Part 4: Due January, February & March 2019

[SurroundedByBoys]

Figured Id throw this up from my scan... bottom is his chubby face. And you can see the hand coming up to block it, he just wasnt fast enough this time. Closest to 3D Ill get with him!

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[SurroundedByBoys]

TP You will not disappoint us! We are all rooting for you, and will be here for you no matter what. <3 Im gonna be thinking about you all day Friday (if LO doesnt come sooner) :bighug:

[mtolbert1]

I’m with ABC! I keep checking in on you TP, ABC, & Noemi! I can’t wait for you all to be holding your babies!


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[ABC.2606]

Thanks mtolbert!!! :) It's exciting around here right now!

[LMSM]

Thanks LMSM! Though your second came earlier so I'm still going to stick my tongue out at you! :P

It's funny hat you say though, because I totally rationalized when DD came with that. We had some preterm labor scares with DD and every midwife I saw thought I was going to go early because of how low she was, how ripe my cervix was as a FTM, how often I was contracting, etc. Then 40+2 after going into labor at 40! Then she was so shrimpy (6 lbs and change) I joked she couldn't have come any earlier because she needed to beef up! I just can't expect that this baby is smaller and am anticipating a big one... either way, induction finally settled for this Friday at 41.1. Hoping I just wake up in labor that day ;)

ABC -- I feel a special kind of love that our rainbow babies are going to be only days apart. In all my GD and depression I have lost sight at times of what we both went through before these babies. I feel as excited for your babies as mine haha.

And it is funny how this baby is making you all wait, too! I just know I'll be a disappointment coming back on here without my longed for boy.

Haha, she was a chunk bub though...she ran out of room! Had she come later I would have feared getting her out :P

Annnnd, we are excited for you, to have this baby...regardless’ of gender. DOnt see yourself’ as failing anything or anyone if it is not a boy. At this stage, it can really go either way and with your excellent swaying’ you are probs more’ likely having a little dude so please try to enjoy the experience as much as you can..after all, you only get to experience that first meeting once :) I know it’s hard, oh so hard, to deal with GD. Hoping Friday brings you relief and joy :awe:

[simkan]

TP you definitely wont be disappointing anybody, especially on this page. We are all excited for your baby to arrive and hoping to hear you have a healthy baby boy. But whatever the gender we are all here to gush/laugh/vent or cry to.
Hoping you have an easy birth. If you dont go into labor before you go in hopefully just the gel or breaking your water gets things moving.

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[Babybeaublue]

TP it ain't over til it's over there is no reason why this can't be a boy!! I said it before, if I can have one anyone can! My baby is my mum and dad's first grandson in 25 years!
We all really want you to get him but ultimately we all just want you to be happy:)

Noemi all my pink dust to you (that's a lot!)

ABC I'm so excited!!!


Not sure if I asked on here before but does anyone know if jeniffer (mommytoapples) is ok?

[aira22]

Good luck Tp, I think 80% of this website is waiting for your baby !


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And TP you will NOT be a disappointment to us if you have a girl - I think I speak for all of this board when I say we all just want you to be happy, because you deserve that!!

So true!!!!

TP, even if I don't know you in person, I think of you everyday! Lol I keep on checking this tread and hope so badly that everything is going to turn out awesome for you!!! Sending you lots of good vibes!:flowerz:

And of course I also wish the best for all you ladies expecting your little ones the next days. That's so exciting! :bluecheer::cheer: I'm looking forward to see all those pictures of newborn babies :awe:

[4blue2pink]

Not sure if I asked on here before but does anyone know if jeniffer (mommytoapples) is ok?[/QUOTE]

BBB mommy2apples is in my due date group fb page and just posted the xmas pics of her family, shes doing good as far as im aware :) her little girl is stunning!! hope you had a good first christmas with your little man!!

TP you wont disappoint anyone :heart: we all want this for you so so much because we all understand it and we just all soooo badly want you to get your boy and have your happy ending after such a long and rough road, thinking of you and hoping your in labour ;) good luck!! xx

[Noemi2017]

Thx mtolbert:heart: im already 31 weeks and still team green. I pray for Tp she gets her boy and me my miracle baby girl:pray:

[Noemi2017]

Thx u so much Babybeau:hugs:

[mtolbert1]

Hey guys! Mommy2apples sent me a message and asked that I pass it along! Below is the message she sent:

Hey tell them I keep checking on them too! I’ve just forgot my password and can’t log on! Tell tp I will not be disappointed I’ve just been watching from afar and keeping her and her sweet little one in my prayers!excitedly waiting for her sweet little baby’s arrival!! So excited for her Noemi, and ABC!!
-Mommy2apples


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[Eighme]

Do we have a due date group on FB? I saw someone mentioned it previously about theirs. I would love to keep up with all you ladies, if you're comfortable sharing that part of your life!

Had my infusion yesterday! Not feeling well today. Hoping all your lovely ladies are doing good.

ABC and TO, cant wait for these babies !

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[Pbn3]

Thx mtolbert[emoji813] im already 31 weeks and still team green. I pray for Tp she gets her boy and me my miracle baby girl:pray:Noemi I can't wait for your announcement!!! Sending super pink vibes your way [emoji1696]

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[kittendreams]

TP and ABC can't wait to see your beautiful bubbas come into this world xx thinking of you both!

[Noemi2017]

Thx u Pbn:HH: im so curious:D every night before i go to sleep i imagine how it would be have a daughter:XX:

[SurroundedByBoys]

Id love to be a part of the Due Date Group on Facebook if there is one... anyone is welcome to add me if they wish as well. I tend to post a lot since its my only source of communication really with all my family & friends who still live in NY.

Im going to be checking for updates here constantly!!!!

OB says Im dilated to 1, hes def dropping. And he was quite displeased with the doppler today as usual haha

[simkan]

Do we have a due date group on FB? I saw someone mentioned it previously about theirs. I would love to keep up with all you ladies, if you're comfortable sharing that part of your life!

Had my infusion yesterday! Not feeling well today. Hoping all your lovely ladies are doing good.

ABC and TO, cant wait for these babies !

Sent from my SM-G960U using TapatalkI'm not sure if there is one but would love to keep in touch with all of you ladies . I would definitely join and you can add me.

Simone Kantor (I doubt there is another one on fb but just incase I'm the Auckland New Zealand)
I dont post much about my treatment though, if you do add me. Its not a secret I just feel more comfortable talking about it once it's all over because I don't want people feeling sorry or constantly checking in when I feel fine. I'm not sure what fb friends are thinking, I assume they think Tia came early because of something pregnancy related.

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[ABC.2606]

I agree it would be fun to have a FB group to keep up with everyone! Does someone want to set that up? Or I can try to do it - I don't think I've set up a FB group before. Probably we should set it as "closed" or "secret" so posts are kept private from the whole FB world?

Ugggh so I ended up in L&D again today for over 3 hours! My embarrassing story... This morning I was sitting on the couch and a few small gushes of what we now believe was just pee came out. So, basically I peed myself. It felt like pee but it was super sudden and out of my control (thanks, bladder). Anyways I had another appt today for the doc to check on my cervix and I mentioned it to him.... Long story short, he did a test and it appeared that it COULD be amniotic fluid. So I was sent to L&D and 3 hours, 2 negative tests and 1 positive test later, they determined it was not amniotic fluid, my sacs are still intact, and they let me go. The back and forth and confusion for 3 hours though drove me nuts and plus I barely ate before my morning appointment so I ended up not getting to eat the whole day. DO NOT LET A CRANKY, SUPER PREGNANT WOMAN GO ALL DAY WITHOUT FOOD, lol!! Oh well. I stuffed my face tonight to the point where I'm now miserably full and am seriously thinking about just taking a shower & going to bed before 8. Yup - all that drama b/c I peed my pants!! Doc said a baby probably kicked my bladder hard and forced some pee out. Sigh - seriously this pregnancy thing is nuts.

Eighme - I'm sorry you didn't feel well today. Did they say you'd feel like that the day after and does it take some time for the effects to kick in? Really hoping it helps you get some more energy soon.

Noemi I'm hoping you get your little girl too!!! You girls who are able to stay "Team Green" are amazing - you have SO much more patience than I do!!!

[Mommy2apples]

Thanks bbb for asking about me! I had forgotten my password and wasn’t able to
Log on. I reset it tonight. I’m doing great. Emmy is still tiny, but growing so fast. Wish she would slow down a bit. She always has a smile on her face and today was full of the word momma! I loved it! Hope your little guy is doing well!
Thanks 4blue2pink, and mtolbert!
Anyways tp! How exciting your little baby is going to be here so soon! I still think boy, but I’m over the moon excited for you and can’t wait for you to
Come back on and tell us!
ABC!! How quickly your pregnancy has flown or for me at least! I can’t believe you are going to be holding your babies in your arms so soon!
Sweet Noemi! I feel this is your girl! I can’t wait until March!!

[simkan]

I agree it would be fun to have a FB group to keep up with everyone! Does someone want to set that up? Or I can try to do it - I don't think I've set up a FB group before. Probably we should set it as "closed" or "secret" so posts are kept private from the whole FB world?

Ugggh so I ended up in L&D again today for over 3 hours! My embarrassing story... This morning I was sitting on the couch and a few small gushes of what we now believe was just pee came out. So, basically I peed myself. It felt like pee but it was super sudden and out of my control (thanks, bladder). Anyways I had another appt today for the doc to check on my cervix and I mentioned it to him.... Long story short, he did a test and it appeared that it COULD be amniotic fluid. So I was sent to L&D and 3 hours, 2 negative tests and 1 positive test later, they determined it was not amniotic fluid, my sacs are still intact, and they let me go. The back and forth and confusion for 3 hours though drove me nuts and plus I barely ate before my morning appointment so I ended up not getting to eat the whole day. DO NOT LET A CRANKY, SUPER PREGNANT WOMAN GO ALL DAY WITHOUT FOOD, lol!! Oh well. I stuffed my face tonight to the point where I'm now miserably full and am seriously thinking about just taking a shower & going to bed before 8. Yup - all that drama b/c I peed my pants!! Doc said a baby probably kicked my bladder hard and forced some pee out. Sigh - seriously this pregnancy thing is nuts.

Eighme - I'm sorry you didn't feel well today. Did they say you'd feel like that the day after and does it take some time for the effects to kick in? Really hoping it helps you get some more energy soon.

Noemi I'm hoping you get your little girl too!!! You girls who are able to stay "Team Green" are amazing - you have SO much more patience than I do!!!ABC that happened to me with ds2! It actually happened again and I was too embarrassed to go in so I left it till the next day and my mom forced me to call my OB and it was my waters. So if tomorrow the same thing happens don't be embarrassed to call.
Definitely think it should be private or secret though I have no idea. I could probably figure it out on my computer but I've been staying at my parents during my treatment so dont have it with me.

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[4blue2pink]

Noemi i have everything crossed for you, the fact that you want to name her after your mum is just so gorgeous :heart: i hope you get your little girl.

TP good luck today!! :heart:

[Pbn3]

Ladies I set up a secret/private facebook group for my due date group. It's set up so only those in the group see posts, not any other facebook friends you have. However, I had to have everyone friend request my personal facebook profile so I could accept, add them to the group, then I simply unfriended them again. I pmed a screenshot of my profile through this site so the ladies could find me. Hope this helps if you wish to set up your own [emoji4]

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[TaytumJ]

Good luck today, TP! Thinking of you and sending so much blue dust![emoji170][emoji1694]


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[ksmom]

Thinking of you TP! I'm hoping so very much you get your blue bundle!!! :bluecheer:

[SurroundedByBoys]

Thinking of you today TP!!! :bluecheer:

ABC- This LO has made me pee myself MULTIPLE times this pregnancy, so dont feel bad when youre carrying two! Haha. Never had it happen before, Im telling you, its been so horrifying I sincerely considered adult diapers just because I never know!

[Greydore]

Totally lurking because I can’t wait to see these new babes!! TP sending all my blue dust your way!!

[ABC.2606]

Thinking of you today TP!!! :bluecheer:

ABC- This LO has made me pee myself MULTIPLE times this pregnancy, so dont feel bad when youre carrying two! Haha. Never had it happen before, Im telling you, its been so horrifying I sincerely considered adult diapers just because I never know!

LOL it’s crazy right? What these kids do to us!!


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[ABC.2606]

Thinking of you TP!


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[Noemi2017]

Abc im looking forward to seeing your twins:highfive: yes be team green is about patient and also big hope:pray:
4blue2pink thanks so much, i have wonderful relationship with my mother, she is angel and i wish the same with my daughter if i get her:HH:
Tp think of today, all my blue dust and prayers to you:heart:

[ABC.2606]

Thanks bbb for asking about me! I had forgotten my password and wasn’t able to
Log on. I reset it tonight. I’m doing great. Emmy is still tiny, but growing so fast. Wish she would slow down a bit. She always has a smile on her face and today was full of the word momma! I loved it! Hope your little guy is doing well! 41012
Thanks 4blue2pink, and mtolbert!
Anyways tp! How exciting your little baby is going to be here so soon! I still think boy, but I’m over the moon excited for you and can’t wait for you to
Come back on and tell us!
ABC!! How quickly your pregnancy has flown or for me at least! I can’t believe you are going to be holding your babies in your arms so soon!
Sweet Noemi! I feel this is your girl! I can’t wait until March!!

She is precious!!! So good to hear from you and I’m glad you’re doing well!


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[Noemi2017]

Mommy2apples thx u:HH:Emmy is soo wonderful and she grows so fast:awe:You have now perfect family:LotsofLove:

[Mommy2apples]

Thanks ABC and Noemi! �� eek so excited for TP’s update!!

[Babybeaublue]

Come on TP!!! :bluecheer:

4b2p thank you it was crazy but lovely at Christmas!

[Georgia_Peach]

What time is your induction today TP? [emoji3]

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[hopper]

ARGH TP I'm thinking of you!! Hoping you are holding that little bundle as I type!!


Thanks Pbn and BBB! I'm so ready!!! It's been such a long 2 years with this whole swaying/pregnancy process!

Simkan I'm so glad your treatment is going well and that baby girl is doing well too!!!! Hope you get her home soon!!

TP WOW that is one stubborn baby LOL! I'm still hoping the lateness means boy though! Surely you must be going into labor soon if you keep having those on and off contractions!!!! Ahhh it's so close now though - whether you go into labor on your own or induction!!!!

Hopper - I'll be 37 weeks on Monday. Basically it's the earliest they are willing to induce. I'm a little nervous that we're inducing before the babies are "ready" health-wise, but in the US most docs only allow twins to go to 38 weeks anyways so it's only a week earlier. Hopefully they will do great! My cervix keeps changing a little more each week too so both my doctor and I just don't think they'll stay in 2 more weeks anyways!

Eek ABC!! I can't believe your babies are so close to being here! When they're here I think it will feel more real for me!!!
I'm LOLing at your trip to hospital cause I had very similar on my DS3. They checked and checked again but said They were "mostly sure" it wasn't my waters. I tried telling them it didn't smell like urine but they sent me home with my tail between my legs. I was back in two days later and it turned out my waters had been steadily leaking all that time and he had very little fluid around him! I was like "in yo face!!!" Lol!!



Do we have a due date group on FB? I saw someone mentioned it previously about theirs. I would love to keep up with all you ladies, if you're comfortable sharing that part of your life!

Had my infusion yesterday! Not feeling well today. Hoping all your lovely ladies are doing good.

ABC and TO, cant wait for these babies !

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How are you feeling now Eighme after your infusion? I'm booked for one on Monday!
I'd totally join a due date FB group! I'm admin on a secret group from my wedding planning days back in 2010 lol. It's a great way to keep in touch!
SBB you are getting close!! So exciting!!
Noemi I really do take my hat off to you staying green all this time! Fingers crossed you get your little pink bundle!! I love the idea of calling her after your mother. Our little girl will have my mother's name as her middle name :)

Hope everyone else is keeping well. So much activity here these days. It's hard to keep up lol!


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[hopper]

As for myself, as I mentioned above I'm in for an iron infusion on Monday. Levels haven't risen above 8 since October. Had urine sent to the lab for testing as it was +2 for Leukocytes and +1 for Protein. Will get results on Monday. Little man is still breech, measuring around 2.14 today and little lady is now head down and measuring 2.9. But lb is the presenting twin so I need him to flip round otherwise we will discuss a section date when I see my OB again in 4 weeks! I'm feeling positive today though :)
Got to see lg face at the scan. I fell in love with this photo of her nose and little bow lips so just had to share!! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190111/98fdb7bab06bb128d0e0607ecd7b20fa.jpg

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[Lilawt]

Goodness I am so hoping TP is holding her little boy in her arms right now.

Is anyone else a little bit glued to this thread for some news ? I am not in America so I’ve no idea of what time it is!

Good luck TP !!! All my blue dust is yours


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[Mom25boys]

Lol. Totally stalking. I've been watching your thread for a long time because my due date group is so quiet so I envied you guys. Now the whole site is waiting for TP. No pressure, lol. I have no guesses on the gender, I just hope that its a healthy and easy birth. I hope that whatever happens, she handles it well. I don't do team green as it appears quite tortuous, but then again, I'm at 17 weeks and I still didn't find out. So best of luck. Can't wait to hear :)

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[SurroundedByBoys]

Ive been stalking every hour, not even going to pretend like Im not ;)

[Blue2]

Same. Good luck TP!!! Whole site is cheering for you xx

[mtolbert1]

I’m stalking too! Thinking of you, tp!


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[Nell_]

Im not even pregnant yet or part of this thread but i keep checking too!! 🤞🤞

[2blue1pink]

Just chiming in to say I'm stalking too. No pressure or anything. :) Hope you are having an easy delivery TP!!!

[kikurose]

Joining the TP Fan Club:)

Hopper- look at that perfect little nose!

[simkan]

As for myself, as I mentioned above I'm in for an iron infusion on Monday. Levels haven't risen above 8 since October. Had urine sent to the lab for testing as it was +2 for Leukocytes and +1 for Protein. Will get results on Monday. Little man is still breech, measuring around 2.14 today and little lady is now head down and measuring 2.9. But lb is the presenting twin so I need him to flip round otherwise we will discuss a section date when I see my OB again in 4 weeks! I'm feeling positive today though :)
Got to see lg face at the scan. I fell in love with this photo of her nose and little bow lips so just had to share!! https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190111/98fdb7bab06bb128d0e0607ecd7b20fa.jpg

Sent from my EVA-L09 using TapatalkAbsolutely beautiful hopper! I'm in love with those lips too!
Hope your little boy flips for you, you've got time though.
You'll feel great after your infusion. Hoping your tests come back fine too.

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[BoyDream]

Can’t stop myself from lurking around here to find out about TP! Have been a silent observer so far.. it seems as if the entire site is waiting for the news :) good luck to you TP . We are all rooting for you!


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[kikurose]

Thanks LMSM! Though your second came earlier so I'm still going to stick my tongue out at you! :P

It's funny hat you say though, because I totally rationalized when DD came with that. We had some preterm labor scares with DD and every midwife I saw thought I was going to go early because of how low she was, how ripe my cervix was as a FTM, how often I was contracting, etc. Then 40+2 after going into labor at 40! Then she was so shrimpy (6 lbs and change) I joked she couldn't have come any earlier because she needed to beef up! I just can't expect that this baby is smaller and am anticipating a big one... either way, induction finally settled for this Friday at 41.1. Hoping I just wake up in labor that day ;)

ABC -- I feel a special kind of love that our rainbow babies are going to be only days apart. In all my GD and depression I have lost sight at times of what we both went through before these babies. I feel as excited for your babies as mine haha.

And it is funny how this baby is making you all wait, too! I just know I'll be a disappointment coming back on here without my longed for boy.


Just did a major dive and this made me tear up. I remember you all going through these losses, and now you both are moments/days away from holding these rainbows. *cue the tears*

I'm so anxious this pregnancy following my loss in July (my due date would have been in 3 weeks!), but I pray that in June I can hold my rainbow too <3

Y'all are some tough and inspiring mothers- all of you! <3

[Girlswaylondon]

Popping back the site to check in on my fellow 2ww'ers! Good luck ladies xx

[LMSM]

Hopper, that little nose and mouth..sooooo cute! Ready to give Mumma kisses :D
Fx your little dude turns soon ;)

TP... we are all cheering you on! So excited for you to hold your rainbow baby in your arms! Anyone know what time it is where she is? (Probably still is Friday, my brother in NY is 5.40pm right now but anywhere else, no clue lol)
Hope things go beyond what you d think and have the smoothest, most incredible delivery and first meeting with baby :awe:

[ABC.2606]

Girlsway good to hear from you! How's your baby girl doing?

Kiku you will hold your little girl in June!!! I know how you feel though - I've had the most anxiety this pregnancy of any of my pregnancies and I know a lot of it has to do with the losses!

Hopper awww she is so cute!!! I love it! Lots of time still for little man to flip so hopefully he does!! Seriously - my guy was in the craziest sideways & breech positions all the way up until 33-34 weeks and now he's head down and has dropped into place! His head is just a bit higher than his sister's now!

TP - Girl you've got this ENTIRE site on edge, LOL! We all care about you and are hoping/wishing for the best!!! Hope things are going well!

LMSM I don't know where TP is - for some reason I feel like she may be somewhere on the East Coast which would be 6:30 pm right now.

[SurroundedByBoys]

Im lurking... I feel like if I get up in the middle of the night (like I do 40x to use the bathroom) Ill be on here checking for news. :P Same thing when its your turn ABC!

[Mommy2apples]

Yes, that anxiety comes with the losses, until
I held Emmalyn in my arms that day I was still
Unconvinced I was going to bring my baby girl home. The day of I just kept thinking is this really happening?

[Kelbear]

TP Hoping you are holding your new Bub now to and that you got your little boy. Can't wait to hear update.
Sorry I have been absent the past few weeks since my little girl's arrival - she is not a good sleeper at night but hopefully that will improve. She is adored by her brothers and I. we can't imagine life without her in it.
Can't believe you are all so close to meeting your bubs soon. Hope you are all doing ok. Can't believe you have kept the twins in so long ABC, that is amazing.

[Babybeaublue]

Girlsway she's beautiful! Glad she's doing well :)

Still no TP news??!! I'm going crazy here!!

[Noemi2017]

Girlsway happy to hear about u:) your baby girl is amazing:HH: u must be sooo happy:LotsofLove:

[Greydore]

Girlsway! So nice to hear from you, and your daughter is just precious!

[TA Sait]

Woooww she is so cute. Such an adorable smile..

[Throwaway_panther]

Baby is a girl.

Two hour labor after all was said and done, and managed pain med free despite pitocin and had no tears despite 3 pushes total to get baby out. 8 lb, 11 oz and 20.5 inches at officially 41+2.

I'd appreciate if all of you won't do the "meant to be" lines and so on. I'm not devastated but very sad that I was right all along and went through so much for my journey to still not be over, and I'd be lying if I didn't say that this baby doesn't feel like a rainbow -- that the storm is still there.

I am not as bonded or instantly in love like I was with DD, so I'm just trying to take it moment by moment. Feels surreal to say "she" honestly. But she is nursing like a champ and looks so different from DD that I'm just trying to learn this new person. Labor actually seemed to bring DH and I together even though I know he and others on my team can tell I am still carrying grief with this baby.

I so thought at the beginning of this pregnancy that something was finally going to go my way! But all I can think of now is how the last 3 years of misery could still have been paving the way for me to still hopefully get my boy. So just taking things moment by moment.

[ksmom]

I'm so sorry TP. I understand that feeling of sadness. If you need someone to talk to, I'm here. Huge hugs! :heart:

[BoyDream]

So sorry TP.. I can feel every word you have said as I have been there in the past. Wish you the strength required to handle this.. [emoji253]


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[Babybeaublue]

Oh TP im sorry. All you can do is give it time to bond. Just remember she is not just another girl. She is a unique little person in her own right. She is not her sister, she is new and you will get to know her little personality in time. I know how much it hurts, not to have another girl, but to not have a boy. We all understand that part but obviously at the same time we can't understand fully how YOU feel. All I can do is send love and let you know you have us all here for you. X

[hopper]

Sending much love TP. You are amazing xx

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[aira22]

Congrats on a fast and easy labor and having a healthy sweet baby! So sorry, it didn't turn out to be your son. I had this "situation" 2 times... and I know it's a pain (in the beginning)... hugs!

[TA Sait]

Congratulations for a healthy baby over anything TP..
Sorry it didn't meant to go your way for a son....
:hug2:

[Noemi2017]

Tp good you had easy labour. I want to say congrats to healthy baby:heart:

[ABC.2606]

TP - I know I don’t have any words to say that will bring comfort and I’m heartbroken that this wasn’t your boy. We are here whenever you need! Praying that your bond with her grows in the coming days - even though I know that the pain of not getting a boy won’t go away. And I do hope he is still out there for you and that there will be a rainbow at the end that makes all of this make sense one day.

Huge hugs.


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[ruupau]

TP congrats for the baby, and lots of love to the sweet baby girl, sorry its not what you wanted but all in all she is healthy thats all we thank God for

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[4blue2pink]

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your healthy baby girl TP and im so happy to hear you had the drug-free natural birth that i know you wanted (i told you it was going to be quick ;) ) nursing like a champ and no tears is fantastic!!

i am so sorry this wasnt your boy :heart: i completely understand the sadness and everyone around you expects you to be on cloud 9 dont they.. I haven't really touched on my post-birth experiences with my boys (especially the ones born after the loss of our baby girl) as i feel its maybe too extreme and certainly doesnt fit with the general experience of "falling in love and not wanting to change a thing the second they are in your arms" im glad the majority of ladies do experience that!! but i never did... You are not alone in feeling how you do :heart:

i am also very glad to hear that your dh stepped up during your labour and was supportive :heart: if he is at least acknowledging your grief it sounds like maybe things with him are moving in a more positive direction, i truly hope it feels that way for you.

im not sure if my post is going to make much sense.. how can i be sincere about being both "so happy" and "so sorry" but i really do feel a mix of both after reading your update, i want to celebrate your positive birth, healthy baby and what i really hope is an improved situation with dh while being devastated for you that this wasn't your son :heart: i hope that somehow all of this makes some sort of sense..

finally and slightly off topic.. i would like to say Congratulations to your oldest daughter on becoming a big sister :heart: i know how much she has wanted this role and i hope it is every bit as magical and exciting as she had hoped for :)

Thinking of you and wishing you as much peace as possible as you get to know your new addition and settle into this new dynamic, i have no doubt that you are going to BOSS having 2!! but be kind on yourself, rest when you can and remember that we are all here for you whenever you need us :heart: lots of love xxx

[Mommy2apples]

Will always be here for you tp, always keeping you in my prayers and there really isn’t much I can say, because I believe bbb and 4blue2pink said it beautifully! So many hugs to you momma!

[Eighme]

Sending my love and well wishes to you, TP. I'm thankful you and baby are healthy. But I completely understand your feelings and won't touch on the gender subject. I'm just glad you're both healthy!

All my love to you!

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[Lilawt]

Oh TP. I, like so many, badly wanted that boy for you. I know there are no words right now from any of us that would help with your feelings, but just know you are not alone, unfortunately so many of us have felt the same pain. We are all here whenever you need us.

Be kind to yourself and let your emotions out. Don’t be afraid. Don’t feel bad that the instant bond wasn’t there, a lot of people don’t get that feeling straight away but it will come.

Your baby has listened to your heart beat every second for months now, and she already loves you so much. When she looked up at your face for the first time she knew instantly that you were her mummy. It’s the strongest love there is and it grows stronger everyday.

I know it might not be easy but in time you will feel lighter. It might take weeks, months , maybe a year.. but one day you will look down on your sweet daughter playing, or smiling or sleeping and you won’t be able to imagine your life without her. She is a gift to you and she is the most wonderful, perfect gift for your dd1.

Lil


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[SurroundedByBoys]

Im with 4blue2pink... both happy and sorry at the same time. You have a lot of support here, and Im always a listening ear myself. :hug2:

[wantinfo9]

do anyone know from ultrasound from which side did you ovulate and what was the gender.....

[Throwaway_panther]

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your healthy baby girl TP and im so happy to hear you had the drug-free natural birth that i know you wanted (i told you it was going to be quick ;) ) nursing like a champ and no tears is fantastic!!

i am so sorry this wasnt your boy :heart: i completely understand the sadness and everyone around you expects you to be on cloud 9 dont they.. I haven't really touched on my post-birth experiences with my boys (especially the ones born after the loss of our baby girl) as i feel its maybe too extreme and certainly doesnt fit with the general experience of "falling in love and not wanting to change a thing the second they are in your arms" im glad the majority of ladies do experience that!! but i never did... You are not alone in feeling how you do :heart:

i am also very glad to hear that your dh stepped up during your labour and was supportive :heart: if he is at least acknowledging your grief it sounds like maybe things with him are moving in a more positive direction, i truly hope it feels that way for you.

im not sure if my post is going to make much sense.. how can i be sincere about being both "so happy" and "so sorry" but i really do feel a mix of both after reading your update, i want to celebrate your positive birth, healthy baby and what i really hope is an improved situation with dh while being devastated for you that this wasn't your son :heart: i hope that somehow all of this makes some sort of sense..

finally and slightly off topic.. i would like to say Congratulations to your oldest daughter on becoming a big sister :heart: i know how much she has wanted this role and i hope it is every bit as magical and exciting as she had hoped for :)

Thinking of you and wishing you as much peace as possible as you get to know your new addition and settle into this new dynamic, i have no doubt that you are going to BOSS having 2!! but be kind on yourself, rest when you can and remember that we are all here for you whenever you need us :heart: lots of love xxx

I am grateful for so many of all of your comments, but 4blue, you have always offered me such solace and so much empathy -- your post hits the nail on the head so completely, and I am so grateful to see my thoughts echoed elsewhere.

I so appreciate the kind words and I know everyone around me is so happy, but there's still this incompleteness -- especially with the existing grief of losing boys. It comes and goes, the feelings for this baby. Just trying to take it a step at a time. Wish the universe had bargained back with me ;)

[Girlswaylondon]

Our labours sound extremely similar tp! Sorry It didnt go your way but congratulations on your baby girl xx

[4blue2pink]

TP im glad that my post resonated with you, i was worried it might come across as a jumbled mess!!

I think we joined the site around the same time and although you are a blue swayer and im pink you stood out to me straight away as pretty much the only person on here who admitted to having gender desire to the same degree i do!!

we both had really strong gender desire and then disappointment with our first babies. It seems there arent that many people who have that extreme gender desire and then suffer major GD with their first child and i felt a bit alone with that until i read your posts.
We also both have certain family members who seem to only celebrate baby's of one gender, we both really wanted small age gaps, we both had low-risk first pregnancies followed by loss(es) of our dream gender and then we both went on to have another healthy baby of the opposite gender to the one we desperately wanted. Oh and not forgetting the "unhelpful" dh's ;)

Ive always been really thankful to you for posting so honestly and showing the extreme end of gender desire and disappointment, right from the start id read your posts and it felt like they could've been about me, you described the same feelings and thoughts that i had/have, and not just with GD, even the desire for the small age gap or the negative reaction from that family member about your DD1 being a girl, to your feelings of just keeping on ttc your ds's till it kills you, all of it. Id read it and be like "yes!! i get that 100%" Thankyou for sharing everything that you have over the years :heart:

Now after reading your update i cant help but think back to after DS2 was born, i hadn't dealt with the death of our baby girl who came 10 months before him and the time after he was born was the darkest point for me so far, it might seem wrong for me to even admit to that here, (talk about raining on the parade!!) but at the end of the day sometimes having a new baby isnt all magic sparkling fairy dust, sometimes your arms are full while you still feel empty and i just wanted you to know that i do understand the negative emotions and thoughts that will no doubt be there right now and its ok to admit that they are there. Having everyone else on cloud 9 really doesnt make it any easier either, its a really messy and difficult time and there is no getting around it so please keep posting here because we do understand.
I just so wish this wasnt the situation right now, along with everyone else on here i so desperately wanted this baby to be the end of your journey to your boy, and you are right the universe has been unfair!! but we are all here ready to take the next steps with you no matter what they are or which direction they go in :heart:

does new addition have a name? you did mention a gorgeous choice a little while ago (i wont write it but it began with M) :) i hope your getting some rest now between the constant newborn feeds xx

[wantinfo9]

do anyone know from ultrasound from which side did you ovulate and what was the gender.....

[TaytumJ]

My heart aches for you, TP. Congratulations on your beautiful new baby, but I’m so sorry it wasn’t your boy. You are so strong; please know I’m sending you all the love and comfort and peace I can. I can remember having a very hard time bonding with DS2. Know you’re not alone. Big, big hugs my friend.


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[simkan]

Tp I'm so happy you had an amazing delivery and your baby is healthy and latching
I'm also so sorry and feel your sadness that you didnt get your boy. I had that feeling with ds2 and it took a while before I stopped obsessing about how he wasn't a girl. Right now I just hope you're recovering well from the birth and wish for you to be happy. Sending you so much love.

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[kittendreams]

TP thank you so much for updating us we have all been on the edge of our seats waiting for the news. I want to congratulate you but also know you are in pain right now so it's so hard to know what to say ( although 4 blue and others have said it so well already)
I know how much you wanted this and I know nothing can be said to make it better right now- as you said you have to take it day by day.
But just know we are all here for you- most of us know how it feels and we want to support you all we can.
Ps I must say I'm totally jealous of your labour experience it would have been my dream to labour naturally and drug free however I'm facing my third c section in the next couple of weeks. I'm in awe of your natural ability to birth so naturally xx

[Nell_]

[QUOTE=Nell_;1019167]Well done TP on your labour and congratulations on your new bundle. So sorry it wasn't what we hoped for you but like you say take 1 moment at a time, lots of ladies on here have been where you are and will be a great support.
We are all here for you!! Do you have anyone in the "real world" you can get support from too and vent to?
sending hugs xoxox

[atomic sagebrush]

Hugest congrats Panther on new baby girl - I'm so sorry it didn't go the way we were all hoping it would. Wishing you peace and joy.

[LMSM]

Congratulations on the safe arrival of your healthy baby girl TP and im so happy to hear you had the drug-free natural birth that i know you wanted (i told you it was going to be quick ;) ) nursing like a champ and no tears is fantastic!!

i am so sorry this wasnt your boy :heart: i completely understand the sadness and everyone around you expects you to be on cloud 9 dont they.. I haven't really touched on my post-birth experiences with my boys (especially the ones born after the loss of our baby girl) as i feel its maybe too extreme and certainly doesnt fit with the general experience of "falling in love and not wanting to change a thing the second they are in your arms" im glad the majority of ladies do experience that!! but i never did... You are not alone in feeling how you do :heart:

i am also very glad to hear that your dh stepped up during your labour and was supportive :heart: if he is at least acknowledging your grief it sounds like maybe things with him are moving in a more positive direction, i truly hope it feels that way for you.

im not sure if my post is going to make much sense.. how can i be sincere about being both "so happy" and "so sorry" but i really do feel a mix of both after reading your update, i want to celebrate your positive birth, healthy baby and what i really hope is an improved situation with dh while being devastated for you that this wasn't your son :heart: i hope that somehow all of this makes some sort of sense..

finally and slightly off topic.. i would like to say Congratulations to your oldest daughter on becoming a big sister :heart: i know how much she has wanted this role and i hope it is every bit as magical and exciting as she had hoped for :)

Thinking of you and wishing you as much peace as possible as you get to know your new addition and settle into this new dynamic, i have no doubt that you are going to BOSS having 2!! but be kind on yourself, rest when you can and remember that we are all here for you whenever you need us :heart: lots of love xxx
I wouldn’t have said it better...
Congrats on a healthy baby, and a great labour and supportive husband. Well done you! I’m sure your eldest is going to Be soooo proud of you, of her, of her sister.
I have been there, and so, so, so understand..my heart breaks for you because I know the place where you are at, and it.is.tough.
Don’t feel guilty for not having an immediate bond..even with the “best case scenario “/ dreamed gender etc, that rush of love is not necessarily there straight up and may take time to build. So just take it one day at a time, you are strong, and you will be strong..and be stronger than you think - even though it feels like your world is crumbling somewhat, things will get better, I promise. All in your own time. :awe: feel free to reach out whenever you need it - you will never be judged here.
Xx
Sending you so many :hugs:

[Mom25boys]

Congrats!! I'm so relieved for you that it was so quick. Jealous too. I've been there many times, having 5 boys and we all get you. Hugs. I hope you heal well and find all the possible joys with this baby. My 5 boys look identical and have the same brown hair and brown eyes. Dh is blonde/red with blue green eyes. Every time I didn't get that girl I felt so ignored for my dreams. I just wanted even a different hair color or eye color... my whole house is blue, all their clothing passed to the next. My two sways ended in MC and now I'm due in the summer. I don't even want to check because I'm just not ready to face boy number 6. Even though I expect it. So tons of hugs from all us moms that totally get it.

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[Georgia_Peach]

Congratulations TP on your new arrival. I am so sorry this didnt go the way you hoped. We are all here for you. Xo

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[MiaMelb]

Baby is a girl.

Two hour labor after all was said and done, and managed pain med free despite pitocin and had no tears despite 3 pushes total to get baby out. 8 lb, 11 oz and 20.5 inches at officially 41+2.

I'd appreciate if all of you won't do the "meant to be" lines and so on. I'm not devastated but very sad that I was right all along and went through so much for my journey to still not be over, and I'd be lying if I didn't say that this baby doesn't feel like a rainbow -- that the storm is still there.

I am not as bonded or instantly in love like I was with DD, so I'm just trying to take it moment by moment. Feels surreal to say "she" honestly. But she is nursing like a champ and looks so different from DD that I'm just trying to learn this new person. Labor actually seemed to bring DH and I together even though I know he and others on my team can tell I am still carrying grief with this baby.

I so thought at the beginning of this pregnancy that something was finally going to go my way! But all I can think of now is how the last 3 years of misery could still have been paving the way for me to still hopefully get my boy. So just taking things moment by moment.

Oh TP you are so strong both physically and mentally. Congratulations on the safe arrival of your little girl. It's ok to still grieve that this wasn't the boy you dreamed of, I know from experience that it doesn't mean you'll love DD2 any less. For me DD2 has so much more of my personality than DD1 and as she grew and I got to see more of who she was it made me more and more proud to be her mum. For me the disappointment of not having a son hasn't gone away but when I see my two girls together it reminds me that they are not disappointed in their siblings at all and their girly bond has just become so strong over the last year that I'm actually very happy for them.

I wish you all the best in the newborn haze and know that you have a safe place here to process your emotions.

[mummaofboys]

Congratulations TP on your new bubba and your quick labour! Your DD1 must be over the moon to be a big sister [emoji4]
As everyone else has said I’m so sorry you didn’t get your boy and I send you a huge hug for that but I do hope you’re recovering well and I’m sure the bond with DD2 will come xx


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[Lilyflower]

TP congratulations!! So sorry for how you are feeling now. I so admire your ability to birth without pain meds despite pitocin, wow you are amazing for doing that. Hoping you have a quick recovery and that all of the bonding hormones take over and allow you to find a joy in you that you never even expected. Whatever your process may be, take your time and know that all of your feelings are ok.
Keep us posted on how you are doing.
Xo

[gafan]

TP, congratulations that you and baby are healthy. It sounds like an amazing birth! I will try to think of your borth story of I am on Pitocin again- you are strong!
I am sorry you didn't have a boy and that it hurts so much not to have the gender you wanted. I hope you feel more peace pver time as you grieve that loss.

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[gafan]

Yay Kiku!!

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[gafan]

Noemi, I am hoping you have a healthy baby girl. Not too long until you find out...

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[Noemi2017]

Thx u gafan:hugs: i dont know if i have chance for baby girl...i would feel so blessed if i get her and if not i will be grateful for healthy baby. Im just afraid i wont stop to desire her...

[kikurose]

TP.
Everything has been said.

All I can offer is a virtual hug. Feel what you feel without guilt. Process those feelings. I hope you have some moments today that make you feel some joy in your grief.

I am happy you had such a great labor. That at least was a gift. I’m glad you are healthy. She is healthy. And I’m glad your DH was a help.

I’m so sad for you, but this is just another step in your journey to your son. And I hope your girls are the best of friends ❤️

[dreamofdaughter]

Have been offline for a few days...only came back to check on you, TP. Congratulations on your healthy baby girl and a quick, safe arrival but I am so sorry it wasn't your boy.

I didn't bond immediately with my second...I am sad to write that, but it is true. It will come.

Sending you lots of good thoughts and prayers for happiness. All the best. x

[hopper]

TP im glad that my post resonated with you, i was worried it might come across as a jumbled mess!!

I think we joined the site around the same time and although you are a blue swayer and im pink you stood out to me straight away as pretty much the only person on here who admitted to having gender desire to the same degree i do!!

we both had really strong gender desire and then disappointment with our first babies. It seems there arent that many people who have that extreme gender desire and then suffer major GD with their first child and i felt a bit alone with that until i read your posts.
We also both have certain family members who seem to only celebrate baby's of one gender, we both really wanted small age gaps, we both had low-risk first pregnancies followed by loss(es) of our dream gender and then we both went on to have another healthy baby of the opposite gender to the one we desperately wanted. Oh and not forgetting the "unhelpful" dh's ;)

Ive always been really thankful to you for posting so honestly and showing the extreme end of gender desire and disappointment, right from the start id read your posts and it felt like they could've been about me, you described the same feelings and thoughts that i had/have, and not just with GD, even the desire for the small age gap or the negative reaction from that family member about your DD1 being a girl, to your feelings of just keeping on ttc your ds's till it kills you, all of it. Id read it and be like "yes!! i get that 100%" Thankyou for sharing everything that you have over the years [emoji813]

Now after reading your update i cant help but think back to after DS2 was born, i hadn't dealt with the death of our baby girl who came 10 months before him and the time after he was born was the darkest point for me so far, it might seem wrong for me to even admit to that here, (talk about raining on the parade!!) but at the end of the day sometimes having a new baby isnt all magic sparkling fairy dust, sometimes your arms are full while you still feel empty and i just wanted you to know that i do understand the negative emotions and thoughts that will no doubt be there right now and its ok to admit that they are there. Having everyone else on cloud 9 really doesnt make it any easier either, its a really messy and difficult time and there is no getting around it so please keep posting here because we do understand.
I just so wish this wasnt the situation right now, along with everyone else on here i so desperately wanted this baby to be the end of your journey to your boy, and you are right the universe has been unfair!! but we are all here ready to take the next steps with you no matter what they are or which direction they go in [emoji813]

does new addition have a name? you did mention a gorgeous choice a little while ago (i wont write it but it began with M) :) i hope your getting some rest now between the constant newborn feeds xxI swear this is the closest I've ever read to how I felt after DS1. I have never really verbalised those feelings and instead just lived with the guilt of not having that instant connection you're supposed to have. Being really really honest I've never had it on any of mine, just relief that it's all over. The bonding has always come later. But on my first I didn't realise that GD was a thing or that it was so strong until he was here and he wasn't my girl that I'd talked to and bonded with. The only way I've spoken about it (to very, very, very few people) is by saying that the child I grew inside me was not the same child I held in my arms. If that even makes sense. She became a He and it was only then I realised I totally didn't want to be a mother to a son. God that sounds awful. I stopped beating myself up over it a long time ago tho. My DS1 is the sweetest boy. His whole heart belongs to his mama. Then along came DS2. I think I talked myself into being ok with him being a He but the truth is it just stung way too much. It wasn't until I had DS3 that I found a level of happiness in my son's that I didn't think existed. But in the back of my mind it grates on me SO bad that so so so many women pop out one of each and are done. I've had three boys, two losses and am getting my girl now but it feels almost like it's by default cause I can't enjoy it. I'm having twins. It's going to be hard. It IS hard currently. My 3 sons are suffering (lack of focus on my part. I'm just so drained and everything is the biggest effort!) as a result of my obsession with needing a daughter. I still don't feel like I thought I'd feel at that news. Maybe that's the anxiety of needing to get them here safely. I dunno...
Aaaaaaaanyway, that went somewhere I wasn't expecting it to go. I just wanted to say TP you are so so understood here. I love your honesty. You are a strong woman who will raise strong daughters. Keeping you in my thoughts xx

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[4blue2pink]

I swear this is the closest I've ever read to how I felt after DS1. I have never really verbalised those feelings and instead just lived with the guilt of not having that instant connection you're supposed to have. Being really really honest I've never had it on any of mine, just relief that it's all over. The bonding has always come later. But on my first I didn't realise that GD was a thing or that it was so strong until he was here and he wasn't my girl that I'd talked to and bonded with. The only way I've spoken about it (to very, very, very few people) is by saying that the child I grew inside me was not the same child I held in my arms. If that even makes sense. She became a He and it was only then I realised I totally didn't want to be a mother to a son. God that sounds awful. I stopped beating myself up over it a long time ago tho. My DS1 is the sweetest boy. His whole heart belongs to his mama. Then along came DS2. I think I talked myself into being ok with him being a He but the truth is it just stung way too much. It wasn't until I had DS3 that I found a level of happiness in my son's that I didn't think existed. But in the back of my mind it grates on me SO bad that so so so many women pop out one of each and are done. I've had three boys, two losses and am getting my girl now but it feels almost like it's by default cause I can't enjoy it. I'm having twins. It's going to be hard. It IS hard currently. My 3 sons are suffering (lack of focus on my part. I'm just so drained and everything is the biggest effort!) as a result of my obsession with needing a daughter. I still don't feel like I thought I'd feel at that news. Maybe that's the anxiety of needing to get them here safely. I dunno...
Aaaaaaaanyway, that went somewhere I wasn't expecting it to go. I just wanted to say TP you are so so understood here. I love your honesty. You are a strong woman who will raise strong daughters. Keeping you in my thoughts xx

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Hopper i get it :heart: and im sorry to hear that you have also experienced this extreme end of GD, i was exactly like that with my first 4 boys, there was no bond/connection, it was like i had the wrong baby, i felt totally empty and the hope of the next one been a girl is all that kept me going. After finding out they were boys i only kept them because my dh wanted boys and refused to let me terminate despite my midwife even agreeing by ds3 and 4 that it would be best for me (thats how extreme it was)
what you say about not being able to enjoy your DD is exactly how i ended up, my 1st living daughter wasnt a twin but she was born when i already had 4 boys to look after, i couldnt just sit there and enjoy every single second of her the way i could of if she had been my first and i did resent that.
I wont lie.. once i knew she was a girl and having a girl was my reality not just a dream, i really realised just how much happier i am having girls, i loved my pregnancy and for the first time ever i wasnt wishing it away, i had no resentment, no depression etc the change was huge for me, i was terrified she would die like our DD1 did but all the other negative feelings id had with the boys weren't there, and for the first time ever my closest relatives were happy about the baby (they only celebrate girls). I had 2 girls in a row followed by another boy and although having him wasnt the same as my boys born before the girls (thankfully it was nowhere near as extreme) i didnt have that same level of happiness i had with both of my girls. It sounds so awful but having girls is a happier experience for me.
I hope everything goes well with your twins and that you are able to really enjoy the experience of both having twins and also having your girl :) xx

[hopper]

Hopper i get it [emoji813] and im sorry to hear that you have also experienced this extreme end of GD, i was exactly like that with my first 4 boys, there was no bond/connection, it was like i had the wrong baby, i felt totally empty and the hope of the next one been a girl is all that kept me going. After finding out they were boys i only kept them because my dh wanted boys and refused to let me terminate despite my midwife even agreeing by ds3 and 4 that it would be best for me (thats how extreme it was)
what you say about not being able to enjoy your DD is exactly how i ended up, my 1st living daughter wasnt a twin but she was born when i already had 4 boys to look after, i couldnt just sit there and enjoy every single second of her the way i could of if she had been my first and i did resent that.
I wont lie.. once i knew she was a girl and having a girl was my reality not just a dream, i really realised just how much happier i am having girls, i loved my pregnancy and for the first time ever i wasnt wishing it away, i had no resentment, no depression etc the change was huge for me, i was terrified she would die like our DD1 did but all the other negative feelings id had with the boys weren't there, and for the first time ever my closest relatives were happy about the baby (they only celebrate girls). I had 2 girls in a row followed by another boy and although having him wasnt the same as my boys born before the girls (thankfully it was nowhere near as extreme) i didnt have that same level of happiness i had with both of my girls. It sounds so awful but having girls is a happier experience for me.
I hope everything goes well with your twins and that you are able to really enjoy the experience of both having twins and also having your girl :) xx

Thank you 4b2p! I always felt there was something "wrong" with me that I didn't feel elated to have my healthy baby. I mean, don't get me wrong. I'm very grateful to have my kids and they ARE my world. Now. Back then it didn't feel like that and even here, where GD is so much more understood, spoken about and accepted I've always felt I couldn't even THINK these thoughts, let alone write them. Thank you and TP for your extreme honesty. There's part of me that feels guilty for writing these things but I also feel good in the simple act of being honest.
I hear you on the topic of already having your hands full and not being able to just eat up that time with your DD! I begrudge people that, even now when I've found a semblance of inner peace with my family make up. It gets my goat! Boom, here's a daughter. Boom, here's a son. Oh you want another girl, boom, here she is. A friend of mine once said I should tell my husband to tell his "bits" to shoot out "pink stuff" I just found it was such a rude comment to make. I'm all for a good joke but I had three boys compared to her gentleman's family and it was a punch in the guts!
Something I'm struggling with lately is all the comments of "oh you're a glutton for punishment" and "rather you than me" like I do feel really overwhelmed with the fact we're going from 3 to 5 kids and were already stretched thin at 3! I don't need people throwing in their two cents worth and making me dread the coming months. I don't see how I will possibly be able to enjoy her. And the guilt of enjoying her and not enjoying my 4th boy as much, like the way you describe being happier post partum after your girls compared to your boys. I'm a sucker for feeling guilty over the least little thing. I don't want to feel like I'm preferring her to him. And then there's the fear something might happen between now and their safe arrival and then I'll feel even worse at having had these thoughts!!!gosh, pregnancy hormones suck! I actually don't know where this is coming from. It's like word vomit!!!

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[kittendreams]

ABC is today your induction?
Thinking of you and your beautiful twins!!!!

[kittendreams]

Thank you 4b2p! I always felt there was something "wrong" with me that I didn't feel elated to have my healthy baby. I mean, don't get me wrong. I'm very grateful to have my kids and they ARE my world. Now. Back then it didn't feel like that and even here, where GD is so much more understood, spoken about and accepted I've always felt I couldn't even THINK these thoughts, let alone write them. Thank you and TP for your extreme honesty. There's part of me that feels guilty for writing these things but I also feel good in the simple act of being honest.
I hear you on the topic of already having your hands full and not being able to just eat up that time with your DD! I begrudge people that, even now when I've found a semblance of inner peace with my family make up. It gets my goat! Boom, here's a daughter. Boom, here's a son. Oh you want another girl, boom, here she is. A friend of mine once said I should tell my husband to tell his "bits" to shoot out "pink stuff" I just found it was such a rude comment to make. I'm all for a good joke but I had three boys compared to her gentleman's family and it was a punch in the guts!
Something I'm struggling with lately is all the comments of "oh you're a glutton for punishment" and "rather you than me" like I do feel really overwhelmed with the fact we're going from 3 to 5 kids and were already stretched thin at 3! I don't need people throwing in their two cents worth and making me dread the coming months. I don't see how I will possibly be able to enjoy her. And the guilt of enjoying her and not enjoying my 4th boy as much, like the way you describe being happier post partum after your girls compared to your boys. I'm a sucker for feeling guilty over the least little thing. I don't want to feel like I'm preferring her to him. And then there's the fear something might happen between now and their safe arrival and then I'll feel even worse at having had these thoughts!!!gosh, pregnancy hormones suck! I actually don't know where this is coming from. It's like word vomit!!!

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Hopper this is what scares me about trying for a 4th. Even if ( and that's a huge if after 2 failed sways already) I get a dd at what cost will it be to my boys?

But having said that fwiw my sister had huge gd after her two sons- got pregnant with b/g twins and honestly she loves both so much. They are both so special and truth be told the boy is just irresistible ( to everyone!) she has always doted on him. She loves her daughter/ mother bond and has been able to have it because the other 3 boys played together so much. She has gone on to have another boy with no hint of gd so now has 4 boys and 1 girl. I hope that gives you hope xx

[Babybeaublue]

Damn you time zone difference!!! I don't know what time it is where you are ABC but sending love and luck!! So excited!!!
:babyf::babym:

[SurroundedByBoys]

Haunting post for news from ABC...

I think my little guy is dropping, need to take a pic and compare the bump. Have my next appt Thursday.

[Pretty]

Hi ladies!! I’ve been lurking too for all the exciting updates! I’m so happy for all the healthy happy little ones! I’ve been struggling a bit and just ready to be done, I want to be more excited and hopefully that comes with time... good luck to everyone!!

[hopper]

Hopper this is what scares me about trying for a 4th. Even if ( and that's a huge if after 2 failed sways already) I get a dd at what cost will it be to my boys?

But having said that fwiw my sister had huge gd after her two sons- got pregnant with b/g twins and honestly she loves both so much. They are both so special and truth be told the boy is just irresistible ( to everyone!) she has always doted on him. She loves her daughter/ mother bond and has been able to have it because the other 3 boys played together so much. She has gone on to have another boy with no hint of gd so now has 4 boys and 1 girl. I hope that gives you hope xx

Thank you! That does help kitten! I think I did feel like that before, when I had DS3. We were firmly done but DH was the catalyst behind having one more. If he hadn't been as on board we wouldn't be here now. I'm sure it will all work out ok in the end. I think I'm starting to feel super overwhelmed at the changes coming our way!! And just the general anxiety surrounding getting them here safe and sound! It hasn't been the most enjoyable pregnancy but I'm sure It will all be worth it in the end!!
Do you think you are going to be done after DS3? It's hard after two failed sways. My second was a failed IG sway, third was failed GD sway! It's a big gamble when it's not a certainty! I felt so sure DS3 would be my girl. The shock at having a third boy was unreal! Then again, I was with my nurse this AM getting the whooping cough vax and she was saying one of her patients recently had baby boy #5 and I know another friend of a friend who recently had baby boy #6. There was a woman living locally where I grew up and she had 7 boys! My SIL had 5 girls in a row and she was mad for a boy!!

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[hopper]

ABC thinking of you! Hoping your induction has gone well xxx

How are the rest of you ladies doing? Anyone else due soon?
I had an iron infusion yesterday. Whooping cough vax today. I'm not feeling wondrous to be honest. Not being helped by DS3 sleeping terribly at the moment!!!

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[Mom25boys]

Thank you! That does help kitten! I think I did feel like that before, when I had DS3. We were firmly done but DH was the catalyst behind having one more. If he hadn't been as on board we wouldn't be here now. I'm sure it will all work out ok in the end. I think I'm starting to feel super overwhelmed at the changes coming our way!! And just the general anxiety surrounding getting them here safe and sound! It hasn't been the most enjoyable pregnancy but I'm sure It will all be worth it in the end!!
Do you think you are going to be done after DS3? It's hard after two failed sways. My second was a failed IG sway, third was failed GD sway! It's a big gamble when it's not a certainty! I felt so sure DS3 would be my girl. The shock at having a third boy was unreal! Then again, I was with my nurse this AM getting the whooping cough vax and she was saying one of her patients recently had baby boy #5 and I know another friend of a friend who recently had baby boy #6. There was a woman living locally where I grew up and she had 7 boys! My SIL had 5 girls in a row and she was mad for a boy!!

Sent from my EVA-L09 using TapatalkLol. I have 5 boys :)
I'm presumably pregnant with number 6...

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[Noemi2017]

Abc i hope everything went well and you have twins with you:heart::heart:

[4blue2pink]

Thank you 4b2p! I always felt there was something "wrong" with me that I didn't feel elated to have my healthy baby. I mean, don't get me wrong. I'm very grateful to have my kids and they ARE my world. Now. Back then it didn't feel like that and even here, where GD is so much more understood, spoken about and accepted I've always felt I couldn't even THINK these thoughts, let alone write them. Thank you and TP for your extreme honesty. There's part of me that feels guilty for writing these things but I also feel good in the simple act of being honest.
I hear you on the topic of already having your hands full and not being able to just eat up that time with your DD! I begrudge people that, even now when I've found a semblance of inner peace with my family make up. It gets my goat! Boom, here's a daughter. Boom, here's a son. Oh you want another girl, boom, here she is. A friend of mine once said I should tell my husband to tell his "bits" to shoot out "pink stuff" I just found it was such a rude comment to make. I'm all for a good joke but I had three boys compared to her gentleman's family and it was a punch in the guts!
Something I'm struggling with lately is all the comments of "oh you're a glutton for punishment" and "rather you than me" like I do feel really overwhelmed with the fact we're going from 3 to 5 kids and were already stretched thin at 3! I don't need people throwing in their two cents worth and making me dread the coming months. I don't see how I will possibly be able to enjoy her. And the guilt of enjoying her and not enjoying my 4th boy as much, like the way you describe being happier post partum after your girls compared to your boys. I'm a sucker for feeling guilty over the least little thing. I don't want to feel like I'm preferring her to him. And then there's the fear something might happen between now and their safe arrival and then I'll feel even worse at having had these thoughts!!!gosh, pregnancy hormones suck! I actually don't know where this is coming from. It's like word vomit!!!

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i dont think there is anything wrong with anyone who feels that way, i know for me i was conditioned from being very young to only want girls "your either blessed with a girl or cursed with a boy" was what i was told over and over and it was always "when you have your girls..." and never "when you have kids of your own..." (insane and extreme much!!) plus everyone in the family has had a girl first so i kind of thought id be the same, but of course it doesnt work like that!! I had bad GD with my first baby and when my so longed for girl was lost mid pregnancy (my 2nd pregnancy) my desire/desperation for a girl ramped up 100%, she was followed by 3 boys in a row and honestly it felt like i was chasing an impossible dream, girls were clearly impossible for us, or so it felt!!
now after being so so lucky to have 2 healthy living girls i feel like my GD has changed, i still really really hope for a girl every time and i think i always will, but when DS5 was born it was nowhere near as bad as the boys before my living girls. now we have DS5 i actually feel quite drawn to the idea of DS6 to give him a brother close in age :) i NEVER thought i would feel like that, dont get me wrong i still swayed pink and if i could choose i would pick to have a girl but im not so closed off to boys anymore which is a nice feeling :)
its ok to feel more excited for your DD than DS, she is something you have never experienced before, your a 4th time boy mum but a 1st time girl mum :) enjoy the new experience of girl names, clothes, toys etc it doesnt make you a bad mum to DS4 i honestly think its totally normal to be excited for your first daughter and having her as part of a b/g twinset shouldnt take away from her being your 1st girl.
the best part of a big family for me is seeing my kids playing together :) newborns cant do it till they get bigger but i promise you in a year-18 months time you will be watching all 5 of your kids playing together and realise that the twins were a total gift to your 3 older boys :heart: i'll also bet on your 4 boys playing together at times while you and your DD get some girly time together too :) the newborn stage is going to be tough!! but it doesnt last forever, they do grow up and become that bit more independent and thats when you will see your very own "famous five" bonding as their own little gang :) but till then enjoy all those double newborn snuggles!! :heart: double the snuggles and double the squishy-ness!! :heart: twins will be hard work no doubt but so so special :)

[ABC.2606]

Hey ladies - my beautiful, healthy twins were born yesterday and weighed 6 lbs 2 oz (baby girl) and 7 lbs 3 oz (baby boy).

The bad news is delivery was pretty rough. They were both born vaginally - took about 10 hours with a 5 hour gap between the two of them. I then hemorrhaged and things got very intense and scary for awhile. I feel pretty traumatized, spent a lot of the night in tears about how things went, and am in a lot of pain. But I’m going to be fine and my sweet babies are here and healthy and that’s what matters most!

Thanks for checking in on me! Thinking about you all!

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[Eighme]

Hey ladies - my beautiful, healthy twins were born yesterday and weighed 6 lbs 2 oz (baby girl) and 7 lbs 3 oz (baby boy).

The bad news is delivery was pretty rough. They were both born vaginally - took about 10 hours with a 5 hour gap between the two of them. I then hemorrhaged and things got very intense and scary for awhile. I feel pretty traumatized, spent a lot of the night in tears about how things went, and am in a lot of pain. But I’m going to be fine and my sweet babies are here and healthy and that’s what matters most!


Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkCongratulations, ABC! I'm so glad everyone is safe and healthy. I am shocked you delivered vaginally. Literally superwoman over there.

I'm so sorry labor and delivery didnt go and smoothly as it could have. But I'm so glad you're okay!

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[hopper]

Lol. I have 5 boys :)
I'm presumably pregnant with number 6...

Sent from my SM-G965U using TapatalkHave you had confirmation Mom25boys? X
I meant no offense to anyone with my above comments by the way. Just making a point that it's a roll of the dice every time whether you sway or not. I think I just took it for granted on DS3 that a sway meant "automatic girl!" I remember when I first got pregnant with DS3 I was literally the only person I knew that had 3 boys. I knew people online but that's different. It's only within the last maybe 12-18 months I've actually met other mother's in person who have 3, 4, 5+ boys. The vast majority of families I know have one of each. Or even just one child. I was asked recently was I keeping both twins cause I don't want to be too greedy!! It's a small community. I try not to be offended too easily! Some days that's easier said than done lol!

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[hopper]

i dont think there is anything wrong with anyone who feels that way, i know for me i was conditioned from being very young to only want girls "your either blessed with a girl or cursed with a boy" was what i was told over and over and it was always "when you have your girls..." and never "when you have kids of your own..." (insane and extreme much!!) plus everyone in the family has had a girl first so i kind of thought id be the same, but of course it doesnt work like that!! I had bad GD with my first baby and when my so longed for girl was lost mid pregnancy (my 2nd pregnancy) my desire/desperation for a girl ramped up 100%, she was followed by 3 boys in a row and honestly it felt like i was chasing an impossible dream, girls were clearly impossible for us, or so it felt!!
now after being so so lucky to have 2 healthy living girls i feel like my GD has changed, i still really really hope for a girl every time and i think i always will, but when DS5 was born it was nowhere near as bad as the boys before my living girls. now we have DS5 i actually feel quite drawn to the idea of DS6 to give him a brother close in age :) i NEVER thought i would feel like that, dont get me wrong i still swayed pink and if i could choose i would pick to have a girl but im not so closed off to boys anymore which is a nice feeling :)
its ok to feel more excited for your DD than DS, she is something you have never experienced before, your a 4th time boy mum but a 1st time girl mum :) enjoy the new experience of girl names, clothes, toys etc it doesnt make you a bad mum to DS4 i honestly think its totally normal to be excited for your first daughter and having her as part of a b/g twinset shouldnt take away from her being your 1st girl.
the best part of a big family for me is seeing my kids playing together :) newborns cant do it till they get bigger but i promise you in a year-18 months time you will be watching all 5 of your kids playing together and realise that the twins were a total gift to your 3 older boys [emoji813] i'll also bet on your 4 boys playing together at times while you and your DD get some girly time together too :) the newborn stage is going to be tough!! but it doesnt last forever, they do grow up and become that bit more independent and thats when you will see your very own "famous five" bonding as their own little gang :) but till then enjoy all those double newborn snuggles!! [emoji813] double the snuggles and double the squishy-ness!! [emoji813] twins will be hard work no doubt but so so special :)Honestly 4b2p thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your words have been a real comfort to me and exactly what I need to hear, despite not really admitting any of this to myself until it all just came out here!! It seems that in my community, not just my family, girls are more widely celebrated also so I totally get what you're saying there. My BILs wife had a girl two months after we had DS1. We both delivered in the same birthing centre. I had my family come visit as he was the first grandchild. My FIL and one SIL (out of 5) visited. No BILs (there's 3) Every single one of them visited her with her DD. She had a son shortly after I had my second son and none of them visited her. I even remember at my baby shower for DS1, we were team green, everyone was referring to baby as "she" and how much fun I'd have with a girl etc. One of my SILs even said I'd be lucky to not have to change a boys nappy cause it's "just plain gross" Talk about blatantly favouring one gender over the other!
Anyway lol, I'm going on and on. I just wanted to say much love and hoping you get your girl this time, though so nice to hear you are content either way. It's that contented feeling I think I've been chasing for so many years!! X

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[hopper]

Hey ladies - my beautiful, healthy twins were born yesterday and weighed 6 lbs 2 oz (baby girl) and 7 lbs 3 oz (baby boy).

The bad news is delivery was pretty rough. They were both born vaginally - took about 10 hours with a 5 hour gap between the two of them. I then hemorrhaged and things got very intense and scary for awhile. I feel pretty traumatized, spent a lot of the night in tears about how things went, and am in a lot of pain. But I’m going to be fine and my sweet babies are here and healthy and that’s what matters most!

Thanks for checking in on me! Thinking about you all!

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Oh ABC I am SO sorry things went so badly!! I hope you will be ok both physically and emotionally!!
Great to hear your twins are here safe and sound and wow they were absolutely amazing weights for your gestation!!
Sending so many positive vibes your way, keeping you in my thoughts xx

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[Babybeaublue]

Oh ABC that sounds scary I'm so glad you and your babies are ok! They are here!!!!!!!!! Yeyyyy!! Honestly 5 hours in between sounds horrendous, you deserve a medal! :bowdown:

[atomic sagebrush]

ABC I'm so sorry the delivery was rough - but so thankful babies are here safe and sound. Hugest congrats and I hope you're smothered with love and support right now. :heart:

[Mommy2apples]

Oh ABC! I’m so sorry you had such a rough time! Hugs and prayers! So happy your beautiful rainbows are here!

[atomic sagebrush]

I swear this is the closest I've ever read to how I felt after DS1. I have never really verbalised those feelings and instead just lived with the guilt of not having that instant connection you're supposed to have. Being really really honest I've never had it on any of mine, just relief that it's all over. The bonding has always come later. But on my first I didn't realise that GD was a thing or that it was so strong until he was here and he wasn't my girl that I'd talked to and bonded with. The only way I've spoken about it (to very, very, very few people) is by saying that the child I grew inside me was not the same child I held in my arms. If that even makes sense. She became a He and it was only then I realised I totally didn't want to be a mother to a son. God that sounds awful. I stopped beating myself up over it a long time ago tho. My DS1 is the sweetest boy. His whole heart belongs to his mama. Then along came DS2. I think I talked myself into being ok with him being a He but the truth is it just stung way too much. It wasn't until I had DS3 that I found a level of happiness in my son's that I didn't think existed. But in the back of my mind it grates on me SO bad that so so so many women pop out one of each and are done. I've had three boys, two losses and am getting my girl now but it feels almost like it's by default cause I can't enjoy it. I'm having twins. It's going to be hard. It IS hard currently. My 3 sons are suffering (lack of focus on my part. I'm just so drained and everything is the biggest effort!) as a result of my obsession with needing a daughter. I still don't feel like I thought I'd feel at that news. Maybe that's the anxiety of needing to get them here safely. I dunno...
Aaaaaaaanyway, that went somewhere I wasn't expecting it to go. I just wanted to say TP you are so so understood here. I love your honesty. You are a strong woman who will raise strong daughters. Keeping you in my thoughts xx

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I have endless gulfs of sympathy for people who have had GD since the first because you guys have never really had the simple and uncomplicated joy of a pregnancy spent not caring about this stuff. Hugest hugs Hopper.

BTW that is still the thing that gets to me. (I know I've said this a jillion times, apologies to those who have read it before) It's the ease at which the majority of people pop out BG or GB and then act as if they've cured cancer and celebrate it like they've done something superior to the rest of us. And then they're like "We're DONE! hallelujah while it took me 6 pregnancies, five children, 2 losses, 21 years, endless hours of research, practically throwing my marriage away, selling my soul to the devil (long story but I really had to fight hard to get Susannah) and then I still couldn't really enjoy her the way that I had hoped to enjoy my daughter. Still really really hurts sometimes.

[4blue2pink]

ABC Congratulations on the arrival of your twins :heart: i cant believe those amazing birth weights!! im so sorry it was so traumatic :( i can only imagine how scary that would be to go through, i hope you are feeling well enough to enjoy your babies but it can be hard to even do that after something so scary, we are all here if you need us, wishing you as quick of a recovery as possible and i hope the midwives/dr's have given you a chance to ask any questions you may have about what happened so you can try to mentally work through it xx

[Noemi2017]

Abc huge congrats to your babies:HH: you had really hard labour i wish you recover soon:LotsofLove:

[4blue2pink]

Honestly 4b2p thank you. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. Your words have been a real comfort to me and exactly what I need to hear, despite not really admitting any of this to myself until it all just came out here!! It seems that in my community, not just my family, girls are more widely celebrated also so I totally get what you're saying there. My BILs wife had a girl two months after we had DS1. We both delivered in the same birthing centre. I had my family come visit as he was the first grandchild. My FIL and one SIL (out of 5) visited. No BILs (there's 3) Every single one of them visited her with her DD. She had a son shortly after I had my second son and none of them visited her. I even remember at my baby shower for DS1, we were team green, everyone was referring to baby as "she" and how much fun I'd have with a girl etc. One of my SILs even said I'd be lucky to not have to change a boys nappy cause it's "just plain gross" Talk about blatantly favouring one gender over the other!
Anyway lol, I'm going on and on. I just wanted to say much love and hoping you get your girl this time, though so nice to hear you are content either way. It's that contented feeling I think I've been chasing for so many years!! X

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no need to thank me :) im glad that sharing my experience can be useful to other people, one of the worst parts of GD is feeling alone with it. Your family sound similar to mine, we received nothing for our 5 boys but the house looked like a card shop/ florist for both girls!! and not just cards, i got sent handwritten letters several pages long about how special girls are and how sisters are so so important etc etc.. that nappy comment is insane!! in a way girls nappies can be worse (excuse tmi) girls arent all external down there so when she poo's its got more places to get into.. :-/
its taken me 9 years, 7 full term pregnancies, 1 loss and finally 2 living girls to get this more content feeling, i really hope you feel it after the arrival of your twins :heart:

[kittendreams]

ABC thank you so much for updating us even after all you've been through!
I am so so happy your beautiful twins are here safely but I'm so sorry you went through so much trauma to get them here.
Take time to process it, talk about it and ask for help if you need it.
You are an amazing woman and mumma so proud of you xxx

[Mommy2apples]

Atomic hugs to you sweet lady!

[MiaMelb]

Congratulations on the eventual safe arrival of your :DS::DD: twins ABC. Sorry to hear the birth experience was shitty this time round, must have been scary. I know a few women who had births like this (although not with a 5 hr gap between twins) but have all recovered well and quickly. You are so strong!

If you're comfortable sharing would love to know what names you've given them?

[Pbn3]

Abc huge congratulations on the safe arrival of your twins and wow those are fantastic weights for early delivery!!!! I am so sorry the labour and delivery went so badly and scary, I think you're absolutely amazing for getting through it. I hope your recovery is a speedy one and the trauma of the birth becomes a distant memory. Enjoy those newborn snuggles x 2! They are over so quickly [emoji24]

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[kikurose]

Oh ABC!!! How scary. I am so so so glad you are safe. And those weights!! And vaginal!! I hope you are healing well physically and emotionally. So much love.

[hopper]

I have endless gulfs of sympathy for people who have had GD since the first because you guys have never really had the simple and uncomplicated joy of a pregnancy spent not caring about this stuff. Hugest hugs Hopper.

BTW that is still the thing that gets to me. (I know I've said this a jillion times, apologies to those who have read it before) It's the ease at which the majority of people pop out BG or GB and then act as if they've cured cancer and celebrate it like they've done something superior to the rest of us. And then they're like "We're DONE! hallelujah while it took me 6 pregnancies, five children, 2 losses, 21 years, endless hours of research, practically throwing my marriage away, selling my soul to the devil (long story but I really had to fight hard to get Susannah) and then I still couldn't really enjoy her the way that I had hoped to enjoy my daughter. Still really really hurts sometimes.

Thank you Atomic xx
And hell to the yes, you have nailed it for me! The effort involved for some of us is monumental while many just go boom boy, boom girl, job done. Even now I hear from moms with one of each that they are so lucky to have their perfect family and be done and how they'd hate to be like me. I hate that condescension SO much!! Like my body wasn't capable of the perfection theirs was or something. I dunno. I'm striving to take these things less personally! Maybe it's part of a boy mom personality to be so sensitive lol!

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[hopper]

no need to thank me :) im glad that sharing my experience can be useful to other people, one of the worst parts of GD is feeling alone with it. Your family sound similar to mine, we received nothing for our 5 boys but the house looked like a card shop/ florist for both girls!! and not just cards, i got sent handwritten letters several pages long about how special girls are and how sisters are so so important etc etc.. that nappy comment is insane!! in a way girls nappies can be worse (excuse tmi) girls arent all external down there so when she poo's its got more places to get into.. :-/
its taken me 9 years, 7 full term pregnancies, 1 loss and finally 2 living girls to get this more content feeling, i really hope you feel it after the arrival of your twins [emoji813]

I'm seriously LOLing at your statement re changing girls nappies! I've NEVER changed one so I'm sure to see how different it is soon enough. I can imagine boys being easier though. It's all just....there in full view lol!
I sure hope that even a little of that contentment I crave comes my way. Her arrival shall tell a lot I think! If I can just get past this anxiety over delivering them healthily and safely I think I'll embrace this experience a lot lot more! X

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[Mommy2apples]

I feel you all there.. My MIL threw a baby shower for both my girls... not for my boys.

[simkan]

Congratulations ABC! Sounds like a rough birth. You are a warrior! Hope you recover quickly. I had pretty bad tearing with ds1. Was rushed to surgery before I could even hold him. I think I was up and about after a couple days. Pretty well recovered by a month. Hope you're on your way to recovery and enjoying your new babbas!

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[TA Sait]

Many many congratulations for your healthy twins...
Wish you a speedy recovery...

[LMSM]

ABCso happy to hear your twins have arrived safely..what great weights, am sure they are absolutely divine!!!
So sorry it was so rough though, you are a rock star!! Take it easy, as much as you possibly can!
Tp, hope things are settling with bub :awe:
Hopper, 4b2p...whilst my desire is for a boy, your words echo soooo much with me.
I was already so strongly set on a boy/boys when I fell pregnant first (even after 2 years of infertility ! Oh the guilt!)..and would never have chosen to have girls if I had had the choice of one gender only. The guilt has been horrid and already worry about o will deal with a #4 if not a boy..this time I think I managed ok because hubs agreed in principle ttc #4 sothe door wasn’t closed forever and my chance at a son was remote but there.
Of course now they are here and adore the hell out of them (as much as They drive me bonkers lol).. I think they are loud, lively, stubborn , crazy girls to make sure they are acknowledged somehow..it’s crazy but think they need to stand out because they were not the boys I hoped for ?!! So they make sure I know they are there ;)

[mummaofboys]

ABC you are superwoman!! Congrats on the safe arrival of your twins and for growing them so well. Sorry to hear the birth / after the birth wasn’t great. I also haemorrhaged and ended up in theatre after DS2... I was given drugs to contract my uterus quicker and was is so much pain as well. Keep up any pain meds they offer. My emotions were also all over the place after it so be kind to yourself. Enjoy those precious babies of yours xx


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[Babybeaublue]

I never understood the "we've got one of each so we're done" statement. They are not fashion accessories! I couldn't have stopped at two I love babies so much!
I used to say I wanted 7 kids just to annoy anyone smug. Nearly got there in the end lol

[Throwaway_panther]

ABC, I am so sorry that your birth ended up so traumatic and I am desperately hoping you're doing better. You are so amazing to have ended up with a vaginal twin birth afterall and with FIVE hours between deliveries. I can only imagine how stressful that window of time was for you and am thinking of you.

4blue and hopper, all of your words have resonated with me so much and while I feel like I really bummed out this EDD group, I am really glad to see not only how not alone I am in how I feel... but to see that you both HAVE gone on to get your DG helps. Because at the moment, I sit here just trying to think at all positively going forward. It was one thing when I got a girl after starving myself, drinking a ton, overexercising, etc. It's another to have gotten a girl after swaying for over two years and very likely losing many boys, especially after unviable boys with IVF. I always knew it was an odds game: it just sucks that my run of bad luck and odds not going in my favor is continuing. 4blue, I think we are SO similar in all of this that it's crazy; especially with terminations being probably the only mentally sound option for us, though our partners (already such issues for us) being absolutely against it. I feel tears just wanting to express how grateful I am for you to share just how you've felt, and also how happy I am that my words really do help so many of you.

Atomic, I really appreciate your words too -- it really struck me how true this is. GD from the get to has made pregnancy borderline torture from the get go for me and I am envious of anyone that has just been able to be happy...

So thank you all so much. I have been reading every post these last few days.

While my experience is nothing like ABC's, I unfortunately have had an extremely traumatic experience postpartum in the hospital that I want to write about when I get a chance to sit down and type, so despite labor and recovery going better than I ever could have expected, I feel very sad that the hospital and my husband ended up traumatizing me in a very unexpected way.

[Mommy2apples]

Yes, bbb, I had one of each and I will admit I thought at first I was done, but after Ashtyn got older I wasn’t done I wanted more and I wasn’t even done at 3 and 4.

[Mommy2apples]

Hugs tp, I’m so sorry they made it awful for you.

[kittendreams]

ABC, I am so sorry that your birth ended up so traumatic and I am desperately hoping you're doing better. You are so amazing to have ended up with a vaginal twin birth afterall and with FIVE hours between deliveries. I can only imagine how stressful that window of time was for you and am thinking of you.

4blue and hopper, all of your words have resonated with me so much and while I feel like I really bummed out this EDD group, I am really glad to see not only how not alone I am in how I feel... but to see that you both HAVE gone on to get your DG helps. Because at the moment, I sit here just trying to think at all positively going forward. It was one thing when I got a girl after starving myself, drinking a ton, overexercising, etc. It's another to have gotten a girl after swaying for over two years and very likely losing many boys, especially after unviable boys with IVF. I always knew it was an odds game: it just sucks that my run of bad luck and odds not going in my favor is continuing. 4blue, I think we are SO similar in all of this that it's crazy; especially with terminations being probably the only mentally sound option for us, though our partners (already such issues for us) being absolutely against it. I feel tears just wanting to express how grateful I am for you to share just how you've felt, and also how happy I am that my words really do help so many of you.

Atomic, I really appreciate your words too -- it really struck me how true this is. GD from the get to has made pregnancy borderline torture from the get go for me and I am envious of anyone that has just been able to be happy...

So thank you all so much. I have been reading every post these last few days.

While my experience is nothing like ABC's, I unfortunately have had an extremely traumatic experience postpartum in the hospital that I want to write about when I get a chance to sit down and type, so despite labor and recovery going better than I ever could have expected, I feel very sad that the hospital and my husband ended up traumatizing me in a very unexpected way.

TP you have NOT bummed out our dd group. Birthing babies is not all rainbows and sunshine there is so much more to it and that's why we are here for eachother. I personally go into a dark dark place after birth ( not all gd related- some is childhood related as my mum had severe untreated post partum psychosis for 13 years). And like you and others I have never had a pregnancy without gd ( I cried at the 20 week ultrasound with ds1 and went into a depression and it hasn't gone away since then- 4 years on). So I get it- I love my boys endlessly and I do not feel worthy of being their Mum with these feelings, but there is so much simmering under the surface for me when it comes to pregnancy/birth/ postpartum.
Please please please share with us as much as you feel comfortable sharing because we are all here for you and desperately want to to support you xx

[kittendreams]

Meanwhile I went to the hospital yesterday to book in my c section and the obgyn said straight up - so I'm assuming you will want to be sterilised during the operation!!!
Wtf???
I burst into tears and just thought I would throw up.
Is this a sign I should just do it and put myself out of my misery of wondering if I'll ever get my dd?

[simkan]

Tp you have not bummed out the group at all. We all understand your feelings. I'm only "bummed" that you didnt get what you wanted because I really hoped that you were.
Kitten - that is so rude. I cant believe he would say that. You just do what you feel in your heart. I know in my head that we are done having kids. Jut my heart says not to make any permanent decisions and leave something in god's hands.

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[Lilawt]

Meanwhile I went to the hospital yesterday to book in my c section and the obgyn said straight up - so I'm assuming you will want to be sterilised during the operation!!!
Wtf???
I burst into tears and just thought I would throw up.
Is this a sign I should just do it and put myself out of my misery of wondering if I'll ever get my dd?

Good god no! Who says that? You’ve got 3 children right ? Not like 30. Did he say it as a joke?? I am learning quite a bit about America.. while here, and an OB you choose yourself and you only see that one person always right? Perhaps he just got comfortable and made a stupid comment..

Bless you, some people just really don’t think before they open their mouths. A complete lack of emotional intelligence.

Hugs kitten, I’ve been keeping up with you since I read your sway.

Lil


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[kittendreams]

Good god no! Who says that? You’ve got 3 children right ? Not like 30. Did he say it as a joke?? I am learning quite a bit about America.. while here, and an OB you choose yourself and you only see that one person always right? Perhaps he just got comfortable and made a stupid comment..

Bless you, some people just really don’t think before they open their mouths. A complete lack of emotional intelligence.

Hugs kitten, I’ve been keeping up with you since I read your sway.

Lil


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Hi Lil thanks for your response- and no im in Australia so it was just a random obstetrician allocated to me at the hospital to book in my c section- he won't even be the surgeon on the day.
After I calmed down I asked why he asked that and he mumbled something about my age and number of c sections ( this will be my third). I said why do you see me unable to have another baby safely and he said no he'd read my previous surgery notes and there was no issue there. He just thought I'd be 'done' now.

[Lilawt]

Oh my apologies !

Goodness well he just sounds like a complete moron. Nothing else to it.

‘I thought you’d be done’ what a completely insensitive thing to say. It’s no one else’s business.

I know it’s difficult but try to let his comments go over your head, hopefully you won’t have to see him again.

Lil


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[kittendreams]

Oh my apologies !

Goodness well he just sounds like a complete moron. Nothing else to it.

‘I thought you’d be done’ what a completely insensitive thing to say. It’s no one else’s business.

I know it’s difficult but try to let his comments go over your head, hopefully you won’t have to see him again.

Lil


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No apologies needed! Thanks again for taking time to comment. Normally I would just shrug or laugh off silly comments but gender disappointment and pregnancy hormones make me just an emotional mess! I think everyone is looking at me and pitying me for having 3 boys and glad they are not me and it is exhausting.
I just want to be happy and excited and it's like people take every chance to bring me down.
Last week the woman working at the chemist said to me 'I hope that ones a girl!' Pointing to my stomach when I said no it's a boy she laughed ( actually laughed) and said poor you what did you do to deserve 3 boys! *sigh*
I was so distressed and depressed that My husband ( thinks he's a knight in shining armour) actually rang the chemist to put in a complaint about her- how embarrassing!

I just can't wait for him to come so I can fall in love with him and move on.

[Lilawt]

Oh my love , what an absolute shit storm
of a comment !

I cannot believe the audacity of some people, so so rude. It’s bad enough when it comes from someone you know, but a stranger is a different level.

Good on your husband for making a complaint. Hopefully it at least stops her from opening her big gob in the future to another lady who might feel the same way.

I can’t wait to hear that your special little boy has arrived. That moment when they first put them to your chest and you look down at the face you’ve been imagining for 9 months is nothing else on earth. It’s what got me through the early gd fog. Hang in there kitten.

Lil

Ps. If you want to give me the number for the chemist I will ring and shout abuse down the phone , I’ve got a horrible London cockney accent, plus the fact I’m about 76 weeks pregnant and I’ve reached the ‘I’m angry about everything stage’ [emoji6]







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[mummaofboys]

No apologies needed! Thanks again for taking time to comment. Normally I would just shrug or laugh off silly comments but gender disappointment and pregnancy hormones make me just an emotional mess! I think everyone is looking at me and pitying me for having 3 boys and glad they are not me and it is exhausting.
I just want to be happy and excited and it's like people take every chance to bring me down.
Last week the woman working at the chemist said to me 'I hope that ones a girl!' Pointing to my stomach when I said no it's a boy she laughed ( actually laughed) and said poor you what did you do to deserve 3 boys! *sigh*
I was so distressed and depressed that My husband ( thinks he's a knight in shining armour) actually rang the chemist to put in a complaint about her- how embarrassing!

I just can't wait for him to come so I can fall in love with him and move on.

That’s absolutely horrible of her!!! How rude! Some people just don’t know when to keep their mouths shut. I have 2 boys and am team green for this bub and the amount of people that say to me “oh I hope you get a girl and not another boy” or “what if it’s another boy?” Well there’s nothing I can do to change it... it’s not like I’m going to send the baby back if it’s a boy and yes I do hope I’m having a girl, but that’s none of your business strange lady in a shop! Lol!!


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[kittendreams]

Oh my love , what an absolute shit storm
of a comment !

I cannot believe the audacity of some people, so so rude. It’s bad enough when it comes from someone you know, but a stranger is a different level.

Good on your husband for making a complaint. Hopefully it at least stops her from opening her big gob in the future to another lady who might feel the same way.

I can’t wait to hear that your special little boy has arrived. That moment when they first put them to your chest and you look down at the face you’ve been imagining for 9 months is nothing else on earth. It’s what got me through the early gd fog. Hang in there kitten.

Lil

Ps. If you want to give me the number for the chemist I will ring and shout abuse down the phone , I’ve got a horrible London cockney accent, plus the fact I’m about 76 weeks pregnant and I’ve reached the ‘I’m angry about everything stage’ [emoji6]







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Lol you are hilarious Lil!
Yes thinking that she might think twice next time before she comments is the only thing that stopped me getting mad at DH- I was so embarrassed honestly.

How far along are you?

You made me tear up with your comment about them putting him on my chest it is the best feeling and I know all this will melt away at that moment and I cannot wait for the sweet relief of that xxx

[kittendreams]

That’s absolutely horrible of her!!! How rude! Some people just don’t know when to keep their mouths shut. I have 2 boys and am team green for this bub and the amount of people that say to me “oh I hope you get a girl and not another boy” or “what if it’s another boy?” Well there’s nothing I can do to change it... it’s not like I’m going to send the baby back if it’s a boy and yes I do hope I’m having a girl, but that’s none of your business strange lady in a shop! Lol!!


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Oh so envious of you being team green I wish I had the restraint! I so so hope this is your girl!
And so true it's always strange ladies in shops with the comments haha! I always just think to myself what would they know- they obviously don't have 3 boys so how do they know it's so horrible? Sometimes I am grateful to gd because I feel it grounds me and makes me a better more empathetic person. Then sometimes I'm like stuff this just give me my girl! Lol!

[Mommy2apples]

No kitten dreams don’t let go of your dreams. They are so rude. I had five csections and all was just fine! 💗 I heard that after number 3, 4, and 5z

[kittendreams]

No kitten dreams don’t let go of your dreams. They are so rude. I had five csections and all was just fine! �� I heard that after number 3, 4, and 5z

Thank you mommy2apples: I don't want to give up I feel like she is out there waiting to join us it's just hard at times to believe it could happen for us. Congrats again on your newest dd she is just divine!

[Mommy2apples]

You will get her! That’s the strong urge I had with Emmy too! She was out there waiting for me!
Thank you!

[LMSM]

Kitten so sorry you had to deal with such crap...some people should know better. Heck, this is supposed to be a highly educated professional...and yet they vomit such BS, makes me so mad :(
I am sure your girl is waiting there for you - I think this comment is not the Universe.s way of saying « give up on a daughter » but « fight past the comments and give it your all to get her » :awe:
On another note, did you get a date booked to meet your handsome newest little man? :awe:

[4blue2pink]

Kitten those comments!! that doctor should know better than to "assume" so rude!! im glad he's not the one doing your c-section :heart:

and that idiot in the chemist!!!! WHAT!!!! where do these people come from? (seriously if anyone can tell me please do) laughing at you for having 3 boys.. what a total bitch!! 3 young kids is 3 young kids no matter the gender breakdown. 3 boys is no harder than 3 girls, 2 girls 1 boy or 2 boys 1 girl, no matter which family you have all mums of 3 are having days that are great..and days where they could sell them all on ebay ;)

[2blue1pink]

Meanwhile I went to the hospital yesterday to book in my c section and the obgyn said straight up - so I'm assuming you will want to be sterilised during the operation!!!
Wtf???
I burst into tears and just thought I would throw up.
Is this a sign I should just do it and put myself out of my misery of wondering if I'll ever get my dd?

Sorry for lurking on your dd thread but just wanted to chime in and say that I have already had 4 c-sections and my ob was perfectly fine with me going for a 5th, but I did ask her to look at my uterus and see if she thought it would look okay for another one with the 4th. There are increased risks (mostly of placenta previa and/or accreta) but many women can have 5 c-sections with no issues. I have been surprised how many people have asked if we are done; that's a definite yes for us, but I have wondered what they would say if I said no or hesitated. So annoying and not their business.

[LMSM]

What an absolute bitch....good on hubby for lodging a complaint! You’d be hard found dealing with comments like that from family, let alone’ complete strangers ...grrrr
People are plain fools - I think stupidity breeds these’ comments- intelligence and common sense are on the brink of extinction and’ clearly idiots have bred fast as they are everywhere !
All boy s or all girls, they feel they need to say something? people commiserate alllll the time about me... » oh you have three (emphasis on three) girls ».... at daycare the other day, a teacher (whol’I otherwise like but has twin boys) made the comment (again) about having all girls, and the pinched disgusted face especially mentioning teenage years etc. Like, yes, I have three, I know how to count...don’t you? Anything else relevant here?
People always seem to despise what they don’t know....and each kid, God forbid!, is an individual with individual character irrelevant to gender. Yes, we will be 4 hormonal girls in the house at some point, yes there will be drama, but man is people could just shut up, and get on with it....sigh
I know I was a strong, maybe even difficult wilful young girl, but grew up much more mellow and calm....still temperamental but my brother was feisty from day 1 and’ more trouble in teens than I ever was (he now he is the coolest and kindest dude lol), my youngest brother was and’ still is an introspective calm guy. Gender and age never were predictive- if so called adults could keep their narrow minded, biaised stereotyped views and stuff them where the sun don’t shine, my, would’ life be bliss lol
Big :hugs: dear Kitten ;)

[LMSM]

Oh and TP, so sorry to hear you had to deal with trauma on top of GD!!
Thinking of you :awe:
Hope your girls are ok - and am sure DD1 is in love- I know that was one thing that made the birth of DD2 less difficult to accept.
:hugs:

[gafan]

Kitten- I am sorry that OB and the woman said such horrid things to you! I seriously don't understand what can go so wrong with some people that they actually think stating such opinions is acceptable.

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[gafan]

ABC, I am happy to hear your babies have been born, congratulations! and Wow, how amazing to have them born vaginally and so strong!
I'm sorry your birth experience was so painful and frightening. I hope you get good support from friends and family and give yourself the time to heal emotionally.

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[kittendreams]

Kitten so sorry you had to deal with such crap...some people should know better. Heck, this is supposed to be a highly educated professional...and yet they vomit such BS, makes me so mad :(
I am sure your girl is waiting there for you - I think this comment is not the Universe.s way of saying « give up on a daughter » but « fight past the comments and give it your all to get her » :awe:
On another note, did you get a date booked to meet your handsome newest little man? :awe:

Hello lovely I was going to send you a messenger text but here will do! Yes I've got my date it's the 5th of feb- obviously I wanted the 7th cos awesome people are born on that day but they wouldn't let me go that far! Booo! Anyway I'm really happy to make it to Feb and I'll be 39 weeks so that is perfect.

Yep I've had a weird few weeks of gd triggers- most probably pregnancy hormones in most part but some people are just unbelievable!
How is little miss going at daycare now? Settling I hope xxx

[kittendreams]

Kitten those comments!! that doctor should know better than to "assume" so rude!! im glad he's not the one doing your c-section :heart:

and that idiot in the chemist!!!! WHAT!!!! where do these people come from? (seriously if anyone can tell me please do) laughing at you for having 3 boys.. what a total bitch!! 3 young kids is 3 young kids no matter the gender breakdown. 3 boys is no harder than 3 girls, 2 girls 1 boy or 2 boys 1 girl, no matter which family you have all mums of 3 are having days that are great..and days where they could sell them all on ebay ;)

I'm glad he's not either!
Haha my dh always threatens to sell the kids on eBay and a lady overheard him last week and said no you have to sell them on etsy cos you made them lol!

[kittendreams]

Sorry for lurking on your dd thread but just wanted to chime in and say that I have already had 4 c-sections and my ob was perfectly fine with me going for a 5th, but I did ask her to look at my uterus and see if she thought it would look okay for another one with the 4th. There are increased risks (mostly of placenta previa and/or accreta) but many women can have 5 c-sections with no issues. I have been surprised how many people have asked if we are done; that's a definite yes for us, but I have wondered what they would say if I said no or hesitated. So annoying and not their business.

Thank you for your response 2blue.
I think 4 c sections will be fine too- I have had no complications so far and I plan to ask the surgeon on the day how I look for another. Even that rude obgyn admitted there was no medical reason to stop having kids- it was just his assumption- what an ass lol!

[Girlswaylondon]

Huge congratulations abc!! It's been a long road I'm so happy you finally have your babies!

I also had a hemmorage with Ava and it ruined the whole experience for me so I know exactly how you feel x

[mummaofboys]

Oh so envious of you being team green I wish I had the restraint! I so so hope this is your girl!
And so true it's always strange ladies in shops with the comments haha! I always just think to myself what would they know- they obviously don't have 3 boys so how do they know it's so horrible? Sometimes I am grateful to gd because I feel it grounds me and makes me a better more empathetic person. Then sometimes I'm like stuff this just give me my girl! Lol!

Trust me... team green is hard!! We were team green with both boys as well so I do love the surprise at the end but this is my last baby... so I’m hoping if it a boy that the hormones take over and gd doesn’t kick in too hard.
Lol exactly! How do they know what it’s like to be a boy mum?! I absolutely love having my boys but it’s still ok to want a girl


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[Babybeaublue]

I always said my baby boy was out there waiting for me to be his mummy :) I think I had to learn to really appreciate my girls for who they are not what they are before I got him.

I really think people just like to say things to annoy you re same gender. I got a lot of ' oh girls are so bitchy give me boys any day and ' boys are so much more loving than girls ' People are just hateful at times.

Never give up :)

[4blue2pink]

ABC, I am so sorry that your birth ended up so traumatic and I am desperately hoping you're doing better. You are so amazing to have ended up with a vaginal twin birth afterall and with FIVE hours between deliveries. I can only imagine how stressful that window of time was for you and am thinking of you.

4blue and hopper, all of your words have resonated with me so much and while I feel like I really bummed out this EDD group, I am really glad to see not only how not alone I am in how I feel... but to see that you both HAVE gone on to get your DG helps. Because at the moment, I sit here just trying to think at all positively going forward. It was one thing when I got a girl after starving myself, drinking a ton, overexercising, etc. It's another to have gotten a girl after swaying for over two years and very likely losing many boys, especially after unviable boys with IVF. I always knew it was an odds game: it just sucks that my run of bad luck and odds not going in my favor is continuing. 4blue, I think we are SO similar in all of this that it's crazy; especially with terminations being probably the only mentally sound option for us, though our partners (already such issues for us) being absolutely against it. I feel tears just wanting to express how grateful I am for you to share just how you've felt, and also how happy I am that my words really do help so many of you.

Atomic, I really appreciate your words too -- it really struck me how true this is. GD from the get to has made pregnancy borderline torture from the get go for me and I am envious of anyone that has just been able to be happy...

So thank you all so much. I have been reading every post these last few days.

While my experience is nothing like ABC's, I unfortunately have had an extremely traumatic experience postpartum in the hospital that I want to write about when I get a chance to sit down and type, so despite labor and recovery going better than I ever could have expected, I feel very sad that the hospital and my husband ended up traumatizing me in a very unexpected way.

you not alone in the way you feel TP i promise you that :heart: and yes dreams do come true, trust me by DS4 i was completely broken and convinced i would never ever have a living girl, i knew i could conceive a girl as i conceived DD1 but the Dr when i lost DD1 told me that my body might just reject girls and thats why she died, basically she was a perfectly healthy baby girl who only died because my body didnt want her, she would have lived if she had been inside someone else. i spent 4 years believing this BS, i was convinced if we conceived another girl that she would die, but i couldnt give up on trying..crazy i know!! but that is how insanely strong the desire was and i know your desire for your boy/s is just as strong.
Looking ahead to the future only you can decide if its the right thing to roll the dice again :heart: it is an odds game for sure!! but i promise you the odds can tip in your favour even when it feels like it'll never ever happen.
yes we are so similar in all of this!! i see alot of myself in your posts and i just so desperately want you to get your boy and experience the peace that comes with it, all that darkness and desperation lifts, sure you will probably always have a stronger desire for a boy (i still do for girls) but its not the same. GD "evolves" i think ;)
oh no :( i cant believe your dh, it seemed like you guys were turning a corner after he stepped up for the birth, i hope you are coping ok, i dont know what has happened but hold on to your positive birth and recovery, in all of this you cant lose sight of the positives however small they are. stay strong :heart: sending lots of love, whatever this is you can overcome it, step by step, one moment at a time xxx

[4blue2pink]

I'm seriously LOLing at your statement re changing girls nappies! I've NEVER changed one so I'm sure to see how different it is soon enough. I can imagine boys being easier though. It's all just....there in full view lol!
I sure hope that even a little of that contentment I crave comes my way. Her arrival shall tell a lot I think! If I can just get past this anxiety over delivering them healthily and safely I think I'll embrace this experience a lot lot more! X

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hahaha im glad my comment didnt gross you out!! but it is true, you think you've got it all... but no!! I so hope you feel content after her arrival, wishing you an amazing birth experience :)

[Babybeaublue]

What a horrendous thing for someone to say to you! Knowing you would have to not only live without your precious baby, but the belief it was your fault?!?! Disgusting. Sometimes I swear Drs are worse than ordinary folk . I had a Dr tell me that my lack of ms was maybe due to the baby being the opposite gender ( I had told her I was worried bcos I always get nausea) No it was a mc you dipshit.

[kittendreams]

Cassidy, Hannah, pretty and SBB you are all getting so close to your due dates! How are you feeling?

Also does anyone know how to start a new thread? We are so over 50 pages but I'm not sure how to start a new one!

[SurroundedByBoys]

Cassidy, Hannah, pretty and SBB you are all getting so close to your due dates! How are you feeling?

Also does anyone know how to start a new thread? We are so over 50 pages but I'm not sure how to start a new one!



I have to play catch up! I missed a lot!

I saw doctor today, went from 1 to 2 dilated, 40% thinned out, and hes def moved into the birth canal. Yet ANOTHER infection, so have to pick up a prescription of fluconazole.

[Eighme]

I have to play catch up! I missed a lot!

I saw doctor today, went from 1 to 2 dilated, 40% thinned out, and hes def moved into the birth canal. Yet ANOTHER infection, so have to pick up a prescription of fluconazole.That's great, as far as the dilation and thinning, Surrounded! So sorry about another infection.

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[kittendreams]

Eighme how are you feeling after the infusion of iron?

[Eighme]

Eighme how are you feeling after the infusion of iron?Much more energetic! I still feel "bleh" but I think that's just being 34 weeks. I have a lot more energy than I did which is great! Hoping my levels stay up and I dont have to another!

How are you doing, Kitten?

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[hopper]

Much more energetic! I still feel "bleh" but I think that's just being 34 weeks. I have a lot more energy than I did which is great! Hoping my levels stay up and I dont have to another!

How are you doing, Kitten?

Sent from my SM-G960U using TapatalkI was actually coming on to ask how you got on eighme!! I had my iron infusion on Monday. Had my whooping cough vax on Tuesday. And man oh man have I had a helluva week!! DH had to take a couple of hours off on Thursday as I just couldn't function. I dunno was it a bad reaction to the infusion or the vax but it really knocked me!! How Long after your infusion did you start to feel it take effect? I'm absolutely wrecked at the moment!! And supposed to be having my flu vax on Monday!! Not feeling up to it right now as my last pregnancy I had a terrible reaction to it so really don't want to deal with a second week in a row of being in bits!!

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[Eighme]

I was actually coming on to ask how you got on eighme!! I had my iron infusion on Monday. Had my whooping cough vax on Tuesday. And man oh man have I had a helluva week!! DH had to take a couple of hours off on Thursday as I just couldn't function. I dunno was it a bad reaction to the infusion or the vax but it really knocked me!! How Long after your infusion did you start to feel it take effect? I'm absolutely wrecked at the moment!! And supposed to be having my flu vax on Monday!! Not feeling up to it right now as my last pregnancy I had a terrible reaction to it so really don't want to deal with a second week in a row of being in bits!!

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Oh my gosh, Hopper! That sounds miserable. It took about a week before I felt any different. I was pretty annoyed I didn't feel any difference at first but I can now.

I would delay the flu vaccine, if you can, till you're feeling better! In my opinion, it's going to make you feel not so great with everything else you've got going on! Definitely get it! I'd just delay it (if you can and want to)

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[kittendreams]

Hopper I felt rubbish after my whooping cough vaccine too! My iron infusion was perfect though and yeah felt better after a week and feeling better and better as each week goes on actually. I'm 37 weeks now and energy wise I'm better than I was at 30 weeks.
Yes agree maybe you could postpone your flu shot until next week and give yourself time to get over the others?

[kittendreams]

Much more energetic! I still feel "bleh" but I think that's just being 34 weeks. I have a lot more energy than I did which is great! Hoping my levels stay up and I dont have to another!

How are you doing, Kitten?

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I'm actually ok- my iron infusion really has made a difference to my energy and I'm not as breathless either.

At 37 weeks now and just uncomfortable really with lots of pressure, weird aches and pains from all the weight and Braxton hicks all day long! Two weeks to go! Can't wait to meet this little man xx

[Eighme]

I'm actually ok- my iron infusion really has made a difference to my energy and I'm not as breathless either.

At 37 weeks now and just uncomfortable really with lots of pressure, weird aches and pains from all the weight and Braxton hicks all day long! Two weeks to go! Can't wait to meet this little man xx

Isnt it crazy how much of a difference it makes? I am the exact same way. I feel better at 34 weeks than I did at 28 weeks.

I'm so excited for you! I'm counting the days till mine is here too! Are you going to be induced or waiting till he decides to make his appearance?

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[Pretty]

Hi ladies, glad you’re feeling better!! Has anyone ever been induced with cytotec?

[kittendreams]

I know it's crazy what a difference it makes I will definitely get it again if I do have a 4th pregnancy.

I have my c section booked for the 5th of feb so the countdown is on. Only a few things left to do xx

[Pretty]

Hmmmm... I tried to post but I think it got flagged for the name of the drug(?) has anyone ever been induced using c.y.t.o.t.e.c?

[ABC.2606]

I’ve read bad things about induction with that Pretty but I can’t remember the specifics. Is that what your doc wants to induce you with? There is something called c.e.r.v.i.d.i.l that is supposed to be safer I think. It’s also a cervical ripener


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[Pretty]

Thank you, I’ve read some pretty scary things too so I’m getting really nervous. I wasn’t given an option, just told that’s what they would give me at the hospital.

[Eighme]

Thank you, I’ve read some pretty scary things too so I’m getting really nervous. I wasn’t given an option, just told that’s what they would give me at the hospital.Pretty, I was induced with cervadil. I would ask if that's all they have for induction. I've read some not so good things about the other induction drug. With my first son, the cervadil literally was quick, not painless, but quick! They had to pin it to me which WAS painful. But I would just ask to be sure!

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[Eighme]

Ladies, you wouldn't be alarmed about thick clear mucus, would you? I had a dream I lost my mucus plug and woke up this morning and when (TMI) wiping it's thick an and clear, almost like snot. Obviously due to my dream my brain is a little alarmed, but it was clear and I haven't really had any other syptoms coupled with this other than an unsettled stomach.

[Pretty]

I definitely had that around 32 weeks. I called my doctor and they told me not to worry about it. :)

[Eighme]

I definitely had that around 32 weeks. I called my doctor and they told me not to worry about it. :)Awesome! Thanks, Pretty! That makes me feel better :)

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[hopper]

Thanks for the feedback on the infusion/vaccine ladies! Much appreciated! I delayed getting the flu vax and am glad I did. I'll rebook it for next week!

Eighme I had some plug loss this AM and questioned it at my antenatal exam today. She reckoned it was fine even though mine had some pin pricks of blood in it but if it happens again I'm to come back in. I remember losing regularly from 30 weeks on DS3 if it's any help to you xx

I had my growth scan today. Baby A is HEAD DOWN!! Hurrah! I'm delighted, so long as he stays like that! Baby B is breech but her position isn't relevant in terms of having a vaginal delivery. Hoping he stays down now!
She guesstimated their weights at 3lbs5oz and 3lbs7oz respectively and actually said that I'm doing a great job which was so so nice to hear from someone like her! I'm getting so so excited to meet these little ones!

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[ABC.2606]

Ladies, you wouldn't be alarmed about thick clear mucus, would you? I had a dream I lost my mucus plug and woke up this morning and when (TMI) wiping it's thick an and clear, almost like snot. Obviously due to my dream my brain is a little alarmed, but it was clear and I haven't really had any other syptoms coupled with this other than an unsettled stomach.

Oh yea I had that off and on the whole pregnancy and a lot towards the end. I wouldn’t worry about it :)


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[4blue2pink]

ABC how are you and your babies doing?

[ABC.2606]

ABC how are you and your babies doing?

Thanks for asking :) I’ve been planning to write an update post and just hadn’t gotten to it yet. Time has been moving SO fast the past week and I’m just trying to take it all in! Babies and I are doing well though! I’m feeling better now emotionally/mentally about the traumatic events after the birth but my physical recovery has been rough- I ended up in the ER on Saturday night and had to have a blood transfusion bc my blood counts had dropped so low and were causing me to be extremely short of breath. A lot of soreness and such too so it’s just been a little hard. The babies are AMAZING though - I’m completely obsessed with both of them! I was really worried during the pregnancy (like really worried- especially towards the end) about how I’d feel about baby boy - if I’d be so caught up and in love with my girl and so focused on her that I wouldn’t feel the same bond with my boy. But that hasn’t happened- I’m truly just as in love with him! He has a gorgeous little face & is so sweet! We think he looks a lot like DS1. I just feel really, really happy right now. I know it’s only been a week but the transition to 4 feels a lot smoother than I thought it would be. I feel like everything I went through with swaying and the miscarriages and all the doubts I felt - even after I got pregnant this time - about whether I was doing the right thing is all gone now, and I’m just thankful we persevered so hard to get these two. I’m also mourning the fact that we’re done now. Not only is DH adamant about that but after post partum hemorrhages with pregnancies 2 & 3 I know my body can’t do this again. So I’m just trying to grab onto and savor every minute I can with my last newborns. And man - I forgot how intense the post-partum hormone crash/emotional swings can be!

How are you doing??

Hope everyone else is well!! Can’t wait for more babies to arrive!

Hopper that’s awesome that baby A turned!! And baby B still may turn as well!! So far I’m finding being a twin mama so fun and I hope you will as well!! There’s nothing like holding two snuggle bunnies on your chest at the same time :)


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[4blue2pink]

Thanks for asking :) I’ve been planning to write an update post and just hadn’t gotten to it yet. Time has been moving SO fast the past week and I’m just trying to take it all in! Babies and I are doing well though! I’m feeling better now emotionally/mentally about the traumatic events after the birth but my physical recovery has been rough- I ended up in the ER on Saturday night and had to have a blood transfusion bc my blood counts had dropped so low and were causing me to be extremely short of breath. A lot of soreness and such too so it’s just been a little hard. The babies are AMAZING though - I’m completely obsessed with both of them! I was really worried during the pregnancy (like really worried- especially towards the end) about how I’d feel about baby boy - if I’d be so caught up and in love with my girl and so focused on her that I wouldn’t feel the same bond with my boy. But that hasn’t happened- I’m truly just as in love with him! He has a gorgeous little face & is so sweet! We think he looks a lot like DS1. I just feel really, really happy right now. I know it’s only been a week but the transition to 4 feels a lot smoother than I thought it would be. I feel like everything I went through with swaying and the miscarriages and all the doubts I felt - even after I got pregnant this time - about whether I was doing the right thing is all gone now, and I’m just thankful we persevered so hard to get these two. I’m also mourning the fact that we’re done now. Not only is DH adamant about that but after post partum hemorrhages with pregnancies 2 & 3 I know my body can’t do this again. So I’m just trying to grab onto and savor every minute I can with my last newborns. And man - I forgot how intense the post-partum hormone crash/emotional swings can be!

How are you doing??

Hope everyone else is well!! Can’t wait for more babies to arrive!

Hopper that’s awesome that baby A turned!! And baby B still may turn as well!! So far I’m finding being a twin mama so fun and I hope you will as well!! There’s nothing like holding two snuggle bunnies on your chest at the same time :)


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YAY so glad you are all doing well! :D im sorry you are still struggling physically but i imagine after a twin birth and a haemorrhage it will take quite a while for your body to fully recover, but im happy to hear that mentally you feel better about the birth :heart: oh im so jealous of the double snuggles!! i love twins i think they are so so special :heart: and its great to hear that your as absorbed in baby boy as you are in baby girl, though i think that was always going to happen ;) those post-partum emotional swings are rough!! hang in there!! :)
im good thankyou :) 13 weeks now and just waiting to start feeling movements so i can relax a bit!!

[4blue2pink]

TP how are you doing? :heart:

[Throwaway_panther]

Thanks for asking 4blue -- and ABC, I am so glad to hear things are better though how scary to have needed the transfusion! I hope you get a chance to process all of that even with the stress and time of taking care of 4 now!

I'm doing ok. I recovered amazingly -- no tears and a quick, med free labor seemed to have been the trick for me as I had minimal bleeding (practically nonexistent) and I feel almost as if I didn't just have a baby! And baby M (we did use that name ;) ty for paying attention hehe!) being so overdue actually was a blessing in disguise as nursing and even sleep have been much better than I expected. Bonding is also better than expected -- I feel my best description is "I feel fond" even if I don't yet have the same feelings I did with first DD, the sort of "extension of myself" type stuff. And DD is enamored of her, which has helped me feel I made the right decision overall here.

Which, I wanted to PM you about all of this 4blue since your shared words helped me so much. I feel pretty resolved that now, after going through all of this, I will do what I need to do to get a son and not suffer through what I did before. I'm still sort of plotting through what I'll do going forward (GS IUI is still on my mind, especially since we live quite close to a clinic), or if I'll just go onwards and see what happens. Maybe DH's lifestyle changes might help, afterall, and next go will be lucky odds -- who knows. But I feel very strongly that I will do what I need to do to keep mentally and physically safe and healthy next go around, which I am constantly thinking about.

Which brings me to my summary of my traumatic stuff: on day of discharge, I had my own hormonal/postpartum come down and cried for maybe 5 minutes in the shower at the hospital. It was over just everything and I just needed to get it out. DH rushed and got a nurse out of concern when he heard me, and nurse told him it was super normal because of hormones.

DH, in all his... everything... said, "She's got a history of depression and suicidal thoughts. I'm worried she's going to kill herself because we didn't have a boy."

This, of course, triggered hospital protocol and I ended up being put on a 24 hour hold, having to dredge up so much of my private GD and history of mental illness over and over to hospital staff and involved me over and over saying, "I just cried for 5 minutes!" and defending myself -- luckily nurses and midwives all vouched for me over and over, but they couldn't trump the domino effect and I still had to ride out the hospital protocol.

It was awful. I had been doing ok all things considered, and labor had been a very healing and empowering process for me afterall -- especially with how much DH stepped up and in. But I seem to have done a lot of bad things in a past life for things to still have gone downhil the way they did! Luckily my midwives and therapist have all been in touch a lot since then because they understood everything since I'd been open with them throughout pregnancy, and I'm not completely done with DH because he ended up in tears and showing some vulnerability through this process which was unexpected.

But... yeah. I said the shitty silver lining in all of this was I didn't have much time to be sad or disappointed because I had that whole debacle to get through/take my mind off it. And classic "what fresh hell is this?" type stuff for me. Lol. Sigh.

[simkan]

ABC I'm so happy your recovery is going well and that your fears of not feeling the same towards your boy didn't come. So glad you're doing well!
Tp I'm also really happy to hear you have bounced back physically. Makes such a difference.
Sounds like quite the ordeal at the hospital. I understand how you felt let down by dh for jumping to that extreme. I guess the upside is he cared. I'm sure it came from a good place. Knowing how you felt I think you are doing brilliantly and I know there is a baby boy in this universe waiting for you. And hes so lucky to have sisters waiting to help you take care of him.
Eighme I wouldn't worry. I lost my mucus plug 10 days before I had tia. But it wasnt clear. It was pink. I was told not to worry unless it was bright red. The morning she was born it was very bloody.
Apparently it can come out and grow back. And your waters can stay intact without it.

Guys I forgot to say tia is home. She was released at 37weeks. Its been a few days and so far amazing.

Hope the rest of you are all feeling good!

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[4blue2pink]

:D this is amazing news simkan!! so glad Tia is home :heart: how are you doing? i hope everything is going well for you, you've been through so much xx

[gafan]

TP, oh my, what an ordeal! You are handling all of this so well. I am glad to hear you are starting to feel fond of your baby.


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[gafan]

simkan, Yay! I am glad to hear Tia is home.



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[4blue2pink]

Thanks for asking 4blue -- and ABC, I am so glad to hear things are better though how scary to have needed the transfusion! I hope you get a chance to process all of that even with the stress and time of taking care of 4 now!

I'm doing ok. I recovered amazingly -- no tears and a quick, med free labor seemed to have been the trick for me as I had minimal bleeding (practically nonexistent) and I feel almost as if I didn't just have a baby! And baby M (we did use that name ;) ty for paying attention hehe!) being so overdue actually was a blessing in disguise as nursing and even sleep have been much better than I expected. Bonding is also better than expected -- I feel my best description is "I feel fond" even if I don't yet have the same feelings I did with first DD, the sort of "extension of myself" type stuff. And DD is enamored of her, which has helped me feel I made the right decision overall here.

Which, I wanted to PM you about all of this 4blue since your shared words helped me so much. I feel pretty resolved that now, after going through all of this, I will do what I need to do to get a son and not suffer through what I did before. I'm still sort of plotting through what I'll do going forward (GS IUI is still on my mind, especially since we live quite close to a clinic), or if I'll just go onwards and see what happens. Maybe DH's lifestyle changes might help, afterall, and next go will be lucky odds -- who knows. But I feel very strongly that I will do what I need to do to keep mentally and physically safe and healthy next go around, which I am constantly thinking about.

Which brings me to my summary of my traumatic stuff: on day of discharge, I had my own hormonal/postpartum come down and cried for maybe 5 minutes in the shower at the hospital. It was over just everything and I just needed to get it out. DH rushed and got a nurse out of concern when he heard me, and nurse told him it was super normal because of hormones.

DH, in all his... everything... said, "She's got a history of depression and suicidal thoughts. I'm worried she's going to kill herself because we didn't have a boy."

This, of course, triggered hospital protocol and I ended up being put on a 24 hour hold, having to dredge up so much of my private GD and history of mental illness over and over to hospital staff and involved me over and over saying, "I just cried for 5 minutes!" and defending myself -- luckily nurses and midwives all vouched for me over and over, but they couldn't trump the domino effect and I still had to ride out the hospital protocol.

It was awful. I had been doing ok all things considered, and labor had been a very healing and empowering process for me afterall -- especially with how much DH stepped up and in. But I seem to have done a lot of bad things in a past life for things to still have gone downhil the way they did! Luckily my midwives and therapist have all been in touch a lot since then because they understood everything since I'd been open with them throughout pregnancy, and I'm not completely done with DH because he ended up in tears and showing some vulnerability through this process which was unexpected.

But... yeah. I said the shitty silver lining in all of this was I didn't have much time to be sad or disappointed because I had that whole debacle to get through/take my mind off it. And classic "what fresh hell is this?" type stuff for me. Lol. Sigh.

Yay for amazing recovery TP :D ive been very lucky to never tear and have always found the physical recovery very easy too, the only thing that gets me now is the after-pains!!
ooohhhhh you used the name!! :heart: i LOVE that name, its so beautiful, i bet little miss M is just divine!! and "fond" is a great place to be at this early stage :) im really happy to hear your feeling that way towards her already, you absolutely did the right thing for your DD1, M is a total gift to her and now, as you say, you can plan towards safely trying for your boy with all the pressure of not wanting DD1 to be an only child/not wanting her to be too much older than a sibling removed.
Im sorry you went through all that drama at the hospital :( that was the last thing you needed and dh misinterpreted things hugely!! those pp comedowns are rough!! and make us look unhinged when it is actually normal ;) but his recognising your sadness at not having a boy and then being upset himself seems a world away from what you have battled through with him up to now.. maybe he finally see's that you have given him 2 girls despite everything, maybe he will finally be on board with actually helping you in getting your boy. I really hope so!! and it sounds like you have some new possible options to consider which is exciting :D
PM me whenever you want too, im always here :) and thankyou for updating, ive been thinking of you and was worried you might be in a very dark place like i was after DS2, but you sound like you are doing amazing :) keep going forward one step at a time, if the hope and process of planning your next move to your boy is what helps keep you going then keep hoping and planning!! as they say, dream until your dreams come true xx

[Noemi2017]

Simkan congrats Tia is back home:HH: Abc i hope u feel already better:hugs: Tp nice to hear you are trying to find the way to your daughter M:heart: Im thinking every day about my baby, is it boy or girl? I will be happy with both but if it is girl my dream come true and i will thanks to God till end of my life:pray:

[Eighme]

Simkan, I'm so glad Tis is home! I hope your both doing well!

TP, it's great to hear from you. You've been on my mind. I'm in the same boat in regards to gender and how I will get my desired gender on our third child. Husband is on board for a third and for adoption...not sure how he feels about gender selection since that would require travel. But both are my only options in proceeding with a third because we cant have four and I dont want to "gamble" on trying again. But I'm so glad you're working through everything and that DD is turning out to be such a good baby for you!

Everyone else, cant wait for more babies and I clearly am just ready to be done with getting excited over a mucus plug [emoji23]
Not long now!

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[Noemi2017]

Eighme im also thinking about third baby if i am able to have...but more is on my mind adoption. Here are so few children available and it is not possible get baby through adoption if you have your own children:( I will try to look in other countries, i hope i will have luck:luck:

[Eighme]

Eighme im also thinking about third baby if i am able to have...but more is on my mind adoption. Here are so few children available and it is not possible get baby through adoption if you have your own children:( I will try to look in other countries, i hope i will have luck:luck:Noemi, I dont even know where to start with adoption so I can imagine where you are is far more complicated! Here's to hoping!

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[SurroundedByBoys]

Im horrible... Im still so far behind. I havent had a chance to read. My oldest is battling a cold, and my youngest is over it but now has cold sores that he will not leave alone and theyve spread so I need to get him into the docs to get an oral medication. Its like a nightmare, two kids ill and a baby coming haha

Had an appt today, around 3 dilated, little mans head is super low. She said next appt (39+3, next Thursday) if hes still in there she can sweep my membranes if I want, or we wait and set an induction date if he shows hes gonna be stubborn and stay in beyond his DD,

[gafan]

Im horrible... Im still so far behind. I havent had a chance to read. My oldest is battling a cold, and my youngest is over it but now has cold sores that he will not leave alone and theyve spread so I need to get him into the docs to get an oral medication. Its like a nightmare, two kids ill and a baby coming haha

Had an appt today, around 3 dilated, little mans head is super low. She said next appt (39+3, next Thursday) if hes still in there she can sweep my membranes if I want, or we wait and set an induction date if he shows hes gonna be stubborn and stay in beyond his DD,surrounded- I hope your kids get healthy so you can focus on getting ready for birth!

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[LMSM]

Just a quick note to say yay Abc for such a great bond with booth your babes. Enjoy those wonderful snuggles ..sorry you had to endure physically too, hopefully it’s going to be fab moving forward. Imagine the absolute feat your body went through to carry them :)

TP, I’m so happy your bond with M is growing (ooh may I know her name in PM? My eldest is an M hehe)... it definitely makes a difference not to tear. I tore with my first two and had stitches, not with #3 and maaaan the difference! the trap though is I went a bit over very quickly, and my body made me pay for it with extreme afterpains (remember there is a massive scar where the lplacenta was inplanted !) so remember to be kind to yourself and your body, too. Even with a toddler to care for ;)
I’m so sorry you went through what you did at the hospital:( it seems, after the ordeal, to have somehow brought you and DH closer and on a better level of understanding. I know your boy is waiting and will come :awe: I would echo 4b2p, like often...as her words so often resonate so just big :hugs:

Big thoughts to all of you waiting for your babies to make their grand appearance ;) good luck!!!!

[Raining]

Very exciting that babies have started arriving!! I finally finished her nursery and I just love it so much. Had our baby shower this past weekend! We are so anxious and excited to meet her.

Also - I’d love to be added to any Facebook group to keep in touch!

[gafan]

I can't believe I have about 10 weeks to go, maybe even 9. This week I had my vbac consult and received a score that made me a little more worried and sad. I'm not second-guessing wanting to try for vbac but it's hard to go in with a really confident attitude when they tell you your chances of success are 45%. I have good reasons to think my chances are better than that, but I have a hard time feeling confident.
For those of you who got an epidural, did you feel attached to and fond of your baby right away, or did it take longer? Some of the articles I've read suggested epidural can mess with bonding hormones . I know feelings of attachment are normally variable and can take time to build but I'm wondering if I could really benefit from those bonding hormones this time. I did eventually feel close to baby number one, but it took quite awhile.
I'm going to post this in the other dates group 2 because with an April 3rd title mean I don't know if this will be an April or March baby.

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[simkan]

I can't believe I have about 10 weeks to go, maybe even 9. This week I had my vbac consult and received a score that made me a little more worried and sad. I'm not second-guessing wanting to try for vbac but it's hard to go in with a really confident attitude when they tell you your chances of success are 45%. I have good reasons to think my chances are better than that, but I have a hard time feeling confident.
For those of you who got an epidural, did you feel attached to and fond of your baby right away, or did it take longer? Some of the articles I've read suggested epidural can mess with bonding hormones . I know feelings of attachment are normally variable and can take time to build but I'm wondering if I could really benefit from those bonding hormones this time. I did eventually feel close to baby number one, but it took quite awhile.
I'm going to post this in the other dates group 2 because with an April 3rd title mean I don't know if this will be an April or March baby.

Sent from my SM-G930U using TapatalkYou're getting so close Gafan! I had an epidural for 1 and 3, missed out on it for 2. Never heard it effects bonding... but I dont think it made any difference with any of mine.
1 took a minute to bond.. think it was more getting used to being a parent. I remember looking at him thinking he was a stranger yet I'm the most important person in his life.
2 I was in such shock at the speed of the birth and a bit of GD so that took a minute too.
And the 3 I literally saw Tia for about 10 seconds before they whisked her away and then I could only hold her for brief times once a day so I guess the bond didnt kick in immediately either

So dont think the epidural played a part in that.

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[SurroundedByBoys]

Well, I had been planning on catching up tomorrow but... I was just admitted to the hospital. My water broke about 3 hours ago, was 4-5 when I was checked, and contractions are strong and 4 minutes apart.

[Lilawt]

Good luck surrounded !

Lil


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[4blue2pink]

Good Luck Surrounded!! :)

[Georgia_Peach]

I can't believe I have about 10 weeks to go, maybe even 9. This week I had my vbac consult and received a score that made me a little more worried and sad. I'm not second-guessing wanting to try for vbac but it's hard to go in with a really confident attitude when they tell you your chances of success are 45%. I have good reasons to think my chances are better than that, but I have a hard time feeling confident.
For those of you who got an epidural, did you feel attached to and fond of your baby right away, or did it take longer? Some of the articles I've read suggested epidural can mess with bonding hormones . I know feelings of attachment are normally variable and can take time to build but I'm wondering if I could really benefit from those bonding hormones this time. I did eventually feel close to baby number one, but it took quite awhile.
I'm going to post this in the other dates group 2 because with an April 3rd title mean I don't know if this will be an April or March baby.

Sent from my SM-G930U using TapatalkJust wanted to chime in. I am a 3 time vback-er. I've had EVERY birth situation possible. My first vback I was 2 years after my csection. He came late and weighed 9 lbs. I had an epidural. Second was an induction (which drs NEVER want to do with vbacks) and no epidural! My third and last baby was another induction at 37 weeks.. again.. had to BEG drs to induce me. I chose to have an epidural bc i was told I was very high risk for another csection (complicated pregnancy). I wanted to be prepared for them to rush me into surgery if need be. No time to mess around with getting epidural at that point. Because we already lost a baby (the pregnancy begore) I was very scared.

Now... having experienced ALL the ways of births, did i feel different toward any? No. Did I prefer one vs the other? Yes. The natural non epidural would be my choice. It just was a faster induction and I felt better psychically during labour. I hate not being able to feel my legs.
Hope this helps. It honestly doesnt matter how baby gets here. It's your body and your choice.

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[ABC.2606]

Well, I had been planning on catching up tomorrow but... I was just admitted to the hospital. My water broke about 3 hours ago, was 4-5 when I was checked, and contractions are strong and 4 minutes apart.

Yay!!! Little man is coming!!! Go SBB!!


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[Noemi2017]

Good luck and fast labour surrounde:heart:

[Throwaway_panther]

Thinking of you Surrounded! Hoping you have an easy, smooth delivery!

[kittendreams]

Thinking of you surrounded can't wait to hear he's here safely xx

[SurroundedByBoys]

Very unintentionally had no meds. I started epidural, but couldn’t feel contractions or push him down enough because he was high although I was at 10. Every time I moved around he went into a bit of distress, csection almost happened a few times. Not even going to lie, I was drenched with sweat and crying by the time he dropped for me to push. Lots of pushing (man am I sore and swollen) later...

Caiden James... 7lbs12oz 22 inches long
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[Babybeaublue]

Congratulations he's beautiful!! Well done mama! :)

[4blue2pink]

Congratulations surrounded he's a cutie!! :)

[ABC.2606]

Oh my goodness he’s perfect SBB!!!! Huge congrats!! You’re amazing!!! Rest and enjoy that beautiful little boy!


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[Noemi2017]

Congrats Surrounded, he is wonderful:heart:

[kittendreams]

Oh surrounded he is just so cute! Congratulations you are amazing!
Love his name also.
Seeing his little face makes me so excited to meet our little man in 9 days!!!

[simkan]

Amazing surrounded! Hes absolutely gorgeous! Congratulations

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[Throwaway_panther]

I'm so sorry labor was such a pill SBB, but so happy you're both safe and healthy! Congratulations!

[Eighme]

How did I miss this!! Surrounded, he is beautiful! I love how alert he is! Congratulations to you all!

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[ABC.2606]

Hey ladies - 2 quick things...

1) If you want to send me a message on here (or post on this thread if you are comfortable) with your FB info I will try to set up a secret FB group and add you to it so we can stay in touch and share pics/updates on all these sweet babies that have arrived and are coming soon!

2) I know we’re way past the 50 pages for this thread- I’ll try to get a new one started and post the link.

Ok, now back to sending the love out to SBB on the arrival of sweet Caiden!!!!


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[Pretty]

Hi everyone! Congrats SBB!!! He’s so handsome! I very unintentionally had an epidural free labor as well!! She’s here and I’m breastfeeding as I type this now lol

[gafan]

Congratulations, Surrounded, he is adorable!

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[gafan]

Simkan and Mamabird, thank you for your thoughts on the epidural. I will definitely use it if I need it.


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[gafan]

Congratulations pretty! Share a picture when you can if you're comfortable doing that

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[mummaofboys]

Congratulations Surrounded! He’s gorgeous!


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[mummaofboys]

Oh yay! Congratulations Pretty!



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[LMSM]

Congrats SBB, he is a sweet little angel..so alert! Enjoy those newbie snuggles !

Kitten, gosh it will be here soooo soon! I literally have my first day back at work the day of your section..will totally Be unproductive And spend my day stalking for An update (will give you my # if you want to update that way ^^ I got a new phone for Xmas/ birthday so should be able to check easier !) xx

[kittendreams]

Congrats SBB, he is a sweet little angel..so alert! Enjoy those newbie snuggles !

Kitten, gosh it will be here soooo soon! I literally have my first day back at work the day of your section..will totally Be unproductive And spend my day stalking for An update (will give you my # if you want to update that way ^^ I got a new phone for Xmas/ birthday so should be able to check easier !) xx

Oh my goodness that came up fast! I will be thinking of you too xx
I'll messenger you my phone number and group message you with all our family and friends on the day to let you know all the detailsxx

[kittendreams]

Congratulations pretty! Enjoy every moment and well done on the birth you are amazing xx

[ABC.2606]

YAY Congrats Pretty!! Hope you and baby girl are doing well!!!!!

[Eighme]

Wow, Pretty! I cant wait to see her (if you chose to share). Congratulations to you both!

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[ABC.2606]

Here's the link to a new thread ladies:
https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/due-date-buddies/76153-part-5-due-january-february-march-2019-a.html