Boy moms and periods

[Thefinalcountdown]

How many months pp did your cycles return? And how many cycles till next pregnancy?


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[LMSM]

I asked myself the same question and seems often boy mums tend to nurse and get pregnant not long after their first PP returns – assume because of overall heightened fertility? hence why I was hoping for my AF to return later as am not ready TTC yet :P

[LindaLaetitia]

Hey i have only 2 boys last time trying. But i got my period back every time about a months after i had stopped breastfeeding. I dont get AF back while BF.
I got pregnant very easily first or second cycle TTC. With my girls it where 2-3 cycles - not really longer. Last boy it was the first cycle after giving birth 7 Months pp - i stopped breastfeeding at 6 months, because there where a lot of problems.

[atomic sagebrush]

I don't have my notes in front of me right now but I ~think~ this is right, if I'm off by a month or so, this is still basically the pattern I experienced.

First boy: I went right into having periods with hardly any delay at all, had what seemed to be a period after about 10 weeks (I had PP bleeding for 8 full weeks, then it stopped and I had a period 2 weeks later)

Second boy: Four months had a period, it went away for a few more weeks and I thought I might be pregnant, but then it came back and stayed back (so maybe 6 months it came back for good)

Third boy: I had a period at seven months, it went away again, never came back and I just got pregnant with my 4th son without ever getting another period (they're 22 months apart, but it's too hot to do the math on that, LOL)

4th boy: My period did not come back for a long time. I was nursing both 3rd and 4th boy at this time, which probably explains it, but I was also quite a lot older then. Didn't come back till the 18 month mark.

[atomic sagebrush]

I asked myself the same question and seems often boy mums tend to nurse and get pregnant not long after their first PP returns – assume because of overall heightened fertility? hence why I was hoping for my AF to return later as am not ready TTC yet :P

I actually don't find this to be the case - I find most moms of all boys tend to have longer pauses between kids and to not want to get pregnant too soon after having a baby. I find much closer gaps for moms who have all girls and for them to want to have another baby very quickly after having one.

I think this may be somewhat down to other factors and NOT the point when people's cycles come back, though. (breastfeeding vs. not breastfeeding, dietary differences)

[Thefinalcountdown]

I am just worried my body’s longer wait to return to fertility means I am more pink friendly right now and should wait several cycles (when they start) before attempts


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[LMSM]

I actually don't find this to be the case - I find most moms of all boys tend to have longer pauses between kids and to not want to get pregnant too soon after having a baby. I find much closer gaps for moms who have all girls and for them to want to have another baby very quickly after having one.

I think this may be somewhat down to other factors and NOT the point when people's cycles come back, though. (breastfeeding vs. not breastfeeding, dietary differences)
I'd prefer that, so like your answer :D
I had longer and longer gaps between kids (26 m/ 30m/ 36m), yet still got all girls (nursed them respectively until 12m.o/17m.o/17m.o and still nursing #4 at 17m.o now) ...
that being said, what I meant was that I've seen lots of boy mums nursing longer, delaying cycles (and often ttc while still nursing), and creating longer gaps maybe? Lots of girl mums I have seen stopped BFing to ttc so like you said, ttc earlier after having their last baby.
It's probably anecdotal so obviously I take it with a grain of salt still ;)

[atomic sagebrush]

I am just worried my body’s longer wait to return to fertility means I am more pink friendly right now and should wait several cycles (when they start) before attempts


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There's no evidence that this is the case at all though. It has very little to do with "fertility" when your cycle comes back, it has to do with what you're eating, how much you're nursing, and your weight/BMI. I think above all else try when it makes sense for your family, as long as it's been at least 12 months since your last birth, better yet 18.

[Thefinalcountdown]

Ok so it’s not how many cycles it’s amount of time since birth? I was hoping to get pregnant in the fall but if 18 months is the magic I will do my best to wait! I don’t want to waste all my hard work on a couple months. Could be when my cycle finally returns anyways [emoji2372] . Is it the longer the better? Like 14mo is better than 13 but not as good as 18? Is there a thread with experiences on this or is this observation? Not that I don’t trust you just wanna know WHY !!!


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[LMSM]

Ok so it’s not how many cycles it’s amount of time since birth? I was hoping to get pregnant in the fall but if 18 months is the magic I will do my best to wait! I don’t want to waste all my hard work on a couple months. Could be when my cycle finally returns anyways [emoji2372] . Is it the longer the better? Like 14mo is better than 13 but not as good as 18? Is there a thread with experiences on this or is this observation? Not that I don’t trust you just wanna know WHY !!!


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Probably the fact that by 18m you have had more time to recover from last pregnancy/birth and demands of the newborn/infant phase are lessening (not to say a small toddler isn’t demanding lol) ?!

[Thefinalcountdown]

Yeah I wonder if it’s the body replenishing lost nutrient / micronutrient stores by then or that most moms have nearly weaned by then? Or is it something else that clicks at 18 months? Can it be overridden with diet? Is it like dropping from 80% at 18months to 50% at 12 months? Or more like a bonus? I don’t know [emoji2372]


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[atomic sagebrush]

18 months isn't a magic number, nor is 12 months. There is no "80%" or "50%". I have to pick a number, so I pick an easy-to-remember number like 12 or 18 months. What I'm trying to express by this number is that over the course of time, people's bodies recover more and more from having given birth and eventually even if they were nursing still, their cycle would come back again and they'd be able to get pregnant in most cases quite easily; the hormones from birth and/or breastfeeding have either entirely or mostly gone away and their cycle is normal once more.

This happens at a different pace for everyone after every conception. It has to do with a LOT of different things. Diet, the amount you're nursing, how much exercise/sleep you get, if you've been sick a lot, how hard your birth experience was, how many kids you've had in a row, if you have a chronic underlying condition, etc. So it's not some hard and fast rate that everyone is susceptible to; it can be an entirely different rate of recovery for the same person at different points in time.

[Thefinalcountdown]

Ok ok I see. I’m getting a huge blood panel and hormone panel done to check the levels of everything before ttc again !!! Maybe you could have a look?


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[Thefinalcountdown]

Should I be taking coenzyme q10?


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[LMSM]

Should I be taking coenzyme q10?


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I'll let AS response obviously but when I asked she said it's not compulsory but if you can afford it (and especially since you are close to TTC), it'd be a good addition :)

[atomic sagebrush]

Ok ok I see. I’m getting a huge blood panel and hormone panel done to check the levels of everything before ttc again !!! Maybe you could have a look?


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Absolutely, of course! If you'd prefer you can always send them to me via email if it's private and/or it doesn't post easily.

[atomic sagebrush]

Should I be taking coenzyme q10?


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What LMSM said! Doesn't hurt, may help. Coq10 is something that both pink and blue swayers take, and it has different effects because the overall diet you each follow is different. Coq10 for blue swayers can help with cell metabolism and help add muscle.

[Thefinalcountdown]

I am wondering if the 18 months is bc there’s been several cycles since birth or the 18 months is just sheer time. Meaning, if someone had 8 cycles but was only 12 months pp would that be more boy friendly than someone who had 2 cycles but is 18m pp?


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[atomic sagebrush]

I am wondering if the 18 months is bc there’s been several cycles since birth or the 18 months is just sheer time. Meaning, if someone had 8 cycles but was only 12 months pp would that be more boy friendly than someone who had 2 cycles but is 18m pp?


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It is just what I feel is an easy to recall, "even number" amount of time that indicates people have had enough time to fully recover from birth and the baby days. It's not just based on information I've read but on my own experience where I really felt like something "magic" happened around that point with all five kiddos, and I've talked to other people who felt the same.

It is NOT the number of cycles a person has. That doesn't enter into my mathquation! I do not feel 12 months is enough time as many of us are still experiencing a lot of symptoms of reduced condition at the 12 month mark.

[Thefinalcountdown]

Ok bc I’m panicking that I’m not cycling yet and getting some handle on when ovulation is and 18 months is fast approaching! Well, not fast enough! But my baby is getting those back molars in and decided to pick up some nursings at night so that’ll postpone ovulation even more. Probably for the best bc if I was cycling I would be so so so tempted to jump the gun and do an attempt!

Blood / hormone results come in next week so interesting to see what’s going on under there.


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[atomic sagebrush]

But you'll be fully recovered when your cycle does come back! You have just as good a chance at a boy even that first month out!

Just to further reassure you, this is really not something that is obvious to other people - a lot of people don't even believe me that nursing sways pink because they see so many people getting boys. You're doing everything right, just keep doing what you're doing!