Originally Posted by
Throwaway_panther
You're totally not getting old for that first child -- over here at least, the average age of a FTM is definitely getting to around 30, and I know tons of women (my mom even back in the '80s!) who had their first child at 30! Plus, being over 30 has nothing to do with fertility or anything either... I could wax long and hard on all of that, haha, but needless to say the "myth" of 30 being older for a mom in terms of fertility is based on old census records!
Over here the average number of kids is still 1.13 or something, and has dropped from the 1.7 it used to be -- but, there are definitely still larger families over here. I've been told by friends and families in other countries that it's all our space over here, haha
I'm one of 3 and my DH is one of 4, so we always wanted at least 3 -- more playmates for each other, no "I hate my one other sibling" hopefully since there will always be at least a pairing off somewhere haha, etc. We're both of the "if 4 happens, it happens" type deal. I think on here you're going to generally get a larger portion of bigger families because we're "trying" for a particular sex, though I know there are lots of families on here who do just want bigger families regardless, so swaying is just icing on the cake!
Getting kids done sooner is more my DH than me, even though I'd had that pocket dream of them all done by 30 (that's more of a weird Type A thing than anything, haha). He worries about being "too old" to run around and play with our kids (his father, of course, digs at this with him all the time since he'd had his last kid by the time my husband had his first); he also is very set on hoping to be retired and have the kids out of the house (or at least adults) haha.
It's funny you say that about the twins -- I probably WOULD be stressing the whole time because of the higher risk! I wouldn't even be able to deliver with my midwife if I had them, haha, and yet I still think "2 for 1 though!!" I fully echo Buro -- I'm in this for the baby; pregnancy is hard and dangerous and LONG... if I can be more efficient about it and have twins, I'm all for that haha
I'm sorry turning 30 was so hard for you <3 Truly do not stress about age with your pregnancies -- you're definitely in a good place for them.