Due Date Club for Lil' March Hares, April Bunnies & May Pikas

[Kitty0911]

Thank you, Hopeful!

[Ribenaberry]

Good luck kitty, fingers crossed its a girl for you!!

I don't like "failed sway" - I know technically it is, but no baby is a fail so maybe we could change it to something else? "Nature's choice"? Or something better lol my brain won't work!!

I've been cuddling my friends 2 week old bubba today, he is such a gorgeous little man, just brings it back all those new mummy feelings, I can't wait to have thise again!

Xxx

[HopefulMonster]

You know, I really struggled with the newborn stage. My first was premature, and I had never even held a baby before, I was terrified of this tiny red thing that looked like it was going to break. I got covered in poo every nappy change, I poppers the babygrows up wrong every time without fail, I spent all my time worrying if I was doing it wrong, or if they were going to die in their sleep, or if they were getting enough milk, too hot, too cold, etc etc!!!!!! I didn't really enjoy it until much later. I love it now!! I kind of wish I could skip to 6 months in or so, or even to the toddler stage, this is the part I'm good at and I feel settled in!

[Bella29]

Congratulations hm and ss!!! That is awesome news!!!

Northern, sorry to hear your bubba was confirmed as a boy. It must be really hard hearing everyone else get such good news.

Ribenaberry I feel exactly like you. Until the tech said that she thought it was a boy, despite us saying we didn't really want to be told, that we hadn't decided to find out, I felt ok waiting. Now I really want to know! I am thinking of paying for a gender scan at 16 weeks. Dh and I have kinda decided that now that we have our hopes up, we will be more disappointed with a girl than we otherwise would be, cos to be honest, we have two beautiful, beautiful girls, and a third little girl will be treasured here. But we really would like a boy to.

So currently we have an 80% success rate with the sways. I reckon that is pretty good! Fingers crossed our sway was enough....

Oh and kitty, good luck on your scan in 39hrs

[tmbabcock]

I'm exactly the same We got our 20 week scan on Friday and I'm halfway expecting the sonographer to turn around and say "Oh look, boy parts" even though we got a very clear potty shot with no mistaking her gender! it feels all 'wrong', in a good way, and I think its only just starting to dawn on me that I'm actually having a little girl =D


I don't think it will really feel real before she's out and I hear the consultant say "its a girl!"

I am the same right now! I don't have my anatomy scan until Dec 3rd. I can't even begin to tell you how many times I have watched the ultrasound DVD because I was afraid it was the cord and I'm gonna be told it's a girl at my 20 week. In some of the shots depending on the angle of the ultrasound wand you can see cord and some you see penis but you see it so many times in the 8 min video and from different angles there is no denying it. My husband and I are still in disbelief. We both went into the elective scan expecting to hear girl. It's still so unreal to me that it's a boy and not a girl. Even though I KNOW it's a boy in the back of my mind I still sometimes catch myself doubting.

[Tiggerian]

I don't like "failed sway" - I know technically it is, but no baby is a fail so maybe we could change it to something else? "Nature's choice"? Or something better lol my brain won't work!!

Xxx

I know, its not a nice term, but its not saying the baby is a fail - its the sway itself that wasn't successful. Its not coined at the baby, if my baby girl had been a girl I'd still say "failed sway" even though I'd be happy with a boy. Its really nothing more than that. We aren't saying the baby is a failure or mistake, but the things the parents did to sway the gender failed to do what the parents hoped it would do.

I'd be happy to use another phrase if you ladies can think of something that sounds nicer. I'm only writing it as a percentage thing, but I can stop if you want me to?

[Tiggerian]

Congrats SoulSister!

All this good news is making me so nervous for my scan!! Exactly 45 hours away! I'm pretty sure I'll be added to the "failed sway" list. I am almost 100% certain I'm having another boy. But at least I can start buying cute clothes

We're being scanned at the same day then! I got my 20 week scan tomorrow too =D

[thehappypixi]

My second was a failed shettles sway; I've never taken the term to have any negative reflection on my awesome son! But I can see how the word failed is more negative than needs be. Perhaps sway opposite?

[Dreamofpink]

Just popping in from the other dd board. I know just how hurtful these terms are without there being any intent behind it at all, so I really feel for you Northern. There is no ideal term but I like to think that you're getting what fate intended and your sway just gave things a helping hand or not. Atomic herself says just how much luck is involved in it all, so perhaps take that into consideration. It's awful having any negative connotations tagged onto your pregnancy & innocent remarks celebrating the 'success' of the group cuts to the core. Northern has been through sooo much already & did a super stellar sway. Please read the thread that Atomic started in the DD boards about this topic. Sorry I'm on my phone or I'd post a link. Please no-one take offence at my post, it's not intended but I know how it feels from the other side & I haven't been through a fraction of what poor Northern has. Thanks for reading

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[Northern_Shutterbug]

Thanks but I'm not against using the term, my sway did fail, as did my body at producing a healthy girl, and I failed at giving my family a much wanted baby girl. It seems that no matter how small the percentage to be on the wrong side of where we want to be, my path leads that way. I had a 0.00009% chance of conceiving a child with Evelyn's condition, yet there we go.