Mums of many girls followed by successful blue sways

[LMSM]

Hello lovelies,

I was hoping to get some feedback from Mums of only/many girls (3+) that have successfully been able to conceive a boy after a sway ^^

If you are in that situation – would you pretty please share what your lifestyle was when you conceived your girls and what it was when you got your boy – and what you think were the likely changes that made all the difference (other than luck, obviously!).
There have been sooooo many successful blue sways on here of late, and I have tried to read the sways in detail where I could – but I need to build my confidence that yes, I will have done everything in my power to get our son – if we don’t at least, I know that I could not have done better IYKWIM? Basically, I need a pep talk to convince me that - “Yes, YOU (I) CAN (have a boy too)” lol

I have three girls – the youngest (my sway “opposite” baby) has just turned 1 and still is nursing, my cycle hasn’t returned (it did for a few months early on then disappeared again – too much nursing probably lol)– and I am not in (too much of) a hurry yet to have another baby (she is such a cuddle bug still too - whilst I was getting clucky by 1 y.o the first two times), mostly because I think I am so so so scared of not getting my boy.
I know that I would adore another girl – the way I have become so in love with the other three, but I really want to go into TTC #4 with no regrets, having given it my all. This baby will definitely be our last – I know Hubby will not be convinced for a #5, if this is another girl (even if it was a boy and I wanted another bub after him).
He is humoring me because he saw my distress when we found out #3 was a girl too – he would have been perfectly fine and happy with our three girls.
NB - Hubby is dead set against IVF w/ GS (even if we won the lotto and $ was no issue, he’d still say no – for him it is not ethical, he genuinely doesn’t give a hoot about gender, and would hate me for trying to push it) so it’s just not an option, unfortunately (I would consider it if we had $$$ to spare, because my mental health is likely to be affected if things don’t go the way I planned).
Whilst I bounced back (or forced myself to put up as brave front, rather) pretty quickly after finding out #3 was a girl – it still near broke me there for a while and I still get times where it cuts so very deep that I feel I could relapse and I feel terrible for almost ‘resenting’ the children I do have (for not being boys, if that makes sense??!) when really, I love them more than life itself. I know I should know better than listen to f*ing stupid comments, but they are made to me so often that I must admit I feel like a freak (people project their own insecurities and desires – and clearly, people immediately think “ 3 girls = 3 teenage girls” – and what stereotypes that come with that).

Thanks in advance!!

[etakof]

I have 2 girls and a boy. We went girl, boy, girl.
Both girls were the result of one BD somewhere near ovulation. We weren’t really trying either time. My boy was the result of effort ;) a lot of BD after positive OPK. My diet hasn’t really changed but looking back I may have been snacking and eating more protein when I got my boy but I think it was frequency more than diet in his case. I’d really like another boy but I’ve also had 3 miscarriages and before the scan for each one where I heard the words that still echo in my head “I’m sorry but there’s no heartbeat” I just wanted that baby to be ok. In saying that I totally understand the disappointment and I’m lucky to have both!

Whenever I hear that crap about “teenage girls” I always ask were they a problem when a teenager or do they actually know anyone who fits that stereotype. I’ve never gotten much more than a splutter in response and maybe a “oh well no but.....” It’s just another way of making girls inferior. From my memories of having a sister and two brother we all caused a fair share of mayhem :)


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[LMSM]

Thnaks Etakof for your insight.
I’m sorry to hear about your losses, I know how devastating they are , and certainly puts the priorities in order..healthy bub matters most for sure :( I hope you get a healthy bub soon!
So in your case heaps of BD and somehow eating more and higher protein even if it was just marginally more seems to have made a difference... I certainly hope that making changes will work this time :) I just need to see the results from successful swagers to stay motivated to keep my eyes on the “prize” :)

[LMSM]

Been away for almost two weeks, so thought I would bump this :)

[atomic sagebrush]

I think the gals who have done this have not stuck around - I'm hoping you get lots of responses though!

[LMSM]

Thanks Atomic, one can always hope!
I’m yet to get my bum into gear exercise wise, because I am soooo tired between full time work, three kids, including a boob monster that is yet to sleep through...so am trying to get my mojo any way i can, aka in this case, positive testimonials ;)

[4blue2pink]

im not in this position but i went to school with some girls who were in families like this :) 2 girls in my year group were from families where the parents had 4 girls in a row followed by a boy, there was another girl in my year who's parents had 3 boys in a row followed by 5 girls in a row!!

if you find inspiration in seeing families like this there's also Jess Cunnigham shes on instagram as "the prodigal fox" and recently had a boy after 3 girls.

**all my blue dust for you**

[LMSM]

im not in this position but i went to school with some girls who were in families like this :) 2 girls in my year group were from families where the parents had 4 girls in a row followed by a boy, there was another girl in my year who's parents had 3 boys in a row followed by 5 girls in a row!!

if you find inspiration in seeing families like this there's also Jess Cunnigham shes on instagram as "the prodigal fox" and recently had a boy after 3 girls.

**all my blue dust for you**
Thanks lovely :)
If I am get Insta to work (have tried installing multiple times and it fails over and over lol) will check it out!
Can’t wait to see your babe in just a few months now :)

[LMSM]

Atomic you’re right, seems blue swayers that got their boys just disappear :(

[atomic sagebrush]

I don't know why that is but it's been true since back in the IG days!

[4blue2pink]

Thanks lovely :)
If I am get Insta to work (have tried installing multiple times and it fails over and over lol) will check it out!
Can’t wait to see your babe in just a few months now :)

i dont have an instagram either she has a public profile, if you google her it'll come up :) aww thankyou :heart: i cant wait either its flying by i'll be 30 weeks next week!! xx

[3littleladies01]

Sorry - I pop in and out of the forum now and am not as active as I was when I was swaying, but this is 100% me :)

I have three girls - DD3 was a sway opposite just like you. And DD2 was a failed shettles - from when I believed timing and one attempt at OPK was the way to go! [emoji23]

All my babies are close in age (5,3 and 1)- I conceived when they were 9 - 12 months for many personal reasons and the last one due to my fertility taking a nosedive - it was now or never for number 4! So we opted for now...

We had our 20 week scan today and also paid for the NIPT (as I wanted to know early and also had some concerns) and our boy has been confirmed by both. What I did differently was...

1) bought a plan - helped clarify a few things (I’m very much a planner/list maker so helped to have it in writing and to make notes on it etc)

2) checked all my supps with atomic. I was inadvertently taking supps which could’ve thrown my sway with DD3 without even knowing - my prenatal and other tablets had hidden extras that may not have helped

3) exercise - this I think was the biggy and the main difference. I exercised 5 times a week - walking twice a week and weights 3 times a week - I just used YouTube in the evening to do a video for 30 mins when the kids were in bed. And I walked twice a week for the school runs. It took a lot of willpower to do it but I do think it’s worth it.

With my first two girls they were a couple of attempts in my fertile window. Number 2 (shettles) was one attempt at OPK - which I obviously now know sways pink! Number 3 and 4 we had probably 5-6 attempts in the fertile window. And for us I think the attempt atomic recommends to catch late OPK also helped.

I used HE diet for both DD3 (failed sway) and this one.

If I think of anything else I’ll add it and let you know.

Good luck - I know how brutal gender disappointment can be. like you I absolutely adore my babies now they are here and wouldn’t change them for the world - I believe I was meant to have three girls and I know I’ll never be lonely when I’m older. But it is so tough to get over, and it makes you feel pretty crappy, especially with all the unhelpful comments (about daddy being outnumbered, it being expensive with girls, the hormones etc etc) a lady in the supermarket actually apologised when I said my third was a girl at about 5 days old and said it was a shame and never give up hope (ie for a boy!) - brutal!!

Just be kind to yourself. I also think if ivf isn’t an option you kinda need to go in anticipating it may be a failed sway and then anything else is a bonus. More to protect yourself than anything else.

Big hugs and keep us posted xxx


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[3littleladies01]

Oh and thought I’d add - DH did nothing to help sway as didn’t believe in it. He ate what I cooked in terms of dinner and breakfast, but lunch and snacking I had no control over. He didn’t stop drinking or smoking (but only smokes a couple a day)

The only thing he did willingly do is take the multi-vitimin and supplements I gave him

He did this last time too so I’m not sure DH played a massive role either way xx


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[atomic sagebrush]

THANK YOU 3LL!!! And congrats on the ultrasound!

[LMSM]

Thanks so much 3littleladies :)
Congrats on confirming a beautiful healthy little boy!!!! Will come back in more detail soon but just wanted to drop by to say thank you :awe:

[Teamblue]

Sorry - I pop in and out of the forum now and am not as active as I was when I was swaying, but this is 100% me :)

I have three girls - DD3 was a sway opposite just like you. And DD2 was a failed shettles - from when I believed timing and one attempt at OPK was the way to go! [emoji23]

All my babies are close in age (5,3 and 1)- I conceived when they were 9 - 12 months for many personal reasons and the last one due to my fertility taking a nosedive - it was now or never for number 4! So we opted for now...

We had our 20 week scan today and also paid for the NIPT (as I wanted to know early and also had some concerns) and our boy has been confirmed by both. What I did differently was...

1) bought a plan - helped clarify a few things (I’m very much a planner/list maker so helped to have it in writing and to make notes on it etc)

2) checked all my supps with atomic. I was inadvertently taking supps which could’ve thrown my sway with DD3 without even knowing - my prenatal and other tablets had hidden extras that may not have helped

3) exercise - this I think was the biggy and the main difference. I exercised 5 times a week - walking twice a week and weights 3 times a week - I just used YouTube in the evening to do a video for 30 mins when the kids were in bed. And I walked twice a week for the school runs. It took a lot of willpower to do it but I do think it’s worth it.

With my first two girls they were a couple of attempts in my fertile window. Number 2 (shettles) was one attempt at OPK - which I obviously now know sways pink! Number 3 and 4 we had probably 5-6 attempts in the fertile window. And for us I think the attempt atomic recommends to catch late OPK also helped.

I used HE diet for both DD3 (failed sway) and this one.

If I think of anything else I’ll add it and let you know.

Good luck - I know how brutal gender disappointment can be. like you I absolutely adore my babies now they are here and wouldn’t change them for the world - I believe I was meant to have three girls and I know I’ll never be lonely when I’m older. But it is so tough to get over, and it makes you feel pretty crappy, especially with all the unhelpful comments (about daddy being outnumbered, it being expensive with girls, the hormones etc etc) a lady in the supermarket actually apologised when I said my third was a girl at about 5 days old and said it was a shame and never give up hope (ie for a boy!) - brutal!!

Just be kind to yourself. I also think if ivf isn’t an option you kinda need to go in anticipating it may be a failed sway and then anything else is a bonus. More to protect yourself than anything else.

Big hugs and keep us posted xxx


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Did you have DH pull out before your fertile window? This is the part that scares me the most. We just had our third girl four months ago. I know it technically doesn’t matter because I won’t be fertile but I get pregnant very easily so I’m not sure whether to have DH pull out before the fertile window and then get in 3-4 attempts. How old was your youngest DD when you got pregnant with your son? How many attempts do you think y’all had in the fertile window?

[Teamblue]

I’m following this to get all the advice and information I can. We have three girls too. They are 5,2, and 4 months. My husband is AMAZING with them but I know how much he wants a son. He’s very outdoorsy. He just took a trip this weekend fishing with his dad and I know it makes him dream of the day he can do trips like that with his own son. The comments are the hardest part. They were a lot worse when I was pregnant. So, when I do get pregnant again I doubt we will find out what it is.

[atomic sagebrush]

Did you have DH pull out before your fertile window? This is the part that scares me the most. We just had our third girl four months ago. I know it technically doesn’t matter because I won’t be fertile but I get pregnant very easily so I’m not sure whether to have DH pull out before the fertile window and then get in 3-4 attempts. How old was your youngest DD when you got pregnant with your son? How many attempts do you think y’all had in the fertile window?

Most of us with all boys (myself included) always had unprotected sex out of the fertile window.

It is always up to you of course but I do really think it helps, if you can be careful it isn't even a risk and will only beneft your sway.

[The Anchor]

Well I've only got one DD but I swayed for my boy, and got him! Akin to the HE diet (Trivers Willard theory) and the sperm meets egg plan worked for us!

[LMSM]

@3LL _ thank you so much for detailing this for me – as fellow blue swayer – I know you can appreciate how I appreciate a detailed response :bowdown:
I’m know I'm not going to be able to do much during the days for exercise as I work full time, so am out the door by 7 am and only have time once the kids are in bed and the chores are done – so well after 8pm…it sure will take motivation haha!
I have a board on Pinterest with pics of cute baby boys, blue friendly meals AND before/after of women that did body reformations… to keep me going for the end goal!:cheerteam:
I am not sure about my own fertility – my specialist is retiring in a few weeks, and might see if he can send me a request for some basic tests before he goes ^^ I’m 35 next year so will officially be a “geriatric” mum and would love to know where we stand though he knows my cycles aren’t back so likely wont give me the referral now :P I guess maybe the new specialist will! (sorry, I ramble ..oops)
I think it’s amazing that you conceived so quickly and naturally after you having been told your fertility was declining rapidly – AND got your boy.
I’ll be so interested to see the dynamics of how your little man fits in with his big sisters(no doubt will they be besotted and mother him ;)) – I sometimes worry about a boy after 3 girls might be feeling left out somehow (and hence needing to give him a brother – I really need those twin boys eh? :xy: :xy:).
Quick question – what season was it when you conceived? (you’re in the UK are you??) I would have liked to conceive after summer, but that would mean being heavily pregnant IN summer and ain’t doing that again let me tell ya lol so would ideally conceive in August next year (so Due date May ish – just before winter here) … so that vit D3 will be key!

@Teamblue – yay ! Congrats on your littlest lady. Oh how I can understand – exact same situation here, just a 10 months older DD3 – those comments were oh so hard last pregnancy…so most probably going team green next time! ^^
Like you am terrified of BD unprotected before we TTC – I still haven’t got my cycles so am making hubs use condoms because would hate to take any risks (and risk a lone attempt in fertile window) since we don’t know if and when I ovulate (if at all)…it’s the first time it’s taken me so long to get cycles back PP so am almost worrying something is wrong – having said that, DD3 at 14 m.o still nurses heaps, at night especially. In a way, can’t wait to get cycles back so I can track my fertile window and aim for BD outside of fertile days and only BD protected when there is a chance of pregnancy. I almost considered getting a copper IUD put in so that once my cycles do return I would still be protected from pregnancy while getting exposure to semen regularly…
Still pondering that one! Especially as it acts as a natural spermicide...plus I have endometriosis and copper IUDs can trigger heavier flows (hence pain in my case) – and I know hormonal contraception is a no no for me (have tried the Mirena and suffered terribly).
When would you want to start TTC #4?

@TheAnchor – it’s great to see successes – most success stories shared are for pink sways, so always glad to see successful blue sways! That being said, so many this year compared to last – might just be the way it was reported, but it sure feels like something went right hehe
What you did is that is what I did last time too, but I guess it wasn’t enough – my girls seem to all be strongly stubborn from the time they were little sperm forcing their way into the egg (and they never seem to get any less stubborn – poor hubby, they’re like their Mummy) LOL

[atomic sagebrush]

But the thing is we don't know how the copper IUD sway. I can't recommend those.

[LMSM]

I was leaning towards not getting it due to the different reasons outlined in my previous post..so that seals the deal hehe
It would be so good to have a contraception option that allows to have the body do its thing without interference but also getting that semen exposure and not risk pregnant until ready ttc :P

[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, but all these things we honestly don't know what kind of side effects they may have.

Best bet is pullout or non-spermicide condom.

[LMSM]

We use non spermicide condoms at the moment so I guess that is probably as good as it gets until my cycles return, and I can monitor them closely to BD unprotected outside of the fertile window and then only with protection in the fertile window until we are ready TTC :)

[atomic sagebrush]

Perfect!

[Teamblue]

But the thing is we don't know how the copper IUD sway. I can't recommend those.

What about the mirena IUD?

[atomic sagebrush]

What about the mirena IUD?

No unfortunately it sways pink.

[Teamblue]

No unfortunately it sways pink.
Oh no 🤦🏼*♀️!!!! That’s what I have. How long should I have it out before attempting? Our last DD was a pull out baby and my husband refuses to do condoms. So that’s basically our only option until we’re ready to try. I think we could attempt pulling out and condoms for a few months though. I hope this doesn’t ruin my sway before I even start😫

[atomic sagebrush]

As far in advance of your sway as is possible. AT least 2 cycles if possible.

Getting pregnant with pullout is fairly unusual - not impossible as you know, but unusual. So even though you got pregnant that way once before it doesn't mean you will again.

[3littleladies01]

Most of us with all boys (myself included) always had unprotected sex out of the fertile window.

It is always up to you of course but I do really think it helps, if you can be careful it isn't even a risk and will only beneft your sway.

We didn’t pull out. We just had unprotected and then I just religiously used the OPKs to know when to get in my extra attempts. We went for every other day before positive OPK and then 2-3 attempts around positive window. Then an extra one a day or so later to catch in case for late O x


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[3littleladies01]

@3LL _ thank you so much for detailing this for me – as fellow blue swayer – I know you can appreciate how I appreciate a detailed response :bowdown:
I’m know I'm not going to be able to do much during the days for exercise as I work full time, so am out the door by 7 am and only have time once the kids are in bed and the chores are done – so well after 8pm…it sure will take motivation haha!
I have a board on Pinterest with pics of cute baby boys, blue friendly meals AND before/after of women that did body reformations… to keep me going for the end goal!:cheerteam:
I am not sure about my own fertility – my specialist is retiring in a few weeks, and might see if he can send me a request for some basic tests before he goes ^^ I’m 35 next year so will officially be a “geriatric” mum and would love to know where we stand though he knows my cycles aren’t back so likely wont give me the referral now :P I guess maybe the new specialist will! (sorry, I ramble ..oops)
I think it’s amazing that you conceived so quickly and naturally after you having been told your fertility was declining rapidly – AND got your boy.
I’ll be so interested to see the dynamics of how your little man fits in with his big sisters(no doubt will they be besotted and mother him ;)) – I sometimes worry about a boy after 3 girls might be feeling left out somehow (and hence needing to give him a brother – I really need those twin boys eh? :xy: :xy:).
Quick question – what season was it when you conceived? (you’re in the UK are you??) I would have liked to conceive after summer, but that would mean being heavily pregnant IN summer and ain’t doing that again let me tell ya lol so would ideally conceive in August next year (so Due date May ish – just before winter here) … so that vit D3 will be key!

@Teamblue – yay ! Congrats on your littlest lady. Oh how I can understand – exact same situation here, just a 10 months older DD3 – those comments were oh so hard last pregnancy…so most probably going team green next time! ^^
Like you am terrified of BD unprotected before we TTC – I still haven’t got my cycles so am making hubs use condoms because would hate to take any risks (and risk a lone attempt in fertile window) since we don’t know if and when I ovulate (if at all)…it’s the first time it’s taken me so long to get cycles back PP so am almost worrying something is wrong – having said that, DD3 at 14 m.o still nurses heaps, at night especially. In a way, can’t wait to get cycles back so I can track my fertile window and aim for BD outside of fertile days and only BD protected when there is a chance of pregnancy. I almost considered getting a copper IUD put in so that once my cycles do return I would still be protected from pregnancy while getting exposure to semen regularly…
Still pondering that one! Especially as it acts as a natural spermicide...plus I have endometriosis and copper IUDs can trigger heavier flows (hence pain in my case) – and I know hormonal contraception is a no no for me (have tried the Mirena and suffered terribly).
When would you want to start TTC #4?

@TheAnchor – it’s great to see successes – most success stories shared are for pink sways, so always glad to see successful blue sways! That being said, so many this year compared to last – might just be the way it was reported, but it sure feels like something went right hehe
What you did is that is what I did last time too, but I guess it wasn’t enough – my girls seem to all be strongly stubborn from the time they were little sperm forcing their way into the egg (and they never seem to get any less stubborn – poor hubby, they’re like their Mummy) LOL

I think we’re in exactly the same boat - I’m 36 so officially geriatric too! ;)

I conceived in December so we are having a September baby. My girls are born Jan, May and July so nice a spread through the year. I’m not sure seasons TTC make much difference from what I’ve read and what atomic says so if you don’t wanna be heavily preggars in the summer I don’t think it’ll affect your sway too much xx


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[3littleladies01]

Did you have DH pull out before your fertile window? This is the part that scares me the most. We just had our third girl four months ago. I know it technically doesn’t matter because I won’t be fertile but I get pregnant very easily so I’m not sure whether to have DH pull out before the fertile window and then get in 3-4 attempts. How old was your youngest DD when you got pregnant with your son? How many attempts do you think y’all had in the fertile window?

My youngest was 11 months when I conceived again. But I had been trying for about 6 months - I knew it would take slightly longer due to my fertility drop x


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