Only timing left to sort out in my plan. What do I do?

[Cherry Red]

Hi ladies,

Ok FR, DTD and timing are doing my head in. I know it's the least important part of swaying but I don't want any regrets about anything I do. We are going to start TTC end of Feb, DH is 41 and I'm 37, we have 2DS's. As much as it would be nice to get a girl, I'd be rapt with a baby boy and want to increases chances of pregnancy however attempt swaying girl.

Now DH has a high PH and follows diet (not as strictly as me), drinks cranberry but still no change, he refuses to take supplements or baby asprin though. He has a high sex drive and FR's quite happily with or without me on a daily basis and would do it more often if he got the chance to. DS1 was a one shot deal after a big night out, that was five years ago. DS2 we DTD 2 nights in a row, had a day break, DTD the following night, then another day break, then 2 nights again (hope that makes sense), took us a year to conceive.

So what do I do? I thought we would FR for 10 days once a night, then get him to release twice a day, DTD on the second batch only and do this for 5 days, through ov, O-3, O-2, O-1, O, O+12. Is that too much?
I realise that may increase testosterone and PH but I want to increases my chances of falling pregnant too.

Thanks

Does any one have any advise or thoughts or another timing method that would suit too?

[rainbowflower]

that sounds ideal given your situation, my only thought is how are you planning to lower pH between attempts? will you be J&D as well?

[Cherry Red]

Yep been thinking about that, I'm on CD 13 and just got a positive opk. I just checked my ph and it came up between 5.75 to 6. Not TTCing yet but if this was my attempt cycle, I would j&d after every attempt. Should I use refresh to keep my ph lower? And cause DH's ph is high too? Or would something else be better?

I'm also still getting abit of cm not as much as I used to but it's still quite noticable on my underwear, so planning on using Zyrtec too.

Would adding all that decrease my chances too much?

Thanks for helping Rainbowflower :-)

[rainbowflower]

it's hard to say - what's too much for one person isn't too much for another. Unfortunately there's no real way of knowing. If you consider yourself highly fertile you could try more as part of your sway, if not you might want to pick and choose

[Cherry Red]

Thanks rainbowflower, I'll have to think about it alittle more about what I add in. With DS1 we fell preggers straight away, with DS2 it took us a year but I think that was because I was doing alot of shift work and that mucked with my body. I'm that home now but that little bit older so not sure how fertile I'd be. Guess time will tell, thanks again.

[atomic sagebrush]

Cherry, I think that looks perfect and is exactly what I would tell you to do.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yep been thinking about that, I'm on CD 13 and just got a positive opk. I just checked my ph and it came up between 5.75 to 6. Not TTCing yet but if this was my attempt cycle, I would j&d after every attempt. Should I use refresh to keep my ph lower? And cause DH's ph is high too? Or would something else be better?

I'm also still getting abit of cm not as much as I used to but it's still quite noticable on my underwear, so planning on using Zyrtec too.

Would adding all that decrease my chances too much?

Thanks for helping Rainbowflower :-)

i would def add antihistamine/Rephresh for the first attempt at the least. J and D for sure on O day, maybe on O-1. I would lay still for 5 min on O-3 and O-2 attempts and then J and D.

[Cherry Red]

Awesome AS thanks for that. I feel very comfortable with this and def would have no regrets with this type of attempt.
Just a couple more questions:
1. How many hours prior to DTD would I take the antihistamine?
2. Should I take one every day through all of the attempts or every second day? I know you suggested for the first one at least.
3. When would I add Rephresh and how much? Would I do that the day before my first attempt or on the day?
4. If I get too dry should I use Sylk as a lube?

So sorry for all these questions I know you are super busy. You and Rainbowflower have helped me heaps already. Wish I could help by answering other peoples questions but I just don't dare to as I feel like I'm fumberling through my own sway with no idea let alone assisting someone else with theirs lol. Def need to leave it to the experts like you guys.

Cheers

[atomic sagebrush]

1)If you're taking Zyrtec (cetirizine) then take it 6 hours at least before your attempt (it lasts for 24 hours but sometimes takes awhile to get rolling) If you're taking Benadryl (dipenhydramine) take 1-2 hours before attempt (shorter acting but does not last as long.)

2)I would take the antihistamines every day I had EWCM and/or every day I did an attempt, plus the day before my first attempt. However, I would not take it on O day or day after O in case the egg/fertilized egg needs some fluid to move thru.

3)RepHresh directions found here http://genderdreaming.com/forum/showthread.php?1066-Complete-guide-to-Replens-and-RepHresh

4)If you're really dry, yes, you can def. use Sylk but don't overdo it! you want some sperm to survive.

[Cherry Red]

Phew ok think I got all that, thanks it all makes sense. I like the thought of taking Benadryl instead, didn't think of that. I'll try them out next cycle before my attempt and see how it all works and reacts. Oh I'm so excited, can't wait :happy: