DUE OCT /NOV /December 2019

[Bobster]

And you too! I have everything crossed. The wait is agonising. It’s such a stressful time. I balled my eyes out in there!!!

[MrsSparkles]

And you too! I have everything crossed. The wait is agonising. It’s such a stressful time. I balled my eyes out in there!!!

I wish! Feel like its boy sure for me.
I would be sobbing from shock and relief.
Was your husband with you? how did he react

[Bobster]

Hubby was emotional too but only because he knows the extent of my GD last time. I have everything crossed Mrs sparkles. Not long to find out. My boys have the best relationship so if it is a boy it will be amazing to watch their bond but if not it will be a bonus x

[momamia4]

Huge congrats!!! That's fantastic news!! So happy for you!!!!

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[Sonnygirl]

Wow! Congratulations Bobster. I’m so pleased for you, you can really start to enjoy your pregnancy now.
I’ve been watching my phone all day. So distracted and nervous for you xx

[Sonnygirl]

Thanks for the support Sparkles, I really hope you head girl too. I just want us all to be happy. This waiting place is the worst. I’m on holiday but totally distracted. I lie awake at night running scenarios around in my head.
So happy bobster is free from all that now :)

[Sonnygirl]

It gives me a bit of hope Bobster as you had the same symptoms as the boys didn’t you?

[MrsSparkles]

Thanks for the support Sparkles, I really hope you head girl too. I just want us all to be happy. This waiting place is the worst. I’m on holiday but totally distracted. I lie awake at night running scenarios around in my head.
So happy bobster is free from all that now :)

Thank you. Erything in me says boy.

I hope you hear girl.
Dont let the stress ruin your holiday.
You have to try and think if you do hear opposite, there's nothing to do but accept,you know you love baby just as much when they are here.
Then you feel bad for being sad the pregnancy.
I think you'll hear girl though, just a hunch :)

[ruupau]

Hubby was emotional too but only because he knows the extent of my GD last time. I have everything crossed Mrs sparkles. Not long to find out. My boys have the best relationship so if it is a boy it will be amazing to watch their bond but if not it will be a bonus xIiiiiiiiii happy for you Bobster, congratulations now you can enjoy the whole
I can see I missed a lot, who else is finding out hope everyone will what they are praying for and desires

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[Nell_]

Wahoo!! Feel like I've been with you on this journey bobster with all our messages 😊!! So happy for you, enjoy the rest of your pregnancy. I knew it was a girl!! 💖💖💖

[TA Sait]

It’s a girl. In complete shock. Thank you all so much for the support. Nell you are amazing at nub theory!!!

Woww. Congratulations, celebrate..!

[Bobster]

Thanks nell for all your support and advice. Where are you now in your cycle? Fingers crossed for this month. Please keep me posted when you get your bfp

[locsofboys]

It’s a girl. In complete shock. Thank you all so much for the support. Nell you are amazing at nub theory!!!Congrats!

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[Nell_]

Thanks nell for all your support and advice. Where are you now in your cycle? Fingers crossed for this month. Please keep me posted when you get your bfp

Got a pos opk yesterday and dtd then, i will definitly keep you posted! Hope you had a lovely bank holiday 😘

[Bobster]

Brilliant timing Nell!!! Have good vibes for you this month. Keep relaxed and drink loads of alcohol (i drunk Prosecco and wine most days of the 2ww as we were on holiday at the time, not sure if it helped but it’s a good excuse haha)

[MrsSparkles]

Good luck Nell !

[Sonnygirl]

Good luck Nell, I see you write such encouraging comments to all the ladies, I really hope it’s your month fx

[polaris.kai]

It’s a girl. In complete shock. Thank you all so much for the support. Nell you are amazing at nub theory!!!Congratulations! So wonderful to hear of successful sways!

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[SummerHope]

HUGE CONGRATS Bobster!!!!!! :) Glad things worked out as you hoped and hopefully now you can relax and really just get excited to welcome your baby girl!

[Nell_]

Ah thanks so much sonny, sparkles and bobster!! xxx

[Sonnygirl]

Morning everyone, so I caved and sent my scan pic to nubologists, it came back as 70-80% boy and I’m feeling gutted. They send another email to refund my money as they couldn’t guarantee an accuracy of 85%
Nub was at a 35% angle
The other nub expert said that they saw it as a boy but at a lesser angle. Do you think there is anyway they could be wrong? Scan was at 12w1-4d and was very curled up.
I’m crossing everything that they are wrong but I just know they aren’t.

[Sonnygirl]

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[Sonnygirl]

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[ruupau]

I just want to say they usually say 12wks is earlier to guess, hope you will girl sonny, thats all wish for dear

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[Bobster]

Sonny I don’t think you can guess reliably at all from that picture. Baby is far too curled up and when they are curled it can look like stacking. That’s a lovely long forked nub which is good. I have a picture where my nub looks bumpy, i’ll Try to find it. I think it really does depend on baby’s position as to how it’s captured

[Bobster]

These are mine when baby was curled up. Looks like a boy!
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I have everything crossed for you. When is your next scan?

[Bobster]

Do you have a picture of your boys?

[Sonnygirl]

Not with as I’m on holiday.
Thanks for sharing your pics.
They said that the bladder is lower which is typical of male autonomy.
I’m clinging on to the fact that baby is curled up but I’m
So sad right now.
I think your nub although looks stacked still kinda points down. I can’t tell if this is parallel or slightly pointing up. It’s an early scan but there’s more chance of a wrong girl than boy.
Did you get boy guesses from experts or just forum posts?

[Sonnygirl]

Next scan isn’t until a week after next.
I’ll be 15 weeks by then.
Can’t bear this GD feeling again.

[Sonnygirl]

Also same symptoms makes me feel like it’s another boy

[Nell_]

Hey sonny sorry to gatecrash 😂 I wouldn't be so sure if baby was flat that nub could be two straight lines rather than stacking. Its still early try to wait and see... 💖

[Bobster]

Oh god sonny I know it’s torture waiting but next time they should be able to tell for sure. Like nell says it does look more like a line than stacking which is usually round. I had a lot of boy guesses on ingender from those pictures. Symptoms are nothing to go by. I have felt the same each time. I’m sorry these thoughts are going on while you are away. Can you talk to hubby or is that difficult? Mine never knew what to say but it did feel better to talk about it sometimes.

You said the head shape looked different to your boys which is positive too. Did they give you any other pictures?

[locsofboys]

I had an early scan today at 14w 1d. Tech says girl. What do you all think?https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190530/3ce55391fead7a4475f8311058e4b485.jpg

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[Bobster]

I think that’s a girl locsofboys- mine looked similar at same stage! They say potty shots arent reliable until 15 weeks but on my crazy googling frenzy all the boy ones had obvious protrusions at 14 weeks. Congrats!!

[locsofboys]

I sure hope so Bobster. I want to be excited but I'm scared. Here's the nub shot. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190530/497e917222ecfdf1e0f4c82c6fc7955e.jpg

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[comfort00]

Didn't get the clearest ultrasound today. Not sure if it's a boy or girl. But was so happy to see the little bean moving all around.https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190531/0654e4e5dd6a11dfd8b3606811add0a9.jpg

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[MrsSparkles]

Didn't get the clearest ultrasound today. Not sure if it's a boy or girl. But was so happy to see the little bean moving all around.https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190531/0654e4e5dd6a11dfd8b3606811add0a9.jpg

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Awww so cute.
It's a relief every scan to see them happily moving.

[MrsSparkles]

I sure hope so Bobster. I want to be excited but I'm scared. Here's the nub shot. https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20190530/497e917222ecfdf1e0f4c82c6fc7955e.jpg

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That really does look girlie.
Congratulations!

[MrsSparkles]

Hey sonny

These experts are really only flipping a coin.
Like everyone said just wait and see,it's not long until yoi can find out.
Sorry you're upset xx

[Bobster]

Are you ok sonny? You really can’t guess from that picture so take their guess with a pinch of salt

[Sonnygirl]

Thank you for all your support ladies. No one else to talk to.
I mean I can and do talk to DP but I don’t think he realises quite how much I think about it.
I’m feeling pretty low, I’m getting a glimpse of the feelings ahead for me and I’m scared.
I really want to believe that there is still hope but feel like I’m setting myself up for an even bigger fall.

[Bobster]

Ah sonny I know, it’s scary to have hope in case it makes you feel worse in the long run. I think preparing/expecting a boy is a good idea and then anything else is a lovely surprise. Have you thought of a boys name? I’d picked one and was calling it by the name. It didn’t take away the feelings though. I really hope they manage to see something at your next scan so your mind can rest. Maybe once your holiday is over work will distract your mind so time goes quicker as it just drags so much doesn’t it. Could you afford to have an early scan privately to see if you can get better images? .

[Bobster]

The more I look at your picture the more I don’t see what they’ve drawn as accurate. It’s not accurate either way anyway as it’s too early and all nubs can rise at this stage but I don’t see it as a boy nub yet, even when I draw a line meeting up with the bladder. When I look at my babies curled up pictures the bladder looked a lot lower than the nub which if you drew through it would be boy angle... I just really think their guess is totally unreliable so please try not to dwell on it. This is what a get from your picture, one discounting bladder theory (red) and one taking bladder theory into account (green). Hope you don’t mind me drawing on your pic 41628

[MrsSparkles]

I think Bobsters drawing makes more sense too

[Sonnygirl]

Thanks bobster and sparkles. I think they missed out half the nub in their drawing too but I still thin it probably is a boy. I’m so obsessed at the moment.
I remember being like this with my DS2. Everyone guessed boy and I was online for hours looking at boy nubs that turned out to be a girl. Even at the gender scan I was looking up how possible it is to get that wrong. I think I’m doing the same now.
I’ve got a couple more scan photos and it looks even more like stacking :(
I can’t find any pictures online that look the same though as the lines are long.
I’ll post a photo. But scared you’ll all confirm boy. I guess I have to face reality.

[Sonnygirl]

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Stacking with three lines. I was hoping it was a leg or cord!

[Sonnygirl]

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DS2 scan at 12weeks
Everyone guessed boy. Very obvious!

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Another pic from this baby scan 12w
More stacking but three lines

[MrsSparkles]

That does look like stacking, but I'm not great at guessing.
Maybe Nell will have a look? She seems great at nubs.
I do think there have been so many wrong guesses though, best wait to get a yay or nay from your next scan.
Do you have a date?

[MrsSparkles]

Btw Sony.
I posted my pics to a facebook guessing site last week.
The first guess was girl, and i felt so relieved, then throughout the day dozens of boy guesses.
Everyone sees something different

[Sonnygirl]

That does look like stacking, but I'm not great at guessing.
Maybe Nell will have a look? She seems great at nubs.
I do think there have been so many wrong guesses though, best wait to get a yay or nay from your next scan.
Do you have a date?

I know thats what i'm scared of.
I haven't put it on any other site yet as i know they will be all boy guesses.
Atomic thinks it's still to early and i know where shes coming from it's just hard not to obsess over it. especially as so mane predictions are correct even at this stage.

I hope you get your girl sparkles, when will you find out for sure? how are you feeling?
my next scan is in a couple of weeks. i'll be 15 weeks by then.

[Bobster]

I had 3 white lines on my early ones too sonny. It’s different to ds2. This could definitely go either way. It’s not the same shape as classic boy stacking like your ds2 picture. This is lined and the lines I see are pointing downwards.

[Bobster]

these are mine from 12 weeks exactly and then 13+5 and you can see 3 lines. I have everything crossed for you. Roll on 2 weeks
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I have my 20 week scan 3 weeks today. I’m nervous that the baby is unhealthy or something wrong.

[MrsSparkles]

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I have my 20 week scan 3 weeks today. I’m nervous that the baby is unhealthy or something wrong.[/QUOTE]

I feel that way too.
Mine is the in 3ish weeks

[Bobster]

What’s your due date Mrs sparkles?
I’m glad I’m not alone in my worries. I’m super aware of every ache and pain. I don’t remember pains with the boys but I wonder if it’s a third pregnancy thing. My bump has definitely ‘popped’ now. Feel like 3 healthy babies is too good to be true and like I’m jinxing it by having another.

[Sonnygirl]

I had 3 white lines on my early ones too sonny. It’s different to ds2. This could definitely go either way. It’s not the same shape as classic boy stacking like your ds2 picture. This is lined and the lines I see are pointing downwards.


Do you think so? I feel like the lines are on top of each other like a boy nub. I really want to see what you see.
I just need to stop obsessing now. Its making me very sad and not completely mentally around for the boys and thats unfair. I feel so snappy and down.

I'm sure your babies will be very healthy and cosy in there! I know it's easy to feel nervous, especially as the 20 week scan gets closer but there is no reason to worry. you've had testing done and checks and scans and nothing worrying has come up so have faith

[MrsSparkles]

I'm due the 11th of the 11th.

I feel like the more babies we have the more neurotic we become lol.
Also here in the uk you get an extra scan for a first baby, so subsequent pregnancies feel like so long between scana

[MrsSparkles]

Its so hard to not be upset when you're feeling like you are going to hear the worst.
Even harder when the worst is about gender, I felt so guilty after my son was born.
Its normal though, you are not alone, GD is real and if you ask me it is on par with alot of mental illnesses.
Only trouble is it is so misunderstood that it wont get diagnosed.
You can get through this boy or girl whatever you hear, your family will be richer.

[Bobster]

I’m due on the 8th November sparkles so there’s not much between us. You are so right, GD is completely misunderstood. I’ve never had another mental illness thankfully but I feel it probably is on par.

Thanks sonny. I think for now do t be hard on yourself for being distant but maybe try to force yourself to do stuff with the boys as it can help for distraction from thoughts but also for them. I was the same as you but I think my guilt was worse than how they actually felt. You’re right about the scan, thanks for the positive words. The chances are everything will be ok (fingers crossed). I think when you hear about other people’s bad experiences it can make you anxious but actually these things are very rare.

Sparkles is so right about the family being richer despite the gender. If it is a boy it will be hard but when he comes and you see him and his own uniqueness you will fall in love. Often people say they are closest to their ds3. I still have hope for a girl for you though based on those lines and babies curled up angle distorting how they look.

I’m in the uk too sparkles. I only got 2 scans though with ds1. We paid for a private one at 7 weeks though to make sure there was a heartbeat.

[MrsSparkles]

I really do think it is misunderstood, and its such a thief- steals the joy from our pregnancies.

I agree about keeping busy, that helped me last time.
I took on extra work, and activities, it was the alone times that I got down and cried alot.
It feels so strange now, crying over my GD, my son is everything, and I would not swap him for 100 daughters.
At the time though it is so real,and only one person in my real offline life (a lovely Mum I met on here) understood. This space is so safe and I'm thankful all the time to atomic for creating it.

I am rubbish at nub guessing, so I am hoping that you still hear girl!

Oh wow about the 2 scans, are you south west by any chance.
My friend down there also only had 2

[Sonnygirl]

GD is a joy thief, I find it hard to think of anything else.
I am a stay at home mum, my eldest is at school and I look after my 22month old. He doesn't speak yet apart from a few words. ( he's being referred for a speech delay) so I find i'm in my head more often than not. I have lots of friends with kids but my trigger is being around baby/toddler girls. I can't avoid situations like this as my son stills needs to get out the house and do groups etc
If i'm busy ( not doing baby/toddler stuff which is rare) it definitely alleviates the anxiety but there is just so much time i'm by myself.
I find myself most upset when on my own.

I'm in the southwest and i've only ever had 2 scans on the NHS 12w & 20w
I have paid privately for ones though.

[MrsSparkles]

That was my trigger too.
I would have to leave if I saw a baby girl even in a shop, so I know it must be impossible to do activities with a little one.

Counting down the days until you find out, hope it is a girlie.

[Bobster]

I’m north and 2 scans here too.

[MrsSparkles]

Oh wow.
We got 3 in the Midlands (first pregnancy), and 2 this time.
If you're over 35 you can opt for 'extra growth scans' I did last time, that's how they picked up the fluid had gone at.
The extra are at 38 and 40 weeks

[Bobster]

How is everyone doing? I’m getting on ok. Just patiently waiting for the 20 week scan to make sure baby is ok. Sparkles are you feeling any movement yet? I’ve been feeling them daily over the last week or so but when I go for long periods without any movement I get a bit panicky. Might buy a Doppler.

Sonny how are you feeling? I hope ds2 is sleeping a bit better? When’s his first speech therapy appointment? I bet once he’s talking it will be so much easier to know what he wants/needs. My ds1’s speech took off quite a lot in preschool but he was late with it, then school and learning phonics has helped too.

[SummerHope]

Had my NT scan today! Baby measured 13w0d and OMG the tech thought it looks like a girl!!
:pray: I am praying so hard she is right and I agree all the angles she showed me looked girly but I know it's still a little early to be sure. Just glad I got to see my sweet healthy baby and get some good pics :) I'm finally starting to feel a little more excited!
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[MrsSparkles]

No movements yet, looming forward to it though.
Was such a magical part of pregnancy as I remember.
I have an anterior placenta so might be another 4 weeks until I feel much.

SummerHope that really does look like a girl!
I would trust the tech!

[Bobster]

Wow summer that’s a girl! Would put money on it at 13 weeks!!!! So excited for you!! You must have been so nervous.

Sparkles yes yours will be a bit later won’t they. It is magical and reassuring. I have always had a posterior placenta so felt them quite early on.

[SummerHope]

Thanks ladies!! Yeah I was super nervous and now I'm feeling much more relaxed and excited, I can't wait to have another scan in a few weeks to confirm the gender for sure though!

[MrsSparkles]

I didn't realise posterior and anterior were even things.
So many variables in pregnancy.

[Bobster]

Summer I’m sure you are going to hear girl! I’m looking forward to your update.

Sonny are you feeling ok? I hope you are ok. Not long now until hopefully you’ll have some answers and can start to adjust either way.

[MrsSparkles]

Hi Ladies,

Hope you're all well.
The last few nights I keep having vivid nightmares about losing this precious baby.
I don't know why, I'm so stressed, as they're only dreams.

I remember last time having super vivid dreams, but nothing horrid like this.
Roll on the next scan to reassure myself all is well.

Anyone else relate ?

[Sonnygirl]

Hi Ladies,

Hope you're all well.
The last few nights I keep having vivid nightmares about losing this precious baby.
I don't know why, I'm so stressed, as they're only dreams.

I remember last time having super vivid dreams, but nothing horrid like this.
Roll on the next scan to reassure myself all is well.

Anyone else relate ?

I think it's very normal to have vivid dreams. Dreams are a refection of things going on at the time and if you have been feeling anxious about the baby then it is very normal for your dreams to reflect this. It doesn't mean there is anything wrong. please don't worry.


I've been off the site for a while as i'm an dealing with a lot of anxiety and feeling really low. I'm trying hard not to spiral but until I know for sure what i'm having but it's taking a lot to keep my head above water.

Hope all your pregnancies are going well.

[Bobster]

Mrs sparkles just ditto what sonny says, it’s most likely just your worries coming into your dreams. Must be so distressing though. You will be protective with the scan date looming. I’m not having the bad dreams but I am feeling mega anxious about something being wrong or having a miscarriage which is an awful feeling.

Sonny completely understand you need to do whatever you can to help how you are feeling. When I found out ds2 was a boy I left the site as couldn’t bare seeing any good news. I really have everything crossed for you. When is your scan date? Keep talking to hubby and whoever you can about how you are feeling as bottling it up can sometimes be worse x

[MrsSparkles]

Hi Sonny

Totally understand taking time away.
Another friend said she found being here very stressful during the waiting period too.

Thank you for the reassurance.
13 days until the scan

[Bobster]

I had a scare yesterday and they had to do a scan. Got to see baby again and everything looked ok thank god. I’m so nervous for the 20 week scan 12 days and counting

[MrsSparkles]

Oh no was it lack of movement ?
I am so glad everything is okay with your precious one.

Roll on that scan, 12 days for both of us.
Will be thinking of you

[Bobster]

I was having some tummy pains and had a tiny bit of spotting. All was ok and nothing so far since. Thanks for well wishes. Are you feeling any movements yet sparkles?

[Bobster]

Sparkles are you going to find out what you are having at your 20 week scan? Do your hospital tell people as I know some don’t? I’m going to tell them I don’t k ow so I can get an unbiased opinion. So anxious that the gender scan was wrong as I’ve stupidly googled and read loads of horror stories

[MrsSparkles]

So happy youre okay,pregnancy is such a worry!!!!

No movement's yet.
Yes will also tell them I dont know, even though I am 100% now.
Just instinctive.

Yours will be right, I'm sure

[Bobster]

You don’t know sparkles as I felt strongly this is a boy. That’s partly why I’m doubting the scan so much. I also thought ds2 was a girl which is why I took the disappointment so hard. You just never know. Is your scan a week today? I hope this week doesn’t drag. I might have to try and do a little scan at work again as I’m having withdrawal from seeing baby.

I’m sure you’ll start to feel movements soon. I think baby becomes bigger than the placenta at this stage. Remind me again how old your ds is?

My youngest is 3, he will be 3.5 when baby comes. He’s really clingy and always been a real mummies boy. I really worry about how he’ll feel when baby comes. I don’t want him to feel pushed out. My mother in law keeps saying things like ‘you aren’t a baby anymore, you’re going to be the big boy once baby comes’ and telling him things like he shouldn’t have a bottle anymore at bedtime because he’s a big boy now. I feel like punching her as it’s non of her business. I know she thinks he’s babies too much and he probably is as I thought he was our last so I’ve not rushed him through all the stages to independence like I did with ds1. He’s very cuddly and just always been content when with me but doesn’t particularly want to spend time with anyone else that’s the problem. I think I’m maybe a bit soft with him sometimes.

Sorry I just kind of needed to rant as she drives me crazy with her strong opinions about what everyone should be doing. She does help us once weekly with childcare though so she has us over a barrel to a certain degree and I’ve never said anything to her to cause conflict before, even when she told me I should stop breast feeding at 8 weeks post partum because he was too old for it now!!! Argh I’m definitely hormonal as I’m normally more tolerant of annoying people but today I just want to punch someone.

[Bobster]

Sonny not sure if you are on here but if you are just letting you know I’m thinking of you. Is you scan this week or next? Hope you are ok during the wait. Also hope they can tell you one way or another so you are not left in limbo any longer

[MrsSparkles]

My Mum is the same.
Comments so far:

You're going to struggle he is so clingy he will be jealous

Isnt he too old for boob, the new baby will starve

You're spoiling him, he will be horrid big brother.

My Mum is pretty forward and opinionated.
Usually can cope, but the tolerance metre is at max in pregnancy.
Just try and rise above it.
90% of mean stuff is projection, her feeling inadequate in some ways.
Maybe she secretly feels you are a better and more lovin Mum than she was.
Or perhaps she is jealous because this is such a special and precious time.
You are doing something she can't (creating new life)

Whatever the reason, do try and refrain from face punching lol.;);)

[Bobster]

Such wise words. Sorry you have to go through the that too. I think it’s particularly hard as I lost my own mum in childhood. I think you’re right about her feeling a bit insecure as she had my hubby aged 18 and it wasn’t a particularly good childhood for him. she had another 20 years later and they have a better relationship although they clash a lot (motger/daughter) and are a bit emotionless in general - no cuddling or public affection really.

I refrained from texting her although I did type the message out with what I wanted to say which helped me refrain from any punching!!! I definitely feel emotional and more hormonal this time! Scan on Monday, when is yours?

[MrsSparkles]

There is something about pregnancy that brings out thr crazy in Mums and MIL.
Im so sorry you lost your Mum, it must make it even more frustrating that your MIL is behaving so badly.
When I imagine you'd give anything to have your own Mama there now :(

So glad you got some relief from typing the text.
That's such a smary thing to do, will have to try it myself soon.

Tuesday morning!

[ruupau]

Hello ladies been quite for sometime was trying to heal, I found out gender though was team green, ended up finding out, and the baby is a boy, got 2 boys already was expecting to hear girl but God has his plans

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[ruupau]

You don’t know sparkles as I felt strongly this is a boy. That’s partly why I’m doubting the scan so much. I also thought ds2 was a girl which is why I took the disappointment so hard. You just never know. Is your scan a week today? I hope this week doesn’t drag. I might have to try and do a little scan at work again as I’m having withdrawal from seeing baby.

I’m sure you’ll start to feel movements soon. I think baby becomes bigger than the placenta at this stage. Remind me again how old your ds is?

My youngest is 3, he will be 3.5 when baby comes. He’s really clingy and always been a real mummies boy. I really worry about how he’ll feel when baby comes. I don’t want him to feel pushed out. My mother in law keeps saying things like ‘you aren’t a baby anymore, you’re going to be the big boy once baby comes’ and telling him things like he shouldn’t have a bottle anymore at bedtime because he’s a big boy now. I feel like punching her as it’s non of her business. I know she thinks he’s babies too much and he probably is as I thought he was our last so I’ve not rushed him through all the stages to independence like I did with ds1. He’s very cuddly and just always been content when with me but doesn’t particularly want to spend time with anyone else that’s the problem. I think I’m maybe a bit soft with him sometimes.

Sorry I just kind of needed to rant as she drives me crazy with her strong opinions about what everyone should be doing. She does help us once weekly with childcare though so she has us over a barrel to a certain degree and I’ve never said anything to her to cause conflict before, even when she told me I should stop breast feeding at 8 weeks post partum because he was too old for it now!!! Argh I’m definitely hormonal as I’m normally more tolerant of annoying people but today I just want to punch someone.Oooh Bobster don't worry about MIL, aaaa happy that you didn't punch her just leave her, don't stress though, mine is like that and her last visit wasn't pleasing as she created an unnecessary war with I just kept quite and ignored, she actually told me that she is planning not to come over maybe visiting after 3yrs,

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[Bobster]

So sorry you didn’t hear girl rapuu but congratulations on another healthy gorgeous boy. Your boys will have a new best friend for life. Will you have any more babies do you think?

I hope you are ok. I wish there was something I could say to help you but there isn’t. I guess it’s just time and meeting your new wonderful son that will help.

Mrs sparkles which day is your scan? Is it this week? Mine is Monday at 3:40. I feel so anxious that something will be wrong or they will say boy, or both. Need to try and stay calm. I bet you feel nervous too do you? I hope our babies are ok in there.

[MrsSparkles]

Sorry you didn't hear girl, are you feeling okay ?

[MrsSparkles]

Mine is the day after you at 9am, I feel the same as you very nervous just want baby to be healthy.
I have to say I can't believe how little I care about the gender now, the only thing I worry about is hubbies reaction to a boy confirmation.
Still I know that he can come around, it is just scary trying to find out the health situation.
I had my BP taken yesterday and it was quite a jump.
Usually is 115/81 range
Yesterday was 141/95
So they are keeping an eye on me, it isn't out of range, but it is higher than it has been

[Bobster]

Were You nervous or rushed at the time of taking? Were you talking at the time of taking? Those things can make it read higher. Was it a machine or manual? I’m sure it’s notbing to worry about if it’s normally ok but good they are keeping an eye on it.

I will keep you posted tomorrow after the scan. Good luck for yours too. I bet you’ll hear girl but if not hubby will soon be in love with his newest boy

[Bobster]

God I’m nervous. What if the gender scan was wrong and it’s a boy? I’ve bought girl clothes. The thought of taking them all back :nails:
Or what if baby is poorly? Everything’s such a worry. Not long now.

[MrsSparkles]

Wishing you luck today Bobster !!!!

[Bobster]

Baby is fine. Phew!!! She didn’t check the gender until right at the end and said she always advises people to keep the receipts just in case. She did say she thought it was a girl though and saw labia but she didn’t give me a picture of the goods to obsess over! I didn’t see any penis or scrotum though and looked carefully so I feel confident now that it really is a girl.

Good luck tomorrow for your scan Mrs sparkles. I have everything crossed that your bub is healthy, pink or blue :luck:

[4blue2pink]

just popping in to say Good Luck for your scan tomorrow Mrs Sparkles, ive got everything crossed for you to hear girl and also for everything to be perfect with baby so you can keep planning your homebirth :heart:

Congratulations on your baby girl bobster :)

[WelcomeBaby]

Hello everybody!! After a long break for my own sanity I wanted to drop by to see how everybody's doing and I'm so happy for all of you that have gotten good news, be it that the baby is healthy or that it's your DG or both! :) MrsSparkles, I know your scan is today and that you're expecting to hear boy, but I have all my fingers and toes crossed that bub is healthy and happy and a girl!!!
We're still team green and that's honestly one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'm not anxious to find out gender at all because I KNOW it's a boy - apart from the "medical" reasons (my PCOS, the 6 weeks off the diet before conception etc.) I have the same type of intuition as with DS1, only a gazillion times stronger. In fact, I'm so sure that I have already told everybody the tech confirmed it via u/s (really wanted to avoid comments like "ohh, might be a girl this time, how exciting").
BTW, the family has been shockingly nasty about us having another baby. Literally NOBODY was happy or excited for us in any way. Instead, it was "really, are you sure, with DS1 being special needs?" and "oh, we thought you were through after DS1, he's so horribly difficult" and from almost everybody, "how did that happen, was it an accident?" My MIL and my own mother were the worst. I could hardly believe my ears. (We underwent genetic testing and DS1's rare "specialties" are not genetic but a fluke of nature, so our risk of having another kid with his conditions are extremely low. Everybody seems to have forgotten this.)

The good news is, I've become somewhat defiant :) and ready and willing to love this baby no matter what. I also realized that with my background - being almost 40 and with only one (special needs) kid - I'm so incredibly blessed to be having another baby who in all likelihood (we did a large number of tests) is 100% healthy, and this is not some lame gratitude exercise, but what I genuinely feel every day. So while part of me is still devastated and incredulous I'll never have what I wanted so dearly and would have suited me so perfectly, I've chosen not to dwell on this and instead enjoy what I have, and that is A LOT. (DS1 is soooo looking forward to the new baby! :) )

So, I've decided to enjoy this pregnancy as much as I can (thankfully, no nasty symptoms anymore) and I hope y'all do too, and that everybody ends up with healthy babies who are the perfect additions to your families and hopefully the girl or boy you were dreaming of! I'll be checking back for updates!!

[MrsSparkles]

I am so sorry your family are saying such cruel things.
But look at you go, protective Mama bear, your babies are so lucky to have you as a Mummy.

I can relate to the intuituin I had it last time and this time.

[MrsSparkles]

Scan was good.
Babies head measuring a week ahead, ouch!
No gender, legs firmly crossed when she went down to look.
Also because it's a free NHS scan, the gender is the least important thing.
So she didnt try that hard to look.
We gotbno clues at all, but was lovely having hubbie there.
He said baby looks cute and was happy

[Bobster]

4blue, thank you. How far along are you now? Is everything going ok?

Welcome, im sorry family have been so unsupportive. Glad you are getting on with it and it’s not spoiling your excitement. Also glad that team green is helping you. Your family will get a real shock at birth if you’ve got your predictions wrong!

MrsSparkles, aren’t boys quite obvious even with legs crossed at the gestation? I hope it’s a girl. Are you going to wait until birth to find out? I felt the gender check was really rushed in my nhs scan too. I found the private gender scan really good though as the time was focused on the gender alone. I might go again later on just to see baby again. Any movements yet Mrs? Glad hubby was smitten

[MrsSparkles]

I am so upset everyone
I just had a text from a friend who had a call from someone I don't even know.
Apparently her family member is the US tech we had today and told her we came in, and the gender!!!!
I was like, she didn't even tell us we dont know ?!
Apparently she recognised our unusual name, and we were recently on a TV show.
She put two and two together and told her family member who told my friend.
She said we are having a girl.

I feel devastated that if its true random people know before us.
Can I take this further, surely a breach of patient confidentiality.
Why wouldn't she tell us if she thought girl.
So upset, just phoned my hubby in tears

[SummerHope]

I am so upset everyone
I just had a text from a friend who had a call from someone I don't even know.
Apparently her family member is the US tech we had today and told her we came in, and the gender!!!!
I was like, she didn't even tell us we dont know ?!
Apparently she recognised our unusual name, and we were recently on a TV show.
She put two and two together and told her family member who told my friend.
She said we are having a girl.

I feel devastated that if its true random people know before us.
Can I take this further, surely a breach of patient confidentiality.
Why wouldn't she tell us if she thought girl.
So upset, just phoned my hubby in tears

Isn't that illegal? I work in healthcare in the US and we have so many very strict regulations forbidding us from giving out any sort of information about a patient unless a proper release of information has been signed. If I was you I would call and report the tech because that is a huge breech of your privacy!
If the tech could have seen well enough to be confident I really don't understand why she would tell other people but not you since it is your baby, she could have at least said "I think it's a boy/girl but we're not getting the right angle so I can't be 100% certain".
Sorry you're going through this :(

[Bobster]

Oh my god how awful for you sparkles! That is against the rules, I’m a nurse in the NHS and we all have to follow strict confidentiality rules. Are you sure she’s not mistaking you with someone else as that would be really weird for her not to tell you if she knew. I do have a feeling you are having a girl so hope that part of this awful situation is true. You could make a complaint if she did breech your confidentiality and she’d get in serious trouble.

[Nell_]

Hey sparkles just read this! My sister works on the nhs ( mat dept ) and the rules are so so strict they can't discuss patients with anyone! Im in shock! Don't get your hopes up could be a case of chinese whispers but of course it could be very much true and thats wonderful but awful to find out you jave been treated that way..couldn't you call the person who told you that and ask for more details? Id call the ultrasound unit and demand an explanation then take it further. Why didn't she just tell you at the scan thats all very odd sounds suspicious to me... x

[MrsSparkles]

Hi Nell

I called her and she asked me to please not complain because they'll know it's come from her.
I said that's not really my problem, and that it is a total breach of privacy, I would be fuming if I knew the gender and she told others before I got the chance to.
This is more devastation and mind games, because the US tech didn't even tell us.
Now my hubbie is excited and has probably got false hopes.
He has booked us a private gender scan for Monday, and is leaving it up to me whether I complain.

Have looked up lots of info about Data Protection and she has for sure done the wrong thing.
I don't think I can not complain :(

[MrsSparkles]

Our name is so unusual, there's no way it could be confused with someone else.
And she apparantly said to my friend "My Mum saw your friends from the telly", it can only be us.

[4blue2pink]

Mrs Sparkles, my dh works for the nhs and i can reiterate what has already been said, that discussing you/your scan with anyone is not allowed. If she has done this then she has breached confidentiality and violated hospital policy, it will not be viewed lightly by those in charge.

[4blue2pink]

4blue, thank you. How far along are you now? Is everything going ok?

Welcome, im sorry family have been so unsupportive. Glad you are getting on with it and it’s not spoiling your excitement. Also glad that team green is helping you. Your family will get a real shock at birth if you’ve got your predictions wrong!

MrsSparkles, aren’t boys quite obvious even with legs crossed at the gestation? I hope it’s a girl. Are you going to wait until birth to find out? I felt the gender check was really rushed in my nhs scan too. I found the private gender scan really good though as the time was focused on the gender alone. I might go again later on just to see baby again. Any movements yet Mrs? Glad hubby was smitten

im 34 weeks now its flying by! so far everything is going great :)

[MrsSparkles]

Thank you for the input.
I have the hospital complaints details, and am going to sleep on it tonight.

My husband is walking around with a massive smile on his face, can you imagine if we hear boy on Monday now :(

[MrsSparkles]

Sorry 4blue2pink, I was so wrapped up that I didn't even say.
I hope the rest of your pregnancy goes really well.

[Bobster]

Mrs sparkles I can’t believe what’s happened, it’s outrageous. I would seriously think about putting in a complaint in case she does it to someone else. I know we all make mistakes sometimes but not breaching confidentiality is something engrained in us all. If you are unsure though maybe wait until Monday- if it’s a girl you may decide to let it go but if not and it affects hubby emotionally then you might feel better to take it further.

Wow 2blue, 34 weeks! Do you feel comfortable?

Summer when is your next scan?

Hi nell. Hope you are ok. Fingers crossed for this cycle

[Bobster]

P.s. I feel like my bump has really popped now. People can actually tell I’m pregnant and not just porky now which is nice :)
I can still see the odd person too worried to say anything in case it’s a food baby. I’m trying to treasure it as this is it for us after this one. I’m really quite scared about how I’m going to manage with 3. Our house is already a bit crazy with noise, mess, bedlam lol. I work 30 hours a week so it will be nice to have mat leave to look forward to though.

[Nell_]

Keep us posted sparkles it must be a girl then!! Wonder why she didn't say!! She shouldn't be in that profession she sounds soo unethical!!
Thanks bobster dh had to work away this cycle so would be immaculate conception 😂but maybe il be in next cycle you never know hey! Congrats on 20 week scan confirming girl yay!!!

[4blue2pink]

Mrs Sparkles i completely understand your worry about hearing boy on monday for dh, if she wasnt confident enough to confirm gender to you due to baby's legs been crossed then id really not be confident in anything until you can get a clear shot and see it for yourself. I dont mean to be a downer i really do hope that this baby is a girl :heart:
how are you feeling about it all today? xx

Bobster im feeling great this time, last time i was crippled with spd by this point and it just got worse and worse till the end, but its not happened (yet..) and im hoping it stays away!! how are you finding girls names? i struggle with them and will do again if this ones a girl :-/

[Bobster]

Nell enjoy a month off from worrying about ttc. Have a nice rest. Might be just what you need to get back on it (literally) next cycle :pinksperm:

[Bobster]

4blue I really hope spd stays away. It sounds so painful. I wonder why it comes in some pregnancies but not all. Glad you are feeling well. Do you have any feelings about what baby is?

It must be so nice to have the patience to wait until birth and have that lovely surprise. I had a surprise with ds1 but secretly was really hoping for a girl. I got over it quickly though as assumed I’d have a dd next time.

We are struggling with girls names. I had my boys names narrowed down. So far Lily is top of the list but it will depend on what she looks like. I love the names Alice, Mary, Esme, Lottie too. Any names picked out for anyone else?

[4blue2pink]

4blue I really hope spd stays away. It sounds so painful. I wonder why it comes in some pregnancies but not all. Glad you are feeling well. Do you have any feelings about what baby is?

It must be so nice to have the patience to wait until birth and have that lovely surprise. I had a surprise with ds1 but secretly was really hoping for a girl. I got over it quickly though as assumed I’d have a dd next time.

We are struggling with girls names. I had my boys names narrowed down. So far Lily is top of the list but it will depend on what she looks like. I love the names Alice, Mary, Esme, Lottie too. Any names picked out for anyone else?

i hope it stays away too, i think its because iv got a bigger age gap this time (18 months instead of 14) the joint had more time to heal between pregnancies this time, i love team green ive found it to be so relaxing just not having to care about gender and potentially having the pregnancy ruined by GD. Ive no idea what baby is!! no intuition at all but im excited to find out :)

Lily is so pretty! Alice is a favorite of mine too :) i also have boys names sorted and a list for girls that just seems to go round and round with no front runners, so frustrating!! i didnt realize girls names would be so hard till we had to name our girls, DD1 was nameless for 2 days after birth and DD2 for 5 weeks!! really dont want that again if this one is a girl!

[MrsSparkles]

Hey ladies,

I went and had a coffee with my friend and asked her to recall verbatim what was said.
The US tech told the other party "well i didn't see any bits".
So my friend said she took that to mean girl!
The US tech breached our privacy, but it looks like my friend just took the info and elaborated into "Girl".

I've told my friend that she can pass on to the US techs daughter that I am going to make a complaint.

Husband booked our scan out of county, this place is too small and we have lost confidence.
There is literally only one place to get a private scan or NIPT test, the next place is over an hours drive.
Have told him about the conservation, and he's not feeling quite as confident

[Nell_]

Nell enjoy a month off from worrying about ttc. Have a nice rest. Might be just what you need to get back on it (literally) next cycle :pinksperm:

Thank you 💖

[Bobster]

I can’t wait to hear on Monday about your scan sparkles. I have everything crossed that you hear pink. Private scans are brilliant as they give you the time to admire and enjoy seeing baby which is precious. Obviously being told the gender is an added bonus too. I think I might book in for another one just to see her again. Scan addict lol!

That’s a pain that it’s so far away but I’m sure it will be worth it :)

[ruupau]

Hey ladies,

I went and had a coffee with my friend and asked her to recall verbatim what was said.
The US tech told the other party "well i didn't see any bits".
So my friend said she took that to mean girl!
The US tech breached our privacy, but it looks like my friend just took the info and elaborated into "Girl".

I've told my friend that she can pass on to the US techs daughter that I am going to make a complaint.

Husband booked our scan out of county, this place is too small and we have lost confidence.
There is literally only one place to get a private scan or NIPT test, the next place is over an hours drive.
Have told him about the conservation, and he's not feeling quite as confidentMrsSparkles praying that your Monday scan will go well and you will hear girl, sorry on what happened hope DH will be ok cos GD sucks
Bobster happy the baby is still she,
Welcome so sorry, so people were expecting you to have one kid is that even their business, they are supposed to be happy with your decisions
Nell ooh taking a break for a month from ttc is better wish you the best in next cycle
Sonny how are you did you find out gender

am now fine I accepted the will of God having 3boys is a blessing to me,
oh Bobster wasn't planning to have another baby after this one because of Cesarean have 2 already and this one will be the third,but DH said I could try for 4 if I still wanna try for a girl,will give it time

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[4blue2pink]

Hello everybody!! After a long break for my own sanity I wanted to drop by to see how everybody's doing and I'm so happy for all of you that have gotten good news, be it that the baby is healthy or that it's your DG or both! :) MrsSparkles, I know your scan is today and that you're expecting to hear boy, but I have all my fingers and toes crossed that bub is healthy and happy and a girl!!!
We're still team green and that's honestly one of the best decisions I've ever made. I'm not anxious to find out gender at all because I KNOW it's a boy - apart from the "medical" reasons (my PCOS, the 6 weeks off the diet before conception etc.) I have the same type of intuition as with DS1, only a gazillion times stronger. In fact, I'm so sure that I have already told everybody the tech confirmed it via u/s (really wanted to avoid comments like "ohh, might be a girl this time, how exciting").
BTW, the family has been shockingly nasty about us having another baby. Literally NOBODY was happy or excited for us in any way. Instead, it was "really, are you sure, with DS1 being special needs?" and "oh, we thought you were through after DS1, he's so horribly difficult" and from almost everybody, "how did that happen, was it an accident?" My MIL and my own mother were the worst. I could hardly believe my ears. (We underwent genetic testing and DS1's rare "specialties" are not genetic but a fluke of nature, so our risk of having another kid with his conditions are extremely low. Everybody seems to have forgotten this.)

The good news is, I've become somewhat defiant :) and ready and willing to love this baby no matter what. I also realized that with my background - being almost 40 and with only one (special needs) kid - I'm so incredibly blessed to be having another baby who in all likelihood (we did a large number of tests) is 100% healthy, and this is not some lame gratitude exercise, but what I genuinely feel every day. So while part of me is still devastated and incredulous I'll never have what I wanted so dearly and would have suited me so perfectly, I've chosen not to dwell on this and instead enjoy what I have, and that is A LOT. (DS1 is soooo looking forward to the new baby! :) )

So, I've decided to enjoy this pregnancy as much as I can (thankfully, no nasty symptoms anymore) and I hope y'all do too, and that everybody ends up with healthy babies who are the perfect additions to your families and hopefully the girl or boy you were dreaming of! I'll be checking back for updates!!

im so sorry people are being so cruel, your family size is irrelevant to anyone other than you and your dh, if they cant be happy and supportive then they dont deserve to be involved. Describing your DS1 as "horribly difficult" and saying you shouldnt have more due to his needs is disgusting. Great to hear he's so excited :D i hope he enjoys every second of his new adventure being a big brother!

[Nell_]

MrsSparkles praying that your Monday scan will go well and you will hear girl, sorry on what happened hope DH will be ok cos GD sucks
Bobster happy the baby is still she,
Welcome so sorry, so people were expecting you to have one kid is that even their business, they are supposed to be happy with your decisions
Nell ooh taking a break for a month from ttc is better wish you the best in next cycle
Sonny how are you did you find out gender

am now fine I accepted the will of God having 3boys is a blessing to me,
oh Bobster wasn't planning to have another baby after this one because of Cesarean have 2 already and this one will be the third,but DH said I could try for 4 if I still wanna try for a girl,will give it time

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Thank you so much ruu! He sure is a blessing and if you want to try again for a girl you can that's lovely your husband said that and then you have the option. I bet you can't wait to meet your new little man ... big hug x

[MrsSparkles]

My husband couldn't wait till Monday.
So we left after work to go and have a 3d gender scan.
I cannot believe I am writing this.
Its a girl !!!!

[Mummyof4boys]

My husband couldn't wait till Monday.
So we left after work to go and have a 3d gender scan.
I cannot believe I am writing this.
Its a girl !!!!

Wow Mrs Sparkles! Congratulations!!! You must be in shock and over the moon :D

[Sonnygirl]

That’s great news Sparkles. I bet you can’t believe it.

Just a quick message to say that we found out we’re having another boy and it’s been two weeks and I’m as heartbroken as the day I found out. I’m sad/angry all the time and find myself getting so annoyed so quickly at everything including friends and family. I haven’t told anyone yet apart from hubby as I’m trying to make myself more resilient for all the comments that will come.

I feel like everyone I have made a connection with on here got a girl and I’m the only one with another boy. You know how the feelings go, i’m happy for everyone just so sad for myself

[MrsSparkles]

Im so sorry you're feeling like this Sonny :(
I wanted you to hear girl more than anyone, as I could so relate to the feelings of GD from my last pregnancy.
I was really sure you would.
There is nothing any of us can say to make this feel better:(
You know that when he arrives he will be perfect and you will fall so in love.
But that doesn't help you now.
Sending love

[4blue2pink]

My husband couldn't wait till Monday.
So we left after work to go and have a 3d gender scan.
I cannot believe I am writing this.
Its a girl !!!!

Congratulations MrsSparkles!! you and your dh must both be over the moon :heart:

[TA Sait]

My husband couldn't wait till Monday.
So we left after work to go and have a 3d gender scan.
I cannot believe I am writing this.
Its a girl !!!!

Many many congratulations MrSparkles

[atomic sagebrush]

I've been thinking about you Sonny and so sorry to hear you're still struggling.

[Bobster]

Oh my god, oh my god, oh my god!!!!! I’m sooooo happy for you sparkles!!!!! I knew it! She has such a girly skull shape on your 12 week scan. Did you cry?? Enjoy every moment :cheer:

[Bobster]

Sonny I’m so sorry. I know how you are feeling so well and it’s really the worst feeling. I didn’t talk to my hubby for ages either but I found that when I eventually broke to him it really made me feel a lot better as it’s such a huge burden to have in your head all on your own. If not him is there anyone else you could confide in? I really wish I could say something to make it better. It feels like everyone gets what they want when it’s something you are concentrated on but they don’t. I remember ttc my first and struggling to get pregnant and everyone in the whole world seemed pregnant at the time. It really is so shit. We all know how you are feeling and there’s no other way to describe it other than shit. Although you don’t know him yet I just know once he comes you will fall in love with him. I also know that feeling doesn’t stop the other feeling as it’s separate. Just wish I could say something to help you right now. Just know that we are here if you need to talk. And it’s ok to feel the way you do right now so just let yourself feel it. I see it as a process like grieving xx

[LMSM]

Sonny, just pitching in because I had my third girl last year and went through the same motions....it does take you to a dark place, regardless of how much you know you will love this new baby and how thankful you are for him to be healthy- as Bobster said, infinite overwhelming love for him doesn’t stop you from feeling upset for not getting a girl.
The way I looked at it was “ I’m not upset she is a she and getting another daughter, I’m upset I didn’t get a son”- my disappointment wasn’t her, but my lack of him, if that makes any sense? I know it’s hard to keep strong in the face of people and their comments, so do what it takes to preserve yourself and your heart. :hugs:
I will say this - time does ease the pain, and my third girl is a treasure I didn’t know I wanted but man she brings me so much love it’s insane :) I still desperately want a son, but I could never trade her (any of them) for a son ;)
Xxxx

[MrsSparkles]

So well said everyone.
Sonnygirl you have everyone's support, we all know what you are going through, and are here for you.
Have you tried to tell your hubbie yet?
Maybe sharing and having a good cry and hug with him would help, it is so hard when you have to internalize it all.

[Sonnygirl]

Thank you for the support.
Hubby knows how I feel and has known since we started to sway. He did his part in the sway to help as he knows how much it means to me.

He get free counselling where he works and is just trying to get help so he can try and help me.
He tries to do and say the right thing but nothing helps.
This is the worse position to be in as the baby isn't even here and i've got 5 months left of a pregnancy that will get harder and harder.
I feel nothing for the pregnancy at all. I act as if it's not there and avoid any topic that comes up about it.
I have no desire to look at clothes as it's just that same thing again, same with the nursery and names.

The only thing that is making it slightly better is trying again after this one but i'll be 40 by then and I have no faith in swaying so it would have to be IVF. I don't live in the US so there isn't a lot of support for European clinics here and the chances are slim. I never ever wanted 4 kids. I really still don't but it's either that or never have a chance at having a daughter.

[SummerHope]

My husband couldn't wait till Monday.
So we left after work to go and have a 3d gender scan.
I cannot believe I am writing this.
Its a girl !!!!

OMG how exciting!! Congratulations!!

[MrsSparkles]

That's so tough Sonny, and as Bobster said it is like grieving.
It is so positive that your husband is on board for PGD.
I would not worry about your age, you are obviously fertile and that doesnt just switch off at 40.
Will you go to Cyprus, that's where we looked into.
So pleased that your hubbie is trying and being supportive.

[ruupau]

Thank you for the support.
Hubby knows how I feel and has known since we started to sway. He did his part in the sway to help as he knows how much it means to me.

He get free counselling where he works and is just trying to get help so he can try and help me.
He tries to do and say the right thing but nothing helps.
This is the worse position to be in as the baby isn't even here and i've got 5 months left of a pregnancy that will get harder and harder.
I feel nothing for the pregnancy at all. I act as if it's not there and avoid any topic that comes up about it.
I have no desire to look at clothes as it's just that same thing again, same with the nursery and names.

The only thing that is making it slightly better is trying again after this one but i'll be 40 by then and I have no faith in swaying so it would have to be IVF. I don't live in the US so there isn't a lot of support for European clinics here and the chances are slim. I never ever wanted 4 kids. I really still don't but it's either that or never have a chance at having a daughter.so sorry sonny you didn't hear girl, and I know what everyone say will never change what you feel, you are not alone am expecting a third boy and I cried over it cursing myself why not me and others get what they want but fortunately we have our DHs who can support us and willing to give us another chance, you are not alone shop for him and be happy for him, I didn't want to but i tried and now 27weeks and days going to my third trimester,lets move on dear you not alone love your little one, didn't want four also because of Cesareans but the desire of having a lil girl in the family is pushing me, so don't worry sonny a fourth one will be our girl

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[WelcomeBaby]

Hey everybody, dropping by again to see how everbody's doing! First of all, thank you so much to all of you who left me some kind words when our families' reactions to our pregnancy were so unpleasant. It still hasn't changed, nobody asks how the baby is doing or how I'm feeling or if there are any u/s pics or whatever. Well, I don't mind too much, it's OUR baby after all :) and he's already loved by DH, DS1 and me.
But wow, a lot has happened since my last visit here!! MrsSparkles, I almost fainted when I read your story!!! Congrats on your baby girl!!!! I hope you can leave this ugly little episode with the u/s tech behind you and just enjoy being pregnant with your daughter! I was so shocked and then so happy for you!
Sonnygirl, I'm incredibly sorry you're struggling so hard. There is probably nothing I can say that will make you feel better, but I'm 150% convinced I'm expecting a boy too - was off the diet for about 6 weeks before conceiving and my PCOS had come back, among other things, and now we're team green because I couldn't handle the confirmation before giving birth - and I've worked hard on accepting it. I had some success with the following two steps. First, I told myself that being pregnant is not about my baby, but about me being a strong, beautiful woman whose body is doing the most amazing thing known to mankind - grow another little human. I deserve to feel proud and profoundly feminine. So I focused on connecting with myself more instead of obsessing over who this baby is or is not, and that calmed me down a little.
Recently and in the face of unsupportive remarks, I've started to tell my baby (and myself) a little mantra that goes like this: "You don't have to do anything specific. You don't have to be anything specific. I will love you and keep you safe, because that's my job as your mom." Again, I'm focusing more on what I can and want to do - and what a strong, reliable, loving mother I want to be, and am capable of being - instead of how my baby is not only disappointing my own gender desire, but everyone else's too. (If I keep ruminating this like I did during the first 10 weeks, I'll drive myself insane!)
I hope you don't find my ideas offensive, I'm really just trying to help and wish you the best and that you get through your pregnancy okay and fall in love with your boy immediately.

[MrsSparkles]

I love your Mantra !
Im so sorry your family are being unsupoortive still, but as you know they are the only ones who will miss out.
Your little family is perfection regardless of gender or anything else.
Its a shame their hearts are so closed, but from the ashes of their rubbish family dynamic rose the Phoenix (you and your husband).

Things are okay here.
We have a meeting with the hospital about the US tech.
I feel guilty as she has been suspended pending the investigation.
I don't know why i feel guilty, but I suppose its the British way (apologising when someone steps on your toes!)

[Bobster]

Eek I can understand that feeling. She was really in the wrong though. I’m sure she’s realised that now.I hope the meeting goes ok. You’ll have to keep us posted.

Sonny are you still on here?

I am going to book in for a gender scan again as I’m so paranoid that they’ve got it wrong. My hubby thinks I’m crackers. I probably am. I feel like I’m lying to people when they ask what I’m having. I still keep calling the baby ‘it’ just in case they were wrong.

How is everyone feeling? Hopefully everyone’s symptoms have passed and energy is returning. Summer did you find out in the end? Welcome I love your mantra. Love your positive attitude. I didn’t have that at all with ds2. I felt so low but when he arrived it did feel better as I worried so much about not loving him that I felt relief that I did fall madly in love.

[WelcomeBaby]

Oh Bobster, I feel you! If someone told me now based on a scan that I was expecting a girl I'd probably go back for another good look every week or so! :) However, I'm absolutely convinced you are indeed pregnant with a girl and I hope you're able to trust this info soon!

@MrsSparkles - Well, yes, being suspended IS hard, but this breach of privacy was pretty nasty too! Has the meeting happened yet? I think the tech will get a written warning or something that goes into her file and then she'll probably be allowed to return to work. Don't worry too much now. I'm still sorry you didn't get the amazing, very happy news that you're expecting your girl in a nicer fashion.

I'm somewhat troubled at the moment. Being team green and bonding with this baby as a boy - because SO MANY THINGS SWAYED BLUE FOR ME THE MONTH I CONCEIVED and this HAS to be another boy - has helped tremendously and I'm actually looking forward to giving my son a little brother. Well, I was. Until recently when two women on 2 different occasions predicted I was carrying a girl. Both (they don't know each other) claimed they were really good at that and basically always right. The first one I suspected of simply sensing my gender desire (although I always put serious effort into NOT conveying it!), but the second one told my sister without even seeing me in person!! (She knows me from previous occasions.) The thing is, she correctly predicted my sister's baby was a boy - when nobody, not even my sister herself knew yet. I don't know about her other predictions / successes, but of course that got me thinking. The thing is, I didn't ask any of them for their guesses or opinions and I was perfectly happy with my team green suspected baby boy!!! And now, all of a sudden, although I worked so hard to not let this happen, I feel this might actually be a girl after all and my old gender desire has come back full force, and I don't think being team green is a good idea anymore - because I have my hopes up sky high and if it is a boy, I'll be terribly, terribly sad and disappointed at birth!! So... should I find out the gender? I have another ultrasound next week. Oh man, this is an ugly situation. :(

[bluegreyeyes]

@WelcomeBaby I just wanted to pop on and let you know that you're not alone! I'm team green as well but it's so hard if you've invested time in swaying. I'm so looking forward to the surprise at birth. But along the way, the random predictions and scans make me kinda crazy! I swayed blue and this is my first baby, I didn't realize how many people offer their unsolicited opinions and guesses. I know they mean well and I know it's a 50/50 chance, but with ever prediction it always makes me wonder "what does that person know that I don't?". Lol. I think it's gonna get harder to stay team green as this little baby starts to grow and move and become "real" to me... but I've told too many people that we're not finding out so it's now become a goal that I have to achieve. I don't have any real "intuition" so far on gender, and I think my sway was pretty good but some things make me think it could go pink. Good luck w whatever you decide, can't go wrong at all... finding out gender is always a surprise, whether from an ultrasound tech or at birth, right?

[WelcomeBaby]

Thank you for sharing you experience, bluegrey! Yes, isn't it CRAZY how all of a sudden everybody has an opinion or prediction (!!) for you! And also, as I've come to discover, sadly, a preference... as if it were THEIR baby! *rolleyes
I know the blue sways statistics on here are usually pretty good and if you feel good about your sway, I think you have every reason to be optimistic :) Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this is your boy! When are you due?

Well, you're right, finding out gender is always a surprise, and there are very good reasons for both, finding out at the u/s or waiting until birth. To my indescribable frustration, I think I have already found out :(:mad: Here's what happened: At my 20 weeks scan yesterday, I told the - very experienced - tech I didn't want to know gender and also that I would see a specialist doctor in 3 weeks' time for another very thorough u/s to detect possible birth defects (covered by health insurance because I've already given birth to an affected child). She said fine, she'll just do a 2min scan to measure head and abdominal circumference.
She did and was done in 2min like she said. Spent no time checking gender because I had told her not to bother. I never looked at the screen.
After the scan she commented on how rare being team green had become and that SHE now knew exactly what I was having (broad smile). Then she said that unfortunately she couldn't give me the 3 u/s pics (health insurance covers up to 3 printouts) because the sex was clearly visible in all of them.
I was SO CLOSE to saying "damn it, you just confirmed it's a boy, hand me the goddamn pictures" but I was too shocked and just left.
So... if you ask me, she DID confirm it's a boy. Even at 20 weeks, only boy parts are so undoubtedly clear and visible within less than 2 mins. I've never heard of a tech or even doctor, no matter how experienced, who predicted a girl after a 2min scan without even checking for gender. So I consider myself not to be team green anymore :(:sigh:

[Bobster]

Welcome that is soooo frustrating! I can see exactly why you think that because I probably would too however I think it really depends on what angle baby is lying in when they put the probe on. If it’s any reassurance my gender scan took all of about 30 seconds if that before she said it was a girl. It was so quick. I think the baby was just at the right angle straight away.

I really can’t advise you about waiting or finding out as I don’t know what is best for you. For me personally I’ve done it both ways and I was really hoping for a girl for my first and I felt it spoilt my immediate bonding although the pregnancy was lovely and so full of excitement. The second time I was also desperate for a girl, I found out after a clear nub nub and I hated the rest of the pregnancy. Felt depressed in fact and scared I wouldn’t love him, however I bonded instantly and fell madly in love (with hugeeee relief). I think whichever way you do it it’s going to be hard in one way or another if it’s an opposite. This time the gender scan was so special as hubby really knew what it meant to me and I cried, he cried, we went shopping straight after so it was amazingly special even though we didn’t have that suspended surprise at birth and I’m so glad I’ve not spent the whole pregnancy worrying/wondering/obsessing. If it had gone the other way though I know i would have felt depressed again so it’s really hard to know what is the best way to do it. Personally I hate the torture of waiting to know and obsessional wondering.

[bluegreyeyes]

welcome - thank you. we're due 12/6. it's gonna be a long 19+ weeks. we are getting lots of pink guesses
i think that's pretty unprofessional of the tech... to flaunt that she KNEW what you were having when you said you were team green?! i don't know anything about ultrasounds but it sounds like you do, i guess logically it sounds like boy parts would be easier to "spot" than girl parts so if it was super quick. that's a bummer but i will still hope for pink for you. our tech also grabbed our ultrasound pics back before she handed them over just to do a quick scan of the photos to double check that nothing was visible at our 19 week level 2 his res ultrasound.

[SummerHope]

Thank you for sharing you experience, bluegrey! Yes, isn't it CRAZY how all of a sudden everybody has an opinion or prediction (!!) for you! And also, as I've come to discover, sadly, a preference... as if it were THEIR baby! *rolleyes
I know the blue sways statistics on here are usually pretty good and if you feel good about your sway, I think you have every reason to be optimistic :) Congrats on your pregnancy! I'm keeping everything crossed for you that this is your boy! When are you due?

Well, you're right, finding out gender is always a surprise, and there are very good reasons for both, finding out at the u/s or waiting until birth. To my indescribable frustration, I think I have already found out :(:mad: Here's what happened: At my 20 weeks scan yesterday, I told the - very experienced - tech I didn't want to know gender and also that I would see a specialist doctor in 3 weeks' time for another very thorough u/s to detect possible birth defects (covered by health insurance because I've already given birth to an affected child). She said fine, she'll just do a 2min scan to measure head and abdominal circumference.
She did and was done in 2min like she said. Spent no time checking gender because I had told her not to bother. I never looked at the screen.
After the scan she commented on how rare being team green had become and that SHE now knew exactly what I was having (broad smile). Then she said that unfortunately she couldn't give me the 3 u/s pics (health insurance covers up to 3 printouts) because the sex was clearly visible in all of them.
I was SO CLOSE to saying "damn it, you just confirmed it's a boy, hand me the goddamn pictures" but I was too shocked and just left.
So... if you ask me, she DID confirm it's a boy. Even at 20 weeks, only boy parts are so undoubtedly clear and visible within less than 2 mins. I've never heard of a tech or even doctor, no matter how experienced, who predicted a girl after a 2min scan without even checking for gender. So I consider myself not to be team green anymore :(:sigh:

I am an ultrasound tech and actually when you are experienced scanning it is easy to see the gender almost immediately after starting the exam when the baby is in the right position regardless of if baby is a boy or a girl, it is a big misconception that boys are more "obvious" because to a trained tech both boy and girl parts are easy to distinguish.
I'm sorry your feeling so upset about it though, maybe it would make you feel better just to find out the gender for sure at your next ultrasound and see the image for yourself?

[WelcomeBaby]

Welcome that is soooo frustrating! I can see exactly why you think that because I probably would too however I think it really depends on what angle baby is lying in when they put the probe on. If it’s any reassurance my gender scan took all of about 30 seconds if that before she said it was a girl. It was so quick. I think the baby was just at the right angle straight away.

I really can’t advise you about waiting or finding out as I don’t know what is best for you. For me personally I’ve done it both ways and I was really hoping for a girl for my first and I felt it spoilt my immediate bonding although the pregnancy was lovely and so full of excitement. The second time I was also desperate for a girl, I found out after a clear nub nub and I hated the rest of the pregnancy. Felt depressed in fact and scared I wouldn’t love him, however I bonded instantly and fell madly in love (with hugeeee relief). I think whichever way you do it it’s going to be hard in one way or another if it’s an opposite. This time the gender scan was so special as hubby really knew what it meant to me and I cried, he cried, we went shopping straight after so it was amazingly special even though we didn’t have that suspended surprise at birth and I’m so glad I’ve not spent the whole pregnancy worrying/wondering/obsessing. If it had gone the other way though I know i would have felt depressed again so it’s really hard to know what is the best way to do it. Personally I hate the torture of waiting to know and obsessional wondering.

Wow, Bobster, thank you for sharing your story. This is beautiful, I'm very moved and very happy that you did fall in love with your second son and that you're getting your girl now. I'm sure that very soon you'll look back and think that you ended up with exactly the family that's perfect for you, even though you suffered bad GD for a while (and didn't know back then you'd be having a daughter next). All the best for the remainder of your pregnancy! :heart:

[WelcomeBaby]

Yes, it will probably feel like a super long time, but I found that not knowing gender did help me bond with the baby a lot. I hope it's the same for you! And DO NOT trust any guesses from anybody. I've consulted 2 "psychic" websites and they both told me girl! Haha!
Good to know that your tech double checked your pics too. Seems like the responsible thing to do because they can't know how proficient you may be at interpreting the tiniest clues. Thank you for holding out hope for me! I'm due in Dec too, but I realized I've gone back to obsessing too much (I mean... "psychic" websites!!?? what possessed me??) and will find out at the next scan, just to protect my sanity. I will definitely be back for an update!

[WelcomeBaby]

OMG SummerHope, thank you so much for your opinion and experience as a tech yourself. The baby was moving around a lot so there's every chance it was in the right position several times. And yes, you're right, I'm too upset over this and will find out gender at the next u/s. I feel at this point it would be much healthier to be told boy but be able to move forward emotionally than to allow my obsession and GD to ruin my pregnancy.
Your signature looks like you swayed pink too and haven't found out gender yet - I'll be thinking of you in December and I hope you're having a girl!! :)

[Bobster]

Glad you’ve come to a decision welcome. When will your next scan be?

Summer did you have another scan yet? I didn’t know you were a tech. I’m freaking out that my gender scan was wrong from 16 weeks. Do you know what the chance is of a wrong result at that stage? They said girl at 20 weeks too but she only looked for about 10 seconds and said to keep receipts and tags on things just in case which made me doubt her...

[MrsSparkles]

Bobster you are like me.
I can't belive the scan is right
We are going to drive ourselves nuts, and bankrupt with extra gender scans :running:

[WelcomeBaby]

No, please don't drive yourselves bankrupt, you'll need the money for cute girl stuff :) Bobster, I've heard quite a few stories now how a tech was absolutely able to determine girl after just seconds and I'd say you can trust her opinion. She probably just mentioned keeping the receipts as a safety net type of comment, to cover all her bases. And I assume she wasn't aware of your major gender desire so she had no idea this comment will cause you sleepless nights! If she had, I'm sure she wouldn't have said that or at least would have worded it differently!

My next scan is next week and I catch myself 10, 20 times a day fantasizing about seeing the famous 3 lines and hearing "look, it's a girl". It's TOXIC. It's a nightmare. I KNOW it's a boy. And I'm so, so ready to hear "boy" - although of course I don't WANT to hear it and will be absolutely crushed!!! - and finally move on from this horrible gender desire and disappointment.
Of course this also means that this is the last week of my life that I'm able to dream about having a daughter. Next week at the scan, I'll have to face the fact that I will have to live without one, and I'll never be able to go back. I guess the real grieving process won't start until then. At least I'm as prepared as any woman could be!

[SummerHope]

Glad you’ve come to a decision welcome. When will your next scan be?

Summer did you have another scan yet? I didn’t know you were a tech. I’m freaking out that my gender scan was wrong from 16 weeks. Do you know what the chance is of a wrong result at that stage? They said girl at 20 weeks too but she only looked for about 10 seconds and said to keep receipts and tags on things just in case which made me doubt her...

Usually any-time after 14weeks we can tell with pretty high accuracy (probably 80-85% accuracy) but after 16weeks I would say it's almost 100%, so I would definitley trust it, especially if it was confirmed at 20weeks!

Some of my coworkers are like that too and tell people "keep your receipts" or "just remember nothing is 100% certain until birth" because they want to cover themselves in that rare case that they could be wrong, but if it was confirmed at 2 different scans I would definitely feel pretty confident about it (though after swaying I can totally understand why it's hard to believe you are getting the gender you hoped for!!).

Yes, it makes it harder working in ultrasound because I want to peek in on baby all the time, but I promised my husband I wouldn't do that so we could see and find out the gender together at my 20week doctor's appointment (which is this afternoon, EEK!, I am so anxious)!

[Bobster]

Oh my god summer good luck! Let us know ASAP!!!

Thanks welcome. I already booked a repeat scan for Saturday but i promise it will be the last money I spend on gender determination. I wish I’d read these messages before yesterday. That’s so reassuring summer thank you. I am just fearing the worst outcome all the time because of the years of desire and disbelief that it would actually happen. I’m still calling baby ‘it’ or ‘baby’. So scared of the disappointment if it was wrong.

Welcome it’s so hard. I really have everything crossed that you hear girl but if you don’t then your boy will be so worth the heart ache as he will be meant to be. I think finding out is better than tormenting yourself with the what if’s, although it’s really tough if it doesn’t go the way you hope.

[SummerHope]

OMG Ya'll, It's a girl!!! :)
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Shocked and excited!
It was great to see her!
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[Bobster]

:running::cheer::cheer::cheer:
Knew it!!!! Your nub was too girly to be anything other than a girl!! This is amazing news congrats so much summer :)

[MrsSparkles]

Congratulations Summer. So happy for you and yout hubby !
And well done not peeking and waiting!

[Bobster]

Had my third confirmation today and now I finally believe it. Saw the burger in the scan but the sonographer didn’t capture it in the picture. She checked all angles and no penis in sight. Can finally say ‘her’!!!!

[MrsSparkles]

Had my third confirmation today and now I finally believe it. Saw the burger in the scan but the sonographer didn’t capture it in the picture. She checked all angles and no penis in sight. Can finally say ‘her’!!!!

Yayy.
So happy your mind is at rest now.
Have you bought anything girllie, or thougjt of names yet?

We have bought nothing I don't want to jinx it.
But have had so many gifts already.

[Bobster]

Mrs sparkles I bought quite a lot of clothes and went shopping after this scan to buy some more little bits. I think you should believe summer and buy some stuff. Will you go for another scan or wait it out until D day?

I’m undecided on a name but quite like Lily, Sophie or Holly so far. Have you got a name yet? My top little boys names were Rueben or Walter.

[MrsSparkles]

We have a growth scan on Wednesday although I'm not sure hubby will be allowed in (will have son with us).
We are on track for a home birth, they want us to have monthly growth scans though.

News on the US tech drama, she is back at work after the investigation.
However we will only be having scans on days she is on leave, I am happy about that.

No names yet, I love Tallulah (hubby says reminds him of an old stripper), Tabitha (he says it's too much like a cat).
We are not on the same page name wise, he likes Ronnie and Frankie....I dont want a boys name (sure you all understand why!)

[Bobster]

Completely understand that Mrs sparkles! Yes I want a very feminine name too. It feels so hard naming her as it’s such a surreal feeling and I don’t feel like any names are worthy of this girl who I’ve longed for over the last 6 years! I also feel like I’ve not allowed myself to consider a girls name before so didn’t have any ideas. I like tallulah and Tabitha. She would probably get called tabby. Libby is cute but hubby not keen.

So good that you get some extra scans and that woman won’t be there. Wonder what will happen with her.

[WelcomeBaby]

Woohoo Summer!!! Congrats!!! So happy to hear this!!! :running: :bighug:

I'm counting the HOURS till our scan. If you don't hear from me again this week, it's because I'm trying to cope with the outcome. :sigh:

[Bobster]

Good luck welcome

[Bobster]

Hoping everything’s ok welcome :pray:

[MrsSparkles]

Hey Welcome

How did it go ????
Hope you are ok

[Bobster]

I’m presuming welcome has heard boy. If that’s the case and you’re reading this then please try to focus on the brilliant things that having 2 boys brings. I didn’t see them at the time of my GD with ds2 but I honestly wouldn’t swap what they have. They are best friends and it gives me such comfort to know they will look out for each other and have a brotherly bond for life. The way they play is so amazing to watch and I don’t think a sister would have given my ds1 quite the same. I know how hard the feelings of GD are and I’m really sorry if you are having those feelings right now :heart:

[MrsSparkles]

Keep thinking about you Welcome, hope you are ok

[MrsSparkles]

Its 4.30am and I can't sleep.
Keep feeling really anxious worrying that this birth is not going to go well.
Last time we were under the care of a phenomenal hospital and consultant.
This time we are a few hundred miles away,and the only hospital has been under special measures since 2016.

We had the growth scan, and they say baby is measuring 2 weeks ahead.
I am now having to have a GD test, and am freaking out that I won't get a natural homebirth, but end up on the hospital which is understaffed and underfunded.

[Bobster]

Oh no Mrs I can see why you are so worried. Have you talked to the midwife about it? Did they say they may not be able to facilitate a home birth? Could you afford to go private? Might be worth looking into to relieve your anxiety.

I wouldn’t worry about the growth thing. My midwife said she won’t even start measuring ladies until 28 weeks as they are almost always wrong so people have unnecessary worry and scans. These scans also seem to be a bit vague and not the most accurate. 2 weeks isn’t too much either, I was measuring 1-2 weeks ahead with ds2 the whole way through and he was a normal weight (8lb 6oz).

Have you talked to women specifically about the maternity unit as although the hospital is in special measures, sometimes it still has wards/departments within it which provide really good care. I think it really comes down to the management in each department as to how well it runs.

Sorry you are feeling so anxious. Can I ask why you were under consultant care last time? I’ve always had midwife care and they’ve been brilliant. They will always get a doctor if they need to as doctors are around on the delivery ward so it’s probably the same where you are. When my ds1 was born he wasn’t breathing for a while and the doctor came straight away to take him off even though I hadn’t seen a doctor the whole time otherwise. Try to stay calm but if you are desperate for home birth maybe look into private options just in case

[MrsSparkles]

Sadly there are only 2 midwives to cover a massive area.
I've met my midwife only once and she said at some homebirths they have had to use paramedics due to staff shortages.
We are interviewing an IM soon, she is away at a birth at the moment.
There is a lovely birth centre, but the rule there is you have to progress 1cm an hour, otherwise down to maternity ward it is.

I was under consultant as they thought I had a blood disorder that makes clots and stillborns more prevelant.
They tested me this time and said it's not there anymore.

[Bobster]

Oh wow that must have been so scary the first time. You must have been so relieved to have a negative test this time. Do you have to take baby aspirin? I took that with both my previous pregnancies as I had a couple of early miscarriages before them and had read sometimes clotting disorders can cause miscarriages so I self medicated just incase. This time because it was unplanned I’ve not taken any and it makes me a bit nervous.

Let us know how the interview goes. One cm an hour seems a bit unrealistic.. a lot of women myself included are slow to dilate initially and then dilate quickly before pushing. God the thought of another birth scares me too. I made the mistake of watching a birth on YouTube just to see what it looks like down there and it’s not good!!!

[MrsSparkles]

I had to take blood thinners and baby aspirin the whole pregnancy and 6 weeks after !
It was okay, and I felt fine. But am so happy to be in the all clear now.

The IM said it is totally unrealisitc too, and the guidelines for 1/2-1cm an hour have been removed from NICE guidelines ages ago !

How was labour for you before, I had a planned section so have no clue !!!!

[Bobster]

Second time was better than the first. I went in a birthing pool which really helped with the pain, although I was in it for so long I ended up getting out and pushed him out on a mat on the floor in a very undignified way. No analgesics apart from paracetamol and codeine as hate the idea of a needle in my back and pethidine made me feel completely out of it the first time and has and air made me vomit and didn’t do anything for my pain the first time.

The first time was more sore as he was coming out as he came at an angle but contractions were easier due to pethidine. I had it too close to delivery so that’s why he wasn’t breathing when he came out and he didn’t feed well and was generally very sleep the first 2 days after birth so I vowed not to have it again.

I’m a bit worried that this time the labour is going to be really fast. The last 2 were 20-30 hours from when contractions started and about 5 hours in established labour. How are you feeling about a vbac? You are brave to have a home delivery when you had a section previously.

Have you decided when you’ll start your mat leave? I’m in 2 minds about going off a month before due date or whether to work right up to delivery and have longer at the end. How long will you take off?

[MrsSparkles]

My Mum said she loved the pethidine.
Second time she went drug free and said it was torture.

If the baby comes quickly this time will you have time to get to the hospital?

I don't know about brave, the chances of a rupture double if you have interventions. I figure there are not any I can habe at home, so maybe its safer?

[SummerHope]

Woohoo Summer!!! Congrats!!! So happy to hear this!!! :running: :bighug:

I'm counting the HOURS till our scan. If you don't hear from me again this week, it's because I'm trying to cope with the outcome. :sigh:

Thank you!!
Hoping everything went okay with your scan and you're doing alright.

[Bobster]

Luckily the hospital is only about 15 mins away by car. How far is it for you again??

I’ve heard mixed things about third babies; they either come super quickly or really slowly. Nervous!

[MrsSparkles]

Thats not too bad at all.
At the moment we are about an hour away if there's work traffic, any other time.of day its about 30 mins, so not too bad.
We may be moving closer, haven't decided yet as as move is a faff whilst pregnant isnt it.

Anymore scans planned?
We have another in september

[Bobster]

No more scans unfortunately :( I’m having scan withdrawal! I really want to see baby again. That’s great that you have another one to look forward to. Will you ask them to check her potty shot again? 30 mins isn’t too bad but an hour might be a bit much if things progress quickly... If you do have a hospital birth I’d be going in when having early contractions just incase it progresses fast. Moving probably would be quite stressful and by the time surveys etc come through it may be too late. I want to move too as I don’t like where we live but we’re in the midst of doing our house up so not a good time to sell.

Are you feeling stronger movements now? I’m feeling her move so often it’s really comforting. I’ll really miss the kicks when I’m not pregnant anymore. Have you bought things yet? I’m just buying bits here and there to spread the cost. Just bought a nice John Lewis cosy toes for the pram which was half price (£15 bargain), just about got all her clothes until she’s 6 months old haha! Not done the nursery yet though so need to start thinking about that. Have you got stuff still from your ds?

[MrsSparkles]

Are you using the pram you had with your DS?
Such a good idea to spread the cost, we forget how expenisve these things are.
We have kept things likw the bath seat, and clothes and receiving blankets.
We never used our stupidly expenisve mima pram, so that was sold on ebay!
This time I think we will buy a stroller for DS, I still have the soft carrier and slings to carry the new baby in!

I will definitely ask for a potty shot again lol.
The last us tech was such a lovely and kind lady, she told me the fluid is good, the placenta looks great. Put my mind at rest.

My sister bought me some pink and grey bibs and muslins today.
Made me feel really weird, like she's jinxing us lol

[MrsSparkles]

Has anyone thought of baby names yet???

[Bobster]

It is a weird feeling sparkles I agree.
Thinking of names isn’t going too well as we can’t agree on many. We both like Thea & Lily but no more options so far. What about you?

I think my nausea is on the return. It’s not constant but comes on and off throughout the day. I hope that’s not it now until delivery. Although I like the kicks, I feel ready to have my body back and glad this is my last baby.

[WelcomeBaby]

Hey everybody, I'm here to give you a quick update. The scan went well and of course I was right all along - it's another boy. He seems to be healthy and happy and we got to see his cute lil face, that made it a lot easier. However, since this was my last chance I will now have to adjust to a life without a daughter, and I feel this will only be possible if and when I leave the mere thought of swaying far behind me.
So I'll head over to Atomic's 2019 results thread now to update everybody there and then I don't think I'll be back. Thank you very much for all your help and encouragement on this journey! I wish you all easy and healthy pregnancies and the most adorable, lovely babies of the gender that you hoped for :) All the best!

[MrsSparkles]

Hey everybody, I'm here to give you a quick update. The scan went well and of course I was right all along - it's another boy. He seems to be healthy and happy and we got to see his cute lil face, that made it a lot easier. However, since this was my last chance I will now have to adjust to a life without a daughter, and I feel this will only be possible if and when I leave the mere thought of swaying far behind me.
So I'll head over to Atomic's 2019 results thread now to update everybody there and then I don't think I'll be back. Thank you very much for all your help and encouragement on this journey! I wish you all easy and healthy pregnancies and the most adorable, lovely babies of the gender that you hoped for :) All the best!

Hi Welcome,

Congratulations, I know he will be so loved and adored.
Will miss you and your kind supportive self on the boards, you must do what is right for you.
Thank you for all your input and all your nice words and messages.

Wishing you a happy healthy pregnancy.
If you feel like ir, would love to hear when he's born....totally understand if you can't.

[Bobster]

Welcome thanks for updating us. I’ve been thinking about you and wondering how you are. Your baby boy was meant to be and soon you’ll fall right in love with his unique little character. I always thought having a second boy would be similar to the first one but how wrong I was. Your son is going to have a brother and best friend for life to share his life experiences with. They will look out for each other. You have so many good times of watching their relationship grow ahead. I know it doesn’t take away the desire but I hope it goes in time. Hope you are ok x

[MrsSparkles]

Beautiful words Bobster.

Am going to miss you Welcome:(

[momamia4]

It's been ages since I've been on here. Congratulations to everyone who got their desired gender!! Hugs, love, and prayers to everyone who got an opposite.

I'll be 28 weeks in 2 days and things have been going well. I have my glucose tolerance test tomorrow which I'm dreading. It's the 3 hour one since I failed the 1 hour back at 9 weeks. I've been going for monthly scans to monitor baby since I'm high risk. I'm hoping at my next appointment in a week, they'll tell me when I get to stop taking the Lovenox and when I start my non-stress tests. I've had horrible nausea the entire pregnancy and have been taking Zofran and Diclegis since 6 weeks. They help significantly! We've decided to name her Hazel Rose. We're totally in love with her name. :HH: We're getting really excited! My sister is throwing us a shower which will be on Sept 8th. I can't wait to open all of the gifts and finish up her nursery. I'm still in denial that this is all actually real and we're finally getting our daughter. I love feeling her kicks and knowing she's growing perfectly. Her arms and legs are measuring 2 weeks ahead!! At my last appointment, my MFM said she won't let me go past 39 weeks. I'll find out at my next appointment if that still stands.

So glad to read others are doing well! I've been so busy with life that I don't have much time to check in, but wanted to see how everyone was doing. Looking forward to the next few months flying by!

[SummerHope]

You will be missed here WelcomeBaby, congrats on your healthy little man, I'm glad you got nice pictures of his face :) God hand picked him for your family for a reason, and I'm sure he will be well loved, though I am very sorry you didn't get your girl.

[MrsSparkles]

Hazel is a beautiful name, really stunning.
I'm sorry youve been feeling rough, but love your positive outlook.

The growth scans are so inaccurate, they can be 20% off.
Im measuring 3 weeks ahead almost.

Also did the 3 hour test, hope you pass.
I found walking to the bathroom every hour helped me feel less sugar rushed, even when I didn't need to pee.
Please let us know how you do

[MrsSparkles]

Such lovely words to read.
I think they are true, God did hand pick him!

[MrsSparkles]

So tomorrow we have another scan.
Still not accepted the gender, but if it is pink again tomorrow, I'll finally be able to bring myself to shop.
It's as always a mix of excitement and nerves, but am looking forward to seeing baby again.

Not long for most of us now, is everyone looking forward to heir due dates?

[SummerHope]

So tomorrow we have another scan.
Still not accepted the gender, but if it is pink again tomorrow, I'll finally be able to bring myself to shop.
It's as always a mix of excitement and nerves, but am looking forward to seeing baby again.

Not long for most of us now, is everyone looking forward to heir due dates?

That's always exciting, it's so nice to be able to see baby on the screen doing well and of course get gender confirmation!
I wouldn't say I'm looking forward to my due date exactly, I'm totally excited to meet baby girl but I'm soooo nervous! I just got word last week that my OB doctor is moving across the state so now I have to find a new doctor in the next few weeks which makes me really sad because I loved my doctor, I'm worried about finding someone who I connect with as well and feel comfortable with. I'm also really terrified about the transition from 1 to 2 children when the new baby comes, luckily my son is 4 so he is somewhat independent but I'm just worried about juggling my time between them and how I will handle it.
I feel so unprepared so I'm thankful I have 3 months to get ready but I feel like time will fly by!

[MrsSparkles]

That's always exciting, it's so nice to be able to see baby on the screen doing well and of course get gender confirmation!
I wouldn't say I'm looking forward to my due date exactly, I'm totally excited to meet baby girl but I'm soooo nervous! I just got word last week that my OB doctor is moving across the state so now I have to find a new doctor in the next few weeks which makes me really sad because I loved my doctor, I'm worried about finding someone who I connect with as well and feel comfortable with. I'm also really terrified about the transition from 1 to 2 children when the new baby comes, luckily my son is 4 so he is somewhat independent but I'm just worried about juggling my time between them and how I will handle it.
I feel so unprepared so I'm thankful I have 3 months to get ready but I feel like time will fly by!

That really sucks about your OB moving.
Especially when you have made that connection, but if you focus on that saying "What's meant for you won't pass you by" your perfect Dr will arrive, i believe that !

You are not alone, am also worried about the transition from 1-2, some say that 0-1 is harder, am hoping that is true.
I read an article by Mamalina ans she said the transition was not bad .

Scan said pink again, finally feel relaxed, all well and 3lb6oz

[Bobster]

Great news about your scan sparkles. Did you get another pic? Enjoy some shopping now.

Summer I had exactly the same worries but going from 1-2 was so easy. I think because my ds1 is quite nurturing he loves helping and was really involved. Unfortunately my ds2 is not quite the same so I’m now having the same worries as you but about the 2-3 transition. The boys have a really close knit bond and I worry about how the dynamic may change.

Will you two have anymore do you think?

9 weeks to go and still haven’t sorted her nursery yet! There’s not enough hours in the day!

[SummerHope]

Awesome news Sparkles! Glad the scan went well!!

Yeah, I think the worries over the transition is normal just because every baby is different and you can never know what to expect but I think that's what makes it so hard at the same time, hard to prepare when you don't know what it will be like!

Bobster I don't know if we will have anymore, hubby would like to have 3 or 4 kids but I just really wanted to try until we could have a little girl so I could experience having a son and daughter and now that we will have one of each I think I will be content, but it's so hard to know what the future will bring. If we do have more we will probably try to wait at least two or three years down the road.

Have you picked a theme for her nursery yet? I haven't done much other than paint the room but all the nursery bedding I ordered just arrived in the mail today, I am doing a red poppy theme (Summer Poppy print from Little Unicorn) and it makes it so much more exciting and real!

[ruupau]

hey ladies sorry was quite been busy with studies, am going to be admitted Sunday 15 September and cesarean on 16th September, your prayers appreciated sisters,

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[MrsSparkles]

hey ladies sorry was quite been busy with studies, am going to be admitted Sunday 15 September and cesarean on 16th September, your prayers appreciated sisters,

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Thinking of you !

[MrsSparkles]

Hope it has all gone well and you are holding your beautifuk baby in your arms

[Bobster]

Ruupau hope everything went well today! Were you due already or did they urposefully bring your date forward?? Hope your little boy arrived safely and you are enjoying his cuddles as I type this. C-section must be so hard, I hope you heal quickly. Let us know how you got on when you get chance.

Oh my gawd only 8 weeks to go!!! Where is the time going. I’m cherishing every kick as I know it’s our last one and i’ll miss it so much. Worry, anticipation, wondering, excitement... so many emotions about this little one.

Finally picked the paint and bought a few things for her nursery. It’s starting to feel real now ��

[MrsSparkles]

Thats so exciting. What colour did you go for?

I've now started becoming obsessed with clothes from Greenberry, and starting to see how expensive cute girls clothes are.

[Bobster]

We went for ‘cornforth white’ but farrow and ball which is like a pale grey colour and then we’re having lots of pale pink and pastel colour accessories and pictures on the walls and a cream loop pile rug. She’s only got a tiny room so a bit limited as to what we can do in there but hopefully it will look nice once everything comes together.

How are you getting on? Totally get the spending on clothes obsession. There really are so many nice ones. I’ve forced myself to stop looking. Still terrified of her coming out with a penis... don’t think I will believe it until I see the goods!!!

[Bobster]

I’m having major scan withdrawal.... i’m at work and soooo tempted to scan myself but last time I tried I couldn’t make out what I was looking at as baby is too big now and it was too zoomed in.

Did you get a recent picture? Will you have any more scans?

[MrsSparkles]

I love cornforth white.
I have a F&B obsession. Our kitchen cabinetry is Railings with brass cup handles.

I have another scan in 2 weeks.
My Mum is scaring me and saying it is terrible to scan so muxh.
It is only ever for 5 mins and then done, no pics and no real bonding time

[4blue2pink]

I love cornforth white.
I have a F&B obsession. Our kitchen cabinetry is Railings with brass cup handles.

I have another scan in 2 weeks.
My Mum is scaring me and saying it is terrible to scan so muxh.
It is only ever for 5 mins and then done, no pics and no real bonding time

hows everything going MrsS? are you still going for your homebirth? :)

[momamia4]

Ruupau I hope everything went well!!

Sparkles, that's fantastic that you're having a girl!! Don't worry about lots of scans. I've been reassured by my MFM that they are totally safe.

Bobster, our girl's nursery is pale grey with pink accents too. I thought it would be too overwhelming to paint the room pink and then use pink accents. I really like the way the grey looks though. Your nursery sounds adorable!

My 3 hour GTT didn't go well. I was diagnosed with Gestational Diabetes and now I'm on night time insulin. They didn't waste any time starting me on insulin at all. My fasting numbers were consistently too high. So, now I'm trying really hard to follow the diet and keep my numbers where they're supposed to be. It's incredibly stressful. I've never had to deal with it before.

I was able to schedule my induction (due to GD and being on blood thinners) for Nov 8th. I am so looking forward to it! I'm at the point in my pregnancy where all I do is pee a lot and am starving but everything makes me want to throw up. It's pretty miserable. I'm also getting hives from my insulin, which is super uncomfortable.

I've started seeing a chiropractor because baby is breech. She said that now is the best time to start the flipping techniques she's trained in. That way we have plenty of time for baby to cooperate. I have an ultrasound the day after tomorrow to check her growth, amniotic fluid level, and her position. I've never had so much to worry about in a pregnancy before. This is all new to me. I also started Non-Stress Tests last week. I go in twice a week for those. It's a ton of appointments each week. Luckily I only have 5 more weeks and 3 days, not that I'm counting down or anything. :giggle:

How is everyone else doing?

[Bobster]

So sorry to hear your glucose test didn’t go well but so glad they have acted fast and sound like they are on the ball. Is hives a common side effect to the insulin?? I used to get hives a lot and it was awful so I hope that resolves soon. Try using oats in tights in a bath and emollient creams like diprobase for some relief.

Is baby measuring big? Your little girls nursery sounds so lovely too.

Sparkles have you got anymore scans coming up? How are you feeling? You heard anything more about the sonographer?

4blue you managing to stay sane as team green? I honestly don’t know how you do it! How are you feeling?

I’m so tired I’ve decided to finish work at 36 weeks instead of 38. I feel like a house as bump has really grown over the last week or 2. Keep feeling so short of breath and uncomfortable too. Looking forward to baby coming although still have so much to do before her arrival at the same time.

[MrsSparkles]

Im so sorry about the test.
You sound like even though it is stressful you arw heing calm and taking it in your stride.

Chiro is amazing, I've been having the Webster technique for a while.
They say it is amazing at turning a breech buba.

Has anyone heard from Ruu???

[momamia4]

So sorry to hear your glucose test didn’t go well but so glad they have acted fast and sound like they are on the ball. Is hives a common side effect to the insulin?? I used to get hives a lot and it was awful so I hope that resolves soon. Try using oats in tights in a bath and emollient creams like diprobase for some relief.

Is baby measuring big? Your little girls nursery sounds so lovely too.

I’m so tired I’ve decided to finish work at 36 weeks instead of 38. I feel like a house as bump has really grown over the last week or 2. Keep feeling so short of breath and uncomfortable too. Looking forward to baby coming although still have so much to do before her arrival at the same time.

As far as I know, hives is fairly common. I asked my OB about it today and she said to call the MFM and let them know what's going on so they can switch me to something else. She said sometimes they have to try a few things before they get the right thing. I'll definitely be trying lots of stuff to make the itching stop. The insulin wasn't cheap, so I don't want to waste it. My OB suggested hydrocortisone cream, so I'll be picking up some of that tonight.

Luckily baby is measuring really good. I had an ultrasound today and she's measuring in the 49th percentile. I'm really happy about it!

I don't blame you finishing work at 36 weeks. I'm 33 weeks and I feel enormous! I couldn't imagine trying to work right now. I'm also feeling really uncomfortable. Luckily we're almost done!

[Bobster]

Oh god I really can’t wait to finish. My back is really aching today, I can barely move! I really just want to feel myself again. I want my body back :(

I didn’t feel so bad with the boys, hope this isn’t a reflection on how life will be with a girl haha. Nausea is still there too. Bleugh

[4blue2pink]

So sorry to hear your glucose test didn’t go well but so glad they have acted fast and sound like they are on the ball. Is hives a common side effect to the insulin?? I used to get hives a lot and it was awful so I hope that resolves soon. Try using oats in tights in a bath and emollient creams like diprobase for some relief.

Is baby measuring big? Your little girls nursery sounds so lovely too.

Sparkles have you got anymore scans coming up? How are you feeling? You heard anything more about the sonographer?

4blue you managing to stay sane as team green? I honestly don’t know how you do it! How are you feeling?

I’m so tired I’ve decided to finish work at 36 weeks instead of 38. I feel like a house as bump has really grown over the last week or 2. Keep feeling so short of breath and uncomfortable too. Looking forward to baby coming although still have so much to do before her arrival at the same time.

hi bobster im not team green anymore baby is 9 weeks old now :) but i did stay team green and loved it! how many weeks have you got left? i think finishing work early is a wise move give yourself time to rest and get ready :)

[4blue2pink]

Im so sorry about the test.
You sound like even though it is stressful you arw heing calm and taking it in your stride.

Chiro is amazing, I've been having the Webster technique for a while.
They say it is amazing at turning a breech buba.

Has anyone heard from Ruu???

how do you find webster technique chiro's? i tried googling but it seems there's only about 5 in the whole of england! is it really that rare? :-/ ive never been before but i think im going to have to do it next time, all my babys are back-to-back which sucks but my youngest took it to a whole new level and came out face first!! im hoping chiro might help?
how are you doing MrsS?

[Bobster]

Oh my gosh 4blue that’s amazing! I’m so sorry if I
Missed your announcement, I don’t check in as regularly anymore. What did your green bump end up being?? So glad it helped you to stay team green. Hope everything went ok :)

[4blue2pink]

Oh my gosh 4blue that’s amazing! I’m so sorry if I
Missed your announcement, I don’t check in as regularly anymore. What did your green bump end up being?? So glad it helped you to stay team green. Hope everything went ok :)

Thankyou Bobster :) no worries it was on the july/august/september due date thread! team green bump was a little boy :heart: a little brother for my DS5 who was born after 2 girls, i was worried about him being the only boy surronded by girls if baby was also a girl so was over the moon to give him a buddy :)

[MrsSparkles]

Thankyou Bobster :) no worries it was on the july/august/september due date thread! team green bump was a little boy :heart: a little brother for my DS5 who was born after 2 girls, i was worried about him being the only boy surronded by girls if baby was also a girl so was over the moon to give him a buddy :)



Congratulations!!!!
Such a blessing.
How are you doing Mama ?

[MrsSparkles]

how do you find webster technique chiro's? i tried googling but it seems there's only about 5 in the whole of england! is it really that rare? :-/ ive never been before but i think im going to have to do it next time, all my babys are back-to-back which sucks but my youngest took it to a whole new level and came out face first!! im hoping chiro might help?
how are you doing MrsS?

I literally emailed or called every chiro in the county.
Then one gave me a number...I drive an hour round trip ro see her. But it is amazing

[4blue2pink]

Congratulations!!!!
Such a blessing.
How are you doing Mama ?

Thankyou :heart: im doing great :)

[4blue2pink]

I literally emailed or called every chiro in the county.
Then one gave me a number...I drive an hour round trip ro see her. But it is amazing

they are so hard to find aren't they!! thats great that you found one :) do you mind me asking what they do for webster technique? is it focused on lining up your pelvis?
having looked into face presentation and seeing how lucky baby and i were to get through it without damage (baby especially) im willing to try just about anything to prevent it ever happening again!!

[MrsSparkles]

Well I went in with terrible spd and that was gone after 2 sessions.
She focuses on whatever she needs to at the time.

Baby went head down after the first session and has stayed that way.
She opens up the pelvis and gets baby into an optimal position.
Then works on anything else that might be out of alignment.
It is more a flicking motion than and the first session I wondered if it was doing anything at all

[4blue2pink]

Well I went in with terrible spd and that was gone after 2 sessions.
She focuses on whatever she needs to at the time.

Baby went head down after the first session and has stayed that way.
She opens up the pelvis and gets baby into an optimal position.
Then works on anything else that might be out of alignment.
It is more a flicking motion than and the first session I wondered if it was doing anything at all

that sounds amazing, i get spd too and it still bothers me months after they are born.
all my babies have been back-to-back so i think i probably should have gone to a chiro a long time ago im just hoping someone does webster technique near me :-/ did this lady advertise as webster technique or did she only say when you asked? ive seen a few chiro's near me who advertise that they deal with pregnancy but im not sure if thats the same thing!

[MrsSparkles]

I didn't find her on any searches.
Another chiro volunteered her info.
She teaches Webster too. I wonder if she has trained anyone in your area? I could ask. My next appointment is tuesday

[4blue2pink]

I didn't find her on any searches.
Another chiro volunteered her info.
She teaches Webster too. I wonder if she has trained anyone in your area? I could ask. My next appointment is tuesday

if shes word of mouth i wonder how many others are too! wish they would advertise themselves, i can inbox you with my area if your sure? i dont want to trouble you!
how many weeks are you now? i hope everythings going well, did you switch over to the private midwife? x

[MrsSparkles]

It's no trouble.
I wish they would advertise too!

My app says 28 days to go.
We sell our home and close on Wednesday and still not found a new one.
So home birth may now be out.
Going to have to rent for 6 months, And see how the land lies with brexit after.
Had a bump photo shoot yesterday and realised how ginormous I am, trying to enjoy it all as this is our last baby.

Yes! We got a phenomenal midwife and can already tell she's worth the expense.

[4blue2pink]

It's no trouble.
I wish they would advertise too!

My app says 28 days to go.
We sell our home and close on Wednesday and still not found a new one.
So home birth may now be out.
Going to have to rent for 6 months, And see how the land lies with brexit after.
Had a bump photo shoot yesterday and realised how ginormous I am, trying to enjoy it all as this is our last baby.

Yes! We got a phenomenal midwife and can already tell she's worth the expense.

i'll inbox you :)
i dont understand why they dont advertise!!

wow only 28 days!! how exciting :D oh my goodness i hope everything goes well with your house sale and move, fingers crossed you find somewhere to rent quickly so you can have your homebirth :heart:
i bet you look fab, you'll be so glad you had the pics done so you can look back on them in the future.

yay for finding a good midwife!! :D will she do a hospital birth for you if you dont do a homebirth?

[Bobster]

Mrs sparkles wow it’s sounds like you’ve got so much going on. Good idea to rent for a bit rather than rushing into another house. I wish we could do that too but hubby is adamant he wants to sell and buy again as he doesn’t fancy the move twice and see’s renting as dead money.. I don’t agree as think it would eliminate the stress and allow us time to find the right new house plus means we’d not have a chain at our end.

Are you moving to a bigger house sparkles?

How’s everyone getting on? Have you adapted ok to life with your new little man 4blue? I feel like I’ve forgotten what to do with a newborn and it’s a bit daunting. Just packed the baby’s hospital bag yesterday and going to pack mine tomorrow.. I’m hoping we’ll be out the same day again like we were last time so won’t need to take much.

My nursery is finally getting there now, just got to hang up the pictures on the wall and put the finishing touches around. Hubby has painted so I can’t take any credit for that.

[Bobster]

How is everyone doing?? 2 weeks 1 day left for me! Sparkles how long have you got left? Hope you are feeling ok

[MrsSparkles]

Totally agree about the dead money/ rent thing.
We paid 6 months up front and I was almost sick in my mouth lol.
Yes we are looking for something a bit bigger and hopefully forever!

5 days left for me for the official due date.
And then about 4 weeks until section.
I scheduled one for 43+6 So baby has a while to arrive.
The midwife dropped the birth pool and drugs off last week, so still hoping for a homebirth.
Although we are quite a bit further from hospital now.

How are you feeling Bobster any signs or twinges ?

[Bobster]

Hey! I had my beautiful daughter Lily on the 6th November at 2am. It was a quick delivery and completely drug free which is what I wanted. We are getting on really well and I’m very much in love but still in a bit of shock.

I wish you all the best for your delivery. Hope you get the home birth you want and your baby girl arrives safely. I’ll keep checking in for updates :)

[4blue2pink]

Totally agree about the dead money/ rent thing.
We paid 6 months up front and I was almost sick in my mouth lol.
Yes we are looking for something a bit bigger and hopefully forever!

5 days left for me for the official due date.
And then about 4 weeks until section.
I scheduled one for 43+6 So baby has a while to arrive.
The midwife dropped the birth pool and drugs off last week, so still hoping for a homebirth.
Although we are quite a bit further from hospital now.

How are you feeling Bobster any signs or twinges ?

I hope you find your forever home soon MrsS :)
aaahhhh your so so close to meeting her :heart: i have everything crossed for you to have a perfect homebirth, i didnt realise they would book c-sections after 40 weeks? they always seem so adament that pregnancy "cant" go beyond 42w, funnily enough a midwife round here won an award for helping a lady who refused induction hold out till she went into labour naturally at 45w!!

[4blue2pink]

Hey! I had my beautiful daughter Lily on the 6th November at 2am. It was a quick delivery and completely drug free which is what I wanted. We are getting on really well and I’m very much in love but still in a bit of shock.

I wish you all the best for your delivery. Hope you get the home birth you want and your baby girl arrives safely. I’ll keep checking in for updates :)

:heart: Congratulations Bobster!! Beautiful name :heart: its so surreal having a girl after boys isnt it :) the nappy changes are so odd i did double-takes for a while!!

[Bobster]

It totally is! I keep calling her a him by accident!!! I keep having moments where I just stare at her in disbelief. It’s just such a strange feeling going from all that pain to having her here. I can’t stop staring at her. Just feels unbelievable saying the word daughter as I didn’t think I’d ever be able to. Feel so grateful and lucky.

[TA Sait]

Hey! I had my beautiful daughter Lily on the 6th November at 2am. It was a quick delivery and completely drug free which is what I wanted. We are getting on really well and I’m very much in love but still in a bit of shock.

I wish you all the best for your delivery. Hope you get the home birth you want and your baby girl arrives safely. I’ll keep checking in for updates :)

Many many congratulations bobster..

[MrsSparkles]

Oh Bobster!!!!
Congratulations what a lovely birth and beautiful name .

Due date is today. But nothing :)
My bet is on 41 weeks

[Bobster]

Good luck Mrs, hope it all goes well. Enjoy her kicks and these last moments of pregnancy while you can. Will keep checking back for your birth update xx

[MrsSparkles]

Good luck Mrs, hope it all goes well. Enjoy her kicks and these last moments of pregnancy while you can. Will keep checking back for your birth update xx

Still no sign of baby.

[SummerHope]

Hey! I had my beautiful daughter Lily on the 6th November at 2am. It was a quick delivery and completely drug free which is what I wanted. We are getting on really well and I’m very much in love but still in a bit of shock.

I wish you all the best for your delivery. Hope you get the home birth you want and your baby girl arrives safely. I’ll keep checking in for updates :)

Congratulations!!! Lily is a lovely name (though I am partial because it is my middle name!). Enjoy all your snuggles with your sweet girl.

I have been MIA from this website for a long time, but I'm 37weeks pregnant tomorrow, due Dec 13th but waiting to see if I will have to be induced early for high blood pressure because it's been steadily increasing.

I'm so excited for ya'll that have had your babies already! I can't wait to meet my little girl soon and trying to soak up these last few weeks (or days) of pregnancy!

[Bobster]

Crikey mrs sparkles she is too comfy in there!! What’s your due date again?

Summer hope everything is ok with bp �� are you feeling well otherwise?

Can’t wait to hear updates

[4blue2pink]

thinking of you MrsS and hoping that your busy snuggling your brand new little girl :heart:

bobster how are you and Lily? i hope things are going well :)

summerhope fx your blood pressure stops rising and good luck for when your little girl does arrive :)

[Bobster]

4blue we’re doing good here thanks. She’s 3 weeks old now. Time just flies by.

How are you getting on?

Mrs sparkles and summer any updates?

[GirlieCat]

Still no sign of baby.

Sparkles- did you have baby yet? Thinking god you!


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[GirlieCat]

!

Momamia- has baby arrived yet? I disappeared from the forum for a while but was thinking of you and wanted to see if your LO is here yet.


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[4blue2pink]

4blue we’re doing good here thanks. She’s 3 weeks old now. Time just flies by.

How are you getting on?

Mrs sparkles and summer any updates?

im good thankyou :) time flies doesnt it its scary how fast it all goes!

Girliecat how are you and Sierra getting on?

[SummerHope]

38+3 now, BP has been better this week so doctor said don't need to induce yet thankfully! I'm just hanging out waiting for baby to come.
I have another OB apt appointment tomorrow so we'll see what my doctor says...my due date is Dec 13 and my doctor said the longest they will let me go is till the 14th, so if I'm still pregnant by then I will for sure be getting induced on the 14th.
I'm getting so impatient and ready to have this baby!

[Bobster]

Not long now then summer! Good news about not being induced. How are you feeling??

Mrs sparkles surely you must be snuggling your baby now?? Can’t wait to hear from you.

Lily is 4 weeks old now! I’m so in love but oh dear god so tired too. Having 3 is hard work 😬 ds1 & ds2 are getting used to sharing me now I think which is good and are quite affectionate with their little sister which is nice.

[Bobster]

Just checking back on here for news but there is none! Don’t leave me hanging sparkles!!!

Please update us too summer! Wishing you luck

[MrsSparkles]

Thank you everyone for checking in on me.
This update is long overdue.
Went into labout at 41+2 , and called our midwife who came straight over.
She said she would see us later and that we would be welcoming a baby that evening.
Well contractions ramped up and I couldn't get a wink of sleep (as suggested by MW!) , like really who can sleep during surges.
That evening still nothing, but all night I was 5 minutes apart and it was so intense, by the morning I was exhausted.
Long story short this kept on for 5 days, my midwife started getting twitchy as I was 100% effaced and she could feel that there was something not right.
We would not have gone to the hospital, and waited it out at home a day or two more.
But because we trusted her, we went for a CTG anyway, all seemed fine with babies heartbeart, the Dr said he couldn't give me a pessary (as it wasn't neccesary, cervix already thin), no pitocin as contractions were already so strong, and after 5 days he said it would risk a uterine rupture (previous section), and breaking waters was ruled out because they couldn't figure out the position of baby.
We went home and thought we would wait it out a bit longer, the offer of epidural or pethadine was so tempting I didn't want to stay in hospital and accept it.
That night was rough, and I couldn't lay down, and had this strange sense that something wasn't right, and that this baby had other birth plans.
My midwife stayed on our sofa that night, as I was too scared that she wouldn't make it if I called her !
The next morning, she looked at me and said "You can't do another day of this, baby is trying to tell us something."
I just knew she was right.
We packed up at 8am and drove to the hospital (omg that 45 min car journey was madness, I had to stop 3 times and squat down as it was the only way to get through the surges).
By 10.54 Baby Luna had arrived by c-section.
She was totally stuck, and there was no way she was getting through the pelvis.
Wedged super firmly in there, all 10lb 2 oz of her.

She is gorgeous and so chilled out, we are adjusting to life as a 4!
It is challenging and beautiful, my only stress is trying to tandem feed a baby and toddler, but no one ever said that would be easy !

[4blue2pink]

Thank you everyone for checking in on me.
This update is long overdue.
Went into labout at 41+2 , and called our midwife who came straight over.
She said she would see us later and that we would be welcoming a baby that evening.
Well contractions ramped up and I couldn't get a wink of sleep (as suggested by MW!) , like really who can sleep during surges.
That evening still nothing, but all night I was 5 minutes apart and it was so intense, by the morning I was exhausted.
Long story short this kept on for 5 days, my midwife started getting twitchy as I was 100% effaced and she could feel that there was something not right.
We would not have gone to the hospital, and waited it out at home a day or two more.
But because we trusted her, we went for a CTG anyway, all seemed fine with babies heartbeart, the Dr said he couldn't give me a pessary (as it wasn't neccesary, cervix already thin), no pitocin as contractions were already so strong, and after 5 days he said it would risk a uterine rupture (previous section), and breaking waters was ruled out because they couldn't figure out the position of baby.
We went home and thought we would wait it out a bit longer, the offer of epidural or pethadine was so tempting I didn't want to stay in hospital and accept it.
That night was rough, and I couldn't lay down, and had this strange sense that something wasn't right, and that this baby had other birth plans.
My midwife stayed on our sofa that night, as I was too scared that she wouldn't make it if I called her !
The next morning, she looked at me and said "You can't do another day of this, baby is trying to tell us something."
I just knew she was right.
We packed up at 8am and drove to the hospital (omg that 45 min car journey was madness, I had to stop 3 times and squat down as it was the only way to get through the surges).
By 10.54 Baby Luna had arrived by c-section.
She was totally stuck, and there was no way she was getting through the pelvis.
Wedged super firmly in there, all 10lb 2 oz of her.

She is gorgeous and so chilled out, we are adjusting to life as a 4!
It is challenging and beautiful, my only stress is trying to tandem feed a baby and toddler, but no one ever said that would be easy !

Congratulations MrsS!! im so glad that you and Luna are both ok i was abit worried about you :heart: oh my goodness 10lbs 2oz!! she must be so incredibly squishy :D did you have any idea she was going to be so big?
im sorry you didnt get your homebirth but i am glad that you were so well supported and felt in control of all your choices.
I hope your recovery is going well, how has your DS reacted to her?

[Bobster]

Oh wow mrssparkles what a scary time you’ve had! You must have been exhausted! I’m sorry too that you didn’t get a home delivery but wow well done for staying strong. Good job you listened to your mum senses that something wasn’t quite right. You must be so relieved she’s here safely. Is your recovery going ok?

Love her name! Hope your ds is ok. I found that making the older one feel special by stressing how baby loves him the best and she’ll be learning from him really helped mine to settle into the big brother roll.

[SummerHope]

Thank you everyone for checking in on me.
This update is long overdue.
Went into labout at 41+2 , and called our midwife who came straight over.
She said she would see us later and that we would be welcoming a baby that evening.
Well contractions ramped up and I couldn't get a wink of sleep (as suggested by MW!) , like really who can sleep during surges.
That evening still nothing, but all night I was 5 minutes apart and it was so intense, by the morning I was exhausted.
Long story short this kept on for 5 days, my midwife started getting twitchy as I was 100% effaced and she could feel that there was something not right.
We would not have gone to the hospital, and waited it out at home a day or two more.
But because we trusted her, we went for a CTG anyway, all seemed fine with babies heartbeart, the Dr said he couldn't give me a pessary (as it wasn't neccesary, cervix already thin), no pitocin as contractions were already so strong, and after 5 days he said it would risk a uterine rupture (previous section), and breaking waters was ruled out because they couldn't figure out the position of baby.
We went home and thought we would wait it out a bit longer, the offer of epidural or pethadine was so tempting I didn't want to stay in hospital and accept it.
That night was rough, and I couldn't lay down, and had this strange sense that something wasn't right, and that this baby had other birth plans.
My midwife stayed on our sofa that night, as I was too scared that she wouldn't make it if I called her !
The next morning, she looked at me and said "You can't do another day of this, baby is trying to tell us something."
I just knew she was right.
We packed up at 8am and drove to the hospital (omg that 45 min car journey was madness, I had to stop 3 times and squat down as it was the only way to get through the surges).
By 10.54 Baby Luna had arrived by c-section.
She was totally stuck, and there was no way she was getting through the pelvis.
Wedged super firmly in there, all 10lb 2 oz of her.

She is gorgeous and so chilled out, we are adjusting to life as a 4!
It is challenging and beautiful, my only stress is trying to tandem feed a baby and toddler, but no one ever said that would be easy !

Glad everything turned out ok. Congrats on your baby girl!! I can't even imagine tandem feeding, it's hard enough just trying to feed a newborn!

[SummerHope]

Just wanted to do a quick update.
I was induced December 14th at 40weeks1day and had our baby girl that evening. My doctor was such a big advocate for me through the whole induction process and he broke my water and let me walk around and use the birthing ball to start contractions, so I was able to avoid pitocin. I really didnt want pitocin because I had heard it makes contractions so much harder and I thought I wouldnt be able to do it without an epidural! Well once contractions started I went from 4cm dilated to 10cm in a matter of less than an hour and I was able to have the natural totally medication free labor/delivery I desired. Brynn Scarlett was born at 6lbs11oz and she has been a complete dream come true for our family. She is such a sweet, calm girl and everyone including big brother is just over the moon. I am so thankful for this website and just feel so blessed for our little family!

[Bobster]

Aww amazing summer well done to you!!! Your story was similar to mine as I was induced through waters breaking but didn’t need any further intervention as went from 4cm to 10cm in an hour. I found the contractions so much stronger this time though due to the speed of dilation. The whole thing although medication free was quite traumatic!!!

I love the name Brynn! It’s unique. Scarlett was in my top list of names too. So glad she’s here safely.

Do you ladies find it weird referring to your babes as daughters? I still feel like I’m dreaming. Sometimes I just stare at her in disbelief! Lily is 11 pounds now at 8 weeks old tomorrow. Time is flying by so quickly I can’t quite believe she’s been here for 2 months!