praying for a healthy pregnancy for you all...and that you all get those little princesses you are dreaming of! the fear is hard to let go of..this is out of our hands <3
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praying for a healthy pregnancy for you all...and that you all get those little princesses you are dreaming of! the fear is hard to let go of..this is out of our hands <3
"life begins where fear ends" -- I like that Ladybug. I feel like that pertains to me a lot because I was so fearful for so long of letting go control of what the gender of my baby would be. I couldn't imagine getting pregnant on my own because I had to do ht over and over again to make sure it was a girl. Then I couldn't imagine getting pregnant without at least swaying and "trying" to make sure it was a girl. I was so fearful that if I didn't try -- it would never be a girl.
But in the back of my head, I felt like if I did try it would end up a boy, and if I could just let go and stop trying then I would finally be gifted with a dd. It took me over 2 years to do that -- but I find it strange that after 2 1/2 years of trying so hard for a dd and to get pg, the 1 month I did nothing at all and did not even try to get pg was the month it happened. I just feel like if there is a higher power out there -- then it just has to be a girl.
I just want one of those happy endings you know. The kind you read about from everyone else but think will never happen to you in your wildest dreams. For once I just want to be that lucky one.
LMAO @ dibs on my man! haha You all CAN HAVE him... he's driving me crazy! hahaha Noooo, I know I'm lucky... a lot of husbands don't want too many children but I have the opposite problem. He wants a huge family and he REALLY wants a daddy's girl. While it's nice to share that desire with him, it also adds a layer of pressure because we will BOTH have gender disappointment if this is a boy.... I have often said that he married the wrong woman because I can't seem to keep a pregnancy to save my life. I'm not exactly "fertile gertle" LOL
First of all, glad you joined the due date group! I was wondering when you were gonna come in :)
I know exactly what you're talking about re the fear of disappointment and letting go! I think you have a very realistic view of this pregnancy though, and the fact that you FINALLY got pg when you let go of the need to control the situation tells me that *someone* up there has been listening to you! Know what I mean? I'm not a very religious person, but I have to say that God will not give you more than you can handle. If by chance you are having a boy, then there is absolutely a reason for it... a lesson to be learned and wisdom for you to impart on others. Now, will you be thrilled? No. But you will love the baby regardless.
I say all of that, but deep down I have the exact same fear as you do. I can't imagine God would be so cruel to take away the DD I had, only to make me TTC for almost a year and then give me a boy! NO WAY... it's got to be a girl. LOL
We have paid our dues... it's time for us to experience the miracle! :)
Could this thread be stickied please?? :)
Gut instinct gender guess anyone?? This could be fun!
I'll go first... I'm going to guess GIRL for me! (wishful thinking, I know LOL)
Anyone else want to guess? :)
I'm thinking BOY here. My friend just found out she's having her third boy...they are done. Why me and not her? I have 4 sets of aunts/uncles that all have 3 boys only. I think that's just what's meant to be in our family. And I've never been the type to win the lotto, or drawings, or heck - even bingo..so I'm really thinking this is no exception ;) But a girl can DREAM! :) It will be a fun nine months day-dreaming about it.
I hear you amk -- I have never been the lucky one either.
I don't know, something tells me girl for this one but I'm not sure if that's because I really want it and don't know how it could be any other.
Yet something tells me boy too because I feel I could never be that lucky to have my dream gender finally and I have never been one for happy endings. Or like if it is a girl -- then she will give me total hell when she is a teen and put me through the ringer! Like, you get what you want now but its not all peaches and cream -- she'll be the worst baby or something and not sleep til she's 2.
I don't know any other than being pregnant with a boy so for sure that's where my mind goes cause I know no other. kwim?
Wow all of you are so good at putting my feelings into words that I haven't given myself chance to process yet. Lol! It's amazing to find like-minded ladies who totally get it and like you I just don't know which way to call it. I have never been in such a poor condition with such a low body weight before, plus I took Clomid so my heart says girl. However, my head just assumes it'll be another little boy and won't let me get carried away with believing it's a girl. I think that I'm living in the moment and don't want to take anything for granted so am only looking ahead no more than 2-3weeks at a time just in case. I guess 18 months of living in fortnightly increments has made me very adept at not looking too far ahead to stop me upsetting myself! I sound like a right nut job, hey?! Dh actually mentioned names this evening :) Perhaps I'll believe it all a bit more once I see the midwife on Thurs. Focussing so much on ds1 and his fractured ankle that I sometimes forget about being pg. Mind the progesterone's certainly kicking in early and giving me a very stiff & sore pelvis and hips from doing a bit too much. The fore-runner of spd that I had with both ds. :(
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