Feeling deflated like there’s no chance for us

[EnglishDame]

Hi girls, I’m feeling a bit down about things. I have 2 boys and we are hoping and praying to add a girl, my husband has always wanted a Daughter, his sister always had a better relationship with their father and he was always closer to his mother, and although he adores our boys I think he feels like he would miss out on that special father daughter bond if we never have a girl. For me, I’ve always wanted to be a mum and to be honest just expected to have girls for some reason. I’ve never pictured myself as a Boy mum (as anyone on here in the same boat will tell you I’m sure, I actually love it and my boys are everything to me). But if I’d found this forum before we had our first I’d have seen things differently. I’d have known that I’m a classic boy mum- pcos, eat lots of meat especially red meat, sweet tooth so likely have high blood sugar a lot. Lots of nutrients and big portions. My DH has a high sex drive and
I have a boy mum personality, obsessive about things etc. Everything boy swayers do basically!

So I found this forum after we had our first son and began planning my sway. I got Metformin for my pcos and I bought clomid online (from a pharmacy website that no longer sells it). None of it worked, we had another boy. So now I have one lot of Clomid left but it’s out of date and my doctor has referred me to the fertility clinic to see about the Metformin again but I have a feeling they’ll say no this time (I have reason to). This is our last chance, we can’t have more than 3 Children so I feel so much pressure and absolutely no confidence that I’m even capable of having a girl.

I don’t even know what I’m asking here, sorry for the ramble. It’s so hard to talk about in real life especially to dh. I think part of me thinks if he thought I didn’t think there was a chance of a Girl he might pull the plug on dc3.

Thanks if you got this far, it’s nice to know I’m not alone!

[XXforhubby]

Oh sweetie, I just want to give you a hug! (((Hugs)))!!

Several of us feel, and have felt, exactly as you. It sucks. I feel compelled to reply, because like you, my DH always wanted a girl. I thought we would have a few girls in the mix, because we wanted 3 kids (I wanted 4). I found this site when my DS2 was a few months old. I planned a sway. I obsessed. I’m pretty sure I drove Atomic nuts [emoji2957] (she would never admit it, haha)! My DS3 joined our family. Ok. Hear me out. Don’t despair, keep reading- you are in an excellent position to get your DD! I regrouped. This time, I stuck to what works: LE diet by sticking to the limits. I never budged on this, even once. 1400-1600 calories, intermittent fasting (16-18 hours from last to first meal of the day). No red meat, vegetarian mostly, with a tad of chicken. Veggies- loads of veggies! Fruit to curb my sweet tooth. Milk chocolate instead of dark chocolate. Coffee instead of tea. (For more details, look up both of my sways, failed first one, and the one that led to my DD. Night and day difference!) One attempt, cardio. My goodness cardio!! I walked everywhere!! I too felt doomed, defeated. This behavior shift meant that everything was working to change my condition. Prior to swaying appropriately, I had confidence. Confidence that I would get a DD and my sway would work. Well that didn’t work out! See, when the LE components change our condition, it changes everything. Not to say an opposite still won’t happen, nothing is a complete guarantee. Stay on top of things and stick to what gets the best results. Metformin and Clomid are great, but not the be all end all. You got this! You can do this! We are all here for you!! [emoji1694][emoji1374]


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[Thirdtimelucky01]

Oh sweetie, I just want to give you a hug! (((Hugs)))!!

Several of us feel, and have felt, exactly as you. It sucks. I feel compelled to reply, because like you, my DH always wanted a girl. I thought we would have a few girls in the mix, because we wanted 3 kids (I wanted 4). I found this site when my DS2 was a few months old. I planned a sway. I obsessed. I’m pretty sure I drove Atomic nuts [emoji2957] (she would never admit it, haha)! My DS3 joined our family. Ok. Hear me out. Don’t despair, keep reading- you are in an excellent position to get your DD! I regrouped. This time, I stuck to what works: LE diet by sticking to the limits. I never budged on this, even once. 1400-1600 calories, intermittent fasting (16-18 hours from last to first meal of the day). No red meat, vegetarian mostly, with a tad of chicken. Veggies- loads of veggies! Fruit to curb my sweet tooth. Milk chocolate instead of dark chocolate. Coffee instead of tea. (For more details, look up both of my sways, failed first one, and the one that led to my DD. Night and day difference!) One attempt, cardio. My goodness cardio!! I walked everywhere!! I too felt doomed, defeated. This behavior shift meant that everything was working to change my condition. Prior to swaying appropriately, I had confidence. Confidence that I would get a DD and my sway would work. Well that didn’t work out! See, when the LE components change our condition, it changes everything. Not to say an opposite still won’t happen, nothing is a complete guarantee. Stay on top of things and stick to what gets the best results. Metformin and Clomid are great, but not the be all end all. You got this! You can do this! We are all here for you!! [emoji1694][emoji1374]


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Hi XXforhubby, I was reading your DD sway after this post and it says you had one attempt at O-3 or O-2 and the attempt was on the 7th of January and you think you ovulated on the 7th because you had a temperature rise the morning of the 8th - doesn’t that make it an attempt at O day?


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[XXforhubby]

Hi XXforhubby, I was reading your DD sway after this post and it says you had one attempt at O-3 or O-2 and the attempt was on the 7th of January and you think you ovulated on the 7th because you had a temperature rise the morning of the 8th - doesn’t that make it an attempt at O day?


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I had an US the morning of the 8th, which showed a rather large follicle about to release an egg suggesting while my temp rose on the 8th, O was about to occur. I was being monitored closely, since I was on a high dose of Clomid (100mg) CD1-5. I think this why it took me 13mo to conceive, because apparently I O 2-3 days after my temp rise [emoji848]. BDing E4D-E3D I think is often better for people, since there are so many variables.


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[Thirdtimelucky01]

I had an US the morning of the 8th, which showed a rather large follicle about to release an egg suggesting while my temp rose on the 8th, O was about to occur. I was being monitored closely, since I was on a high dose of Clomid (100mg) CD1-5. I think this why it took me 13mo to conceive, because apparently I O 2-3 days after my temp rise [emoji848]. BDing E4D-E3D I think is often better for people, since there are so many variables.


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Interesting! Question about your diet if you don’t mind - since you went vegetarian what do you think was the main source/sources of protein? You seemed to eat next to nothing in terms of chicken, pork and eggs, no red meat and reduced cheese. Did you have any fish/seafood?


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[Thirdtimelucky01]

Hi girls, I’m feeling a bit down about things. I have 2 boys and we are hoping and praying to add a girl, my husband has always wanted a Daughter, his sister always had a better relationship with their father and he was always closer to his mother, and although he adores our boys I think he feels like he would miss out on that special father daughter bond if we never have a girl. For me, I’ve always wanted to be a mum and to be honest just expected to have girls for some reason. I’ve never pictured myself as a Boy mum (as anyone on here in the same boat will tell you I’m sure, I actually love it and my boys are everything to me). But if I’d found this forum before we had our first I’d have seen things differently. I’d have known that I’m a classic boy mum- pcos, eat lots of meat especially red meat, sweet tooth so likely have high blood sugar a lot. Lots of nutrients and big portions. My DH has a high sex drive and
I have a boy mum personality, obsessive about things etc. Everything boy swayers do basically!

So I found this forum after we had our first son and began planning my sway. I got Metformin for my pcos and I bought clomid online (from a pharmacy website that no longer sells it). None of it worked, we had another boy. So now I have one lot of Clomid left but it’s out of date and my doctor has referred me to the fertility clinic to see about the Metformin again but I have a feeling they’ll say no this time (I have reason to). This is our last chance, we can’t have more than 3 Children so I feel so much pressure and absolutely no confidence that I’m even capable of having a girl.

I don’t even know what I’m asking here, sorry for the ramble. It’s so hard to talk about in real life especially to dh. I think part of me thinks if he thought I didn’t think there was a chance of a Girl he might pull the plug on dc3.

Thanks if you got this far, it’s nice to know I’m not alone!

EnglishDame, sorry to get all those questions going on your post, I hope you will find the answers useful like I do! I’m in the same position, two wonderful boys but dreaming of daughter and our next child is definitely our last! Did you do the diet while swaying with DS2? I only found this forum a few months ago. But while I have a typical boy mum personality and a boy mum diet, I was at my lowest adult weight and had one attempt at positive OPK so trying to tweak other things (in addition to one attempt) this time. Pink dust to you!


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