had absolutely no gender preference either way, and I remember looking down and telling my husband "it's a boy!" (we waited till birth with both of them) and being absolutely nothing but overjoyed in that moment! No regret at all, none whatsoever.

So for me it was never about not wanting boys or loving being a boy mom, it was just that I also wanted to have that experience of having a daughter too.

I will say this much - all those comments, they are ridiculous! In our family (both mine and my husband's) it has ALWAYS been the boy's families that stay close to the mother, who take care of the older parents, even living with them, while the girls went off and followed their husbands for work. My oldest sons are adults now and they call me all the time (sometimes I even get annoyed that they call me so much, to be honest!) Not in a weird way either, they don't live at home and have their own lives, but they do keep in touch as much as I would expect any adult child to.

I agree with you - if you are a welcoming mom and always have your home open, your children WANT to be with you! If you don't, then it doesn't matter what their genders are, they won't be there! :heart: Boy moms or girl moms it is all about that relationship with your children no matter what their genders are.

[Happymommy1987]

Thanks for sharing!!


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