I'm so worried!

[zanacal]

Since yesterday I've had a very dull backache - I don't really notice it when I'm walking around but if I sit or lie down it feels like a dull period pain, kind of like an inflammation. On top of that I've had some stitch feelings in one spot on my tummy and I haven't felt a great deal of movement yet. I only felt baby for the first time this week at 19 weeks and I've only felt the odd kick since then. I was up half the night worrying that I was going to miscarry my baby girl :sad: Thankfully I felt a couple of movements while I was lying there which reassured me a little but I can honestly say I've never felt so worried with a pregnancy as I do with this one. My anomoly scan is on 10th January and I can't wait to hopefully find out everything is ok. How worried do you think I should be about the backache?

[atomic sagebrush]

I don't think you should be worried about it at all because the more kids you have, the worse all the little aches and pains get. As long as it's not rhythmic or cramping, I would just try to put it out of your mind as much as you can.

I ALWAYS felt pain/cramps when I would sit in certain positions both with DS 3 and 4 - esp. driving in the car.

[xokatietatie]

I had a backache constantly with DS3. Just try to relax and avoid feeling stressed. :)

[nuthinbutpink]

I understand your worry. If you drink orange juice and lie down, does she move then? Kind of a sugar rush thing for her. It could be you don't feel her much because of where your placenta is located.

I would mention your concerns to your doctor. My OB would have just told me to come on in and they would scan me early but it may work differently where you are. I think the back ache is likely no biggie. 4th baby, overdoing it, etc. could be anything. I'm sorry you are stressed.

[zanacal]

Thank you. I went back to bed for a couple of hours (splitting headache too!) and feel a little better now. We went for a long walk yesterday for the first time in the long time so I'm thinking maybe I just overdid it. I feel quite stiff all over my back and tummy now. Little madam is kicking a fair bit as I type this which is of course the most reassuring thing of all! Thanks for the OJ tip NBP!

[xokatietatie]

Glad to see you're feeling a little better.

[Zivic-Bubac]

Of course you worry, that's what moms do.
I do firmly believe there's nothing to worry about here.
1. not feeling movement- I didn't feel my DD1 for like 5 days if I remember well. I went into panic mode when my mom told me it's not normal not to feel a baby for that long, so I went for a walk, lied down, and there she goes!
I'm glad you're baby is kicking again! Nuthin's advice is cool, I'll try to remember it.

2. backache - she is getting heavier, maybe that could be the answer? Plus you have 3 children to take care of. Take more rest ( easier said then done, I know ....)

Kissiz!!!!

[zanacal]

Thanks everyone. I'm walking so stiffly today, I think I'm going to be a mess by the time I'm really big!!

[Mochagirl]

I'm sorry you were so worried, Z, but I'm glad she's kicking you more now. I think you should get that scan date moved up if you can to put your mind at ease, though I'm sure nothing's wrong :HH:.

[zanacal]

Thanks mocha. I have no chance of getting the scan date moved though!

[Mochagirl]

That's too bad, Z. I'm sure everything's fine, though. :HH:

[girlmom]

i don't think a dull backache is anything to worry about. i went into premature labor at 22 weeks. the only thing i noticed was the glob of snot in my underwear a few days before my contractions. if you see a mucus plug or your water breaks then you can panic. as long as you can make it to 24 or 25 weeks your baby is considered viable and they will try to save her. just try to relax, i know its easier said then done.

[maybeoneday]

Hi Z, sorry you are worried. I had an anterior placenta with DS2 and the amount and frequency of movement was very different to DS1 (posterior placenta). I didn't feel him move properly till about 24 weeks (18 weeks with DS1). I was quite worried about it as didn't find out it was anterior till my 20 week scan. - You might need to ask them though, I don't find they volunteer any information at NHS scans!!!

With regards to the backache etc, I had terrible problems with DS2 and ended up in hosptial a few times with SPD pain but the baby was always fine, it was just my body struggling being pregnant!

Hope you can get your feet up tomorrow as it is the last bank holiday for a while!!! xx

[zanacal]

I've had my feet up all week apart from the walk yesterday, which was clearly a bad idea! Thanks for all the advice x

[princesssarah34]

Hey Z.....I have had that same low back ache with all 3 of my last boys (except Evan...odd I didn't have it with him) and I for sure have it with this little stinker! My doc says to just lay down put your feet up and drink lots of water!! And I do mean lots!! After a while it goes away.....give it a try won't hurt you to give it a try. Oh yeah and I had a nutritionist tell me it is my bodies way of telling me my muscles are getting dehydrated!
And I totally know about the worrying part....hang in there and just breath (or try to not always easy I know).

[zanacal]

Thank you Sarah! How are you? I was wondering about you this week, I know December in particular is difficult for you x

As of today I'm really having trouble walking because I have a pain in my left hip/pelvis (I'm not sure which!) - I wonder if the back aches and whatnot were a precursor to this! I'm ok when I wake up (or at least I was this morning) but we went out for a walk with the boys and as soon as I stepped down from the car I could barely put any weight on that side - needless to say we didn't walk far but it's been even worse since. I'm going to be a mess by the end of this pregnancy! I've started eating really healthily today in an attempt to do something about the embarrassing amount of weight I've gained and I hope this will help. When I was pregnant with DS2 I had a problem with my coccyx which made sitting normally virtually impossible and that didn't get better until I'd lost my pregnancy weight. I've had lower back ache from very early on with all my pregnancies but I didn't this time - until now!

[Hobbermittens]

Hey Z-- I bet that you are feeling normal aches and pains (not that it can't be worrisome). My Dr. told me with each subsequent pregnancy, the pregnancy is worse, but the birth is easier, and I have found this to be true. Also, as far as the hip pain goes, I had that with all 3 pregnancies. I found that my left side was really sore, since that was the side I slept on. Pregnancy can be so uncomfortable! Take it easy and if you are still worried, call the doctor. It is always better to be safe than sorry!

[shaven12]

Glad your feeling better. Every little ache and pain will make you worry. I do the same thing and most of the time it's nothing. However, you know if something doesnt feel right. Call your Dr and at least get checked out by him if you continue to worry.

[lemon2012]

Hey Zan...hope things are okay!
You are answering our questions, but going through some uncomfortable pregnancy pain.
Hang in there and I hope your little princess is doing well even though you are dealing with the body changes and pains!

[Mochagirl]

Z - sounds like sciatica to me. I had that when I was pregnant with ds3, and it was miserable! I hate to say it, but it lasted pretty much the whole second half of the pregnancy for me. Walking up stairs was soooo painful!

[purple sky]

Zanacal - I agree with the other ladies, each pregnancy it seems the aches and pains get a little worse. I would just watch for any mucous or spotting. Try to take it easy and relax ( easier said than done..I know)

[KnockYourBallsOff]

I agree with everyone too. Take it easy and rest as much as you can :) Glad you're feeling her little kicks!!! That's the ONLY part of pregnancy I enjoy...that and labor and delivery!

[XXdreaming]

yeah each pregnancy it seems like all those aches and pains gets worse, I know with ds4 that sciatic nerve pain hurt me so bad sometimes I had to drag a leg lol and then in 3rd trimester I had so much pressure I hurt to walk, I would continue to take it easy but I think its because you worked so hard to finally get your baby girl and all those aches and pains make you fear that you will lose her, but I believe your dream of holding a beautiful little girl is going to come true :) I pray everything is going to be alright :)

[zanacal]

Thank you XX - you're so right. I never worried about the niggly aches and pains with the other pregnancies but this time I feel like we've been so lucky and that something could go wrong at any given moment.

My hip pain got worse and worse this week and on Thursday when I could hardly walk I booked an appointment with an osteopath for Monday - and today it's been absolutely fine! Typical! I think I'll still go as I guess it could easily come back and I still have lower back and sciatic pain.

[Hobbermittens]

Being pregnant isn't very pleasant sometimes! I hope the doctor has some answers and remedies for you. :)

[fresas]

I was going to recommend a chiropractor as long as preterm labor was ruled out, but I'm not sure you have access to a reputable one or if it can be afforded. I was adjusted my whole 2nd pregnancy and those adjustments were a huge life saver. I hope you continue to be on the mend!