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hurrem
June 13th, 2019, 10:07 PM
I have a couple of questions regarding our first attempt in late next mont:
1. Should we start bd unprotected after my af ends, and if so how often including the attempts in fertile window?
2. Because hubby works night shifts some days, will it make a difference if some of our attempts are also during the day?
4. What are the most beneficial foods/beverages to take during fertile week, I will be drinking grapefruit juice for ewcm, and coconut water, anything else?
5. What else should I keep in mind when ttc and in the 2ww?
Sorry for the multiple qs! Lol I’m telling hubby we will start ttc after the next cycle, he’s asking why bother with such things, people don’t do anything and just have kids :giggle:
atomic sagebrush
June 17th, 2019, 12:43 PM
I like you guys to have unprotected sex if you're willing to. Every 2-4 days when not in the fertile window. Once you get the positive OPK have attempt that night, again the next morning, and then again the following night (so 2x the second day). If possible follow up with another attempt the following day and then every other day a couple times to guard against delayed ovulation.
No it's fine, my husband always worked nights and we got 3 of our 4 boys when he was!
Some people also have wheatgrass juice either 2-3 days per week during their sway or daily the whole week coming into ovulation (not both.) too much wheatgrass juice may sway pink, and do not use wheatgrass supps either.
Try to get some sleep if possible and just stay confident - you got this!!
hurrem
June 18th, 2019, 11:18 AM
Thanks for the info Atomic! Are opks optional to use? They’re so costly here in aus, and ordering cheaper ones online will take over a month to deliver. I’ve been tracking my af with an app called ‘Clue’ for 3 years now, it also shows fertile days and expected ovulation day, I follow it for unprotected bd times. I also base my fertile days with ewcm, most of the time it matches the days shown in the app. But idk, how should I approach my fertile week for the attempt? Can I still go ahead with your mentioned bd patterns without any opks?
atomic sagebrush
June 18th, 2019, 03:52 PM
Well, I am not a fan of the apps but if you have a regular cycle they can work for you (as long as you're swaying blue, not pink, since pink swayers often have their cycle change while swaying.) Just be prepared in case you don't O when you think you will.
hurrem
June 19th, 2019, 06:31 AM
Well, I am not a fan of the apps but if you have a regular cycle they can work for you (as long as you're swaying blue, not pink, since pink swayers often have their cycle change while swaying.) Just be prepared in case you don't O when you think you will.
I have regular cycles within 28-31 days each month, but definitely I will keep an eye out on them. Just regular bd outside fertile week and then get at least 3 attempts in when ovulation is expected (plus a day or two more if ovulation timing changes). I want to buy the clearblue opks but they cost over $40 aud. There’s a cheaper brand of opk but they’re not as reliable according to reviews. I’ve already spent so much on groceries and supps, and will continue to after a (hopefully) bfp. But otherwise I will see how my next ovulation cycle goes, if it strays too far out or changes completely I will buy the clearblue opks.
hurrem
June 19th, 2019, 06:45 AM
2 more questions atomic!
1. Do we use first response lube for all bd attempts in the week including the ‘infertile’ days?
2. Since swaying HE I have grown a little pot belly, I’m still skinny but the weight gain is showing around my hips and belly, now my pants are too tight! Is this a cause of concern?
atomic sagebrush
June 19th, 2019, 10:46 AM
Well, a regular cycle within 28-31 days is really not a regular cycle! :) But if you really don't want to use OPK, that is totally fine as long as you are ok with skipping timing! I got 4 boys and never used an OPK in my life! Just have lots of sex unprotected whenever you think you may be fertile.
1)Yes I would use sperm safe lube whenever you think you need it. In or out of fertile window. If you have a bunch of EWCM you can skip it if you prefer.
2)No not at all most of us boy moms have that (myself much included.) It may be time to stop or slow weight gain though since you don't want to gain more than a few lbs.
hurrem
June 23rd, 2019, 10:28 AM
Thanks Atomic, I will keep up the regular bd after af and during expected fertile week. Do I have to ‘lie down’ after each attempt outside fertile window or can I jump and dump?
I’m nervous with the weight thing as I actually lost a kilo during ramadan, but now trying to make up for it but also not gain too much(currently at 116 lb, 5’4 height).
Girls Mom 2
June 24th, 2019, 12:55 PM
2 more questions atomic!
1. Do we use first response lube for all bd attempts in the week including the ‘infertile’ days?
2. Since swaying HE I have grown a little pot belly, I’m still skinny but the weight gain is showing around my hips and belly, now my pants are too tight! Is this a cause of concern?best of luck dear hurrem for your attempt i am also in your line as i got my af today.. i didnt use lube last 2 cycles, but now i am also thinking to use preseed lube as l already ordered online. i aslo really worried about my weight gain.. my belly is already like i m 5 months pregnant.
atomic i need to ask a question about preseed as i was reading one of ur link for pink inwhich you were saying a little amount of preseed can sway pink ?? if i get it right? so my question is if i use how much amount i should use for blue. ?
also my last two attempts i was doing unprotected sex only in my fertile window..hubby was realeasing anyotherday though.. should i do the same this cycle i mean right after af finished i should start unprotected sex after every other day ??
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atomic sagebrush
June 26th, 2019, 11:14 AM
I think it's best you stay down for 15 minutes whenever possible. If something comes up and it's not possible every time that's ok, but we just don't know how it works and so I think we should err on the side of laying down.
It's actually good to start off at that point where you have a small amount of weight you can gain. If you feel you're gaining too fast cut back or drop fruit juice, dried fruit, bananas (these do nothing to sway blue, they're just sugar) and breads/noodles and focus on getting carbs from fresh fruits and vegetables and nuts.
hurrem
June 28th, 2019, 06:48 AM
best of luck dear hurrem for your attempt i am also in your line as i got my af today.. i didnt use lube last 2 cycles, but now i am also thinking to use preseed lube as l already ordered online. i aslo really worried about my weight gain.. my belly is already like i m 5 months pregnant.
atomic i need to ask a question about preseed as i was reading one of ur link for pink inwhich you were saying a little amount of preseed can sway pink ?? if i get it right? so my question is if i use how much amount i should use for blue. ?
also my last two attempts i was doing unprotected sex only in my fertile window..hubby was realeasing anyotherday though.. should i do the same this cycle i mean right after af finished i should start unprotected sex after every other day ??
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Yes definitely start using preseed, also so you get used to it and know exactly how to use it during attempts. Yup the weight gain thing, for me it helps to minimise sweets/sugary things and even some carbs, get more carbs from fruits and veg. It’s winter here so I’m eating mandarins every day, plus nuts. Good luck to you on your sway!
hurrem
June 28th, 2019, 07:11 AM
I didn’t want to make a new thread so I will just post here what I’m eating atm. My first meal of the day is around 7:15am, last food at 10pm
Breakfast: Toast with egg, or peanut butter/seeds toast, with tea.
On weekends: wholemeal chippati with egg, or potatoes and fenugreek, or okra/other veg, and a large glass of lassi(yogurt drink sweetened with sugar)
Snack: Hommus and crackers, mandarins. Or le snak cheese/crackers, with cashews/pistachios, chips
Lunch: Chicken and rice, or lamb kebab burger, takeaway on some days
Snack: Grapefruit juice, or coconut water, V8, dates
Dinner: Chicken or lamb curry with homemade naan, pizza, pasta, biryani/pulao, any combo of protein meat/carb
Snack: anything in sight such as fruit, or a small sweet
Before bed: Cup of milk, often with milo, or bowl of cereal, soft boiled egg
Supps: after brekky: probiotic. After dinner: elevit prenatal and vit D
Some days I have bigger meals and fewer snacks, and other days smaller meals and more snacking, is that okay?
atomic sagebrush
June 28th, 2019, 01:24 PM
best of luck dear hurrem for your attempt i am also in your line as i got my af today.. i didnt use lube last 2 cycles, but now i am also thinking to use preseed lube as l already ordered online. i aslo really worried about my weight gain.. my belly is already like i m 5 months pregnant.
atomic i need to ask a question about preseed as i was reading one of ur link for pink inwhich you were saying a little amount of preseed can sway pink ?? if i get it right? so my question is if i use how much amount i should use for blue. ?
also my last two attempts i was doing unprotected sex only in my fertile window..hubby was realeasing anyotherday though.. should i do the same this cycle i mean right after af finished i should start unprotected sex after every other day ??
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oH somehow I missed this question. No, you're misunderstanding something. A small amount of Preseed DOES NOT sway pink. I sometimes allow my pink swayers to use a very small amount of Preseed when they aren't getting pregnant and need sperm-safe lubricant, but this does not mean Preseed sways pink. Preseed sways blue. Use the amount you need for comfortable intercourse as sometimes when people have used the full applicator, it's too much of a good thing and their husband has trouble reaching orgasm.
To slow weight gain cut out dried fruit, fruit juice, bananas, and any extra sugar. Cut way back on grain foods. Focus on meats, fresh fruit, veg, nuts, full fat dairy, and do exercise.
If you don't believe in timing then yes please have unprotected sex every 2-4 days. Every other day is not necessary, just anywhere from 2-4 days.
atomic sagebrush
June 28th, 2019, 01:28 PM
hurrem, your diet looks great, my only concern is the snack of things that are carbs only (juice and dates, or fruit/sweet) It's ok to do, just be sure you eat again sooner rather than later. You don't want to let your blood sugar drop between meals if possible.
Yes it's absolutely fine to change up the size of your meals and the number of your snacks. All of us with all boys did that!
hurrem
June 29th, 2019, 10:55 PM
Thanks Atomic, yup I’m being mindful to not let my blood sugar drop, so always making sure to get a bite of something after short intervals. Do you know of any other protein snacks?
Another concern Atomic: my husband’s brother and his wife have been ttc for several months now but no bfp. They’ve both had tests done including pendography for my sis in law and there are no problems, she even has regular periods, and no pcos. I pray they hear a bfp soon, but it makes me nervous about when I ttc, that even if everything is ‘perfect’ it doesn’t mean we will definitely get a bfp, some things no one can control :(
P.S - thank you for answering my million questions so far!
atomic sagebrush
July 3rd, 2019, 11:44 AM
That's true, but the blue sway tactics are all meant to boost odds of conception so you're doing what you need to do to get pregnant.
Hard boiled egg, cheese, nuts, lunch meat, jerky, yogurt/kefir, and bean spreads like hummus are all things people have used to get some protein in.
Girls Mom 2
July 5th, 2019, 12:34 PM
That's true, but the blue sway tactics are all meant to boost odds of conception so you're doing what you need to do to get pregnant.
Hard boiled egg, cheese, nuts, lunch meat, jerky, yogurt/kefir, and bean spreads like hummus are all things people have used to get some protein in.hi Atomic, need ur opinion badly.. yesterday i got my opk possitive and i did my 1 attempt last night but i cant manage to do my 2nd attempt in morning today my 3 year old didnt allow us to do and then dh has to go to work what should i do now?? is it okay if ill do a little late afternoon and then again tomorrow morning?? will it count as 3 proper attempt?? i am really upset and feeling i ruined??
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atomic sagebrush
July 5th, 2019, 01:09 PM
hi Atomic, need ur opinion badly.. yesterday i got my opk possitive and i did my 1 attempt last night but i cant manage to do my 2nd attempt in morning today my 3 year old didnt allow us to do and then dh has to go to work what should i do now?? is it okay if ill do a little late afternoon and then again tomorrow morning?? will it count as 3 proper attempt?? i am really upset and feeling i ruined??
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No it's not ruined, many people can't do the morning attempt. It's just icing on the cake. Have attempt tonight and then again tomorrow. :)
Girls Mom 2
July 5th, 2019, 01:22 PM
No it's not ruined, many people can't do the morning attempt. It's just icing on the cake. Have attempt tonight and then again tomorrow. :)ohhh i just did my 2nd attempt its 2 pm afternoon here.. i got so panicked n call husband from work lol so now i should do tomorrow morning?? thank u soo much atomic you r a life saver really..
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atomic sagebrush
July 5th, 2019, 02:15 PM
ohhh i just did my 2nd attempt its 2 pm afternoon here.. i got so panicked n call husband from work lol so now i should do tomorrow morning?? thank u soo much atomic you r a life saver really..
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Tonight if you can or tomorrow morning are great, if you can't do either of those then tomorrow night may still be in the window. :)
Girls Mom 2
July 5th, 2019, 02:21 PM
Tonight if you can or tomorrow morning are great, if you can't do either of those then tomorrow night may still be in the window. :)okay thank u soo much :)
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hurrem
July 9th, 2019, 02:10 AM
Lots of prayers Girls Mom 2 and I hope you hear a bfp soon!! <3
Girls Mom 2
July 9th, 2019, 12:13 PM
Lots of prayers Girls Mom 2 and I hope you hear a bfp soon!! <3Thanku soo much and what about you? you did ur attempts this cycle or no??
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hurrem
July 10th, 2019, 12:26 AM
I’m waiting for my next cycle for the attempts, so not long now! :nails:
Girls Mom 2
July 11th, 2019, 04:12 PM
I’m waiting for my next cycle for the attempts, so not long now! :nails:Good luck :)
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hurrem
July 17th, 2019, 02:37 AM
I just got my AF today, and as I’ve written about it in another post, my AF always arrived late at night/early morning, but during Ramadan it came in the afternoon, the next cycle it went back to morning but not super early like before. This cycle however, it came at noon. But I was asleep till then because it’s been the holidays over the past week, so my sleeping schedule is changed-I sleep late/wake up late, unlike before I slept on time and got up at 6:30 for work.
In terms of diet I’m eating a lot of hearty and rich meals especially meat stews and broths because it’s winter, and taking supps. Why did AF come at noon then? Tmi- when I woke up and went to toilet there was nothing in my underwear, but then it sort of ‘gushed’ out of me when I sat down. I will start my attempts this cycle but should I consider this AF timing? Will it affect my boy sway?
Another Q- My husband drinks a small cup of coffee(flat white) at work, sometimes two, will this affect swaying? He also drinks a mug of black tea(with lots of full cream milk) before work and when he comes home
atomic sagebrush
July 17th, 2019, 03:43 PM
The time of day your period comes is really not set in stone as meaning anything. It may be because you were sleeping in. Sometimes it's the gravity that gets it started in the mornign when you get up.
The coffee/tea thing seems to only really matter for us ladies and hasn't been shown to matter with husbands. I generally have husbands switch over to coffee too if they can stand it but it's no biggie if he doesnt'. Most husbands would not do anything like that.
hurrem
July 17th, 2019, 09:43 PM
The time of day your period comes is really not set in stone as meaning anything. It may be because you were sleeping in. Sometimes it's the gravity that gets it started in the mornign when you get up.
The coffee/tea thing seems to only really matter for us ladies and hasn't been shown to matter with husbands. I generally have husbands switch over to coffee too if they can stand it but it's no biggie if he doesnt'. Most husbands would not do anything like that.
Thanks for the info Atomic. Since my last post DH has gotten sick, and is currently taking cold and flu tablets. Really hoping he gets well soon in a few days, but is this now going to affect sway? I still have a week of AF to go as well. Just when everything was going well lol :/ ...
atomic sagebrush
July 18th, 2019, 01:21 PM
Well, I'd only have him take them as short a time as he can get away with and then get off them. They should be out of his system by the time the attempt rolls around but I don't want him taking them any longer than necessary.
hurrem
July 18th, 2019, 11:52 PM
Thanks Atomic, and yeah definitely DH will be off the tablets soon, you can’t take them for more than 3 days anyway. But even if he stays sick for say about a week(coughing, nose congestion etc) wouldn’t that affect sperm?
I’m glad I got the flu shot but wish he did too. But it’s just the season here atm, with different viruses making their rounds.
atomic sagebrush
July 20th, 2019, 01:00 PM
People get sick though. It's up to you if you want to have no regrets but personally I'd not skip a month.
If he had a high fever, then ~maybe~ but you'd have to take 6 weeks off from trying and by that point he'd probably catch something else. It's a vicious cycle, waiting for the "perfect" month because it never seems to come.
hurrem
July 21st, 2019, 12:27 PM
Yes you’re right about there never being the ‘perfect’ month, because something else will always come up in life, like I might get sick again. Thankfully DH is much better now and not taking medicines, and as you say it’s best we start now. It may take a few cycles at least to conceive, unless we’re lucky and it happens first time lol. Atm there’s just over a week left for our attempts, is that enough time for dh’s recovery?
atomic sagebrush
July 21st, 2019, 04:57 PM
Yes! Be sure you're having him release every 2-4 days!
hurrem
August 1st, 2019, 09:46 PM
Hey all, we had our attempts this month on the following days: CD - 7, 9, 13, 14, 15. So O-2, O-1, O in my fertile week. My 'last' fertile day was yesterday, although I'm pretty sure O had already happened at this stage.
Here are a couple of things that make me nervous though:
I didn’t see any ewcm during my fertile week. In my second day of attempt there was watery cm, but I didn’t check with my finger and we bd afterwards. I don’t know, maybe I did get ewcm but it didn’t come down, and it’s hard to tell after bd. On the third day I was still damp but again, no ewcm, it was kind of lotiony. I had a lot of grapefruit juice from AF to O, but still didn’t get any, unlike all the previous months where I always had 1-2 days of it. I’m glad we used preseed but this is makes me think it wasn’t a ‘good’ month.
So now I'm in the tww, and to be honest I don't want to go symptom hunting because if it's a bfn this month I'll feel so let down and disappointed. Better to just stay neutral for now. I will go more in detail with my attempts and fill out the sway template but first want to wait out a couple of weeks.
Just one thing I've noticed that I'll mention here- Terrible O pain on my left side, I felt this on O day(CD 15) and then the next day as well. The pain feels like a string being ‘pulled’ inside, and it comes and goes. It might all just be hormonal and I'm still feeling light cramping in my left-like a sharp pinch, but otherwise nothing else. Too early for period, but it's probably hormones, and this seems waaay too early for any symptoms to appear as well.
atomic sagebrush
August 3rd, 2019, 10:32 AM
Watery CM is fertile. May be even better for blue than EW.
Many times we have found people have O Pains even after ovulation, and from the side that DIDN"T ovulate. Your body develops eggs on both sides every month and only the best one is released. So after ovulation your other ovary can still be swollen and sore from eggs that weren't released and that causes pain for many people. That doesn't mean that's the side you ovulated from and it's not implantation youre feeling necessarily.
hurrem
August 4th, 2019, 06:26 AM
Thanks for explaining in detail Atomic, never knew that several eggs are developed in the ovaries for every cycle. It’s definitely not implantation cramps, that doesn’t happen until 8-10 days I think? It’s so true how they say that time never moves more slowly than it does in the tww! I’m trying to stay real and not overthink it too much but it’s proving hard haha
Another thing Atomic: just a day after my last bd attempt I got a sore throat and a headache. Didn’t think much until the following day and it turned into a cold with a blocked runny nose and coughing. Even though I already got sick before I seemed to have picked up another bug from work, the cold/flu season is terrible this year! Ughh, why this month? :( What if it affects a possible implantation, and will the coughing affect it?
atomic sagebrush
August 5th, 2019, 10:20 AM
Yes! But a lot of people don't believe me when I say that, LOL. Implantation takes 7-10 days just like you say.
NO having a cold can't impact odds of conception. And coughing can't dislodge a baby that is in the uterus. That's not how it works thankfully!
hurrem
August 13th, 2019, 09:33 PM
AF is here :(
I feel so disappointed, I know it's silly to feel this way because it's just the first month, and I even told myself it might not happen but still. I didn't even focus on gender these past two weeks, I just really want a baby, but a little boy will be the icing on the cake. Maybe my cold affected implantation? I even had cramps starting from 7dpo, they weren't like AF ones either. And all the coughing and nose blowing, ughh, this really wasn't my month.
But where do I go now with my diet? is my cold going to affect the sway next month? It's gone now, I just have coughing. I'm still eating as usual but being cautious because my weight is optimal, I don't want to gain more than this, what do you think Atomic? I was 100 lbs last year, now at 121 lbs, bmi is 20.7. Also, do you have any tips and tricks on getting pregnant quick?
It doesn't help when friends around you start announcing their pregnancies, I also want to hear my happy news soon :(
atomic sagebrush
August 14th, 2019, 12:33 PM
I think you're at a great weight, have gained the perfect amount for you, and I agree it's time for you to hold steady.
Yes the most likely explanation was that you were ill and your body "thought" maybe it wasn't a good month. While not foolproof our bodies have their ways of reducing chances of conception if something doesn't seem right. FXFXFX for next month!!
hurrem
August 14th, 2019, 06:49 PM
Thanks for the reassurance Atomic. You're right maybe my cold affected the chances. What were those cramps at 7,8,9 dpo? I've never had them before. Also, why do some couples conceive the first month straightaway and others take much longer? I pray this is my lucky month but need to stay realistic.
Now I also remembered: the day/2 days before O I felt a temperature coming and felt feverish, but went to sleep after work so it didn't become a fever. I didn't think I was sick again, just tired. Then the day after the last attempt I got a full blown cold, and although I managed to control a fever I was still sick.
hurrem
August 15th, 2019, 05:57 AM
A couple more questions Atomic: Does day of time matter when bding? Last cycle we bd O-2(night), O-1(afternoon), O(night), because DH had night shift on O-1.
And should we bd on O-3 the next cycle, so there are 4 attempts, will that boost our chances?
Thnx a million for going through every little thing with me!
atomic sagebrush
August 15th, 2019, 01:24 PM
I personally do not think time of day matters AT ALL and is just another thing to worry over. I truly, truly think that most sway sites want to make their sway recommendations so ridiculously complicated that people can never get it right. Then the sites can always find something everyone did "wrong". But that kind of thing simply can't matter because practically everyone BD's at bedtime all around the world and we all get 50-50 boys and girls that way!
I would love to see everyone BD 4 times and O-3 if they can (especially since many times people have ovulated sooner than they expected to and were sad they didn't get the 3 attempts in!) That is how I got my boys!
hurrem
August 21st, 2019, 07:06 PM
Hi Atomic, DH has a night shift coming up so we had to change our schedule. How do these bd dates look?
CD - 8(done), possibly CD10?, 12, 14, 15, plus every other day in the tww.
atomic sagebrush
August 22nd, 2019, 12:05 PM
Are you doing OPK?
hurrem
August 22nd, 2019, 05:08 PM
Are you doing OPK?
No opks, looking for body changes/cervical mucus atm
atomic sagebrush
August 23rd, 2019, 11:34 AM
If your cycle is 28 days I'd do 12,13,14,15
hurrem
August 23rd, 2019, 08:01 PM
Thanks Atomic, I’ll get in the four attempts even if the first one is in the morning. DH wouldn’t be ‘shooting dust’ by the 3rd/4th day will he? There will still be lots of sperm around by O?
Here’s how the attempts will look:
CD12: Morning
CD13: Afternoon
CD14: Night
CD15: Night
atomic sagebrush
August 24th, 2019, 07:00 PM
As long as the fertile window is open (and it should be) it's all good. Just adding more and more sperm to meet the egg!
hurrem
August 26th, 2019, 09:13 AM
I have pain on my left side right now, kind of like cramps. Does this mean ovulation is due soon or something else? I had this pain on the left side last cycle but it was after o, and felt it even a week after o and thought it was implantation cramps but of course no bfp
atomic sagebrush
August 26th, 2019, 01:10 PM
It can be related to ovulation but it doesn't tell you if you've ovulated or not. What happens is that our body develops lots of eggs on both sides (15-20) every month and only the best one or two are ovulated. Both ovaries are very sore, swollen, and tender. So we have pains, but can't know if it's from ovulation or from eggs that will be released soon or if it's from eggs that weren't released and are now resolving themselves. The fallopian tubes also cramp after ovulation and the corpus luteum may be sore as it forms. We just can't know what is causing any ovulation related pain.
hurrem
September 12th, 2019, 07:11 PM
AF is here again. I felt so good about this month, the diet and attempts were perfect. But alas it wasn't meant to be. My cycle was 30 days this time, it alternates between 28 or 30-31. Atomic, is it possible that my supps or preseed are interfering? Should I drop anything or wait out this month? I will now start my 3rd cycle of ttc. I also plan on using opks to know my exact fertile days. And no more grapefruit juice in week of O, not that I think it's bad but I'll leave it out this month.
Here are my current sups: Elevit prenatal, Vit D 1000 iu, probiotics
Attempts past cycle: 4 days in a row through fertile window, plus eod after the window until AF
atomic sagebrush
September 13th, 2019, 09:04 AM
Let's try dropping the Preseed. A few people have seemed to think it may have cut conception rates for them.
Your supplements should not prevent conception in any way.
Also I want to be sure you're spending part of the time after intercourse on your stomach rather than your back. This has seemed to help some people.
hurrem
September 14th, 2019, 12:45 AM
Thanks Atomic, I’ll drop the preseed for now, but is it okay if we use just a little bit on the outside with my fingers? And also, even though preseed is supposedly made to help conception, why does it have the opposite effect for some?
I only spent two attempts on my belly, but I will try it for every attempt now.
I’m starting to feel nervous even though it’s only been 2 cycles. I have thoughts that what if there’s something wrong with us? I want to divert my thinking and stay positive.
atomic sagebrush
September 15th, 2019, 01:29 PM
Well, it's meant to be better than other lubes for those who need it. Studies have shown it's better than other lubes (significantly) but is not as good as EWCM, so it may be better to take a pass on it if people aren't conceiving with it. this is especially true for those who are using a lot of it thinking it sways blue (this may not be your situation, but some people use a lot of Preseed and even mix baking soda in it so dropping Preseed is one of my standard recommendations).
It's fine to use small amounts if you need it, though.
atomic sagebrush
September 15th, 2019, 01:31 PM
It's really normal to have concerns when you don't get pregnant right away. Just keep in mind it takes people an average of 3-6 months to get pregnant. Just hang in there, this will happen!!
hurrem
September 16th, 2019, 07:26 AM
Thanks so much for the encouragement Atomic. You're right that's the average time it can take when ttc, and I keep telling myself that I'm one more month closer to when I will eventually conceive. Now that I think about it, pink swaying sounds difficult where you're reducing your fertility but still keeping enough to conceive! But they do eventually have their babies.
It's when I think of others who conceived first month and I think why they were so lucky. But everything has its own time, and I pray my time comes soon in the future.
Girls Mom 2
September 16th, 2019, 07:44 AM
Thanks so much for the encouragement Atomic. You're right that's the average time it can take when ttc, and I keep telling myself that I'm one more month closer to when I will eventually conceive. Now that I think about it, pink swaying sounds difficult where you're reducing your fertility but still keeping enough to conceive! But they do eventually have their babies.
It's when I think of others who conceived first month and I think why they were so lucky. But everything has its own time, and I pray my time comes soon in the future.InshaAllah hurrem :)
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hurrem
September 16th, 2019, 09:54 AM
InshaAllah hurrem :)
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Thank you, InshaAllah you also hear your bfp soon <3
Girls Mom 2
September 16th, 2019, 10:12 AM
Thank you, InshaAllah you also hear your bfp soon <3Ameen
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atomic sagebrush
September 16th, 2019, 05:15 PM
Thanks so much for the encouragement Atomic. You're right that's the average time it can take when ttc, and I keep telling myself that I'm one more month closer to when I will eventually conceive. Now that I think about it, pink swaying sounds difficult where you're reducing your fertility but still keeping enough to conceive! But they do eventually have their babies.
It's when I think of others who conceived first month and I think why they were so lucky. But everything has its own time, and I pray my time comes soon in the future.
We are all praying it comes soon for you! :pray: :pray: :pray:
hurrem
September 16th, 2019, 11:35 PM
We are all praying it comes soon for you! :pray: :pray: :pray:
Thank you Atomic <3
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