DH FR?

[nyc0404]

I'm expected to get a positive opk anyday now .. should hubby be FR (on his own) prior to our attempt? He's 32.

[nyc0404]

Anyone? :)

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[atomic sagebrush]

I answer from oldest to newest so if you bump your post too soon, it goes back to the top of my rotation and makes it take longer to answer!

FR needs to be started 7-10 days before your attempt (not ovulation, but attempt.) So if you're about to get OPK it's too late to start FR really, but you could still do the hurry up FR (I outlined this in your other post, but for anyone wondering, have him release once, dump it, then DTD again as quickly as he's able to using only the second batch for insemination. If this can be within 1 hour, great. 3 hours is ok, and 6 hours is probably not going to sway by much but you should still attempt anyway since it will still be the one attempt.

[dreamofdaughter]

Hope it's ok for me to ask here - if DH does hurry up then I assume you should not jump and dump? Or is it still better to j&d anyway?

[atomic sagebrush]

If doing hurry up FR I'd probably eliminate things that don't work at all like jelly and timing.

BUT the thing is that J and D has actually seemed to add something in our results. I don't know if it's a legit finding or a statistical quirk, but J and D really has seemed to help a little bit. So while I'd suspect strongly that Hurry up FR + J and D will lower conception chances probalby way too far to be acceptable and so it would be one of those things where most of us may as well take a birth control pill as actually do that!

[dreamofdaughter]

I guess then it makes more sense to do j&d even if you are just letting DH do his thing? I feel like asking him to do FR is a lot since it has to be 7 days to be considered FR, right? The month we conceived, he released only the night before we dtd with j&d (and I took a long hot shower AFTER we dtd). I don't think that's considered anything, is it? In terms of lowering sperm count I mean. Obviously, I have no idea the gender though since the pregnancy did not stick.

Oh also I'm not using any jellies or timing/cutoff. I would try jellies if I were younger and had more time but I think timing is bunk.

[atomic sagebrush]

One release longer than 6 hours before attempt isn't considered a method and I don't think it does anything (but then again I dont' even think the 7+ days of FR does anything.)

What you need to do with J and D is consider how big a hurry you're in and how many other things you're doing to sway.

If you're in a hurry to get pregnant for some reason like age, job requirements, child spacing you'renot going to want to J and D. If you're doing 9 zillion other things that kill sperm, I'd probably have you drop those in favor of J and D since only J and D has seemed to add anything in results...but if you're doing them despite that, then yeah, ditching J and D or extending the amount of time you stay lying flat before J and D makes some sense.

Most of us do J and D not immediately but after 5 min. People often extend this over time to 10, 15, 30. so there is some wiggle room between immediate J and D and laying down all night. (in the interest of full disclosure, I got my daughter laying down all night! it is possible)

[dreamofdaughter]

Honestly, I find the release patterns the most confusing part of swaying lol.

[atomic sagebrush]

Honestly, I find the release patterns the most confusing part of swaying lol.

Then skip them and just let him "do what he does". They don't work anyway.