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    When I was pg with my last they called and cancelled the ultrasound they day before cause the tech was sick and fell behind on u/s's. I had to wait another week before getting it
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    And today I have had another 2..... What is it with people?

    Colleague: so what's your guess, you must have a guess
    Me: I really don't mind what it is, but if I had to guess I'd say boy
    Colleague: (laughing) I really hope it's a boy!!!!
    Me: why?
    Colleague: so then I can laugh at you, if I can't have one of each (she has 2xdd) then why should you! (Laughed as she said it, but really? Who says that? )

    Then another colleague was leaving and she doesn't work Fridays.
    Colleague: have fun on Saturday, bring some pics
    Me: thanks, will do
    Colleague: and I'll bring the tissues
    Me: what for?
    Colleague: in case you hear boy
    Me: seriously, for the millionth time, I don't care what it is and am happy either way
    Colleague: I'd cry if I had to have another boy!!!
    Now I know it's not 'nasty' and I know she didn't mean it in a bad way, but for F#*^% sake stop telling me how disappointing my child will be just because he has a penis! Stop telling me that I will be devastated and in tears!

    I really don't know what it is, I've never mentioned or hinted at ANY gd at.
    People are obviously assuming (correctly, but thats not the point) that because I have a son, and probably because Im a very girly girl that (I'm very very very girly!) that I want a dd.

    But what gives the right to make comments based on those assumptions, to express opinions that they haven't been asked for and to say things that are at best flippant and thoughtless or at worst just nasty and rude.
    Mummy to DS10 who is the light of our world
    Swayed took us 8 cycle's and I'm finally

    Please be a sticky little bean, we have wished and hoped for you for so long xo

    Our family welcomed a in May 2013 and thats ok, we're head over heels in love with him and feel blessed to be honoured with 2 sons

    January 2014 - A little surprise that went to heaven before we could meet

    October 2014 - Officially swaying for one last little bundle and wishing and hoping its a pink one

    April 2015 - All our dreams have miraculously come true, our sway worked and our family will be complete with the little girl joining us in October this year

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    Really?! Omg...those comments are way out of line...I'm sorry have to endure that, you have done well to keep your cool
    Girl or boy your blessed x that's what they should be saying!!!!

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    wow they sound like such bitches! seriously they must be jealous of you or something, to say stuff like that is just so mean and they know it. So sorry you have to face them Lassie I know you are a lovely person and are always so polite, but if they give you any crap you should really tell them to shut the hell up!

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    You must have great will power because seriously if that was me I probably would of smacked the shit out of someone. I agree with Cinss they must be jealous of you or something because normal people just don't say crap like that.


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    Your colleagues are so horrible. I have two boys and nobody would have dreamed of saying anything like that to me when I was pregnant with DS2.

    If I were you I would tell them the baby wasn't in the right position to tell during the scan, then after that I think I would say that I was taking it as a sign and decided to stay team green.
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    It's a girl!


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    Hey Lassie!

    Sorry, I missed this until just now. Isnít it amazing how insensitive people can be? I anticipate plenty of those kinds of conversations when I <finally> get pregnant because I already got them with ds2. People crinkling their noses and saying ďmaybe next timeĒ when I was just like you and not even hinting at gd. *hugs* I know itís hard, but the average person really just doesnít have a filter in the moment. I just had one of those moments the other day when I asked ds1ís new therapist if she had any children and she said no, and for whatever reason a very stupid ďNot yet?Ē came out. Come to find out sheís 42 (though she looks no more than 30) and I was kicking myself all evening. People just donít realize if they havenít been there how much the littlest comments, even in jest, can wound so deeply. One great piece of advice auroara gave me was in this post: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...107-worth.html It made me realize, though it should go without saying, that as long as I will be okay with another boy, everyoneís else's opinions don't matter in the least.

    " On the flip side, cravingsalt, I was expecting to when/if I did hear the good news "it's a girl" that everyone would be so happy and astounded by my success!! My mom was very happy and (still is) but now that it's been known for a few weeks, it's old news, and I didn't realize until the fanfare died down, how much I was looking for reassurance and celebration from others to make me happy.

    People at work (students and co workers) both were happy I "got the girl" but it was a quick "yay" and now that it's all died down, I really do feel silly for worrying so much about what everyone would think, which was my biggest obstacle to boy 3, wasn't really having a boy, but I worried so much that ppl would jsut see as "another boy" and not special, and I want each of my children to be celebrated and beloved.

    ...Just keep in mind that while ppl do have a ton of really dumb/hurtful comments, they are not living with you at the end of the day....and everytime someone asks me what im having now, and i say girl, they just nod, like that's what they expected! "
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    P.S.- Iím team ďJust tell themĒ. I would prep myself for the sh*tstorm of ridiculous comments ahead of time and go in bracing to take them (if itís even a boy) so you donít have to feel like youíre harboring a dirty secret in the meantime... A beautiful healthy baby boy is JOYOUS news!! And anyone who doesnít see that when they hear you announce it with a smile is a twit who is not worth your time or any further justification. Just donít even get caught in the trap of having that justification conversation.

    P.S.S.- I think itís a girl anyway.
    12.24.08 4.13.10 third and last. It is nice being queen of my castle but would love to add a princess.


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    Quote Originally Posted by cravingsalt View Post
    Hey Lassie!

    Sorry, I missed this until just now. Isn’t it amazing how insensitive people can be? I anticipate plenty of those kinds of conversations when I <finally> get pregnant because I already got them with ds2. People crinkling their noses and saying “maybe next time” when I was just like you and not even hinting at gd. *hugs* I know it’s hard, but the average person really just doesn’t have a filter in the moment. I just had one of those moments the other day when I asked ds1’s new therapist if she had any children and she said no, and for whatever reason a very stupid “Not yet?” came out. Come to find out she’s 42 (though she looks no more than 30) and I was kicking myself all evening. People just don’t realize if they haven’t been there how much the littlest comments, even in jest, can wound so deeply. One great piece of advice auroara gave me was in this post: http://genderdreaming.com/forum/gend...107-worth.html It made me realize, though it should go without saying, that as long as I will be okay with another boy, everyone’s else's opinions don't matter in the least.

    " On the flip side, cravingsalt, I was expecting to when/if I did hear the good news "it's a girl" that everyone would be so happy and astounded by my success!! My mom was very happy and (still is) but now that it's been known for a few weeks, it's old news, and I didn't realize until the fanfare died down, how much I was looking for reassurance and celebration from others to make me happy.

    People at work (students and co workers) both were happy I "got the girl" but it was a quick "yay" and now that it's all died down, I really do feel silly for worrying so much about what everyone would think, which was my biggest obstacle to boy 3, wasn't really having a boy, but I worried so much that ppl would jsut see as "another boy" and not special, and I want each of my children to be celebrated and beloved.

    ...Just keep in mind that while ppl do have a ton of really dumb/hurtful comments, they are not living with you at the end of the day....and everytime someone asks me what im having now, and i say girl, they just nod, like that's what they expected! "
    Thanks so much for taking the time to post this, that comment sums it up so well. Especially this part "my biggest obstacle to boy 3, wasn't really having a boy, but I worried so much that ppl would jsut see as "another boy" and not special, and I want each of my children to be celebrated and beloved. "
    That's exactly what I feel, it upset me that anyone feels they have the right to think of my son if I have one as a disappointment, or something to be sad about.

    Thanks so ,ugh again for sharing this
    Mummy to DS10 who is the light of our world
    Swayed took us 8 cycle's and I'm finally

    Please be a sticky little bean, we have wished and hoped for you for so long xo

    Our family welcomed a in May 2013 and thats ok, we're head over heels in love with him and feel blessed to be honoured with 2 sons

    January 2014 - A little surprise that went to heaven before we could meet

    October 2014 - Officially swaying for one last little bundle and wishing and hoping its a pink one

    April 2015 - All our dreams have miraculously come true, our sway worked and our family will be complete with the little girl joining us in October this year

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    Quote Originally Posted by cravingsalt View Post
    P.S.- I’m team “Just tell them”. I would prep myself for the sh*tstorm of ridiculous comments ahead of time and go in bracing to take them (if it’s even a boy) so you don’t have to feel like you’re harboring a dirty secret in the meantime... A beautiful healthy baby boy is JOYOUS news!! And anyone who doesn’t see that when they hear you announce it with a smile is a twit who is not worth your time or any further justification. Just don’t even get caught in the trap of having that justification conversation.

    P.S.S.- I think it’s a girl anyway.
    Your so sweet

    I do swing, one moment I think I want to hide it, the next moment I am furiously protective and what to say "stuff you, he's my son, I'm proud of him, I love him, so don't you dare imply that he is anything other then the joyous miracle he is too me" (if it is a boy)

    I'm just gonna have to play this one by ear! Getting closer now..... 14hrs to go!
    Mummy to DS10 who is the light of our world
    Swayed took us 8 cycle's and I'm finally

    Please be a sticky little bean, we have wished and hoped for you for so long xo

    Our family welcomed a in May 2013 and thats ok, we're head over heels in love with him and feel blessed to be honoured with 2 sons

    January 2014 - A little surprise that went to heaven before we could meet

    October 2014 - Officially swaying for one last little bundle and wishing and hoping its a pink one

    April 2015 - All our dreams have miraculously come true, our sway worked and our family will be complete with the little girl joining us in October this year

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