I'm back and pregnant with #3!!

[MrsEnglish]

Possibly my worst sway ever. I have a girl and a boy already, and am hoping for a girl this time.



After I had my boy I was breastfeeding and didn't see a sign of ovulation or AF. Soon after deciding we were ready to have another baby, I got very impatient (this is me! I'm not bragging about it!) and decided to try to speed things along by taking leftover, slightly expired Clomid. That caused ovulation but did not get me pregnant for the first two cycles I tried, then I ran out. The third cycle was natural, surprisingly I ovulated on my own but didn't get pregnant, and on the fourth cycle I ovulated on my own and did get pregnant.

My major away factors this away are: me vegetarian, AI, and one attempt. So exactly the same sway factors I had with my boy, except with my boy I was also exercising and this time not. With my girl pregnancy I got pregnant on Clomid.

2 other things:1. this time I was/am breastfeeding, which is supposed to sway girl. But about a month before getting pregnant, my son suddenly cut down hugely on breastfeeding, going from nursing like 5 times a day to once a day. So I'm wondering if that will actually sway boy because suddenly I'm getting to keep more of my nutrients?

2. Breastfeeding made me lose a lot of weight and I actually got 5 lbs thinner than I was when I got pregnant the first time. BUT just in the past month approximately I have gained back those 5 lbs, so I am still a bit thinner than when I conceived my son, but I've been gaining weight, so I don't know if that will even out or sway boy.

Just wanted to add: I don't believe timing sways, but with my daughter I'm pretty sure I got pregnant on O day, and with my son it was I think 2-3 days before, and this time I'm pretty sure I got pregnant on O day.

My gut feeling says it's gonna be a boy this time, but we'll see. I know that the deed is done, but just for curiosity's sake, I would like feedback about my sway, like if overall it should still tip things toward girl or not?

Thanks ladies and good luck to everyone!

[atomic sagebrush]

Huge congrats Mrs. E!!!

Nursing doesn't sway because it consumes nutrients. It sways because the biological state of nursing suppresses fertility and sways pink that way. Even if you're only nursing one time a day it sways pink.

You always have a chance of a girl! Good luck and pink dust!

[4blue2pink]

Congratulations MrsE!! :heart: ive been wondering how you were :) how is your little boy doing?
I really think AI sways pink, i know you got your boy with it but the only one of my 3 sways that worked was the one where we did 1 attempt AI.
I know that either gender is always possible but id be as confident as its possible to be with that sway, especially the AI+clomid.
Good luck and pink dust!! xx

[MrsEnglish]

Congratulations MrsE!! :heart: ive been wondering how you were :) how is your little boy doing?
I really think AI sways pink, i know you got your boy with it but the only one of my 3 sways that worked was the one where we did 1 attempt AI.
I know that either gender is always possible but id be as confident as its possible to be with that sway, especially the AI+clomid.
Good luck and pink dust!! xx

My little boy is doing great! We are totally crazy over him ❤️❤️❤️ Thanks!

I believe AI sways pink too, but after having an AI opposite, I don't feel very confident. Honestly, the reason that AI and One Attempt have been our main away factors is simply because they are easy to do and don't require much work or self-discipline (unlike dieting, or an hour of aerobic exercise 5+ times a week for example). I've always been 95% vegetarian because I don't like the taste of meat, so that's the reason for that.

[Pcoop]

Congratulations on your 3rd pregnancy :) I bet you'd have an exciting time finally knowing your baby's gender. Good luck on your hopes of getting another girl!

[4blue2pink]

My little boy is doing great! We are totally crazy over him ❤️❤️❤️ Thanks!

I believe AI sways pink too, but after having an AI opposite, I don't feel very confident. Honestly, the reason that AI and One Attempt have been our main away factors is simply because they are easy to do and don't require much work or self-discipline (unlike dieting, or an hour of aerobic exercise 5+ times a week for example). I've always been 95% vegetarian because I don't like the taste of meat, so that's the reason for that.

So glad he's doing great :)
totally get doing AI as an easy tactic! will you be finding out the gender or are you waiting till birth?

[MrsEnglish]

I'm not sure yet, but doubt that I'll wait. I'm not really a waiting type person 😂

[Lulila]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm sure whatever the outcome is you'll be happy, but lots of pink dust to you!

How old was your baby when you took the clomid? Did you notice any difference in breastfeeding taking it? I'm waiting for DS#3 to be born in 2 weeks and we're planning to sway (we never have before - both ds2 and ds3 have been faster than our plans [emoji28]) at the end of the year and I got some clomid for swaying purposes but I don't find many people bf using it.

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[4blue2pink]

I'm not sure yet, but doubt that I'll wait. I'm not really a waiting type person ��

i'll look forward to seeing an update from you :) keeping everything crossed for pink!! how is your dh finding having a son? i remember your older posts.. i hope he is enjoying him :)

[atomic sagebrush]

It's believed to be ok to BF when taking Clomid but you have to be sure to wait till your body is ready, willing, and able to ovulate. If you take it at say 2-3 months postpartum (which I would not recommend when breastfeeding in case there is anything that comes out in the milk that affects a smaller baby disproportionately, wait till baby is 6-9 months please) your body probably just won't respond to it, particularly if you're breastfeeding. You have to wait till your body is hormonally in a place it can even respond to the Clomid or it will just sit there and do nothing, or maybe even cause an ovarian cyst which can take 2-3 months to resolve and make you take even longer to TTC.

[Lulila]

It's believed to be ok to BF when taking Clomid but you have to be sure to wait till your body is ready, willing, and able to ovulate. If you take it at say 2-3 months postpartum (which I would not recommend when breastfeeding in case there is anything that comes out in the milk that affects a smaller baby disproportionately, wait till baby is 6-9 months please) your body probably just won't respond to it, particularly if you're breastfeeding. You have to wait till your body is hormonally in a place it can even respond to the Clomid or it will just sit there and do nothing, or maybe even cause an ovarian cyst which can take 2-3 months to resolve and make you take even longer to TTC.Thank you very much! We will wait until the baby is about 8-9 month at least, or even maybe until his birthday depending on how demanding he is or if my period is not back... who knows... i might want to get my tubes tied in a month time [emoji1787]

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[Bobster]

Racking my brains about what AI stands for?? Think I should know this as I’ve been on this site for years... it’s annoying me as I’m sure I know but can’t think haha.

Congrats on your pregnancy and good luck for pink

[Thirdtimelucky01]

Artificial insemination? It’s the first time I hear on this site that it’s a punk sway tactic though!


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[MrsEnglish]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I'm sure whatever the outcome is you'll be happy, but lots of pink dust to you!

How old was your baby when you took the clomid? Did you notice any difference in breastfeeding taking it? I'm waiting for DS#3 to be born in 2 weeks and we're planning to sway (we never have before - both ds2 and ds3 have been faster than our plans [emoji28]) at the end of the year and I got some clomid for swaying purposes but I don't find many people bf using it.

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My baby was 7 months old when I started (I said I don't like waiting!). The first two months I took Clomid there was a little if any decrease in breastfeeding. After two months I ran out of Clomid but ovulated naturally, and it was then that there was a big decrease in breastfeeding.

[MrsEnglish]

i'll look forward to seeing an update from you :) keeping everything crossed for pink!! how is your dh finding having a son? i remember your older posts.. i hope he is enjoying him :)

Very very well! DH wasn't against having a son per se, he was just very nervous that a son would have Autism like his brother who has severe Autism (of course a daughter could too, but less likely). So that's totally understandable, but DS is very social so we have no worries! Also DH has height insecurities (he's short) and I don't despite also being very short, so we figured a girl would be better able to deal with the shortness they would probably inherit from us. DH and I are both in the lowest 5% of height for our gender, and so far both DD and DS have been 20-25%, which is short bit not unusually so which is what we hoped for for a son.

Actually the Autism worry is part of why we are having the kids so close together -- risk goes up with parents' age and we are both already early 30s.

It's funny because before DH and I were married, we were supposed to fill out this compatibility survey then go to one session of premarital counseling, but we ended up filling out the survey, going over it together and skipping out on the counseling. One of the questions was "how many kids do you want to have?" And I wrote 3-4, and DH wrote 2-3, and we never actually discussed it, we just saw we had a middle ground and moved on.

[4blue2pink]

Very very well! DH wasn't against having a son per se, he was just very nervous that a son would have Autism like his brother who has severe Autism (of course a daughter could too, but less likely). So that's totally understandable, but DS is very social so we have no worries! Also DH has height insecurities (he's short) and I don't despite also being very short, so we figured a girl would be better able to deal with the shortness they would probably inherit from us. DH and I are both in the lowest 5% of height for our gender, and so far both DD and DS have been 20-25%, which is short bit not unusually so which is what we hoped for for a son.

Actually the Autism worry is part of why we are having the kids so close together -- risk goes up with parents' age and we are both already early 30s.

It's funny because before DH and I were married, we were supposed to fill out this compatibility survey then go to one session of premarital counseling, but we ended up filling out the survey, going over it together and skipping out on the counseling. One of the questions was "how many kids do you want to have?" And I wrote 3-4, and DH wrote 2-3, and we never actually discussed it, we just saw we had a middle ground and moved on.

Im so glad to hear he is enjoying him :heart: his fears are totally understandable after what he went through with his brother. Thats great that you both always had the middle ground of 3 kids, do you think this is your last or would your dh be open to #4?
I love small age gaps! our biggest gap is 19 months all the rest fall between 13-17 months apart and i wouldnt change it for anything.

[MrsEnglish]

Im so glad to hear he is enjoying him :heart: his fears are totally understandable after what he went through with his brother. Thats great that you both always had the middle ground of 3 kids, do you think this is your last or would your dh be open to #4?
I love small age gaps! our biggest gap is 19 months all the rest fall between 13-17 months apart and i wouldnt change it for anything.

I think if this is a girl there and everything is good with her, there is a better chance that he'd be willing to try for a fourth.

[MrsEnglish]

Artificial insemination? It’s the first time I hear on this site that it’s a punk sway tactic though!


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Artificial insemination. It might sound weird but it's super easy actually. Some women know that their husbands have really high sperm counts, which sways boy, and use AI to only insert like half the semen and thus lower sperm count that way. I have always put as much as I could back in though, but of course a little is still lost in the cup and syringe.

I think a lot of women don't use AI because their husbands won't agree to it, but swaying girl was actually DH's idea so he's totally cool with it. I don't tell anyone in real life that I use this technique or even that I try to sway girl.

[atomic sagebrush]

Artificial insemination? It’s the first time I hear on this site that it’s a punk sway tactic though!


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Well, that's because most of the people who do it take many months if not longer to conceive, and their husbands get super annoyed with the whole routine. It has caused by far and away more trouble than it's worth, including one couple getting a divorce.

THE ONLY PEOPLE WHO SHOULD BE USING AI AS A SWAY TACTIC ARE THOSE WHO NEED IT TO CONCEIVE.

I hope it is glaringly obvious that if there is any sway tactic out there that I think is good for the mass of people, I would certainly tell you all about it constantly. I don't sit on good sway tactics. I share them with you.

If you'd like to read the essay I have about using artificial insemination methods and why not to, you can find that here: https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/gender-swaying-general-discussion/2598-how-do-tbm-why-you-probably-shouldnt-do-gender-swaying.html (please note, I wrote this essay in April of 2011, so it's certainly not a secret I am keeping. I don't push AI because I don't think it's a viable method for anyone who doesn't need it to conceive.)

[atomic sagebrush]

Artificial insemination. It might sound weird but it's super easy actually. Some women know that their husbands have really high sperm counts, which sways boy, and use AI to only insert like half the semen and thus lower sperm count that way. I have always put as much as I could back in though, but of course a little is still lost in the cup and syringe.

I think a lot of women don't use AI because their husbands won't agree to it, but swaying girl was actually DH's idea so he's totally cool with it. I don't tell anyone in real life that I use this technique or even that I try to sway girl.

:agree: I have seen disaster after disaster with doing TBM type stuff. Not only with the husbands, not only with the lowered chance of conception, but with the women getting super control freakish about it. It is not a good method for those who don't need it and that is why I don't recommend it.