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January 13th, 2019, 11:46 AM #591
Yay Kiku!!
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January 13th, 2019, 11:59 AM #592
Noemi, I am hoping you have a healthy baby girl. Not too long until you find out...
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January 13th, 2019, 02:20 PM #593
Thx u gafan i dont know if i have chance for baby girl...i would feel so blessed if i get her and if not i will be grateful for healthy baby. Im just afraid i wont stop to desire her...
7/1/2014
2/23/2019
Praying for one more baby girl 2020-2021
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January 13th, 2019, 04:15 PM #594
TP.
Everything has been said.
All I can offer is a virtual hug. Feel what you feel without guilt. Process those feelings. I hope you have some moments today that make you feel some joy in your grief.
I am happy you had such a great labor. That at least was a gift. I’m glad you are healthy. She is healthy. And I’m glad your DH was a help.
I’m so sad for you, but this is just another step in your journey to your son. And I hope your girls are the best of friends ❤️
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January 14th, 2019, 12:37 AM #595
Have been offline for a few days...only came back to check on you, TP. Congratulations on your healthy baby girl and a quick, safe arrival but I am so sorry it wasn't your boy.
I didn't bond immediately with my second...I am sad to write that, but it is true. It will come.
Sending you lots of good thoughts and prayers for happiness. All the best. x
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January 14th, 2019, 05:07 AM #596
I swear this is the closest I've ever read to how I felt after DS1. I have never really verbalised those feelings and instead just lived with the guilt of not having that instant connection you're supposed to have. Being really really honest I've never had it on any of mine, just relief that it's all over. The bonding has always come later. But on my first I didn't realise that GD was a thing or that it was so strong until he was here and he wasn't my girl that I'd talked to and bonded with. The only way I've spoken about it (to very, very, very few people) is by saying that the child I grew inside me was not the same child I held in my arms. If that even makes sense. She became a He and it was only then I realised I totally didn't want to be a mother to a son. God that sounds awful. I stopped beating myself up over it a long time ago tho. My DS1 is the sweetest boy. His whole heart belongs to his mama. Then along came DS2. I think I talked myself into being ok with him being a He but the truth is it just stung way too much. It wasn't until I had DS3 that I found a level of happiness in my son's that I didn't think existed. But in the back of my mind it grates on me SO bad that so so so many women pop out one of each and are done. I've had three boys, two losses and am getting my girl now but it feels almost like it's by default cause I can't enjoy it. I'm having twins. It's going to be hard. It IS hard currently. My 3 sons are suffering (lack of focus on my part. I'm just so drained and everything is the biggest effort!) as a result of my obsession with needing a daughter. I still don't feel like I thought I'd feel at that news. Maybe that's the anxiety of needing to get them here safely. I dunno...
Aaaaaaaanyway, that went somewhere I wasn't expecting it to go. I just wanted to say TP you are so so understood here. I love your honesty. You are a strong woman who will raise strong daughters. Keeping you in my thoughts xx
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January 14th, 2019, 11:26 AM #597
Hopper i get it and im sorry to hear that you have also experienced this extreme end of GD, i was exactly like that with my first 4 boys, there was no bond/connection, it was like i had the wrong baby, i felt totally empty and the hope of the next one been a girl is all that kept me going. After finding out they were boys i only kept them because my dh wanted boys and refused to let me terminate despite my midwife even agreeing by ds3 and 4 that it would be best for me (thats how extreme it was)
what you say about not being able to enjoy your DD is exactly how i ended up, my 1st living daughter wasnt a twin but she was born when i already had 4 boys to look after, i couldnt just sit there and enjoy every single second of her the way i could of if she had been my first and i did resent that.
I wont lie.. once i knew she was a girl and having a girl was my reality not just a dream, i really realised just how much happier i am having girls, i loved my pregnancy and for the first time ever i wasnt wishing it away, i had no resentment, no depression etc the change was huge for me, i was terrified she would die like our DD1 did but all the other negative feelings id had with the boys weren't there, and for the first time ever my closest relatives were happy about the baby (they only celebrate girls). I had 2 girls in a row followed by another boy and although having him wasnt the same as my boys born before the girls (thankfully it was nowhere near as extreme) i didnt have that same level of happiness i had with both of my girls. It sounds so awful but having girls is a happier experience for me.
I hope everything goes well with your twins and that you are able to really enjoy the experience of both having twins and also having your girl xxnow 6blue5pink
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January 14th, 2019, 03:04 PM #598
Thank you 4b2p! I always felt there was something "wrong" with me that I didn't feel elated to have my healthy baby. I mean, don't get me wrong. I'm very grateful to have my kids and they ARE my world. Now. Back then it didn't feel like that and even here, where GD is so much more understood, spoken about and accepted I've always felt I couldn't even THINK these thoughts, let alone write them. Thank you and TP for your extreme honesty. There's part of me that feels guilty for writing these things but I also feel good in the simple act of being honest.
I hear you on the topic of already having your hands full and not being able to just eat up that time with your DD! I begrudge people that, even now when I've found a semblance of inner peace with my family make up. It gets my goat! Boom, here's a daughter. Boom, here's a son. Oh you want another girl, boom, here she is. A friend of mine once said I should tell my husband to tell his "bits" to shoot out "pink stuff" I just found it was such a rude comment to make. I'm all for a good joke but I had three boys compared to her gentleman's family and it was a punch in the guts!
Something I'm struggling with lately is all the comments of "oh you're a glutton for punishment" and "rather you than me" like I do feel really overwhelmed with the fact we're going from 3 to 5 kids and were already stretched thin at 3! I don't need people throwing in their two cents worth and making me dread the coming months. I don't see how I will possibly be able to enjoy her. And the guilt of enjoying her and not enjoying my 4th boy as much, like the way you describe being happier post partum after your girls compared to your boys. I'm a sucker for feeling guilty over the least little thing. I don't want to feel like I'm preferring her to him. And then there's the fear something might happen between now and their safe arrival and then I'll feel even worse at having had these thoughts!!!gosh, pregnancy hormones suck! I actually don't know where this is coming from. It's like word vomit!!!
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January 14th, 2019, 03:21 PM #599
ABC is today your induction?
Thinking of you and your beautiful twins!!!!Proud Mum to two gorgeous boys
2014 2016
Swayed expecting beautiful DS3 due Feb 2019
Dreaming of a in 2020
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January 14th, 2019, 03:28 PM #600
Hopper this is what scares me about trying for a 4th. Even if ( and that's a huge if after 2 failed sways already) I get a dd at what cost will it be to my boys?
But having said that fwiw my sister had huge gd after her two sons- got pregnant with b/g twins and honestly she loves both so much. They are both so special and truth be told the boy is just irresistible ( to everyone!) she has always doted on him. She loves her daughter/ mother bond and has been able to have it because the other 3 boys played together so much. She has gone on to have another boy with no hint of gd so now has 4 boys and 1 girl. I hope that gives you hope xxProud Mum to two gorgeous boys
2014 2016
Swayed expecting beautiful DS3 due Feb 2019
Dreaming of a in 2020
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