swaying for girl..need to advice/help

[Prayingforgirl08]

hi, I'm new to the swaying process but i want to make sure i do things as right as i can.
Me and my husband have 5 beautiful children, but still feel our lives are incomplete. we have 1 girl (10) and 4 boys (9,5,3,4m).
We are wanting to add another girl to our family. as that is what we believe is the missing piece to our family.
i have been reading a ton lately and have been trying to come up with whatever i can the best i can on my own but i decided its time to ask and try making sure things are right. so i have a few questions and needs to know exactly what to get.
one issue i do face...my husband works overseas, he's only home a few times a year currently so february he will be home in the two weeks/maybe 3 after AF. My AF is currently around a 31 day. I am using ovulation tests to track ovulation this month and will do the same in febuary.

My PH is high and im almost sure it always has been. working on that.
PH test? digital or the strips? and if digital what's the best one or is either the easiest?

i was taking a prenatal but i heard that sways boys so i stopped.
i take Folic Acid about 2000mcg
Calcium citrate...which one is the best and where to get it? and how much
Magnesium .... which is best and where to get?
i heard about cranberry.. is that good to take to sway girl? and if so, how many pills and which brand/one to buy where?

My diet..i cut all red meat and cut back on a lot of salts as i can. Cut out snacking in between as i used to snack a lot .
Are sweets fine or cut them all?
Milk...i have never drank hardly any milk.. is there a certain kind of milk..i notice silk milk (almond milk) has less potassium than normal. is whole milk fine and how much a day?
i eat a lot of salads a day lately...thats ok correct?
i drink Diet cokes (i just started drinking them to try sway) and the Clear American strawberry sparkling water throughout the day (no caffeine, 0 calories, 0 sugars..has aspartame in it) . These are fine? Should i switch to Caffiene free diet coke?

i will be getting some house plants and salt lamps throughout my house for negative ions along with the bracelets. won't even be using my tv in my room anymore as that puts off a lot of positive ions i read.
just for measure, will put wooden spoon and pink outfit under bed (old wives tale, but im going to add it just in case lol)
Paint nails daily and use nail polish remover. (never have before..what the heck right? haha)

take hot baths/showers before BD each time

when do i use rephresh? and how much?

Lime douche/tampon? if so, when?

Ill also be taking baby aspirin. Ive had miscarriages in the past (4)

My husband doesn't take anything and we clearly astain from sex since he's out of town all the time so that's no issue.
When do we BD?

i Don't have a ton of time of the diet and stuff but i can be really strict with it up until O from now til then and after.
i am tracking ovulation so ill now about when i do.

Please any advice in such a short notice would be greatly appreciated!!!

Thank!


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[Prayingforgirl08]

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[Prayingforgirl08]

Am I posting in the right section ??


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[atomic sagebrush]

It sometimes takes me a few days to get back to you in the free forums - particularly on very long posts. Then every time you bump, the post goes from "old" to "new" and since I always try to answer oldest post first, that can make it take me longer to get back to you. I will always answer all questions posted, just that it makes you get your answer quicker if you don't bump it too soon. :) I will get back to you as quick as I possibly can! :)

[Prayingforgirl08]

It sometimes takes me a few days to get back to you in the free forums - particularly on very long posts. Then every time you bump, the post goes from "old" to "new" and since I always try to answer oldest post first, that can make it take me longer to get back to you. I will always answer all questions posted, just that it makes you get your answer quicker if you don't bump it too soon. :) I will get back to you as quick as I possibly can! :)




I’m so sorry. I’m new to all this and with me having such a short time I just want to make sure I do what i can and what’s best. But I fully understand!



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[Prayingforgirl08]

I do have a couple more questions though. And figured I’d ask now that way everything can be answered at once kinda thing.

I’ve been kinda thinking about the abstaining and such. So me and my husband hasn’t Bd since September. I’m pretty sure he’s obviously has had one releAse in November but that’s it. (He works in Afghanistan so he’s not home much at all.
For swaying girl is abstaining good and if so how long?
I must add he has chrohns as well. So I’m not sure if that will change things about abstaining or when would be the best to try for a girl. He’s 31.
Is the best time to try the one attempt be when I get my opk+? Or should I do more than one attempt.




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[atomic sagebrush]

I’m so sorry. I’m new to all this and with me having such a short time I just want to make sure I do what i can and what’s best. But I fully understand!



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There's no need to apologize, I just want you guys to get your answers as fast as I can and when you bump too soon it just takes longer for me to get back to you.

I'll answer as many as I can right now.

[atomic sagebrush]

Since your husband is not home we need to have you guys BD every 4 days (counting 72 hours, so like Monday/Thursday, not those days but that is how you count the days) during the time he's home. That way if your ovuation day moves (which is very common with swaying) you'll still be in with a good attempt.

pH testing has not worked for us and we've given it up. Too many opposites, it simply could not be true. If you want to test it that's fine but it has not predicted whose sways work and whose don't.

Calcium/magnesium at your discretion. Many of us myself included got boys with it (I gave it up to finally get my girl) I don't recommend brands, but yes they say the calcium citrate is best for swaying.

Cranberry has not worked for us at all - same number of people got girls with and without it. and has tons of risks and side effects (including miscarriage) Also, it's unsafe to take with aspirin. I would have you take the aspirin since you appear to need this for preventing miscarriage (right??) Do be sure when it's time to come off the aspirin, that you WEAN off and do not ever quit aspirin suddenly. Same with folic acid - wean off, don't quit cold turkey.

We follow a different diet and you can read about that here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/trying-to-conceive-a-girl/16780-low-everything-diet-nutshell-version.html

I really strongly suggest NOT doing tons of dairy. We believe nutrients sway strongly blue and dairy is loaded with nutrients. I got 4 boys with tons of dairy and then gave it all up to get my girl. Do the cal-mag, skip Vit D as it may be boy friendly, and don't load up on dairy.

We have found coffee sways strongly pink so I don't think it's necessary to go caffeine free https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/56791-vices-swaying.html

It's very unlikely ions do anything at all for swaying. They're totally unproven and make no sense. It's fine to use them but I wouldn't go overboard not watching tv and stuff. I have another essay if u want to read it.

If you want to use RepHresh use it every 3 days after AF ends and then 12-24 hours before your attempt. do not douche or use lime tampon with RepHresh, needs to be one or the other.

Most of us on here don't do douches or lime tampons. I have the info on how to do it in the Dream Members section.

I would have you do the e4d method. But if you prefer you could try for a 2-3 day cutoff instead to start out with. Your call to make. Most of us on here have several timing opposites - but I understand it's easier to give up after you've had opposites and it's ok to try it at first.

I'd start diet now, don't be overly strict though as that can delay or even stop ovulation. There's no benefit to being super strict right now and tons of pitfalls to it. Just start now and if you don't get pregnant the first month you'll end up with longer on diet.

[atomic sagebrush]

Abstaining is said to sway pink although we haven't had stellar results with it. It may be neutral. Obviously your'e not going to be able to avoid it in your situation! I'd still ahve you guys do the e4d but if you want you can abstain plus a cutoff like I described above.

Crohn's doesn't change anything for abstaining or not.

STart off doing either one attempt or the every 4 day methodd (which is really just an easy way of having one attempt) Do NOT add attempts till we've dropped everything that doesn't work (like RepHresh, timing, abstain) and tried at least 1-2 months with one attempt by itself. One attempt has really worked, the other stuff hasn't.

[Prayingforgirl08]

Abstaining is said to sway pink although we haven't had stellar results with it. It may be neutral. Obviously your'e not going to be able to avoid it in your situation! I'd still ahve you guys do the e4d but if you want you can abstain plus a cutoff like I described above.

Crohn's doesn't change anything for abstaining or not.

STart off doing either one attempt or the every 4 day methodd (which is really just an easy way of having one attempt) Do NOT add attempts till we've dropped everything that doesn't work (like RepHresh, timing, abstain) and tried at least 1-2 months with one attempt by itself. One attempt has really worked, the other stuff hasn't.



Thank you so much for taking the time to reply!

I’ll definitely check out everything you’ve sent link wise to check out.
We are willing to do the e4d and see how that goes.
I’m kinda leaning away from the calcium/magnesium since wht you said about it.
I’ll continue my diet the best i can and exercising.
I’ll be sure not to add anymore attempts.
One question I do have left for now, aspirin...does it change ovulation? Like delaying or making it come early?

I’m hoping and praying it works!


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[Prayingforgirl08]

Thank you so much for taking the time to reply!

I’ll definitely check out everything you’ve sent link wise to check out.
We are willing to do the e4d and see how that goes.
I’m kinda leaning away from the calcium/magnesium since wht you said about it.
I’ll continue my diet the best i can and exercising.
I’ll be sure not to add anymore attempts.
One question I do have left for now, aspirin...does it change ovulation? Like delaying or making it come early?

I’m hoping and praying it works!


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Oh and also...do I do every 4 days and then stop the day of opk+?


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[atomic sagebrush]

no aspirin shouldn't change ovulation, but diet can.

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh and also...do I do every 4 days and then stop the day of opk+?


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No you need to keep going with the e4d method even after you think you've ovualted. This helps protect against delayed ovulation.

[Prayingforgirl08]

no aspirin shouldn't change ovulation, but diet can.

Darn. I hope it doesn’t change it much. Right now my cycles are 31 days but however today I got a +opk. Cm is creamy as of right now. (Sry tmi). My husband gets in town on the 11th of February. My calendar is saying now that I’ll ovulate on or around the 15th. My husband has to go back out of town the 26th. What exactly would you advise besides diet with bding and such with those things in place ?


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[atomic sagebrush]

This is a TMI free zone!!

I hope it doesn't change either! Just be sure to not cut back too much suddenly and it should hopefully stay consistent.

The only things I believe in are diet, exercise, number of attempts, and clomid or femara if you can get them. I'm happy to sign off on other things if you want me to go over them but those are the only things I really believe work

[Prayingforgirl08]

I do have another question.

BD e4d so that Monday then Thursday and so on. Now is e4d protected or unprotected?


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[atomic sagebrush]

unprotected. you're trying to be in with regular attempts far enough out to be one attempt but close enough to get pregnant from, and you'd have no chance of pregnancy if you had protected sex!

[Prayingforgirl08]

unprotected. you're trying to be in with regular attempts far enough out to be one attempt but close enough to get pregnant from, and you'd have no chance of pregnancy if you had protected sex!

Lol ok that’s what I thought. I just didn’t know if he just needed to release protected or alone and just release unprotected once kinda thing. But thank you for clarifying


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[Prayingforgirl08]

I have a question about coffee as well. I’m sorry the more days that past I think of other questions just to be sure.

I drink coffee every morning which actually gets me not to eat breakfast at all. But I can’t drink plain coffee. The coffees I have been drinking is like a peppermint white mocha or a caramel mocha. Are these fine or should I change this?




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[atomic sagebrush]

Do they have sugar in them?

[Prayingforgirl08]

I don’t put sugar or anything in them myself.


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[atomic sagebrush]

Do they come with sugar in them, though? Whether or not you add it yourself, is there sugar in them?

[Prayingforgirl08]

Oh ok. Then yeah I’m pretty sure they would since their kinda sweet. I just wouldn’t know what else to drink that doesn’t taste strong as regular coffee.


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[atomic sagebrush]

If you have it with a meal that's fine. If you can't live without it in the morning, treat it like a meal (so you'd have "breakfast" of your coffee drink) but keep to a total of 3 meals if you possibly can.

Basically, we relax the rules till you can find a combination of things that work for you, even if we have to set some of the rules aside, we keep as many as we can along the way.

[Prayingforgirl08]

Oh gotcha.
Yeah the coffee is all I have in the morning then around 12/12:30 I have a salad and no snacks before dinner, then I eat dinner with no meats.
Before I would always skip breakfast except for coffee but I would have snacks between lunch and dinner.


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[atomic sagebrush]

Are you getting 1500-1800 cals a day, 40-50 g protein, and 30-60 g fat not counting anything in low carb vegetables, and only calories in fruits and higehr carb veg??

[Prayingforgirl08]

Are you getting 1500-1800 cals a day, 40-50 g protein, and 30-60 g fat not counting anything in low carb vegetables, and only calories in fruits and higehr carb veg??

I’m pretty sure my calorie intake is at that. I know it’s for sure over 1200/1300. I get about that much in protein as well. Some days it’s very hard to remember if I even ate since especially during the week I’m so crazy busy driving 4 kids to different schools and come home just to stay on my feet and clean and care for the littlest one since my husband works in another country and is home only very short times each visit which is a couple times a year.


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[atomic sagebrush]

Well, there is a massive difference between 1200 and 1800 so we need to be sure that you're getting enough food to keep you ovulating and so you can get and stay pregnant! Esp. with hubby so rarely home, we don't want to take any chances that your ovulation will stop and you'll end up missing opportunities!

[Prayingforgirl08]

Well, there is a massive difference between 1200 and 1800 so we need to be sure that you're getting enough food to keep you ovulating and so you can get and stay pregnant! Esp. with hubby so rarely home, we don't want to take any chances that your ovulation will stop and you'll end up missing opportunities!


After actually paying attention to things I eat I do believe I’m around wht you suggest calorie intake wise. I have not eaten breakfast in I say atleast two months worth since I’m not a breakfast eaters and also with 5 kids I’m crazy busy in the morning driving 4 of the kids to 3 different schools then usually having to get the things for the house as needed and by time I get lunch it’s already 1230/1pm. But I do however have one coffee in the mornings right after I drop everyone off.
My one worry now is though is that I got my period a couple days early (today) and my calendar is saying I’ll ovulate the 11th of February. The day my husband flys in. January (this month) I had my positive opk on cd15. Cd15 in February is the 10th. What would your suggestion be to BD when my husband flys in on the 11th? Or is there even a chance at that point?


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[atomic sagebrush]

yes of course BD as soon as you can.

You can't tell based on what happened in the past what will happen in the future! For all we know you'll O later than you think and there is no harm in having an attempt in case you do O later than you think!

[Prayingforgirl08]

Thanks a ton for taking the time to give me the advice I had asked. Even though I’m sure I screwed it up. Lol we bd too many times (3) 11,12,13. I had gotten my positive opk on the 11th. So if I end up knocked up this go around it’ll for sure be a boy I’m sure. Since toward those times I started snacking because i was stressing. I’m like 7dpo and believe I’m starting to get a faint positive on pregnancy test already and have tons of cm, but will keep testing the next couple days to be sure.
I’m kinda mad at myself I didn’t stick to stuff but We also haven’t had sex since our 5 month old was conceived either so that’s screwed us [emoji23] we shall see what comes of this. Haha


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[atomic sagebrush]

Even with 3 attempts you can get a girl. Good luck and pink dust headed your way!