Dating scan gender confusion

[Emmaknightley]

Hi, I’m 13+3 weeks.

I just had my first dating scan, and kind of begged the sonographer to tell me if it’s a boy or girl.

She did an initial potty shot which deffo showed something between the legs. And then she said “it’s a boy”. But then the long bit disappeared and kept reappearing. Then she said it was the umbilical cord between the legs.

She then checked blood flow to that area and said it’s a girl?

I’m so confused. Is it a boy or a girl? I really couldn’t tell myself because that “long bit” kept appearing/reappearing as she moved the scan.

I do have scan pictures but no pictures of the potty shot.

I’m so confused and don’t know whether to raise my hopes.

Thanks for any advice


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[Emmaknightley]

I think also I feel disheartened because she kept changing her mind and wasn’t definitively sure.


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[atomic sagebrush]

No sonographer worth their salt should do a potty shot for gender at 13+3 weeks. That's a sign they do not know what they're talking about. Please don't listen to anything they told you as it is meaningless for gender.

Do you have a picture of the nub?

[atomic sagebrush]

I think also I feel disheartened because she kept changing her mind and wasn’t definitively sure.


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She was clearly not adequately trained in methods of determining gender at this gestation and was just guessing. Do you have a nub shot (baby from the side with the genitals visible?)

[Emmaknightley]

Hi,

Oh that’s a shame I was really hoping she was right about girl because of blood flow.

Here’s my normal non potty shot pics:


I hope they’re useful.

Thanks


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[atomic sagebrush]

The nub is not visible in the top pic, that bulge I think is the leg bone.

Second pic is a little confusing to me, while I do see a long, pointed down nub which looks girly, at the same time it seems a little "stacked" to me which can mean boy. I'm sorry gotta go 50-50 on this, I wish I could be of more help.

[Emmaknightley]

Hi

Thanks for replying.

I think that downward nub is the umbilical cord between the legs.

I guess I’m back to where I started with not knowing the sex of the baby! I’ll have to wait for the next scan I guess!

Thanks for your help


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[atomic sagebrush]

It may be PARTLY the umbilical cord but the most bottom part looks like a downward curving girl nub to me. It is possible that the stuff on top of that is the cord, but I don't want to get your hopes up because the truth is we can't know for sure, and if it's a penis and testicles forming I don't want to tell you girl only to have you get really upset if it isn't.

[Emmaknightley]

Thanks a lot, I’ll keep you updated when I know for sure.


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[ksmom]

I agree with Atomic. The tech never should have told you gender at this stage. I'm sorry she did that, it was unprofessional. The top pic doesn't show the nub and the bottom pic it looks there's nub there but it looks cut off as it just abruptly ends. The nub from what I can see does appear flat but again, it's not all showing so I can't say either way. Good luck, I hope you get the gender you're hoping for.

[Emmaknightley]

Hi I just remembered I had a scan at 10 weeks 1 day.

Might show some sort of nub? Or maybe too early.

I won’t get my hopes up though because I know it’s probably too early to tell.



What’s your thoughts about doing a 16 week scan. Some places are providing private gender scan at 16 weeks and I don’t know how accurate they are? Or should I just wait for 18 weeks.

Thanks for all your help.


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[ksmom]

10 weeks is too early for nub guesses because boys and girls look the same. Around 13 weeks is best. As for a gender scan, 16 weeks is probably the earliest anyone should get one. Personally, I had one with DS2 at 16 weeks and everyone here guessed girl based on the potty shot (you can find the post I made about by looking at my post history). It really got my hopes up. If you think you can wait a couple weeks more and do it at 18 weeks then do that but if you're really antsy and want to do it sooner then you can. I'd get a few different potty shots to be more certain.

[atomic sagebrush]

Yep sorry, it's too early then. Boys and girls have identical bits at that stage of gestation.

I agree with ks mom. Just wait. That way you'll know for sure and won't have any chance of having your hopes raised and then dashed.

[Emmaknightley]

Hi,

Ok I’d rather not get my hopes up, because I think that would hurt more if they tell me it’s a girl and then it isn’t.

I shall just wait until 20 weeks and hopefully it will be more accurate then.

Thanks for all the advice!


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[atomic sagebrush]

I know it's a hard wait but the truth is there is NOTHING so devastating as people who are told one thing only to find out the opposite. FX for pink for you!