Desperate for blue dust

[polaris.kai]

I'm a terrible person. I just had my 2nd dd two months ago and we are so in love and love that we have sisters so close in age. But, today my bubble popped. Hadnt even thought of swaying since she was born and just have been in new baby bliss with my DH and first dd. But today, I saw someone whom I gave sway advice to announced a boy and the bubble popped and my heart dropped. She was in the same situation as me. Trying for number two less than a year after the first and still breastfeeding. So how is it fair that she gets that. My second daughter is a failed blue and I love her more than anything. It just breaks my heart seeing someone be successful in identical conditions that mine failed. I feel like this had cemented that I'll never be a boy mom and just have girls as I have heard the more girls you have the more likely it is you will keep having girls. I am in tears as I feel bad for feeling like this with two beautiful girls but my heart is broken as I feel I will never get my boy

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[atomic sagebrush]

At the end of it all, there's always going to be a huge luck factor. Two people can do pretty much the same thing and just have different outcomes because swaying just can't ever be 100% (if it was, the whole human race would have died out a long time ago!)

The best way to deal with these feelings is to keep in mind you don't want just any old baby boy - you want YOUR baby boy. What she gets doesn't matter because your boy is what you want. It really helps to keep that in mind (or at least it did for me.)

It's simply not true that the more girls you have you'll keep on having girls. That's not the case. WE have members on here who got boys after 4-5-6 and yes even EIGHT boys. My great grandma had 2 boys after 6 girls in a row!! It is still always possible. :heart:

[polaris.kai]

I appreciate your response atomic. Thank you so much it does help that I want my boy. But then it breaks my heart thinking it may never happen. Due to financial situation we may only get to have 3 maybe 4 would be stretching our capabilities and I would love our children regardless it still hurts. Not only that I would never get my boy but that I will have "failed to make a boy". I'm super competitive so hearing that along with the all girls comments would hurt me forever. I guess I just have to keep my fingers crossed and sway even harder for this next baby but I guess we wont be trying for awhile since it's better to have a longer gap for blue

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[atomic sagebrush]

We will do everything we can do to get you your boy!

[polaris.kai]

We will do everything we can do to get you your boy!Thank you so much! I really appreciate your support. Especially on days where I'm throwing myself a pity party your words make me feel not so alone and that I can pull myself out of it. I will definitely be leaning on you in 18 months-2 years from now (hopefully purchasing a plan with DH's support) when we start trying again since space is recommended for Blue. Until then is there any advice you have?

I've already made small lifestyle changes like having a hearty breakfast, switching to whole milk, and lots of leafy greens with Brianna's dressing (which is amazingly delicious and I regret not switching sooner. Swaying or not). I will continue my prenatal as I am breastfeeding (planning to stop around 9 mo to a year). DH stopped dipping so hopefully that helps sperm count and I will be tracking cycles as they come back so we have them down by thr time we start trying.

Also, I just want to thank you again for all your knowledge and this community you have formed. We obviously all love our children no matter what but only those here understand the ache of a desire gender and it's so nice to have a place not to feel alone.

Much love to you and this community <3 hoping everyone is staying safe despite the craziness going on in our world

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[atomic sagebrush]

Thank you so much!!! We are all in this crazy situation together - sending hugs and love and wishes for good health to everyone!!

[polaris.kai]

Hey! Just curious. We wont be swaying for over a year but we are trying to become as blue friendly as possible during this time leading up to it. Not doing the HE bc doing that for a year would kill me ;) but just healthier changed like I've started drinking v8 and making sure I have a leafy green salad once a day. I just have a few questions about supplements and diet things.
First off, I have started drinking collagen protein in my morning coffee. I will quit the coffee as we come up on swaying but is the collagen protein blue friendly? Also, I'll never go off my prenatal so I'm taking that and a vitamin d just bc with two littles and this quarantine we rarely go outside. Is that okay or is it too much vitamin d? Can too much vitamin d sway pink?
DH side of things: he has quit dipping and started taking a vitamin. On another thread I saw you talking about the centrum over 50 so that's what I got him but hes moaning amd groaning about the over 50 part LOL it's okay for 20 something Male to take that right? I told him a vitamins a vitamin but if he needs to stop I'll admit defeat. Also, how should hubby be working out for blue? I told him to avoid the bike but wasnt sure what else he should do.
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[polaris.kai]

Collagen protein taken once in morninghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20200416/4eb5bf2506769c70074043005422e3d7.jpg

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[polaris.kai]

Prenatal (just switched from womens one a day) can switch back if neededhttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20200416/ac7dd63ffcee3e94633954abdb3f63df.jpg

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[polaris.kai]

Started drinking once a day. Will probably continue to do this after swaying anyway bc I suck at veggieshttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20200416/c5a59e5f0b8a96ce1789b46d19636355.jpg

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[polaris.kai]

Thank you so much!!! We are all in this crazy situation together - sending hugs and love and wishes for good health to everyone!!Hey! Just curious. We wont be swaying for over a year but we are trying to become as blue friendly as possible during this time leading up to it. Not doing the HE bc doing that for a year would kill me [emoji6] but just healthier changed like I've started drinking v8 and making sure I have a leafy green salad once a day. I just have a few questions about supplements and diet things.

First off, I have started drinking collagen protein in my morning coffee. I will quit the coffee as we come up on swaying but is the collagen protein blue friendly? Also, I'll never go off my prenatal so I'm taking that and a vitamin d just bc with two littles and this quarantine we rarely go outside. Is that okay or is it too much vitamin d? Can too much vitamin d sway pink?

DH side of things: he has quit dipping and started taking a vitamin. On another thread I saw you talking about the centrum over 50 so that's what I got him but hes moaning amd groaning about the over 50 part LOL it's okay for 20 something Male to take that right? I told him a vitamins a vitamin but if he needs to stop I'll admit defeat. Also, how should hubby be working out for blue? I told him to avoid the bike but wasnt sure what else he should do.

Thanks in advance! Pics of diet additives added.

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[atomic sagebrush]

I am ok with collagen protein. I don't know how it sways since I haven't seen loads of people use it yet, but I assume it would be very much the same as the gelatin drink which sways blue.

How much Vit. D in total? Unfortunately the pics aren't showing up for me.

So many men worry about the "over 50" label! The standard one is fine if he really won't take it. But there is no difference, just a slightly better breakdown of the nutrients. They don't put anything in them that makes you turn into an old man or anything LOL!!

[atomic sagebrush]

oh sorry there are more questions on the first page!

Hubby can lift weights and swim or play sports. It's jogging and biking that are shown to be bad. He does need to take care not to get his "boys" too heated up by wearing tight underwear like a jock.

[atomic sagebrush]

oh sorry there are more questions on the first page!

Hubby can lift weights and swim or play sports. It's jogging and biking that are shown to be bad. He does need to take care not to get his "boys" too heated up by wearing tight underwear like a jock.

You don't need both those Vitamin D. I would just stick to the amount in prenatal. If you want you can add in the higher dose once or twice a week, not daily.

[atomic sagebrush]

oh sorry there are more questions on the first page!

Hubby can lift weights and swim or play sports. It's jogging and biking that are shown to be bad. He does need to take care not to get his "boys" too heated up by wearing tight underwear like a jock.

You don't need both those Vitamin D. I would just stick to the amount in prenatal. If you want you can add in the higher dose once or twice a week, not daily.

[polaris.kai]

oh sorry there are more questions on the first page!

Hubby can lift weights and swim or play sports. It's jogging and biking that are shown to be bad. He does need to take care not to get his "boys" too heated up by wearing tight underwear like a jock.

You don't need both those Vitamin D. I would just stick to the amount in prenatal. If you want you can add in the higher dose once or twice a week, not daily.Perfect thank you so much!!! I will continue with all the blue friendly stuff and back off on the vitamin d to once or twice a week! And I will let Hubby know [emoji23] he is such a baby about the over 50 label I think it is funny. Thank you again!

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[atomic sagebrush]

Lots of guys have an issue with them! The under 50 ones are still good if you can't get him to take them

[polaris.kai]

Lots of guys have an issue with them! The under 50 ones are still good if you can't get him to take themHey atomic! He started taking those after only a little convincing that they wouldnt turn him gray LOL :)
Two friends from my hometown announced boys in the past week ;( makes me sad seeing others get what they want with no struggle but just makes me more determined to be as boy friendly as possible.

I've started to lean my diet more blue friendly just as a precaution. When we get closer to trying I will up my calories to the HE diet but presently I'm htting between 1500 to 2000 daily (tracked on MFP). For breakfast I have oatmeal and sometimes scrambled eggs. Lunch is tuna once a week and then usually chicken or lunch meat. Dinners we eat a lot of chicken but will have salmon, steak amd ground beef in there as well (when we start HE it will be a lot of red meat). I have a V8 everyday and my snacks are usually almonds, nuts or dried fruit. Rn I still have coffee in the morning with my collagen protein. Is there anything I can do to be more blue friendly rn without going HE. I will do that 8 weeks out from trying but right now I just want to have all my bases covered. Do I need to add in some dairy? Rn I dont do a lot of that but will a glass of whole milk or something sway pink?

Right now I think the only thing working against me is I'm breastfeeding and so we will have to wait awhile after I'm done so I can replenish everything lol

Thanks in advance. I know I'm being slightly neurotic but I want to have a solid diet plan for at least a year before trying so I'm not deficient in anything and then when we go HE it will be easier to just up portion sizes or cut time down between snacks and meals. I'm just so determined to get this right so I can stop beating myself up for "not making a boy".



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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes that's the one thing that still gets to me too - when people just seem to have it handed to them very easily, especially when they have a lot of other good things going for them, or they act like they did something amazing.

I do like to see you guys having some full fat dairy when you can. Doesn't need to be daily!

What about exercise?

Everything is looking great to me so far!!

[polaris.kai]

Yes that's the one thing that still gets to me too - when people just seem to have it handed to them very easily, especially when they have a lot of other good things going for them, or they act like they did something amazing.

I do like to see you guys having some full fat dairy when you can. Doesn't need to be daily!

What about exercise?

Everything is looking great to me so far!!I love you for responding so quickly [emoji23] I'm on one of my sway kicks rn so I'm tweaking everything to be EVEN MORE blue friendly lol

So with that suggestion I think I'm going to switch from coffee to twinings english breakfast tea with a tablespoon or so of whole milk every morning and then if I feel like it have cheese or a glass of milk later in the day. So my boy friendly drinks throughout the day will be: lemon water, english breakfast tea with whole milk (collagen protein added), a v8 and lots of water!

Exercise is focusing on more muscle building stuff but I still like to get my heart rate pumping so its HIIT like. It's like do 1 min of squats then 30 sec rest then 1 min of bicep curls. Stuff like that. I've also been working on a lot of strength bc I want to be able to do a pull ups and my yoga inversion poses like headstands and stuff again. So I think that will help with exercise and the dominance theory as well!

DH and I are doing really well with our vitamins but are looking to add a probiotic as well. Do you have any suggestions of things we need to make sure are in the ingredients or ingredients to avoid that might sway pink?

Thank you so much!! :) <3

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[atomic sagebrush]

Any of the probiotics will sway blue. That notion that "acidophilus sways pink" was never proven one iota, and after having seen our results with people taking it for pink sways in the 40% range at first, we now use probiotics (including acidophilus) exclusively for blue.

[atomic sagebrush]

And everything else is looking great! So happy to help!

[polaris.kai]

Thank you! I so appreciate it!

So due to stuff out of my control and none of the usual tricks working I am already weaning my DD at 4 months bc of supply issues. I hate that I had to switch her early, but silver lining will be a smaller gap between 2 and third kids. I wanted to wait a year after breastfeeding and now that time table has moved up! We will be ttc when DD is 18 months and this means I will have been done breastfeeding for 14 months. That sways blue right?

Also, to become more blue friendly without doing full HE yet (dont want to gain a ton of weight) I have switched from coffee to black tea. Specifically Twinings English Breakfast. I want to have it every morning with my collagen protein and add a splash of milk (1T) and 1/2 tsp of sugar for taste. Is that blue? Or do I need to cut out the sugar?

As always thank you so much! You are a saint for sharing your knowledge and helping all us women improve our chances <3

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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes that's a great gap for blue sways! I'm sorry nursing didn't go according to plan. :heart:

Yes that's absolutely fine to have the tea with sugar in the morning. I ALWAYS had that with all four of my boys (in fact it's one of the few things that was truly constant between all of them) with the sugar.

[polaris.kai]

Thanks! Surprisingly transitioning her to bottles and my switch from coffee was all less painless than I thought it would be! I have one sometimes two cups of tea a day, my husband and I are on the suggested supplements and I'm slowly getting towards my goals fitness wise. Now all there is to do is wait for the age gap and start HE!

I do have a question about the dominance theory though. Have you had women have successful blue sways without the dominant attitude? I am naturally competitive but I guess not enough since I've had 2 girls?

In the past two weeks I have seen 6 boy announcements [emoji24] everyone around us is having boys and I'm just down in the dumps scared its never going to happen for me, that I'll be left out of the boy mom club and that I'll never give my DH a boy. I'm patiently waiting for my boy but I get so down and then I panic that I'm down and effecting that "can do" competitive attitude [emoji85] help haha

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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes, many times. The personality stuff is very much less important than the diet/exercise stuff.

Please don't panic over not having the "right" attitude. That just aggravates your negative feelings!! No matter how many people have had boys around you I promise you can still have a boy yourself. It doesn't do anything to change your chances!

[polaris.kai]

Yes, many times. The personality stuff is very much less important than the diet/exercise stuff.

Please don't panic over not having the "right" attitude. That just aggravates your negative feelings!! No matter how many people have had boys around you I promise you can still have a boy yourself. It doesn't do anything to change your chances!Thank you that is great news! [emoji4]



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[polaris.kai]

Sorry for the rant but I have been treating this as my diary as I have no one real world to vent to [emoji24] I am down. I've been letting things slip in my sway even though we are a year out. The boy lifestyle is hard for me. Recently I've let the diet and exercise really slip with baby busy ness. And with all this covid nonsense we havent been able to visit family. No one has even met my now six month old yet [emoji24] I started having wine as a de stresser in the evenings and stopped making my tea out of laziness. I'm hoping we can see family sometime this summer as a "reset" to brighten me up and get me back on track but even then I havent gotten my period back yet and we are a year out from trying [emoji174] I wanted to be "fertile" for a full year out so I could track and really get my cycle down but it hasnt come back yet and my daughter has been weaned for two whole months. I know it doesnt help stressing over it but I am a control freak/planner and so I really wanted to start tracking by now [emoji24][emoji24][emoji24]

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[atomic sagebrush]

Deep breath! Hugest hugs, I know things are so hard for all of us now with the world so crazy.

There is absolutely no benefit to tracking your cycle for a year prior to TTC. You're disappointed about not meeting a goal that is not at all necessary. Just let that go. That has never been necessary and when people do it, it often causes stress and confusion because cycles can change. Being a control freak is good for blue but not if it ends up with you making goals that are not necessary and aren't reachable!

It is not unusual when you're still in the postpartum period (and 6 months is in that period!) to not have your cycle resume even when not nursing. That's ok!

A glass of wine now and then is no biggie for a blue sway. Just regroup with that and the tea, those are easy changes to make and I suspect will make you feel more in control of the rest of it.

You have plenty, plenty of time still! I promise that this is all ok and nothing is even wrong with the way things are going. Just do little things over time and I suspect that succeeding at one thing (even something small like having 1 cup of tea daily) will make you feel more capable of doing the other things too. :)

[polaris.kai]

I dont know why I didnt see this thank you so much for the support!

Came to enter another "diary entry" haha enjoying vacation stress free and we will start up again when we get home as we are about a year out now that we have a six month old!

But :( his cousin had a suprise gender reveal at a picnic and of course it is their second boy ;( drank a little more after that announcement. AND *eyeroll* his sister is pregnant again and she "hopes it's a boy bc she just cant do another girl"

I'm just so sick of the shame for girls. If I have all girls I would be happy to have healthy kids but the comments just cut me.

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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes that's the thing - SO MANY of us would be perfectly fine with our same-gender families if not for everyone acting like we've lost the Game of Life or something!!! It's just ridiculous because we all look at those same gender families from the outide and think they're amazing!! I remember before I had any gender desire, seeing families with all boys and all girls and thinking they were interesting and looked fun to be a part of.

[polaris.kai]

Yes that's the thing - SO MANY of us would be perfectly fine with our same-gender families if not for everyone acting like we've lost the Game of Life or something!!! It's just ridiculous because we all look at those same gender families from the outide and think they're amazing!! I remember before I had any gender desire, seeing families with all boys and all girls and thinking they were interesting and looked fun to be a part of.Right ;( people suck. Thank you for always being a guiding light.

Also, you were right I had nothing to worry about. I got my period back four days after my DD turned six months old. We have been slacking on our vacation but dont feel guilty since we are a year out. We talked about trying when our daughter turns one but I really want to wait the full 18 months and then it will be better timing for a summer baby hopefully

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[atomic sagebrush]

Oh good, that's great news! Please let me know how I can help!

[polaris.kai]

Oh good, that's great news! Please let me know how I can help!Quick questions!

(To save money) is it okay to start a probiotic 8 weeks before ttc? Or should I start it now so I'm good to go when we start trying?

Also, what is the current findings on fish oil for blue? I take one a day and vitamin d on the days I dont feel like I get outside enough but do I need to add a fish oil in as well?

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[Abifasc]

I’ll just add that I have 4 sons and took fish oil daily. It’s super good for you- I’m very into anything that boosts your immune system or balanced hormones hormones so I used to take a ton of supplements!!


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[atomic sagebrush]

:agree: yes absolutely feel free to start the probiotics 8 weeks in advance and even to take every other day. They will still be of benefit.

I do still like you guys to do fish oil to help ensure you are getting more animal based fat than vegetable based. But we have reduced the suggested dose to no more than 500 mg daily because too high a dose of fish oil may actually lower cholesterol (and we need that cholesterol to make sex hormones) not to mention that higher doses were causing a lot of bleeding issues and may even contribute to losses (blood not clotting is bad as a pregnancy is developing)

[polaris.kai]

I’ll just add that I have 4 sons and took fish oil daily. It’s super good for you- I’m very into anything that boosts your immune system or balanced hormones hormones so I used to take a ton of supplements!!


Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkThank you! If you dont mind sharing what supplements do you take? Or did when you had 4 boys. I'm looking into good brands and sounds like you had some good ones! :)

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[polaris.kai]

:agree: yes absolutely feel free to start the probiotics 8 weeks in advance and even to take every other day. They will still be of benefit.

I do still like you guys to do fish oil to help ensure you are getting more animal based fat than vegetable based. But we have reduced the suggested dose to no more than 500 mg daily because too high a dose of fish oil may actually lower cholesterol (and we need that cholesterol to make sex hormones) not to mention that higher doses were causing a lot of bleeding issues and may even contribute to losses (blood not clotting is bad as a pregnancy is developing)Great thank you! Our plan for supplements for me will be:

Daily prenatal

Folate

Probiotic

Fish oil

Vitamin d. (on days I dont get outside much) what would be recommended dosage for vitamin d?

For Hubby:
centrum over 50 daily,
probiotic

Should he start taking anything else daily? Will vitamin d help him? Should he take zinc or anything?

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[Abifasc]

Thank you! If you dont mind sharing what supplements do you take? Or did when you had 4 boys. I'm looking into good brands and sounds like you had some good ones! :)

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I don’t remember what brands, but I know I took fish oil, apple cider vinegar, vitamins b, c, d, echinacea and zinc. Basically if it boosted my immune system or balanced my hormones I took it [emoji170].
I had 3 meals a day, lots of meat and eggs, coffee was with heavy whipping cream and I didn’t intentionally exercise. I drank a lot of green tea and Gatorade. All my boys were conceived with one attempt at +opk after long abstains.
Hope this helps!


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[polaris.kai]

I don’t remember what brands, but I know I took fish oil, apple cider vinegar, vitamins b, c, d, echinacea and zinc. Basically if it boosted my immune system or balanced my hormones I took it [emoji170].
I had 3 meals a day, lots of meat and eggs, coffee was with heavy whipping cream and I didn’t intentionally exercise. I drank a lot of green tea and Gatorade. All my boys were conceived with one attempt at +opk after long abstains.
Hope this helps!


Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkYes it does thank you! What kind of vitamin b did you take? Or did you just take a general vitamin b complex with all included?

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[Abifasc]

Yes it does thank you! What kind of vitamin b did you take? Or did you just take a general vitamin b complex with all included?

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I think it was b12? I was taking it for some ppd I had at one time and then anxiety I experienced after a family trauma. So whatever one helps with that [emoji3526].


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[atomic sagebrush]

Great thank you! Our plan for supplements for me will be:

Daily prenatal

Folate

Probiotic

Fish oil

Vitamin d. (on days I dont get outside much) what would be recommended dosage for vitamin d?

For Hubby:
centrum over 50 daily,
probiotic

Should he start taking anything else daily? Will vitamin d help him? Should he take zinc or anything?

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I don't want you guys taking any additoinal nutrients beyond what is in the multivitamins - those will be enough for you. NO additional zinc for hubby we have had poor results iwth that.

Have you considered the arginine and carnitine for him?? I don't think they're mandatory but may help.

[polaris.kai]

I don't want you guys taking any additoinal nutrients beyond what is in the multivitamins - those will be enough for you. NO additional zinc for hubby we have had poor results iwth that.

Have you considered the arginine and carnitine for him?? I don't think they're mandatory but may help.No. I have seen those mentioned in other posts but I have absolutely no idea what they do [emoji1787] he is weird about pills anyway so we may just have him stick to the basics with the centrum over 50, probiotic and fish oil and not overwhelm him

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Sorry to double post but I treat this thread like my diary [emoji1787] I need to just type this out somewhere because my husband doesnt understand (but thankfully he follows all the sway stuff I throw at him). Literally everyone announcing is having boys. All the people my husband work with. All my friends back home. My sister in law. Even the chick I follow on instagram. WHAT. THE BALLS. I truly believe we are having our boy next bc we have changed so much shit and we are waiting for a nice long gap since I just had my daughter in Jan. But damn. Like if we dont try right now are we going to miss out on all this boy energy?? [emoji28] (kidding I know theres no such thing) but what the fuck. It's so not fair. And seeing all these announcements breaks me, and then motivates me to commit to my sway but I'm feeling left out. I just want it to happen for us. I want to stop feeling like a failure since bOYz arE EAsY tO ConCeIVe (insert eyeroll). I want to be able to give my husband a son. I want to be able to carry on the last name. I know it's all trivial but it's what I want and it kills my competitive side that I'm failing. I want our boy and I want to just have all this pressure off

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[atomic sagebrush]

The arginine and carnitine are naturally occurring amino acids that are found in foods and produced by the body. So if your husband isn't into taking more pills, that's NBD, just give him more meaty goodness LOL and his body will take care of it on its own. :)

[atomic sagebrush]

Oh girl I so totally understand!! The ladies I was TTC with when I got DS 4 - they ALL GOT GIRLS but me and one other girl who hadn't even been swaying. I couldn't help but think well, that's it, all the girls are used up, and I'll never have one now but then in the end I did!

Over the course of the past 12 years hanging out on these sites one thing I know for sure, is that no matter how the outcome looks for one little group if you take a step back and look at a different group or a bigger group, the gender ratio does always come out to be 50-50. So even if you know 10 people and all 10 are having boys, if you take a step back and look at 20 people you would likely find that they're all having girls, and if you take another step back and look at the whole neighborhood it would be 50-50, and so on.

It's like if you had some m and m's and half were pink and half were blue, and you scooped them out with your hand, sometimes you might get a handful where they were all or nearly all blue, or all or nearly all pink, even though you knew you put in the exact same number of pinks and blues! and that's just from sheer luck - doesn't even take into account that sometimes friend groups have similar lifestyles that may sway.

Long story short, I promise that the gender makeup of the people you know doens't mean all the boys are used up or that you're missing out on boy energy right now!

[polaris.kai]

Oh girl I so totally understand!! The ladies I was TTC with when I got DS 4 - they ALL GOT GIRLS but me and one other girl who hadn't even been swaying. I couldn't help but think well, that's it, all the girls are used up, and I'll never have one now but then in the end I did!

Over the course of the past 12 years hanging out on these sites one thing I know for sure, is that no matter how the outcome looks for one little group if you take a step back and look at a different group or a bigger group, the gender ratio does always come out to be 50-50. So even if you know 10 people and all 10 are having boys, if you take a step back and look at 20 people you would likely find that they're all having girls, and if you take another step back and look at the whole neighborhood it would be 50-50, and so on.

It's like if you had some m and m's and half were pink and half were blue, and you scooped them out with your hand, sometimes you might get a handful where they were all or nearly all blue, or all or nearly all pink, even though you knew you put in the exact same number of pinks and blues! and that's just from sheer luck - doesn't even take into account that sometimes friend groups have similar lifestyles that may sway.

Long story short, I promise that the gender makeup of the people you know doens't mean all the boys are used up or that you're missing out on boy energy right now!Thank you so much [emoji24] really needed to hear this right now. I feel so lame because we arent even trying until next fall but STILL [emoji28][emoji28] thank you. It really gives me hope. With everyone getting their turn I believe ours is coming. Though I doubt my own thinking because I dont want to set myself up for heartbreak



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[polaris.kai]

Hey atomic I know I blow up my thread a lot and we are a long way from trying but I have zero females in my life to talk to [emoji24]

Is it normal to have weird periods after delivering? I know you said earlier I was still in the stage where it was normal to not be normal. But I had a full on period last month (end july) for six days and then nothing this month. Pre baby I was usually 30 ish days and I have now gone past that and am at day 39 of this cycle. I tried to track my cervix position and mucus but it is all over the place (maybe ovulated day like 21?) so there is no way of telling when or if I ovulated so idk where I'm at in this cycle.

Has this happened to anyone else? Do I need to just be patient and wait for my periods to level off? I'm currently being tested for fibromyalgia so I've had labs done and all look normal so it's not my thyroid or anything. Please help because google gives me nothing and I have no women in my life

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[atomic sagebrush]

no not at all, you hardly ask me anything LOL

It is TOTALLY normal to have spotty cycles even for a year or more after delivery. With two of my five kids I had my period come back and then go away again only to return a few months later. Nothing unusual there at all.

I would not bother with CM and CP. It's too unreliable when you're having irregular cycles and it's best to just not be poking around in your cervix very much. You can have things called "practice cycles" too which is when your body basically goes through the motions of ovulation, even makes EWCM and gives you all the other symptoms too, but doesn't ovulate. So then it really seems like O happened but it was just that the hormones were there and then went away again. I had a practice cycle once after delivering and it more "real" than a lot of my actual ovulations were - I had EVERY symptom of ovulation, and then even had a mood shift afterwards but then my period never came. I even went to the doctor and he told me that was something he sees quite a bit.

[atomic sagebrush]

And NEVER hesitate asking me anything or just if you want to chat. It's what I'm here for.

[polaris.kai]

And NEVER hesitate asking me anything or just if you want to chat. It's what I'm here for.Thank you so so much! That's so crazy that our bodies do that. I will stop expecting it then. I just figured when it was back it was back!

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[polaris.kai]

Does almond milk sway pink for males too?

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[atomic sagebrush]

Does almond milk sway pink for males too?

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we aren't sure, but we believe it probably does.

[atomic sagebrush]

Does almond milk sway pink for males too?

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we aren't sure, but we believe it probably does.

[polaris.kai]

One of my favorite Instagram people that owns a supplement company just had her second boy so BRB while I go buy every supplement she was taking [emoji24] it is season of the boy and I am salty [emoji28]

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[polaris.kai]

Posting here because I don't know where else to say it but I am devastated. I hadn't had a period in awhile so I took a test just in case and it was positive. We want more kids but this was so unplanned and I know its a girl because my periods weren't regular and we weren't doing anything to sway yet. My biggest reason I'm upset is because my dd2 is just a baby and I wanted to enjoy her as a baby for longer. We weren't going to try until she was 18 months so we could enjoy her being little. I just don't understand. We were so careful using condoms and tracking my cervical mucous but I guess life finds a way. Guess ill be having a girl in June and trying to soak in time with my second daughter before the third gets here

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[atomic sagebrush]

OH GOSH Polaris I just now saw this, this has been a crazy week for me. I am SO SORRY I didn't get back to you right away, and also that you're going through so much!

You don't know yet what the gender will be. It could still absolutely be a boy. But I do completely understand that it's hard when you wanted to have more time with your little one before a new baby came.

Sending you all the blue dust I can get together!

[polaris.kai]

OH GOSH Polaris I just now saw this, this has been a crazy week for me. I am SO SORRY I didn't get back to you right away, and also that you're going through so much!

You don't know yet what the gender will be. It could still absolutely be a boy. But I do completely understand that it's hard when you wanted to have more time with your little one before a new baby came.

Sending you all the blue dust I can get together!Thank you. Could be something with tapatalk because I just saw this too. I am trying very hard not to fall into the pit of despair but also not get my hopes up for a boy. It is a very hard balance [emoji28] I'm trying very hard not to symptoms spot but I am very sick just like with my last girls. Hopefully it is just me being pregnant. We were very good about taking our multivitamin, eating healthy and having sex every 3 days but on the flip side I think we only had one in the fertile window and it was a pull out. I also switched to black tea and v8 everyday. No coffee or alcohol ever so a little part of me is still holding on that hopefully those diet changes were enough. Thank you so much for the blue dust hope it is enough [emoji4]

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[atomic sagebrush]

I don't use Tapatalk, I think it was just that I was busy and I missed the post. :heart:

You always have a chance of a boy no matter what and you did a LOT of great stuff for a boy. Plus, I am sending you an army of Smurfs carrying sacks of atomic blue dust (that's the good stuff!) Hang in there and we are here no matter what.

[polaris.kai]

I don't use Tapatalk, I think it was just that I was busy and I missed the post. [emoji813]

You always have a chance of a boy no matter what and you did a LOT of great stuff for a boy. Plus, I am sending you an army of Smurfs carrying sacks of atomic blue dust (that's the good stuff!) Hang in there and we are here no matter what.Ahhh! Thank you so much :) I really needed to hear that. Hopefully it goes our way. We should be able to do the nipt testing. Usually they don't do it but with my first daughter being high risk with a weird condition they tested us with our second. Hopefully, whatever OB we get listens to us and we can do it again with round 3 that way we don't have to pay for sneak peek or extra ultrasound! The wait may kill me though. I have no idea how long my cycle was going to be and my last cycle was 39 days so I'm anywhere between 5 to 7 weeks along depending on where ovulation happened [emoji28] still got awhile to go until any testing

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[atomic sagebrush]

:bluecheer: :bluecheer: :bluecheer: Hang in there!!!

[polaris.kai]

:bluecheer: :bluecheer: :bluecheer: Hang in there!!!Thank you [emoji3059][emoji3059] so I know I'm not supposed to symptoms spot because it os pointless but [emoji17] were you sick with any of your boys? I am extremely nauseous this time around as I was with my daughters so I was just wondering if it is still possible for blue

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[Abifasc]

Thank you [emoji3059][emoji3059] so I know I'm not supposed to symptoms spot because it os pointless but [emoji17] were you sick with any of your boys? I am extremely nauseous this time around as I was with my daughters so I was just wondering if it is still possible for blue

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I know this is for atomic, but I was Super very much sick with my first 4 boys. Nothing with boy #5.


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[polaris.kai]

I know this is for atomic, but I was Super very much sick with my first 4 boys. Nothing with boy #5.


Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkNo you're fine thank you so much! The only reason I asked her directly is because I don't think many other people see my thread [emoji1787] but it does help. I'm driving myself crazy symptoms spotting and I know its dumb because they mean nothing but I can't stop [emoji2962] I need to stop and just relax because I feel like I'm dying again [emoji1785]

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[Abifasc]

No you're fine thank you so much! The only reason I asked her directly is because I don't think many other people see my thread [emoji1787] but it does help. I'm driving myself crazy symptoms spotting and I know its dumb because they mean nothing but I can't stop [emoji2962] I need to stop and just relax because I feel like I'm dying again [emoji1785]

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I don’t blame you! I did it too which is why I thought my lack of symptoms meant I was finally getting my girl!


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[polaris.kai]

I don’t blame you! I did it too which is why I thought my lack of symptoms meant I was finally getting my girl!


Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkI was so sorry to hear your opposite [emoji17] and all the opposites in our due date group. Will be interesting to see of the rest of the June babies will be opposites too

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[Abifasc]

I’m not sad about him, but I want a daughter so badly. It’s a double feeling! I am sad so many of us got opposites.


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[polaris.kai]

I’m not sad about him, but I want a daughter so badly. It’s a double feeling! I am sad so many of us got opposites.


Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkI totally empathize with how you feel! I would be totally okay having another girl but the thought of never having a son is just heartbreaking [emoji174] [emoji24]

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[Abifasc]

I totally empathize with how you feel! I would be totally okay having another girl but the thought of never having a son is just heartbreaking [emoji174] [emoji24]

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I understand how you feel!!


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[polaris.kai]

Just got back from a small BBQ where no one knows we are pregnant yet but everyone kept telling us we need a boy, need to try for a boy [emoji24] cried on the way home because I feel like this is my third girl and there's nothing I can do about it and I feel like no one is going to be excited for us

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[Flowergirl]

Sending lots of love and hugs!! I would do anything to give you all my blue dust in exchange for your pink. I understand that longing and heartache for your DG. Praying you did get your little boy! :xy:

PS edited to add I’m so sure everyone would be excited for you regardless. Not a lot brings as much wonder and joy as a brand new baby xx

[atomic sagebrush]

It makes me so angry because there are so many women who want all girls. Why can't people just shut up and keep their opinion to themselves??

[polaris.kai]

Just here to type this out and vent. This is my only safe place as reddit cracks down on anyone once they mention gender at all.

I have gone down the rabbit hole and am so impatient to find out. I know just knowing will help so much (even if it is a girl and its starting the grieving process) but there's nothing I can do about it right now. I torture myself analyzing my symptoms which I know doesn't mean shit. On my bumpers group anytime anyone mentions a boy, I stalk their profile and see if they were nauseous or had bad skin or what the HR was which I know does nothing because my pregnancy and baby will be different because they are unique to me but UGH.

My husband tries to be supportive but he says he doesn't want to talk about the gender because he doesn't want to get his hopes up for either. He also is having a hard time connecting because no one is allowed at scans so its just meh for him which I totally sympathize with. But it's hard not having anyone to go totally crazy and word vomit all this to.

I know I would love a girl once she is here because I have done it twice before but I'm really struggling with the feelings of possible failure. This was unexpected (but welcomed) and it drives my control freak side crazy that I didn't get to do my sway that I had planned. I also just want to have a boy to shut everyone up. I'm so sick of the all girl comments. I'm so sick of having to hear about and constantly be reminded of "not being able to make a boy" which drives my control freak and competitive sides crazy because its not something I can control and its like people are mocking something I can't do.

I find slight comfort in the fact that the boy chances are slightly higher and that we made a lot of healthier changes even if it wasn't full on HE at the time. We were eating way healthier (oatmeal, spinach salads, home cooked meals), I quit coffee and drank black tea twice a day, both of us were taking suggested vitamins and my DH quit dipping for me [emoji177] we also were BD often and unprotected but the question that keeps me awake at night was IS IT ENOUGH. No idea when I ovulated so we probably only had one in the fertile. And I wasn't really exercising at the time besides some body weight yoga [emoji17] i guess we will wait and see but the waiting game is killing me.

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[atomic sagebrush]

But even if your sway had gone completely according to plan it can still not be enough. I think you changed a lot, and for all we know the fact htat you fell pregnant so easily may indicate you were more blue friendly to start with!

[Lilyblossom]

Just got back from a small BBQ where no one knows we are pregnant yet but everyone kept telling us we need a boy, need to try for a boy [emoji24] cried on the way home because I feel like this is my third girl and there's nothing I can do about it and I feel like no one is going to be excited for us

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Sorry to interrupt this post .. Just passing by to give you lotsa hugs and stay strong .. I'm mommies of 4 girls and trust me i've been thru all this and what i just did what stay away from all this sick mouth and god have better plan for us just pray for baby boy and it will comes when the times has come [emoji3590]


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[polaris.kai]

But even if your sway had gone completely according to plan it can still not be enough. I think you changed a lot, and for all we know the fact htat you fell pregnant so easily may indicate you were more blue friendly to start with!Thank you atomic! Hopefully that is the case for us [emoji120][emoji120][emoji1696][emoji1696][emoji1696] My NIPT stuff is on Monday some hopefully results come in soon after that

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[polaris.kai]

Sorry to interrupt this post .. Just passing by to give you lotsa hugs and stay strong .. I'm mommies of 4 girls and trust me i've been thru all this and what i just did what stay away from all this sick mouth and god have better plan for us just pray for baby boy and it will comes when the times has come [emoji3590]


Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkThank you [emoji3059][emoji3059][emoji3059][emoji173][emoji173]

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[polaris.kai]

Measuring right at 12wks. I know nubs mean nothing at this point but she said it looks really girly in the first pic [emoji24] harmony blood test is in so hopefully we will get those results quickly. Any skull theory guesses? These aren't the best pics as baby was being ornery https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20201130/38c14d96d293608970f43ddf057df458.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20201130/ee9828bd39cc073eef821025e227fc4f.jpg

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[Dina N]

Measuring right at 12wks. I know nubs mean nothing at this point but she said it looks really girly in the first pic [emoji24] harmony blood test is in so hopefully we will get those results quickly. Any skull theory guesses? These aren't the best pics as baby was being ornery https://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20201130/38c14d96d293608970f43ddf057df458.jpghttps://uploads.tapatalk-cdn.com/20201130/ee9828bd39cc073eef821025e227fc4f.jpg

Sent from my SM-G981U1 using TapatalkHi Polaris I'm not great at guessing nubs but 12 weeks is still early, nub could rise..
My sister in law had her scan at 12 plus 5 days and was told girl each time.... well she had a boy so its made me a little skeptical on nubs.
Your still in with the chance of hearing blue xxx

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[atomic sagebrush]

12 weeks is useless for guessing. Most babies still look like girls at this point.

I have seen nubs that I would have SWORN were girls rise even late in the 13th week. I never guess on 12 week nubs any more (and haven't for like 10 years now) because I saw so many boys that looked like girls at this point. :heart:

[polaris.kai]

12 weeks is useless for guessing. Most babies still look like girls at this point.

I have seen nubs that I would have SWORN were girls rise even late in the 13th week. I never guess on 12 week nubs any more (and haven't for like 10 years now) because I saw so many boys that looked like girls at this point. [emoji813]Thank you atomic [emoji173][emoji173][emoji173] I will try not to despair then [emoji28] but I've been trying to not get my hopes up as well. Balance, right?

Hopefully our blood results come quickly with the news we want to hear [emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170][emoji170]

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[polaris.kai]

Its another girl.

Thank you for all your help atomic. I didn't realize how high my hopes were until I saw my results were in and I am crushed. The fact that this baby was not planned was hard but I thought it being a boy would make it okay and now it isn't. We want 4 but I really feel like it will never happen for us unfortunately as now we have one more change and I don't like the 50/50 odds since we have failed again

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[atomic sagebrush]

How can we help?

[polaris.kai]

How can we help?You're amazing atomic. Just being here and continuing to have this amazing community of support and understanding

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[polaris.kai]

Hi atomic! Still creeping and loving this site! I have a quick question about the vitamin I'm taking. How do the ingredients look?? I love all the supplements from this company so I would love for the vitamin to be blue friendly for our next sway (in like a year or so) [emoji170]

It says take 2 for a normal multivitamin but 4 for pre/postnatal and breastfeeding. So I'll probably just take 4 all the time since our goal is to eventually get pregnant with a 4th.

Thanks so much and thanks for everything you do on this site [emoji4] [emoji173] 43443

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[atomic sagebrush]

Hi again polaris! Hope all is going well for you and yours!

Do you see how there are some vitamins in the hundreds, and even thousands of %? We don't want that. We want about 100% of all nutrients, and you can go up to 250% on Vitamin D. There is no reason for such high doses of those nutrients and the B6 in particular can make your cycle go absolutely crazy taking it in that high a dose.

Additionally, it has myoinositol, not a high dose but we have seen this sway pink for some people, and ginger, which I don't recommend because we don't know how it sways and there is not enough information about safety.

And there's no info about the digestive enzymes so I don't know how that sways either.

What you could do is simply take a smaller dose, which would be lower levels of the vitamins, the ginger/myoinositol, and the enzymes.

[polaris.kai]

Hi again polaris! Hope all is going well for you and yours!

Do you see how there are some vitamins in the hundreds, and even thousands of %? We don't want that. We want about 100% of all nutrients, and you can go up to 250% on Vitamin D. There is no reason for such high doses of those nutrients and the B6 in particular can make your cycle go absolutely crazy taking it in that high a dose.

Additionally, it has myoinositol, not a high dose but we have seen this sway pink for some people, and ginger, which I don't recommend because we don't know how it sways and there is not enough information about safety.

And there's no info about the digestive enzymes so I don't know how that sways either.

What you could do is simply take a smaller dose, which would be lower levels of the vitamins, the ginger/myoinositol, and the enzymes.Great! That is what I will do then is cut back on the dosage [emoji4] I do like it has everything in it including the coq10 [emoji4] I still creep on the site and will probably start bugging you closer to our sway. I told DH I get 2022 off but he wants a fall baby so we will probably shoot to get pregnant Dec-Feb in a year for a fall 2023 babe

Hope you enjoy the holidays as the year comes to an end. [emoji173]

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[atomic sagebrush]

I wish there was a vitamin that had all the nutrients without the megadoses and other stuff. If only the vitamin companies would beat a path to my door I would totally design one for them LOL!

Till then we have to make do taking lots of pills :/

Thank you! I hope you have a wonderful holiday season as well!!!

[polaris.kai]

I wish there was a vitamin that had all the nutrients without the megadoses and other stuff. If only the vitamin companies would beat a path to my door I would totally design one for them LOL!

Till then we have to make do taking lots of pills :/

Thank you! I hope you have a wonderful holiday season as well!!!Well we will be having our 4th girl in 2023 [emoji23] just found out DH will be deployed from July 2022 to Jan 2023. It will be perfect timing for him to come home and for us to have a deployment baby since we were aiming for the fall but since we won't be having regular sex the six months before conceiving I feel like it will kill our blue sway [emoji53][emoji53]

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[atomic sagebrush]

But in several studies (even dating back to the 1800s) they found that the babies conceived when men had been away in the service and even at war were BOYS!! Let's look at this as maybe the universe's way of helping out your sway!!

I hope and pray he stays safe while he's away and also that you are not too stressed out while he's gone. :heart: :heart: :heart:

[polaris.kai]

But in several studies (even dating back to the 1800s) they found that the babies conceived when men had been away in the service and even at war were BOYS!! Let's look at this as maybe the universe's way of helping out your sway!!

I hope and pray he stays safe while he's away and also that you are not too stressed out while he's gone. [emoji813] [emoji813] [emoji813]THAT WOULD BE AMAZING! I really hope it boosts our blue then!! [emoji170] I already have started a fitness plan and plan to stick to it the entire 2022 (not just for swaying, I want to be able to throw my own body weight around again) and will do other things to hopefully really help our sway! I'll keep you posted as it gets closer [emoji170]

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[atomic sagebrush]

Great!! Come on 2022!!!

[polaris.kai]

Great!! Come on 2022!!!Hiiii [emoji170]

We are still planning a sway for early next year. I am not doing HE right now but just changing some things for my overall health! I recently started researching a lot on hormone health and all that. And some of the suggested things include cleaning up ingredients you're exposed to! I didn't realize how many normal drugstore things have ingredients that have possible endocrine disruptions included [emoji85] so hopefully that overall gives us a little boost (I know it won't make or break)

Anyway for my real question [emoji23] they also suggested that a cup of bone broth in the morning is AMAZING for women and its something I am going to do because I didn't realize how many nutrients it contains. Has anyone included bone broth in their sway before? I did a search and nothing really popped up

Thanks [emoji16][emoji170][emoji170]

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[atomic sagebrush]

Well, just keep in mind they do profit from finding "endocrine disruptors" everywhere. Keeping people in this constant state of alarm means that all websites that get "clicks" from people, and especially those who sell products (and even if they don't do that on any given site, they may have OTHER businesses that are profiting) that don't have those ingredients, or supplements that supposedly counteract the "endocrine disruptors". It's fine to research and avoid some products if that makes you feel more comfortable and also if you can afford it, but if something happens and you fall a bit short, have to buy the more affordable lotion or whatever, you have not ruined your health or your sway!

Bone broth has been used by some people in blue sways (and I have people use it more sparingly for pink). Interestingly, I have always made soup based on boiling bones (with the exception of my first son) - I make it at least 2x a month, more in wintertime - and even tho I haven't ever boiled it as long as the bone broth people do, I did get three boys that way (I had it much less, probably not at all when I got my daughter as we were traveling that whole summer before I conceived her). It is something I think is quite healthy and definitely good for blue. I do have a thread on making your own broth and why it is probably good for blue in the Dream Members section, I'll message it to you.

[polaris.kai]

Well, just keep in mind they do profit from finding "endocrine disruptors" everywhere. Keeping people in this constant state of alarm means that all websites that get "clicks" from people, and especially those who sell products (and even if they don't do that on any given site, they may have OTHER businesses that are profiting) that don't have those ingredients, or supplements that supposedly counteract the "endocrine disruptors". It's fine to research and avoid some products if that makes you feel more comfortable and also if you can afford it, but if something happens and you fall a bit short, have to buy the more affordable lotion or whatever, you have not ruined your health or your sway!

Bone broth has been used by some people in blue sways (and I have people use it more sparingly for pink). Interestingly, I have always made soup based on boiling bones (with the exception of my first son) - I make it at least 2x a month, more in wintertime - and even tho I haven't ever boiled it as long as the bone broth people do, I did get three boys that way (I had it much less, probably not at all when I got my daughter as we were traveling that whole summer before I conceived her). It is something I think is quite healthy and definitely good for blue. I do have a thread on making your own broth and why it is probably good for blue in the Dream Members section, I'll message it to you.Thank you! I will definitely keep that in mind and not break the bank over something that does not greatly effect it! I need a change anyway since I've been using the same stuff for forever [emoji23] I saw the bone broth and will probably do that here and there ! Thank you [emoji3059]

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[atomic sagebrush]

Brilliant! Let me know how I can help!

[polaris.kai]

Brilliant! Let me know how I can help!Thank you! Will definitely be bugging you more as we get closer [emoji23] right now we're just adjusting habits and making a plan for while he is deployed (and trying to avoid getting pregnant)

His job while gone: eat as healthy as he can at the chow hall, lift weights, take vitamins and keep the jelly bean factory going

Mine: try to keep stress low, eat a broad and clean diet, drink tea, take vitamins and strength based workouts

I'm worried that being apart for six months will be what hurts our sway but he has strict orders to keep production going so his sperm count doesnt drop[emoji23][emoji23][emoji23][emoji23] I'm hoping that way the "coming home from war" theory works in our favor for blue.

Will definitely spam you with more details as we get closer

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[atomic sagebrush]

I do too!!! It was observed and remarked upon even back in the times of Charles Darwin so there HAS to be something to it!! FXFXFX and so much blue dust comin' at ya!

[Thefinalcountdown]

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[LMSM]

Polaris - where are you at with swaying?? Is your hubby back now???
I will hopefully TTC July/August this year- and since I am having a big surgery next week, will be out of action with very likely weight and muscle loss from not being able to eat much and be active for 4-6+ weeks...
so hoping getting back full steam post recovery/ getting back to BD with hubby (since I doubt there will be much while recovering) will give me the "back home from war" effect LOL