Gaining weight quickly after swaying girl

[dreamofdaughter]

I’ve already gained two pounds and not even hit 8 weeks, this surprises me because I’m not eating that much more yet. I still skip breakfast but only until 10. I just can’t seem to go back to eating breakfast after a year on the diet. I do eat more protein at dinner but the I eat the same amount for lunch cause I get full pretty fast. With my boys, I gained about 2 lbs the whole first trimester. Any other girl swayers find they gained a lot early on? More just curious, not concerned. I started at 105 so I don’t think people can see the weight gain yet, just me. :)

[ksmom]

I did. I had a hard time steering away from LE when I was pregnant with DS3, I guess because I was on the diet for so long. I gained about 50 lbs with him when I typically gain around 35. I figured my body just needed the extra weight/fat since I was underweight and swayed for a year.

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Your weight could easily slow down in the coming months. Gaining a couple pounds in the first trimester isn't a big deal. I think I gained about 2 lbs in the early weeks with DS2 yet I gained the least overall with him. My theory is that after swaying pink, the body may feel the need to "stock up" (store fat) in case of hard times.

[dreamofdaughter]

Thanks ksmom. Not really worried just seems odd for me to gain weight so fast.

Any moms have this and go on to have baby girl? Trying to hold onto some Hope here.

[4blue2pink]

dreamofdaughter i gained a LOT more weight with my 2 girl pregnancies than i did with my first 4 boys.

after my 2 girls i had my 5th boy, he was a pink sway and i gained the same with him as my 2 girls (1 sway, 1 not) so i think the weight loss before bfp did contribute, im now pregnant again after around 6 months on pink sway diet and the weight piled on in the first tri again, i wont know gender till birth but i think its linked to the diet/weight loss more than gender of baby :)

[dreamofdaughter]

Thank you so much 4blue2pink! I hope your sway is successful!

It’s so ridiculous that I even feelI need hope I mean who cares? I’m pregnant over 40! It’s truly amazing. I think I am really worried because of the comments I will get. I know I will love the baby regardless and I’m already itching to get my scans and imagine the exhausting but magical newborn days. I decided this time I am going to put my foot down and say I want exclusive bonding time instead of having in/laws come stay with us right away and hog my baby! My MIL would take my baby until I had to nurse and only then give him back and then take him away right away and refused to help make dinner because she “wanted to hold the baby” so I ended up making us dinner. I still feel bitter I missed all those new baby snuggles. Sooo excited for my last chance. But I am scared of the comments. I’m trying to mentally prepare the comebacks but I’m really bad at comebacks. I go all deer in headlights. 🙄 One woman said “I’m so sorry” when she found out I had a second boy. I try not to think of all the comments but it’s so hard!!!

[sunstars]

I didn't sway until DS3. So I gained around 35 pounds with DS1, then could lose only half of that, then during first trimester with DS2 lost a few more pounds, but ended gaining another 40 pounds with DS2. Then again lost half of it before got pregnant with my twin girls, and gained only a few pounds till 28 weeks. Then I swayed and have lost all the weight I have gained during all pregnancies, but had a miscarriage at 9 weeks and gained a few pounds before last bfp. So to say the truth, once I started gaining very rapidly during this last pregnancy, I got suspicious it was a boy :) Well, I gained now more than 50 pounds (more than ever) and I'm around 37 weeks pregnant with DS3.

As for comments, I am the one telling immediately with sad face and not-quite-happy intonation in my voice that it's another boy (I have no living girls), so usually people start to "cheer me up", and say, hey, that's wonderful, three boys, that's really great! :) only a few of them add, "don't worry the next one will be a girl" (welllll, yeah, I'm 40 already), and only 2 of them said "oh, no!". But I'm sure if I would let them ask first about gender, more people would say "oh, no, it's sad/bad/sorry/etc.")

[dreamofdaughter]

Thanks sunstars for your reply. It’ll be interesting to see what it is for me - I am hoping since I’ve never put weight on quickly before that means opposite baby for me. :) Normally I can wear my regular jeans well into second trimester because i just gain belly weight but already they are right around my butt so I’m hopeful that is a good sign for me!

I never tell any people IRL about gender desire or any kind of disappointment but I can understand it is difficult to hide. I hid my feelings of sadness with my second because I would never want him to know I felt that way. And if did take me longer to bond but when I did bond I was head over heels and I’m so happy my second was a boy now. Seeing my boys play makes me so happy. My YDS idolizes his brother. I would get upset when people would make comments in front of ODS (after YDS was born)because I didn’t want him to think there was something wrong with having a boy. And I just don’t trust people enough to share that I want a girl. Even now, when people ask if I will try for a girl (no one IRL other than my dr knows I am pregnant or that we were trying) I just say I am happy with my boys. I am hoping to hide my pregnancy until I can find out gender at 20weeks. I guess we will see! And even then, I won’t tell people IRL either way if it is girl/boy. Here the techs will never give you nub shots because of the risk of gender abortions so I won’t know for still many, many weeks.

[4blue2pink]

Thank you so much 4blue2pink! I hope your sway is successful!

It’s so ridiculous that I even feelI need hope I mean who cares? I’m pregnant over 40! It’s truly amazing. I think I am really worried because of the comments I will get. I know I will love the baby regardless and I’m already itching to get my scans and imagine the exhausting but magical newborn days. I decided this time I am going to put my foot down and say I want exclusive bonding time instead of having in/laws come stay with us right away and hog my baby! My MIL would take my baby until I had to nurse and only then give him back and then take him away right away and refused to help make dinner because she “wanted to hold the baby” so I ended up making us dinner. I still feel bitter I missed all those new baby snuggles. Sooo excited for my last chance. But I am scared of the comments. I’m trying to mentally prepare the comebacks but I’m really bad at comebacks. I go all deer in headlights. �� One woman said “I’m so sorry” when she found out I had a second boy. I try not to think of all the comments but it’s so hard!!!

thankyou :heart:
why does your MIL do that?! its not her baby!! and for her to refuse to help when shes in your house leaving you to make her food! NO!! you 100% need to put your foot down and have time with your baby before any visitors :) Congratulations on your pregnancy :heart: dont let any stupid comments bring you down, enjoy every second of your pregnancy and baby :) xx

[atomic sagebrush]

2 lbs is not a huge weight gain for that stage of pregnancy.

Some people have reported weight gain, others didn't gain much and had food aversions.

I did LE Diet twice and with my 4th pg I showed and gained a massive amount immediately (and 80 lbs overall, yikes) and then with my 5th I didn't gain at all (which is never true for me, LOL) and didn't even show till I was 5 months pregnant. Even my adult sons who lived with me didn't know I was pregnant till my 5th month. So the pattern I took from that is that there probably is no pattern.

Just eat what you can, I'm not a fan of limiting food intake when pregnant. Like I said, 2 lbs is nothing at all, I regularly gain 10 in the first trimester! :)

[atomic sagebrush]

Thanks ksmom. Not really worried just seems odd for me to gain weight so fast.

Any moms have this and go on to have baby girl? Trying to hold onto some Hope here.

yes I constantly get this question and yes people have it happen and go on to have a baby girl. :agree:

[dreamofdaughter]

2 lbs is not a huge weight gain for that stage of pregnancy.

Some people have reported weight gain, others didn't gain much and had food aversions.

I did LE Diet twice and with my 4th pg I showed and gained a massive amount immediately (and 80 lbs overall, yikes) and then with my 5th I didn't gain at all (which is never true for me, LOL) and didn't even show till I was 5 months pregnant. Even my adult sons who lived with me didn't know I was pregnant till my 5th month. So the pattern I took from that is that there probably is no pattern.

Just eat what you can, I'm not a fan of limiting food intake when pregnant. Like I said, 2 lbs is nothing at all, I regularly gain 10 in the first trimester! :)

Thanks AS. I am hoping when I pick up cardio again my weight gain will slow down. Right now exercise has fallen off the map because I’ve had terrible nausea since 4 weeks pregnant (much earlier than both boys). I oddly am not that tired though which is another difference.

With my first I went for a job interview at 51/2 months and they had no idea. With my second I started looking like I had a big lunch around 20 weeks. Historically, I don’t get really big until the last month. But of course swaying has definitely changed my body chemistry so who knows how this will go.

Was your 5th pregnancy your girl?

[sunstars]

Dreamofdaughter, I wish you so much to get your DD! FXFXFX!

Yeah, although I and my DH wanted a girl since the beginning, but seeing our sons play together makes me feel so happy, and I wouldn't want this to be any other way. But especially after losing our twin girls, we wanted to have a girl even more. But it took lots of time to feel ready to try again, then surprisingly it turned out to be not easy this time (maybe due to swaying?) to get pregnant again, then I had chemical, then miscarriage, then threatened pregnancy and other health problems, I really panicked that I won't be able to have a healthy baby and/or carry till term. So I'm really happy that this little boy was so stubborn to make it. I just regret we may never have a girl or even a chance, and actually I even wonder if we should give it a try at all because of my age and other problems.

I've been told it's a boy at 11.5 weeks, and I had really bad GD due to the fact that this is most likely my last baby. But the closer the due date the happier I am. So at first I was really sad and wasn't quite hiding it, but now I just say it first to people and with sad tone intentionally, to kind of move on quickly and avoid people's negative comments. They usually say "the most important thing is healthy baby" and I agree with them and the topic is closed :) But yeah, you are right, I should be careful to not make an impression on my sons, that I'm not happy with our third boy. Actually my DS1 also wanted a sister, so he may be a little upset too, but he's still pretty excited with new baby to coming soon.

[dreamofdaughter]

Dreamofdaughter, I wish you so much to get your DD! FXFXFX!

Yeah, although I and my DH wanted a girl since the beginning, but seeing our sons play together makes me feel so happy, and I wouldn't want this to be any other way. But especially after losing our twin girls, we wanted to have a girl even more. But it took lots of time to feel ready to try again, then surprisingly it turned out to be not easy this time (maybe due to swaying?) to get pregnant again, then I had chemical, then miscarriage, then threatened pregnancy and other health problems, I really panicked that I won't be able to have a healthy baby and/or carry till term. So I'm really happy that this little boy was so stubborn to make it. I just regret we may never have a girl or even a chance, and actually I even wonder if we should give it a try at all because of my age and other problems.

I've been told it's a boy at 11.5 weeks, and I had really bad GD due to the fact that this is most likely my last baby. But the closer the due date the happier I am. So at first I was really sad and wasn't quite hiding it, but now I just say it first to people and with sad tone intentionally, to kind of move on quickly and avoid people's negative comments. They usually say "the most important thing is healthy baby" and I agree with them and the topic is closed :) But yeah, you are right, I should be careful to not make an impression on my sons, that I'm not happy with our third boy. Actually my DS1 also wanted a sister, so he may be a little upset too, but he's still pretty excited with new baby to coming soon.

Thank you sunstars for the good wishes. I am so sorry for your loss. You're such a strong person. I pray for your son's safe arrival. I say goodnight to my baby every night and thank him/her for joining us and ask him/her to stay strong and please make it. At my age, healthy is most important I have to remind myself that ALL the time. That's why i won't tell people if boy/girl. I want to be happy or temporarily sad without other people's voices in my ear, you know? So I can focus on the positive and not have to listen to their demons.

I know it's hard to imagine having another after 40. If you do decide, please have faith. I had so many drs saying I didn't have good odds (I would come home and cry) and true I did not have good odds (I got pregnant just shy of turning 43 - DH and I had agreed after my bday we would not try again) and now there is something in my heart that tells me this baby is strong (maybe that is just my hope, who knows?). My AMH was so low and that was a full year before I conceived that I got it tested so I am certain it had plummeted further. But let me tell you, other than the nausea, I feel really good! I am barely tired. I can concentrate at work. If I didn't feel sick before and after I ate, life would be golden. :) I pray for your happiness and that your heart's desires find you.:heart:

[atomic sagebrush]

yes, it was my girl, but I do not want you to read anything into that because after talking to 1,234,567 people about this, I hear just as often from people who are gaining weight who go on to have girls as I do those who don't gain and are having girls. I get these type of questions all the time, and the only trend I can see (and I look very hard for trends!) is that there is no trend, every pregnancy is different.

[Blessedbymybabies]

Congrats on your pregnancy! I’m 8 weeks 3 days and I have gained 5 lbs! I noticed with my pregnancies I tend to gain a lot in the first trimester and hit a platue in the second where it goes steady and then gain a bit more in the end of the pregnancy! I’ve come to realize it’s just my body, I’m very petite body framed and show right away the last three pregnancies cause of the weight gain. I’m
Also coming off LE and because I get no nausea I eat a lot of frequent meals and I’d say 80% of it very healthy, I’m Still gaining steady. A lot of it even for you could be water weight. I
Drink a lot more now that I’m trying to keep hydrated. My husband joked that you can tell I’m not just getting fat because my belly button has become an outtie already. Actually just yesterday evening my mom asked me if I’m pregnant and she stopped in while I was wearing a tank top lol . I won’t be able to hide it much longer lol It’s normal, two lbs is nothing, you could definitely gain more and still go on to have a healthy weight gain in pregnancy. and if you are not having any vomiting your probably eating more comfortably and keeping it all down. I hope you feel better by all the posts but I wouldn’t be concerned at all! I’ve had 6 pregnancies (3 losses) and I gained in all from
The start and never went much over weight at all. Just try to eat healthy too, don’t be afraid to give into your cravings though because of that ;) good luck

[sunstars]

Dreamofdaughter, I wish and pray you'll continue to have an easy pregnancy and have your strong and healthy baby!

Thank you very much for your kind words, I can't wait to finally have my DS3 with us safe and healthy.
Yeah, some doctors can be awful, I've been told not to bother having more kids since I already had two. Well, actually many of my relatives and friends said the same thing, they will go crazy if know I'm still not sure if I will close "the factory" after this baby :) Of course, they worry about me/my health/if I can take care of so many children/etc., but anyway, it's pretty insensitive and discouraging.

I also initially thought I will hide this pregnancy as long as I could, but I started to show very early, even though initially it was just bloating, but people were noticing it and asking directly, and I couldn't deny. But of course, processing it on your own and especially news about gender would be the best. Good luck!

[dreamofdaughter]

Congrats on your pregnancy! I’m 8 weeks 3 days and I have gained 5 lbs! I noticed with my pregnancies I tend to gain a lot in the first trimester and hit a platue in the second where it goes steady and then gain a bit more in the end of the pregnancy! I’ve come to realize it’s just my body, I’m very petite body framed and show right away the last three pregnancies cause of the weight gain. I’m
Also coming off LE and because I get no nausea I eat a lot of frequent meals and I’d say 80% of it very healthy, I’m Still gaining steady. A lot of it even for you could be water weight. I
Drink a lot more now that I’m trying to keep hydrated. My husband joked that you can tell I’m not just getting fat because my belly button has become an outtie already. Actually just yesterday evening my mom asked me if I’m pregnant and she stopped in while I was wearing a tank top lol . I won’t be able to hide it much longer lol It’s normal, two lbs is nothing, you could definitely gain more and still go on to have a healthy weight gain in pregnancy. and if you are not having any vomiting your probably eating more comfortably and keeping it all down. I hope you feel better by all the posts but I wouldn’t be concerned at all! I’ve had 6 pregnancies (3 losses) and I gained in all from
The start and never went much over weight at all. Just try to eat healthy too, don’t be afraid to give into your cravings though because of that ;) good luck

Thanks blessed! I really hadn’t thought about water weight but you’re right. I was likely dehydrated before I conceived and now I drink a lot of water because even if I eat I feel nauseas but I can hold off the nausea by drinking carbonated lime water. I’m drinking a ton of it. Hadn’t thought about that!

I have no cravings. Nothing! The thought of eating in general turns my stomach but I think that’s a by product of eating and then feeling so nauseas. It’s funny though I will take this over the exhaustion where I can’t function all day. I hope I manage to escape that until I can tell my work at least then I can rest without them questioning me.

I hope for you a smooth pregnancy and your DG! I think we are due around the same time. I’m waiting to have a dating scan but I think I am 8 weeks today. :)