goldielock615
March 22nd, 2021, 11:58 AM
Hi All,
I posted in the member forum for quite some time, after 3 boys I have a ~8 month old daughter from IVF. I am happy to say that all my anxiety resolved around not having a daughter very soon after conception. I was worried I would find something new to fixate on, but I have not. I think I truly wanted a daughter and having one resolved the biggest anxiety in my life.
I have 2 more XX embryos and another 2 XX low mosaics. We always said we were going to have 4 kids. I assumed once I had her I would feel complete and "know" that I was done. But it's been the opposite, I still think about my embryos and if we should transfer one. I thought having 4 would be craziness, but it's actually been quite calm. I am not sure if adding a fifth would feel the same or if it would spiral us into chaos. Maybe I just thrive in chaos and cannot accept anything less.
I work full-time at a rigorous job. That said, I feel like I can easily add a fifth without any drastic changes to our life.
Money is not an issue and we have plenty of space. My biggest concern is the logistics of vacations, summer camps, extracurriculars, etc.
If you had your dream gender, did you feel done afterwards? How do you know if you are "done"?
@Pepper probably isn't around often but I am pretty sure she was in a similar situation and transferred embryo for #5, if you ever check in I'd love your thoughts.
I posted in the member forum for quite some time, after 3 boys I have a ~8 month old daughter from IVF. I am happy to say that all my anxiety resolved around not having a daughter very soon after conception. I was worried I would find something new to fixate on, but I have not. I think I truly wanted a daughter and having one resolved the biggest anxiety in my life.
I have 2 more XX embryos and another 2 XX low mosaics. We always said we were going to have 4 kids. I assumed once I had her I would feel complete and "know" that I was done. But it's been the opposite, I still think about my embryos and if we should transfer one. I thought having 4 would be craziness, but it's actually been quite calm. I am not sure if adding a fifth would feel the same or if it would spiral us into chaos. Maybe I just thrive in chaos and cannot accept anything less.
I work full-time at a rigorous job. That said, I feel like I can easily add a fifth without any drastic changes to our life.
Money is not an issue and we have plenty of space. My biggest concern is the logistics of vacations, summer camps, extracurriculars, etc.
If you had your dream gender, did you feel done afterwards? How do you know if you are "done"?
@Pepper probably isn't around often but I am pretty sure she was in a similar situation and transferred embryo for #5, if you ever check in I'd love your thoughts.