i was married to a very abusive man for 8 years. i was young and stupid and i told myself, "you made your bed, now you lay in it." i thought if i was good if i didn't press his buttons if i kept the house clean and served all his meals and did what was expected of me in bed he would stop hitting me. that wasn't the case. i needed to provide a son. i tried. lord how i tried. 3 girls later he had enough and started an affair. he couldn't understand why he couldn't have a wife and a girlfriend. ...