Roobear
August 28th, 2023, 11:06 AM
Mum of 3 boys (7, 4 and 3) and we’ve decided to try for our 4th and last baby next spring (probably late feb, early March) so I’m trying to learn as much as I can about swaying for a girl now as I know I need at least 6 weeks, ideally 3 months, of prep before going for it and as it’s the last I want to give it the very best shot!
BACKGROUND/PREVIOUS CONCEPTIONS
Looking back I we definitely had an accidental blue sway with our 1st as we threw everything at just getting pregnant. We dtd every day/every other day, I took loads of prenatal vitamins, I led with my legs up, it was just following Christmas where I had been hugely indulgent with food (and I am a proper meat and potatoes gal anyway) and we used preseed lube. Number 2 took almost a year to conceive, likely because of a typical PCOS (I usually ovulate but my hormones are all over the place and I don’t always release the egg coupled with very painful ovulation). I was put on metformin around month 3 of trying but that sway probably the only sway factor when the time came as in the end we just aimed to conceive. Our 3rd was a complete surprise at 3 months pp.
I am probably naturally a boy sway - I’ve just been diagnosed with insulin resistance rather than full blown PCOS (and put back on metformin to help with this, not to help ttc); I am slightly overweight (BMI is now 28 but was around 24/25 when I conceived my boys), I love salty food (and I love my food), and I have quite a sedentary lifestyle where exercise is things like home renovation, mucking out my horse etc. so I know I need to make some big lifestyle changes to help my sway.
MY SWAY PLAN SO FAR:
My current plan is:
- Introduce a calorie restricted diet from next month to try and loose 8lb a month (2lb a week) between now and Christmas. This would bring me down to about 135-140lb and a BMI of 23)
- tell everyone I’m going on a detox/new diet in the new year to explain the shift to a LE diet. This would also allow me to indulge over Christmas a bit.
- from Jan 1st start LE diet with a view to loosing 8-12lb per month for 2-3 months prior to ttc (bringing BMI down to around 19
- from Jan 1st have a very low salt diet
- from Jan 1st introduce: calcium, magnesium, cranberry and aspirin supplements - IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE I SHOULD BE TAKING?
WHEN WE START TTC:
When we start trying my OB has said I can start clomid due to PCOS. Do I start this a month before we start trying or can we start trying straight away? Not been on clomid before but OB thinks because of my age (38) and my insulin resistance and my strange cycles it’s definitely worth trying. Am I right in thinking with the metformin this will help the sway? Does anyone have any stats on girl outcomes as I am slightly concerned about the increased risk of twins… that said, I’d rather twins and a girl then not so if it will help then I think it’s worth doing.
Use Rephresh/replens as a lube (hubby needs lube or else it hurts) and for DS1 and DS2 we used preconceive lube which with hindsight swayed blue so I want to avoid this! Or would we do better with a bit of baby or massage oil which we also use?
Do not orgasm. If possible have a hot bath with DH first.
My plan is to BD in missionary 4/5+ days before O then abstain in the run up to O? I know shettles can be hit/miss but I think we’ll struggle with O+12 so if we’re going to do timing a longer cut off seems like the way to go? But then if we can dtd the day following O then that would be a bonus? Or should we aim to dtd at O-7days, O-5days, O-3days and then the day following O?
CONTRACEPTION
Now, I have the option to go on the progesterone only pill/get a mirena IUD between now and ttc - would either of these help? I’ve been completely hormone contraceptive free for at least 4 months prior to conceiving each of my boys (in fact I haven’t used anything other than condoms since DS1!) and I’ve heard this can help??? If so, do we start clomid and go for it as soon as I stop/IUD is removed?
EXERCISE
Also, exercise? I’ve read mixed things? I won’t have the capacity to do 60min every day so is it better to do nothing or is it ok to walk most days? I was planning to start aiming for 10000 steps a day as part of my weight loss and then also do yoga or Pilates 3 times a week to help me tone up. Should I stop this from 1st Jan or is this something I should then continue with?
What else can I do to help my sway?
Thank you for any tips and help!
BACKGROUND/PREVIOUS CONCEPTIONS
Looking back I we definitely had an accidental blue sway with our 1st as we threw everything at just getting pregnant. We dtd every day/every other day, I took loads of prenatal vitamins, I led with my legs up, it was just following Christmas where I had been hugely indulgent with food (and I am a proper meat and potatoes gal anyway) and we used preseed lube. Number 2 took almost a year to conceive, likely because of a typical PCOS (I usually ovulate but my hormones are all over the place and I don’t always release the egg coupled with very painful ovulation). I was put on metformin around month 3 of trying but that sway probably the only sway factor when the time came as in the end we just aimed to conceive. Our 3rd was a complete surprise at 3 months pp.
I am probably naturally a boy sway - I’ve just been diagnosed with insulin resistance rather than full blown PCOS (and put back on metformin to help with this, not to help ttc); I am slightly overweight (BMI is now 28 but was around 24/25 when I conceived my boys), I love salty food (and I love my food), and I have quite a sedentary lifestyle where exercise is things like home renovation, mucking out my horse etc. so I know I need to make some big lifestyle changes to help my sway.
MY SWAY PLAN SO FAR:
My current plan is:
- Introduce a calorie restricted diet from next month to try and loose 8lb a month (2lb a week) between now and Christmas. This would bring me down to about 135-140lb and a BMI of 23)
- tell everyone I’m going on a detox/new diet in the new year to explain the shift to a LE diet. This would also allow me to indulge over Christmas a bit.
- from Jan 1st start LE diet with a view to loosing 8-12lb per month for 2-3 months prior to ttc (bringing BMI down to around 19
- from Jan 1st have a very low salt diet
- from Jan 1st introduce: calcium, magnesium, cranberry and aspirin supplements - IS THERE ANYTHING ELSE I SHOULD BE TAKING?
WHEN WE START TTC:
When we start trying my OB has said I can start clomid due to PCOS. Do I start this a month before we start trying or can we start trying straight away? Not been on clomid before but OB thinks because of my age (38) and my insulin resistance and my strange cycles it’s definitely worth trying. Am I right in thinking with the metformin this will help the sway? Does anyone have any stats on girl outcomes as I am slightly concerned about the increased risk of twins… that said, I’d rather twins and a girl then not so if it will help then I think it’s worth doing.
Use Rephresh/replens as a lube (hubby needs lube or else it hurts) and for DS1 and DS2 we used preconceive lube which with hindsight swayed blue so I want to avoid this! Or would we do better with a bit of baby or massage oil which we also use?
Do not orgasm. If possible have a hot bath with DH first.
My plan is to BD in missionary 4/5+ days before O then abstain in the run up to O? I know shettles can be hit/miss but I think we’ll struggle with O+12 so if we’re going to do timing a longer cut off seems like the way to go? But then if we can dtd the day following O then that would be a bonus? Or should we aim to dtd at O-7days, O-5days, O-3days and then the day following O?
CONTRACEPTION
Now, I have the option to go on the progesterone only pill/get a mirena IUD between now and ttc - would either of these help? I’ve been completely hormone contraceptive free for at least 4 months prior to conceiving each of my boys (in fact I haven’t used anything other than condoms since DS1!) and I’ve heard this can help??? If so, do we start clomid and go for it as soon as I stop/IUD is removed?
EXERCISE
Also, exercise? I’ve read mixed things? I won’t have the capacity to do 60min every day so is it better to do nothing or is it ok to walk most days? I was planning to start aiming for 10000 steps a day as part of my weight loss and then also do yoga or Pilates 3 times a week to help me tone up. Should I stop this from 1st Jan or is this something I should then continue with?
What else can I do to help my sway?
Thank you for any tips and help!