So confused please help

[ttcgirl39]

Ok so I've totally messed it all up.
Convinced myself that I was pregnant on my first month and wasn't and then my kids were sick and I was having no sleep and was exhausted and went back to my old diet ways which were very boy friendly.
Now on my second month and diet is gone so bad.
Do I need to wait to get my diet back on track or will I still try this month.

Also I'm on day 12 now and we haven't been frequent release at all. Last time dh released was Sunday. I have been using my opk and it's still negative but my cervical mucus is increasing so think ovulation is on the way but I don't know when to do my one attempt. Do I foot before or on positive opk. Also would it matter if dh hasn't been frequent release.our last two boys were one attempt with abstain for 7 days so I don't know what to do.

[atomic sagebrush]

I honestly can't answer that question - as a general rule I have people try when they've messed up a bit on diet but this has really been quite a while off diet. Try to honestly appraise how you've been eating and then make the best decision you can feel good about.

FR hasn't worked so I wouldn't worry about that. The important thing is the one attempt, even if it didn't work in the past the best data we have indicates it realy does help

[ttcgirl39]

Thank you Atomtic. I'm on day 12 of my cycle and have just got a positive opk. Am I too late to try now that ovulation is on its way or should I just forget about timing and just do my one attempt anyway tonight

[ttcgirl39]

Ok so we done our one attempt last night.
Had a negative yesterday morning and a positive yesterday evening at about 8.30 and bd later that night.
Got a stronger opk this morning too.
So it's done now for this month. Diet has been terrible but sure we will see.
How was my timing though. Did I leave it a little late.

[Parying4agirl]

Sorry if ive misread you but was the positive opk yesterday or today as you say it got stronger today so would that mean today was the true positive?

[ttcgirl39]

I'm not used to doing opk but today the result line was darker than the control line but yesterday both lines were basically equal.
I had a negative yesterday morning and the positive showed up yesterday but wonder if today my real positive.

Do how long after opk do you ovulate?
I don't know whether I did the wrong thing by bd at first strong double lines on test.

[Parying4agirl]

I would stop doing opks if u have had your one attempt - its done so good luck x
How many times a day do u test opks?
I believe a strong positive opk is when the line is darker than the control line, some keep getting dark lines and some fade into negative quickly, unfortunately no way of knowing when u ovulate with opks
You should have your one attempt at your first positive opk so if yours was positive you bed at the right time and then forget all about it as it just adds unnecessary stress i think, not that us women ever stop stressing

[ttcgirl39]

Thank you, yes it's done now so fingers crossed but when ttc q girl should I have stopped before the positive opk.
I have just read so much conflicting advise. I think I have got bit wrong. Should I have had my attempt before positive opk.

[Parying4agirl]

No u should have your one attempt as soon as possible after your first positive opk and thats it

[atomic sagebrush]

Thank you Atomtic. I'm on day 12 of my cycle and have just got a positive opk. Am I too late to try now that ovulation is on its way or should I just forget about timing and just do my one attempt anyway tonight

It's up to you. Personally I dont' believe in timing at all and have seen sooo many timing opposites (my own included) and read numerous studies that have debunked it that I don't recommend even bothering with it, but it's your sway your way.

I have people BD at positive OPK because it's a great time of the cycle to conceive with one attempt. It is also in most cases a cutoff too, so even without really meaning to, you're still doing timing, just a timing you can get pregnant doing. The case against timing is here https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/7691-trouble-timing.html

[atomic sagebrush]

I'm not used to doing opk but today the result line was darker than the control line but yesterday both lines were basically equal.
I had a negative yesterday morning and the positive showed up yesterday but wonder if today my real positive.

Do how long after opk do you ovulate?
I don't know whether I did the wrong thing by bd at first strong double lines on test.

No that's when I want you guys to have attempt. It will be about 36 hours before ovulation, on average.

[atomic sagebrush]

Thank you, yes it's done now so fingers crossed but when ttc q girl should I have stopped before the positive opk.
I have just read so much conflicting advise. I think I have got bit wrong. Should I have had my attempt before positive opk.

BD before positive OPK is very, very low chances of conception. It's up to you guys but I don't recommend timing intercourse for swaying because it doesn't work and has yielded such low chances of conception that people go months/years not conceiving with those long cutoffs.