Passing time and analyzing symptoms

[Wanting-a-girl]

i ate chicken on the LE i had to! i feel really sick when i dont eat meat! i dont know if i did the abstinence right.... we abstained for like 30 days approx but the bd everyday for 6 days so i did both abstain and FR? how far along are you?

[hplnvf03]

I'm 12 weeks.

[atomic sagebrush]

i ate chicken on the LE i had to! i feel really sick when i dont eat meat! i dont know if i did the abstinence right.... we abstained for like 30 days approx but the bd everyday for 6 days so i did both abstain and FR? how far along are you?

Sorry to butt in here but for anyone reading this - NEVER abstain for more than 14 days. Very few people will be able to get pg that way and it may not be totally safe.

[Atsaukina1]

thanks atomic wow 30 days is a long time. we didn't abstain here for age reasons

but if you abstain i thought it's supposed to be 1 shot deal otherwise they are building back up. fr is 10+ days? and attempt after that?

[Atsaukina1]

For me I think I am having a boy because - EVERYTHING is the same as the last 3 pregnancies and the scan photo is EXACTLY the same as y 3 boys scans too. Other than that Im hoping miracles do happen and we get our daughter :-)

I have never had scans so can't compare those but i have carried a girl and 3 boys and my symptoms are exactly the same. nauseus but i don't throw up,tired,hb, heartbeat is the same, my 1st 2(g/b) even had same labor(same ctx,same time of night, even born couple minutes form each other years later lol) so you really really never know it could be a girl.

[Wanting-a-girl]

it wasnt a plan to abstain that long thats just what happend cause he kept pissing me off i must be lucky

[Atsaukina1]

ok so you abstained but that doesn't mean he did lol you both have to do it

[Wanting-a-girl]

O yea it does he literally does not jerk off lol he refuses to do it he told me when he younger he didn't like it and he would some times get off by rubbing against like a pillow I guess :s his poor poor mother.... I am very open about when I do it and there would be no reason for him to lie I don't think... When we first got together he wouldn't even allow hand jobs to be preformed on him :s so nope he abstained lol

[Wanting-a-girl]

And he's 33 so I guess abstaining really isn't good for him

[hplnvf03]

I've said this before but I really wish I did not know about swaying as an option. It makes me feel like i have some control over it and when I get a boy, I will feel like I did something wrong or not enough of something. Even the people but 100% into it and get the opposite, it sucks. You spend so much time and energy focusing on it and to possibly be disappointed. If I did not know about this, I would just figure it was based on my husbands sperm which is what i always believed was true. I just feel like it makes the disappointment worse. But then its the opposite for people who get their desired gender because they feel like they had some part in it. I don't know. I just wish I had less information/knowledge and I would just go with the flow more.