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Momof5kiddos
January 13th, 2019, 01:04 PM
I'm 33, my husband is 35. He has naturally low testosterone now and takes Lexapro, both which I understand lowers his fertility as it is.

I'm on Clomid and don't want to be on it for too many cycles at my age, so trying to make the most of each cycle. So we were going to do 4 days before expected ovulation plus one time at positive OPK.

TMI...
Since starting Lexapro, my husband normally can't "complete." It's been that way for 6 months. So we used TBM at 4days before expected ovulation. Then the next night, we DTD and he ended up being able to finish, which we didn't expect, and he didn't know that would mess anything up.

That put us at TBM 4DBO and DTD 3DBO.

Then I thought I got a positive OPK yesterday. The test line was as dark as the control line and my phone app said it was Peak and that I would Ovulate today. It made sense I would ovulate earlier than normal since I was on Clomid Days 2-6, plus the day before I had a very heavy/crampy feeling, so I expected a positive
OPK yesterday.

So we did TBM again, which probably we should not have but I didn't want to be so far out from O. At this point, I was thinking we would be at TMB 3DBO, DTD 2DBO, and TBM 1DBO, since it changed my ovulation date.

Well, then this morning I took another OPK to be sure, and the test line was DARKER than the control line, and my app moved my ovulation day to TOMORROW.

This now means we

TBM 4DBO, DTD 3DBO, TBM 2DBO, and we would have go again today to be at TBM 1DBO.

But that puts us at 4 attempts in a row. He already has low sperm count. Did I waste this cycle?

Is it better to skip tonight and go tomorrow (day of O)?
Or should we make an attempt tonight still?
Or should we try today and tomorrow because at this point his sperm count is going to be low either way?
Should we stop now and not make any attempt today or tomorrow and leave it at what we have (TBM 4DBO, DTD 3DBO, TBM 2DBO)?
Did I accidentally turn this into a boy sway?
Or Ruin my odds of getting pregnant completely?

I'm just not sure what is the best course of action. I mean, obviously, it would have been better if we didn't have these last 2 attempts, but we already did, so can't change what's already happened. What is the "least worst" option going forward considering what's done is done?

atomic sagebrush
January 13th, 2019, 04:37 PM
I replied in your coaching forum. I would have you stick with attempt you've already had (but I don't think you mentioned the Clomid in that post, how many months have you been on the Clomid?)

BUT that having been said my rule of thumb is "for best odds of conception have another attempt, for best chance of pink stick with attempts you've had"". So let that be your guideline and if you really can't decide then please stick with the attempt you've had.