Blue swayers 2023 chit chat thread

[LMSM]

Hi everyone!
I'm about to get into my actual sway (aiming TTC July) and thought it might be nice to have a place to chat with fellow blue swayers...there aren't heaps of us so might be good to keep it in one place :)

Feel free to join me ^^

[Jazmin]

Hi. I am in [emoji16].


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[LMSM]

hi Jazmin,

While I am happy that you are her e- I am keeping my fingers crossed that you get a BFP soon and are no longer in the TTC space!!
When does Ramadan end this year?

[Ttc-blue]

All the best LMSM! I just got a BFP today, however if this is a chemical then I might join you here as it’s early days.

Also, hope your surgery goes smoothly and you have a full recovery (if you haven’t already had it).

[Jazmin]

hi Jazmin,

While I am happy that you are her e- I am keeping my fingers crossed that you get a BFP soon and are no longer in the TTC space!!
When does Ramadan end this year?

aw thanks ssoo much. me too.. hoping to see bfp soon.
Ramadan ended on Thursday.. and I am slowly getting back to my old routine.

I remember hoping last year Ramadan.. that by next year .. I wish to hold a baby boy in my hand.. but here i am still trying [emoji1].. but am sure one day all our wish will come true [emoji3531]

what you been doing as prep for july.


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[Jazmin]

All the best LMSM! I just got a BFP today, however if this is a chemical then I might join you here as it’s early days.

Also, hope your surgery goes smoothly and you have a full recovery (if you haven’t already had it).

omg.. congratulations. [emoji4]


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[LMSM]

All the best LMSM! I just got a BFP today, however if this is a chemical then I might join you here as it’s early days.

Also, hope your surgery goes smoothly and you have a full recovery (if you haven’t already had it).

Congrats - the BDs paid off :D
wishing you a healthy and happy 9 months ahead ^^

Thanks - had the surgery end of Feb - and at my post op the surgeon gave me the ok for another pregnancy so hopefully I can get on to TTC in July as planned

[LMSM]

aw thanks ssoo much. me too.. hoping to see bfp soon.
Ramadan ended on Thursday.. and I am slowly getting back to my old routine.

I remember hoping last year Ramadan.. that by next year .. I wish to hold a baby boy in my hand.. but here i am still trying [emoji1].. but am sure one day all our wish will come true [emoji3531]

what you been doing as prep for july.


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Oh I am silly, I did see the date for Eid so should have known better!

I know the agonising wait of TTC and no positive test, no baby, month after month - my 1st DD I tried for 2 years...
I think I saw you're getting some testing done? Hopefully if there is anything in the way of conception, it can be easily sorted.
Being on the HE diet will only up your chances so keeping all my FX!!!

For now, upping my cals/fats/protein - and getting back into exercising - and taking my supps
Trying to get DH more fit (supps, a bit more exercise as he does nothing - and more water/ more BD to keep the pipes clear haha).
Will up the intensity of it all in the next few weeks - and increase cals/fat/protein in the 6-8 weeks before attempts

[Jazmin]

Oh I am silly, I did see the date for Eid so should have known better!

I know the agonising wait of TTC and no positive test, no baby, month after month - my 1st DD I tried for 2 years...
I think I saw you're getting some testing done? Hopefully if there is anything in the way of conception, it can be easily sorted.
Being on the HE diet will only up your chances so keeping all my FX!!!

For now, upping my cals/fats/protein - and getting back into exercising - and taking my supps
Trying to get DH more fit (supps, a bit more exercise as he does nothing - and more water/ more BD to keep the pipes clear haha).
Will up the intensity of it all in the next few weeks - and increase cals/fat/protein in the 6-8 weeks before attempts

yeah.. the wait is not fun. [emoji24]..yes .. I have a scan coming up.. and then I will do a proper check up later in August. will continue ttc between and hoping that aug test isn’t needed.

your prep sounds good. am trying to snack n eat more after fasting month.. as I forgot about it lol


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[LMSM]

yeah.. the wait is not fun. [emoji24]..yes .. I have a scan coming up.. and then I will do a proper check up later in August. will continue ttc between and hoping that aug test isn’t needed.

your prep sounds good. am trying to snack n eat more after fasting month.. as I forgot about it lol


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What kind of scan have you got planned?
Fertility assessments are definitely not fun :( after TTC for 2 years with my 1st, I was a little too used to pelvic scans & not feeling as embarrassed to be 1/2 naked LOL

It must be weird to be able to eat all you want after fasting all day for a month! remember that the fatsing probably also had an impact on your stomach capacity to an extent so ease into it so it becomes easier to eat the food you need for HE :P
what was your diet diet before starting to sway?

[Jazmin]

What kind of scan have you got planned?
Fertility assessments are definitely not fun :( after TTC for 2 years with my 1st, I was a little too used to pelvic scans & not feeling as embarrassed to be 1/2 naked LOL

It must be weird to be able to eat all you want after fasting all day for a month! remember that the fatsing probably also had an impact on your stomach capacity to an extent so ease into it so it becomes easier to eat the food you need for HE :P
what was your diet diet before starting to sway?

I had transvaginal scan. lol yeah I was a bit nervous about the scan but it went alright. I need to wait for the results now.

my diet before sway.. was just anything available. I was a good breakfast eater and I dont snack between meals.. my meals used to be 3 times a day and also I dont drink so much water.. but other drink like juice and squash.. that’s how it used to be before i started to sway and while I had my girls


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[LMSM]

Seeing all the successful blue sways in 2023 - knowing there haven't been many blue swayers around - is encouraging..
Let's hope the trend will continue for us :D

It definitely sounds like you have made big changes to your diet since having your girls so you're doing great!
Has your husband had any testing done? is he taking any supps?
I think you live in the UK, right?

(I can't seem to get mine to agree to take ANY this time - he just tells me that any vitamins go straight through you so there are useless :rolleyes: :rolleyes: last time we were getting ready TTC (and had an oops before starting) he said he felt he was just a "machine" used to make a baby and I was trying to forcefeed him supps...which I wasn't even!! so it's an uphill battle to get anything in him - sigh)

[LMSM]

Also stumbled across this just now - Atomic, scientists are getting closer to demonstrating how what we eat truly changes our bodies to our core !
So interesting!!
https://bigthink.com/health/nutrigenomics/?utm_term=Autofeed&utm_medium=Social&utm_source=Facebook#Echobox=1682606233

[Jazmin]

Seeing all the successful blue sways in 2023 - knowing there haven't been many blue swayers around - is encouraging..
Let's hope the trend will continue for us :D

It definitely sounds like you have made big changes to your diet since having your girls so you're doing great!
Has your husband had any testing done? is he taking any supps?
I think you live in the UK, right?

(I can't seem to get mine to agree to take ANY this time - he just tells me that any vitamins go straight through you so there are useless :rolleyes: :rolleyes: last time we were getting ready TTC (and had an oops before starting) he said he felt he was just a "machine" used to make a baby and I was trying to forcefeed him supps...which I wasn't even!! so it's an uphill battle to get anything in him - sigh)

yes- hoping the trend continues [emoji4]

DH did semen test and everything came back normal. yes we live in UK . DH do take supps but sometimes I do have to remind him as he go off the track .. lol
If I was you, I wouldn’t worry too much about DH’s supps if he is not happy at all. we cant force them unfortunately. i know so many people around me who doesn’t take any supps at all and still have boys so DHs supps could be a minor one as he still gets vitamins from food. you can definitely do other factors and it all adds up.. hope we get our boys soon [emoji170] [emoji4]


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[atomic sagebrush]

Yes I wish they'd unravel the mysteries a little faster, LOL! I would love to be able to tell you guys with 100% certainty how to get a baby of a certain gender!!

[LMSM]

Yes I wish they'd unravel the mysteries a little faster, LOL! I would love to be able to tell you guys with 100% certainty how to get a baby of a certain gender!!

How cool it’d be,eh?!
I mean they now have advanced AI but the human body still eludes us all sooo much .. it’s both fascinating and crazy ( and somewhat infuriating �� )

[Jazmin]

lol yes.. whenever I see moms with with both gender or boys .. am like what is it that i am
not doing and that they are doing [emoji23][emoji23].. Wish I knew lol ..
I am doing everything in my control.. and leaving rest to my god.. [emoji120]


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[LMSM]

lol yes.. whenever I see moms with with both gender or boys .. am like what is it that i am
not doing and that they are doing [emoji23][emoji23].. Wish I knew lol ..
I am doing everything in my control.. and leaving rest to my god.. [emoji120]


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I know, right? LOL

I think that is the right attitude - and one I have tried to embrace especially after DD4 snuck in and I didn't get to sway ;)
Hopefully it will serve us both well :D
Where are you at in your cycle now?

[Jazmin]

I know, right? LOL

I think that is the right attitude - and one I have tried to embrace especially after DD4 snuck in and I didn't get to sway ;)
Hopefully it will serve us both well :D
Where are you at in your cycle now?

I am on CD5 today.. we may start attempt from CD6/7.. fxfx for both of us.

are you planning to try unprotected throughput the cycle or just the 3 attempts closer to O - in july ..


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[LMSM]

I am on CD5 today.. we may start attempt from CD6/7.. fxfx for both of us.

are you planning to try unprotected throughput the cycle or just the 3 attempts closer to O - in july ..


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Keeping my fingers crossed for you!
We did have intercourse without protection in the early parts of my cycle before I fell pregnant with DD4 and she snuck in early (would have been a BD on CD 8 or 9!) so am really scared to not use protection until we are actually TTC.
So will keep using condoms until the cycle of TTC - and then no condoms at all once in the attempt cycle to get that semen exposure prior to attempting (but kinda scared of having a BD early and DH then not wanting TTC or unable to perform and be left with one batch of sperm = 1 attempt) - and hopefully get 3+ BDs in the fertile window :D

How have you been doing things - unprotected all the time?

[Jazmin]

Keeping my fingers crossed for you!
We did have intercourse without protection in the early parts of my cycle before I fell pregnant with DD4 and she snuck in early (would have been a BD on CD 8 or 9!) so am really scared to not use protection until we are actually TTC.
So will keep using condoms until the cycle of TTC - and then no condoms at all once in the attempt cycle to get that semen exposure prior to attempting (but kinda scared of having a BD early and DH then not wanting TTC or unable to perform and be left with one batch of sperm = 1 attempt) - and hopefully get 3+ BDs in the fertile window :D

How have you been doing things - unprotected all the time?

oh yes.. that make sense.. yes we didn’t do unprotected when we weren’t in the attempt cycle too.. we have started our attempts in this cycle .. Cd9 today and expected to ovulate on cd16.. hoping this is our month ..


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[LMSM]

oh yes.. that make sense.. yes we didn’t do unprotected when we weren’t in the attempt cycle too.. we have started our attempts in this cycle .. Cd9 today and expected to ovulate on cd16.. hoping this is our month ..


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OOh it's coming up soon, then!!! Fingers crossed for you that this is THE month!
I know it's hard not to be discouraged - but know that you are doing everything you can that is in your control (getting testing and seeking out help - as well as being as healthy as possible with the HE diet!) so it will happen, one way or another xx

[Jazmin]

yeah. it is hard. fingers crossed [emoji1696]. not ovulated yet..


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[LMSM]

When do you usually O? Do you think you'll be ok with the # of attempts?
I feel like things usually go well and then boom, sick kid, sick parent, hard day at work etc and it throws a spanner in the works...
I don't need the sticky fertile blue dust this cycle or the next - all yours! :D

On the plus side her, DH FINALLY has decided to get fit - I think I can thank his buff gym junkie boss haha... long may it last! I think I will try to be competitive with him, will motivate us both.
He won't take ANY supps :( but if I can at least make sure his body is fitter, diet healthier..that's a win in itself I guess

[Jazmin]

When do you usually O? Do you think you'll be ok with the # of attempts?
I feel like things usually go well and then boom, sick kid, sick parent, hard day at work etc and it throws a spanner in the works...
I don't need the sticky fertile blue dust this cycle or the next - all yours! :D

On the plus side her, DH FINALLY has decided to get fit - I think I can thank his buff gym junkie boss haha... long may it last! I think I will try to be competitive with him, will motivate us both.
He won't take ANY supps :( but if I can at least make sure his body is fitter, diet healthier..that's a win in itself I guess

I usually O aroud cycle day 15/16. not sure about this month but I am defo in the fertile week now.

yes u r right.. I always end up getting sick.. as well .. and make me feel that am weak.

that’s great DH is going to gym. mine do walk and a bit of weight at home.. I do some walks and weight is on and off as i have backaches these days.

fx for this cycle [emoji1696]


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[LMSM]

Sorry for the late reply, I seem to have missed your last post!
Are you in the TWW now?
Did you end up getting the results from your NHS testing?

I'm now 2 months away from our trip - and if my cycles continue the way they do I should arrive just a couple of days before peak so fingers crossed DH will be ok with TTC and able/willing to perform haha
I thought that I would only be able to try one cycle while away but checked my calendar and if we don't get a BFP on the 1st cycle, the 2nd cycle I will O while we are still away and if anything, might be better (more time enjoying the food, relaxing etc...though unsure where we will be so if we would be able to get BD in - depending on where we stay, we may have enough privacy or not :P)
Since it is M-2 before attempt time, my sway is now in FULL mode - i.e. full HE full exercise, full supps...shame DH is unwilling to take ANY supps but he has started exercising 2-3 times a week so that in itself is a win that I will take!

[Jazmin]

Sorry for the late reply, I seem to have missed your last post!
Are you in the TWW now?
Did you end up getting the results from your NHS testing?

I'm now 2 months away from our trip - and if my cycles continue the way they do I should arrive just a couple of days before peak so fingers crossed DH will be ok with TTC and able/willing to perform haha
I thought that I would only be able to try one cycle while away but checked my calendar and if we don't get a BFP on the 1st cycle, the 2nd cycle I will O while we are still away and if anything, might be better (more time enjoying the food, relaxing etc...though unsure where we will be so if we would be able to get BD in - depending on where we stay, we may have enough privacy or not :P)
Since it is M-2 before attempt time, my sway is now in FULL mode - i.e. full HE full exercise, full supps...shame DH is unwilling to take ANY supps but he has started exercising 2-3 times a week so that in itself is a win that I will take!

Hey.. no worries.. yes in 2ww .. dpo10 today. thinking to wait till AF. I am due on Sunday as per my chart. I thought I started today .. as i felt the period pain.. and almost updated my calendar even before checking but no show yet. but AF is close i feel.

NHS tests results came back saying all seems normal.. but I am not convinced so ill do more check up when I visit back home.

oh nice !! it is really the best time to ttc while away on holidays.. i know so many people who conceived during the holiday time.. wish you good luck…


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[LMSM]

Hey.. no worries.. yes in 2ww .. dpo10 today. thinking to wait till AF. I am due on Sunday as per my chart. I thought I started today .. as i felt the period pain.. and almost updated my calendar even before checking but no show yet. but AF is close i feel.

NHS tests results came back saying all seems normal.. but I am not convinced so ill do more check up when I visit back home.

oh nice !! it is really the best time to ttc while away on holidays.. i know so many people who conceived during the holiday time.. wish you good luck…


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How long will you be at home for? and can you just go to a Dr and request exactly whichever tests you want as long as you pay for it basically? other than the HSG what have you got planned? (I can't remember if your DH has done a semen analysis already)
I sooo hope for you that you will get answers - though even better would be a BFP before you go! :D

I'm definitely hoping being away, back home, on holidays will bring us luck!
xx

[LMSM]

Also, are we really the only blue swayers here? haha

[atomic sagebrush]

No, there are others, just that they're not as active! Come out of the woodwork ladies!

[Jazmin]

yea.. I hope the same.. getting a bfp before and not having to go through uncomfortable tests [emoji24]

I am on period now so am out this month too which makes my hope lower and lower each month lol

I can definitely request for different tests .. but the doctors usually know what they are looking for and request for different tests to rule out each. They wont usually miss anything as they get paid for each tests etc [emoji16][emoji23]

The doctors and results are much faster and most of the time they give us appointment earlier if we tell them we are not there for longer. my plan is to visit as soon as i reach there so I have enough time more visits if required.

yes we did a semen test from here and it was all
ok.. we will probably have to do one there as well


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[LMSM]

yea.. I hope the same.. getting a bfp before and not having to go through uncomfortable tests [emoji24]

I am on period now so am out this month too which makes my hope lower and lower each month lol

I can definitely request for different tests .. but the doctors usually know what they are looking for and request for different tests to rule out each. They wont usually miss anything as they get paid for each tests etc [emoji16][emoji23]

The doctors and results are much faster and most of the time they give us appointment earlier if we tell them we are not there for longer. my plan is to visit as soon as i reach there so I have enough time more visits if required.

yes we did a semen test from here and it was all
ok.. we will probably have to do one there as well


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I certainly am keeping all my fingers and toes crossed for you.. fertility assessments are no fun. If it comes to that though, it will hopefully figure out what might be stopping you from getting pregnant and help you get there faster!
It's great that you can access the Drs and testing both easily and quickly once in India - yes you pay but you get the service you need ;)
How are you feeling now that Ramadan and fasting are over?

[Jazmin]

thank you.
how are you doing ? are you attempting this month?

I am back to track with diet and activity. AF meant to be around this weekend . fxfx


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[LMSM]

thank you.
how are you doing ? are you attempting this month?

I am back to track with diet and activity. AF meant to be around this weekend . fxfx


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Hi!
Oh will you wait for AF to be late to test or will you sneak in a test before? FX for you!!

Since my July cycle fertile window will open just as we lang, I'm inclined to defer to the August cycle so that we are settled, over jet lag, can have a chance to eat plenty, get some relaxing going etc ^^ If my cycle changes and my O is late for July, I may still attempt then, we'll see how the dice roll!

[Jazmin]

I will wait for AF to arrive. meant to be Today .. no show yet but must be around the corner.. in 2 days . haven’t tested yet


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[LMSM]

You have got a great willpower - when I am TTC even when I know it's AF coming or too early to test, I can't help myself and test....
I am keeping my fingers crossed for you - hoping it's a baby and not AF!

[Jazmin]

I hope so too.. fx

I thought of testing twice then I just thought about that disappointment I get when I see negative result.. and with the hope..that staring and showing up in the light I do .. to see if there is a faint line.. lol I rather see AF than seeing negative results [emoji24] .. its so bad feeling as the months go pass.
it is hard to not do the test but i didn’t do last month either.


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[LMSM]

I hope so too.. fx

I thought of testing twice then I just thought about that disappointment I get when I see negative result.. and with the hope..that staring and showing up in the light I do .. to see if there is a faint line.. lol I rather see AF than seeing negative results [emoji24] .. its so bad feeling as the months go pass.
it is hard to not do the test but i didn’t do last month either.


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I know what you mean - better have AF show up and not have hope crushed. Like you say, when you test, you always try and see things even if they aren't there.
DO you reckon you will test soon if no AF still?

[Jazmin]

if AF not showing up until Wednesday i will test [emoji2]. it could be late period as this month i was a bit sick.


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[polaris.kai]

Sending you both blue dust!

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[LMSM]

Thanks !!
How are you doing Polaris??

[polaris.kai]

Thanks !!
How are you doing Polaris??Good! I was gone for awhile due to technical issues. I've missed you guys [emoji23] DD3 turned 2 in June and we definitely want a fourth! just unsure about when since life has been crazy.

I've been trying to read and catch up! Are you trying soon??

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[Thefinalcountdown]

Just dropping by to give you guys my thoughts and prayers! My messages aren’t working so I just wanted to say thank you guys here for the sweet messages!!! Let me know if I can help at all!!!!


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[polaris.kai]

Just dropping by to give you guys my thoughts and prayers! My messages aren’t working so I just wanted to say thank you guys here for the sweet messages!!! Let me know if I can help at all!!!!


Sent from my iPhone using TapatalkMy messages aren't either!!

I tried shooting you a message in our blue buddies one saying congratulations [emoji4][emoji4]

You definitely help just by making that daily blue log you did! [emoji170]

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[LMSM]

Good! I was gone for awhile due to technical issues. I've missed you guys [emoji23] DD3 turned 2 in June and we definitely want a fourth! just unsure about when since life has been crazy.

I've been trying to read and catch up! Are you trying soon??

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I'm back from holidays so sorry I missed this while away!!

I get the whole life is crazy thing LOL

We TTC while away and now waiting on AF - I'm out as no positive test and about 13/14DPO, and have been spotting for like 5 days now,...suspect AF will start in earnest soon but have been sick so that's not helping.
I just want to move on, and try again!

[LMSM]

Just dropping by to give you guys my thoughts and prayers! My messages aren’t working so I just wanted to say thank you guys here for the sweet messages!!! Let me know if I can help at all!!!!


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How's life with your littlest man? :love:

[Thefinalcountdown]

Hey thank you!! He’s so sweet and chunky! I dk if it’s his personality or the 4th child dynamic but he’s so chill and a good sleeper! Probably gets tired just watching the daily s**t show [emoji1787]
How are you? What’s your latest???


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[LMSM]

Hey thank you!! He’s so sweet and chunky! I dk if it’s his personality or the 4th child dynamic but he’s so chill and a good sleeper! Probably gets tired just watching the daily s**t show [emoji1787]
How are you? What’s your latest???


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4th kid dynamic probably at play - my 4th is the sweetest, easiest yet...that, or you just drop your expectations lower with each kid LOL I'm glad all is well - I'd love to hear his name is you are willing to share here :P

I just started AF so our 1st cycle TTC didn't work unfortunately - all being well attempts some time late next week so FX it works :D

[LMSM]

For my own benefit and to keep myself accountable - will also pop in exercise and food diary to ensure I actually eat/workout in these last days leading up to O LOL

Today - exercise: 35minutes mild cardio (am on AF, so doing anything too strenuous makes me bleed hard so keeping it low key for another day or 2)
Breakfast : Tea with ff milk / bowl of greek FF yogurt, 1/2 cup fresh strawberries, 1 TBS natural PB, sprinkle of pistachios, drizzle of maple syrup
Snack: Apple with PB dip
Lunch: Leftover homemade beef lasagna with side spinach salad (EVOO/ balsamic /garlic as dressing)
Snack: Dry roasted almonds, tea with milk
Dinner: Chicken curry with coconut rice, lemon/garlic broccoli
Snack: Tea with milk/ handful of cereals, strawberries

[atomic sagebrush]

4th kid dynamic probably at play - my 4th is the sweetest, easiest yet...that, or you just drop your expectations lower with each kid LOL I'm glad all is well - I'd love to hear his name is you are willing to share here :P

I just started AF so our 1st cycle TTC didn't work unfortunately - all being well attempts some time late next week so FX it works :D

Oh whoa, is this a thing?? My 4th is SOOO easygoing! Good to know.

[LMSM]

Oh whoa, is this a thing?? My 4th is SOOO easygoing! Good to know.

I don’t know if it is, and if it’ll stay that way (my 4th is only 2.5 yo) … but I think it may be!
That said, she’s a girl and girls are definitely more high maintenance LOL

[Dan1g1r1]

Can anyone see this message? My messages don’t seem to be sending through. Atomic, can you send me a message?
Hey guys. I’m back. I’m terrified. I’m pregnant again. Not thinking at all that I was. I am 39 and was done having children ( husband refuse’s vasectomy) but I thought I was careful.
I have 4 kids and I am barely keeping it together with one with a TBI and needing medical care etc. my family and friends will all scream “ I told you this would happen” my parents will keel over and die. I need someone to talk to and you guys have always been so great.

[LMSM]

Can anyone see this message? My messages don’t seem to be sending through. Atomic, can you send me a message?
Hey guys. I’m back. I’m terrified. I’m pregnant again. Not thinking at all that I was. I am 39 and was done having children ( husband refuse’s vasectomy) but I thought I was careful.
I have 4 kids and I am barely keeping it together with one with a TBI and needing medical care etc. my family and friends will all scream “ I told you this would happen” my parents will keel over and die. I need someone to talk to and you guys have always been so great.

Hi Dan,

I can see your messages!!!
That would have been quite the shock (my 4th was a complete surprise and I was NOT happy about it).... how far along are you now? which gender are you hoping for?
How are your kids?

[Dan1g1r1]

Hello! Thank you so much for replying. I am only 5 weeks on Friday. I am praying for another boy. We have no more room in our current house, and if it was another boy, amongst many other reasons, it would be so much better and easier. Not that anything is easy. At least for clothes and babies personal belongings, we could just share with his older brothers. The order of my children are boy girl boy, boy, and praying for another boy. I know it sounds silly, but I am just not a girl mom. My pregnancy with my daughter was the hardest, and she is by far my most difficult child. My third child was in a bad accident in June 2021, and I found myself pregnant right after the accident. I was not preventing pregnancy then, but I actually thrilled when I found out it was another boy because I didn’t have time to sway, even though we did have intercourse a few times, and my fertile window. This time I’m freaking out because it was an oops, ( I thought he actually finished the transaction outside if you know what I mean). This terrifies me because I know this sways girl. My diet and exercise level and everything was the exact same as the other boys but because of the only one time in my fertile window and thinking that it was a pull out I’m thinking I am doomed to have another girl.

[LMSM]

Hello! Thank you so much for replying. I am only 5 weeks on Friday. I am praying for another boy. We have no more room in our current house, and if it was another boy, amongst many other reasons, it would be so much better and easier. Not that anything is easy. At least for clothes and babies personal belongings, we could just share with his older brothers. The order of my children are boy girl boy, boy, and praying for another boy. I know it sounds silly, but I am just not a girl mom. My pregnancy with my daughter was the hardest, and she is by far my most difficult child. My third child was in a bad accident in June 2021, and I found myself pregnant right after the accident. I was not preventing pregnancy then, but I actually thrilled when I found out it was another boy because I didn’t have time to sway, even though we did have intercourse a few times, and my fertile window. This time I’m freaking out because it was an oops, ( I thought he actually finished the transaction outside if you know what I mean). This terrifies me because I know this sways girl. My diet and exercise level and everything was the exact same as the other boys but because of the only one time in my fertile window and thinking that it was a pull out I’m thinking I am doomed to have another girl.

You have every chance of having another boy - I mean you have 3 out of 4 of your children that are already!
I know what you mean by not being a "girl mom" - I have 4 and I honestly never ever saw myself as one to have girls - would have been perfectly content with all boys!
Maybe look at it this way - this baby made its way to you even when you didn't expect it/want it (like your 4th - who you conceived under very stressful circumstances - and still had a boy!)...you likely are actually more primed naturally to have boys so don't give up this may be another one ;)

[Dan1g1r1]

I hope you’re right that I’m naturally more inclined to make boys. Just with the fact of this being one determined sperm, that’s why I think it’s going to be a girl. With my other boys there were at least two attempts.

I see from your signature that you are going to be trying soon or are?

[atomic sagebrush]

Can anyone see this message? My messages don’t seem to be sending through. Atomic, can you send me a message?
Hey guys. I’m back. I’m terrified. I’m pregnant again. Not thinking at all that I was. I am 39 and was done having children ( husband refuse’s vasectomy) but I thought I was careful.
I have 4 kids and I am barely keeping it together with one with a TBI and needing medical care etc. my family and friends will all scream “ I told you this would happen” my parents will keel over and die. I need someone to talk to and you guys have always been so great.

I see it, please message me at atomicsagebrush@gmail.com and I can help. Please don't be terrified, just take it one day or even minute or second at a time and you will get through this!!

PS - I would wait to tell people just in case things don't work out. They don't need to know until they NEED to know, if you catch my meaning! I didn't tell my family till I was very far along with a couple of my kids just because it wasn't worth the fuss.

[atomic sagebrush]

You never know, though - we do have some pull out boys too and it may just be that you're sooo fertile as a couple that's how it happened!

[LMSM]

I hope you’re right that I’m naturally more inclined to make boys. Just with the fact of this being one determined sperm, that’s why I think it’s going to be a girl. With my other boys there were at least two attempts.

I see from your signature that you are going to be trying soon or are?

Yes - we're on our second cycle TTC - in the TWW now ;)

[Dan1g1r1]

Well, I will be thinking of you during this wait. I know how every second of every day can feel like months.

[LMSM]

Thanks!!!
Looks like I’m not far behind you Dan! Just took a test yesterday and it’s positive:)
Very early as not even 4 weeks but FX it’s a sticky healthy blue bean :D

[LMSM]

Also kiddo 5 here and our families already commented (we visited in July as they are all overseas faaaar away so no help either :P) that we were crazy with 4…
And 4 girls, at that!!
My FIL especially is going to freak out especially if this is not a boy… thinking I may keep this pregnancy on the low down suuuper long

[Dan1g1r1]

Congratulations! I hope this is your boy sent from above! I know how corny that sounds to say, but truly I hope that God gives you what your heart desires. I truly am very happy for you.

I am trying to pass the time without letting this depression take over. I am having a really hard time. I have no support system or anyone I can speak to since this is a pregnancy that I will hide for as long as I can, just like my last two. I pray it’s a boy for so many reasons, but I feel like hope is lost with how this one was conceived.

I love how I can talk with someone literally across the world from myself. I live in the states, Wisconsin to be exact. Sending you so many good vibes to you and the life in your womb!

[PinkSabra101]

Just following journeys in anticipation of restarting mine! LMSM wow congrats! Fingers crossed for healthy, and blue! Dan1g1r1 just wanted to reach out as although our situations are different I experienced horrid pregnancy depression and anxiety with my 4 month old son. I was really not ok; also hid the pregnancy for as long as I could, for many reasons... the low mood took the form of gender disappointment at some point but also many other hideous forms. I'm happy to say I do feel much better now he's here and I'm hoping that will be the case for you, too. Feel free to message if you wanna talk.

[LMSM]

Congratulations! I hope this is your boy sent from above! I know how corny that sounds to say, but truly I hope that God gives you what your heart desires. I truly am very happy for you.

I am trying to pass the time without letting this depression take over. I am having a really hard time. I have no support system or anyone I can speak to since this is a pregnancy that I will hide for as long as I can, just like my last two. I pray it’s a boy for so many reasons, but I feel like hope is lost with how this one was conceived.

I love how I can talk with someone literally across the world from myself. I live in the states, Wisconsin to be exact. Sending you so many good vibes to you and the life in your womb!

Thanks Dan - I certainly hope so too! I have wished for a boy since before our 1st, and never have seen that wish granted - so really hope that Life decides it is finally time...

I was severely depressed when expecting DD4 - and my husband urged me to see a counsellor...which I did. I was lucky to find someone that suffered some GD too and we could talk about things without judgement. Was the pregnancy horrid? yes, but it felt good to be heard.
We've no family or support system either (I am in Australia and our families are in Europe) - so the burden felt so very heavy. I'd suggest looking into counselling if you can - will you find out gender? and if so, when? You could put a post here asking for recommendations for a GD friendly counsellor...no doubt others have used those services and after Covid, I found lots of these are now also available online via teleconsult so it makes it easier!
I really do think it's worth questioning yourself why you so not want a girl. You have one, but also 3 boys...what is it you think a girl will disrupt? etc etc
I found that digging into that question with the counsellor helped acknowledge my own personal hurt, fears, and experiences. Does it solve GD? absolutely not - did it take me off the edge? maybe a bit - at least enough to continue with the pregnancy though I still feel like I did moreso because "it was the right thing to do"..BUT it gave me the most wonderful birth experience (I finally had the waterbirth I'd always dreamt of!) and 2.5 years on - I can tell you my 4th is truly a ray of sunshine. She is so loving, so funny, so cheeky, so beautiful... I'm glad I didn't miss out on her and let me tell you, I was MAD at her, at me, my body.
I hope that whatever comes your way, you will have a sense of peace ;)

[LMSM]

Just following journeys in anticipation of restarting mine! LMSM wow congrats! Fingers crossed for healthy, and blue! Dan1g1r1 just wanted to reach out as although our situations are different I experienced horrid pregnancy depression and anxiety with my 4 month old son. I was really not ok; also hid the pregnancy for as long as I could, for many reasons... the low mood took the form of gender disappointment at some point but also many other hideous forms. I'm happy to say I do feel much better now he's here and I'm hoping that will be the case for you, too. Feel free to message if you wanna talk.

PinkSabra - thank you! :)
I'm so glad to see that things are better now ...GD is truly such a mindf*ck - that only those that have experienced can understand.
When were you thinking of going for another bub?

[LMSM]

@Dan - there is a pregnancy thread you may want to join :) https://www.genderdreaming.com/forum/pregnancy-talk/82573-2023-2024-pregnancy-chat.html
It's pretty quiet on the site unfortunately

[PinkSabra101]

LMSM how are you feeling? So we've decided to basically not prevent from when our youngest is 1 in May. I don't know when I'll even get my cycle back from breastfeeding (with my middle kid it was a year and a half), and I'm turning 40 this week. So I'm just hopeful it'll all work out ok!

[LMSM]

LMSM how are you feeling? So we've decided to basically not prevent from when our youngest is 1 in May. I don't know when I'll even get my cycle back from breastfeeding (with my middle kid it was a year and a half), and I'm turning 40 this week. So I'm just hopeful it'll all work out ok!

Yay, that's exciting!! Did you have any issues falling pregnant previously? if not don't let the 'turning 40" stop you (happy belated birthday by the way!) - it's not like our ovaries expire from one day to the next!
Sending you all the baby dust for when you decide to go ahead :)

[PinkSabra101]

Yay, that's exciting!! Did you have any issues falling pregnant previously? if not don't let the 'turning 40" stop you (happy belated birthday by the way!) - it's not like our ovaries expire from one day to the next!
Sending you all the baby dust for when you decide to go ahead :)

Ah thx! We are lucky to get pregnant very easily but have also had several miscarriages so I've often wondered if I have an "unfussy uterus" though I don't know if that's a real thing. We've conceived 7 times, all but one on first cycle, and I have 3 kids. So my gut is that we'd probably conceive but realistically have to go through a loss or two before getting one that sticks. I can sound rational about it now but when going through it, it does take a toll so I think I have to detach a bit and try to be rational about it once we try. I'm in London and it's not at all unusual for people here to have babies in their forties, so that does give me hope. I'm in a music class with my 5 month old and while there are a few moms who look like kids (so probably about 25...) I don't feel particularly "old". Just wish I knew period would come back in good time so I don't genuinely age out of it! How you feeling about things??

[Madi96]

Hello! I’m curious, did you guys track before trying? I’m nervous if I get off my bc I’ll get pregnant and not get a chance to really sway.
I’m also wondering, how do you know if you’re three days out from ovulation? Did you have to track to figure that out?
Thank you guys! I’m planning on swaying in April!


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[LMSM]

Hi Madi,

I did track for over a year so could identify patterns of what was "my normal" so to speak- knowing there will always be variations. The cycle I did fall pregnant I was caught off guard by a peak that arrived super early - so it was all hands on deck to get attempts in earlier than I thought LOL
The best thing you can do is track your temperature and use opks so that you can see that for example you get your peak opk 2 days before O (as confirmed by your temperature chart).
That way, you can estimate when your fertile window is and "plan" attempts accordingly.
Given you are not TTC'ing until april, provided you have regular cycles, then that should be ample time o know your cycle well for when attempt time comes - good luck!