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    Helping son with his GD.

    Hi guys, anyone have any tips for me? My 2yr 8mo son is our eldest and has said from the time we told him he was going to be a big brother again that he was getting a sister (though he did think it was a dragon for a bit, haha). We told him yesterday that he was getting another brother (we also have a 15mo son) and he keeps telling us "no, sister!" every time the new baby is mentioned. We've never let him be aware of our gender desire, and I think it stems from the fact that his brother touches all his toys whereas his friend's sister leaves his alone. How do I help him with his feelings? He's been such a beautiful boy this pregnancy so far and has been stroking my belly and talking to the baby, and it kills me that he's sad now.
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    He will be ok. I guess you need to explain to him it will be a little brother but does he even really understand the difference between brother and sister at that age? I tend to think he just wants to say the opposite or just has the word sister in his head. When I say to my 3 year old that he is 3 he will say "no, I'm 4", he just likes to disagree with whatever I say!

    My eldest was 3 when my youngest was born and it took several weeks for him to accept his brothers name, whenever we would use it he would say "no its Baby, not ****" because he was so used to us referring to him as the baby before he was born. Kids are just funny like that

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    He's 2. He probably would like a unicorn for Christmas too! He won't even remember this time in his life but he will remember how you make him feel and as long as you continue to love on him, that is ALL that matters.

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    I would just let it be. Let him think its a girl. But would speak of a boy. I wouldn't go against him.
    He will see at birth and will be in love quick enough and it will be forgotten.

    Be relaxed about it.
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    My oldest son (4.5 at the time) really wanted a sister when I was pregnant with DS3, and I was concerned how he would react to another brother, because he REALLY wanted a sister. It took him no time at all to accept another brother, and was in love with him when he was born
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    My 3.5 youngest is adamant that my baby bump (girl) will turn into a 'big boy'. I laugh it off but I'm also worried he will react badly when baby is finally here
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    You can just try to build the self esteem and try to buid self affection to your child as much a you can. As a mother you can understand what he is going through right now. He will fine soon.

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